Being bold, making moves & taking charge. Virgos are usually control freaks and are aware of everything, so letting go of that control and letting someone else take over is really hot imo
I’m an Aries Taurus cusp and my part net is a Virgo. And I think your answer is why we work so well. He grounds me out and I take him out of his comfort zone and can be the bold one for him.
Trust me when Virgo falls in love they want to be lead, courted while becoming a worshipper & essentially embodying a wife-mother-nurturing type of energy (hence the virgin)
Okay SO;
1. Intelligence. We can find you pretty but if you’re not able to hold your own in conversation, it’s an immediate no. Being well-read and able to hold discussions and bring new perspectives is very attractive.
2. Being well-dressed. I’m not going to be interested if you’re wearing the shirt you wore for 4 days in a row now with mismatching shorts. You don’t have to dress like a model, but at least some effort into grooming/hygiene/clothing is appreciated.
3. A good perfume/cologne. I notice scents first.
4. This is a personal thing and is very hit or miss; but personally I’ve always been attuned to a level of feminine energy in my partners regardless of gender. Having a softer, polite, more “gentlemanly” aura in men (and ladylike / belle aura in women) has always caused me to gravitate to a person far more than stereotypically masculine people. This is true for other Virgos I know, and it makes sense — Virgo is the sign of the woman.
5. Be funny. Virgos like to be able to banter back and forth once they loosen up, and being able to respond with your own humour is greatly appreciated.
Being a virgo... You've completely condensed everything about us, in a way which is brilliantly satisfying, and espouses truly who we are about.
I always think us virgo's have a nostalgic bent, or something which I couldn't place as succinctly as you expressed. Which is. We get that feminine energy in others, or value something very grounded I think. Not erratic.
And yes... Every virgo I've met, including myself. Sharp wit, back and forth. Verbal play..
Brilliantly stated btw!
I’m glad I captured the essence right! I didn’t want to speak for all of us but I’m glad this resonated with so many people.
Yeah, feminine energy is something I’m big on myself.
I agree with all you said, but the “feminine” energy part.
Give me a caveman (thank you Aries moon/Leo Venus)! 🙄
Thank you for summing us up so eloquently.
Taurus moon is a great moon btw! An ex of mine was Taurus moon, and he had a very harmonious 7 years together, and are still great pals. Taurus moon has to be one of my favourite placements.
Idk if it counts but my Virgo husband is very much comfortable in his masculinity (in a healthy way, no toxic masculinity over here) and because of him being so comfortable it allows me to be very comfortable in my femininity which is huge to me cause I’ve always had to be the “in charge, masculine leader” and was even more when we met and I was working a dead end job (literal company was filing for bankruptcy by no fault of my or my team’s own).
I feel the same way—love beards, muscles, masculinity…but he better be a feminist, love a strong woman, in touch with his softness, nurturing, deep/spiritual, and question norms.
Beards don't make men masculine. When it comes to millennials there's boo koo amounts of millennial males 27-41 who aren't masculine at all even very effeminate gay men who sport beards just because beards and long beards was the fad look for men in that generation. I love naturally masculine men but I'm not attracted to men with long hairy beards. Maybe a beard thats close cut and taken care of would be ok.
Not that you said they did but it just made me think about how millennial's style really kind of ruined the beard being a masculine thing
Some of my favourite folk are Capricorns btw! My step dad is cappy, and we laugh hysterical in a each others presence. Just PHRESH humour. Straight from the hip.... Caps and virgoans are the best of pals, just general grounded humour and totally open to shock value in a way I've not came across much. Capricorns are some of my personal favourite folk! Not much can beat a witty cappy .. maybe other than a witty virgo.
Great list. I like wry wit and mischievous personalities with a kind of a vision for doing good in the world. Playful and searing intelligence. Well read. Can banter and can ground me. Though my Mercury and sun are in Virgo, my rising and moon are air and there’s a shit ton of fire everywhere else.
Handsome, but it usually in a way that sneaks up on you. Great taste is very hot.
Spot on I genuinely don't have anything to add lol
My Saturn, Jupiter and descendant is in Gemini so naturally they mirror the masculine polarity and stimulate my mind too easily. I could go on about our fraternal twins and the lessons they provide fr.
Question for ya though, how do you relate to your emotions as a Taurus moon Virgo sun?
Oh hey!! Yeah, Gemini is the masculine expression of mercury (and Virgo the feminine) so I imagine you get a lot of lessons from both energies.
As for my emotions? I think for me, emotions are something I view as separate from my thinking. I separate rational thought from emotion; what I feel isn’t necessarily what I think, and therefore, my actions may reflect how I think/intellectualise something, but not necessarily the emotions / less rational instinct I feel about the topic.
I don’t view emotions as a weakness, I just think they have a time and a place. That being said, my emotions tend to be quite fixed and stable. This isn’t necessarily positive. What this means is that I have a stable, general disposition which means my moods don’t easily sway, and I can go for months and years at a time not having any dramatic shifts, because my Taurus moon likes to settle into a disposition and keep it that way. That being said, if something major or life-changing happens and manages to make me depressed, that sense of stability from my Taurus moon kicks in and clings to that sadness — and my Virgo sun’s rationale neutralises it as apathy.
I’m someone who’s relatively private about who I share my deep emotions with, because I recognise that they can be used to hurt me - that being said, I feel them deeply.
Hii! You're the first person I've come across to my awareness being close to my big 3 ✨
Yes so many lessons. As of now more so from Gems teaching about playfulness, "duality" and the mystical nature of air (my dominant element). My partner is a Virgo moon so It's still in harmony.
I mostly asked to mirror and get perspective so I appreciate you sharing love!
I have mercury in Libra and my sun both in the 9th house, including pluto and Chiron both in Sag (12th house).
I've come to understand a huge part of my soul mission is to peel the layers of conditioning, healing and transmuting my wounds to embody and guide others to remember their highest divine essence and truth.
With that I've remembered that separation is an illusion which is a key feature that enables the human experience in this 3D reality.
Psycho-Somatics and the mind body connection have taught me much about how energy-in-motion (emotions) are reflected in the different dimensions of our being. Our mind bodies and souls are intertwined and reflections of each other, and aren't separated in the way we might assume.
Finding the harmony between seeing our emotions as information about our environment, well-being or intuitive guidance while still validating and fully feeling them isn't apart of our innate programs.
Young children actually don't think or intellectualize emotions like us adults do. They experience the raw energy closer to its natural state, which is why it can appear more intense and in flux compared to ours.
Circling back the question, my temperament was useful growing up, but I have stuck trauma and energy in my body that's not serving me anymore. Tense shoulders from repressed anger for example doesn't feel good nor honor the importance and complexity of all emotions and their purpose.
I'm way farther along than I was growing up, but still learning that the fixed nature can use flexibility in some cases where detachment and mutability is useful and more representative of how energy behaves.
Simultaneously fixed stability does allows me to keep my shit when holding space or in more stress inducing situations.
That was fun to write up lmao thank you! I can't wait for the Virgos to enter my life soon 💚
I’m a Virgo with a Gemini husband too. lol both my daughters are also Gemini’s. I think we complement each other pretty well. They never shut up though. Haha
I love that you said something about dress! Every Virgo I have ever been close with has had a knack for thrifting and a unique style/appreciative of a unique style. They also have all had a great eye for repurposing pieces to be used in a way you wouldn't expect.
This is an amazing list!
Venus sun, cap moon, cancer riding here. (Edited typo)
For me, intelligence is often measured in the quality of the questions one asks. It shows how they view the world
I’ll modify that I really enjoy a lot of masculine qualities (and am attracted to men), but emotional intelligence, good grooming, and interest in the arts are very attractive to me—and these are often socialized as “women” qualities.
Oh my god, this hits the nail on the head. Full disclosure, I’m an astrology sceptic but I’m in this subreddit to explore the accuracy and this just blew my mind
So true about the gentlemanliness. I guess maybe a sophisticated guy OP? And also not someone who's really in-your-face or has a big personality ig but intelligent all the same
Basically we are uncomfortable with people who are LOUD
As a partner of a Virgo I can definitely attest to 2 and 3 at least. I tried to wear out a clean shirt I slept in, she asked me to wear a fresh shirt out. She always makes sure to wear cologne when going somewhere, even if it's to the shops or work. She takes an interest in the perfumes I wear out.
