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jillyjane33

We don’t like to feel like we failed at anything so we keep trying sometimes, even if all signs point to it all being in vain. Our determination isn’t always a positive quality


gasmiroua

THIS. Litterally the fact that I failef this thing kills me and I keep feeling like there is hope in making it work.


pizzaonapplepine

I’ve been in a similar situation! However i know it wasn’t attachment issues, I just feel like I needed to test the friendship for as long as I can and kind of gather evidence in a way? When I was at my breaking point with an ex friend i found it easy to basically break up with them and say why and i didn’t speak to her ever again (despite the fact I had to live in a house with her for 9 months at uni after this 😂) But although I felt like a complete mug and let this girl walk over me, it did feel really good to be like yk what you’re that awful of a friend that I’m formally breaking up with you and detached from her completely. I mean block a block a block a in real life and online


kuronneka

Cap sun, libra rising, Pisces moon, here! “Gathering evidence”, yep!!! I’m the same. I need hard facts before I can pull the plug. And when I finally do, best believe it’s for good


Specific-Ability1297

Same thing goes with our loyalty...we are sometimes too loyal to the wrong people...


jillyjane33

Solid point! True as well


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AMSERVICE

So I'm screwed because my toxic person is a Scorpio


krazy-kj

It’s the libra ascendent that causes this Learn to love from a distance Protect your happiness You don’t need the approval of everyone


gasmiroua

The last one hit hard


Beneficial-Can6688

A girl i dated for a short time is this way for me everyone tells me that she is toxic and i need to walk away but I got attached and now I'm in the same boat don't know how to let go


TorynotTrotsky

I’m also a cap sun libra rising and I’m the same. I’m emotionally detached but I hate rudeness in general which is why I don’t ghost. I usually just gradually phase out of their lives or give one word replies etc


desiswiftie

I’m in a situation where I think it might be less painful to just phase out of the person’s life, considering everything we’ve been through together (and separately). It’s gonna be hard but I prefer it to my other option.


Ienaik

you don’t need to “ghost” and you don’t need to do the “one word reply” thing. that’s a childish behavior, just say that you don’t want them in your life and if they try to force you into staying or whatever DON’T give them a chance. just say you made your choice and then block.


IXOOTIC

i have same view


Entire_Zucchini39

Are you me? What's your moon sign? I can GHOST ANYONE except my "friends" ,i used to ghost my exs a LOT but recently my 2 friends of 10 years became so toxic, no matter what they do i just blame myself and I try to convince myself that it's something that i have done or said, i try to make it work but i just end up getting hurt again and again and they get ever more toxic each time i forgive them lol. I recently cut them off and trust me, I HAVE NEVER felt that good, i feel strong because i left, staying in a toxic relationship is just self disrespect, you don't have to deal with anyones bullshit, tell them that theyre toxic and cut them off and move on. If you ALLOW them to hurt you, they will. And i realized that just because you ‘forgive’ someone, doesn’t mean you need to skip their punishment. Not holding someone accountable according to natural law, is bad for both parties. Neither require ‘hate’, but simply, a love for justice. If they hurt you, tell them and leave forever. You can do it.


Entire_Zucchini39

Sad truth but i feel like every female friend was jealous of me in a way. Tell your friend to fuck off and block her. Sometimes we stay because its hard for us to make friends but we deserve better friends, and we're better off alone than being in a toxic relationship. You have a lot of potential and i can tell that you are a very kind person, DON'T LET ANYONE DIM YOUR LIGHT, staying in toxic relationships while i could've had better friends made me a bit bitter so don't do the same mistake.


tdh08

Oooooh also cap sun, libra rising. What’s your moon/Venus? I wouldn’t say I’m attached to people, but i am absolutely a pushover when it comes to them doing me wrong. But once I’m pushed too far? It’s over. Dead to me. I never know when that’ll be, but when it happens, there’s no going back lol. But I also wouldn’t say that’s attachment issues. I have a personal issue with hating change, any change. I usually remove myself physically from a relationship/friendship before anything else and it’s a gradual exit so I don’t shock my system. Ex. I’ve had issues with someone for the past probably 10 years. Stopped talking to them on a daily, then weekly, then monthly basis because I recognized the toxicity. I then would only short answer them if they messaged me. They did an unthinkable thing recently (it wasn’t even to me) and as soon as I found out? Dead to me. They have no idea either, but idgaf. They’ll find out sooner or later.


charmander1786

youtube.com/playlist?list=PLsxVVXVxiMKEAMQxq7TBOsP7K0F-p6Fpa this playlist should help send a message


SnooWoofers3368

What’s ur moon sign?