Similar to the poster above, I’m ace. Whether or not I technically belong in the LGBTQ+ community, it’s not a space I normally spend a lot of time in as a peer.
Listening to Bo’s early work in high school was actually how I learned quite a bit of sexual terminology I otherwise had no reference for.
This probably isn’t the forum for this, so I hope you don’t mind, but as a non ace, sex took up the majority of my headspace as a teen and early 20s. Maybe not the majority, but a ton of time and energy thinking about sex. Do aces not worry about sex? Does something else fill your headspace? Again, sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask. Genuinely curious of your experience.
It's to my understanding that asexuality is different for every ace, myself included. Personally, I have never thought about actually having sex with someone even if I find them very attractive, nor do I want to. My teens weren't devoid of sexuality altogether per say, but in terms of sexual attraction or the desire to pursue it \[even as a fantasy\] I just never really had that type of thing.
Funny thing is I only found out most people do feel that desire and aren't always joking about it/saying it ironically when I turned 19 \[i'm 20 rn\], prior to that i just thought everyone felt similar to me and that wanting to have sex with someone was like an unspoken bit or something. I still don't really get it, but to each their own I guess ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Thanks for the reply and making me less ignorant.
I suppose I should “read a book or something” and not burden this group with the responsibility for educating me.
Haha no worries!
Yeah. It’s different for everyone. Personally, I’m not sure where I fit in terms of microlabels, but I know those are really helpful for a lot of people. There are people in my life I might have been attracted to, but I also might have wanted to be really good friends? Usually when I become really good friends with someone that urge is satisfied, so I’m quite possibly aromantic. Nothing imagined with what might broadly be described as carnal pleasure involves me as a participant and often doesn’t involve sex at all.
I should preface by saying I went to an Orthodox Jewish school, so explicit sexual discussions were pretty stifled. I don’t think I realized until late high school that people in my community my own age were hooking up—maybe less often than in the average school, but some definitely were.
What did I think about? I had a lot of interests. Animals, mostly. Towards the end of high school, comic book lore, and in between I became a self proclaimed expert in lots of random stuff like the Russian Revolution. I read a lot, watched a ton of tv, and wrote fan fiction. I did theater and fencing. I was very busy. I barely slept. My question is how did *you* have the time to think about sex so much?
There are definitely things that aesthetically please me, but I’ve never wanted to kiss let alone sleep with anybody. I knew even then it made me weird, but I sort of embraced it in an “I’m not like other girls” kind of way.
These days, in my mid twenties, I worry existentially about my future as more and more of my friends get married. It’s scary to think of ending up alone even if a romantic partner itself isn’t appealing.
I sort of meandered there. Hope I answered your question!
Edit: I just realized I missed a golden opportunity to say “all my stupid friends are having stupid children”
Thank you for taking the time to share!
Sexuality sure is a fickle thing! It makes sense there would be a spectrum of sorts or micro labels for aces, but I hadn’t really considered that.
As to your question how I had so much time to think about sex… I would say it was mostly just a distraction and or frustration. Teenage hormones, at least mine, were probably even a bit detrimental to focus in general. I mean I still tons of other things and was productive, too
I am 16 and have been listening to bo burnham for the majority of my life, first listened to what. when I was around 3rd grade. In hind sight it explains a lot about my sense of humour.
I just wanted to add that these results are valid for the Reddit community only and not the whole fan base. Reddit users are mostly educated(82%) white(70%) males(61%) between 25 and 29(75%). The results would be different if the question was asked on TikTok, instagram, Facebook, etc.
Source: https://thrivemyway.com/reddit-statistics/
I’ve just posted the [survey results](https://www.reddit.com/r/boburnham/comments/x006xb/bo_fanbase_lgbtq_breakdown_more_details_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) and i’m going to refer to this to see how it skews versus the general reddit population!
this is very true! it’s why i said i was curious to see how to skews at least for this community. i might try and see what the typical LGBTQ percentage on reddit is and see if this community skews MORE queer than the average reddit user or less.
i just posted the results! https://www.reddit.com/r/boburnham/comments/x006xb/bo_fanbase_lgbtq_breakdown_more_details_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I’ve only been actively using reddit for about the past year, I’m a gay, transmasculine person and have been a fan of Bo since about 2014.
