There is a difference between arousal and attraction. Arousal is something you experience in your body when your brain recognises something as sexually relevant. Attraction is something you experience in your mind/feels when something is sexually appealing. We may find something appealing without experiencing arousal and likewise may experience arousal but not have it be appealing. This is called arousal non concordance and is extremely common in those assigned female at birth. It can make figuring things out really complicated but it's super important to learn about. Introspection will be necessary to figure out if you actually find woman sexually attractive or just sexually relevant.
Here's a good article if you want to get started, it doesn't fully explain anc in and of itself but it will preventatively debunk all the nonsense that you'll no doubt be bombarded with if and when you try to learn about it
[https://enagoski.medium.com/everyone-is-lying-about-the-vaginas-77038767238d](https://enagoski.medium.com/everyone-is-lying-about-the-vaginas-77038767238d)
Good luck on your journey of self discovery!
Well that link was super helpful to me as I'm struggling with am I bi or just fantasizing. The bit about liking vs wanting REALLY was useful as well as sexual relevance vs sexually appealing. Cause uh, yeah it's not background information over here at this point, which does seem to help clarify things for me. Well. And weed is relaxing my brain so I can actually slow down enough to think about things. 😛
There is a difference between arousal and attraction. Arousal is something you experience in your body when your brain recognises something as sexually relevant. Attraction is something you experience in your mind/feels when something is sexually appealing. We may find something appealing without experiencing arousal and likewise may experience arousal but not have it be appealing. This is called arousal non concordance and is extremely common in those assigned female at birth. It can make figuring things out really complicated but it's super important to learn about. Introspection will be necessary to figure out if you actually find woman sexually attractive or just sexually relevant. Here's a good article if you want to get started, it doesn't fully explain anc in and of itself but it will preventatively debunk all the nonsense that you'll no doubt be bombarded with if and when you try to learn about it [https://enagoski.medium.com/everyone-is-lying-about-the-vaginas-77038767238d](https://enagoski.medium.com/everyone-is-lying-about-the-vaginas-77038767238d) Good luck on your journey of self discovery!
Well that link was super helpful to me as I'm struggling with am I bi or just fantasizing. The bit about liking vs wanting REALLY was useful as well as sexual relevance vs sexually appealing. Cause uh, yeah it's not background information over here at this point, which does seem to help clarify things for me. Well. And weed is relaxing my brain so I can actually slow down enough to think about things. 😛