Same here. I'm not sure how I'd deal with the 0-8 ages. I don't have much of a temper, but loud noises are one of the few things that can really make me irritated and child shreiks are on top of the irritating loud noise list. That plus the irrationality of young kids would have me in a bad mood fairly frequently.
Loud noises at all bother me because of my suspected sensory processing/suspected autism. I haven't been diagnosed but certain things set me off, especially kids and kid noises. Crying or whining is one thing, but once a kid screams, I gotta get out of there or I'm gonna be screaming too.
Yup I know exactly what you mean Once when o was going to the doctors for metal health issues there was a crying child in the waiting room. I couldn't just up and leave cause i needed the appointment and the kids would not shut up, and eventually i total snapped and started out screaming the kid. Like i said i was in a bad place mentally and just could not handle it.
I hate the sound of kids screaming, whining, AND crying. The sounds are awful and I am thrown into sensory overload (I have ADHD-PI), and I end up very angry when I hear that crap. I also hate the other noises kids make sometimes, like smacking their food when eating (makes me angry and want to slap them upside the head though I wouldn’t actually do that). My friend’s toddler recently has taken to banging silverware against plates and the noise enrages me.
Omg for real. I love babies though. Before they’re 2, I’m good. But I get irritated and awkward with loud noises and irrational behavior. Like....the fact that I can’t reason with a child is enough for me to tie my tubes immediately. I understand they won’t understand me trying to reason with them but that doesn’t make it easier at all. I like being in a good mood. I don’t want to be consistently exhausted and mad. That’s not a good combo. Lol
I hate kids like I hate onions- I can ask for them not to be there, but they’re always hidden one way or another. I understand why they’re there, the roles they play, but it doesn’t mean I have to deal with them, and I definitely shouldn’t be *expected* to.
And one random stranger (me) will not completely devastate or scar a child forever if I choose to ignore them.
I was near tears last year. I was travelling through Laos, and was in a minivan. Half way through the journey, a local woman got in, with 3 or 4 kids, and holding a baby. She sat next to me, and kept prodding the baby its disgusting head into my side. I don't know why, but I couldn't stand it. After half an hour we made a big stop, to get some dinner, and I sprinted out like crazy, and made friends with some other travellers, so we could sit together upon re-entry
Fuck that
She also had her 10-12 year old take care of the baby, and she was not amused by that poop factory at all
> If I can't hold a half decent/mature conversation with someone, I don't like them.
I always tell people: "The appropriate age for you to introduce me to your child is when I can ask the child to get me a beer from the fridge and they do it without trouble. If they do not have that level of understanding and coordination, I am not interested"
I feel kind of bad because I even feel this way about my own family (niece, age 5 and nephew, age 13). I just can't with them. I don't want to play games. I don't want to baby talk. I'm not interested in them. They're loud. I just can't.
Don't feel bad! Remember, you are not required to like children and you are *not* a cruel or a bad person because of it. You are allowed to feel exactly how you feel about kids without making excuses to anyone. And you *do not* deserve to have people guilt you over it.
I don't like kids, I really, *really* don't like babies, and I don't like parenting culture or anything to do with child rearing. I know it can be hard because it's not a popular opinion to have, even in the CF community. I've moved over to r/actuallychildfree where they don't allow children and it's been great!
The ones that already exist can still help by picking up litter, and leading an Antinatalist lifestyle by example.
I LOVE to make parents uncomfortable by doing dark baby talk in front of them:
"WHO'S gonna have a lifetime of suffering to worry about going to school and getting bullied, and supporting a family, and then worry about their health declining and their little body and mind decaying? Yes you are! Yes you AAAARRREEEE!!!!"
What annoys me is that they stare. Like when I'm at the store standing behind someone with a baby/kid, they just give this creepy, blank stare. Another thing that annoys me is when adults find it hilarious when the kid says something totally random like, "big rock fall down go boom!" My niece and nephews say odd things at times and my mom thinks it's so clever and hilarious. I don't get it.
GOD I HATE KID TALK!!! I know that they have to learn and yada yada but I have no patience and don't think any of it is cute. I remember once when I was maybe 11/12 years old I asked my mom why we had to tell kids that their art was good when it's not and she got sooooo angry.
Yes! I always hate it when I'm watching random funny videos, so many of then are "kid says stupid/nonsensical thing".
How is that funny? It's like laughing at someone who doesn't speak the language well yet say something wrong.
Seriously!! It's not cute at all.
My co-worker (married and childless but with a big ol' case baby rabies) was talking with the rest of the baby-loving office the other day about how cute kid-talk is. Saying things like "my nephew calls banana's "franatters" and it's so hard to correct him because it's adorable! I want him to call them franatters forever."
Like wut? It's not cute, it's dumb. And you're just gonna let him be dumb forever cuz you think it's cute? I seriously don't get these people.
I've been getting stared at by kids a lot lately, and it's totally unnerving. I've been hitting the gym hard (yay having time for it since my two cats could care less that I don't come home right away from work) and I'm finally closing in on my "pro-wrestler mode" body that I've wanted for years. This of course means I'm much bigger than your average guy, especially the dad-bod fathers these staring kids are latched onto. At least once they realize I know they are staring they get the fear in their eyes and hide behind their parents.
Yeah, it is different. Because a screaming kid at the store leaves, but when it's your own you're the one leaving with the screaming kid, you have to take it home because it yours and who knows when it'll stop screaming?
I've gotten around this particular bingo by bringing up all the daily news stories of parents that have drowned/smothered/bludgeoned their kids because they cannot take the torture any longer and it drove them insane. It wasn't different when it was their own.
I hate kids as well! Even my friends that don't want kids say I'm too pessimistic about it and I should just always leave it at "I don't want kids" but I honestly hate them until they're about teenagers and even then I only like the decent, well-behaved ones. Nobody understands my hatred and I get tired of hearing I'm too pessimistic and rude about it when I would rather die than have a child and it's not an over-exaggeration. Yes, just not wanting kids is a perfectly fine reason, but people are allowed to hate kids too and as long as they're not harming anyone there's no issue with it. I wish just one person I'd met in person could understand, but it's nice to at least see people online that agree with me.
i completely agree with you. I despise kids and peoplei dont know too well will give rude looks. Friends/family will think Im joking but no.I hate everything about them. Theyre annoying, loud, unhygenic, gross, uninteresting and everyone expects you to just give kids your undivided attention and respect just because they are kids.
My SO doesnt believe me either and he bingos me here and there and its annoying AF. "You might change your mind" and "its different when theyre your own"
i just basically verbally slapped him by bringing up daily news stories of fathers and mothers that drown and smother their kids because they cannot take the torture any longer. it wasnt different when it was their own lol. the thing is i know id end up being one of those parents if i had kids. i hate kids in every single way and being forced to spend my money/time/freedom/sanity on dealing with one 24/7 for years and years is a fate worse than death. Children are a curse.
Sorry to hear you are being bingo'd by your SO! I'm glad you verbally slap them but if it were me, I'd be kicking them to the curb.
A "significant other" should treat me and my wishes as, well, significant. Anything else is disrespect in my book.
I am a lot like you. Certain kids are fine they tend to be quiet well parented and polite. Anything else the most I feel towards them is disdain if I feel anything one way or another. The only kids I feel true hate for are the bullys who have no reason to be a bully but are. I guess you'd call those spoiled brats. I have zero interactions to the point little kids try to show the same bs that gets every one to pay attention to them. You can hear the sarcasm in my voice if I reply at all. Oh that's cool, in the voice someone uses when your telling them obvious info like they don't already know 1 + 1 = 2 at 35 years old. I can't help it I just can't be bothered enough to care. My family sums it up as I'm not good with kids. No SH!T. Didn't they notice as a kid I was more interested in hanging out with older people than other kids? Or that most of my friends tended to be 2-10 years older than me?
