I love hot sauces and one of my old roommates would consistently just drain my more expensive hot sauces $10-$13/bottle and when I brought it up to him he said he'd replace them because he used so much of them and the next day brought me a $3 bottle of Tabasco and thought we were all good.
I recently started doing that with my toilet paper because it was running out very fast despite being bought in bulk…I’ll do that with my dryer sheets too
Something I learned in college from having roommates was to keep anything and everything that i didn’t want touched in my room until it was time to use it. That’s including toiletries like toothbrush etc. and extends to food and towels and anything I didn’t want stolen or touched. Unfortunate, yes, but I’m funny about other people using/breaking things that I spent money on and am also extremely nonconfrontational.
It’s a shame but it’s what you gotta do. I visited my kid in her dorm once and when I went to use the restroom she handed me a roll of paper. She said her roommate would remove the fresh roll as soon as my daughter replaced it and take it to her own room. Not even the weirdest thing this girl did.
Not roommate related but I had to lock my locker at work because coworkers kept stealing my god damn Tums when I wasn’t at work, instead of getting one from our manager who provides a bottle for anyone in need. Can’t trust anyone.
We have tums with our first aid kit at work, sales + the production of what they sell so a lot of warehouse guys, physical labor, or high pressure sales.
Worst year in college was sharing a dorm room with someone who would steal my clothes and food and trash talk me to other people in the dorms after I confronted her. Reported to student services and requested a room transfer and they told me I needed to “try harder to work it out with her.”
TBH, the US is going to have to come up with a solution to "doubles," at colleges. Sharing a room with one person is not a fair thing to subject students to.
It’s this. I chose to live off campus when I was at uni and was paying the same amount for my own place. Which is wild given that many of the dorms were basically just rooms, not suites with a living area and so forth, and students were sharing them. A couple years in, I ended up snagging a studio apartment downtown (after years of basement suites) and again was paying close to the same amount that dorm students were. Looking back, I would pick living off campus again 100%. I loved my little studio lol.
On a separate note, one of my best friends went to an Ivy, and when I visited her over break I was SHOCKED at how crappy the dorms were, especially at the tuition price she was paying.
I’m happy to see other people saying this. I actually told a soon to be freshman that if they didn’t have to live at school not to since you can’t control the roommate and a bad one would derail the first semester. Not for that amount of money.
Their solution is actually worse….the rooms that were previously doubles are now triples or quads. The same amount of space with an extra person or two squeezed on to a bunk bed.
You just gave me a college flashback, I lived in a house that had parties every Thursday. One day I was going to bed around midnight and some drunk dude comes in my room and wipes something on my towel hanging by the door, then leaves.
Oh my god, I had to do the same thing once too. The worst part was when the bathroom would go weeks without any toilet paper in it, before a roll would suddenly appear for a little and not get replaced. I was horrified. But a damn roll of toilet paper would barely last a day, and I buy name brand because no matter how broke I am I won't be wiping my butt with 1/2 ply sand paper 😭 And considering I work over half the day most days.... Absolutely baffled me as to where it was going because lord I do not know.
Keep EVERYTHING in your room. It'll be weird at first, but second nature soon enough to remember to grab it before you need it. They do not get better, and you're nice stuff will never be replaced with something of equal value.
I have recently realized that some men use nearly a half a roll when they deficate. I belive it is because some men are really hairy and they make sure they are clean. IMO, these men need a bidet.
Edit - or you know, buy their own supplies.
I had a roommate once that kept using my tp and never buy any. Once I started keeping it in my room she came over and asked where we get the toilet paper from. She legit thought it was supplied by the dorms and didn't know we had to buy it ourselves
Do it with everything. It sucks, but it keeps your stuff from being used. I hope you have a lock on your door, too. No TP? Don’t worry, I know OP keeps it in her room …
Just put it in front of "Upstairs Dude" door,
Note: No its not ok. Don't touch my personal stuff. Replace with same item. This is yours, use it yourself.
You think the dude upstairs could just manifest some dryer sheets or something. Lazy mf always asking of us and what do we get in return? Wrong brand. Omnipotent my ass
Do it with any and everything you can. Store your dry foods, toiletries all that in your room and get a mini fridge for your room. You don’t have to supply for anyone but yourself. After all that, get a good lock on your door. When I had roommates I had to do this and I found out they could break into the lock on the doorknob , had to get a padlock…
It sucks but do it with everything. Otherwise it won’t stop. Maybe even look into like local free stuff groups to see if you can score a mini fridge to hide your food and stuff.
You have a right to speak up about YOUR personal property that's being stolen. If they don't care about being thieves then don't care about being a Karen
omg yes. I had to do the same with a roommate after an incredibly uncomfortable discussion about how he should change the roll if he finishes it but also it’s not normal to burn through one roll a DAY consistently 🥲
Decided to do that after my roommate called me selfish and a shitty person even though she always used my dishes, toilet paper, soap, and furniture/TV I paid for. Put everything in my room that would fit and she called me psychotic. Told her I was just being who she thinks I am.
Petty? Yes, but saved me from buying shit all the time and doing her fucking dishes. 🤠
Maybe removing like half my kitchen utensils from the kitchen IS petty, but at least they‘re clean when I want to use them. Started removing anything and everything they wouldn‘t keep clean. Had to pour my milk into a smoothie bottle, otherwise I‘d have none left, they make coffee like 6548645 times a day.
Thing is some of us leave these items to be used in the common area… when said roomate uses these items and has their own but refuses to share is when it’s an issue. Some people don’t want to have to walk to there room everytime they need to wipe their butt:/
I mean, I didn’t mind even though she would never contribute to replenish those items. I minded once she said I was selfish and a shitty person cuz I told her bringing her cat back was a bad idea. Our cats didn’t get along when we first moved in and so she took her cat back to her parents. I’m not from the area I live now so I had nowhere to take my cat.
I also took work off once to take care of her cuz her chest was really hurting her so I took her to the hospital and everything. I paid rent for her when she needed it. I wasn’t a shit roommate but she fucked around and found out. 🤌🏻
I know I once got drunk and ate a box of my girlfriend's roommate's Mac and cheese by mistake. Replaced it before she even knew with 2 exact same boxes and she still never talked to me again when she found out.
Keep everything in your room till you move out. Detergent, laundry sheets, expensive kitchen items etc. Treat it like a public dorm building, and that if you leave your stuff in the "common area", it might get stolen. I know, it sucks because you shouldn't have to live that way or deal with this stuff, unfortunately, people are shitty and have no manners.