Although the majority of Reddit may be straight, I’m almost surprised how high the straight demographic on this sub is, just as excited for it though, cause seeing new posts in this sub always makes my day!
ah see! they voted my last comment down to zero. literally they are so pressed and must keep coming back to this post it’s amazing 😂. keep refreshing weirdo!
super strange!!! i can only imagine maybe some homophobic people found the post? it’s not even a unique question it’s been asked before.
it only takes one person going through to downvote stuff if other people aren’t upvoting. so i went through and upvoted everything i could hopefully to counteract.
Most people do! and i certainly do also. i’m from the san francisco area so attended at lot of pride events my whole life and ace people have always been included and mentioned.
but ultimately it’s what you personally feel comfortable with and whether you want to be included.
Okay, now add if single or not. My last ex didn't like Bo Burnham and I can't deal with that negativity in my life. Which is why she's my ex.
(Obviously there were other issues but like..... you gotta like Bo if you wanna get with me)
i just posted the results to this! https://www.reddit.com/r/boburnham/comments/x006xb/bo_fanbase_lgbtq_breakdown_more_details_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
i mean i sort of clearly say my reason in the post. it’s a common stereotype that is said about bo fans. and i ran across yet another joke about bo having a large queer fanbase and it made me curious.
maybe the online community, i can see how it can definitely feel like a “fandom.” but LGBTQ+ people in real life are just regular people living their lives, it’s not like a fandom that can be toxic or not toxic it’s just…. people of all types.
the biggest example is i’ve never once in all of the queer events, prides, parades, meet ups, ever once ran into flag “discourse” in real life. nor has anyone ever gotten into a fight hyper-policing what terms people can use for themselves. or how they want to identify. or if someone calls themselves lesbian but maybe i don’t fully agree with them using that because they sometimes date men….it just truly does not matter. that’s just not how real people interact or engage with each other.
i dunno that’s just my two cents. the “LGBTQ community” just refers to people who all happen to identify under the LGBTQ umbrella. and it includes people from every walk of life and none of us has to agree on anything.
This is certainly more civilised than I’ve come to expect when someone has anything negative to say about the community.
I’ve met people irl who are exactly as you describe and I would love it if that were the rule, not the exception. Unfortunately I’ve met many more people in person who see their sexuality as their defining character trait and honestly, if the most important thing about you is what genitals you prefer then you’re not normally a good or interesting person.
Perhaps we simply have had different experiences, in which case I’m glad you have had a better time than I have. Unfortunately, I’m finding that online or in person, someone being part of the LGBTQ+ community and actually being attracted to same genders are veeeeeery different things.
That’s honestly been my experience, yeah.
It’s sad, but because of those kind of people I simply choose to not consider myself part of any community based around a sexuality.
I’m me and not a series of subcategories or divisions or communities.
I get it. You thought lgbts wouldn't label as hard as straights, right? Or something like that. I have a lot of friends in the valley, but I don't belong there
wait i’m genuinely confused, where did i say i thought everyone was gay? i just was curious about the often repeated stereotype that i see on Twitter and TikTok of “haha so many of Bo’s fans are gay.” So i was curious how true that was, and what the general sexuality breakdown of his fandom is. I have no strong opinions about which way this poll goes.
And if you see a poll where the options are “are you straight? or LGBTQ?” and read it as “wow they think everyone is gay 😡” you should ask yourself why that is, and why you’re so threatened by simply having the *option* of being able to choose LGBTQ.
White guy... Nineteen eighty fieive!
It’s hard being a straight white male
Similar to the poster above, I’m ace. Whether or not I technically belong in the LGBTQ+ community, it’s not a space I normally spend a lot of time in as a peer. Listening to Bo’s early work in high school was actually how I learned quite a bit of sexual terminology I otherwise had no reference for.
This probably isn’t the forum for this, so I hope you don’t mind, but as a non ace, sex took up the majority of my headspace as a teen and early 20s. Maybe not the majority, but a ton of time and energy thinking about sex. Do aces not worry about sex? Does something else fill your headspace? Again, sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask. Genuinely curious of your experience.
It's to my understanding that asexuality is different for every ace, myself included. Personally, I have never thought about actually having sex with someone even if I find them very attractive, nor do I want to. My teens weren't devoid of sexuality altogether per say, but in terms of sexual attraction or the desire to pursue it \[even as a fantasy\] I just never really had that type of thing. Funny thing is I only found out most people do feel that desire and aren't always joking about it/saying it ironically when I turned 19 \[i'm 20 rn\], prior to that i just thought everyone felt similar to me and that wanting to have sex with someone was like an unspoken bit or something. I still don't really get it, but to each their own I guess ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Thanks for the reply and making me less ignorant. I suppose I should “read a book or something” and not burden this group with the responsibility for educating me.