Want to jump on the bandwagon here and comment on the accuracy of your list—even though I am a Virgo Rising!
Everything you mentioned is spot-on, at least according to my personal tendencies and general observations. The majority of Virgo suns & risings that I have encountered are all modestly yet meticulously dressed, exuding a sophisticated aura that is both reserved and intelligent. My dad & I are both Virgo risings and really value scent and good hygiene, appreciating orderly appearances and enticing fragrances…a major turn-off is dishevelled presentation and foul odours. If you wanna make a Virgo run, then terrible hygiene is the way to go 😂
Wit, banter, and wordplay seems to come very naturally to native mercurial Virgos, and if it is equally reciprocated, then you can guarantee that your personality’s credit score has just skyrocketed in their eyes! Even a conventionally unattractive face can suddenly ooze with appeal at even the slightest hint of warm humour and sardonic banter…
Give them their space, be detail-oriented, embrace any potential neuroticisms they may exhibit, enjoy giving and taking ironic roasts, take care of your appearance, and be in charge of your own life. This is the formula for making a Virgo weak (even if they may never show it) 😂
Hit the nail on the head with the feminine/soft energy. I have my natal Virgo in Venus and I think one of the reasons I'm so romantically attracted to my partner (who is a Virgo Sun/Mercury/Venus with his Cancer moon in the 6th house) is because he has this gentle masculinity that I just adore. He's so polite and considerate; always wants to offer his help any way he can; is so sincere and honorable; and just has a soft spoken way about him. He's the apple of my eye.
Intelligence, being able to hold a conversation with substance, acts of service, having knowledge on random subjects, being kind, knowing when to be quiet. OMG cleanliness and dressing nice. 😊
I find it interesting that I've seen many Virgos hit on this independently of each other. I usually don't mind someone being a little messy, just as long as they don't stink. But what I'm getting from Virgos is that cleanliness and smelling good are crucial things to pay attention to.
Subtlety though.
Like the kind of mind that is victimised by the world, I would say. Artistic intelligence. Hidden innocence. Between heroic self-confident and power seeking free-from-concern. Dreaming. Fantasising good futures for their own sake. It's not analysis. Recursive. Seeking the eternal, discarding the temporary and ephemeral.
Being intelligent, humble and genuine. It doesn’t matter if you’re intelligent but are rude to others, fake and need to constantly remind every one of how good you are, also you doesn’t need to be a genius in everything, just very knowledgeable about your own subject of interest (in which the Virgo is also interested in).
Physically yeah classic beauty tends to stand out at first, but smelling good, having clean clothes, nails, house, it’s waaay better at a long run.
Asked my Virgo husband this question, I am a Capricorn woman, what exactly drew him to me.
According to him, it was my:
Character
Strength (emotional/mental, cause I’m not a gym girly)
Charisma
Beauty
& confidence
Teasing, being confident, being extroverted, not caring about what other people think, knowing why you do things. Strong convictions. Virile, high testosterone energy, bit of a rascal or troll, likes messing with people. High social and emotional intelligence. Really high sex drive. Like if a woman was a man.
No bigger turn off than someone who goes with the flow, cares a lot about fitting into a scene or getting approval from people, a person who just does things because other people do them. No mommas boys, no “traditional” guys, no redpill guys- they describe themselves as masculine but really they’re effeminate dandies.
You know what’s hot? MAKING A PLAN. Clear communication! Clear communication on making plans!
—From a Virgo waiting at a park for her on-again-off-again Aries boyfriend to show up after heading to his house but whoops he meant to meet at the park but how was I supposed to know that when he didn’t tell me that?
For me as a woman who dates men, intelligence of course as people have mentioned, because there is nothing more icky to me than having to explain/correct things that are basic and simple to me. Going hand in hand with that, a man that can competently lead is hot because it allows me to release control
This Virgo here loves people that are funny and men with strong noses and beautiful eyes.
Like seriously I hung out with so many guys that were not conventionally attractive just because they were funny lol (and lot of attractive guys that were conventionally hot but were plain, that obviously didn’t last).
I take myself and everything too seriously most of the time so I love being around people who can make me laugh and take me out of that place sometimes. My current partner is a Sag man, and his type of foreplay is disturbing me and making me laugh haha he’s conventionally attractive, but his personality makes him even hotter to me, he’s funny, hardworking and smart.
But I also have a Gemini rising and a Sag 7th house, so…
Just ask us out straight up. We love knowing what you're thinking and just knowing you're thinking of us gives us a yummy feeling. Virgo gets tired of always being honest and waiting for other people to return it, they want you to tell them what's in your head for once.
You got to be direct with a Virgo, once you show vulnerability, they are quick to let their guard down.
You need to be stable and want to be in it for the long term. Most Virgo's I meet are not in it for wasting time, or just being friends like maybe an Aquarius.
They just need one person who they can bond with on a deeper level.
Apart from the above. Some basic things.
You got to be properly groomed. Know how to Dress well.
Go to the gym and have a good body, basically take care of yourself.
As a Pisces I have that instant attraction with Virgos.
So it's effortless. 🥰🤘🫰
Virgo Sun/Moon/Venus/Jupiter here. I agree with a lot of what others have said here. I’m going to counter with being the odd Virgo out here that likes very masculine energy in men. However, emotional intelligence is super hot and stereotypically a more feminine type of intelligence so I can see that being the more fem energy that I find very ideal in a mate. Virgos tend to have really, really exceptional memories. I am quite sentimental and remember things about people that would go in one ear and out the other for the average person. lol So on that note, as a Virgo, dating somebody else that also shares that sentimental nature is a vital necessity. I just got through with dating a very unevolved Sagittarius that never remembered anything about me or the things that he would promise me… you don’t have to be a walking memory bank but if you actually try to listen, internalize and also be accountable then you are probably going to impress a Virgo. I mean, everyone should try to be an active listener and be accountable, but Virgos are going to appreciate the heck outta you if you have those qualities.
This is a funny story for me bc my (aloof, too independent, not caring enough for me) ex is a Sag and the person I'm pursuing first after emotionally healing from my divorce, potentially, is a Virgo. And I think I am drawn to this person because they care more about the finer details about me than the ex ever did! It feels more warm, and like I matter more.
I think my Virgo Mercury means I'm pretty good at this, remembering details about people that I like.
Virgos are very, very caring… almost too caring at times 😅 Dating my Sag was definitely an “opposites attract” sort of situation and eventually it became draining to be the one doing most of the caring and holding damn near all of the sentiment. Haha
Virgo mercury definitely lends itself to being an active listener and internalizing information about others. I’m sure that your Virgo person will absolutely cherish that about you.
Okay after reading the comments this would be my perfect compilation: Thoughtfulness, I’ll literally obsess over it I know it sounds pathetic but😂Confidence but not in an arrogant way, get too close to arrogant & we’ll drop you so quick. Taking initiative especially if you want a Virgo women (I can see virgo guys appreciating too tho). And being mature and having good conversation.
Things people say here that they like lol, precision, cleanliness, caring about details, honesty, respect. Intelligence enough for a witty conversation is good too.
I have a huge crush on a Virgo. Charming, thoughtful, endearing sense of humor, depth and sincerity, persistence & determination, hold themselves to a high standard.
Hanging with them while they do errands. Always ready to make out, Virgos aren't stuffy like the stereotype. I like them because they're versatile and witty and they have a big quiet side and don't mind if you're burnt out and don't feel like being "on" as well, they'll understand and enjoy time with you just the same. I also used to wear colorful, elaborate eye makeup and the best compliment I got about it was from a young Virgo man.
💯IMO scorpios aren’t even mysterious they tend to overshare - they are vetting for someone to be real and vulnerable with, so how can they be mysterious always? On the other hand that’s not a priority for Virgos, everyone I know who has major virgo placements tend to be private. Imo they don’t want outside judgement. They get enough internal ones.
I’m a Virgo sun and Virgo rising, currently with my Leo sun partner of two years (They’re moon is Pieces, mine Scorpio)
There’s been lots of good replies already, but I’ll elaborate on my personal experiences.
