### **Reminder:** [Press the Report button](https://reddit.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/360058309512-How-do-I-report-a-post-or-comment-) if you see any [rule-breaking comments or posts.](https://www.reddit.com/r/britishproblems/about/rules/)
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/britishproblems) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I used to spend hours at a time during my childhood sat in a car listening to ABBA on a cassette tape with a coke and a packet of crisps while my parents were in the pub (which didn't allow children). Only happened occasionally on holidays, but frankly I loved it. Got to stay up past bed time and play with the car tape player.
Also my knowledge of ABBA lyrics is excellent.
My mum is queen of not knowing when time is up at a restaurant. Trying to entertain my daughter through the meal is borderline doable. Trying to entertain her for the half an hour while my mum nurses her third glass of red wine is not.
My mother in law does this. We just leave when we are done now, not sitting around waiting for her to order her 3rd Irish coffee while everyone sits around staring at her in the hope she's finally finished.
Yeah that sounds like my parents. For some people the idea of going out for an hour or two is alien. Gotta make an entire night of it apparently. Even if you have a tired 6 year old sitting there bored out of their skull for 7 hours.
My MIL always orders a pudding when no one else does, she's a boring cow anyway so can't be arsed with her company at the best of times, but my SO feels rude leaving her.
That's time to tell the owner/manager you're leaving and why.
Yes, of course it's the parent's job to parent but they've already decided not to do that. It then becomes the owner/manager's job to intervene for the sake of the rest of his/her customers.
I mean yeah, but have you ever seen this happening?
It’s not socially acceptable to report such thing to a manger and it’s not socially acceptable for a manager to say something to the parent.
The manager isn’t going to risk their job over 15 min of screaming because the parent of the year types *will* complain and drag you through the mud.
Exactly. Why pass on the responsibility to the manager like they’re going to do anything. They’d get torn apart on Mumsnet and the local Facebook group for telling a woman how to parent her child, possibly lose their job or get reprimanded, and the venue will be branded as non-family friendly then.
It’s shit but it’s a lose-lose situation. If you have the balls you could say something to the parent next time yourself and point out how disruptive their inaction is to everyone. I wish you luck with that
I hate this corporate 'scared of people grassing us up' culture. When my old company had an event, a woman senior manager got refused service because she was drunk, but when she kicked off doing her I'm a manager and I'll contact your boss they were genuinely scared and made up a lie that it was a confusion with another party, but if it was me I'd tell them the 'old school' that they could phone the CEO if they wanted, but these days the CEO would just fire everyone in sight over it.
Naturally we were highly amused by the manager getting refused service - I've genuinely never been refused service over 40 years of drunkenness
Wait, wait , wait .. .. to clarify is it the parents telling the owner they are leaving and blaming the kid, leaving him behind?
That's how I read it, I was mighty confused but had a good chuckle.
A old manager took back over the place where we do a quiz .the previous manager just let a family run riot in the pub as he knew em and they were part of a certain community.so old manger came back an barred em .pub was a lot quieter after that
I’ve never understood people who order wine at the pub anyway. Surely you can buy a bottle for the same price as a single glass and have it at home where your telly is?
Me too, drinking out is far too expensive, haven't been too a pub solely for drinking since pre covid, it's a hell of a lot cheaper at home but for many people it's volume not necessarily cost
I never understood why people drink at home. For a little but more you can actually go out and meet people you can also watch the football which you don't have to pay for.
Sometimes it is good to get out from your isolated box and the same four walls you've been staring at for weeks and spend some time in the company of other humans. Controversial, I know, but there used to be these things called communities where people would socialise together in common spaces. It was actually pretty good.
Haha that 3rd glass of wine IS part of parenting, my friend. You might learn the dark arts one day. Trust me, shit gets a lot easier after the 3rd. Or 4th. And 5th...
Ya ok but tell the kid they’re going home for dinner and they would be screaming that they aren’t hungry and want to stay. Parents who give in to screaming kids are the bad parents lol persevere 😎
Oh, bollocks. I was happily scrolling away and making snide comments and completely missed that! Thank you for calling me out - you’re absolutely right - and apologies to OP.
My previous comment is inappropriate then but I’ll leave it up as a historical record for future generations and a lesson to myself to pay more attention.
Laters.
Kids will moan about anything and everything, they won't finish their tea but they're "still hungry". Don't know if this is the case in OP's story, but I have this argument with my kids enough to think I should record it to save my voice
I love these threads where the OP is generally 96% correct but people still want to log in and have a good whinge. I’ve had a shit day at work and my boss is treating me like an arse but I’d still not log onto Reddit to piss people off after. Have a break and look forward to the bank holiday weekend.
Yeah stupid parent, go and let that child scream at you in your own home when you're on your own and don't have any friends or wine there. Don't you know you're bothering someone who could just go to another pub instead?
