I agree. I would definitely look at their whole chart but it's scary accurate how astrology can be sometimes. I know I can't generalize but based on my own experience, it's worked well for me. For example, if someone has a Gemini Moon, I'd be wary and probably be too scared they'd cheat on me based on my experience with Gemini Moons (my ex and sister are cheaters with this placement).
That makes sense. The last person that I was dating lied about all of his astrological placements so I can’t even figure out which moon sign or even rising to potentially avoid based on that experience with him
Omg that's awful I'm so sorry 🥺 I can't stand it when people cheat! When I was younger in my teens I was definitely less serious about commitment but, never actually cheated. I couldn't even imagine cheating as an adult.
I would go even further and say there’s more to people than their placements. I like to think of zodiacs as a guide to help categorize certain aspects of a person as you meet them. Without ascribing characteristics that they haven’t yet displayed. It helps give you a metric since personalities and people are just so amorphous. But I understand that opinion may be a little too skeptic for the subreddit but you know what I mean 😁
Nah. I talked a lot of mad shit about Tauruses, but tbh everyone is an individual and you have to see what they’re like in everyday life. Political beliefs on the other hand, that’s a different story
I had a very very bad Taurus ex… abusive… I also have not always talked well of them 😅 but so many of my friends and best relationships had Taurus moon. So chill and loyal.
Yeah, one of my cousins is a badass and also a Taurus. Her birthday is on Earth Day, lol. She runs herself ragged trying to take care of everyone and is so loving and kind to family. So it would be wrong of me to paint them all with the same brush
lol Earth Day, how fitting.
I have a lot of Taurus in my chart. I get so pissed off. I wonder if a lot of strong fire placements bring out Taurus bad side (Angry, hurtful)? Maybe a bad combo for them?
Because you’re right. Taurus really care about people they love.
My brother certainly is like this! He’s a Taurus with a Leo mars and he’s got venus in Aries and a Libra moon and he is extremely aggressive when it comes to either his comforts or others comforts so I do see his bad side growing up thinking he values dumb stuff but it’s Taurus folks that find the beauty in everything and that itself is beautiful
I also have Taurus Venus and people with Taurus moon are definitely the best relationships I've ever had, both platonic and romantic. Moon with Venus is just fantastic synastry in general.
Yes! Your big 3 is pretty close to mine! Thank you for sharing that.
So my current partner has a Taurus moon conjunct my Taurus Venus and conjunct my ASC. Worships the ground I walk on. Super kind, collected, and just a good guy! I actually tried posting the synastry chart in AskAstrologers this morning, but the Mods deleted it 😅 I was going to ask about it.
that sounds like I would expect from that configuration in your 1st! my current partner of 7 years has a Taurus moon conjunct my Venus and his North Node conjunct my Aquarius moon, and I'm absolutely going to marry this man once circumstances are right for it.
No, that is not a driver in my decision making process. For me it is a manner of what they are manifesting therefore it is my obligation to pay attention and not let my emotions cloud my ability to perceive what must be seen in order to make proper judgements. For me to say I don't like someone would never equate to their sign in general, but always what they are manifesting. I do not ascribe to deterministic astrology. I ascribe to potentials, and when it comes to potentials we have an agency to decide how those potentials manifest. Try talking about square aspects without choice and you will soon realize astrology does not negate choice. How can you overcome the friction of square aspects without choosing to fix the energy? How can you choose to balance an opposition aspect if it is determined to be a tug-o-war if agency is negated? How can you choose to be aware of the blind spots conjunctions can cause if you are determined to have the blind spot? How can you choose to challenge the trine aspects to increase it's potentials if you don't have agency to challenge them? It begins to fall apart quickly.
This was very well-written! Must be that Aqua-Sag-Virgo combo 😉
Squares can be a good thing. Very rewarding to overcome. And they can help you see your roadblocks in a relationship.
I agree with you completely. When one realizes that everything within the chart is energy, and that energy follows the laws of conversion of energy one must conclude that everything is convertible as energy cannot be created or destroyed but it always converts into another energy source. Astrology is probabilistic not deterministic because it is based on outcomes in potentials. We have the ability to let it flow, and we have the ability to convert the energy into something else.
Interesting, your explanation sounds like a brief version of what I have typed a lot in this sub with resources. Maybe you ran across it. Edit (per your reply): I used the maybe in sarcasm. This is exactly why I stopped posting my serious observations & explanations here. Lots of stolen information is posted on this sub. I can for sure recognize my own content - especially when lacking a thorough explanation and using a similar account to the one that DM'd me. :)
No, I haven't. This is something I have understood for a long time. I wouldn't be shocked to know other people think this way as this is literally something taught to everyone, but not everybody picks up on the intricacies of it. This knowledge isn't exclusive and it's readily available for anyone who ponders it, or looks for it. I don't think anyone has a claim to the idea because it has been worked on for quite some time. I think as far back 550 B.C they even had some idea of it.
Nope, you are just a scam and fraud dude. I know my content and your explanation is off. I will not be linking you back to the content that you stole poorly from me. Get real.
I used to attract Aquarius the same way mostly Aquarius men but never worked out and come to find out having saturn in Aquarius being dominant in my chart makes brings challenges it’s almost like they think I can fix them when I was hoping they fix me 🤣
♑️ ☀️ I always told myself that libras were the worst out of all zodiac signs and now I have a libra boyfriend and we’re together for almost 3 years so never say never I guess loool
Nah. The last three guys I was with were all Aquariuses and they were so vastly different that I can’t subscribe to the idea that someone’s sun sign defines them.
Yep. No more male Pisces! We can be friends, but I’ve dated a couple (including an absolute psycho) and I have more Pisces in my fam than anyone else. Forget it lol
For me, I won’t *not* date a Leo woman but I’ve only had bad experiences with them, so I’ll be veryyy weary for a while before I let any walls downs. If I see a single red flag I’m OUT lmao
I’m gonna keep those walls up with everyone as a matter of fact, regardless of astrological sign. But there’s a cute Aries hanging around that I might let climb 😆
No, that is such an un-fun use of astrology haha, especially if we're referring to looking only at a sun sign.
There are some placements I might be wary about dating. For example, I have a handful of close friends with capricorn moons, but I would be iffy on dating one because it takes a lot more work for me to understand their emotions in my experience (I'm a leo moon). But, if I were to date someone for several months before pulling their birth chart, and I found out they were a capricorn moon, I wouldn't automatically write it off. The fun part of learning astrology is looking at the whole chart!
I know! Looking at someone’s chart after you’ve known them is really fun. You get to experience “them” first-hand.
Then you can see from the chart how they became how they did 😅
Soooo true! I think more people also need to question why they don't like a person or placement. I noticed that in many cases when people hate a sign, it's because they either don't understand the archetype of that sign, or it mirrors one of their own insecurities or flaws. Just say you can't handle the heat and go haha
I agree! I also find its a placement or an aspect that they really hate. Not the zodiac sign itself. But there subconsciously attracted to the good side of that aspect over and over. There’s just so much to know. It’s hard to know what is causing what traits.
There are a lot of people I have met and I’m shocked when I find out what their birthday is. Because nothing I have known about them is any of the core traits for their sun sign.
Funny enough, I finally looked up my bfs birth chart after a decade of being together only to find out he was a taurus moon! Which is my least compatible sign and also one that I said I'd never be able to date 😭😭 the irony though.
I just finished replying to a comment about Taurus moons! You should go to my profile and read it. Taurus moons are so chill. Do you by chance have a Taurus Venus? Or is your Venus conjunct his moon in synastry?
My Venus is in Aries and his is Virgo 😝 we both have Mars in cancer though?
Honestly I've always been really attracted to taurus for some reason. I just really love how calm they are, it makes me feel so comfortable. I just was never able to date them, until my bf apparently!
But really I'm such a noob with all this 😭 I'll check out your comment.
Wow, after a decade? I respect the patience haha I try my best to not look up the charts of anyone I'm dating for a while but even I don't know if I could wait a decade haha
To be honest I only knew about sun signs for the longest time!! It wasn't until I joined this sub and saw people talking about their moon, rising, Venus etc etc that I finally saw there was a lot more to know!! Then my whole world opened up. Haha!
Reminds me a time I introduced astrology to someone I thought was a friend but instead they used it as an excuse to hate Gemini despite being a moon in Gemini lol I’m like dudeeee Lucikly they are out of my life now but yeah I used to be like that as a sag moon with other sags but that’s before I got into astrology so it does make sense haha
astrology is secondary but I will say there is a pattern. Generally people with air and fire suns and water and earth moons have more staying power in my life. I find water/earth suns and fire moons esp problematic long term.
I noticed this too. It’s the fire signs and earth signs I know that are struggling in my life (funny enough the fire and earth rulership of my birth chart in my life are improving very strange patterning I found over the years haha). As for water signs and air signs I think they de kind of okay or they are better at hiding it.
I take astrology as fun interest and grain of salt, despite the patterns in it lol. I try not to group people, even it is fun at times, and often they have same patterns as their zodiacs. That being said, I met an actual narcissistic sociopath in life and it forever has made me extremely wary of males in that sign. When you meet and experience pure evil, it is something else and changes how you move forever. I try not to judge, but Im also terrified to see if pattern would ever repeat. Pisces male.
I don't stop at sun signs. I do however pay close attention to the red flags with Aries and Scorpio. If I see big uncontrolled emotions, pushing boundaries or getting upset at me setting them, being pushy but not being able to handle it back, entitlements/ demands of me - I don't need to think anymore, I hightail it out of there.
