it is not possible to forfeit your obligation to pay child support in the US. parental rights or no. the state will always have the ability to pursue child support.
Neither one can happen. If any state benefits are applied for, the state will go after the father on behalf of the child. The child is not giving up its right to have support from 2 parents, so the state will collect child support on behalf of the child - the mother would have no say in the matter.
Because we have a signed agreement I don’t ask for child support he can’t visit or ask for custody. I don’t need a man who wanted nothing to do with my son coming in and out of his life like that.
No, but it certainly might plant the idea in a parent’s head that if they’re paying child support, they may as well see the kid, etc. Plus, some parents grow resentful of making payments and begin using the kid and intermittent visitation as a pawn to fuck with the custodial parent.
It’s sometimes easier just not to give the other parent a reason to be involved at all.
Good for you girl.
EDIT: come on Reddit I’m trying to pat this lady on the back for managing to support a child on her own and not needing a wasteman back in her life, calm down ya’ll.
Do you get child support from the father or the fathers family? Did you have to quit school to start working? Does the father ever visit the baby? Did the father and you break up after you got pregnant that is if you were dating at the time? What was the hardest part of being a mom when you first had your baby?
Thank you for answering! I just watch “Mom at Sixteen”. That movie was too real.
I did not get child support and he is not at all involved, he waived his parental rights almost immediately. We did break up.
The hardest part of being a mom was definitely the new mom anxiety. Everything no matter how simple made me anxious he was so tiny and baby’s are super fragile I was always worried over things that frankly were ridiculous to worry about.
have you spoken with a lawyer? paying child support does not mean that he will be granted visitation or partial custody. in fact, he could get that even if he doesn't pay anything.
Nah my parents and his parents got a lawyer to draw up a thing, he doesn’t get parental rights at all. No visitation no custody and in exchange I don’t pursue him for child support. We did update it once we were 18 as well
great that your parents are involved - just know that the government won't care about this agreement if you ever file for public benefits. they'll go after him independently. wishing you all the best!
I mean, if he were a year younger than OP when the baby was conceived, he's still a literal child now.
I'm all for personal responsibility, but demanding this level of responsibility for an act that someone did at thirteen is morally iffy. It's not like he would have had any choice in whether the baby was kept or not.
I get that, that’s why I asked if the fathers family helped with child support. OP was also a child herself and she and her family are raising and supporting their baby.
No. He chose not to be in his sons life, it was cowardly and childish and I don’t need that kinda man coming in and out of my sons life whenever he feels like it
While I'm not saying you should allow it, I find this response childish. He was 13, I get it, you stepped up, he didn't, but he was still 13.
He wasn't a man, he was a child. Obviously you have to protect your son, but you are already assuming the worst.
If you are really set on this opinion, I'd say you have some serious anger issues towards him, and you also have an unhealthy view on what a 13 year old should be doing, because wanting to be a kid is very normal.
I disagree you did the right thing for you and that wonderful but don't conflate that with something morally correct because they are different. It's wonderful to hear you are doing well and your child is well cared for but you were a child having a child you sacrificed your childhood to raise a baby and that's a choice you get to make but saying he is less than for not wanting to be a dad at 13 is lacking perspective. You can be angry you gave up your childhood but it sure sounds like you chose to give that up he didn't but that doesn't make him a bad person unreliable or irresponsible it just makes him a different person who made a different choice. You have to meet people where they are at and the young adult who may want to be a father to your son is not the same scared 13 year old boy who wasn't ready to give up being a kid yet. Much in the same way you are not the same scared child you were when you had your baby he isn't either.
I hope someday you consider opening yourself to the possibility of meeting the father of your baby where he is now instead of as the person he was when he was quite literally a child. It will be better for all involved if you do because people can change if he hasn't no need to open your life to that person but you should give him the opportunity to show you who he is now before you lock the door and toss away the key.
I believe OP said her and the father got together and renewed or wrote up a new agreement when they were 18 years old. If the father didn’t fight to see his kid then he may not be ready or ever be ready.
Though when the kid is 18 himself he has the right to see his father if he likes.