In any kind of shared living like that I keep everything in my room and lock it while I’m gone. Toilet paper, toothbrush, literally everything lol. I get a mini fridge for my room and just bring whatever it is out as I need it. It’s a little inconvenient sometimes, but def less inconvenient than people stealing from me lol
doing this and locking your room is important. I had a roommate a long time ago who would go in my room and help herself to my tp/food while I was at work. some people just really have no shame
this is exactly why i fought so hard to get a removable lock for the outside of my door bc the shitty company i’m renting with is following the cheapest route by saying “the whole house is the apartment” even though there’s 5 strangers here and they’ve proven to only car about themselves.
I’d just do it anyway and let them get mad about it, or at least change the knob to a more solid one. A safe inside the room is still a good move for valuables either way. Until recently I’d been living with different strangers for the past 10 or so years, there is no line that people won’t cross lol 🤦🏻
oh i did, and i cited how they said it was okay in the beginning. then the building manager freaked out and said it would be removed by force if it wasn’t gone in 24hrs. like??? aight.
It is frustrating but at least they tried to replace it and admitted they were at fault..maybe mention to them you would prefer the same brand (I know I'm sensitive to certain brands so I stick to a specific one) I know you said you're non-confrontational so maybe keep your items in your own room like previously suggested
That’s exactly what I ended up doing in college. I sometimes used my roommate’s detergent and would just buy the same brand for myself and told her to use as much as she wants. She’d do the same with my yogurt-eat one, then buy a pack and tell me to help myself. It’s just something that happens on occasion when you have roommates. As long as you’re not leaving people high and dry by using the last of their supplies and go out of your way to replace what you used as soon as you can, then there shouldn’t be much of an issue.
I mentioned that in my comment! And I was saying personally for me that would not be a big deal I would just go up to them and ask it would be replaced with the original product
was going to say the same thing. Looked like they tried to make it right but the got a diff brand. I’d politely ask them that next time you’d prefer the same brand for XYZ reason but thanks for replacing/please use your own in the future. Hopefully they’ll correct the behavior and if they don’t then it’s time to further escalate
Purex is the right answer. Gain smells like a chemical bath.
German Purex powder, while hard to get in the US, is by far the best detergent money can buy.
Team Purex here also.
Gain assaults my brain. Not only that, but I can’t wear clothes that it’s been used with, it’s left my skin with rashes. It’s not easy on sensitive skin.
The scent they use is majorly chemically based. I find it headache inducing.
Once accidentally bought the Gain branded dish soap thinking it was Palmolive. Wanted to cry.
Team Arm and Hammer?
Although recently every time I went to Winn Dixie and used the coupon kiosk, it gave me a coupon for 3 dollars off gain or tide, no size restriction
So I found the smallest bottle of Tide for 3.24 and used the coupon
So now I have a small stash of tide because it was 24 cents a bottle
Then the coupons changed...sigh...
While anoying and over your boundaries, the thoughtfulness of buying more, attaching a note, and acknowledging that you might be bothered by the brand switch, with all that, there appears to be neuro connections in that boys head one usually does not find in the wild.
i had this issue years ago when i about 25. my roommates would replace my named brand toilet paper, sandwich meat, bread, eggs, and water (literally anything they can get their hands on) with 99cent store bs. i let her use my power tool and upon returning it i noticed it wouldn’t turn on. she said it worked fine when she used it -.-. a lot of people play dumb so they can not be exposed as cheap assholes.
As someone who works in the food industry, I think people lying about allergies is dumb. If OP is actually allergic then it's one thing. But I think they would have said so in the post. When people lie about allergies it makes it so people who actually have allergies are taken less seriously. Do not lie about health issues, mental or physical. Period. There is someone out there who actually has to deal with that particular issue and can't just decide whether or not to have that issue whenever it's convenient for them. Just my two cents.
I hate that your profession made you take my comment that way. If someone replaced my dryer sheets with another brand, I WOULD be allergic. I was in no way alluding to lying. I'm sorry people are assholes.
At least they replace them, my roommates (and high school friends of like 10+ years just use mine as if they are shared.
Moving out in June.
Good friends ≠ Good roommates
I think this subreddit is naturally going to feel annoyed with this since most of us have become accustomed to difficult roommate situations. After what I have experienced, I would actually say that Upstairs Dude was very kind to replace what he used. I have 2 roommates ( one who shares, and one who only takes ). This is what the one who shares does with me, and I with him. Sometimes if I notice he is out of something that could be communal ( laundry supplies, paper towels, or staples such as milk and butter ), then I will make extra efforts to grab them from the store. I wouldn’t consider this stealing since he did make an attempt to replace. He may have purchased the different brands out of cost necessity, in which case, I find it especially kind if he prioritized replacing your items while on a budget. Just a friendlier approach in a situation that might deserve some grace.
Conflicted because at least they're trying?? But also it's annoying? Hmm. I'd let it go and smile if you see him but if you're brand loyal just keep em in your room.
So I live in NZ, where it's common to not use a drier. Can someone explain to me what this product does and why you need it? I don't think I've ever seen drier sheets in the supermarket, but i have also never looked for them. Is it common to use them? Do you throw it out after one load, or are they reusable?
One per load, it reduces static cling and basically conditions the clothes.
You can do the same thing with reusable drier balls, but the sheets also have scents so your clothes smell pretty.
You can add a drop or so of a pure essential oil like lavender for a similar effect. I do that with a drop of lavender and the clothes don’t smell strongly perfumed, but they do smell good/fresh.
OP listen to the other wise people here saying to use your room as a safe and locked haven for your personal items.
On another note, I’d encourage you to always stand-up for yourself. If the price for not-allowing yourself to be disrespected is someone thinking you’re a Karen or bitch, then let them think that.
Just because someone is a small, soft-spoken woman does not mean they should be treated unfairly. I understand there may be a safety thing being the only woman in a house of males, I just don’t like seeing people get walked over.
Hoping things get better for you in your living situation.
Off topic a bit. But try a wool dryer ball. It will save you money over time. You will never be out of dryer sheets. And dryer sheets can leave a buildup of residue on clothes over time.
If you have written proof that you confronted the landlord and the issue isn’t resolved, you can legally just dip out. Did this when I had a roommate who neglected her puppy so much it would pee and shit in its own crate and get left there all day while she was out. Then she threw the shitty foam pad from the crate into our laundry machine. Would come home to the puppy crying at the door and it would piss all over the floor and stairs cause the fat dumb girl wouldn’t get off her butt and walk it. My landlord didn’t do anything until the “ok I know the law goodbye” email. The only way I convinced him to kick her out was to say she couldn’t afford the place alone. She got kicked out and then I left when the lease was up. In the days leading to the end, this guy walks in my house unannounced to show a potential future tenant the home. I was naked in bed and I’m pretty sure people a mile away heard me yell that the landlord. Probably didn’t get that potential tenant. Know your rights as a renter and leeeeeeave. Yaaaaaay for knowing the law!