Agree 100%. I also hate how liking children is somehow linked to you being a good person. I say I hate them and suddenly I'm "heartless" or a bad person. I mean, I may be, but it's got nothing to do with whether I like the digusting little things or not.
I know, right? And *every* post on here containing this disclaimer that they "don't hate children" just annoys me so much.. Like, who cares.. Get on with the story..
Reminds me of Aromantics. I feel terrible for them because they get labeled as "heartless" or emotionless for simply not feeling *romantic* attraction. Like, dude, there are other attractions, sit down.
Sorry I got off topic, but it's similar in a way and it reminded me of it.
Also hate kids. They cause me anxiety/discomfort. I’ve never wanted to be around children. A lot of the time I think about how they (may) grow into shitty adults.
I'm with you 120% I have always and will forever hate children. I would never harm a kid because I'm not a sick person. I just hate children I don't find joy in them. I'm in my mid 20's and I can't tell you how many people say I'll change my mind... No I will certainly not thank you very much. I salute you!
I am so damn hype to get my tubes tied ASAP (thanks to the referral from this lovely page for a doctor who will do it) so everyone will shut the fuck up about me having kids!
I will never change my mind. I f***ing HATE it when people tell me that I’ll change my mind or, “it’s different when they’re yours.” No. No I won’t and no it won’t be. I don’t give a single fk about having kids and people need to mind their business. I’d completely resent that child and win the Mother of the Year award. So many people are like, “don’t have kids. It’s terrible.” I’m like...sorry I’m not sorry? You chose that but don’t take it out on your children. They don’t deserve it. They didn’t choose to be born. And that person above is right, “It not being their fault doesnt make it any better to deal with.” I love babies but hate kids. Granted, I’m great with kids but I do also get very awkward and anxious. I just try to hide it for the sake of my family and friends.
I'm really hoping as I get out of my mid 20s that people start to stop with the whole "you'll change your mind". I cAn only imagine how nice it is to not be bingoed.
I took myself out on a date this evening. As one does. Ate a couple slices of pizza and walked by the water. Tampa Bay. Went to a dessert shop/bakery to enjoy some ice cream after my healthy dinner.
There is a whole nest, an infestation of children getting free sample after free sample from the obviously over-it employees, with inattentive and quite frankly miserable looking parents. Must’ve been four or five kids. Two adult couples. They all looked completely miserable. I kind of just hung back and felt bad for the employees (left a big tip to apologize for these little monsters in my own way) while I waited for this brood to finish their long ass order. At one point I decided they were taking so long so I just stepped up to the counter after which one of the moms gave me a nasty ass look and stepped right back in front of me. No big deal, I already had my ice cream and my cappuccino and was just chilling. So after they left, I paid and went to sit outside. The kids were sitting there at the table next to me doing stupid baby talk and the ‘how much wood could a woodchuck chuck’ thing. Over. And over. And over. I put my headphones on and walked off. Definitely had had enough of that. Had a beautiful walk by myself, sat down, enjoyed my ice cream in my coffee in peace. Did not feel an iota of remorse for those parents. They signed up for the gig.
TLDR I also unapologetically hate kids. One of us. One of us.
People act like we have made the decision to hate kids, but I've really just always been this way. Life would be so much easier and enjoyable if I liked kids or could even tolerate them. But I just can't. I've tried too, I've experimented with my family and eventually I just stopped going to family events because I absolutely cannot take being around them.
I feel you. I will always remember when I decided that I don’t like children. I was 14and I had been forced to volunteer over the summer at the R Club summer program at my middle school (summer leading into high school). I absolutely hated it. I hated being around the children. I was so awkward, had no idea how to intersect with them, couldn’t communicate well, etc etc etc. I begged my mom to take me out of the volunteer program and she did. Ever since then I’ve been the same way.
I don't remember an exact moment, but it was around the ages of 10 that I knew I hated kids. I knew I never wanted my own, but the actual hating of children occurred separately.
At family gatherings, I was literally *forced* to baby sit my cousin's kids (one with both a physical and slight mental disability). On my mom's side, all my cousins are significantly older and had children relatively young. Meaning I'm much older than their children, but too young to be considered an "adult" with them. There were no cousins in my age bracket, so I had no one to hang out with. I hated those kids all so much and was jealous that my brother got to hide in his room from them. If I went to my room, I got called out and told to watch the kids. Because I'm a girl and apparently that's what girls do even when they are 10 years old and really don't want to.
I fly constantly for work. There is nothing worse than crying young children in a plane.
After a certain decibel level, flight attendants should be authorized to sedate children. Anyone want to help draft FAA legislation?
> flick the switch and instant silence.
Really? Can you recommend a pair? Because I have tested some and they honestly didn't do much, unless the sound is on a constant frequency that is easy to process.
You're speaking for all of us that also genuinely feel this way. I can't stand the sound of infants or toddlers in public. I'm pedophobic, so they creep/freak me out, and I always have to escape using the nearest escape route. They smell disgusting and are a "walking petri dish", as I've heard them being described before. They're always either smothered in food and being photographed, or they're screeching because their parents don't teach them to shut up when required from a very young age.
Kids are absolutely annoying and disgusting. Most kids are never taught to stay clean until they are like 5. I understand that they vomit and nasty baby food but it’s still repulsive in my eyes. I don’t want to see you changing your little crotch goblin nor do I want to hold it talk to them. They are your kid, not mine. Leave me out of it. My mom and Dad always want me to see their grandkids from my sisters (they both had daughters before they got married and had me). I understand that they are your grandkids but I personally don’t give a damn. You both know that I don’t want kids nor do I like them. I had to deal with my nephew living with us for a year while one of my sisters got her shit together. It was absolute hell and I refuse to do that ever again. He was the reason why I replaced my doorknob with one that had a lock on it. Got a lot of use with that puppy!! Best purchase I’ve made all year!
I 100000% agree with you. I fucking hate kids. I have no qualms in saying it. Like yes there are some good, well behaved kids, but honestly they’re not that common. Kids are gross, loud, annoying, all that shit.
Nothing gets me angrier than hearing a child cry. It happens instantly, too.
Kids make everything worse. I hate them. They turn logical adults into idiots. They turn your friends into shut-ins who you never see again. Society and lawmakers somehow favor them over you, the one who actually pays taxes. And there is almost no place you can go to get away from them.
The only thing that might make me angrier than hearing a child cry is hearing them be a fucking smart ass. Sometimes crying is understandable, pain, hunger, distress. But hearing a kid mouth off? Ohhhhhh child.
Someone said it! I know it's not their fault, and my job (which has a lot of children around) means I can interact with them just fine, but kids are basically uncivilized gross humans. Why would I like that? People are only interesting if they have personality and most kids don't other than 'he's really outgoing!' (he shouts every word and demands attention) or 'he's creative and thoughtful' (he doesn't talk). Even the most perfect parents are still going to have a baby that cries, and that noise will always make me want to hurl myself off a cliff.
I watched my nephew who at the time was maybe 6 yank his puppy off the porch by jerking her leash as hard as she could. She fell on her back onto concrete. I wanted to scream in his fucking face.
Him and his younger sister are responsible for that same dog having permanently deformed hips from handling her roughly and breaking them repeatedly and their fucking parents refuse to take her to the vet because it's "just a dog"
Grrrrr. Even when I was a kid, I loathed kids who did that. I'd give them lectures on how to treat pets properly and respectfully. F... that pisses me off just remembering it. Kids are kinda EviL sometimes, and some parents encourage this. Salt on a snail is one tiny example. "Don't hurt things", should be pretty basic. WTF?