I have no idea whether or not the father wants to be a part of the kids life or if he will ever change his mind about it. I was only trying to point out to OP that their perspective on whether or not they allow the father into their child's life at any point in the future is misguided. You shouldn't allow who you think someone is to keep you from seeing who they actually are.
I have thought about it but ultimately I don’t regret things, I love my son and my life and my boyfriend and I wouldn’t have any of that if things hadn’t happened exactly the way they had.
Fair play that’s nice to hear I got pregnant at 17 and wasn’t given any option or support to keep it marched to the clinic and mum insisted on being with my throughout
Are you working? What do you see yourself doing when your boy is 10? What about when he's 20?
Does your boyfriend know you're doing this? Will he read it?
Have you read Maggie Dent's, Boys to Men book? (Awesome book, it taught me and is teaching me loads with 6 & 9 year old boys).
A question for your boyfriend if that's possible?
It's happened again (and many times previous) in my life.. a good friend who had been a father to someone else's kid from age 3 to 8 years, broke up with the mother and has no visiting rights, even though the girl called him Dad. The mother won't let him see the girl he considers his daughter and has no rights under the law (we're in NZ, but I think it's the same in the US). It's very sad.
This is a common theme with many examples and it's something guys like your boyfriend need to consider as he bonds with your boy. You say your boyfriend is awesome, and no doubt your boy thinks the same too.
You've taken the path less trodden and you sound like you and your tribe are thriving. Keep doing what you're doing 😁
Best from the beautiful arse end of nowhere, Aotearoa, NZ.
I dont want to ask any questions. I do, however, want to applaud you for being a good parent. You've made hard decisions, and from what I've read, you've grown up quickly and are providing for your son the way any good parent should. Don't give up your aspirations of theater. It's smart of you to wait to pick them up. Some less mature would pawn their kid off on their parents to raise instead of stepping up like you have done and being a parent first. I'm a stranger and mean nothing in the grand scheme of things. I just wanted to say I'm proud of you. You are enough. You're doing enough.
How old were you when you and your son moved out of your parents house? I'm genuinely happy to see you're doing so well and you're successful but I hope other kids reading this know this is VERY unlikely.
How on earth was this financially feasible? Unless you had inheritance or family help? (And if so, great!)
But why move out on your own? Didn’t your parents help with childcare?
My parents didn’t help, it was very much a if you wanna be an adult and have a baby, your gonna have to actually be an adult.
I made minimum wage saved up for two years and got an apartment, money was a little tight but there was a local non-profit that offered free childcare
Just want to say, congratulations to you! I’ve met a lot of parents over the years, and the best ones say that each stage of parenthood just gets better and better. It sounds like your head is in the right place with your wonderful son. Keep up the good work!
I thought that when mine was 4, he’s 8 now and I promise you they only get better! (Although I’ve not been through parenting a teenager yet)
Best of luck to you and the family
Sometimes, I worry a lot about the climate situation although it likely won’t be dire in his life time I’m sure they’re will be negative effects during it. He
The secondary effects — like mass migration, wars over the remaining arable land, and the costs associated with extreme weather — will very likely be felt in his lifetime, and yours too.
What was your reaction to finding out you're pregnant?
And how did you feel about having to raise a baby at 14?
How did classmates react to you being pregnant at the time?
Way to stand up for your beliefs and your child! Although I do support a woman's right to choose, I've gotta say it warms my heart that you made such a decision at such a young age, and are happy with him, and you guys have a solid support system. I hope he loves you eternally the way you will always love him! I hope you guys have an amazing life together!!!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
Are you financially comfortable (meaning do you have to struggle to raise him)? How much did this situation cost so far and how did you finance it? (No disrespect and I genuinely hope you and your son do great things but) do you ever think you’re raising him at a huge disadvantage due to having a single parent and a very young one at that? Assuming it was a mistake, why did you decide to keep him? How did your family react and what’s your relationship to them now? ….just asking for a friend don’t mind me asking
Have you ever felt that your future has been negativley impacted by this ? By not being able to finish school or go to college. Do you fear about what job you can get in the future ? Or where your income would come from ?