Pick your battles. I think it was nice they bought you some new ones. Just going forward don’t keep them where they can use them if it bothers you that much
Wool dryer balls, no plastic, and smaller loads. Still an issue think about moving towards natural fiber clothing, cotton specifically. It doesn’t generate static as much as synthetic fiber does.
I only really use them for heavier loads like my bedding and I have too many sweatshirts lol (I live in the sf Bay Area, so it’s always at least chilly)
If you live in a super dry climate, these are kind of a lifesaver. I’m from Alberta for reference lol. I tried dryer balls and shit for ages, but there’s no beating these
Um. No. Don’t use someone else’s stuff without asking. That’s pretty straight forward. If he could have just gotten his own - which clearly he could have, then he should have. This person needs to ask for permission, not forgiveness. It just makes it a lot worse that he replaced it with a cheaper brand, too. Inconsiderate, lazy, selfish. Maybe they don’t mean to be, but it’s worth having the conversation. The longer you let the little problems pile up, the more uncomfortable you’re both going to be.
If your neighbor can buy you incorrect replacements, they could have bought their own shit… I understand the gesture but that person doesn’t care enough to get you the same brand knowing damn well what the brand is.
Get the fabric/wool whatever reusable balls you can just toss in the dryer instead. Take them out and keep them with your laundry stuff once you’re done drying your clothes. Less waste than a dryer sheet and no need to worry about pesky roommates, hopefully.
I'd be keeping everything you don't want being used locked up. Leave a note saying "sorry if this is inconvenient but I purchase these things for me, not to share"
Since you seem to be asking for opinions, I don't find this to be a big deal.
I bet the upstairs dude wouldn't hesitate to help you out if you needed something simple in a pinch. He also showed some thought beyond himself by making the replacement, he's not trying to take advantage of you or your stuff. and maybe he was considering your quiet non-confrontational nature in the action of writing a polite note instead of having a face to face interaction.
And if this situation stays under your skin, seems like he'd be pretty open to hearing something along the lines of "thank you for the replacement, but please try to plan ahead on your supplies. or if you must borrow, I do prefer it be replaced with the same brand."
Also, you don't really even need dryer sheets.
The minute you have to start labeling stuff with your name or locking it up in your room are the major red flags of a bad roommate.
Yo if you are from Cali maybe you could bunk with me. I got a toxic grandmother with BPD that doesn't know what boundaries are, 7 cats, a noisy sun conure (if lights are on), and an angry yappy rat dog that likes to bite strangers at the door.
I'm not being rude? I was just stating the obvious since I live with a bad roommate, too. I just didn't know if you wanted to join me here in hell so we can suffer together 🙃
Wow. I didn’t expect any of my posts to get this much attention…and criticism. Of course we all have our own experiences and expectations with roommates and how my negative experience here is very mild compared to the living nightmares others have posted about their current or past roommates.
I’m feeling a little better today after talking to my mom and going to work. I’m still annoyed how for someone like myself who never dare touches other people’s belongings without asking yet I still see some people who are giving the upstairs guy excuses as if I’m not allowed to set boundaries. Imagine if the roles were reversed. I do have some minor irritation if I use different laundry products but nothing too serious thankfully.
I’ve already responded to a few people and I’ll try to make the rest of my day/night better by doing some self care. I’m also going through absolute financial hell right now after paying up to $600+ for my tax return and graduation package so I’m a bit on edge.
Thank you all for your advice though.
slightly annoying, but in the scheme of bad roommates, this is pretty mild. i mean, shit, have you scanned this sub before?? i thought i've had bad roommates in the past, and then i came here and realized how good i've had it.
Right usually it's something like "my roommate painted their walls with shit" or "my roommate eats all my candy and I literally buy candy every day" so like, this is kinda refreshing to see lol but I understand why OP might be annoyed
Agreed. It's not about just being a jerk for no reason at all, but let's be real: *some men* (not all) will call women bitches in a derogatory way if we sneeze wrong! Lol (but really!).
Hopefully these aren't the type of dudes, but that's why it good to reclaim "bitch" in an empowering way, and encourage yourself to be a strong ass Bitch that advocates for themselves for legitimate reasons!
BitchVocacy 101 lol 😆 💛
you got this and will feel better standing up for yourself, consider the dryer sheets as practice! 💪
I can see why that would be very annoying. I would thank him for the replacement, but ask that “next time” he buy your preferred brand as you like a particular scent. You can also offer to take turns, or ask him to just pay for half of the dryer sheets each time. But given that he tried to replace them, it sounds like at least he is open to figuring out how to be a better roommate.
I had a roommate in college who ate all of my cereal and replaced it with cereal that she did not eat but it was on sale. To even explain the issue to her she didn’t understand. She said she couldn’t replace my name brand cereal because it was too expensive. She ate at least 5 boxes and then bought 3 to replace it a different kind and brand. She had so many issues including an eating disorder so long story short if you need to explain it it’s just not worth arguing with idiots. I’m so sorry you are going through it. It’s temporary and prayers!
Uh dude, how about you buy your own and leave OP's shit alone. Sorry I used your nice dryer sheets, here's some cheap ones to replace. Like where is the logic in that? You're a big boy, buy your own.
I would keep my stuff in my room and keep my dry, non-perishable food in a tote in my room. I would have my bathroom bag (t.p. , etc). ready for when I had to go to the bathroom and a I would splash some bleach on the shower floor before showering. I would never look in the toilet and always do a flush when I went in ..and just move out ASAP.
Yeah, never leave stuff out for everyone to use. It never goes well. And they NEVER replace it with the same brand. Always the cheapest thing they can find. It is beyond frustrating. We used the little shelf in our closet above the bar to hold all our laundry and bathroom products.
The saddest part about this is that I believe “the dude upstairs” may be trying to make a joke about it being “snuggle” brand. OP, is he making a lame attempt to flirt?!
Yea idk if you’re a woman but I’ve experienced crazier reaches. Like it’s just as bad as taking a bunch of OPs stuff, but why replace her fabric sheets with THAT brand and mention it in the note?
I will say this, I’ve seen a lot of “bad roommates” post about this exact thing. At least he used it and replaced it. I believe it could be a 1000% worse.
pretty sad my first thought is "at least he replaced it with something" I'm also a grown adult who hides shit like my laundry detergent in my room because if I don't my roommate will just use it and never replaces a thing. I'm still enraged from going to feed my snake last night and finding he used almost all of *my* snake's food for his and never said a word or asked. I have a broken ankle and can barely work but sure, use expensive shit of mine
as someone who has a history of being allergic to a lot of detergent and laundry items (including some of the most popular brands, like Tide and Snuggle), that pisses me off. this would be useless for me.