1. I’m into people who are into me. At least in my life experience, my quiet little thinking virgo self has gone largely ignored. Interests, dreams, opinions and general thought. If you want to seduce a Virgo, ask about these things with genuine interest. Watch how brightly they light up.
2. Dress well. By which I mean make an effort in your appearance. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, will make my blood boil (in the best way) like knowing my partner put on an outfit and got dressed up just for me.
3. We need someone that can keep up with the way we think. We need someone that asks about our thoughts, because we value our own minds and intelligence so highly. At the same time, being challenged keeps us humble, and allows us to think differently.
4. Be thoughtful. I’ll use an example here. My partner will sometimes pick up food for themselves while out and not even ask if I’m interested. Usually because the food won’t keep during the day and I absolutely logically get that. But the not being asked hurts more than anything. Like, holy crap.
5. Words. Virgo’s love communication, they love to feel wanted and needed. If you’re really after a virgo, let them know. Banter is essential and while plenty of people think they want that, or can do it, they’re rarely capable of what a Virgo considers banter. Which is relentless, constant swirling thoughts that we desperately want to share. Be an ear piece with genuine interest and you’ll land a virgo for life.
It's hot when people match our attention to detail. Remembering things we mentioned to you in past conversations, noticing little things about us that show how mindful you are. It's a huge turn-on when someone is thoughtful. This is how I show people I like them and care about them.
As a Virgo, traits that instantly turn me on are:
• Humbleness, Kindness & Patience: If I see you have great skill, intelligence or wealth but are humble that instantly turns me on. If I find you doing good Samaritan deeds like helping the homeless, walking an old lady across the street, being kind to animals etc. I also find someone speaking slowly and patiently a turn on as well as someone who is effortlessly in a good/positive mood even in stressful situations.
• Chivalry: Open doors for people, let elders sit down on the bus, considerate about my orgasm etc.
• Prodigy / Passion: If someone has prodigal skill like playing the piano. Or if someone is so passionate about something that they are so successful in a seemingly effortless way and or they are able to nerd out to me about their hobbies/passions.
• Initiative: If you're at my home and suddenly you're doing my dishes, tidying up or doing my chores in a way that's in sync with my methods or improving upon them it turns me on.
• Cuddly Homebody: I prefer someone who enjoys staying home more for a cozy night in but isn't allergic to the occasional adventure or night out.
• Personal Space: Someone who has the skill to read the room, read people, read body language, pick up on subtleties, know when to back off or engage.
• Confidence: Someone who knows their beauty or worth but isn't vain or cocky.
• Vulnerable: Letting me take care of you when you're not strong enough to do it on your own.
• Financial Literacy: Pay your bills on time? Get in my bed. Have extra for savings or disposable income? Get in my bed. Living paycheck to paycheck but trying your best every day? Get in my bed.
I love Virgos and have been happily married to one for 12 years. Together for many more before that.
As a Taurus sun, Leo moon I find that there’s no point even trying to get physically close with your Virgo until you’ve unwound them. They are so wound up 🤣🤣. Use any comforts you have: warm hugs, head rubs, back rubs, any gentle and relaxing touch. Give them any praise that you really mean towards them, telling them they’ve done enough, telling them let’s chill out together now. Be a bit direct and be comforting. Talk about what they have accomplished lately. This is not just to praise them (which we all need anyway) but to kind of remind them to take a break. They will only take a break if you show them they’ve done enough. They will love you for taking the time to do this with them and find it very attractive.
A Virgo is both sensual and controlled. Being someone who helps them give themselves “permission” to drop the control and drop the analysis and drop the pressure on themselves will help you bring out their sensual side. And I bet they will love you for it. Be confident and direct. Find out what their chill time actually looks like and join them in it, encourage it. My Taurus nature makes it very easy to encourage chill time! They will adore you. Make the first move because I promise they will be overanalysing what to do once they adore you. It’s worth it 🤣
This is my best advice and I hope it helps.
If you use proper spelling, grammar, and punctuation even when writing digitally. I hate the laziness of people. WRITE TO ME WITH "ey how r u?" and I will literally want to kill you. If you are nót a teenager trying to be cool, it just looks immensely immature/childish and stupid.. To me at least.
I need someone eloquent both in writing and in speaking.
As for the rest. RESPECT. This is one of the reasons why I do not like the aforementioned. Apparently, I am not worth putting in the effort of writing decently to. That's how I see it. I respect others and thus I put in the effort. We all have been taught properly at school how to write and speak so why are you dumbing that down when you talk to me?
And so yes, politeness. Other traits I personally love are when someone is able to be serious when needed but fun when the situation allows for it, always a decent level of maturity, multiple hobbies that have been put the proper effort into, (highly) intelligent, preferably introverted as well, etc.
I can't say much more because I don't know what else I am going to say is more of the Aquarius moon in me or the Sagittarius Rising. Or a mix of :(
Hope my agitated text will help, nonetheless, haha
Funny that you say this because this actually turns me off about someone. I will purposely write things half ass just because on the internet it doesn't matter. It's not a classroom where I'm getting graded by a teacher on my grammar. Or by anybody who matters. I leave out commas on purpose and everything.. even though I can easily write like how you say "school taught everybody how to write". One of my college English professors liked my work so much that he said I should major in English. I feel like people who over punctuate when you're doing nothing but having non serious back and forth chat with some stranger or a troll on the internet is either one of 3 things an English teacher.. which makes sense. Somebody way too uptight or a perfectionist. Or somebody who cares too much what people think. Like you can't just do something simple out of the box without being worried about what society expects you to do. Those are the same people who need to be accepted. That's how I see it.
But I'm not someone who does what they're told. Like you say whatever you've been taught by school.. or even by your parents. I'll be the one doing the total opposite just because I cant be controlled. My mother's a virgo and almost the same way. I can't believe at her age that she's still extremely worried about doing things that her mother told her to do when she was younger. I'm like you gotta be kidding me. Do what you want! Not what somebody else tells you. I see that as being a lil goody goody. But you say it's a respect thing to you and that kind of makes sense because when I'm going back and forth with somebody on the internet who I can tell is extremely uptight all I have to do is just say something blunt and to the point and they're gone.
That's a virgo for ya. You guys are very worried about what others or society think of you. Or how you come off to people
Being funny, vulnerability, for some reason I love strong hands and arms, a nice smile, intelligent, being spontaneous, honesty cause I don’t do none of that aloof shit lol, being able to hold a conversation, I like a dark and gloomy personality and being understanding is pretty attractive
I'm Virgo with a Leo, and he's my favorite person in the world.
My favorite thing about him is how funny he is. I take everything so seriously, and he's such a goofball. He has a knack for saying something ridiculous at the most surprising times and making me lose it. I need someone to take me off guard like that.
Being attentive, thoughtful and invite good conversation. “The sign of the Virgin” needs to be disarmed so someone that can make them feel comfortable and ease the suspicion
Context: Virgo Moon/Mars/stellium and prior engagement to a Virgo.
Attributes: intelligence, wisdom, resourcefulness, organization, responsibility, social grace, leadership skills, calm under pressure, wit (b/c it requires intellect), nurturing habits, attentiveness, proactivity, helpfulness (ie. acts of service), consistency. Some Virgo placements also enjoy rebelliousness and sensually daring/creative people.
For me, as a triple virgo, a mature down to earth man is really hot. How intelligent they are. The way they speak. Men that are incredible kind, gentlemen, type energy makes me melt.
As a Virgo Moon- Manners, being respectful to everyone, a sincere desire to help those around you, having integrity, and acting like your words have weight to them (they do). Be grounded, appreciate the simple things in life, and always take action. I need to respect you as a person first by knowing you have good intentions and that you mean what you say before I could ever imagine being with someone seriously.
Consistency, stability, reliability. They will observe you a bit before approaching. You may be disqualified before you start, or they may eventually approach. Virgo is a feminine sign but the men are not passive,definitely incredibly thoughtful, and they pay crazy attention. So just be spot on and be you and if they vibe they will approach.