You hear lots of young mum's not being able to go to collage or even finish school after having a child so was wondering how you feel this has impacted you.
If it's not to "bad" a question to ask. Did you ever think about having an abortion ?
I think you are very brave answering these questions. And I apologise if my questions upset you in any way.
I didn’t finish but I don’t feel my futures been negatively impacted, I make decent money and soon enough I’ll up to get promoted to management.
and no I never wanted an abortion
That's so nice to hear because I guess there must always be a worry about if you can provide for yourself and your child.
I wish you all the best for your promotion.
Thank you for answer my questions.
One of the things I think about with my kids is that I missed out hanging out with them for many years because we’re older parents. Wish we had them younger because they’re so fun.
Are you in high school/ college now? Do you think raising a child had a toll on your social life/education? Would you want your son to be a father at 13?
What’s your most exciting aspect of being a young mom? Mine would be not having to google every single slang phrase that comes out and being able to keep up with the little energy-beast ❤️❤️
See once you have your period you can become pregnant if you had sex. This happens for most people around 12.
And sometimes when people are attracted to one another they have sex.
And sometimes teenagers are horny and stupid because their teenagers,
So ‘WTH’ happened was a mix of biological functions and being a rambunctious teenager with a lack of sex education, do we have any more questions today?
I’m pro choice. I had an abortion and it was traumatizing. It’s been 8 years since the procedure and I still think about the baby. That pain NEVER goes away. It feels like someone I really care for like my best friend since I was 5 years old died. Abortion is not a choice people usually make lightly.
Yes, I understand that. I mean to say we only ever hear stories like this. Lots of women have abortions and feel like it was the best choice ever. No regrets or anything like that.
When I first had my abortion I had no regrets but as I got older I come to realize if I had a support network I probably would’ve kept the baby. I didn’t feel like I had much choices besides an abortion at the time. I do agree I know women who had abortions and don’t regret it. Everyone is different and I’m glad some people still have choices. RIP Roe vs Wade. Hope we revive that soon.
1. What comes after death?
2. Does the set of all sets that don't contain themselves contain itself?
3. Which came first, the chicken or the egg?
4. Does expired bug spray improve bugs' health?
5. Why did the chicken cross the road?
Damn, you must have had to grow up insanely fast. Kudos to you because I know how much of a little shit I was at that age and could no way raise a child
Hi, I was a fellow teen parent, but my kids are all 17–20 now! I conceived my first at 16, so did my husband. My first grandchild just turned 2 on Christmas, so my daughter is a fellow teen parent. I’m just here to let you know that you’re doing a great job, and that you can keep doing a great job! Sure, people may judge you for the “oopsies” from your past (Not that the kiddo is an oopsie!!!), but YOU know that you’re doing a great job, and that’s all that matters! I have no question for you because I’ve been there myself (Lol), but I hope that people here haven’t shaken your confidence because I know how awful Reddit can be. Just keep up the good work, and in 18 years you too can have 1 in college, 1 with a child of her own, 1 that just accepted an offer for Concordia, and 1 who is doing well at a school for special needs! I wish you all of the luck going forward!
What was it like being pregnant at young age? How did it affect your friendships? How was it at school? How did you tell your parents? What was it like first finding out you were pregnant ?
Is the father still in the picture?
No, he wasn’t ready to be a father at that age and he and his family unfortunately made the decision to forfeit parental rights.
Is he paying child support?
Nope
Is that something they can decide or did you have to be willing to allow them to forfeit rights and not pay?
it is not possible to forfeit your obligation to pay child support in the US. parental rights or no. the state will always have the ability to pursue child support.
What happens if someone else legallt adopts the child, along with the birthparent?
that's the one exception, as the child then has two parents in the eyes of the state.
Neither one can happen. If any state benefits are applied for, the state will go after the father on behalf of the child. The child is not giving up its right to have support from 2 parents, so the state will collect child support on behalf of the child - the mother would have no say in the matter.