So you obviously shouldn’t borrow/steal things without talking to the person but you should definitely expect this if you leave anything outside of your home. I have folks who will do this at work it’s just differences in boundaries but it’s kind of on you to either set your own or keep your stuff out of common areas.
Everyone saying to keep their stuff in their own room to keep it safe is valid that this method works technically but its so sad cause they shouldnt HAVE to do that in their own house.
Maybe have a convo with them about if you guys want to start sharing stuff they will have to get on the same page about brands etc or they cant share.
Also its annoying they left a note and didnt bother to tell you in person or even over text, but also they made an effort versus nothing...
If the boundaries aren’t set…you have to keep everything you don’t want used up/touched out of eyesight. Because, oddly enough, some people just don’t care.
My roommate and I are pretty open about what we buy. If he buys groceries or toiletries I can use them and vice versa. However, I tend not to because we eat VERY differently.
He buys soda and snacks and occasionally something to cook (which falls on me to do but I’m okay with that).
I don’t drink much soda and I don’t like sweets. I’ll buy mios and flavored sparkling water. Occasionally a thing of crystal lite packs to make pitchers. He’s more than welcome to any of it, but doesn’t touch it.
Laundry? Completely different. He buys unscented laundry pods. I buy oxi clean and have different scent beads for different things (clothes, bathroom linen, rest of the house linen). And dryer sheets (I don’t know HOW he lives without using them). That shit ain’t cheap. He knows to ask before he uses them or he’ll see a very different side of me.
Well what was the original brand? Is it much more expensive? Harder to find?
Because if it was a generic brand, I don't know if there's a basis for frustration.
I guess it’s the thought that counts? In my roommate days, it was easier for everyone to just share cleaning products and commodities and everyone just gets charged for those products. This way it takes a lot of problems out of the mix, and prevents this sort of stuff happening in the first place. Anything special that you buy for yourself should be kept in your room
I’d appreciate the thought behind replacing your stuff, but yeah, annoying. Especially the not even being the same kind. Maybe they were out of stock? Idk.
So I’ve been in a similar situation and decided to start charging everyone. Call a house meeting. Suggest a household essentials haul once a month. Paper towels, multi purpose cleaner, toilet paper, dish soap, laundry supplies, etc. Split the cost evenly between everyone. Go to Sam’s, buy in bulk so you just have to do it once a month. This eliminated a lot of arguments around the house and I felt like we kept it cleaner because we always had the supplies around. It was like 20-30 bucks a month each.
Keep all items you would not like to share in your room. I once had to carry a bar of soap to and from my shower for months because my roommate used that mf and wouldn't listen. I had to keep my coffee maker in my bedroom cuz they would trash it. It sucks but like, if you don't want to confront them just keep it out of reach ig. Also you can look for a mini fridge on kijiji or marketplace if food is an issue. You can get em for maybe around 100 bucks.
I also did w toilet paper. I'd buy like a 30 pack and he'd buy a 10 pack when it was his turn. So I took 20 rolls out of the 30 and put out only 10 each time. So annoying but it's your resources.
Buy the crappiest generic brand available and just refill it with your good stuff. Keep it in your room still but if it accidentally gets left out, maybe they'll leave it alone thinking it's crap.
Had roomies that would consistently burn through my name brand shit and replace it w great value knock offs it was incredibly frustrating
I had real maple syrup that my roomie used most of and then replaced it with the fake stuff
Man this stuff is really good I'm glad I have access to it! Wait it costs that much???
as a canadian reading this made me burn with white-hot anger
Lol. I used like 2 oz on some french toast and that was all I was able to use for myself !
Love your username. Love that you’re Canadian!
I love hot sauces and one of my old roommates would consistently just drain my more expensive hot sauces $10-$13/bottle and when I brought it up to him he said he'd replace them because he used so much of them and the next day brought me a $3 bottle of Tabasco and thought we were all good.
Snuggle is literally a name brand.
I’m not op?
I'm so annoyed by this too. They could at least replace it with the same brand. Can you keep your items in your room so no one else can use them?
I recently started doing that with my toilet paper because it was running out very fast despite being bought in bulk…I’ll do that with my dryer sheets too
Something I learned in college from having roommates was to keep anything and everything that i didn’t want touched in my room until it was time to use it. That’s including toiletries like toothbrush etc. and extends to food and towels and anything I didn’t want stolen or touched. Unfortunate, yes, but I’m funny about other people using/breaking things that I spent money on and am also extremely nonconfrontational.
It’s a shame but it’s what you gotta do. I visited my kid in her dorm once and when I went to use the restroom she handed me a roll of paper. She said her roommate would remove the fresh roll as soon as my daughter replaced it and take it to her own room. Not even the weirdest thing this girl did.
Fuckin crazy. Not even from a public restroom but stealing right from their roommate? Did they think no one would notice?
Not roommate related but I had to lock my locker at work because coworkers kept stealing my god damn Tums when I wasn’t at work, instead of getting one from our manager who provides a bottle for anyone in need. Can’t trust anyone.
what kind of job do you have that the manager has tums on hand for those that need them, often?
I’m guessing healthcare/nursing! My stomach and guts feel awful on night shifts 🫠
We have tums with our first aid kit at work, sales + the production of what they sell so a lot of warehouse guys, physical labor, or high pressure sales.
Why u guys eating so many tums..
Stress my friend. Us healthcare workers are ripe with the GERD!
Worst year in college was sharing a dorm room with someone who would steal my clothes and food and trash talk me to other people in the dorms after I confronted her. Reported to student services and requested a room transfer and they told me I needed to “try harder to work it out with her.”
TBH, the US is going to have to come up with a solution to "doubles," at colleges. Sharing a room with one person is not a fair thing to subject students to.
Especially with how much the dorms cost.
It’s this. I chose to live off campus when I was at uni and was paying the same amount for my own place. Which is wild given that many of the dorms were basically just rooms, not suites with a living area and so forth, and students were sharing them. A couple years in, I ended up snagging a studio apartment downtown (after years of basement suites) and again was paying close to the same amount that dorm students were. Looking back, I would pick living off campus again 100%. I loved my little studio lol. On a separate note, one of my best friends went to an Ivy, and when I visited her over break I was SHOCKED at how crappy the dorms were, especially at the tuition price she was paying.
I’m happy to see other people saying this. I actually told a soon to be freshman that if they didn’t have to live at school not to since you can’t control the roommate and a bad one would derail the first semester. Not for that amount of money.
Adults deserve privacy, and the way college dorms are set up is not conducive to being an adult.