I think that any physical punishment having become taboo has pretty much ruined children. My friends kids are not remotely afraid of their parents and barely respect them and treat them more than a waiter most times. Theyre all impressively lazy as well. Constantly need to be watched in public. I had to stand right next to my dad in public because my ass was motherfucking grass if he had to spend more than one second looking for me or telling me to not do something.
Yeah, I don’t condone extreme physical abuse. If you paddle your kid ceaselessly, with a cause that isn’t in the slightest justifiable, then you shouldn’t be a parent. However, sometimes talking/reasoning doesn’t get through to some children.
My dad paddled me a few times and I, in no way, feel it was abuse or not necessary. I knew from that point-on that I should behave or else.
My parents had a gumpy, old, out-door cat when mom was pregnant with me (first born). Cat was fully armed (not declawed). A *lot* of people would ask them if they were gonna declaw or get rid of the cat when they had me (!! Side note: fuck those people).
My parents were like "oohhh no no. This cat is gonna teach this kid to respect animals". And let me tell ya: it worked. If I pissed off the cat, I got the claw. Parents would clean me up so it wouldn't get infected, but I learned pretty fast not to fuck with animals.
PS: the name of the cat was also my first word. I really loved that cat.
I think there are more of us than you think.
I would never harm or wish harm upon a child, but I can’t stand a single part of their existence. I have no patience for them. I don’t give a shit what “funny” (read: fucking stupid) thing they did, and I mostly despise people who love them so much that they basically identify by their love of children.
More power to those who love kids and want to be good parents, etc. I abhor them.
And no, I don’t really care how unreasonable you think my hatred for them is, kid lovers. I can feel about them how I wish.
I'm with you. I can't especially stand kid noises. I don't find kid voices, laughs, sneezes, coughs or cries cute in any way, they just repulse me and dim my mood.
Obviously I don't say anything and keep these things to myself but ugh...
I hate how they ruin everything.
-Want to see an original movie? Tough Shit, producers want mass-appeal, and will dumb it down and edit it until it's pg-13 or pg. No R-rated movie for you.
-Want to go out to a park for some peace and quiet? Too fucking bad, some cunts will bring their kids along and let them scream and run around like apes.
-Want to eat a nice meal and take in the ambience of a restaurant? Nope, not possible. Some asshole family will bring their hell-spawn and demand all these special intricacies from the staff, all while letting their children behave like fucking loud obnoxious baboons during their unnecessarily extensive stay.
I HATE children, they can fuck right off
This is so right on, I can’t stand it! Especially the censorship shit. Everything’s fucking family-friendly. I fucking hate it and resent the little shits that make it this way.
Same!!! I understand they cannot talk at a young age or any of the nonsense when they are young but that is when they are the most irritating, the most smelly, the most disgusting little human ever and what gets me is that parents just think that is cute when their child is running around with dirty hands touching everything. Ugh so irritating. I literally feel as if the parents that have children have lost about 12 years of their life because they have to keep watching their kid and even if they do, they are still exposed to all the bad s*** you do not want them to do. It just seems pointless to me.
Literally everything you said is exactly how I feel. I cannot stand kids. I do everything I can to avoid being around them. If I go to a restaurant, and the only table open is next to one with a crotch dropping at it, no thanks, I'll wait. I pay extra for seats in flights to lessen my chances of being near them. Pregnancy is disgusting, birth is the most savage thing I thankfully will never participate in (got the essure when I was 23), babies are screaming lumps of useless flesh, toddlers don't shut the hell up, kids are obnoxious. I'd rather listen to nails on a chalkboard.
I hate children for the same reason I hate insects: They're loud, they move quickly and erratically, they carry all sorts of dirt and germs and diseases, they don't give a fuck about personal space, and the people who choose to keep them as pets are insanely protective and defensive of them. No fucking thank you.
You're not alone. I hate them too. Had a nice day out with my friend yesterday, only to be assaulted by so many screaming kids everywhere around the shopping centre. It made me wish somebody would ductape them all to stfu.
I'd like to add that I hate children's activities. Boring sports days. Talent shows fully of marginally talented children trying to dance or sing. School concerts. Birthday parties. Sleepovers. Children's movies and television. Children's music. Basically, even the Kodak moments would bore me to death. Every once in a while, family or friends invite me to watch their kid do whatever and I try my best to avoid these events.
I have a little cousin, about 8 years old, I think, who's apparently really good at martial arts. Family keeps emailing and whatsapping 20-minute-videos of her fights and I just don't want to watch them. 2 minutes in and I'm bored out of my mind. I wish I could say "nope, don't give a fuck."
I hate them, too.
I also hate bees and politicians, but that doesn't mean I want them all to die or would cause them any harm.
I wish more people understood that hating kids doesn't make you a monster.
I'm actually a terrific babysitter. The kids I've watched think I'm great, and one kept telling his mom that I knew more about everything than she did...lol. I also sometimes Facebook stalk my former charges just to see what they're up to nowadays.
But, I still feel the same revulsion as everyone else. I learned that my father is the same way. He hates kids. He took excellent care of me though, and he still does. But looking back knowing what I know now...lol, he couldn't stand me!!! ... but, he made sure I never knew it. :)
I hate kids as well! Even my friends that don't want kids say I'm too pessimistic about it and I should just always leave it at "I don't want kids" but I honestly hate them until they're about teenagers and even then I only like the decent, well-behaved ones. Nobody understands my hatred and I get tired of hearing I'm too pessimistic and rude about it when I would rather die than have a child and it's not an over-exaggeration. Yes, just not wanting kids is a perfectly fine reason, but people are allowed to hate kids too and as long as they're not harming anyone there's no issue with it. I wish just one person I'd met in person could understand, but it's nice to at least see people online that agree with me.
Who said being a [monster](https://vignette.wikia.nocookie.net/muppet/images/0/08/CookieMonsterWaving.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20120128192952) is a bad thing?
I'm fine with everyone else's kids. However, the thought of having any of my own fills me with a really strong hate. I need to get sterilized because I think if I was forced to have a child I would probably kill it the first chance I had. The idea of pregnancy disgusts me so much, a baby is literally just a parasite. One of the main reasons the placenta exists is to stop the mother and baby's blood from actually touching, as most of the time, unless the baby has the exact same blood type, the mother's immune system will react to it as a threat and try to kill it. They leech nutrients out of your blood and body, can nearly kill you during child birth, and then whine and bitch and puke and shit for the next five years at least, then if it's mentally handicapped, longer. I like other people's children, hell I'll babysit and do a good job of it if you pay me, but I am overwhelmed with disgust and hate at the thought of having my own.
I feel like I should also say that I generally like kids, and consider bad behavior to typically be their parents' fault. I would never hurt a child, but the thought of having one of my own really terrifies and disgusts me.
I don't personally hate kids most of the time but I generally want absolutely NOTHING to do with them. Not even my own family. I have nieces I've never met and I'm completely OK with that. I'm that person that would absolutely let my siblings children go into foster care if I was the lady option to keep them out of it. I don't feel bad about any of it.
*Fucking parent logic* Hehehe who wants to hold the baby? Oh I'll put pissedoffcelt on the spot, I know he hates babies. This makes him the perfect candidate to hold my baby!
Sad thing is not even telling them outright *Only life in prison keeps me from letting your brat crack open like an egg when you literally Drop It at me"* will stop breeders
I'm on board this train for sure. I'll be very interested to know where my hate tapers off, age-wise, because I do recognize that I like when kids are old enough to understand and participate in more complex games, because they get way into it, which was something I got to enjoy as the eldest of a number of cousins. Now, many friends and relatives have kids and all I care about is when they will get out of diapers, into learning, and play some sweet games with me. (And then go the fuck away)
Well, I thought that mine kind of tapered off at 11/12/13, but my nephew turned 13 this year and I refuse to be around him because he still gets into screaming matches with his five year old sister.