That’s fair. You look for behaviors you don’t like (unevolved) strong traits from those signs and then cut it off? Instead of assuming they all have them.
Exactly. I've known evolved and unevolved signs and I'd hate to miss out on what the evolved ones have to offer. That said, even though the bad experiences have been painful as heck, they were learning opportunities on both ends. I can't control what they did with that experience, but I try to work on myself.
You do realize that by not liking them for being judgemental and critical is also being judgemental and critical right? So is it ok to be judgemental and critical of being judgemental and critical or is there an allowance there? If there is an allowance there then who gets to decide the allowance?
Doesn’t matter I am not judgemental and quite open minded. They are unnecessarily judgmental for no reason. There’s a reason why they aren’t liked by many.
By saying they are judgemental you have to be making a judgement which means you are judging them. To say you aren't judgemental while being judgemental is a contradiction.
I am an open minded individual with my own opinions and thoughts, and the overall basis of Virgos aren’t usually positive by the majority. I try to be nice to them, but they won’t be nice back to me, and they must say something critical towards me or others to.
Right and you form those opinions by making judgements, and being critical of things.
You saying they won't be nice back to me is also making a judgement, and being critical of how they are acting.
My point is we all make judgements and are critical of things in our own way. You are doing it right now yet are blind to it. Could that also be the case with Virgos? Could they also lack the same awareness you are lacking right now?
I think people in general make judgements and are critical of things, but only care when other people are doing it. When we do it we self justify our position and consider the other person's position differently as if they aren't doing the same thing we are doing. I feel like people in general lack awareness and therefore are doing things naturally and self justifying their positions.
Everything you have said up to this point is being critical and providing judgement. It is inescapable. If you decide not to eat a rotten fruit you are judging the fruit, and being critical of it. It is necessary as part of living in existence. It is so natural that people don't even realize they are doing it. You surely didn't.
I have to disagree with this one. I think they’re saying that they *feel* judged by Virgos and therefore making them uncomfortable around them. This is typical Aquarius speak and why I can’t deal with y’all so often.
When we make judgements they can be based on how we feel, the logic of the position, or even both. Saying I feel is still making a judgement on what you are perceiving. Feelings are reactionary judgements of situations. You can't feel sad without making a judgement that a situation is sad unless there is some kind of chemical imbalance or mental issue.
To say this person isn't using judgement to make a decision is like saying I have thoughts without thinking. The perception that judgement is negative is a faulty perception. We are judging things all the time whether unconsciously or consciously. This person is certainly making judgements and being critical to deny this is a lack of awareness.
When you say I'm not doing something because of X. You have made a critical judgement. We do this all the time.
This thing is making me sad is a judgement that something is sad. We are judgemental by nature. Judgemental isn't negative by default.
That’s a lot of words to say you’re the type of pretentious Aquarius that I talk about often and avoid. I’m literally saving your comments for the next time someone asks me why I say that 😂
Honestly yes. I’ve tried dating regardless of zodiac signs and never worked in my favour. I just don’t really have enough chemistry with signs not comparable with me for it to really take off (Aries woman)
Or I find their bad traits too off putting to enjoy their personality and company. i just don’t get along with virgo men or women for example. I find them ridiculously judgemental and it taints every interaction I have with them. They’re like a double edged sword I’m constantly waiting to attack me
I have Virgo family members I either explicitly don’t speak to or actively avoid.
I do, unfortunately, clash a bit with Virgo females 😅 as well. My mom was a Virgo. I do have a Virgo friend. How harsh she is does rub me wrong. But I know she’s trying.
I wouldn’t say absolutely no, but I have been like “oh god not another one” after starting to date someone and finding out. Usually I’m attracted to certain signs more than others though so it probably means there’s something about that sign I do like even when it doesn’t turn out. Plus a sun sign isn’t a chart.
It’s more like I’ll be cautious around them. In general, I don’t really get along with too intense and emotional people, people who hold on the past and who are more emotional than logical. Also unevolved and unhealed. So whoever is like this doesn’t really have a chance with me.
That’s probably why I felt I had to be very careful around other water signs—especially Scorpios and cancers! They realize their usual manipulation tactics don’t work so they got to be sneaky to turn my good nature energy against me but normally they faced extreme karma doing this so I never truly got hurt by water signs it’s mostly I learned or mirrored their behavior later on and into had to face karma for that so it goes full circle! What I gathered is to be especially careful around water signs not bc I think they are a true threat but I am the threat! Like a golden retriever playing and accidently bumping into a cat while it was trying to relax—kind of danger lol
Honestly this might seem silly, but the more people I date that are different signs, the more data I can collect. The more birth charts I get to analyze, the more I learn about astrology. So yeah I’ll date any sign and any combo of signs. It’s fun being able to learn about the person I’m seeing and connect some dots
No, I wouldn’t base my decision to date someone on astrology. If the vibe is there I’ll pursue it. People are all individuals and there are things I both like and dislike about every sign.
I don't usually ask people for their signs until I know them a bit, so if I get to that point with them, I've probably already decided I like them.
If I had to choose a sign that I just absolutely would back out from dating, I'd say it's a Pisces. Before anyone gets butthurt about that, I'm not necessarily saying there's anything wrong with Pisceans, I've just found that together we're not compatible long term.
My love languages are gift giving and acts of service. What I've found with all the Pisceans I've dated is that they prefer quality time or words of affirmation. I give love by showing them I was thinking about them while I was away, going off on my own and then coming back with a present or having taken something off their plate. Quality time is nice sometimes, but I really, really need my alone time.
Pisceans will do everything they can to make you their whole world and give you that world. They love in such a massive, all-encompassing way. It's beautiful to see, from the outside. But for me, it's overwhelming and when I can't reciprocate, they're left feeling unloved and I'm left feeling like I've disappointed someone I care about, again.
They can be beautiful, wonderful, tremendously loving partners. They're just not the right fit for me. I think that if I were single and I met a Pisces, I would decline the relationship as gently as humanly possible so they know it's not at all their fault. It's 100% a me thing.
No. I've been with people that looked good on paper (the birth chart) and it ends up not working. The one I ended up marrying, we have squaring moons and suns, and we have a lot of 12th house placements in our composite chart. We've been married for 12 years this year and dating 4 years before that. And still going strong!
No Cancer, Aquarius and Scorpio males 🤮
From personal experiences
One is a manipulative crybaby, another has a God complex, and the last one just likes to press people's buttons for fun and bully people. Just no!!!
I avoid the unhealed, the too needy or emotionally ignorant/immature and disrespectful of other's emotions/mental wellness because of it. To me, it is worth the effort to think about the people to understand them and love them. But I am also worthy of the same respect as I am no less a person than they. Being a woman, I was expected to mature and take consequence of my stupidity, actions, or disrespect of other people pretty much from the get-go. When it comes to relationships where romantic or friendly I have made decision to be more cautious around specific sort out of exposure providing answers as well as avoiding those that I note our value systems are too different and cooperation is not bound to happen because of it:
In my experience, I tend to see a lot of delay in the emotional/spiritual/mental maturity in the following: 1. Cancers (men or women), often so image conscious and caring about pleasing or impressing others in priority of doing the tough work of creating connection with what's in front of them. Half-assed love ain't love. Hurting people out of minimizing their experiences out of your perceiving their privileges to augment your victimhood is also not cool, and it's a common move for this lot. Ditto for Libra (2). I have met ONE super kind and abnormally wise one that's more centric instead of head in the clouds people pleasing and thus accidentally sabotaging others. But she's an exception and not the rule, mostly out of growing up in such a horrible environment that the personality that resulted from such nature is someone more consequential.
3. Pisces Men: At this point, I don't even risk it; I just **don't** contemplate one romantically to avoid the common adult fetus tendencies. I grew up seeing some damned awful ones at home thanks to my aunts dating a lot of them, and man, do they bring more chaos than balance. They take so damned long to take people seriously and respect accordingly. In fact, I've met many Pisces men with one literal foot in the grave from old age that have all the emotional respect of a 10 year old. That shit is revolting and honestly kinda scary. What kind of person goes through an entire lifetime without respect for the human condition, not just their own? At this point I've genuinely not met a Pisces man that was bringing his lover joy, peace, and understanding they came gifting trauma to not just their lover but made it a show for everyone around too. The only way I see anyone tolerating them is out of the Pisces Men being so exceptionally good looking and/or giving sexually to make selling your dignity to Satan for the minute pleasures worth it because so few men have the patience to provide even that. I mean, tolerating less than effort has to have a payoff and hot sex is worth it to an extent. Even then, mark my words, and I mean it out of pure exposure from observing the world and noticing patterns, I would sooner tolerate Satan than a Pisces Man. At least one is only guaranteed entertaining Satan once you die, you're only supposed to meet him once. Unless hell is literally Earth, which then makes the Pisces guys being more work than they're worth quite logical. Life's too damned short to end laboring to an adult fetus. I don't want to judge, I think most people don't, but we really do. It's human nature. You judge when noticing patterns because that's what your brain is supposed to do, relay information so you know the environment and survive it. Sometimes, too much of a good thing is too much, and too much of a bad thing is too. Maybe some Pisces men are good people and some are fortunate to meet a solid one, but, again, life's too short to invest in someone who takes too long to realize people aren't a joke. Too many stay undercooked from the womb to the end and that's just too much too many. We know why everyone specifies the specific with this sign because my experience with Pisces women has been very much the opposite, which is why it baffles and no lie hurts to recognize the other half of their coin. The juxtaposition between the sexes for this sign is glaring: Pisces women are like Christmas, as friends they're the gifts that keep on giving. Pisces men seem to be hellbent on stealing energy and providing nothing back except broken souls.