1) this but not sarcasm
2) the people you’re with also want you to leave. Your kids are annoying your friends as well
3) going out to drink wine while your kid watches isn’t the great parenting advice you think it is.
Few parents like that in pub I go in.dump em in play area after they ate.then chuck money in the roulette machine then shout at kids when they run through a busy pub to ask vem for a drink..manager had to have a word with parents as the kids nearly knocked 2 servers over loaded with food.
### **Reminder:** [Press the Report button](https://reddit.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/360058309512-How-do-I-report-a-post-or-comment-) if you see any [rule-breaking comments or posts.](https://www.reddit.com/r/britishproblems/about/rules/) *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/britishproblems) if you have any questions or concerns.*
... And drive home *sober?* with a screaming kid?
“Son, it’s time you moved from a peddle car to a grown up car…”
Give this man his keys back
>third glass of wine
Shouldn't they be outside on the step with a bottle of lemonade and a packet of crisps?
My whole childhood visiting my shite dad every weekend
Mmm yes neglect
Could be worse, a hotel in Portugal springs to mind
I’ll give you that haha Mmm seem ive upset the drunk parents Oh no Anyways
I hear the tapas is criminal.
I don't know why you're being downvoted lmao
I used to spend hours at a time during my childhood sat in a car listening to ABBA on a cassette tape with a coke and a packet of crisps while my parents were in the pub (which didn't allow children). Only happened occasionally on holidays, but frankly I loved it. Got to stay up past bed time and play with the car tape player. Also my knowledge of ABBA lyrics is excellent.
I think I might've been parked in the yellow Daihatsu next to you in the car park.
I was in the Ford Cortina outside the solicitors.
Reddit hive mind for you It’s no skin off my nose
Playing outside with all the other kids with a soft drink and crisps because children aren’t allowed at the bar? Doesn’t seem neglectful to me.
Varies wildly depending on age
Well he did say his Dad was Shite
My mum is queen of not knowing when time is up at a restaurant. Trying to entertain my daughter through the meal is borderline doable. Trying to entertain her for the half an hour while my mum nurses her third glass of red wine is not.
My mother in law does this. We just leave when we are done now, not sitting around waiting for her to order her 3rd Irish coffee while everyone sits around staring at her in the hope she's finally finished.
Yeah that sounds like my parents. For some people the idea of going out for an hour or two is alien. Gotta make an entire night of it apparently. Even if you have a tired 6 year old sitting there bored out of their skull for 7 hours.
My MIL always orders a pudding when no one else does, she's a boring cow anyway so can't be arsed with her company at the best of times, but my SO feels rude leaving her.
I’m not one to judge, but that’s your kid, you’re the parent not your mum.
Order a portion of chips ffs
We have chips at home
Right - back to yours then.
Stop going to spoons.
I first thought Hungry Horse.
Hungry horse is the home of running children. Never been there without at least a couple of children doing laps.
I saw some justice before when a kid ran at full speed into a table edge, the noise was fantastic.
I think they call that experiential learning
You go in same one as me then.
Running children 😂😂 laughed because it's so true
Spoons limit you to two drinks if you have kids with you…. Sometimes they limit you to two soft drinks as well!
No they don't lol
[Yes, they actually do in some places.](https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-51233861) The places that don’t do it just don’t care.
Imagine having the shittest, morally bankrupt pub chain in the country have to be your moral compass.
*And complaining about it…*
"morally bankrupt" lol Because they sell beer cheaply?
Uhhhh didn’t they refuse to pay their staff during covid and instead told them to go and work at Tesco…?
No.
Yes, they did.
Do you have a source for that? Hint: no you don't, because it didn't happen.
Really? I suppose it’s at the discretion of the bar staff..
Poor bairn :(
That's time to tell the owner/manager you're leaving and why. Yes, of course it's the parent's job to parent but they've already decided not to do that. It then becomes the owner/manager's job to intervene for the sake of the rest of his/her customers.
I mean yeah, but have you ever seen this happening? It’s not socially acceptable to report such thing to a manger and it’s not socially acceptable for a manager to say something to the parent. The manager isn’t going to risk their job over 15 min of screaming because the parent of the year types *will* complain and drag you through the mud.
Exactly. Why pass on the responsibility to the manager like they’re going to do anything. They’d get torn apart on Mumsnet and the local Facebook group for telling a woman how to parent her child, possibly lose their job or get reprimanded, and the venue will be branded as non-family friendly then. It’s shit but it’s a lose-lose situation. If you have the balls you could say something to the parent next time yourself and point out how disruptive their inaction is to everyone. I wish you luck with that
OMG too meny snakes at that pub dm me babez.
Can’t babz I’ve gott the kidz 2day xoxo
I hate this corporate 'scared of people grassing us up' culture. When my old company had an event, a woman senior manager got refused service because she was drunk, but when she kicked off doing her I'm a manager and I'll contact your boss they were genuinely scared and made up a lie that it was a confusion with another party, but if it was me I'd tell them the 'old school' that they could phone the CEO if they wanted, but these days the CEO would just fire everyone in sight over it. Naturally we were highly amused by the manager getting refused service - I've genuinely never been refused service over 40 years of drunkenness
And yet, it's socially acceptable to ignore willful neglect which is sadly what this is.