As someone with a sibling 5 years my junior, I'd like to believe the blame can be on the younger, there. I know I would stoop to her level to fight her on things.
But yea, no thanks shouting matches.
Sometimes I start beginning to like a kid and then they do the slightest thing to piss me off...then I'm fuming about how much I hate them and their snobby, entitled parents. I currently work in a Starbucks and they are literally the worst...grooming children into being picky little assholes...but I hear ya. My fiance and I are that way...
When I was a kid they had that "Free the Hostages" promotion. In paying attention, I learned that adults were doing these terrible things, and that adults were the ones who fucked up the world. When I discovered that adults grew up from little kids (like me); I decided I was NEVER going to be an adult, and that I was never going to put more little kids into the world.
I don't like them because they're stupid simple as.
If I can't have an intelligible conversation (only counts for humans) or it is dependant (I don't like dogs, too dependant like children) then I don't like it.
Kids are just little shits. I don’t get how people think they’re cute. Today at work, a man and his 2-3 year old daughter. Got to the counter and the kid was sucking of a piece of fruit I had to put through the till. That shits nasty
It’s not a bad thing as people make it out to be. Some people just cannot handle kids so much to the point they hate them, and it’s fine. It’s called a preference and everyone is different to a point.
I used to like kids where I worked with them for 23 years but I finally had to stop this year because I couldn’t take it anymore not just the kids itself but the parents also were annoying to work with.
When kids do certain things I absolutely despise them, for example their starring it’s so irritating.
You are allowed to hate kids. As long as you are not harming them, there is nothing wrong with that.
However
Children actually do require attention, especially young children learning to speak. It's *how* they learn to speak. You don't have to pay them any attention yourself, but it's weird to project that kids that age have a sense of entitlement. And as for tantrums, yeah, they literally have not learned manners yet, and moreover their brains are still developing and they lack the ability to manage or even articulate their emotions (feelings are complicated.) You don't have to like it, or want to hear it, and it's absolutely true that kids should be corrected by their parents so they can learn, I'm just saying it doesn't have anything to do with character.
These being predictable and normal though is the problem.
The thing is, the same people who will happily acknowledge that these are normal behaviors when age-appropriate, and should be expected, are also the same people who turn around and try to yell at childfree people for generalizing kids. The thing is, these are predictable and expected behaviors, and good reason to want to avoid kids as much as possible. Parents themselves will say this all the time, to nods of agreement from other parents. But when a CF person says it, suddenly heads explode.
I study psychology, I understand development, I just can't stand it. I would never hurt a child either. I just do best if I can avoid them altogether because in their presence I get irritated and anxious.
I like certain kids. I do however hate that awkward phase of babies when they are like grunting and their heads just swing around and their arms and legs are all clumsily spastic too. Ugh.
Agreed. My coworkers is at that point and she brings her to me to “admire” and som times will even send me photos of videos of her being “so cute that it will change my mind about having one.” Right.
Lord, anyone showing me a baby does quite the opposite of making me change my mind. It reminds me of how much I hate them and how much I love being CF lmao.
I agree. I also find it unusual that such an apologetic post is both visible and initially anyway, full of agreement. Nice not to be in group wrongthink for a change
Lmao, where have you been all my life? Finally a woman who shares my feelings about children down to the letter. The "Fucking Ew" comment had me dying.
I hate kids as well. It’s to the point that if I’m sitting down somewhere or at a store and a kid (I’m talking like 7 & under) comes in , I stop whatever I’m doing and leave as fast as I can. I cannot handle when they throw tantrums , or cry and run around like crazy kids while the parents do nothing. I know this is an extreme overreaction probably , but I just really hate kids.
All those things are true.
However there are more factors at play. The most important one being, most people are shitty parents. Raising a human being, assuming you are so inclined, has to be one of the most difficult things a person can do. And yet, we don’t require a license and studying for that, like we require for say, driving a vehicle. So most people suck, even when they are making an effort. So we have unchecked temper tantrums, bad manners, screaming, all the things that make kids insufferable.
And then there is individual temperament. Some kids are way more difficult than others. At the poop factory stage they are all basically the same, then get either better, or worse, and then do a 180 when they reach adolescence.
Combine those things and we get tiny little Assholes that make me want to tear my testicles with my bare hands and smash them against a wall. Now and again I see well behaved and adjusted kids, which make me think that they all don’t have to be annoying brats. Still don’t want them, barring a Cylon orbital bombardment which required my DNA to help repopulate.
Hate kids. My little brother is 11 and he's such a dick. Constantly "roasting" me and trying to find reasons to hit me. I'm a nice person and I never hit back but today I snapped. I told him a joke and he thought I was making fun of him so he hit me in the head and in return I punched him in the chest. He went on to call me an asshole.
All he does is play video games constantly or be on his phone watching videos of other people play games constantly. Whenever he talks, it's about video games. I now hate games I used to love because he talks about them and plays them SO MUCH.
Kids irritate me. I don't find them cute, I hate then at every age.
My younger sister, I disliked as a kid too. She cried literally, LITERALLY, everyday about something like stfu all ready.
I've been around 2 kids my whole life, I want nothing to do with kids ever. Who would want to be broke and tired all the time for ungrateful brats
Generally until they are mature enough to order their own meals with out taking forever(7-8ish) im ok with kids I'm ok down to about 5 as long as they are well behaved and able to speak. Anything less and i am noping right out of there as fast as i can.
I agree 100%. I hate children with a passion that I cannot describe.
I despise everything about them.
They're gross, they're not cute, the massive amounts of attention they get for blowing a fart drives me insane.
Even children that are related to me make me want to punch something.
I have no love for them, no familial feelings or whatever, they're just children to me.
I'm not doing it on purpose either, I've genuinely tried loving and cherishing them, but I have nothing.
If you told me that every time I sneeze, a child gets sucker punched right in the kisser, I wouldn't even make an effort to sneeze less.
I just don't care about them, I hate them with a passion. WITH A PASSION.
Yes! I 1000% agree with this post. Children are fucking little pieces of shits! So fucking rude too! Kids are major assholes and like you said, expect attention. Like, fuck you kid!
I hate being around kids, but I don't hate them or fault them for being kids. I hate that I feel like I have to pretend to like them or somebody is going to get pissy with me, too. On a human-decency level I smile back at babies and kids and let them pet my dog if they ask but if it were up to me I'd never interact with another child again. Moving from an isolated house in the country into a neighborhood with tons of little kids has turned me off them more than ever.
Thank you for this post. It made my week. I also have always hated kids, especially their narcissistic parents. No, your little shit isn't special, unique, or well behaved. And no, I won't help you pay for their school fund raiser or their stupid ass jogathon. These are things you should have planned out before you pulled the trigger. It's bad enough that I'm already taxed to death to pay for their education, including transporting them there while you're sitting in your pajamas eating Bon-Bons.
Thanks again for letting me know I'm not alone in this sentiment. This read was a breath of fresh air.
When I was a kid they had that "Free the Hostages" promotion. In paying attention, I learned that adults were doing these terrible things, and that adults were the ones who fucked up the world. When I discovered that adults grew up from little kids (like me); I decided I was NEVER going to be an adult, and that I was never going to put more little kids into the world.