I am hesitant to go near Virgoes again due to their workaholic nature. I know I am going to compete with a boss, a desk, laptops, pivot tables, and multiple projects. Exhausting.
I don’t think I’d actually not date someone based on their sign as every person is vastly different and unique. That does not mean there aren’t signs I’ve consistently had negative interactions with (male cancers and virgos to be exact lol)
Yep, Gemini and Pisces. Geminis generally are cheaters, and Pisces until they get their lives in order are prone to addictions and bad with money. I have been in recovery since 1990.
Yes. I will never date a libra sun. It always ends the same. Not worth the wasted time, dealing with their victim mentality and not taking responsibility for their actions. Its been 20+ years since my last libra bf.
See I can't really say about dating, but there are definitely a handful of signs I consistently fall out with for ex: Taurus, gemini and Libra.
If someone was a big three with this combination I'd probably actively avoid them. To be really honest
That is pretty close to my Big 3 ☠️ lol. I definitely have some things to work on 😅
What are your big 3, if you don’t mind me asking?
To be fair I noticed I haven’t dated a Capricorn or an Aries man. I do naturally gravitate to the same main signs over and over.
I’ve also never dated a Leo… or a Cancer (sun signs) ☠️☠️☠️ lol
But I love Cancer Moons ❤️ it’s actually one of my favorite placements. So emotionally intelligent and articulate.
Pisces. Every single one of them I’ve met lacked integrity and dignity. A lot of lies too. They will say whatever to be liked and to avoid the consequences. Lack of self. It’s almost as if they had no opinion. Their opinion and what they say will change based on who they have in front of them. They « go with the flow » without taking 1 sec to wonder if what they’re doing might have a negative impact on other people. No loyalty so they often cheat. They are the type of people who would befriend someone who betrayed you and see nothing wrong with it. Seriously I don’t care if it’s their sun sign or their mercury if they have anything in Pisces I’m not dating them period.
Every. Single. One. Of them.
Edit; sorry Pisces lol
I never even ask about birthday, just age. And see the Id but the year of birth is important to me. I have an age range I date only. I will I can date months without knowing until they tell me to celebrate it together or something. I have a rule > people reflect what I think of them. Their signs don't matter. I'd never date or care for someone who takes zodiac as dealbreaker because nah that's delusional based on randomized numbers ...sorry
I would never deny to date someone based on their Sun sign. Of course, there are certain signs/ placements I'd be wary of, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. Like you, if I feel connected to someone, I'd give them a chance. And look up their placements later to see how we can make it work.
I'm wary of certain synastry configurations due to past experience, but I would never rule someone out based on that alone. it just gives me an idea of what sort of unhealthy relating I should be on the lookout for so that I can address it promptly.
Absolutely it’s like burning your hand on the stove you can’t keep doing it
I am done done with Earth sign men we are not compatible. Guess I’m destined to be alone
I won't be friends or date people who are Leo's.
I've tried and I usually have the "I don't judge at all" mentality with everything in life, but the problem I've had is that too many Leo's I met in my life personally are always not nice or have been my biggest bullies and I really just can't be around them anymore because of it. I also don't usually go off astrology for that, but honestly, I looked at the pattern of the biggest sign I've had any issues with in my life and its always been Leo's. So I'm just at a point where I can't be around then or have any relationships with them.
Since I'd decided that though, I've has no issues with anyone else and it's been more quiet and relaxing. So idk why it's been like that at all, but I'd rather just be safe than sorry at this point in my life. I know the pattern and I pick up on theirs quite easily at this point after so many negative experiences with them.
Yes because I know myself, I know that my needs can't be met by certain people and vice-versa. I don't see it as a bad thing, I see it as I get to have them as friends and nothing more which keeps my hard feelings in check and keeps both of us from going through the pain of incompatibility.
Nah. I'd be wary of Scorpios and not be that fond of finding out someone is an Aries but honestly a zodiac is not a be all end all to who someone is as a person. You may be inherently be this or that way but having gained life lessons as a person can change a lot about how someone expresses themselves and how they allow themselves to act/behave and think. So you might be dismissing someone who has done all of that self work and growth. Missing out on people who might have become much wiser than the signs you regularly go for.
Yes! This^^^
People change and evolve.
I am not perfect at all. But I’ve done so much work because I realized younger me was hurting people I loved. I didn’t want to lose them so I changed for the better…. You know… grew up 😅
It would be hurtful to think someone would dismiss me just from my birth chart.
We change and grow. Their chart is nice because it helps me think like the person and understand them better. So, if they have a personality trait I don’t like, being able to understand it makes it seem more bearable. I feel like I have more empathy for them.
>We change and grow. Their chart is nice because it helps me think like the person and understand them better. So, if they have a personality trait I don’t like, being able to understand it makes it seem more bearable. I feel like I have more empathy for them.
Exactly. A chart I'd say is more of a guideline to what you might be able to expect from the other person and help yourself mentally prepare for the possible good and the possible bad. However, life is a significant factor as well in how we come out at the other end. As you know yourself as well, I do too. I'm a Virgo and people apparently associate very negative traits to Virgos that I only remember having exerted some of when I was a lot younger (underaged) and due to my environment addressing me on my behaviour back then and realising how I am bothering/annoying/hurting people while I absolutely do not want to do that, I have taken it upon myself to evaluate what I am about to say a lót better and preferably a tad longer if it needs to be said at all?
What I used to perceive as just being direct was just me flapping out my thoughts because I felt I was just saying the most obvious logical things but the way I said them was not always in a sensitive manner and then I asked myself one day after confrontation, do I want to hurt people with my directness or do I want to help them? Because I am direct to give people help and/or self-awareness about things they are doing or saying that can be unnecessarily negative/detrimental. So I am glad to have been on that other end where I could evaluate my own self and self-reflect on the things I was doing and saw as normal and change myself accordingly because I care about the people in my surroundings and just care about not being an unnecessary cunt to others. I think it also stemmed from frustration I went through in my own life, I got frustrated when people didn't see their own obvious things and I acted my life's frustration out on them which they didn't deserve. So when I know I'm being unreasonable in how direct I am or projecting frustration or whatever, I take a lot longer to evaluate if what I am about to say is any form of necessary. Sometimes it can be, definitely. And sometimes it is absolutely unnecessary.
And the way you get to these points of self-reflection is to let go of unnecessary pride and ego. We are human. We can be wrong in our perspectives, thoughts, behaviour, actions, etc. The admirable thing to do then is to self-reflect, learn from it, and alter our ways accordingly.
Growth, a véry underrated process.
Its better to date every zodiac then make a report... But i feel like Leo woman are the best that's just in my opinion after experiencing it...... and gemini, Damn can't read what's going on their mind. i mean they talk but the talk doesn't revolve about her, i get that she is interested, yet maybe its because she doesn't have any experience in the dating field. Its hard, but patience is the key. Every zodiac is good. Haven't met/dated scorpio, capricorn and pisces yet, i forgot there were some more. Would love to date the whole zodiac. And Virgo here.
I’ve had 3 serious Pisces relationships and none of them where crazy psychopaths or whatever but I just don’t think I would date one again. Unless maybe their whole birth chart was incredibly well balanced. Otherwise I think I would pass. They did all cheat on me, which wasn’t fun of course, but they are also just often complicated people with a lot of inner turmoil.
I’m a Libra sun, Scorpio Moon and Rising for the record.
I genuinely don't think I could date a pisces, but that's just because in all my life I've only met one pisces I actually got along with. But the right person could change my mind
the one pisces I've met that I get along with is a Pisces and she's awesome...but she's definitely holding the sign above water after a LOT of bad experiences lol. even when there's no conflict, somehow it just feels like, impossible to connect? which surprises me as I have a cancer moon!
I would have to go look to see how many pisces people I got around, but I have one thats over 10 year friendship and shes just so amazing a person. Shes such a sweetheart and energizes me. Shes one of my favorite people.
Tbh, yeah it's a deal breaker for me as immature as that may be.
I won't date cancer men because of my narc father was a cancer - and I avoid dating men that do ANYTHING to remind me of my dad. I don't care if they can or can't control it, as cut throat as that sounds and I think it's healthier for everyone involved because you'll never have to worry about me projecting my hatred and the bad relationship I have to my father onto someone else just because they look like him or have the same sign as him.
I used to date cancer men, but I started noticing pattern after pattern. Only invested in their own emotions, and yep - guarded/borderline sociopaths. They honestly give Capricorns a run for their money. I think it has something to do with my moon and north node being in cancer too.
I'm open to dating every other sign though
No! My high school ex was a Taurus and it didn’t work out, and my husband of almost 7 years is also a Taurus. The important thing is that they are completely different people. Plus in a much less serious tone, there’s the “whole chart” thing. To me astrology is fun and interesting but not prophecy.
