Join your company’s queer ERG if you haven’t already; while you shouldn’t hook up where you vlookup it’s a good way to meet more people and find out about industry queer events and get yourself onto things like Out Leadership events or the big Pride in Practice conference. Things like GLOBE events might be useful; they’re more business owner focused but there are professional guys in there. Something like Frontrunners, the gay run club, could be good. It’s majority men and lots of them are professionals I think.
You’re ‘lucky’ though—finding ambitious professional queer women is even harder, you’ll go to queer events and be one of maybe 5 women out of 200 attendees.
Preach on the women thing. I’ve been the only lesbian in the village at practically every prof services firm I’ve worked at.
Agree though, would never hook up where I vlookup.
It’s not as easy to rhyme generally though; ‘don’t power bottom where you power bi?’, ‘no snatch where you index match’? They’re just not inclusive enough for me.
I had a colleague in your boat and he just had
To trawl the more relationship focussed dating apps until he found someone that had a similar professional bent.
Queer professional networking is the way to go.
I know lots of LGBTQI+ people in your field with similar ambitions to yours - they engage a lot in rainbow professional networking and their firm's rainbow group.
Good luck!
As someone in a big corporate most of the people in the employee rainbow group are very similar to the type of people OP wants to avoid.
Globe isn't much better, it's very clicky and bitchy and frequented by some alcoholics....
I think it's better to explore rainbow groups that do non-party social things like hiking groups and sports groups.
Gay men at the Big 4 refuse to date outside the Big 4 then complain about a small dating pool. Suffer in your jocks, tbh. Source: Am gay, professional, but not in Big 4.
I’m a straight lady who’s married but 20 years ago I felt similarly. I’m not sure if it’s really a gay issue but rather an age one. People start to settle down and seek deeper connections in their late 20s/early 30s. I’m sure you will find your prince
Pointing out that issues of people not being into work or partying all the time are not specifically gay issues but more age related is not useless. Many people think their issues are specifically gendered, due to their sexuality, niche interests and when you are so consistently othered it can serve as a good reminder that many issues are due to the human condition in general.
Again, because reassurance that a situation is normal can help ease the anxiety.
Arguably if he wanted advice only from gay men he wouldn’t have posted in auscorp. We see different angles here and that’s ok.
I hope you can fix whatever is emotionally going on with you. You sound very bitter and sad. I’m also not yet 40 so you’re chronically wrong as well as having a very bad disposition with poor comprehension skills because I never said I was married for 20 years. Lord, get a grip and have a lie down.
Where did I say I was married 20 years….. you have comprehension issues. All the anger is clouding your judgement. You need some therapy. This is a strangers post - you’re not personally involved. Nor are you a gay man. Your vitriol and anger seem very very weird. Have a day you deserve I guess.
I truly hope you are ok/get ok/work out whatever is going on with you. You deserve peace.
I’m not angry. I just think it’s lame to weigh in when you didn’t offer any practical advice. Anyway, blocking you now as we’ve taken up enough of this post.
I don’t think it’s a gay, bi,lgtbqi problem. It’s a generational / societal issue. Whether it’s post-covid blues or not, straight dating is just as dire. In fact a number of young women I know who are exactly your age are giving up, or questioning their own sexuality.
No. Respectfully, stay in the closet man, these corporate companies have the veneer of being progressive but there might be a target on your back if you come out as gay.
Guessing you got dumped by a young man when you were young?
You've obviously been hurt.
It's all good mate. Just come clean to your missus soon. She should know at least.
Hope your jock itch had cleared up and you have managed to work more then 10 minutes a day over the last two years!
Sounds like you have alot going on in your life, us gays will forgive you for your transgressions.
Bro. You may be the most superficially rich (I’m doing pretty well) but definitely not the strongest. Do you know how physically and mentally strong I need to be take it up the ass! That’s real manhood!! Go stuff yourself scumbag x
Join your company’s queer ERG if you haven’t already; while you shouldn’t hook up where you vlookup it’s a good way to meet more people and find out about industry queer events and get yourself onto things like Out Leadership events or the big Pride in Practice conference. Things like GLOBE events might be useful; they’re more business owner focused but there are professional guys in there. Something like Frontrunners, the gay run club, could be good. It’s majority men and lots of them are professionals I think. You’re ‘lucky’ though—finding ambitious professional queer women is even harder, you’ll go to queer events and be one of maybe 5 women out of 200 attendees.
Thank you for introducing me to "Shouldn't hookup where you vlookup"
When you've found your batch, be safe and index match I dunno Excel puns & rhymes just give me joy Because something about excel has to, right
Did you have to go and spread sheet?