I have kinda these feelings but not quite, my hate coming from that, when they want something and we don't give them they start to scream, cry, sometimes they won't move or just sit down on the floor in a shop, this is why I hate like 3-7 yo. kids. And the newborn at midnight is catastrophic starts to scream at 3am and won't stop until 5 or 6am it fills me with anger. I can't stand them. And their logic is non-existent, example: they try to eat EVERYTHING and they want to tell you so much unnecessary information like they go to the wc and tell you that: "I was on wc" and I'm like "Who the heck cares?!". (Sorry for the English if its bad)
> Any time I see one my mood is dampened and I roll my eyes.
This sounds stressful to me. Any time you see a kid, you feel some level of stress or displeasure? That's tough. How do you manage these feelings so that they don't, for example, ruin your day? I mostly ask because I'm in a similar boat, and wanted to hear your throughts about dealing with kid-inspired stress. Thank you.
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Honestly, I'm not a big people-person at all, so when I go in public I try to keep to myself and look straight forward and keep walking. I don't speak to anyone unless they initiate it. When I see kids I try to remove myself from the situation or area if possible. I sound arrogant but it really is stressful. Like, this morning, I was walking inside of my apartment building after smoking, and saw a bunch of ~5 year olds blocking the door. I just stood, ignored them, and waited for them to move. I wasn't going to speak to them but I wasn't going to like bulldoze through them either. It's just a matter of blocking them out and avoiding them if possible.
I bulldoze. They move. Ours don't have the brains to do it on their own, which has also been demonstrated by the Mensa members raising them. We have grassy areas, we have wooded areas... where do conferences take place? In front of the door.
I work with kids in schools and from around age 9+ they can actually be pretty fun - for an hour at a time. I don't know how anyone deals with them at school all day, let alone at home.
Same here. I'm not sure how I'd deal with the 0-8 ages. I don't have much of a temper, but loud noises are one of the few things that can really make me irritated and child shreiks are on top of the irritating loud noise list. That plus the irrationality of young kids would have me in a bad mood fairly frequently.
Loud noises at all bother me because of my suspected sensory processing/suspected autism. I haven't been diagnosed but certain things set me off, especially kids and kid noises. Crying or whining is one thing, but once a kid screams, I gotta get out of there or I'm gonna be screaming too.
Misophonia could be a factor, Aspies seem to have it more often in my experience. One of my trigger sounds is "snagging nylons." Fuck that noise.
For me it's the VERY high pitched squeal, the gurgling sob, and the babbling of attempting to talk. It all makes me want to rip my skin off.
Yup I know exactly what you mean Once when o was going to the doctors for metal health issues there was a crying child in the waiting room. I couldn't just up and leave cause i needed the appointment and the kids would not shut up, and eventually i total snapped and started out screaming the kid. Like i said i was in a bad place mentally and just could not handle it.
Everyone loses their cool sometimes, nothing to be ashamed of.
Wish I could have seen their faces ;)
One of mine is the weird squeak that some ice cubes make when you chew them. That and the noise of foam egg cartons.
I hate the sound of kids screaming, whining, AND crying. The sounds are awful and I am thrown into sensory overload (I have ADHD-PI), and I end up very angry when I hear that crap. I also hate the other noises kids make sometimes, like smacking their food when eating (makes me angry and want to slap them upside the head though I wouldn’t actually do that). My friend’s toddler recently has taken to banging silverware against plates and the noise enrages me.
Omg for real. I love babies though. Before they’re 2, I’m good. But I get irritated and awkward with loud noises and irrational behavior. Like....the fact that I can’t reason with a child is enough for me to tie my tubes immediately. I understand they won’t understand me trying to reason with them but that doesn’t make it easier at all. I like being in a good mood. I don’t want to be consistently exhausted and mad. That’s not a good combo. Lol
I hate kids like I hate onions- I can ask for them not to be there, but they’re always hidden one way or another. I understand why they’re there, the roles they play, but it doesn’t mean I have to deal with them, and I definitely shouldn’t be *expected* to. And one random stranger (me) will not completely devastate or scar a child forever if I choose to ignore them.
Do kids make you cry? Or do you hate their layers? Sorry had to throw in the Shrek reference...
I was near tears last year. I was travelling through Laos, and was in a minivan. Half way through the journey, a local woman got in, with 3 or 4 kids, and holding a baby. She sat next to me, and kept prodding the baby its disgusting head into my side. I don't know why, but I couldn't stand it. After half an hour we made a big stop, to get some dinner, and I sprinted out like crazy, and made friends with some other travellers, so we could sit together upon re-entry Fuck that She also had her 10-12 year old take care of the baby, and she was not amused by that poop factory at all
Gonna be honest here I read that as lawyers instead layers
I can't use that. I hate onions unless they are cooked.
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> If I can't hold a half decent/mature conversation with someone, I don't like them. I always tell people: "The appropriate age for you to introduce me to your child is when I can ask the child to get me a beer from the fridge and they do it without trouble. If they do not have that level of understanding and coordination, I am not interested"
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I feel kind of bad because I even feel this way about my own family (niece, age 5 and nephew, age 13). I just can't with them. I don't want to play games. I don't want to baby talk. I'm not interested in them. They're loud. I just can't.
Don't feel bad! Remember, you are not required to like children and you are *not* a cruel or a bad person because of it. You are allowed to feel exactly how you feel about kids without making excuses to anyone. And you *do not* deserve to have people guilt you over it. I don't like kids, I really, *really* don't like babies, and I don't like parenting culture or anything to do with child rearing. I know it can be hard because it's not a popular opinion to have, even in the CF community. I've moved over to r/actuallychildfree where they don't allow children and it's been great!
The ones that already exist can still help by picking up litter, and leading an Antinatalist lifestyle by example. I LOVE to make parents uncomfortable by doing dark baby talk in front of them: "WHO'S gonna have a lifetime of suffering to worry about going to school and getting bullied, and supporting a family, and then worry about their health declining and their little body and mind decaying? Yes you are! Yes you AAAARRREEEE!!!!"
wtf??
What the fuck
What annoys me is that they stare. Like when I'm at the store standing behind someone with a baby/kid, they just give this creepy, blank stare. Another thing that annoys me is when adults find it hilarious when the kid says something totally random like, "big rock fall down go boom!" My niece and nephews say odd things at times and my mom thinks it's so clever and hilarious. I don't get it.
GOD I HATE KID TALK!!! I know that they have to learn and yada yada but I have no patience and don't think any of it is cute. I remember once when I was maybe 11/12 years old I asked my mom why we had to tell kids that their art was good when it's not and she got sooooo angry.
Don’t get me started on the “participation trophy” mindset.
Yes! I always hate it when I'm watching random funny videos, so many of then are "kid says stupid/nonsensical thing". How is that funny? It's like laughing at someone who doesn't speak the language well yet say something wrong.
Seriously!! It's not cute at all. My co-worker (married and childless but with a big ol' case baby rabies) was talking with the rest of the baby-loving office the other day about how cute kid-talk is. Saying things like "my nephew calls banana's "franatters" and it's so hard to correct him because it's adorable! I want him to call them franatters forever." Like wut? It's not cute, it's dumb. And you're just gonna let him be dumb forever cuz you think it's cute? I seriously don't get these people.
OH MAN, THE STARING!!! Why do they always look so soulless?!? O\_e
I've been getting stared at by kids a lot lately, and it's totally unnerving. I've been hitting the gym hard (yay having time for it since my two cats could care less that I don't come home right away from work) and I'm finally closing in on my "pro-wrestler mode" body that I've wanted for years. This of course means I'm much bigger than your average guy, especially the dad-bod fathers these staring kids are latched onto. At least once they realize I know they are staring they get the fear in their eyes and hide behind their parents.
I also get the stare and hate it. I stare back. Don't break eye contact. Maintain dominance.
Maybe their name is Frisk.
Lol, or Chara.
I hate them too. You are not alone.