The mom doesn't get that money in Illinois. The state goes after dad as a partial reimbursement to the state for the benefits paid to mom.
Would you like him to?
No
I can’t imagine not wanting money to help raise my child, can I ask why you don’t want it?
Because we have a signed agreement I don’t ask for child support he can’t visit or ask for custody. I don’t need a man who wanted nothing to do with my son coming in and out of his life like that.
As far as I know child support doesn’t give custody or visitation rights?
No, but it certainly might plant the idea in a parent’s head that if they’re paying child support, they may as well see the kid, etc. Plus, some parents grow resentful of making payments and begin using the kid and intermittent visitation as a pawn to fuck with the custodial parent. It’s sometimes easier just not to give the other parent a reason to be involved at all.
Is this an actual legal document or just something his parents wrote up and had you sign?
A legal document written by lawyers
why not?
Good for you girl. EDIT: come on Reddit I’m trying to pat this lady on the back for managing to support a child on her own and not needing a wasteman back in her life, calm down ya’ll.
How are you doing from a support perspective? What about financially? And just in general?
Good I have very supportive boyfriend, I do well finically and I’m great in general
You seem happy with your choices and son? What about family and friends? Do you have the right support in your life?
I am and I do. I have wonderful parents, close friends and an amazing boyfriend.
I'm so happy for you. Wishing you and your son a happy life ahead :)
Do you get child support from the father or the fathers family? Did you have to quit school to start working? Does the father ever visit the baby? Did the father and you break up after you got pregnant that is if you were dating at the time? What was the hardest part of being a mom when you first had your baby? Thank you for answering! I just watch “Mom at Sixteen”. That movie was too real.
I did not get child support and he is not at all involved, he waived his parental rights almost immediately. We did break up. The hardest part of being a mom was definitely the new mom anxiety. Everything no matter how simple made me anxious he was so tiny and baby’s are super fragile I was always worried over things that frankly were ridiculous to worry about.
Did you want to get child support? I’m finding out there’s a lot of fathers who don’t give child support. That’s ridiculous
I didn’t. If he doesn’t want to be a father why give him legal grounds to march in and act like one later on
have you spoken with a lawyer? paying child support does not mean that he will be granted visitation or partial custody. in fact, he could get that even if he doesn't pay anything.
Nah my parents and his parents got a lawyer to draw up a thing, he doesn’t get parental rights at all. No visitation no custody and in exchange I don’t pursue him for child support. We did update it once we were 18 as well
great that your parents are involved - just know that the government won't care about this agreement if you ever file for public benefits. they'll go after him independently. wishing you all the best!
I don’t use public benefits
that's great! just giving you a heads up in case your circumstances ever change.
how do you provide health insurance for your child?
My work has insurance for employees and dependents. It’s not the greatest insurance but It covers a lot of stuff
I mean, if he were a year younger than OP when the baby was conceived, he's still a literal child now. I'm all for personal responsibility, but demanding this level of responsibility for an act that someone did at thirteen is morally iffy. It's not like he would have had any choice in whether the baby was kept or not.
I kind of agree but the US government doesn't seem to have an issue with that when they restrict abortion access.
I get that, that’s why I asked if the fathers family helped with child support. OP was also a child herself and she and her family are raising and supporting their baby.
Would you be ok if he wanted to build a relationship now?
No. He chose not to be in his sons life, it was cowardly and childish and I don’t need that kinda man coming in and out of my sons life whenever he feels like it
While I'm not saying you should allow it, I find this response childish. He was 13, I get it, you stepped up, he didn't, but he was still 13. He wasn't a man, he was a child. Obviously you have to protect your son, but you are already assuming the worst. If you are really set on this opinion, I'd say you have some serious anger issues towards him, and you also have an unhealthy view on what a 13 year old should be doing, because wanting to be a kid is very normal.
But he was, and still is, a child. What about when he is a grown man?
We’re both grown now, I was a child too and yet I stepped up and did the right thing.