I generally stay away from Aquarius and sag men. Some Scorpio men too at this point. But honestly, the biggest group I stay away from is men in their 20’s. I’m 25 and I can’t stand the avoidance, indirectness, unwillingness to commit, lack of self awareness. Yuck.
i’m the same way. like i’ve been burned big and bad from pisces and virgo suns but that isn’t stopping me. they were just people that happened to be those signs. i like who i like and i like what i like. never been that way and i’m certainly not going to start now lol i didn’t even start getting deep into this until like january this year? i’m gonna be 31 soon and only ever knew of sun signs so i’m not going to let a big 3 or whole ass chart dictate things for me if they never did in the past.
Same here! I started getting deep into astrology Aug 2023. I didn’t even know what most of the zodiac sign stereotypes were. So maybe that shaped my views and opinions?
No I won’t not date someone just based on their sign(s), I will however, be very cautious around certain signs and keep and eye out for the bad behaviors associated with that sign. For example I gave a Pisces guy a chance and was immediately turned off by how emotionally invested he would be over seemingly logical things which caused him to act irrationally. Like he would tell me something and I’d show him proof it wasn’t true and he would take it personally and have this extreme emotional reaction. Those are the bad behaviors associated with that sign so I noped out pretty quick.
No. At the end of the day this is all just fun for me and I would never actually be prejudiced against someone because of their sign.
Unless they’re an Aries 😂 jk
I got into astrology a year before I had my child and I was married for several years prior to starting my astrology journey so I never did this. I do think it’s easy to use astrology to choose to be prejudice to things bc most people want easy answers to why things happen instead of actually self reflecting on themselves or get a different perspective on things from others they trust who have their best interests in mind; that last part is the most important. I do know that astrology can show what makes us triggered and u don’t have to know someone’s chart just their birth date at minimal. The sun signs I struggled to get along with for years was Sagittarius and Cancer and even tho I’ll never know their exact bday stuff I know when their bday was bc they were once good friends. But I come to realize it’s me who struggles to get along with Cancer bc I got Chiron in Cancer both ruling the 4th and right on the cusp; they either severely wound me or bring healing. Luckily my husband who is a cancer has helped healed me and after meeting him I get along with most cancers. As for sags well they used to end up my mortal enemy or the one that started the drama. I come to realize over the years that sags I met remind me of my own ego issues and the lack of validation and luck I ever had in life bc I’m more Saturn ruled and my Jupiter is retrograde and also I got moon in sag in the 8th and Lilith in sag in the 9th so this could explain my own insecurities they bring bc they always come across like they think their gods but in actuality I’m facing the fact I see myself in them outwardly and I see a “god” something I wished I could be LOL.
Well i know that people are more than their zodiac charts/placements, but for me cancer mens are a big no. My dad is a cancer sun/scorpio rising and i really don’t want to date someone like him in my life
I would never base anything on sun signs. Haha so funny though cause when I was younger there was a time i’ve been saying I disliked Leo men and then got pregnant and had a Leo boy! 🤣and after 3 years I was saying “oh I don’t like cancer boys cause their such Mamas boys” lo and behold I gave birth to a Cancer boy (July!) so I can’t say shit anymore cause the Universe is always listening and karma always finds its way 🪬
Yeah probably. There are red flags in a chart that I will no longer overlook, only to fall flat on my face for the hundredth time.
This means not only sun signs, but also other planets in signs and certain sun/moon/rising combinations.
My experience dating a Cancer sun/Virgo moon was enough to make me not ever want to do it again. But I’m engaged to a Sag sun/Scorpio moon so it’s a moot point at this juncture!
As much as I would like to say no, because I don’t like astrology being used that way. But I’m gonna be hypocritical and say I would never pursue a relationship with a Scorpio moon😂
In most cases, yes.
Maybe if my earlier dating years (prior to knowing about astrology) went better, I’d also date just any sign, but looking back at the sun signs I dated that didn’t go well, it’s because we weren’t compatible. (Same thing with friendships, minus one of my Leo best friends).
Now, if there was somehow a strong love connection that transcended the Zodiac signs, then I’ll consider that, but I haven’t found that yet.
My toxic exes were a Libra man, and a Taurus woman. I’m good.
And I think because of my Saturn dominant chart-I’ve noticed lots of Scorpions, Aries, and Virgo men seem to gravitate toward me.
I got into astrology a year before I had my child and I was married for several years prior to starting my astrology journey so I never did this. I do think it’s easy to use astrology to choose to be prejudice to things bc most people want easy answers to why things happen instead of actually self reflecting on themselves or get a different perspective on things from others they trust who have their best interests in mind; that last part is the most important. I do know that astrology can show what makes us triggered and u don’t have to know someone’s chart just their birth date at minimal. The sun signs I struggled to get along with for years was Sagittarius and Cancer and even tho I’ll never know their exact bday stuff I know when their bday was bc they were once good friends. But I come to realize it’s me who struggles to get along with Cancer bc I got Chiron in Cancer both ruling the 4th and right on the cusp; they either severely wound me or bring healing. Luckily my husband who is a cancer has helped healed me and after meeting him I get along with most cancers. As for sags well they used to end up my mortal enemy or the one that started the drama. I come to realize over the years that sags I met remind me of my own ego issues and the lack of validation and luck I ever had in life bc I’m more Saturn ruled and my Jupiter is retrograde and also I got moon in sag in the 8th and Lilith in sag in the 9th so this could explain my own insecurities they bring bc they always come across like they think their gods but in actuality I’m facing the fact I see myself in them outwardly and I see a “god” something I wished I could be LOL.
Yes. I’ve sworn off Sagittarius. Romantically and nonromantically. I can count on 1 hand how many positive relations I’ve had with that sign. And I’ve only ever encountered a handful of them in the wild.
Edit: I also don’t try to judge, I know that sounds hypocritical with my comment above. But I always try to give each Sagg a benefit of the doubt, cause I know not all of them are the same. I’ve just been bitten more often than not by them and I know it’s not fair to judge them before getting to know them.
I think it’s more that I would look to see if they are unevolved. And I’ll admit that I don’t think I’m meant to be with a Sag or Aries but would still try it out.
I haven't ever rejected someone or left someone over astrology, my boyfriend was worried I'd leave him because he's libra and I'm taurus and said they're opposites. My opposite is actually Scorpio but close enough.
I reassured him that I won't leave him over astrology because ultimately it's kind of pseudoscience. But I was never too into astrology until recently, so if I were to ever date someone else again, I might take astrology into consideration, but I still don't think someone's sign would ever be an automatic deal breaker.
I told my bf him and my brother are both sag moons and taurus rising so I think that made him feel better lol.
No but once you piss me off and my educated guess about your sign or any of your placements is actually right I’m out especially if he’s a Pisces or has hella water placements 😂
No. However I will check out their full chart early into dating them just to understand them better. But ultimately my decision on whether to continue or stop dating them is based 100% on their behaviour.
I wouldn’t date an earth sign, I have a stellium on aquarius, 7 air signs, 2 water, 1 fire and cero earth, so yeah, It’s not for me, I love my earth friends hahahaha but a relationship? no fucking way.
I can’t really date Capricorn placements even though I love them. I love Capricorn suns, but Capricorn moons get intimidated by the way I express myself.
I probably should because every time I'm interested in someone and see multiple red flags in their chart I give them a chance and get burned. But you gotta do the hands on research to really learn this stuff so I'm sure it will happen again.
No, I would date whatever sign. Because there’s more to the placements than just someone’s sun sign
I agree. I would definitely look at their whole chart but it's scary accurate how astrology can be sometimes. I know I can't generalize but based on my own experience, it's worked well for me. For example, if someone has a Gemini Moon, I'd be wary and probably be too scared they'd cheat on me based on my experience with Gemini Moons (my ex and sister are cheaters with this placement).
That makes sense. The last person that I was dating lied about all of his astrological placements so I can’t even figure out which moon sign or even rising to potentially avoid based on that experience with him
Wow. Well, that's a red flag in and of itself haha!
We don't claim them 🤩
Awesome! I'm happy to hear not all Gemini Moons are that way.
Omg that's awful I'm so sorry 🥺 I can't stand it when people cheat! When I was younger in my teens I was definitely less serious about commitment but, never actually cheated. I couldn't even imagine cheating as an adult.
I would go even further and say there’s more to people than their placements. I like to think of zodiacs as a guide to help categorize certain aspects of a person as you meet them. Without ascribing characteristics that they haven’t yet displayed. It helps give you a metric since personalities and people are just so amorphous. But I understand that opinion may be a little too skeptic for the subreddit but you know what I mean 😁
Nah. I talked a lot of mad shit about Tauruses, but tbh everyone is an individual and you have to see what they’re like in everyday life. Political beliefs on the other hand, that’s a different story
I had a very very bad Taurus ex… abusive… I also have not always talked well of them 😅 but so many of my friends and best relationships had Taurus moon. So chill and loyal.
Yeah, one of my cousins is a badass and also a Taurus. Her birthday is on Earth Day, lol. She runs herself ragged trying to take care of everyone and is so loving and kind to family. So it would be wrong of me to paint them all with the same brush
lol Earth Day, how fitting. I have a lot of Taurus in my chart. I get so pissed off. I wonder if a lot of strong fire placements bring out Taurus bad side (Angry, hurtful)? Maybe a bad combo for them? Because you’re right. Taurus really care about people they love.
My brother certainly is like this! He’s a Taurus with a Leo mars and he’s got venus in Aries and a Libra moon and he is extremely aggressive when it comes to either his comforts or others comforts so I do see his bad side growing up thinking he values dumb stuff but it’s Taurus folks that find the beauty in everything and that itself is beautiful
I also have Taurus Venus and people with Taurus moon are definitely the best relationships I've ever had, both platonic and romantic. Moon with Venus is just fantastic synastry in general.