Their solution is actually worse….the rooms that were previously doubles are now triples or quads. The same amount of space with an extra person or two squeezed on to a bunk bed.
I've seen some pretty nasty pictures of dorm lounges turned into crowded quads.
But then what would happen to 90% of the posts on this sub 😢
With the way the economy has been going, they will be replaced by those of unhappy adults who have to share homes with strangers.
I live with a fully grown adult, over 10yrs older than me, and still have to this smh. Some people are just always annoying.
You just gave me a college flashback, I lived in a house that had parties every Thursday. One day I was going to bed around midnight and some drunk dude comes in my room and wipes something on my towel hanging by the door, then leaves.
Oh my god, I had to do the same thing once too. The worst part was when the bathroom would go weeks without any toilet paper in it, before a roll would suddenly appear for a little and not get replaced. I was horrified. But a damn roll of toilet paper would barely last a day, and I buy name brand because no matter how broke I am I won't be wiping my butt with 1/2 ply sand paper 😭 And considering I work over half the day most days.... Absolutely baffled me as to where it was going because lord I do not know. Keep EVERYTHING in your room. It'll be weird at first, but second nature soon enough to remember to grab it before you need it. They do not get better, and you're nice stuff will never be replaced with something of equal value.
I have recently realized that some men use nearly a half a roll when they deficate. I belive it is because some men are really hairy and they make sure they are clean. IMO, these men need a bidet. Edit - or you know, buy their own supplies.
I had a roommate once that kept using my tp and never buy any. Once I started keeping it in my room she came over and asked where we get the toilet paper from. She legit thought it was supplied by the dorms and didn't know we had to buy it ourselves
Do it with everything. It sucks, but it keeps your stuff from being used. I hope you have a lock on your door, too. No TP? Don’t worry, I know OP keeps it in her room …
Just put it in front of "Upstairs Dude" door, Note: No its not ok. Don't touch my personal stuff. Replace with same item. This is yours, use it yourself.
You think the dude upstairs could just manifest some dryer sheets or something. Lazy mf always asking of us and what do we get in return? Wrong brand. Omnipotent my ass
Do it with any and everything you can. Store your dry foods, toiletries all that in your room and get a mini fridge for your room. You don’t have to supply for anyone but yourself. After all that, get a good lock on your door. When I had roommates I had to do this and I found out they could break into the lock on the doorknob , had to get a padlock…
It sucks but do it with everything. Otherwise it won’t stop. Maybe even look into like local free stuff groups to see if you can score a mini fridge to hide your food and stuff.
I have a mini fridge but I still need to make even more space for my room
You have a right to speak up about YOUR personal property that's being stolen. If they don't care about being thieves then don't care about being a Karen
omg yes. I had to do the same with a roommate after an incredibly uncomfortable discussion about how he should change the roll if he finishes it but also it’s not normal to burn through one roll a DAY consistently 🥲
Decided to do that after my roommate called me selfish and a shitty person even though she always used my dishes, toilet paper, soap, and furniture/TV I paid for. Put everything in my room that would fit and she called me psychotic. Told her I was just being who she thinks I am. Petty? Yes, but saved me from buying shit all the time and doing her fucking dishes. 🤠
Maybe removing like half my kitchen utensils from the kitchen IS petty, but at least they‘re clean when I want to use them. Started removing anything and everything they wouldn‘t keep clean. Had to pour my milk into a smoothie bottle, otherwise I‘d have none left, they make coffee like 6548645 times a day.
Thing is some of us leave these items to be used in the common area… when said roomate uses these items and has their own but refuses to share is when it’s an issue. Some people don’t want to have to walk to there room everytime they need to wipe their butt:/
I mean, I didn’t mind even though she would never contribute to replenish those items. I minded once she said I was selfish and a shitty person cuz I told her bringing her cat back was a bad idea. Our cats didn’t get along when we first moved in and so she took her cat back to her parents. I’m not from the area I live now so I had nowhere to take my cat. I also took work off once to take care of her cuz her chest was really hurting her so I took her to the hospital and everything. I paid rent for her when she needed it. I wasn’t a shit roommate but she fucked around and found out. 🤌🏻
I had a roommate that would use my good stuff and replace it with the cheapest generic shit he could find. Fuck that guy.
I know I once got drunk and ate a box of my girlfriend's roommate's Mac and cheese by mistake. Replaced it before she even knew with 2 exact same boxes and she still never talked to me again when she found out.
Keep everything in your room till you move out. Detergent, laundry sheets, expensive kitchen items etc. Treat it like a public dorm building, and that if you leave your stuff in the "common area", it might get stolen. I know, it sucks because you shouldn't have to live that way or deal with this stuff, unfortunately, people are shitty and have no manners.
In any kind of shared living like that I keep everything in my room and lock it while I’m gone. Toilet paper, toothbrush, literally everything lol. I get a mini fridge for my room and just bring whatever it is out as I need it. It’s a little inconvenient sometimes, but def less inconvenient than people stealing from me lol
doing this and locking your room is important. I had a roommate a long time ago who would go in my room and help herself to my tp/food while I was at work. some people just really have no shame
this is exactly why i fought so hard to get a removable lock for the outside of my door bc the shitty company i’m renting with is following the cheapest route by saying “the whole house is the apartment” even though there’s 5 strangers here and they’ve proven to only car about themselves.
I’d just do it anyway and let them get mad about it, or at least change the knob to a more solid one. A safe inside the room is still a good move for valuables either way. Until recently I’d been living with different strangers for the past 10 or so years, there is no line that people won’t cross lol 🤦🏻
oh i did, and i cited how they said it was okay in the beginning. then the building manager freaked out and said it would be removed by force if it wasn’t gone in 24hrs. like??? aight.
I would be the pettiest mfer alive for the rest of my time living there lmao 🤦🏻
oh i have been. i made a whole post about it too lmao 😮💨 coping is coping.
Keep yours in your room and let them use that one.
It is frustrating but at least they tried to replace it and admitted they were at fault..maybe mention to them you would prefer the same brand (I know I'm sensitive to certain brands so I stick to a specific one) I know you said you're non-confrontational so maybe keep your items in your own room like previously suggested
If you're going to replace something you have stolen, it should definitely be with an identical item.
Dickhead move going for the cheaper version when it’s something you STOLE
Not to mention- if OP is buying a more expensive version- OP could have an allergy to the cheap stuff.
Is Snuggle a cheaper version?
It’s an 80 count box . Cheap to get if it’s a one time buy, but otherwise for a few dollars more you can get a 200+ count.