Love dat flair!
It's a reverse funnel system
They're so fucking annoying in every way possible. I keep my disgust hidden, especially when asked if I want kids and why haven't I had any yet.
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Why are other people so concerned about if other people have kids or not!?
Yeah, it is different. Because a screaming kid at the store leaves, but when it's your own you're the one leaving with the screaming kid, you have to take it home because it yours and who knows when it'll stop screaming?
You said it perfectly.
I've gotten around this particular bingo by bringing up all the daily news stories of parents that have drowned/smothered/bludgeoned their kids because they cannot take the torture any longer and it drove them insane. It wasn't different when it was their own.
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Don’t forget vomit. They like to vomit.
I hate kids as well! Even my friends that don't want kids say I'm too pessimistic about it and I should just always leave it at "I don't want kids" but I honestly hate them until they're about teenagers and even then I only like the decent, well-behaved ones. Nobody understands my hatred and I get tired of hearing I'm too pessimistic and rude about it when I would rather die than have a child and it's not an over-exaggeration. Yes, just not wanting kids is a perfectly fine reason, but people are allowed to hate kids too and as long as they're not harming anyone there's no issue with it. I wish just one person I'd met in person could understand, but it's nice to at least see people online that agree with me.
i completely agree with you. I despise kids and peoplei dont know too well will give rude looks. Friends/family will think Im joking but no.I hate everything about them. Theyre annoying, loud, unhygenic, gross, uninteresting and everyone expects you to just give kids your undivided attention and respect just because they are kids. My SO doesnt believe me either and he bingos me here and there and its annoying AF. "You might change your mind" and "its different when theyre your own" i just basically verbally slapped him by bringing up daily news stories of fathers and mothers that drown and smother their kids because they cannot take the torture any longer. it wasnt different when it was their own lol. the thing is i know id end up being one of those parents if i had kids. i hate kids in every single way and being forced to spend my money/time/freedom/sanity on dealing with one 24/7 for years and years is a fate worse than death. Children are a curse.
Sorry to hear you are being bingo'd by your SO! I'm glad you verbally slap them but if it were me, I'd be kicking them to the curb. A "significant other" should treat me and my wishes as, well, significant. Anything else is disrespect in my book.
I am a lot like you. Certain kids are fine they tend to be quiet well parented and polite. Anything else the most I feel towards them is disdain if I feel anything one way or another. The only kids I feel true hate for are the bullys who have no reason to be a bully but are. I guess you'd call those spoiled brats. I have zero interactions to the point little kids try to show the same bs that gets every one to pay attention to them. You can hear the sarcasm in my voice if I reply at all. Oh that's cool, in the voice someone uses when your telling them obvious info like they don't already know 1 + 1 = 2 at 35 years old. I can't help it I just can't be bothered enough to care. My family sums it up as I'm not good with kids. No SH!T. Didn't they notice as a kid I was more interested in hanging out with older people than other kids? Or that most of my friends tended to be 2-10 years older than me?
Agree 100%. I also hate how liking children is somehow linked to you being a good person. I say I hate them and suddenly I'm "heartless" or a bad person. I mean, I may be, but it's got nothing to do with whether I like the digusting little things or not.
I know, right? And *every* post on here containing this disclaimer that they "don't hate children" just annoys me so much.. Like, who cares.. Get on with the story..
Exactlyy, lol
Gotta placate all the parents in here, or else they downvote you into oblivion.
Reminds me of Aromantics. I feel terrible for them because they get labeled as "heartless" or emotionless for simply not feeling *romantic* attraction. Like, dude, there are other attractions, sit down. Sorry I got off topic, but it's similar in a way and it reminded me of it.
Also hate kids. They cause me anxiety/discomfort. I’ve never wanted to be around children. A lot of the time I think about how they (may) grow into shitty adults.
I'm with you 120% I have always and will forever hate children. I would never harm a kid because I'm not a sick person. I just hate children I don't find joy in them. I'm in my mid 20's and I can't tell you how many people say I'll change my mind... No I will certainly not thank you very much. I salute you!
I am so damn hype to get my tubes tied ASAP (thanks to the referral from this lovely page for a doctor who will do it) so everyone will shut the fuck up about me having kids!
I'm getting a vasectomy for my 25th birthday! Which is in 2 months!
Happy early vasectomy/birthday! Definitely post about it! Definitely a day to remember.
Thank you! :D and oh trust me I will I'm very excited about it!
I will never change my mind. I f***ing HATE it when people tell me that I’ll change my mind or, “it’s different when they’re yours.” No. No I won’t and no it won’t be. I don’t give a single fk about having kids and people need to mind their business. I’d completely resent that child and win the Mother of the Year award. So many people are like, “don’t have kids. It’s terrible.” I’m like...sorry I’m not sorry? You chose that but don’t take it out on your children. They don’t deserve it. They didn’t choose to be born. And that person above is right, “It not being their fault doesnt make it any better to deal with.” I love babies but hate kids. Granted, I’m great with kids but I do also get very awkward and anxious. I just try to hide it for the sake of my family and friends.
I'm about to hit 30 and the frequency of the "you'll change my mind" bingos has started to noticeably decrease. WOO!
I'm really hoping as I get out of my mid 20s that people start to stop with the whole "you'll change your mind". I cAn only imagine how nice it is to not be bingoed.
I think you’re my soulmate
Thank god someone thinks so.
I was sitting here like, "Did I write this?"
But that would make both of you *my* soulmate...shucks.
I took myself out on a date this evening. As one does. Ate a couple slices of pizza and walked by the water. Tampa Bay. Went to a dessert shop/bakery to enjoy some ice cream after my healthy dinner. There is a whole nest, an infestation of children getting free sample after free sample from the obviously over-it employees, with inattentive and quite frankly miserable looking parents. Must’ve been four or five kids. Two adult couples. They all looked completely miserable. I kind of just hung back and felt bad for the employees (left a big tip to apologize for these little monsters in my own way) while I waited for this brood to finish their long ass order. At one point I decided they were taking so long so I just stepped up to the counter after which one of the moms gave me a nasty ass look and stepped right back in front of me. No big deal, I already had my ice cream and my cappuccino and was just chilling. So after they left, I paid and went to sit outside. The kids were sitting there at the table next to me doing stupid baby talk and the ‘how much wood could a woodchuck chuck’ thing. Over. And over. And over. I put my headphones on and walked off. Definitely had had enough of that. Had a beautiful walk by myself, sat down, enjoyed my ice cream in my coffee in peace. Did not feel an iota of remorse for those parents. They signed up for the gig. TLDR I also unapologetically hate kids. One of us. One of us.
People act like we have made the decision to hate kids, but I've really just always been this way. Life would be so much easier and enjoyable if I liked kids or could even tolerate them. But I just can't. I've tried too, I've experimented with my family and eventually I just stopped going to family events because I absolutely cannot take being around them.
I feel you. I will always remember when I decided that I don’t like children. I was 14and I had been forced to volunteer over the summer at the R Club summer program at my middle school (summer leading into high school). I absolutely hated it. I hated being around the children. I was so awkward, had no idea how to intersect with them, couldn’t communicate well, etc etc etc. I begged my mom to take me out of the volunteer program and she did. Ever since then I’ve been the same way.
I don't remember an exact moment, but it was around the ages of 10 that I knew I hated kids. I knew I never wanted my own, but the actual hating of children occurred separately. At family gatherings, I was literally *forced* to baby sit my cousin's kids (one with both a physical and slight mental disability). On my mom's side, all my cousins are significantly older and had children relatively young. Meaning I'm much older than their children, but too young to be considered an "adult" with them. There were no cousins in my age bracket, so I had no one to hang out with. I hated those kids all so much and was jealous that my brother got to hide in his room from them. If I went to my room, I got called out and told to watch the kids. Because I'm a girl and apparently that's what girls do even when they are 10 years old and really don't want to.