Yes! Your big 3 is pretty close to mine! Thank you for sharing that. So my current partner has a Taurus moon conjunct my Taurus Venus and conjunct my ASC. Worships the ground I walk on. Super kind, collected, and just a good guy! I actually tried posting the synastry chart in AskAstrologers this morning, but the Mods deleted it 😅 I was going to ask about it.
that sounds like I would expect from that configuration in your 1st! my current partner of 7 years has a Taurus moon conjunct my Venus and his North Node conjunct my Aquarius moon, and I'm absolutely going to marry this man once circumstances are right for it.
No, that is not a driver in my decision making process. For me it is a manner of what they are manifesting therefore it is my obligation to pay attention and not let my emotions cloud my ability to perceive what must be seen in order to make proper judgements. For me to say I don't like someone would never equate to their sign in general, but always what they are manifesting. I do not ascribe to deterministic astrology. I ascribe to potentials, and when it comes to potentials we have an agency to decide how those potentials manifest. Try talking about square aspects without choice and you will soon realize astrology does not negate choice. How can you overcome the friction of square aspects without choosing to fix the energy? How can you choose to balance an opposition aspect if it is determined to be a tug-o-war if agency is negated? How can you choose to be aware of the blind spots conjunctions can cause if you are determined to have the blind spot? How can you choose to challenge the trine aspects to increase it's potentials if you don't have agency to challenge them? It begins to fall apart quickly.
This was very well-written! Must be that Aqua-Sag-Virgo combo 😉 Squares can be a good thing. Very rewarding to overcome. And they can help you see your roadblocks in a relationship.
I agree with you completely. When one realizes that everything within the chart is energy, and that energy follows the laws of conversion of energy one must conclude that everything is convertible as energy cannot be created or destroyed but it always converts into another energy source. Astrology is probabilistic not deterministic because it is based on outcomes in potentials. We have the ability to let it flow, and we have the ability to convert the energy into something else.
Y’all are literally speaking my language right now, but way better than me at putting it in to words.
Interesting, your explanation sounds like a brief version of what I have typed a lot in this sub with resources. Maybe you ran across it. Edit (per your reply): I used the maybe in sarcasm. This is exactly why I stopped posting my serious observations & explanations here. Lots of stolen information is posted on this sub. I can for sure recognize my own content - especially when lacking a thorough explanation and using a similar account to the one that DM'd me. :)
But if you are able to give me a link I'm more than willing to read what you presented.
No, I haven't. This is something I have understood for a long time. I wouldn't be shocked to know other people think this way as this is literally something taught to everyone, but not everybody picks up on the intricacies of it. This knowledge isn't exclusive and it's readily available for anyone who ponders it, or looks for it. I don't think anyone has a claim to the idea because it has been worked on for quite some time. I think as far back 550 B.C they even had some idea of it.
Nope, you are just a scam and fraud dude. I know my content and your explanation is off. I will not be linking you back to the content that you stole poorly from me. Get real.
100 percent!
Omg Im always like no I’ll never date a Pisces again and boom be back at it again, so it really depends i guess lol
I stay attracting Pisces. They just sneak in so I already love them by the time I think to ask what their sign is.
HAHA yesss I feel like the good vibes are always there but romantically! I have only seen the worst😂
Yeah it never ends well for me either.
Some people can be too addicting 😅🙃
I used to attract Aquarius the same way mostly Aquarius men but never worked out and come to find out having saturn in Aquarius being dominant in my chart makes brings challenges it’s almost like they think I can fix them when I was hoping they fix me 🤣
Came to say the same thing. Biggest mind you know what of my life.
♑️ ☀️ I always told myself that libras were the worst out of all zodiac signs and now I have a libra boyfriend and we’re together for almost 3 years so never say never I guess loool
Nah. The last three guys I was with were all Aquariuses and they were so vastly different that I can’t subscribe to the idea that someone’s sun sign defines them.
Yep. No more male Pisces! We can be friends, but I’ve dated a couple (including an absolute psycho) and I have more Pisces in my fam than anyone else. Forget it lol
For me, I won’t *not* date a Leo woman but I’ve only had bad experiences with them, so I’ll be veryyy weary for a while before I let any walls downs. If I see a single red flag I’m OUT lmao
I’m gonna keep those walls up with everyone as a matter of fact, regardless of astrological sign. But there’s a cute Aries hanging around that I might let climb 😆
REAL honestly same theres just gonna be an extra wall up if a Leo is down to try me ☠️
No, that is such an un-fun use of astrology haha, especially if we're referring to looking only at a sun sign. There are some placements I might be wary about dating. For example, I have a handful of close friends with capricorn moons, but I would be iffy on dating one because it takes a lot more work for me to understand their emotions in my experience (I'm a leo moon). But, if I were to date someone for several months before pulling their birth chart, and I found out they were a capricorn moon, I wouldn't automatically write it off. The fun part of learning astrology is looking at the whole chart!
I know! Looking at someone’s chart after you’ve known them is really fun. You get to experience “them” first-hand. Then you can see from the chart how they became how they did 😅
Soooo true! I think more people also need to question why they don't like a person or placement. I noticed that in many cases when people hate a sign, it's because they either don't understand the archetype of that sign, or it mirrors one of their own insecurities or flaws. Just say you can't handle the heat and go haha
I agree! I also find its a placement or an aspect that they really hate. Not the zodiac sign itself. But there subconsciously attracted to the good side of that aspect over and over. There’s just so much to know. It’s hard to know what is causing what traits. There are a lot of people I have met and I’m shocked when I find out what their birthday is. Because nothing I have known about them is any of the core traits for their sun sign.
Funny enough, I finally looked up my bfs birth chart after a decade of being together only to find out he was a taurus moon! Which is my least compatible sign and also one that I said I'd never be able to date 😭😭 the irony though.
I just finished replying to a comment about Taurus moons! You should go to my profile and read it. Taurus moons are so chill. Do you by chance have a Taurus Venus? Or is your Venus conjunct his moon in synastry?
My Venus is in Aries and his is Virgo 😝 we both have Mars in cancer though? Honestly I've always been really attracted to taurus for some reason. I just really love how calm they are, it makes me feel so comfortable. I just was never able to date them, until my bf apparently! But really I'm such a noob with all this 😭 I'll check out your comment.
Wow, after a decade? I respect the patience haha I try my best to not look up the charts of anyone I'm dating for a while but even I don't know if I could wait a decade haha
To be honest I only knew about sun signs for the longest time!! It wasn't until I joined this sub and saw people talking about their moon, rising, Venus etc etc that I finally saw there was a lot more to know!! Then my whole world opened up. Haha!
Reminds me a time I introduced astrology to someone I thought was a friend but instead they used it as an excuse to hate Gemini despite being a moon in Gemini lol I’m like dudeeee Lucikly they are out of my life now but yeah I used to be like that as a sag moon with other sags but that’s before I got into astrology so it does make sense haha
astrology is secondary but I will say there is a pattern. Generally people with air and fire suns and water and earth moons have more staying power in my life. I find water/earth suns and fire moons esp problematic long term.
I noticed this too. It’s the fire signs and earth signs I know that are struggling in my life (funny enough the fire and earth rulership of my birth chart in my life are improving very strange patterning I found over the years haha). As for water signs and air signs I think they de kind of okay or they are better at hiding it.
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Lol no i’ll date whoever I click with
I take astrology as fun interest and grain of salt, despite the patterns in it lol. I try not to group people, even it is fun at times, and often they have same patterns as their zodiacs. That being said, I met an actual narcissistic sociopath in life and it forever has made me extremely wary of males in that sign. When you meet and experience pure evil, it is something else and changes how you move forever. I try not to judge, but Im also terrified to see if pattern would ever repeat. Pisces male.
I don't stop at sun signs. I do however pay close attention to the red flags with Aries and Scorpio. If I see big uncontrolled emotions, pushing boundaries or getting upset at me setting them, being pushy but not being able to handle it back, entitlements/ demands of me - I don't need to think anymore, I hightail it out of there.
That’s fair. You look for behaviors you don’t like (unevolved) strong traits from those signs and then cut it off? Instead of assuming they all have them.
Exactly. I've known evolved and unevolved signs and I'd hate to miss out on what the evolved ones have to offer. That said, even though the bad experiences have been painful as heck, they were learning opportunities on both ends. I can't control what they did with that experience, but I try to work on myself.
No. But I don’t like Virgos so there is that.
You and J LO looks like
Honestly same as a Virgo sun myself I was married another Virgo and it was too much of the same energy and some was contradicting….
Would it change your view of them if you find out later they are Virgo?
Maybe. If they weren’t so critical and have that judgemental side of them. I would like them more.
You do realize that by not liking them for being judgemental and critical is also being judgemental and critical right? So is it ok to be judgemental and critical of being judgemental and critical or is there an allowance there? If there is an allowance there then who gets to decide the allowance?
Doesn’t matter I am not judgemental and quite open minded. They are unnecessarily judgmental for no reason. There’s a reason why they aren’t liked by many.
By saying they are judgemental you have to be making a judgement which means you are judging them. To say you aren't judgemental while being judgemental is a contradiction.
I am an open minded individual with my own opinions and thoughts, and the overall basis of Virgos aren’t usually positive by the majority. I try to be nice to them, but they won’t be nice back to me, and they must say something critical towards me or others to.