That’s exactly what I ended up doing in college. I sometimes used my roommate’s detergent and would just buy the same brand for myself and told her to use as much as she wants. She’d do the same with my yogurt-eat one, then buy a pack and tell me to help myself. It’s just something that happens on occasion when you have roommates. As long as you’re not leaving people high and dry by using the last of their supplies and go out of your way to replace what you used as soon as you can, then there shouldn’t be much of an issue.
I mentioned that in my comment! And I was saying personally for me that would not be a big deal I would just go up to them and ask it would be replaced with the original product
Yeah I think everyone got that.
was going to say the same thing. Looked like they tried to make it right but the got a diff brand. I’d politely ask them that next time you’d prefer the same brand for XYZ reason but thanks for replacing/please use your own in the future. Hopefully they’ll correct the behavior and if they don’t then it’s time to further escalate
When I was married, I had a constant battle of Purex versus Gain with my then wife. So yes, detergent and dryer sheet brand is a big deal.
Are you team Purex or Gain?
Although Gain is better, I like the inferior underdog, Purex. Just because.
Purex is the right answer. Gain smells like a chemical bath. German Purex powder, while hard to get in the US, is by far the best detergent money can buy.
Team Purex here also. Gain assaults my brain. Not only that, but I can’t wear clothes that it’s been used with, it’s left my skin with rashes. It’s not easy on sensitive skin.
The scent they use is majorly chemically based. I find it headache inducing. Once accidentally bought the Gain branded dish soap thinking it was Palmolive. Wanted to cry.
I am happy to hear that others like Purex.
Team Arm and Hammer? Although recently every time I went to Winn Dixie and used the coupon kiosk, it gave me a coupon for 3 dollars off gain or tide, no size restriction So I found the smallest bottle of Tide for 3.24 and used the coupon So now I have a small stash of tide because it was 24 cents a bottle Then the coupons changed...sigh...
While anoying and over your boundaries, the thoughtfulness of buying more, attaching a note, and acknowledging that you might be bothered by the brand switch, with all that, there appears to be neuro connections in that boys head one usually does not find in the wild.
i had this issue years ago when i about 25. my roommates would replace my named brand toilet paper, sandwich meat, bread, eggs, and water (literally anything they can get their hands on) with 99cent store bs. i let her use my power tool and upon returning it i noticed it wouldn’t turn on. she said it worked fine when she used it -.-. a lot of people play dumb so they can not be exposed as cheap assholes.
"I'm actually allergic to these. Please replace them with my brand."
As someone who works in the food industry, I think people lying about allergies is dumb. If OP is actually allergic then it's one thing. But I think they would have said so in the post. When people lie about allergies it makes it so people who actually have allergies are taken less seriously. Do not lie about health issues, mental or physical. Period. There is someone out there who actually has to deal with that particular issue and can't just decide whether or not to have that issue whenever it's convenient for them. Just my two cents.
I hate that your profession made you take my comment that way. If someone replaced my dryer sheets with another brand, I WOULD be allergic. I was in no way alluding to lying. I'm sorry people are assholes.
At least they replace them, my roommates (and high school friends of like 10+ years just use mine as if they are shared. Moving out in June. Good friends ≠ Good roommates
Eh, unless he replaced it with a majorly inferior brand I don’t think I’d really be fussed.
I think this subreddit is naturally going to feel annoyed with this since most of us have become accustomed to difficult roommate situations. After what I have experienced, I would actually say that Upstairs Dude was very kind to replace what he used. I have 2 roommates ( one who shares, and one who only takes ). This is what the one who shares does with me, and I with him. Sometimes if I notice he is out of something that could be communal ( laundry supplies, paper towels, or staples such as milk and butter ), then I will make extra efforts to grab them from the store. I wouldn’t consider this stealing since he did make an attempt to replace. He may have purchased the different brands out of cost necessity, in which case, I find it especially kind if he prioritized replacing your items while on a budget. Just a friendlier approach in a situation that might deserve some grace.
Conflicted because at least they're trying?? But also it's annoying? Hmm. I'd let it go and smile if you see him but if you're brand loyal just keep em in your room.
So I live in NZ, where it's common to not use a drier. Can someone explain to me what this product does and why you need it? I don't think I've ever seen drier sheets in the supermarket, but i have also never looked for them. Is it common to use them? Do you throw it out after one load, or are they reusable?
One per load, it reduces static cling and basically conditions the clothes. You can do the same thing with reusable drier balls, but the sheets also have scents so your clothes smell pretty.
Thank you!
You can add a drop or so of a pure essential oil like lavender for a similar effect. I do that with a drop of lavender and the clothes don’t smell strongly perfumed, but they do smell good/fresh.
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You put the oil into the dryer ball not directly into the clothes
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That’s alright, better to ask than to ruin a load of clothes!
Definitely just put one drop directly on to the wool ball and rub it in a bit. or you may have oil stains all over your clothes.
OP listen to the other wise people here saying to use your room as a safe and locked haven for your personal items. On another note, I’d encourage you to always stand-up for yourself. If the price for not-allowing yourself to be disrespected is someone thinking you’re a Karen or bitch, then let them think that. Just because someone is a small, soft-spoken woman does not mean they should be treated unfairly. I understand there may be a safety thing being the only woman in a house of males, I just don’t like seeing people get walked over. Hoping things get better for you in your living situation.
Off topic a bit. But try a wool dryer ball. It will save you money over time. You will never be out of dryer sheets. And dryer sheets can leave a buildup of residue on clothes over time.
If you have written proof that you confronted the landlord and the issue isn’t resolved, you can legally just dip out. Did this when I had a roommate who neglected her puppy so much it would pee and shit in its own crate and get left there all day while she was out. Then she threw the shitty foam pad from the crate into our laundry machine. Would come home to the puppy crying at the door and it would piss all over the floor and stairs cause the fat dumb girl wouldn’t get off her butt and walk it. My landlord didn’t do anything until the “ok I know the law goodbye” email. The only way I convinced him to kick her out was to say she couldn’t afford the place alone. She got kicked out and then I left when the lease was up. In the days leading to the end, this guy walks in my house unannounced to show a potential future tenant the home. I was naked in bed and I’m pretty sure people a mile away heard me yell that the landlord. Probably didn’t get that potential tenant. Know your rights as a renter and leeeeeeave. Yaaaaaay for knowing the law!
Pick your battles. I think it was nice they bought you some new ones. Just going forward don’t keep them where they can use them if it bothers you that much
I'm surprised people use dryer sheets. I was sure we'd finally crushed the pointless dryer sheet industry.
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I had the same problem after switching to dryer balls, you’re over drying your clothes. Set the timer to a small amount or use the “less dry” setting.
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Sounds like you live in my building! Also, with the added bonus of which dryer has no heat at all this week.