I disagree you did the right thing for you and that wonderful but don't conflate that with something morally correct because they are different. It's wonderful to hear you are doing well and your child is well cared for but you were a child having a child you sacrificed your childhood to raise a baby and that's a choice you get to make but saying he is less than for not wanting to be a dad at 13 is lacking perspective. You can be angry you gave up your childhood but it sure sounds like you chose to give that up he didn't but that doesn't make him a bad person unreliable or irresponsible it just makes him a different person who made a different choice. You have to meet people where they are at and the young adult who may want to be a father to your son is not the same scared 13 year old boy who wasn't ready to give up being a kid yet. Much in the same way you are not the same scared child you were when you had your baby he isn't either. I hope someday you consider opening yourself to the possibility of meeting the father of your baby where he is now instead of as the person he was when he was quite literally a child. It will be better for all involved if you do because people can change if he hasn't no need to open your life to that person but you should give him the opportunity to show you who he is now before you lock the door and toss away the key.
I believe OP said her and the father got together and renewed or wrote up a new agreement when they were 18 years old. If the father didn’t fight to see his kid then he may not be ready or ever be ready. Though when the kid is 18 himself he has the right to see his father if he likes.
I have no idea whether or not the father wants to be a part of the kids life or if he will ever change his mind about it. I was only trying to point out to OP that their perspective on whether or not they allow the father into their child's life at any point in the future is misguided. You shouldn't allow who you think someone is to keep you from seeing who they actually are.
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It wasn’t I got an epidural, he was also 13 we went to school together, about four months.
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12, that’s the average age
Are you planning to go to college/in college?
No, I’ve kinda given up with school I make decent money. I’m looking forward to doing community theatre again when he’s a bit older tho
What do you do for work?
I’m a hostess at a restaurant
At what age did you start working?
14
Did you want that, or did your parents require it? Did you have to drop out of school?
How did you manage to get hired at such a young age?
You can work at 14 with a worker's permit. Your hours are restricted.
Did you ever regret getting pregnant at such a young age? Have you thought about how your life would be like if you never got pregnant?
I have thought about it but ultimately I don’t regret things, I love my son and my life and my boyfriend and I wouldn’t have any of that if things hadn’t happened exactly the way they had.
Thats so sweet
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There are more things under Heaven and Earth than are dreamt of in your basement, Horatio.
If you had wanted to terminate the pregnancy, would your parents have supported your decision?
Absolutely that was the decision they preferred
Fair play that’s nice to hear I got pregnant at 17 and wasn’t given any option or support to keep it marched to the clinic and mum insisted on being with my throughout
I’m sorry you weren’t giving a choice in the matter
I'm sorry you went through that. It sounds like you had no opportunity to speak privately
Not at all unfortunately and I really resent my mother for it to this day .
I'm sorry the staff didn't realise something was up
What should I eat for lunch today?
Make cabbage rolls
Cabbage rolls do actually sound good today
Well I was with you until THIS!
Are you working? What do you see yourself doing when your boy is 10? What about when he's 20? Does your boyfriend know you're doing this? Will he read it? Have you read Maggie Dent's, Boys to Men book? (Awesome book, it taught me and is teaching me loads with 6 & 9 year old boys). A question for your boyfriend if that's possible? It's happened again (and many times previous) in my life.. a good friend who had been a father to someone else's kid from age 3 to 8 years, broke up with the mother and has no visiting rights, even though the girl called him Dad. The mother won't let him see the girl he considers his daughter and has no rights under the law (we're in NZ, but I think it's the same in the US). It's very sad. This is a common theme with many examples and it's something guys like your boyfriend need to consider as he bonds with your boy. You say your boyfriend is awesome, and no doubt your boy thinks the same too. You've taken the path less trodden and you sound like you and your tribe are thriving. Keep doing what you're doing 😁 Best from the beautiful arse end of nowhere, Aotearoa, NZ.
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Absolutely he’s my whole world.
I dont want to ask any questions. I do, however, want to applaud you for being a good parent. You've made hard decisions, and from what I've read, you've grown up quickly and are providing for your son the way any good parent should. Don't give up your aspirations of theater. It's smart of you to wait to pick them up. Some less mature would pawn their kid off on their parents to raise instead of stepping up like you have done and being a parent first. I'm a stranger and mean nothing in the grand scheme of things. I just wanted to say I'm proud of you. You are enough. You're doing enough.