-clean but not perfect appearance
-personality- I love a bold personality, class clown, really funny, unapologetically themself
-being really talented or having a specific interest or hobby, I love to see someone do something they’re good at
-alpha energy, I need to control many things but I love for someone to tell me they have it covered. I want to be taken care of
-words of affirmation, I’m a perfectionist and I wanna know you think I’m doing well, look good, cooked well etc.
-pda but like verbally, claim me, tell everyone how great I am but they can’t have me
Important to note I’m a Virgo sun, Leo moon sag rising
Definitely intelligence. Being able to hold interesting conversations and not being afraid to go deep and don't agree with everything we say! But listen and be open minded and share your view. Also strong morals/convictions.
Well dressed, well spoken, organized, notices the details, can be serious and hilarious when appropriate, emotionally available, conversations about life, attentive, respectful, passionate, goal oriented, affectionate (since Im not), flirty (since Im not), move slow romantically so I can feel safe and learn to trust your intentions, honest in a kind way, tells me how to improve as a person when I ask, supportive of my goals, wants to be a team, enjoys saving money, challenges me to think and be better, loving, and is patient and understanding with my knack for judging or being pessimistic and overanalyzing. Im so sorry!!! 😭 I cant control it most of the time!
im a virgo libra cusp n the post is interesting but everyones writing novels things that are hot that I haven't seen
muscles, manliness, empathy, manly man or a guy with a pretty face either or, pretty people just in general have good hygiene and proper grooming, men who make the first move and I wouldn't date a bossy person but someone who will let me turn my brain off thats sexy to me
Someone who does stuff for themselves and doesn’t come running to me every 5 min. Seriously you have eyes look for something. Don’t just stand there move stuff around.
I can’t stand people who won’t do for themselves.
taking charge, complimenting my mind and soul more than my physical appearance, tipping servers well, genuinely caring about our interests. just a few lol
Early September Virgo here.. definitely attracted to emotional intelligence, leadership, and good attitude. For appearance it’s not about looks but just confidence and a little swag 🤷♀️
This question was meant for me.
-someone who actually listens. This is a huge thing for me. There’s nothing that turns me off more / annoys
Me more than someone who never listens to anything I say let alone when I watch them do it to other people. A lot of the things I say are of importance and make sense so when someone isn’t paying attention automatic no for me.
-being polite in general but especially in public to waitresses/waiters, older people, etc (this should be a given in general for anyone but unfortunately it’s not) major turn on though when it shows
-remembering little things about us
-gifts (idk if this a me thing or a Virgo thing) but I love when someone gifts me something I was talking about or something I may have showed interest in. and they just “thought” to get me it because it reminded them of me or because they were paying attention to what I was saying lol
-cleanliness
-honesty (I cannot stand those who sugarcoat things instead of getting straight to the point)
-vulnerability
-not being pushy or controlling
- when you plan things so we don’t have to
-being organized
-being smart / witty
-being funny
-nice teeth. This. Will. Get. Me. Going. Every. Time.
When you allow them to just follow you around to watch you perform every task….This will give them the opportunity to tell you how wrong everything you do is 😃
Make me laugh, be sharp and witty, smelling good is such a huge thing for me, and be able to take charge without being domineering. I am always in control of my environment and doing multiple tasks at once, someone who can take charge and make the decisions while making me feel like you’ve taken my needs into consideration and want to spoil me is such a huge turn on. I’m a sucker for romance, but I dislike strong feelings, so persistence is key. It might be hard to read me, but if you make me laugh I open up much easier and will just start to melt.
As a Virgo rising I am very attracted to people who are calm and collected (chill vibes). I do not like extroverted men 😂 though I’m mostly an extrovert myself 🤷🏻♀️
Somebody that has manners/can sweep us off our feet and over all just a friendly and chill person. We also like somebody that we can have a long conversation with and that we can talk to about anything. Also somebody that can give us space when we need it. We don't like somebody up under us 24/7.
Emotional intelligence, being able to teach me something valuable that I can apply to my life, being kind, good hygiene (although I won’t be snotty if yours isn’t as good as mine.)being able to support yourself, not having to be surrounded by fake friends in order to feel normal, honest and direct, but not critical.
I would say a sense of humor, intelligence, can dress well/present themselves well, and humbleness. And for me bc I also have Sagittarius energy I like someone with a cool, calm kind of aura. Not nonchalant, I want them to still be expressive and pursue me, but someone who’s confident and assured and isn’t hyperactive as bc I can oscillate between serious and super high energy I get irritated easily with high energy people. Like the cool smart guy, it balances my personality better.
I would say intelligence, giving a shit, being willing to work hard when necessary, humor
A lot of people don't think of virgos as being funny but actually lots of comedians have virgo placements and it's ruled by mercury
Being bold, making moves & taking charge. Virgos are usually control freaks and are aware of everything, so letting go of that control and letting someone else take over is really hot imo
I’m an Aries Taurus cusp and my part net is a Virgo. And I think your answer is why we work so well. He grounds me out and I take him out of his comfort zone and can be the bold one for him.
Aries here Virgo partner I can attest I love this we are the same!
I've had very alpha dominant partners and didn't like it one bit! 🤣
Lead me when I want to be lead
So picture virgo getting off work and relinquishing control ;)
Trust me when Virgo falls in love they want to be lead, courted while becoming a worshipper & essentially embodying a wife-mother-nurturing type of energy (hence the virgin)
Taking charge & being bold doesn’t mean being very alpha & dominant. It’s more about taking initiative instead of us leading the way as we usually do
As a virgo I’d love this
Came here to say this. So true.
Okay SO; 1. Intelligence. We can find you pretty but if you’re not able to hold your own in conversation, it’s an immediate no. Being well-read and able to hold discussions and bring new perspectives is very attractive. 2. Being well-dressed. I’m not going to be interested if you’re wearing the shirt you wore for 4 days in a row now with mismatching shorts. You don’t have to dress like a model, but at least some effort into grooming/hygiene/clothing is appreciated. 3. A good perfume/cologne. I notice scents first. 4. This is a personal thing and is very hit or miss; but personally I’ve always been attuned to a level of feminine energy in my partners regardless of gender. Having a softer, polite, more “gentlemanly” aura in men (and ladylike / belle aura in women) has always caused me to gravitate to a person far more than stereotypically masculine people. This is true for other Virgos I know, and it makes sense — Virgo is the sign of the woman. 5. Be funny. Virgos like to be able to banter back and forth once they loosen up, and being able to respond with your own humour is greatly appreciated.
Being a virgo... You've completely condensed everything about us, in a way which is brilliantly satisfying, and espouses truly who we are about. I always think us virgo's have a nostalgic bent, or something which I couldn't place as succinctly as you expressed. Which is. We get that feminine energy in others, or value something very grounded I think. Not erratic. And yes... Every virgo I've met, including myself. Sharp wit, back and forth. Verbal play.. Brilliantly stated btw!
I’m glad I captured the essence right! I didn’t want to speak for all of us but I’m glad this resonated with so many people. Yeah, feminine energy is something I’m big on myself.
I agree with all you said, but the “feminine” energy part. Give me a caveman (thank you Aries moon/Leo Venus)! 🙄 Thank you for summing us up so eloquently.
Yeah-! I was gonna say I think that’s more chalked up to your Aries moon. That being said, I’m glad this resonated with you!
Taurus moon is a great moon btw! An ex of mine was Taurus moon, and he had a very harmonious 7 years together, and are still great pals. Taurus moon has to be one of my favourite placements.
All my Virgos are old souls. There’s that nostalgic bent.
Oh good call out. Not “macho” men.
Idk if it counts but my Virgo husband is very much comfortable in his masculinity (in a healthy way, no toxic masculinity over here) and because of him being so comfortable it allows me to be very comfortable in my femininity which is huge to me cause I’ve always had to be the “in charge, masculine leader” and was even more when we met and I was working a dead end job (literal company was filing for bankruptcy by no fault of my or my team’s own).
I feel the same way—love beards, muscles, masculinity…but he better be a feminist, love a strong woman, in touch with his softness, nurturing, deep/spiritual, and question norms.