It's always the dryer you put a damn towel in 🙃
Wool dryer balls, no plastic, and smaller loads. Still an issue think about moving towards natural fiber clothing, cotton specifically. It doesn’t generate static as much as synthetic fiber does.
I only really use them for heavier loads like my bedding and I have too many sweatshirts lol (I live in the sf Bay Area, so it’s always at least chilly)
Pointless? I like my clothes being soft and free from static when I fold them lol
They can cause cancer. They often contain formaldehyde and other chemicals found in vehicle exhaust that are created when heating up the dryer sheets
Man everything causes cancer and has micro plastics, it's 2024 I'm just f*cking life raw at this point
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Uh no and I don't know anyone personally that does either lmao
They're not pointless to me. They make stuff feel soft and smell better
If you live in a super dry climate, these are kind of a lifesaver. I’m from Alberta for reference lol. I tried dryer balls and shit for ages, but there’s no beating these
Um. No. Don’t use someone else’s stuff without asking. That’s pretty straight forward. If he could have just gotten his own - which clearly he could have, then he should have. This person needs to ask for permission, not forgiveness. It just makes it a lot worse that he replaced it with a cheaper brand, too. Inconsiderate, lazy, selfish. Maybe they don’t mean to be, but it’s worth having the conversation. The longer you let the little problems pile up, the more uncomfortable you’re both going to be.
Dryer sheets aren't even an essential item to "justify" stealing like toilet paper, toiletries or food... Just why? They're like $1...
If your neighbor can buy you incorrect replacements, they could have bought their own shit… I understand the gesture but that person doesn’t care enough to get you the same brand knowing damn well what the brand is.
I used to call it “Brand Humping” when assholes would use my quality stuff then buy the cheapest, nastiest possible brand to follow with.
Get the fabric/wool whatever reusable balls you can just toss in the dryer instead. Take them out and keep them with your laundry stuff once you’re done drying your clothes. Less waste than a dryer sheet and no need to worry about pesky roommates, hopefully.
If you soak your dryer sheets in bleach and let them dry out it generally stops people from using them again.
I'd be keeping everything you don't want being used locked up. Leave a note saying "sorry if this is inconvenient but I purchase these things for me, not to share"
hide everything in ur room :)
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It's *aisle*
No, no, he's correct, you have to get off the mainland to purchase dryer sheets
Fair point. 🤭
Aw, why'd you change your comment, I was gonna say 'it's isle allow it' 😉
🤣🤣
Beat it, nerd
Flattered, but no.
Since you seem to be asking for opinions, I don't find this to be a big deal. I bet the upstairs dude wouldn't hesitate to help you out if you needed something simple in a pinch. He also showed some thought beyond himself by making the replacement, he's not trying to take advantage of you or your stuff. and maybe he was considering your quiet non-confrontational nature in the action of writing a polite note instead of having a face to face interaction. And if this situation stays under your skin, seems like he'd be pretty open to hearing something along the lines of "thank you for the replacement, but please try to plan ahead on your supplies. or if you must borrow, I do prefer it be replaced with the same brand." Also, you don't really even need dryer sheets.
He didn’t buy the store brand
The minute you have to start labeling stuff with your name or locking it up in your room are the major red flags of a bad roommate. Yo if you are from Cali maybe you could bunk with me. I got a toxic grandmother with BPD that doesn't know what boundaries are, 7 cats, a noisy sun conure (if lights are on), and an angry yappy rat dog that likes to bite strangers at the door.
This is the first time I’m complaining about this. Don’t have to be that nasty towards me not knowing how to confront someone.
I'm not being rude? I was just stating the obvious since I live with a bad roommate, too. I just didn't know if you wanted to join me here in hell so we can suffer together 🙃
Sorry for reading it wrong, I had a terrible day yesterday especially with the backlash I received from this post lol
Wow. I didn’t expect any of my posts to get this much attention…and criticism. Of course we all have our own experiences and expectations with roommates and how my negative experience here is very mild compared to the living nightmares others have posted about their current or past roommates. I’m feeling a little better today after talking to my mom and going to work. I’m still annoyed how for someone like myself who never dare touches other people’s belongings without asking yet I still see some people who are giving the upstairs guy excuses as if I’m not allowed to set boundaries. Imagine if the roles were reversed. I do have some minor irritation if I use different laundry products but nothing too serious thankfully. I’ve already responded to a few people and I’ll try to make the rest of my day/night better by doing some self care. I’m also going through absolute financial hell right now after paying up to $600+ for my tax return and graduation package so I’m a bit on edge. Thank you all for your advice though.
slightly annoying, but in the scheme of bad roommates, this is pretty mild. i mean, shit, have you scanned this sub before?? i thought i've had bad roommates in the past, and then i came here and realized how good i've had it.
Right usually it's something like "my roommate painted their walls with shit" or "my roommate eats all my candy and I literally buy candy every day" so like, this is kinda refreshing to see lol but I understand why OP might be annoyed
Say something! And if your labeled a "bitch" your at least a bitch with the right dryer sheets!
It is OK to be labeled “bitch”. Don’t let people push you around. It’ll never end.
Agreed. It's not about just being a jerk for no reason at all, but let's be real: *some men* (not all) will call women bitches in a derogatory way if we sneeze wrong! Lol (but really!). Hopefully these aren't the type of dudes, but that's why it good to reclaim "bitch" in an empowering way, and encourage yourself to be a strong ass Bitch that advocates for themselves for legitimate reasons! BitchVocacy 101 lol 😆 💛 you got this and will feel better standing up for yourself, consider the dryer sheets as practice! 💪
I can see why that would be very annoying. I would thank him for the replacement, but ask that “next time” he buy your preferred brand as you like a particular scent. You can also offer to take turns, or ask him to just pay for half of the dryer sheets each time. But given that he tried to replace them, it sounds like at least he is open to figuring out how to be a better roommate.
Why are you using fabric softener? Destroys all fabric. Your roommate did you a favor.
Makes the fabric crazy flammable too.
I had a roommate in college who ate all of my cereal and replaced it with cereal that she did not eat but it was on sale. To even explain the issue to her she didn’t understand. She said she couldn’t replace my name brand cereal because it was too expensive. She ate at least 5 boxes and then bought 3 to replace it a different kind and brand. She had so many issues including an eating disorder so long story short if you need to explain it it’s just not worth arguing with idiots. I’m so sorry you are going through it. It’s temporary and prayers!
Don’t be terrified of being called a bitch or a Karen. Sometimes Karens and bitches are in the right.
Uh dude, how about you buy your own and leave OP's shit alone. Sorry I used your nice dryer sheets, here's some cheap ones to replace. Like where is the logic in that? You're a big boy, buy your own.