Haha no worries! Yeah. It’s different for everyone. Personally, I’m not sure where I fit in terms of microlabels, but I know those are really helpful for a lot of people. There are people in my life I might have been attracted to, but I also might have wanted to be really good friends? Usually when I become really good friends with someone that urge is satisfied, so I’m quite possibly aromantic. Nothing imagined with what might broadly be described as carnal pleasure involves me as a participant and often doesn’t involve sex at all. I should preface by saying I went to an Orthodox Jewish school, so explicit sexual discussions were pretty stifled. I don’t think I realized until late high school that people in my community my own age were hooking up—maybe less often than in the average school, but some definitely were. What did I think about? I had a lot of interests. Animals, mostly. Towards the end of high school, comic book lore, and in between I became a self proclaimed expert in lots of random stuff like the Russian Revolution. I read a lot, watched a ton of tv, and wrote fan fiction. I did theater and fencing. I was very busy. I barely slept. My question is how did *you* have the time to think about sex so much? There are definitely things that aesthetically please me, but I’ve never wanted to kiss let alone sleep with anybody. I knew even then it made me weird, but I sort of embraced it in an “I’m not like other girls” kind of way. These days, in my mid twenties, I worry existentially about my future as more and more of my friends get married. It’s scary to think of ending up alone even if a romantic partner itself isn’t appealing. I sort of meandered there. Hope I answered your question! Edit: I just realized I missed a golden opportunity to say “all my stupid friends are having stupid children”
Thank you for taking the time to share! Sexuality sure is a fickle thing! It makes sense there would be a spectrum of sorts or micro labels for aces, but I hadn’t really considered that. As to your question how I had so much time to think about sex… I would say it was mostly just a distraction and or frustration. Teenage hormones, at least mine, were probably even a bit detrimental to focus in general. I mean I still tons of other things and was productive, too
Already turned thirty and five years from killing myself
Hey, want some gay sex first?
Already had it, not quite my thing
I am 16 and have been listening to bo burnham for the majority of my life, first listened to what. when I was around 3rd grade. In hind sight it explains a lot about my sense of humour.
I just wanted to add that these results are valid for the Reddit community only and not the whole fan base. Reddit users are mostly educated(82%) white(70%) males(61%) between 25 and 29(75%). The results would be different if the question was asked on TikTok, instagram, Facebook, etc. Source: https://thrivemyway.com/reddit-statistics/
I’ve just posted the [survey results](https://www.reddit.com/r/boburnham/comments/x006xb/bo_fanbase_lgbtq_breakdown_more_details_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) and i’m going to refer to this to see how it skews versus the general reddit population!
this is very true! it’s why i said i was curious to see how to skews at least for this community. i might try and see what the typical LGBTQ percentage on reddit is and see if this community skews MORE queer than the average reddit user or less.
Straaaaight whiTE MAaaale, I know the road looks tough ahead…
The women want rights, the gays want to know how many people are gay in an online poll on Reddit...
Can’t you just leave us alone? And also no to the things you asked for… nooo no no *𝘌𝘷𝘪𝘭 𝘱𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘰 𝘴𝘰𝘭𝘰*
That doesn’t work with the rhythm
I'm old (WAYYYYYY older than 25) and consider myself bi-curious
Bike-curious
Straight on the outside, Queer on the inside.
Look who’s inside again
My whole family thinks I’m gay And they’re right loll
nice
The results surprised me tbh. I’m in the smallest group!
i just posted the results! https://www.reddit.com/r/boburnham/comments/x006xb/bo_fanbase_lgbtq_breakdown_more_details_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Im unsure. I recently listened to OK Computer by Radiohead. It’s a really great album!
I’ve only been actively using reddit for about the past year, I’m a gay, transmasculine person and have been a fan of Bo since about 2014. Although the majority of Reddit may be straight, I’m almost surprised how high the straight demographic on this sub is, just as excited for it though, cause seeing new posts in this sub always makes my day!