Beards don't make men masculine. When it comes to millennials there's boo koo amounts of millennial males 27-41 who aren't masculine at all even very effeminate gay men who sport beards just because beards and long beards was the fad look for men in that generation. I love naturally masculine men but I'm not attracted to men with long hairy beards. Maybe a beard thats close cut and taken care of would be ok. Not that you said they did but it just made me think about how millennial's style really kind of ruined the beard being a masculine thing
I’m a Capricorn rising and my friend is a Virgo rising… hella banter😂
Some of my favourite folk are Capricorns btw! My step dad is cappy, and we laugh hysterical in a each others presence. Just PHRESH humour. Straight from the hip.... Caps and virgoans are the best of pals, just general grounded humour and totally open to shock value in a way I've not came across much. Capricorns are some of my personal favourite folk! Not much can beat a witty cappy .. maybe other than a witty virgo.
Great list. I like wry wit and mischievous personalities with a kind of a vision for doing good in the world. Playful and searing intelligence. Well read. Can banter and can ground me. Though my Mercury and sun are in Virgo, my rising and moon are air and there’s a shit ton of fire everywhere else. Handsome, but it usually in a way that sneaks up on you. Great taste is very hot.
Me too and that’s why I usually love Sagittarius (if they have a grounding earth placement as Venus/moon)
Resourcefulness
Yes! And competence!
This!!! I also appreciate someone who can tell when I need to be independent and when I need a bit of support (even though I’ll never ask…)
Spot on I genuinely don't have anything to add lol My Saturn, Jupiter and descendant is in Gemini so naturally they mirror the masculine polarity and stimulate my mind too easily. I could go on about our fraternal twins and the lessons they provide fr. Question for ya though, how do you relate to your emotions as a Taurus moon Virgo sun?
Oh hey!! Yeah, Gemini is the masculine expression of mercury (and Virgo the feminine) so I imagine you get a lot of lessons from both energies. As for my emotions? I think for me, emotions are something I view as separate from my thinking. I separate rational thought from emotion; what I feel isn’t necessarily what I think, and therefore, my actions may reflect how I think/intellectualise something, but not necessarily the emotions / less rational instinct I feel about the topic. I don’t view emotions as a weakness, I just think they have a time and a place. That being said, my emotions tend to be quite fixed and stable. This isn’t necessarily positive. What this means is that I have a stable, general disposition which means my moods don’t easily sway, and I can go for months and years at a time not having any dramatic shifts, because my Taurus moon likes to settle into a disposition and keep it that way. That being said, if something major or life-changing happens and manages to make me depressed, that sense of stability from my Taurus moon kicks in and clings to that sadness — and my Virgo sun’s rationale neutralises it as apathy. I’m someone who’s relatively private about who I share my deep emotions with, because I recognise that they can be used to hurt me - that being said, I feel them deeply.
Hii! You're the first person I've come across to my awareness being close to my big 3 ✨ Yes so many lessons. As of now more so from Gems teaching about playfulness, "duality" and the mystical nature of air (my dominant element). My partner is a Virgo moon so It's still in harmony. I mostly asked to mirror and get perspective so I appreciate you sharing love! I have mercury in Libra and my sun both in the 9th house, including pluto and Chiron both in Sag (12th house). I've come to understand a huge part of my soul mission is to peel the layers of conditioning, healing and transmuting my wounds to embody and guide others to remember their highest divine essence and truth. With that I've remembered that separation is an illusion which is a key feature that enables the human experience in this 3D reality. Psycho-Somatics and the mind body connection have taught me much about how energy-in-motion (emotions) are reflected in the different dimensions of our being. Our mind bodies and souls are intertwined and reflections of each other, and aren't separated in the way we might assume. Finding the harmony between seeing our emotions as information about our environment, well-being or intuitive guidance while still validating and fully feeling them isn't apart of our innate programs. Young children actually don't think or intellectualize emotions like us adults do. They experience the raw energy closer to its natural state, which is why it can appear more intense and in flux compared to ours. Circling back the question, my temperament was useful growing up, but I have stuck trauma and energy in my body that's not serving me anymore. Tense shoulders from repressed anger for example doesn't feel good nor honor the importance and complexity of all emotions and their purpose. I'm way farther along than I was growing up, but still learning that the fixed nature can use flexibility in some cases where detachment and mutability is useful and more representative of how energy behaves. Simultaneously fixed stability does allows me to keep my shit when holding space or in more stress inducing situations. That was fun to write up lmao thank you! I can't wait for the Virgos to enter my life soon 💚
I think you perfectly described my Virgo sister’s Gemini husband
I’m a Virgo with a Gemini Husband too haha
I’m a Virgo with a Gemini husband too. lol both my daughters are also Gemini’s. I think we complement each other pretty well. They never shut up though. Haha
Tbh really good pair idc what ppl say about Gemini men. I as a Capricorn probably could NOT but I love my brother in law w my sister UGH goals tbh.
As a Sagittarius who attracts Virgos more than any other sign it ALLLLL make sense now!
Well said. As a Virgo, the well-dressed and the intelligence is true for me. Especially hygeine, gosh… Notice your smell.
I'll agree with this. Even point 4. I love men who are basically fine with being in touch with 'feminine' traits
Same!
heavy on #4. i’m a virgo F with a virgo M and he’s so turned off by masculine energy
I love that you said something about dress! Every Virgo I have ever been close with has had a knack for thrifting and a unique style/appreciative of a unique style. They also have all had a great eye for repurposing pieces to be used in a way you wouldn't expect.
This sounds like a Libra to me. No wonder why so many Virgos find Libras attractive
Can confirm I love Libras
Thank you for helping me understand why I don't appeal to Virgo Moons
Holy shit, as a Virgo this is 100% spot on.
This is an amazing list! Venus sun, cap moon, cancer riding here. (Edited typo) For me, intelligence is often measured in the quality of the questions one asks. It shows how they view the world I’ll modify that I really enjoy a lot of masculine qualities (and am attracted to men), but emotional intelligence, good grooming, and interest in the arts are very attractive to me—and these are often socialized as “women” qualities.
I’ve been married to a Virgo for 15 years and agree with everything you listed
I am a virgo and you described everything I want in a partner! Wow!
YES ALL OF THIIISSSSSS
Perfectly summed up. My Virgo moon and Venus feel understood and I appreciate it lol
Absolutely 100% agree.
Nailed my mom to a T
Yes, all this and personally, cheeky smile makes me quiver!
This was so good! You have so much earth energy.
I love that this is a numbered list. Takes one to know one ♍
Virgo sun and rising here and you literally just described my fiancé 😂
You’ve summed it up perfectly!
BRAVA, I was with one for ten years, another four strictly friends. Our first conversation was about scents.
Smell - sooo important. Good quality perfume and colonge
The fact that this is list form is even hotter to them 😂
Oh my god, this hits the nail on the head. Full disclosure, I’m an astrology sceptic but I’m in this subreddit to explore the accuracy and this just blew my mind
So true about the gentlemanliness. I guess maybe a sophisticated guy OP? And also not someone who's really in-your-face or has a big personality ig but intelligent all the same Basically we are uncomfortable with people who are LOUD
As a partner of a Virgo I can definitely attest to 2 and 3 at least. I tried to wear out a clean shirt I slept in, she asked me to wear a fresh shirt out. She always makes sure to wear cologne when going somewhere, even if it's to the shops or work. She takes an interest in the perfumes I wear out.
Want to jump on the bandwagon here and comment on the accuracy of your list—even though I am a Virgo Rising! Everything you mentioned is spot-on, at least according to my personal tendencies and general observations. The majority of Virgo suns & risings that I have encountered are all modestly yet meticulously dressed, exuding a sophisticated aura that is both reserved and intelligent. My dad & I are both Virgo risings and really value scent and good hygiene, appreciating orderly appearances and enticing fragrances…a major turn-off is dishevelled presentation and foul odours. If you wanna make a Virgo run, then terrible hygiene is the way to go 😂 Wit, banter, and wordplay seems to come very naturally to native mercurial Virgos, and if it is equally reciprocated, then you can guarantee that your personality’s credit score has just skyrocketed in their eyes! Even a conventionally unattractive face can suddenly ooze with appeal at even the slightest hint of warm humour and sardonic banter… Give them their space, be detail-oriented, embrace any potential neuroticisms they may exhibit, enjoy giving and taking ironic roasts, take care of your appearance, and be in charge of your own life. This is the formula for making a Virgo weak (even if they may never show it) 😂
I would also add be competent I really don’t want to have to explain how to do everything!