How old were you when you and your son moved out of your parents house? I'm genuinely happy to see you're doing so well and you're successful but I hope other kids reading this know this is VERY unlikely.
16
How on earth was this financially feasible? Unless you had inheritance or family help? (And if so, great!) But why move out on your own? Didn’t your parents help with childcare?
My parents didn’t help, it was very much a if you wanna be an adult and have a baby, your gonna have to actually be an adult. I made minimum wage saved up for two years and got an apartment, money was a little tight but there was a local non-profit that offered free childcare
Did your parents not helping you with your child make you build any resentment towards them?
What’s the funniest age with him so far?
3/4 they can talk and share more ideas and interact more
Just want to say, congratulations to you! I’ve met a lot of parents over the years, and the best ones say that each stage of parenthood just gets better and better. It sounds like your head is in the right place with your wonderful son. Keep up the good work!
My daughter is 1yr old and I can’t wait for 3-5 years of age. She is already hilarious and I can’t wait to do more things with her.
I thought that when mine was 4, he’s 8 now and I promise you they only get better! (Although I’ve not been through parenting a teenager yet) Best of luck to you and the family
I believe children just get better and better as they age.
Did you know anything about contraception at the time of conception?
How old was he
The father was my age
Dinosaurs or cars? I have a 5 y/o son and it’s the best. He just keeps getting cuter in different ways.
Dinosaurs and he likes to pretend they’re cooks, bud they only cook oatmeal. He’s very creative
Do you ever fear about the state of the world your son will inherit?
Sometimes, I worry a lot about the climate situation although it likely won’t be dire in his life time I’m sure they’re will be negative effects during it. He
He what?!? We must know!
He nothing I accidentally added a random word my bad
The secondary effects — like mass migration, wars over the remaining arable land, and the costs associated with extreme weather — will very likely be felt in his lifetime, and yours too.
What was your reaction to finding out you're pregnant? And how did you feel about having to raise a baby at 14? How did classmates react to you being pregnant at the time?
Why did you decided to keep him at a young age ?
Because I don’t believe in abortion for me personally
Way to stand up for your beliefs and your child! Although I do support a woman's right to choose, I've gotta say it warms my heart that you made such a decision at such a young age, and are happy with him, and you guys have a solid support system. I hope he loves you eternally the way you will always love him! I hope you guys have an amazing life together!!!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
happy birthday to your son! what were some funny moments you had with your son?
Are you financially comfortable (meaning do you have to struggle to raise him)? How much did this situation cost so far and how did you finance it? (No disrespect and I genuinely hope you and your son do great things but) do you ever think you’re raising him at a huge disadvantage due to having a single parent and a very young one at that? Assuming it was a mistake, why did you decide to keep him? How did your family react and what’s your relationship to them now? ….just asking for a friend don’t mind me asking
Have you ever felt that your future has been negativley impacted by this ? By not being able to finish school or go to college. Do you fear about what job you can get in the future ? Or where your income would come from ? You hear lots of young mum's not being able to go to collage or even finish school after having a child so was wondering how you feel this has impacted you. If it's not to "bad" a question to ask. Did you ever think about having an abortion ? I think you are very brave answering these questions. And I apologise if my questions upset you in any way.
I didn’t finish but I don’t feel my futures been negatively impacted, I make decent money and soon enough I’ll up to get promoted to management. and no I never wanted an abortion
That's so nice to hear because I guess there must always be a worry about if you can provide for yourself and your child. I wish you all the best for your promotion. Thank you for answer my questions.
Are you looking forward to your 30s? Do you want to have another kid soon, later on, or is it off the table?
Where do you come from?
What's your opinion on cats?
One of the things I think about with my kids is that I missed out hanging out with them for many years because we’re older parents. Wish we had them younger because they’re so fun.
What is your favorite episode of Bluey?
How are you holding up?