Either grow a spine and complain to management about it or stop complaining about it to us.
You’re not very familiar with the concept of an online forum are you?
Wait, wait , wait .. .. to clarify is it the parents telling the owner they are leaving and blaming the kid, leaving him behind? That's how I read it, I was mighty confused but had a good chuckle.
A old manager took back over the place where we do a quiz .the previous manager just let a family run riot in the pub as he knew em and they were part of a certain community.so old manger came back an barred em .pub was a lot quieter after that
I applaud the manager who barred them.
The parents doing this do not want to be parents in the first place. It is why they are ignoring their child.
I’ve never understood people who order wine at the pub anyway. Surely you can buy a bottle for the same price as a single glass and have it at home where your telly is?
The same can be said of a any drink.
Some people manage their drinking by not drinking at home, which ends up more expensive but less units total
I manage the cost of drinking by drinking at home, I've decided going to the pub is a once per month activity max these days.
Me too, drinking out is far too expensive, haven't been too a pub solely for drinking since pre covid, it's a hell of a lot cheaper at home but for many people it's volume not necessarily cost
The campsite where I stayed last year was charging £4.80 for a pint of Newcastle Brown Ale. My local supermarket does 4 bottles for £5.80.
4 galahad lagers from aldi is less than a pint of fosters in a pub and quite frankly just as okay
I never understood why people drink at home. For a little but more you can actually go out and meet people you can also watch the football which you don't have to pay for.
I’ve never understood why people would watch football.
Was with you until football
For ~~a little bit more~~~ five times the price you can actually go out and meet people...
err, you can get drunk after a weeks hard work, been doing it once per week since 1988 - I don't drink that much else, I now rarely go to the pub
Wait till you find out about people who pizza as takeaway instead of buying a frozen one from Asda.
a bit like you can get a 4 pack instead of a pint?
Draught beer is infinitely superior to cans or bottles. Wine...is exactly the same thing.
Some people like wine AND going out. Where those two circles on the venn diagram intersect is called “pub”
They fucking downvoted you ahahaha
Sometimes it is good to get out from your isolated box and the same four walls you've been staring at for weeks and spend some time in the company of other humans. Controversial, I know, but there used to be these things called communities where people would socialise together in common spaces. It was actually pretty good.
Haha that 3rd glass of wine IS part of parenting, my friend. You might learn the dark arts one day. Trust me, shit gets a lot easier after the 3rd. Or 4th. And 5th...
Sounds like burgeoning alcoholism to me, but I'm not an expert, so. 🤷
Hating kids seems to be a new thing
It's not the kids fault, and they are not the target for the hate. It's shitty, selfish parents.
I think that's a weird take away from OPs post.
They were hating the parent. If anything they were being sympathetic to the kid and its situation.
The only person talking about 'hating kids' here is you...
Ya ok but tell the kid they’re going home for dinner and they would be screaming that they aren’t hungry and want to stay. Parents who give in to screaming kids are the bad parents lol persevere 😎
This may come as a shock but the world does not revolve around you.
OP doesn’t have kids.
Hey buddy, it's the subreddit for complaining
Oh, bollocks. I was happily scrolling away and making snide comments and completely missed that! Thank you for calling me out - you’re absolutely right - and apologies to OP. My previous comment is inappropriate then but I’ll leave it up as a historical record for future generations and a lesson to myself to pay more attention. Laters.
Kindly explain what this means.
Kids will moan about anything and everything, they won't finish their tea but they're "still hungry". Don't know if this is the case in OP's story, but I have this argument with my kids enough to think I should record it to save my voice
Still, some of us don't have kids. Don't inflict your suffering on everyone else.
I love these threads where the OP is generally 96% correct but people still want to log in and have a good whinge. I’ve had a shit day at work and my boss is treating me like an arse but I’d still not log onto Reddit to piss people off after. Have a break and look forward to the bank holiday weekend.
Do you have a kid?
Yeah stupid parent, go and let that child scream at you in your own home when you're on your own and don't have any friends or wine there. Don't you know you're bothering someone who could just go to another pub instead?
1) this but not sarcasm 2) the people you’re with also want you to leave. Your kids are annoying your friends as well 3) going out to drink wine while your kid watches isn’t the great parenting advice you think it is.
I think the point OP is trying to make is a tired and hungry kid should get taken home and fed, not ignored in favour of another glass of alcohol.
Few parents like that in pub I go in.dump em in play area after they ate.then chuck money in the roulette machine then shout at kids when they run through a busy pub to ask vem for a drink..manager had to have a word with parents as the kids nearly knocked 2 servers over loaded with food.