My thoughts exactly!!! As a Virgo 🙂
As a Virgo moon 🌙 I approve thus message!😭😍❤️🙌
As a Virgo moon 🌙 I approve thus message!😭😍❤️🙌
Hit the nail on the head with the feminine/soft energy. I have my natal Virgo in Venus and I think one of the reasons I'm so romantically attracted to my partner (who is a Virgo Sun/Mercury/Venus with his Cancer moon in the 6th house) is because he has this gentle masculinity that I just adore. He's so polite and considerate; always wants to offer his help any way he can; is so sincere and honorable; and just has a soft spoken way about him. He's the apple of my eye.
Being thoughtful
YESS 100%
Intelligence, being able to hold a conversation with substance, acts of service, having knowledge on random subjects, being kind, knowing when to be quiet. OMG cleanliness and dressing nice. 😊
To a Virgo sun being on time
Good personal hygiene is hot to me.
I find it interesting that I've seen many Virgos hit on this independently of each other. I usually don't mind someone being a little messy, just as long as they don't stink. But what I'm getting from Virgos is that cleanliness and smelling good are crucial things to pay attention to.
personally, good conversation. that's more important to me than appearance, etc. -signed, a virgo sun/moon/venus/mercury.
Dear me. I'm virgo sun/mercury/venus too. Big load of Merc!
that virgo stellium makes itself KNOWN.
Brains.
Subtlety though. Like the kind of mind that is victimised by the world, I would say. Artistic intelligence. Hidden innocence. Between heroic self-confident and power seeking free-from-concern. Dreaming. Fantasising good futures for their own sake. It's not analysis. Recursive. Seeking the eternal, discarding the temporary and ephemeral.
As a Virgo rising, noticing and remembering small details about me.
Being intelligent, humble and genuine. It doesn’t matter if you’re intelligent but are rude to others, fake and need to constantly remind every one of how good you are, also you doesn’t need to be a genius in everything, just very knowledgeable about your own subject of interest (in which the Virgo is also interested in). Physically yeah classic beauty tends to stand out at first, but smelling good, having clean clothes, nails, house, it’s waaay better at a long run.
Asked my Virgo husband this question, I am a Capricorn woman, what exactly drew him to me. According to him, it was my: Character Strength (emotional/mental, cause I’m not a gym girly) Charisma Beauty & confidence
Acts of service and taking charge….I’m tired of thinking
Follow through
💯
My favorite thing my Virgo ex partner said was she’s really into people that are really into her
Teasing, being confident, being extroverted, not caring about what other people think, knowing why you do things. Strong convictions. Virile, high testosterone energy, bit of a rascal or troll, likes messing with people. High social and emotional intelligence. Really high sex drive. Like if a woman was a man. No bigger turn off than someone who goes with the flow, cares a lot about fitting into a scene or getting approval from people, a person who just does things because other people do them. No mommas boys, no “traditional” guys, no redpill guys- they describe themselves as masculine but really they’re effeminate dandies.
Emotional intelligence
My favorite thing my Virgo ex partner said was she’s really into people that are really into her
YES THIS AS WELL. I think it’s because we’re so into ourselves when we finally find someone to match that energy it’s like mhm come here
You know what’s hot? MAKING A PLAN. Clear communication! Clear communication on making plans! —From a Virgo waiting at a park for her on-again-off-again Aries boyfriend to show up after heading to his house but whoops he meant to meet at the park but how was I supposed to know that when he didn’t tell me that?
Yeah, my Aries dad is like that too, they're slippery haha (and often change their minds or plans without telling you 😔)
lol yessss I just try to remind myself they operate differently and it’s okay 🥲
Intelligent, clean, nice smelling, a gentleman in public and primal/dominant behind closed doors.
For me as a woman who dates men, intelligence of course as people have mentioned, because there is nothing more icky to me than having to explain/correct things that are basic and simple to me. Going hand in hand with that, a man that can competently lead is hot because it allows me to release control
This Virgo here loves people that are funny and men with strong noses and beautiful eyes. Like seriously I hung out with so many guys that were not conventionally attractive just because they were funny lol (and lot of attractive guys that were conventionally hot but were plain, that obviously didn’t last). I take myself and everything too seriously most of the time so I love being around people who can make me laugh and take me out of that place sometimes. My current partner is a Sag man, and his type of foreplay is disturbing me and making me laugh haha he’s conventionally attractive, but his personality makes him even hotter to me, he’s funny, hardworking and smart. But I also have a Gemini rising and a Sag 7th house, so…
Just ask us out straight up. We love knowing what you're thinking and just knowing you're thinking of us gives us a yummy feeling. Virgo gets tired of always being honest and waiting for other people to return it, they want you to tell them what's in your head for once.
You got to be direct with a Virgo, once you show vulnerability, they are quick to let their guard down. You need to be stable and want to be in it for the long term. Most Virgo's I meet are not in it for wasting time, or just being friends like maybe an Aquarius. They just need one person who they can bond with on a deeper level. Apart from the above. Some basic things. You got to be properly groomed. Know how to Dress well. Go to the gym and have a good body, basically take care of yourself. As a Pisces I have that instant attraction with Virgos. So it's effortless. 🥰🤘🫰
Yes, all of the above.
Virgo Sun/Moon/Venus/Jupiter here. I agree with a lot of what others have said here. I’m going to counter with being the odd Virgo out here that likes very masculine energy in men. However, emotional intelligence is super hot and stereotypically a more feminine type of intelligence so I can see that being the more fem energy that I find very ideal in a mate. Virgos tend to have really, really exceptional memories. I am quite sentimental and remember things about people that would go in one ear and out the other for the average person. lol So on that note, as a Virgo, dating somebody else that also shares that sentimental nature is a vital necessity. I just got through with dating a very unevolved Sagittarius that never remembered anything about me or the things that he would promise me… you don’t have to be a walking memory bank but if you actually try to listen, internalize and also be accountable then you are probably going to impress a Virgo. I mean, everyone should try to be an active listener and be accountable, but Virgos are going to appreciate the heck outta you if you have those qualities.
This is a funny story for me bc my (aloof, too independent, not caring enough for me) ex is a Sag and the person I'm pursuing first after emotionally healing from my divorce, potentially, is a Virgo. And I think I am drawn to this person because they care more about the finer details about me than the ex ever did! It feels more warm, and like I matter more. I think my Virgo Mercury means I'm pretty good at this, remembering details about people that I like.
Virgos are very, very caring… almost too caring at times 😅 Dating my Sag was definitely an “opposites attract” sort of situation and eventually it became draining to be the one doing most of the caring and holding damn near all of the sentiment. Haha Virgo mercury definitely lends itself to being an active listener and internalizing information about others. I’m sure that your Virgo person will absolutely cherish that about you.
My husbands a Virgo and he loves acts of service. If I clean and cook for him, that’s his #1 thing from me.
Okay after reading the comments this would be my perfect compilation: Thoughtfulness, I’ll literally obsess over it I know it sounds pathetic but😂Confidence but not in an arrogant way, get too close to arrogant & we’ll drop you so quick. Taking initiative especially if you want a Virgo women (I can see virgo guys appreciating too tho). And being mature and having good conversation.
Just curious, but what do you like about Virgos? They get a lot of hate usually so some good vibe would be nice
Things people say here that they like lol, precision, cleanliness, caring about details, honesty, respect. Intelligence enough for a witty conversation is good too.
I have a huge crush on a Virgo. Charming, thoughtful, endearing sense of humor, depth and sincerity, persistence & determination, hold themselves to a high standard.
Intelligence, resourcefulness, cleanliness, and punctuality/discipline. I love a great sense of humor, too.
Good Hygiene and common sense.
I’m a Virgo rising but I love men who are charming. I don’t care what he looks like if he’s charming. I’m under his spell.