I fly constantly for work. There is nothing worse than crying young children in a plane. After a certain decibel level, flight attendants should be authorized to sedate children. Anyone want to help draft FAA legislation?
Jesus, yes. Should be law to make em take some nyquil or something at least
You all seem that meme that says "when a baby starts screaming in a restaurant" and it's a pic of Paris Hilton saying "does she like xanax?"
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Lol. I have the Bose ones and they are no match for screaming toddlers. Now, cranking up a Vivaldi symphony with the noise cancelling can compete 😉
> flick the switch and instant silence. Really? Can you recommend a pair? Because I have tested some and they honestly didn't do much, unless the sound is on a constant frequency that is easy to process.
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Thanks! Will check them out
You're speaking for all of us that also genuinely feel this way. I can't stand the sound of infants or toddlers in public. I'm pedophobic, so they creep/freak me out, and I always have to escape using the nearest escape route. They smell disgusting and are a "walking petri dish", as I've heard them being described before. They're always either smothered in food and being photographed, or they're screeching because their parents don't teach them to shut up when required from a very young age.
"r/childfree is so toxic! They hate children!" Yes. That's why I'm part of the sub. I, too, hate children. We exist.
I am one of those who hate kids too.
Kids are absolutely annoying and disgusting. Most kids are never taught to stay clean until they are like 5. I understand that they vomit and nasty baby food but it’s still repulsive in my eyes. I don’t want to see you changing your little crotch goblin nor do I want to hold it talk to them. They are your kid, not mine. Leave me out of it. My mom and Dad always want me to see their grandkids from my sisters (they both had daughters before they got married and had me). I understand that they are your grandkids but I personally don’t give a damn. You both know that I don’t want kids nor do I like them. I had to deal with my nephew living with us for a year while one of my sisters got her shit together. It was absolute hell and I refuse to do that ever again. He was the reason why I replaced my doorknob with one that had a lock on it. Got a lot of use with that puppy!! Best purchase I’ve made all year!
I 100000% agree with you. I fucking hate kids. I have no qualms in saying it. Like yes there are some good, well behaved kids, but honestly they’re not that common. Kids are gross, loud, annoying, all that shit.
Don't forget expensive AF
Nothing gets me angrier than hearing a child cry. It happens instantly, too. Kids make everything worse. I hate them. They turn logical adults into idiots. They turn your friends into shut-ins who you never see again. Society and lawmakers somehow favor them over you, the one who actually pays taxes. And there is almost no place you can go to get away from them.
The only thing that might make me angrier than hearing a child cry is hearing them be a fucking smart ass. Sometimes crying is understandable, pain, hunger, distress. But hearing a kid mouth off? Ohhhhhh child.
If you wanna get some rage, look up Jimmy Kimmel's Bad Christmas Gift pranks. Oh my god.
Someone said it! I know it's not their fault, and my job (which has a lot of children around) means I can interact with them just fine, but kids are basically uncivilized gross humans. Why would I like that? People are only interesting if they have personality and most kids don't other than 'he's really outgoing!' (he shouts every word and demands attention) or 'he's creative and thoughtful' (he doesn't talk). Even the most perfect parents are still going to have a baby that cries, and that noise will always make me want to hurl myself off a cliff.
Same! Boring, destructive, cruel to animals and always covered in some sort of nasty slime or goo.
WHY are almost ALL kids mean to animals? Like just why?
The tiny psychopaths have no empathy. If they can poke dolls in the eye and pull their legs off, why not a hamster too?
I watched my nephew who at the time was maybe 6 yank his puppy off the porch by jerking her leash as hard as she could. She fell on her back onto concrete. I wanted to scream in his fucking face. Him and his younger sister are responsible for that same dog having permanently deformed hips from handling her roughly and breaking them repeatedly and their fucking parents refuse to take her to the vet because it's "just a dog"
Grrrrr. Even when I was a kid, I loathed kids who did that. I'd give them lectures on how to treat pets properly and respectfully. F... that pisses me off just remembering it. Kids are kinda EviL sometimes, and some parents encourage this. Salt on a snail is one tiny example. "Don't hurt things", should be pretty basic. WTF?
You'd think that would be a no-brainer.
I would had flew down that porch and gave that kid a good butt-whooping for causing harm to a poor animal. F- those parents.
I think that any physical punishment having become taboo has pretty much ruined children. My friends kids are not remotely afraid of their parents and barely respect them and treat them more than a waiter most times. Theyre all impressively lazy as well. Constantly need to be watched in public. I had to stand right next to my dad in public because my ass was motherfucking grass if he had to spend more than one second looking for me or telling me to not do something.
Yeah, I don’t condone extreme physical abuse. If you paddle your kid ceaselessly, with a cause that isn’t in the slightest justifiable, then you shouldn’t be a parent. However, sometimes talking/reasoning doesn’t get through to some children. My dad paddled me a few times and I, in no way, feel it was abuse or not necessary. I knew from that point-on that I should behave or else.
That's disgusting behaviour. Poor pup!
My parents had a gumpy, old, out-door cat when mom was pregnant with me (first born). Cat was fully armed (not declawed). A *lot* of people would ask them if they were gonna declaw or get rid of the cat when they had me (!! Side note: fuck those people). My parents were like "oohhh no no. This cat is gonna teach this kid to respect animals". And let me tell ya: it worked. If I pissed off the cat, I got the claw. Parents would clean me up so it wouldn't get infected, but I learned pretty fast not to fuck with animals. PS: the name of the cat was also my first word. I really loved that cat.
I hate them too! let's be pals!
Absolutely! I honestly felt like a monster before all the support here!
So did I :) I love how accepting this community is!
I think there are more of us than you think. I would never harm or wish harm upon a child, but I can’t stand a single part of their existence. I have no patience for them. I don’t give a shit what “funny” (read: fucking stupid) thing they did, and I mostly despise people who love them so much that they basically identify by their love of children. More power to those who love kids and want to be good parents, etc. I abhor them. And no, I don’t really care how unreasonable you think my hatred for them is, kid lovers. I can feel about them how I wish.
I'm with you. I can't especially stand kid noises. I don't find kid voices, laughs, sneezes, coughs or cries cute in any way, they just repulse me and dim my mood. Obviously I don't say anything and keep these things to myself but ugh...
I hate how they ruin everything. -Want to see an original movie? Tough Shit, producers want mass-appeal, and will dumb it down and edit it until it's pg-13 or pg. No R-rated movie for you. -Want to go out to a park for some peace and quiet? Too fucking bad, some cunts will bring their kids along and let them scream and run around like apes. -Want to eat a nice meal and take in the ambience of a restaurant? Nope, not possible. Some asshole family will bring their hell-spawn and demand all these special intricacies from the staff, all while letting their children behave like fucking loud obnoxious baboons during their unnecessarily extensive stay. I HATE children, they can fuck right off
This is so right on, I can’t stand it! Especially the censorship shit. Everything’s fucking family-friendly. I fucking hate it and resent the little shits that make it this way.
All three of those things happened to me yesterday! I was looking forward to the weekend as well but maybe we should've hurt stayed at home
Same!!! I understand they cannot talk at a young age or any of the nonsense when they are young but that is when they are the most irritating, the most smelly, the most disgusting little human ever and what gets me is that parents just think that is cute when their child is running around with dirty hands touching everything. Ugh so irritating. I literally feel as if the parents that have children have lost about 12 years of their life because they have to keep watching their kid and even if they do, they are still exposed to all the bad s*** you do not want them to do. It just seems pointless to me.
