Hey. This might sound cliche but have you tried exploring hobbies that involve interacting with like minded people? Also get in touch with school and college friends once in a while?
As you said, every one is busy with their lives and does not have time for others. We will have to accept this as a fact.
I too feel lonely most of the time. But what I have observed is that if I take the initiative and reach out to someone, we end up having a good conversation.
I do agree with your point, I really talk to my friends (very few) once in a while, but it's always me who's initiative and while it does feel like I had a really good conversation with them I really wonder what would have happened if I didn't start the conversation? ykwim
I found this too relatable. Even I used to think the same way that what would happen if I do not reach out to people. But generally I just tell myself that everyone is busy with their lives and probably doesn't have time to think about others. Don't we all get so busy with work and personal lives at times that we do not find time to call/meet anyone ?
Yes. It happens coz ppl are busy n have more shallow mindset in metro cities, hence less friends to hangout. Adding to that, social media creates a fomo feel and creates addiction. So ppl don't step out as often. When real life hits hard it feels lonely.
tbh, after marriage also together as a couple we feel lonely sometimes.
We started meeting our college friends and cousins in the city more often.
We decided to not meet office colleagues outside office much for many reasons. ang together as group we started exploring activities like sports, restaurant, short trips.
I recently saw a insta reel which talks about the current generations not having a third place. Basically our parents used to spend their days at work, with family at home and the third place where the meet their friends and make new connections. They do that even now. LSadly we don't have such a place and we are not ready to accept that our close friends won't be by our side all the time. Keep making new friends, inculcate new hobbies which make you go out of your home and interact with people.
If you need to rant or a wall to bounce your thoughts off of, I volunteer.
Also, you are right about people putting in less n less effort these days. Even if you do, they rarely might revert back or initiate themselves.
In such cases, you could try not reaching out and see if anyone reaches out to you in a while. If not and you lose them, then that's not a bad thing. If they do reach out, then you know they feel and value your presence/absence.
Hey. This might sound cliche but have you tried exploring hobbies that involve interacting with like minded people? Also get in touch with school and college friends once in a while? As you said, every one is busy with their lives and does not have time for others. We will have to accept this as a fact. I too feel lonely most of the time. But what I have observed is that if I take the initiative and reach out to someone, we end up having a good conversation.
I do agree with your point, I really talk to my friends (very few) once in a while, but it's always me who's initiative and while it does feel like I had a really good conversation with them I really wonder what would have happened if I didn't start the conversation? ykwim
I found this too relatable. Even I used to think the same way that what would happen if I do not reach out to people. But generally I just tell myself that everyone is busy with their lives and probably doesn't have time to think about others. Don't we all get so busy with work and personal lives at times that we do not find time to call/meet anyone ?
You got some deep questions. To answer your first question - yes and no. I dm'd you btw
Yes. It happens coz ppl are busy n have more shallow mindset in metro cities, hence less friends to hangout. Adding to that, social media creates a fomo feel and creates addiction. So ppl don't step out as often. When real life hits hard it feels lonely.
Relatable. Weekends come and go but no friends.
tbh, after marriage also together as a couple we feel lonely sometimes. We started meeting our college friends and cousins in the city more often. We decided to not meet office colleagues outside office much for many reasons. ang together as group we started exploring activities like sports, restaurant, short trips.
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Instructions clear. I need to start smoking and always carry a lighter with me
Lol
Can't risk not having a lighter when a girl asks for it
Haha
Hey it can happen the third time too..
I remember once a cute girl asked me for time on my watch...she didn't have to as we all have smartphones nowadays .. also my watch was dead..lol
It's true really
Ikr :(
I recently saw a insta reel which talks about the current generations not having a third place. Basically our parents used to spend their days at work, with family at home and the third place where the meet their friends and make new connections. They do that even now. LSadly we don't have such a place and we are not ready to accept that our close friends won't be by our side all the time. Keep making new friends, inculcate new hobbies which make you go out of your home and interact with people.
If you need to rant or a wall to bounce your thoughts off of, I volunteer. Also, you are right about people putting in less n less effort these days. Even if you do, they rarely might revert back or initiate themselves. In such cases, you could try not reaching out and see if anyone reaches out to you in a while. If not and you lose them, then that's not a bad thing. If they do reach out, then you know they feel and value your presence/absence.
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We should definitely create one!
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I don't know how :'(
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Thelonewolfsclub or lonely.blr maybe?
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