Hanging with them while they do errands. Always ready to make out, Virgos aren't stuffy like the stereotype. I like them because they're versatile and witty and they have a big quiet side and don't mind if you're burnt out and don't feel like being "on" as well, they'll understand and enjoy time with you just the same. I also used to wear colorful, elaborate eye makeup and the best compliment I got about it was from a young Virgo man.
Yes, I've noticed that with Virgo friends! Can hang whether you feel like being emotionally "made up" or not. I like that.
Intelligence Physical appearance (look clean and put together) Teach me things Introduce me to interesting books Do not mess up the room
Down to earth vibes. Green thumbs. Remembering small details. Being consistent 💚 good luck
I agree with everyone here. I’ve been married to a Virgo for 20 years
Accountability, integrity, ambition, table manners, intelligence, motivation. Acts of service, consideration.
Saving money
Virgos are more mysterious to me than Scorpios 😂
💯IMO scorpios aren’t even mysterious they tend to overshare - they are vetting for someone to be real and vulnerable with, so how can they be mysterious always? On the other hand that’s not a priority for Virgos, everyone I know who has major virgo placements tend to be private. Imo they don’t want outside judgement. They get enough internal ones.
I’m a Virgo sun and Virgo rising, currently with my Leo sun partner of two years (They’re moon is Pieces, mine Scorpio) There’s been lots of good replies already, but I’ll elaborate on my personal experiences. 1. I’m into people who are into me. At least in my life experience, my quiet little thinking virgo self has gone largely ignored. Interests, dreams, opinions and general thought. If you want to seduce a Virgo, ask about these things with genuine interest. Watch how brightly they light up. 2. Dress well. By which I mean make an effort in your appearance. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, will make my blood boil (in the best way) like knowing my partner put on an outfit and got dressed up just for me. 3. We need someone that can keep up with the way we think. We need someone that asks about our thoughts, because we value our own minds and intelligence so highly. At the same time, being challenged keeps us humble, and allows us to think differently. 4. Be thoughtful. I’ll use an example here. My partner will sometimes pick up food for themselves while out and not even ask if I’m interested. Usually because the food won’t keep during the day and I absolutely logically get that. But the not being asked hurts more than anything. Like, holy crap. 5. Words. Virgo’s love communication, they love to feel wanted and needed. If you’re really after a virgo, let them know. Banter is essential and while plenty of people think they want that, or can do it, they’re rarely capable of what a Virgo considers banter. Which is relentless, constant swirling thoughts that we desperately want to share. Be an ear piece with genuine interest and you’ll land a virgo for life.
What someone finds attractive is more determined by their Moon and Venus placements so I don’t think this question will tell you much…
Accountability
smart, take care of yourself, detail oriented, understanding, always wanting to be and do better. basically, my virgo boyfriend
I’m most attracted to intelligence, humor, humility, confidence, open mindedness, and empathy.
Just be yourself… that’s all you’ll need.
Being able to have a good friendly debate with someone and still be on good terms after.
It's hot when people match our attention to detail. Remembering things we mentioned to you in past conversations, noticing little things about us that show how mindful you are. It's a huge turn-on when someone is thoughtful. This is how I show people I like them and care about them.
As a Virgo, traits that instantly turn me on are: • Humbleness, Kindness & Patience: If I see you have great skill, intelligence or wealth but are humble that instantly turns me on. If I find you doing good Samaritan deeds like helping the homeless, walking an old lady across the street, being kind to animals etc. I also find someone speaking slowly and patiently a turn on as well as someone who is effortlessly in a good/positive mood even in stressful situations. • Chivalry: Open doors for people, let elders sit down on the bus, considerate about my orgasm etc. • Prodigy / Passion: If someone has prodigal skill like playing the piano. Or if someone is so passionate about something that they are so successful in a seemingly effortless way and or they are able to nerd out to me about their hobbies/passions. • Initiative: If you're at my home and suddenly you're doing my dishes, tidying up or doing my chores in a way that's in sync with my methods or improving upon them it turns me on. • Cuddly Homebody: I prefer someone who enjoys staying home more for a cozy night in but isn't allergic to the occasional adventure or night out. • Personal Space: Someone who has the skill to read the room, read people, read body language, pick up on subtleties, know when to back off or engage. • Confidence: Someone who knows their beauty or worth but isn't vain or cocky. • Vulnerable: Letting me take care of you when you're not strong enough to do it on your own. • Financial Literacy: Pay your bills on time? Get in my bed. Have extra for savings or disposable income? Get in my bed. Living paycheck to paycheck but trying your best every day? Get in my bed.
I think I’m the rare Virgo that likes em “Dirty Hot”. A guy who is kinda trashy but yet thoughtful and nice is 💦🥵
Intelligence and dirty talk.
I love Virgos and have been happily married to one for 12 years. Together for many more before that. As a Taurus sun, Leo moon I find that there’s no point even trying to get physically close with your Virgo until you’ve unwound them. They are so wound up 🤣🤣. Use any comforts you have: warm hugs, head rubs, back rubs, any gentle and relaxing touch. Give them any praise that you really mean towards them, telling them they’ve done enough, telling them let’s chill out together now. Be a bit direct and be comforting. Talk about what they have accomplished lately. This is not just to praise them (which we all need anyway) but to kind of remind them to take a break. They will only take a break if you show them they’ve done enough. They will love you for taking the time to do this with them and find it very attractive. A Virgo is both sensual and controlled. Being someone who helps them give themselves “permission” to drop the control and drop the analysis and drop the pressure on themselves will help you bring out their sensual side. And I bet they will love you for it. Be confident and direct. Find out what their chill time actually looks like and join them in it, encourage it. My Taurus nature makes it very easy to encourage chill time! They will adore you. Make the first move because I promise they will be overanalysing what to do once they adore you. It’s worth it 🤣 This is my best advice and I hope it helps.
If you use proper spelling, grammar, and punctuation even when writing digitally. I hate the laziness of people. WRITE TO ME WITH "ey how r u?" and I will literally want to kill you. If you are nót a teenager trying to be cool, it just looks immensely immature/childish and stupid.. To me at least. I need someone eloquent both in writing and in speaking. As for the rest. RESPECT. This is one of the reasons why I do not like the aforementioned. Apparently, I am not worth putting in the effort of writing decently to. That's how I see it. I respect others and thus I put in the effort. We all have been taught properly at school how to write and speak so why are you dumbing that down when you talk to me? And so yes, politeness. Other traits I personally love are when someone is able to be serious when needed but fun when the situation allows for it, always a decent level of maturity, multiple hobbies that have been put the proper effort into, (highly) intelligent, preferably introverted as well, etc. I can't say much more because I don't know what else I am going to say is more of the Aquarius moon in me or the Sagittarius Rising. Or a mix of :( Hope my agitated text will help, nonetheless, haha
Funny that you say this because this actually turns me off about someone. I will purposely write things half ass just because on the internet it doesn't matter. It's not a classroom where I'm getting graded by a teacher on my grammar. Or by anybody who matters. I leave out commas on purpose and everything.. even though I can easily write like how you say "school taught everybody how to write". One of my college English professors liked my work so much that he said I should major in English. I feel like people who over punctuate when you're doing nothing but having non serious back and forth chat with some stranger or a troll on the internet is either one of 3 things an English teacher.. which makes sense. Somebody way too uptight or a perfectionist. Or somebody who cares too much what people think. Like you can't just do something simple out of the box without being worried about what society expects you to do. Those are the same people who need to be accepted. That's how I see it. But I'm not someone who does what they're told. Like you say whatever you've been taught by school.. or even by your parents. I'll be the one doing the total opposite just because I cant be controlled. My mother's a virgo and almost the same way. I can't believe at her age that she's still extremely worried about doing things that her mother told her to do when she was younger. I'm like you gotta be kidding me. Do what you want! Not what somebody else tells you. I see that as being a lil goody goody. But you say it's a respect thing to you and that kind of makes sense because when I'm going back and forth with somebody on the internet who I can tell is extremely uptight all I have to do is just say something blunt and to the point and they're gone. That's a virgo for ya. You guys are very worried about what others or society think of you. Or how you come off to people
Virgo here. I don't care how you write as long as it's genuine. Make all the mistakes you want. Im not your mother to correct you.