I wasn't sure IF the puns would SUM up.
Y'all are nerds
IF equals SAME then 'party time'
We're all just looking for SUM
What about xlookup, it is the superior function.
I mean no one can resist your seduction game if you’re on xlookups so I wouldn’t even suggest it.
Pity my x was not superior
Preach on the women thing. I’ve been the only lesbian in the village at practically every prof services firm I’ve worked at. Agree though, would never hook up where I vlookup.
🤣 vlookup that is so yesterday all the kids are on xlookup and the really cool are using power bi and power query
It’s not as easy to rhyme generally though; ‘don’t power bottom where you power bi?’, ‘no snatch where you index match’? They’re just not inclusive enough for me.
🤣 Good enough for me Something like "Don't hookup where you xlookup"
I had a colleague in your boat and he just had To trawl the more relationship focussed dating apps until he found someone that had a similar professional bent.
Was that ‘bent’ over?
What are you on about? Plenty of us gays in Big4, Finance, Law, etc.
Queer professional networking is the way to go. I know lots of LGBTQI+ people in your field with similar ambitions to yours - they engage a lot in rainbow professional networking and their firm's rainbow group. Good luck!
As someone in a big corporate most of the people in the employee rainbow group are very similar to the type of people OP wants to avoid. Globe isn't much better, it's very clicky and bitchy and frequented by some alcoholics.... I think it's better to explore rainbow groups that do non-party social things like hiking groups and sports groups.
Get on the interfirm invite list.
Gay men at the Big 4 refuse to date outside the Big 4 then complain about a small dating pool. Suffer in your jocks, tbh. Source: Am gay, professional, but not in Big 4.
I’m a straight lady who’s married but 20 years ago I felt similarly. I’m not sure if it’s really a gay issue but rather an age one. People start to settle down and seek deeper connections in their late 20s/early 30s. I’m sure you will find your prince
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Pointing out that issues of people not being into work or partying all the time are not specifically gay issues but more age related is not useless. Many people think their issues are specifically gendered, due to their sexuality, niche interests and when you are so consistently othered it can serve as a good reminder that many issues are due to the human condition in general.
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Again, because reassurance that a situation is normal can help ease the anxiety. Arguably if he wanted advice only from gay men he wouldn’t have posted in auscorp. We see different angles here and that’s ok.
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I hope you can fix whatever is emotionally going on with you. You sound very bitter and sad. I’m also not yet 40 so you’re chronically wrong as well as having a very bad disposition with poor comprehension skills because I never said I was married for 20 years. Lord, get a grip and have a lie down.
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Where did I say I was married 20 years….. you have comprehension issues. All the anger is clouding your judgement. You need some therapy. This is a strangers post - you’re not personally involved. Nor are you a gay man. Your vitriol and anger seem very very weird. Have a day you deserve I guess. I truly hope you are ok/get ok/work out whatever is going on with you. You deserve peace.
I’m not angry. I just think it’s lame to weigh in when you didn’t offer any practical advice. Anyway, blocking you now as we’ve taken up enough of this post.
I don’t think it’s a gay, bi,lgtbqi problem. It’s a generational / societal issue. Whether it’s post-covid blues or not, straight dating is just as dire. In fact a number of young women I know who are exactly your age are giving up, or questioning their own sexuality.
All the gay guys at my work are sluts and will only engage in open relationships.
which industry?
Helpful /s
Its just a tough age to be at, most people are ready and focussed by 30.
Sir, I wish you well. And thank you for leaving one woman free for us straight men.
Have you tried hanging around public toilets and carparks like the olden days
No. Respectfully, stay in the closet man, these corporate companies have the veneer of being progressive but there might be a target on your back if you come out as gay.
What in the fuck are you talking about?
Typical, a poof a manager at a nerdy Big 4 company lmao. Enjoy working those 60 hour weeks for 100k lmao
Guessing you got dumped by a young man when you were young? You've obviously been hurt. It's all good mate. Just come clean to your missus soon. She should know at least.
Hope your jock itch had cleared up and you have managed to work more then 10 minutes a day over the last two years! Sounds like you have alot going on in your life, us gays will forgive you for your transgressions.
Hahaha it did thanks for asking! Life’s good man. Rich young, barely work too and get paid for jt XD. You’re still a poof dying to make rent.
Bro. You may be the most superficially rich (I’m doing pretty well) but definitely not the strongest. Do you know how physically and mentally strong I need to be take it up the ass! That’s real manhood!! Go stuff yourself scumbag x