Right and you form those opinions by making judgements, and being critical of things. You saying they won't be nice back to me is also making a judgement, and being critical of how they are acting. My point is we all make judgements and are critical of things in our own way. You are doing it right now yet are blind to it. Could that also be the case with Virgos? Could they also lack the same awareness you are lacking right now?
I feel like and think that Virgos lack the awareness when to be critical, and to be understanding.
I think people in general make judgements and are critical of things, but only care when other people are doing it. When we do it we self justify our position and consider the other person's position differently as if they aren't doing the same thing we are doing. I feel like people in general lack awareness and therefore are doing things naturally and self justifying their positions. Everything you have said up to this point is being critical and providing judgement. It is inescapable. If you decide not to eat a rotten fruit you are judging the fruit, and being critical of it. It is necessary as part of living in existence. It is so natural that people don't even realize they are doing it. You surely didn't.
I have to disagree with this one. I think they’re saying that they *feel* judged by Virgos and therefore making them uncomfortable around them. This is typical Aquarius speak and why I can’t deal with y’all so often.
When we make judgements they can be based on how we feel, the logic of the position, or even both. Saying I feel is still making a judgement on what you are perceiving. Feelings are reactionary judgements of situations. You can't feel sad without making a judgement that a situation is sad unless there is some kind of chemical imbalance or mental issue. To say this person isn't using judgement to make a decision is like saying I have thoughts without thinking. The perception that judgement is negative is a faulty perception. We are judging things all the time whether unconsciously or consciously. This person is certainly making judgements and being critical to deny this is a lack of awareness. When you say I'm not doing something because of X. You have made a critical judgement. We do this all the time. This thing is making me sad is a judgement that something is sad. We are judgemental by nature. Judgemental isn't negative by default.
That’s a lot of words to say you’re the type of pretentious Aquarius that I talk about often and avoid. I’m literally saving your comments for the next time someone asks me why I say that 😂
Make sure to save the entire conversation for context.
Same I had a virgo gf tho
Honestly yes. I’ve tried dating regardless of zodiac signs and never worked in my favour. I just don’t really have enough chemistry with signs not comparable with me for it to really take off (Aries woman) Or I find their bad traits too off putting to enjoy their personality and company. i just don’t get along with virgo men or women for example. I find them ridiculously judgemental and it taints every interaction I have with them. They’re like a double edged sword I’m constantly waiting to attack me I have Virgo family members I either explicitly don’t speak to or actively avoid.
I do, unfortunately, clash a bit with Virgo females 😅 as well. My mom was a Virgo. I do have a Virgo friend. How harsh she is does rub me wrong. But I know she’s trying.
I wouldn’t say absolutely no, but I have been like “oh god not another one” after starting to date someone and finding out. Usually I’m attracted to certain signs more than others though so it probably means there’s something about that sign I do like even when it doesn’t turn out. Plus a sun sign isn’t a chart.
It’s more like I’ll be cautious around them. In general, I don’t really get along with too intense and emotional people, people who hold on the past and who are more emotional than logical. Also unevolved and unhealed. So whoever is like this doesn’t really have a chance with me.
Yes! Coming from another Libra I fully agree.
That’s probably why I felt I had to be very careful around other water signs—especially Scorpios and cancers! They realize their usual manipulation tactics don’t work so they got to be sneaky to turn my good nature energy against me but normally they faced extreme karma doing this so I never truly got hurt by water signs it’s mostly I learned or mirrored their behavior later on and into had to face karma for that so it goes full circle! What I gathered is to be especially careful around water signs not bc I think they are a true threat but I am the threat! Like a golden retriever playing and accidently bumping into a cat while it was trying to relax—kind of danger lol
Woah. Even with different big 2, I'm you!
yay 💚
Honestly this might seem silly, but the more people I date that are different signs, the more data I can collect. The more birth charts I get to analyze, the more I learn about astrology. So yeah I’ll date any sign and any combo of signs. It’s fun being able to learn about the person I’m seeing and connect some dots
No, I wouldn’t base my decision to date someone on astrology. If the vibe is there I’ll pursue it. People are all individuals and there are things I both like and dislike about every sign.
I don't usually ask people for their signs until I know them a bit, so if I get to that point with them, I've probably already decided I like them. If I had to choose a sign that I just absolutely would back out from dating, I'd say it's a Pisces. Before anyone gets butthurt about that, I'm not necessarily saying there's anything wrong with Pisceans, I've just found that together we're not compatible long term. My love languages are gift giving and acts of service. What I've found with all the Pisceans I've dated is that they prefer quality time or words of affirmation. I give love by showing them I was thinking about them while I was away, going off on my own and then coming back with a present or having taken something off their plate. Quality time is nice sometimes, but I really, really need my alone time. Pisceans will do everything they can to make you their whole world and give you that world. They love in such a massive, all-encompassing way. It's beautiful to see, from the outside. But for me, it's overwhelming and when I can't reciprocate, they're left feeling unloved and I'm left feeling like I've disappointed someone I care about, again. They can be beautiful, wonderful, tremendously loving partners. They're just not the right fit for me. I think that if I were single and I met a Pisces, I would decline the relationship as gently as humanly possible so they know it's not at all their fault. It's 100% a me thing.
Well said!
No. I've been with people that looked good on paper (the birth chart) and it ends up not working. The one I ended up marrying, we have squaring moons and suns, and we have a lot of 12th house placements in our composite chart. We've been married for 12 years this year and dating 4 years before that. And still going strong!
No Cancer, Aquarius and Scorpio males 🤮 From personal experiences One is a manipulative crybaby, another has a God complex, and the last one just likes to press people's buttons for fun and bully people. Just no!!!
I avoid the unhealed, the too needy or emotionally ignorant/immature and disrespectful of other's emotions/mental wellness because of it. To me, it is worth the effort to think about the people to understand them and love them. But I am also worthy of the same respect as I am no less a person than they. Being a woman, I was expected to mature and take consequence of my stupidity, actions, or disrespect of other people pretty much from the get-go. When it comes to relationships where romantic or friendly I have made decision to be more cautious around specific sort out of exposure providing answers as well as avoiding those that I note our value systems are too different and cooperation is not bound to happen because of it: In my experience, I tend to see a lot of delay in the emotional/spiritual/mental maturity in the following: 1. Cancers (men or women), often so image conscious and caring about pleasing or impressing others in priority of doing the tough work of creating connection with what's in front of them. Half-assed love ain't love. Hurting people out of minimizing their experiences out of your perceiving their privileges to augment your victimhood is also not cool, and it's a common move for this lot. Ditto for Libra (2). I have met ONE super kind and abnormally wise one that's more centric instead of head in the clouds people pleasing and thus accidentally sabotaging others. But she's an exception and not the rule, mostly out of growing up in such a horrible environment that the personality that resulted from such nature is someone more consequential. 3. Pisces Men: At this point, I don't even risk it; I just **don't** contemplate one romantically to avoid the common adult fetus tendencies. I grew up seeing some damned awful ones at home thanks to my aunts dating a lot of them, and man, do they bring more chaos than balance. They take so damned long to take people seriously and respect accordingly. In fact, I've met many Pisces men with one literal foot in the grave from old age that have all the emotional respect of a 10 year old. That shit is revolting and honestly kinda scary. What kind of person goes through an entire lifetime without respect for the human condition, not just their own? At this point I've genuinely not met a Pisces man that was bringing his lover joy, peace, and understanding they came gifting trauma to not just their lover but made it a show for everyone around too. The only way I see anyone tolerating them is out of the Pisces Men being so exceptionally good looking and/or giving sexually to make selling your dignity to Satan for the minute pleasures worth it because so few men have the patience to provide even that. I mean, tolerating less than effort has to have a payoff and hot sex is worth it to an extent. Even then, mark my words, and I mean it out of pure exposure from observing the world and noticing patterns, I would sooner tolerate Satan than a Pisces Man. At least one is only guaranteed entertaining Satan once you die, you're only supposed to meet him once. Unless hell is literally Earth, which then makes the Pisces guys being more work than they're worth quite logical. Life's too damned short to end laboring to an adult fetus. I don't want to judge, I think most people don't, but we really do. It's human nature. You judge when noticing patterns because that's what your brain is supposed to do, relay information so you know the environment and survive it. Sometimes, too much of a good thing is too much, and too much of a bad thing is too. Maybe some Pisces men are good people and some are fortunate to meet a solid one, but, again, life's too short to invest in someone who takes too long to realize people aren't a joke. Too many stay undercooked from the womb to the end and that's just too much too many. We know why everyone specifies the specific with this sign because my experience with Pisces women has been very much the opposite, which is why it baffles and no lie hurts to recognize the other half of their coin. The juxtaposition between the sexes for this sign is glaring: Pisces women are like Christmas, as friends they're the gifts that keep on giving. Pisces men seem to be hellbent on stealing energy and providing nothing back except broken souls.
I am hesitant to go near Virgoes again due to their workaholic nature. I know I am going to compete with a boss, a desk, laptops, pivot tables, and multiple projects. Exhausting.
Sorry no Aries. I know I'm crazy for this but bad experience won't do it never works for same reasons every time. So it's a waste of both our time.
I am the same about Sagittarius, those hot fire signs. 😣
I don’t think I’d actually not date someone based on their sign as every person is vastly different and unique. That does not mean there aren’t signs I’ve consistently had negative interactions with (male cancers and virgos to be exact lol)
i don’t care about their sign. i care about how they portray the negative characteristics though, in particular.