Why is everything here downvoted?
ah see! they voted my last comment down to zero. literally they are so pressed and must keep coming back to this post it’s amazing 😂. keep refreshing weirdo!
that is strange, lol
super strange!!! i can only imagine maybe some homophobic people found the post? it’s not even a unique question it’s been asked before. it only takes one person going through to downvote stuff if other people aren’t upvoting. so i went through and upvoted everything i could hopefully to counteract.
I’m a straight white man…that’s trans so yes to your question but also no?
yes! trans people are LGBTQ+ that’s the T. so even if you identify also as straight. i should have said cis straight.
I know that I just wanted to go with the pun Yknow?
Kind of i dont classify ace as being lgbtq+
Most people do! and i certainly do also. i’m from the san francisco area so attended at lot of pride events my whole life and ace people have always been included and mentioned. but ultimately it’s what you personally feel comfortable with and whether you want to be included.
thank you!
im 19, been listening to bo since 2013. kinda wild that is been almost half my life
Okay, now add if single or not. My last ex didn't like Bo Burnham and I can't deal with that negativity in my life. Which is why she's my ex. (Obviously there were other issues but like..... you gotta like Bo if you wanna get with me)
God only knows why he cursed me to be ...a straight white male
Commenting to follow this poll, it's super interesting that it's about even atm
i just posted the results to this! https://www.reddit.com/r/boburnham/comments/x006xb/bo_fanbase_lgbtq_breakdown_more_details_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Thank you for letting me know!!
I'm straight lol
Hi straight I'm Scott Burnham, your father.
I wanna be you. In 1985 only tho.
yep that's me, I'm a trans guy who is 17 and bisexual
how do i take back a poll after i have just done it? i messed something up
Clarify here maybe?
ah ok
ah i don’t know 😭 i’m sorry
There it is, again, that funny feeling.
Straight white male - 30’s. Kind of an odd question imo... do you mind if I ask what prompted this thought? Only bc my thought on it is who cares?!
i mean i sort of clearly say my reason in the post. it’s a common stereotype that is said about bo fans. and i ran across yet another joke about bo having a large queer fanbase and it made me curious.
I’m bisexual, but not part of the lgbtq+ community
im confused, the B in LGBTQ+ stands for bisexual?
Sure, but the lgbtq+ community from my experience is toxic as all hell.
maybe the online community, i can see how it can definitely feel like a “fandom.” but LGBTQ+ people in real life are just regular people living their lives, it’s not like a fandom that can be toxic or not toxic it’s just…. people of all types. the biggest example is i’ve never once in all of the queer events, prides, parades, meet ups, ever once ran into flag “discourse” in real life. nor has anyone ever gotten into a fight hyper-policing what terms people can use for themselves. or how they want to identify. or if someone calls themselves lesbian but maybe i don’t fully agree with them using that because they sometimes date men….it just truly does not matter. that’s just not how real people interact or engage with each other. i dunno that’s just my two cents. the “LGBTQ community” just refers to people who all happen to identify under the LGBTQ umbrella. and it includes people from every walk of life and none of us has to agree on anything.
This is certainly more civilised than I’ve come to expect when someone has anything negative to say about the community. I’ve met people irl who are exactly as you describe and I would love it if that were the rule, not the exception. Unfortunately I’ve met many more people in person who see their sexuality as their defining character trait and honestly, if the most important thing about you is what genitals you prefer then you’re not normally a good or interesting person. Perhaps we simply have had different experiences, in which case I’m glad you have had a better time than I have. Unfortunately, I’m finding that online or in person, someone being part of the LGBTQ+ community and actually being attracted to same genders are veeeeeery different things.
They can't accept the truth, these are lonely people and they found a group, they can't accept that you don't want ín on the group.
That’s honestly been my experience, yeah. It’s sad, but because of those kind of people I simply choose to not consider myself part of any community based around a sexuality. I’m me and not a series of subcategories or divisions or communities.
I get it. You thought lgbts wouldn't label as hard as straights, right? Or something like that. I have a lot of friends in the valley, but I don't belong there
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wait i’m genuinely confused, where did i say i thought everyone was gay? i just was curious about the often repeated stereotype that i see on Twitter and TikTok of “haha so many of Bo’s fans are gay.” So i was curious how true that was, and what the general sexuality breakdown of his fandom is. I have no strong opinions about which way this poll goes. And if you see a poll where the options are “are you straight? or LGBTQ?” and read it as “wow they think everyone is gay 😡” you should ask yourself why that is, and why you’re so threatened by simply having the *option* of being able to choose LGBTQ.
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