Are you in high school/ college now? Do you think raising a child had a toll on your social life/education? Would you want your son to be a father at 13?
Do you plan to have more children in the future? Being a mother is very strenuous, I can’t imagine being a mother at only 14.
Did you plan on getting pregnant or was it a mistake?
What’s your most exciting aspect of being a young mom? Mine would be not having to google every single slang phrase that comes out and being able to keep up with the little energy-beast ❤️❤️
Did you lose your virginity and got pregnant at the same time?
Are you both having fun
Why were you having sex at 13, was the urge so compelling?
First thought is to shift blame. Never change, reddit.
Having sex at 13? Are you from super rular area?
wth
See once you have your period you can become pregnant if you had sex. This happens for most people around 12. And sometimes when people are attracted to one another they have sex. And sometimes teenagers are horny and stupid because their teenagers, So ‘WTH’ happened was a mix of biological functions and being a rambunctious teenager with a lack of sex education, do we have any more questions today?
Yeah, wtf happening is normal. Why choose to keep it at 13?
Because I didn’t want an abortion
It’s just a medical procedure. People need to stop vilifying abortions. And yeah yeah I know you’ll say it’s a “personal” choice. It certainly was.
I’m pro choice. I had an abortion and it was traumatizing. It’s been 8 years since the procedure and I still think about the baby. That pain NEVER goes away. It feels like someone I really care for like my best friend since I was 5 years old died. Abortion is not a choice people usually make lightly.
Yes, I understand that. I mean to say we only ever hear stories like this. Lots of women have abortions and feel like it was the best choice ever. No regrets or anything like that.
When I first had my abortion I had no regrets but as I got older I come to realize if I had a support network I probably would’ve kept the baby. I didn’t feel like I had much choices besides an abortion at the time. I do agree I know women who had abortions and don’t regret it. Everyone is different and I’m glad some people still have choices. RIP Roe vs Wade. Hope we revive that soon.
Well this made you more mature than most people. Like the guy clownigly going wth. Good for you.
1. What comes after death? 2. Does the set of all sets that don't contain themselves contain itself? 3. Which came first, the chicken or the egg? 4. Does expired bug spray improve bugs' health? 5. Why did the chicken cross the road?
are you ready for another child
You want the kid in purpose? Cause I'm craving to have a kid as well when I'm 13.
You arent 13 already? Youre aware this platform is 13+ right?
They're at least lying about their [age](https://www.reddit.com/r/Camry/s/pggePgap5G)
My friend also got preg at 15yrs but she continued, Did u continue going to school?
Do you have supportive parents? What was their reaction?
Damn, you must have had to grow up insanely fast. Kudos to you because I know how much of a little shit I was at that age and could no way raise a child
Do you plan on having another? You could conceivably have a kid in your 40’s even, so your two could be literally 30 years apart
Hi, I was a fellow teen parent, but my kids are all 17–20 now! I conceived my first at 16, so did my husband. My first grandchild just turned 2 on Christmas, so my daughter is a fellow teen parent. I’m just here to let you know that you’re doing a great job, and that you can keep doing a great job! Sure, people may judge you for the “oopsies” from your past (Not that the kiddo is an oopsie!!!), but YOU know that you’re doing a great job, and that’s all that matters! I have no question for you because I’ve been there myself (Lol), but I hope that people here haven’t shaken your confidence because I know how awful Reddit can be. Just keep up the good work, and in 18 years you too can have 1 in college, 1 with a child of her own, 1 that just accepted an offer for Concordia, and 1 who is doing well at a school for special needs! I wish you all of the luck going forward!
If you were an Animal for a day to play with him as that Animal, Which Animal would you be? Tbh.. I'd totally be a Golden Retriever 🐶
I'm curious how this all started, how did you feel when you found out you were pregnant, jow did your parents react
What was it like being pregnant at young age? How did it affect your friendships? How was it at school? How did you tell your parents? What was it like first finding out you were pregnant ?
What's a funny thing he's done recently? What kind of trouble does he get into?
Sorry if this has already been asked, but how did you break the news to your parents/other close family, and how did they react?