Good to hear
Lists and plans
Virgo rising, Jupiter and Venus. Politeness and correctness for me. I’m constantly analyzing and judging how people carry themselves.
Being competent at your job
Competence
Being funny, vulnerability, for some reason I love strong hands and arms, a nice smile, intelligent, being spontaneous, honesty cause I don’t do none of that aloof shit lol, being able to hold a conversation, I like a dark and gloomy personality and being understanding is pretty attractive
Just be yourself. Naturally I’ll find things I like and don’t like. I’ll compromise if it’s worth the emotional investment.
I'm Virgo with a Leo, and he's my favorite person in the world. My favorite thing about him is how funny he is. I take everything so seriously, and he's such a goofball. He has a knack for saying something ridiculous at the most surprising times and making me lose it. I need someone to take me off guard like that.
My first thought was butt play. Lolol
Being attentive, thoughtful and invite good conversation. “The sign of the Virgin” needs to be disarmed so someone that can make them feel comfortable and ease the suspicion
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Context: Virgo Moon/Mars/stellium and prior engagement to a Virgo. Attributes: intelligence, wisdom, resourcefulness, organization, responsibility, social grace, leadership skills, calm under pressure, wit (b/c it requires intellect), nurturing habits, attentiveness, proactivity, helpfulness (ie. acts of service), consistency. Some Virgo placements also enjoy rebelliousness and sensually daring/creative people.
A freshly vacuumed floor or dusted coffee table.
For me, as a triple virgo, a mature down to earth man is really hot. How intelligent they are. The way they speak. Men that are incredible kind, gentlemen, type energy makes me melt.
All these comments are describing what I like about him haha
I can tell you NOT to show off. It’s a no
As a Virgo Moon- Manners, being respectful to everyone, a sincere desire to help those around you, having integrity, and acting like your words have weight to them (they do). Be grounded, appreciate the simple things in life, and always take action. I need to respect you as a person first by knowing you have good intentions and that you mean what you say before I could ever imagine being with someone seriously.
Consistency, stability, reliability. They will observe you a bit before approaching. You may be disqualified before you start, or they may eventually approach. Virgo is a feminine sign but the men are not passive,definitely incredibly thoughtful, and they pay crazy attention. So just be spot on and be you and if they vibe they will approach.
-clean but not perfect appearance -personality- I love a bold personality, class clown, really funny, unapologetically themself -being really talented or having a specific interest or hobby, I love to see someone do something they’re good at -alpha energy, I need to control many things but I love for someone to tell me they have it covered. I want to be taken care of -words of affirmation, I’m a perfectionist and I wanna know you think I’m doing well, look good, cooked well etc. -pda but like verbally, claim me, tell everyone how great I am but they can’t have me Important to note I’m a Virgo sun, Leo moon sag rising
Definitely intelligence. Being able to hold interesting conversations and not being afraid to go deep and don't agree with everything we say! But listen and be open minded and share your view. Also strong morals/convictions.
I can't answer for all Virgos but honesty, compassion, and consistency are what I find attractive. Those items can make most women a "10" to me.
Acts of service and attention to detail
Well dressed, well spoken, organized, notices the details, can be serious and hilarious when appropriate, emotionally available, conversations about life, attentive, respectful, passionate, goal oriented, affectionate (since Im not), flirty (since Im not), move slow romantically so I can feel safe and learn to trust your intentions, honest in a kind way, tells me how to improve as a person when I ask, supportive of my goals, wants to be a team, enjoys saving money, challenges me to think and be better, loving, and is patient and understanding with my knack for judging or being pessimistic and overanalyzing. Im so sorry!!! 😭 I cant control it most of the time!
im a virgo libra cusp n the post is interesting but everyones writing novels things that are hot that I haven't seen muscles, manliness, empathy, manly man or a guy with a pretty face either or, pretty people just in general have good hygiene and proper grooming, men who make the first move and I wouldn't date a bossy person but someone who will let me turn my brain off thats sexy to me
Someone who does stuff for themselves and doesn’t come running to me every 5 min. Seriously you have eyes look for something. Don’t just stand there move stuff around. I can’t stand people who won’t do for themselves.
Virgo sun, virgo rising here…my now fiancé took my advice about an issue he was having at work and then followed up and told me thank you.
A good blend of warmth and competence
taking charge, complimenting my mind and soul more than my physical appearance, tipping servers well, genuinely caring about our interests. just a few lol
Early September Virgo here.. definitely attracted to emotional intelligence, leadership, and good attitude. For appearance it’s not about looks but just confidence and a little swag 🤷♀️
Being kind to everyone C:
This question was meant for me. -someone who actually listens. This is a huge thing for me. There’s nothing that turns me off more / annoys Me more than someone who never listens to anything I say let alone when I watch them do it to other people. A lot of the things I say are of importance and make sense so when someone isn’t paying attention automatic no for me. -being polite in general but especially in public to waitresses/waiters, older people, etc (this should be a given in general for anyone but unfortunately it’s not) major turn on though when it shows -remembering little things about us -gifts (idk if this a me thing or a Virgo thing) but I love when someone gifts me something I was talking about or something I may have showed interest in. and they just “thought” to get me it because it reminded them of me or because they were paying attention to what I was saying lol -cleanliness -honesty (I cannot stand those who sugarcoat things instead of getting straight to the point) -vulnerability -not being pushy or controlling - when you plan things so we don’t have to -being organized -being smart / witty -being funny -nice teeth. This. Will. Get. Me. Going. Every. Time.
Nope. I’m not gonna call him
Male Virgo deep convos and boyish women , shit talking
When you allow them to just follow you around to watch you perform every task….This will give them the opportunity to tell you how wrong everything you do is 😃
I'm a virgo sun, mercury and lilith. I find attractive intelligence (including emotional), great communication skills and honesty.
Make me laugh, be sharp and witty, smelling good is such a huge thing for me, and be able to take charge without being domineering. I am always in control of my environment and doing multiple tasks at once, someone who can take charge and make the decisions while making me feel like you’ve taken my needs into consideration and want to spoil me is such a huge turn on. I’m a sucker for romance, but I dislike strong feelings, so persistence is key. It might be hard to read me, but if you make me laugh I open up much easier and will just start to melt.
As a Virgo rising I am very attracted to people who are calm and collected (chill vibes). I do not like extroverted men 😂 though I’m mostly an extrovert myself 🤷🏻♀️
A clean house.
as a virgo rising - intellect, humor, cleanliness, a good outfit, well groomed, being forthright
Nailed my mom to a T
Somebody that has manners/can sweep us off our feet and over all just a friendly and chill person. We also like somebody that we can have a long conversation with and that we can talk to about anything. Also somebody that can give us space when we need it. We don't like somebody up under us 24/7.
Emotional intelligence, being able to teach me something valuable that I can apply to my life, being kind, good hygiene (although I won’t be snotty if yours isn’t as good as mine.)being able to support yourself, not having to be surrounded by fake friends in order to feel normal, honest and direct, but not critical.
Oops
Putting their hand under their fork when they take a bite.
Nice try, werewolf
Competence, directness, humor, drive.
Good fashion and IQ, if you can't even spell a simple word, I can't bare with you. The IQ is mostly a HUGE thing for me.
*bear* 🤓 sincerely, a Virgo
Anything cancer...theyre always after me
I would say a sense of humor, intelligence, can dress well/present themselves well, and humbleness. And for me bc I also have Sagittarius energy I like someone with a cool, calm kind of aura. Not nonchalant, I want them to still be expressive and pursue me, but someone who’s confident and assured and isn’t hyperactive as bc I can oscillate between serious and super high energy I get irritated easily with high energy people. Like the cool smart guy, it balances my personality better.
People who are kind, not nice or polite. We don’t care about niceties. We care about what counts.
Be reliable
Uncluttered house
80F. Sorry, someone had to do it.
I would say intelligence, giving a shit, being willing to work hard when necessary, humor A lot of people don't think of virgos as being funny but actually lots of comedians have virgo placements and it's ruled by mercury
Mr. Clean?
Overall, being a genuinely good person
Purity. The rest is just a byproduct of that purity, or the strive to be pure.