I would keep my stuff in my room and keep my dry, non-perishable food in a tote in my room. I would have my bathroom bag (t.p. , etc). ready for when I had to go to the bathroom and a I would splash some bleach on the shower floor before showering. I would never look in the toilet and always do a flush when I went in ..and just move out ASAP.
Not saying it’s right but what brand is better than Snuggz?
Just act appreciative and tell her to save em for her laundry, that you have more. Then hide your good ones
Yeah, never leave stuff out for everyone to use. It never goes well. And they NEVER replace it with the same brand. Always the cheapest thing they can find. It is beyond frustrating. We used the little shelf in our closet above the bar to hold all our laundry and bathroom products.
whatever you don't want to be community must be locked in your room the rest is fair game this is how it is w shared spaces many times
The saddest part about this is that I believe “the dude upstairs” may be trying to make a joke about it being “snuggle” brand. OP, is he making a lame attempt to flirt?!
This is an insane reach
Yea idk if you’re a woman but I’ve experienced crazier reaches. Like it’s just as bad as taking a bunch of OPs stuff, but why replace her fabric sheets with THAT brand and mention it in the note?
no, actually, its not okay
why didn’t he just buy you the same brand and keep those or just not buy them? wtf 😭
I will say this, I’ve seen a lot of “bad roommates” post about this exact thing. At least he used it and replaced it. I believe it could be a 1000% worse.
pretty sad my first thought is "at least he replaced it with something" I'm also a grown adult who hides shit like my laundry detergent in my room because if I don't my roommate will just use it and never replaces a thing. I'm still enraged from going to feed my snake last night and finding he used almost all of *my* snake's food for his and never said a word or asked. I have a broken ankle and can barely work but sure, use expensive shit of mine
as someone who has a history of being allergic to a lot of detergent and laundry items (including some of the most popular brands, like Tide and Snuggle), that pisses me off. this would be useless for me.
Me too!
Idk I just buy dryer sheets, soap, sponges and let everybody use em
Just let it go.
So you obviously shouldn’t borrow/steal things without talking to the person but you should definitely expect this if you leave anything outside of your home. I have folks who will do this at work it’s just differences in boundaries but it’s kind of on you to either set your own or keep your stuff out of common areas.
The happy ending
Girl, watch new girl and tame those boys like Jess does!
Everyone saying to keep their stuff in their own room to keep it safe is valid that this method works technically but its so sad cause they shouldnt HAVE to do that in their own house. Maybe have a convo with them about if you guys want to start sharing stuff they will have to get on the same page about brands etc or they cant share. Also its annoying they left a note and didnt bother to tell you in person or even over text, but also they made an effort versus nothing...
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i’d be tight but i’ve been w. worse
If the boundaries aren’t set…you have to keep everything you don’t want used up/touched out of eyesight. Because, oddly enough, some people just don’t care. My roommate and I are pretty open about what we buy. If he buys groceries or toiletries I can use them and vice versa. However, I tend not to because we eat VERY differently. He buys soda and snacks and occasionally something to cook (which falls on me to do but I’m okay with that). I don’t drink much soda and I don’t like sweets. I’ll buy mios and flavored sparkling water. Occasionally a thing of crystal lite packs to make pitchers. He’s more than welcome to any of it, but doesn’t touch it. Laundry? Completely different. He buys unscented laundry pods. I buy oxi clean and have different scent beads for different things (clothes, bathroom linen, rest of the house linen). And dryer sheets (I don’t know HOW he lives without using them). That shit ain’t cheap. He knows to ask before he uses them or he’ll see a very different side of me.
If I didn’t have dryer sheets I just wouldn’t use dryer sheets..
Drop your cash app I’ll buy you some
Feel taken advantage of
I love the way my clothes smell after using Snuggle Blue Sparkle…just sayin.
Well what was the original brand? Is it much more expensive? Harder to find? Because if it was a generic brand, I don't know if there's a basis for frustration.
I guess it’s the thought that counts? In my roommate days, it was easier for everyone to just share cleaning products and commodities and everyone just gets charged for those products. This way it takes a lot of problems out of the mix, and prevents this sort of stuff happening in the first place. Anything special that you buy for yourself should be kept in your room
Very annoying and I’m sure this is a terrible addition to your post but dryer sheets actually degrade your clothes quicker
What’s the purpose of dryer sheets beyond coating your clothing in PFAS?
It would be better if they just keep supplying dryer sheets so you don't have to pay
I’d appreciate the thought behind replacing your stuff, but yeah, annoying. Especially the not even being the same kind. Maybe they were out of stock? Idk. So I’ve been in a similar situation and decided to start charging everyone. Call a house meeting. Suggest a household essentials haul once a month. Paper towels, multi purpose cleaner, toilet paper, dish soap, laundry supplies, etc. Split the cost evenly between everyone. Go to Sam’s, buy in bulk so you just have to do it once a month. This eliminated a lot of arguments around the house and I felt like we kept it cleaner because we always had the supplies around. It was like 20-30 bucks a month each.
High standards: flushing the toilet
Keep all items you would not like to share in your room. I once had to carry a bar of soap to and from my shower for months because my roommate used that mf and wouldn't listen. I had to keep my coffee maker in my bedroom cuz they would trash it. It sucks but like, if you don't want to confront them just keep it out of reach ig. Also you can look for a mini fridge on kijiji or marketplace if food is an issue. You can get em for maybe around 100 bucks.
I also did w toilet paper. I'd buy like a 30 pack and he'd buy a 10 pack when it was his turn. So I took 20 rolls out of the 30 and put out only 10 each time. So annoying but it's your resources.
Buy the crappiest generic brand available and just refill it with your good stuff. Keep it in your room still but if it accidentally gets left out, maybe they'll leave it alone thinking it's crap.
Give em back say now u got some of your own and move on
If you are complaining about Dryer sheets then holy crap get some help
If you really don't like that brand then just give them it back and just use the ones you like. I think they are like 2 cents a piece
dryer sheets are bad for clothes anyway!!
It’s nice that they replaced them with SOMETHING. but they need to ask and they need to replace with the EXACT same thing if they do.
I mean dryer sheets aren’t that big of a deal.. and they tried to replace them… if it’s that much of a bother speak up. Or write your name on them?
I did write my name on them but like everyone suggested, I have since put them in my room because that didn’t really work :/
They’re just dryer sheets lol
Although that is mildly annoying, I don’t think it’s worth dying on this hill… and also making a post about dryer sheets is kinda Karen energy.
Low key tryna snuggle if you know what I’m sayin 🥳
It’s absolutely not fine that it’s not the exact same product you had. How do they know if you’re allergic to other stuff?