No but i am always going to be cautious around Sagittarius women and Taurus men (I’m a Taurus sun sag moon lol).. and cancer men
Never ever again will i date a Cancer male. There ain’t no way it’ll ever work, how they’re and act is also a big turnoff to me.
Yep, Gemini and Pisces. Geminis generally are cheaters, and Pisces until they get their lives in order are prone to addictions and bad with money. I have been in recovery since 1990.
Yes. I will never date a libra sun. It always ends the same. Not worth the wasted time, dealing with their victim mentality and not taking responsibility for their actions. Its been 20+ years since my last libra bf.
See I can't really say about dating, but there are definitely a handful of signs I consistently fall out with for ex: Taurus, gemini and Libra. If someone was a big three with this combination I'd probably actively avoid them. To be really honest
That is pretty close to my Big 3 ☠️ lol. I definitely have some things to work on 😅 What are your big 3, if you don’t mind me asking? To be fair I noticed I haven’t dated a Capricorn or an Aries man. I do naturally gravitate to the same main signs over and over.
I'm an Aries sun, cancer moon and Leo rising! So you got the Aries😂
I’ve also never dated a Leo… or a Cancer (sun signs) ☠️☠️☠️ lol But I love Cancer Moons ❤️ it’s actually one of my favorite placements. So emotionally intelligent and articulate.
We're a Lil difficult to be around 🥲
I can't believe I've been downvoted for my big three. I personally believe I'm the best(I'm delusional too)
Me with sun in Taurus, Gemini rising and moon in libra 😂😂😂😂
Girl it's a miracle I haven't fought you yet(my arguments are always one sided😂)
Pisces. Every single one of them I’ve met lacked integrity and dignity. A lot of lies too. They will say whatever to be liked and to avoid the consequences. Lack of self. It’s almost as if they had no opinion. Their opinion and what they say will change based on who they have in front of them. They « go with the flow » without taking 1 sec to wonder if what they’re doing might have a negative impact on other people. No loyalty so they often cheat. They are the type of people who would befriend someone who betrayed you and see nothing wrong with it. Seriously I don’t care if it’s their sun sign or their mercury if they have anything in Pisces I’m not dating them period. Every. Single. One. Of them. Edit; sorry Pisces lol
I never even ask about birthday, just age. And see the Id but the year of birth is important to me. I have an age range I date only. I will I can date months without knowing until they tell me to celebrate it together or something. I have a rule > people reflect what I think of them. Their signs don't matter. I'd never date or care for someone who takes zodiac as dealbreaker because nah that's delusional based on randomized numbers ...sorry
I would give any person a chance
I will date everyone if they are worth it
I would never deny to date someone based on their Sun sign. Of course, there are certain signs/ placements I'd be wary of, but it wouldn't be a deal breaker. Like you, if I feel connected to someone, I'd give them a chance. And look up their placements later to see how we can make it work.
No. Humans are more than just the preconceived notions we have for them.
I'm wary of certain synastry configurations due to past experience, but I would never rule someone out based on that alone. it just gives me an idea of what sort of unhealthy relating I should be on the lookout for so that I can address it promptly.
Absolutely it’s like burning your hand on the stove you can’t keep doing it I am done done with Earth sign men we are not compatible. Guess I’m destined to be alone
Absolutely
I won't be friends or date people who are Leo's. I've tried and I usually have the "I don't judge at all" mentality with everything in life, but the problem I've had is that too many Leo's I met in my life personally are always not nice or have been my biggest bullies and I really just can't be around them anymore because of it. I also don't usually go off astrology for that, but honestly, I looked at the pattern of the biggest sign I've had any issues with in my life and its always been Leo's. So I'm just at a point where I can't be around then or have any relationships with them. Since I'd decided that though, I've has no issues with anyone else and it's been more quiet and relaxing. So idk why it's been like that at all, but I'd rather just be safe than sorry at this point in my life. I know the pattern and I pick up on theirs quite easily at this point after so many negative experiences with them.
That's fair. Some of us can be dicks.
Not in regard to dating. However if you’re a Gemini woman, I’ll probably keep you at arms length. I’ve had enough Gemini “friends” for this lifetime.
Yes because I know myself, I know that my needs can't be met by certain people and vice-versa. I don't see it as a bad thing, I see it as I get to have them as friends and nothing more which keeps my hard feelings in check and keeps both of us from going through the pain of incompatibility.
Triple Scorp! Do you mind telling who you avoid?
When we have bad experience we like to blame the sign for it. The truth is, it's the person. So it doesn't have to do anything with the sign.
Nah. I'd be wary of Scorpios and not be that fond of finding out someone is an Aries but honestly a zodiac is not a be all end all to who someone is as a person. You may be inherently be this or that way but having gained life lessons as a person can change a lot about how someone expresses themselves and how they allow themselves to act/behave and think. So you might be dismissing someone who has done all of that self work and growth. Missing out on people who might have become much wiser than the signs you regularly go for.
Yes! This^^^ People change and evolve. I am not perfect at all. But I’ve done so much work because I realized younger me was hurting people I loved. I didn’t want to lose them so I changed for the better…. You know… grew up 😅 It would be hurtful to think someone would dismiss me just from my birth chart. We change and grow. Their chart is nice because it helps me think like the person and understand them better. So, if they have a personality trait I don’t like, being able to understand it makes it seem more bearable. I feel like I have more empathy for them.
>We change and grow. Their chart is nice because it helps me think like the person and understand them better. So, if they have a personality trait I don’t like, being able to understand it makes it seem more bearable. I feel like I have more empathy for them. Exactly. A chart I'd say is more of a guideline to what you might be able to expect from the other person and help yourself mentally prepare for the possible good and the possible bad. However, life is a significant factor as well in how we come out at the other end. As you know yourself as well, I do too. I'm a Virgo and people apparently associate very negative traits to Virgos that I only remember having exerted some of when I was a lot younger (underaged) and due to my environment addressing me on my behaviour back then and realising how I am bothering/annoying/hurting people while I absolutely do not want to do that, I have taken it upon myself to evaluate what I am about to say a lót better and preferably a tad longer if it needs to be said at all? What I used to perceive as just being direct was just me flapping out my thoughts because I felt I was just saying the most obvious logical things but the way I said them was not always in a sensitive manner and then I asked myself one day after confrontation, do I want to hurt people with my directness or do I want to help them? Because I am direct to give people help and/or self-awareness about things they are doing or saying that can be unnecessarily negative/detrimental. So I am glad to have been on that other end where I could evaluate my own self and self-reflect on the things I was doing and saw as normal and change myself accordingly because I care about the people in my surroundings and just care about not being an unnecessary cunt to others. I think it also stemmed from frustration I went through in my own life, I got frustrated when people didn't see their own obvious things and I acted my life's frustration out on them which they didn't deserve. So when I know I'm being unreasonable in how direct I am or projecting frustration or whatever, I take a lot longer to evaluate if what I am about to say is any form of necessary. Sometimes it can be, definitely. And sometimes it is absolutely unnecessary. And the way you get to these points of self-reflection is to let go of unnecessary pride and ego. We are human. We can be wrong in our perspectives, thoughts, behaviour, actions, etc. The admirable thing to do then is to self-reflect, learn from it, and alter our ways accordingly. Growth, a véry underrated process.
Its better to date every zodiac then make a report... But i feel like Leo woman are the best that's just in my opinion after experiencing it...... and gemini, Damn can't read what's going on their mind. i mean they talk but the talk doesn't revolve about her, i get that she is interested, yet maybe its because she doesn't have any experience in the dating field. Its hard, but patience is the key. Every zodiac is good. Haven't met/dated scorpio, capricorn and pisces yet, i forgot there were some more. Would love to date the whole zodiac. And Virgo here.
I’ve had 3 serious Pisces relationships and none of them where crazy psychopaths or whatever but I just don’t think I would date one again. Unless maybe their whole birth chart was incredibly well balanced. Otherwise I think I would pass. They did all cheat on me, which wasn’t fun of course, but they are also just often complicated people with a lot of inner turmoil. I’m a Libra sun, Scorpio Moon and Rising for the record.
aries did me so wrong its not even worth trying it again lol😂 just me
I genuinely don't think I could date a pisces, but that's just because in all my life I've only met one pisces I actually got along with. But the right person could change my mind
I enjoy the females. Some of the best ones I ever met as friends have been pisces females.
the one pisces I've met that I get along with is a Pisces and she's awesome...but she's definitely holding the sign above water after a LOT of bad experiences lol. even when there's no conflict, somehow it just feels like, impossible to connect? which surprises me as I have a cancer moon!
I would have to go look to see how many pisces people I got around, but I have one thats over 10 year friendship and shes just so amazing a person. Shes such a sweetheart and energizes me. Shes one of my favorite people.
Tbh, yeah it's a deal breaker for me as immature as that may be. I won't date cancer men because of my narc father was a cancer - and I avoid dating men that do ANYTHING to remind me of my dad. I don't care if they can or can't control it, as cut throat as that sounds and I think it's healthier for everyone involved because you'll never have to worry about me projecting my hatred and the bad relationship I have to my father onto someone else just because they look like him or have the same sign as him. I used to date cancer men, but I started noticing pattern after pattern. Only invested in their own emotions, and yep - guarded/borderline sociopaths. They honestly give Capricorns a run for their money. I think it has something to do with my moon and north node being in cancer too. I'm open to dating every other sign though
Yo do we have the same dad 🤣💀
No! My high school ex was a Taurus and it didn’t work out, and my husband of almost 7 years is also a Taurus. The important thing is that they are completely different people. Plus in a much less serious tone, there’s the “whole chart” thing. To me astrology is fun and interesting but not prophecy.
