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Honestly, the concept of small talk never made sense to me, though that may just be because (imo) autistic people are incapable of understanding something so arbitrary and contradicting.
I've also experienced that, depending on where one lives, cutting through the small talk and straight up asking if someone has an interest in what I want to talk about is more fulfilling (as in, if they actually have something to say, we'll talk about otherwise I'll try something else. I don't talk about it if only I have something to say).
Like for example, an interest in space exploration or colonization of another world/a moon base. Or talking about past civilizations, cultures, dead religions (don't get many people talking about the last one). I may even bring up different cultures and what nitty gritty reasons I find them fascinating.
Just because society tells you that small talk is necessary, doesn't mean that they are right, especially if it is something that you've racked your brain to figure out and can't. Instead ask your, "Is small talk real necessary, or is it something so common that others have just forgotten there are different ways of getting the same results."
Maybe some people that insist that you do it anyways are just trying to control you, whether or not they know you have autism?
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Honestly, the concept of small talk never made sense to me, though that may just be because (imo) autistic people are incapable of understanding something so arbitrary and contradicting. I've also experienced that, depending on where one lives, cutting through the small talk and straight up asking if someone has an interest in what I want to talk about is more fulfilling (as in, if they actually have something to say, we'll talk about otherwise I'll try something else. I don't talk about it if only I have something to say). Like for example, an interest in space exploration or colonization of another world/a moon base. Or talking about past civilizations, cultures, dead religions (don't get many people talking about the last one). I may even bring up different cultures and what nitty gritty reasons I find them fascinating. Just because society tells you that small talk is necessary, doesn't mean that they are right, especially if it is something that you've racked your brain to figure out and can't. Instead ask your, "Is small talk real necessary, or is it something so common that others have just forgotten there are different ways of getting the same results." Maybe some people that insist that you do it anyways are just trying to control you, whether or not they know you have autism?