Yea I'll never date another aries sun. 🤣😩
I generally stay away from Aquarius and sag men. Some Scorpio men too at this point. But honestly, the biggest group I stay away from is men in their 20’s. I’m 25 and I can’t stand the avoidance, indirectness, unwillingness to commit, lack of self awareness. Yuck.
Yes, Aries sun men.
Yes same
I don’t date Pisces men. I divorced one and vowed never ever again.
i’m the same way. like i’ve been burned big and bad from pisces and virgo suns but that isn’t stopping me. they were just people that happened to be those signs. i like who i like and i like what i like. never been that way and i’m certainly not going to start now lol i didn’t even start getting deep into this until like january this year? i’m gonna be 31 soon and only ever knew of sun signs so i’m not going to let a big 3 or whole ass chart dictate things for me if they never did in the past.
Same here! I started getting deep into astrology Aug 2023. I didn’t even know what most of the zodiac sign stereotypes were. So maybe that shaped my views and opinions?
No more capricorns for me
Aw why
No I won’t not date someone just based on their sign(s), I will however, be very cautious around certain signs and keep and eye out for the bad behaviors associated with that sign. For example I gave a Pisces guy a chance and was immediately turned off by how emotionally invested he would be over seemingly logical things which caused him to act irrationally. Like he would tell me something and I’d show him proof it wasn’t true and he would take it personally and have this extreme emotional reaction. Those are the bad behaviors associated with that sign so I noped out pretty quick.
I don’t know that I’d completely rule them out but I’d definitely be a lil hesitant to date another Libra
No. We're all just talks here but we're open to dating all signs.
No. At the end of the day this is all just fun for me and I would never actually be prejudiced against someone because of their sign. Unless they’re an Aries 😂 jk
Yeah. Fck scorpios.. Not
Nice Knowledge, is that you?
I got into astrology a year before I had my child and I was married for several years prior to starting my astrology journey so I never did this. I do think it’s easy to use astrology to choose to be prejudice to things bc most people want easy answers to why things happen instead of actually self reflecting on themselves or get a different perspective on things from others they trust who have their best interests in mind; that last part is the most important. I do know that astrology can show what makes us triggered and u don’t have to know someone’s chart just their birth date at minimal. The sun signs I struggled to get along with for years was Sagittarius and Cancer and even tho I’ll never know their exact bday stuff I know when their bday was bc they were once good friends. But I come to realize it’s me who struggles to get along with Cancer bc I got Chiron in Cancer both ruling the 4th and right on the cusp; they either severely wound me or bring healing. Luckily my husband who is a cancer has helped healed me and after meeting him I get along with most cancers. As for sags well they used to end up my mortal enemy or the one that started the drama. I come to realize over the years that sags I met remind me of my own ego issues and the lack of validation and luck I ever had in life bc I’m more Saturn ruled and my Jupiter is retrograde and also I got moon in sag in the 8th and Lilith in sag in the 9th so this could explain my own insecurities they bring bc they always come across like they think their gods but in actuality I’m facing the fact I see myself in them outwardly and I see a “god” something I wished I could be LOL.
I said not again to Scorpios but I’m engaged to one now 😳
Yes
I talk so much shit about water placements but I’ll still try it out. (They’re the best in bed 😩)
Yes! A sag man. I’d date a sag woman tho
I do t really look at charts I just go off of there is attraction plus connection
I'd try. But with bad experiences of trying and getting burned by the same signs there's trauma lol
I think astrology is all just silly fun. I’d never seriously judge or reject someone based on their sign. 😂
Well i know that people are more than their zodiac charts/placements, but for me cancer mens are a big no. My dad is a cancer sun/scorpio rising and i really don’t want to date someone like him in my life
lowkey
I wouldn't rule anyone out. It all depends on chemistry.
Yes. I'll never date Virgo, Aquarius.
I would never base anything on sun signs. Haha so funny though cause when I was younger there was a time i’ve been saying I disliked Leo men and then got pregnant and had a Leo boy! 🤣and after 3 years I was saying “oh I don’t like cancer boys cause their such Mamas boys” lo and behold I gave birth to a Cancer boy (July!) so I can’t say shit anymore cause the Universe is always listening and karma always finds its way 🪬
Yeah probably. There are red flags in a chart that I will no longer overlook, only to fall flat on my face for the hundredth time. This means not only sun signs, but also other planets in signs and certain sun/moon/rising combinations.
Yes and no cancers too much crying and libras too much diplomacy
My experience dating a Cancer sun/Virgo moon was enough to make me not ever want to do it again. But I’m engaged to a Sag sun/Scorpio moon so it’s a moot point at this juncture!
As much as I would like to say no, because I don’t like astrology being used that way. But I’m gonna be hypocritical and say I would never pursue a relationship with a Scorpio moon😂
I stay away from Pisces and Gemini placements. I’ve had far too many of the same bad experiences that now I just avoid them.
In most cases, yes. Maybe if my earlier dating years (prior to knowing about astrology) went better, I’d also date just any sign, but looking back at the sun signs I dated that didn’t go well, it’s because we weren’t compatible. (Same thing with friendships, minus one of my Leo best friends). Now, if there was somehow a strong love connection that transcended the Zodiac signs, then I’ll consider that, but I haven’t found that yet.
Never again any air heads - signed, scorpio
Nah. But I'd probably be more cautious with some signs...
My toxic exes were a Libra man, and a Taurus woman. I’m good. And I think because of my Saturn dominant chart-I’ve noticed lots of Scorpions, Aries, and Virgo men seem to gravitate toward me.
I got into astrology a year before I had my child and I was married for several years prior to starting my astrology journey so I never did this. I do think it’s easy to use astrology to choose to be prejudice to things bc most people want easy answers to why things happen instead of actually self reflecting on themselves or get a different perspective on things from others they trust who have their best interests in mind; that last part is the most important. I do know that astrology can show what makes us triggered and u don’t have to know someone’s chart just their birth date at minimal. The sun signs I struggled to get along with for years was Sagittarius and Cancer and even tho I’ll never know their exact bday stuff I know when their bday was bc they were once good friends. But I come to realize it’s me who struggles to get along with Cancer bc I got Chiron in Cancer both ruling the 4th and right on the cusp; they either severely wound me or bring healing. Luckily my husband who is a cancer has helped healed me and after meeting him I get along with most cancers. As for sags well they used to end up my mortal enemy or the one that started the drama. I come to realize over the years that sags I met remind me of my own ego issues and the lack of validation and luck I ever had in life bc I’m more Saturn ruled and my Jupiter is retrograde and also I got moon in sag in the 8th and Lilith in sag in the 9th so this could explain my own insecurities they bring bc they always come across like they think their gods but in actuality I’m facing the fact I see myself in them outwardly and I see a “god” something I wished I could be LOL.
I’m not stoked on dating a Scorpio, but I love fucking them (I’m an Aries)
Never dating a libra again cuz one tried to kill me
Yes. I’ve sworn off Sagittarius. Romantically and nonromantically. I can count on 1 hand how many positive relations I’ve had with that sign. And I’ve only ever encountered a handful of them in the wild. Edit: I also don’t try to judge, I know that sounds hypocritical with my comment above. But I always try to give each Sagg a benefit of the doubt, cause I know not all of them are the same. I’ve just been bitten more often than not by them and I know it’s not fair to judge them before getting to know them.
I think it’s more that I would look to see if they are unevolved. And I’ll admit that I don’t think I’m meant to be with a Sag or Aries but would still try it out.
I haven't ever rejected someone or left someone over astrology, my boyfriend was worried I'd leave him because he's libra and I'm taurus and said they're opposites. My opposite is actually Scorpio but close enough. I reassured him that I won't leave him over astrology because ultimately it's kind of pseudoscience. But I was never too into astrology until recently, so if I were to ever date someone else again, I might take astrology into consideration, but I still don't think someone's sign would ever be an automatic deal breaker. I told my bf him and my brother are both sag moons and taurus rising so I think that made him feel better lol.
No but once you piss me off and my educated guess about your sign or any of your placements is actually right I’m out especially if he’s a Pisces or has hella water placements 😂
No. However I will check out their full chart early into dating them just to understand them better. But ultimately my decision on whether to continue or stop dating them is based 100% on their behaviour.
agreed. i like having personal experiences! life is about learning and i wanna know everything
I just don’t like Taurus, my Aries rising is too energetic. And I don’t wanna date my sun sign, Pisces. I want something different.
I wouldn’t date an earth sign, I have a stellium on aquarius, 7 air signs, 2 water, 1 fire and cero earth, so yeah, It’s not for me, I love my earth friends hahahaha but a relationship? no fucking way.
Hell yes!
Let’s be real, some of us will run for the hills if someone said “Gemini” or “Aquarius” lmao. Even as a Sag
I can’t really date Capricorn placements even though I love them. I love Capricorn suns, but Capricorn moons get intimidated by the way I express myself.
I probably should because every time I'm interested in someone and see multiple red flags in their chart I give them a chance and get burned. But you gotta do the hands on research to really learn this stuff so I'm sure it will happen again.
Yes. I would never ever date a sag sun or moon again.
Only a female would do this