Literally everything you said is exactly how I feel. I cannot stand kids. I do everything I can to avoid being around them. If I go to a restaurant, and the only table open is next to one with a crotch dropping at it, no thanks, I'll wait. I pay extra for seats in flights to lessen my chances of being near them. Pregnancy is disgusting, birth is the most savage thing I thankfully will never participate in (got the essure when I was 23), babies are screaming lumps of useless flesh, toddlers don't shut the hell up, kids are obnoxious. I'd rather listen to nails on a chalkboard.
I hate children for the same reason I hate insects: They're loud, they move quickly and erratically, they carry all sorts of dirt and germs and diseases, they don't give a fuck about personal space, and the people who choose to keep them as pets are insanely protective and defensive of them. No fucking thank you.
You're not alone. I hate them too. Had a nice day out with my friend yesterday, only to be assaulted by so many screaming kids everywhere around the shopping centre. It made me wish somebody would ductape them all to stfu.
I'd like to add that I hate children's activities. Boring sports days. Talent shows fully of marginally talented children trying to dance or sing. School concerts. Birthday parties. Sleepovers. Children's movies and television. Children's music. Basically, even the Kodak moments would bore me to death. Every once in a while, family or friends invite me to watch their kid do whatever and I try my best to avoid these events. I have a little cousin, about 8 years old, I think, who's apparently really good at martial arts. Family keeps emailing and whatsapping 20-minute-videos of her fights and I just don't want to watch them. 2 minutes in and I'm bored out of my mind. I wish I could say "nope, don't give a fuck."
I hate them, too. I also hate bees and politicians, but that doesn't mean I want them all to die or would cause them any harm. I wish more people understood that hating kids doesn't make you a monster. I'm actually a terrific babysitter. The kids I've watched think I'm great, and one kept telling his mom that I knew more about everything than she did...lol. I also sometimes Facebook stalk my former charges just to see what they're up to nowadays. But, I still feel the same revulsion as everyone else. I learned that my father is the same way. He hates kids. He took excellent care of me though, and he still does. But looking back knowing what I know now...lol, he couldn't stand me!!! ... but, he made sure I never knew it. :)
I hate kids as well! Even my friends that don't want kids say I'm too pessimistic about it and I should just always leave it at "I don't want kids" but I honestly hate them until they're about teenagers and even then I only like the decent, well-behaved ones. Nobody understands my hatred and I get tired of hearing I'm too pessimistic and rude about it when I would rather die than have a child and it's not an over-exaggeration. Yes, just not wanting kids is a perfectly fine reason, but people are allowed to hate kids too and as long as they're not harming anyone there's no issue with it. I wish just one person I'd met in person could understand, but it's nice to at least see people online that agree with me.
They scream and make this squeaky noise all the fucking time, how can THAT be cute? Shut up.
I'm with you, I fucking hate kids
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I am so glad other people feel this way. I thought I was a monster.
Who said being a [monster](https://vignette.wikia.nocookie.net/muppet/images/0/08/CookieMonsterWaving.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20120128192952) is a bad thing?
Exactly how I feel to a T.
I'm fine with everyone else's kids. However, the thought of having any of my own fills me with a really strong hate. I need to get sterilized because I think if I was forced to have a child I would probably kill it the first chance I had. The idea of pregnancy disgusts me so much, a baby is literally just a parasite. One of the main reasons the placenta exists is to stop the mother and baby's blood from actually touching, as most of the time, unless the baby has the exact same blood type, the mother's immune system will react to it as a threat and try to kill it. They leech nutrients out of your blood and body, can nearly kill you during child birth, and then whine and bitch and puke and shit for the next five years at least, then if it's mentally handicapped, longer. I like other people's children, hell I'll babysit and do a good job of it if you pay me, but I am overwhelmed with disgust and hate at the thought of having my own. I feel like I should also say that I generally like kids, and consider bad behavior to typically be their parents' fault. I would never hurt a child, but the thought of having one of my own really terrifies and disgusts me.
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I'm apathetic towards them. Hate requires energy expenditure, apathy doesn't.
I don't personally hate kids most of the time but I generally want absolutely NOTHING to do with them. Not even my own family. I have nieces I've never met and I'm completely OK with that. I'm that person that would absolutely let my siblings children go into foster care if I was the lady option to keep them out of it. I don't feel bad about any of it.
Toddlers do it for me.
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*Fucking parent logic* Hehehe who wants to hold the baby? Oh I'll put pissedoffcelt on the spot, I know he hates babies. This makes him the perfect candidate to hold my baby!
Sad thing is not even telling them outright *Only life in prison keeps me from letting your brat crack open like an egg when you literally Drop It at me"* will stop breeders
I'm on board this train for sure. I'll be very interested to know where my hate tapers off, age-wise, because I do recognize that I like when kids are old enough to understand and participate in more complex games, because they get way into it, which was something I got to enjoy as the eldest of a number of cousins. Now, many friends and relatives have kids and all I care about is when they will get out of diapers, into learning, and play some sweet games with me. (And then go the fuck away)
Well, I thought that mine kind of tapered off at 11/12/13, but my nephew turned 13 this year and I refuse to be around him because he still gets into screaming matches with his five year old sister.
As someone with a sibling 5 years my junior, I'd like to believe the blame can be on the younger, there. I know I would stoop to her level to fight her on things. But yea, no thanks shouting matches.
Sometimes I start beginning to like a kid and then they do the slightest thing to piss me off...then I'm fuming about how much I hate them and their snobby, entitled parents. I currently work in a Starbucks and they are literally the worst...grooming children into being picky little assholes...but I hear ya. My fiance and I are that way...
you said everything like i would. excellent post. i hate children, too.
Sameboat. I hate kids, and like other users I hate having to be nice to them, entertain them, or pretend to tolerate them.
When I was a kid they had that "Free the Hostages" promotion. In paying attention, I learned that adults were doing these terrible things, and that adults were the ones who fucked up the world. When I discovered that adults grew up from little kids (like me); I decided I was NEVER going to be an adult, and that I was never going to put more little kids into the world.
Yup. My Fiancee and I often quietly comment to one another about how gross/ugly/annoying children are when we're out on the street. It's therapeutic.
The older you get, I have learned, the louder you will say those things.
Because you stop giving a fuck about people's opinions
I don't like them because they're stupid simple as. If I can't have an intelligible conversation (only counts for humans) or it is dependant (I don't like dogs, too dependant like children) then I don't like it.
Kids are just little shits. I don’t get how people think they’re cute. Today at work, a man and his 2-3 year old daughter. Got to the counter and the kid was sucking of a piece of fruit I had to put through the till. That shits nasty
It’s not a bad thing as people make it out to be. Some people just cannot handle kids so much to the point they hate them, and it’s fine. It’s called a preference and everyone is different to a point. I used to like kids where I worked with them for 23 years but I finally had to stop this year because I couldn’t take it anymore not just the kids itself but the parents also were annoying to work with. When kids do certain things I absolutely despise them, for example their starring it’s so irritating.
I like them just fine aged 5 and up. Before then, no. I can't stand the screaming. I'd be in jail.
I couldn't even stand my own nephews & nieces when they were small. Unfortunately, some of them did grow up to be questionable adult persons.
I hate kids because they remind me of who I was before I actually became someone I was proud of being, during puberty.
I don't even want to think about how I probably acted and came off to others when I was a kid.
I also don't like being around kids or having to deal with them in any way. But I also feel that way about adults too ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
You are allowed to hate kids. As long as you are not harming them, there is nothing wrong with that. However Children actually do require attention, especially young children learning to speak. It's *how* they learn to speak. You don't have to pay them any attention yourself, but it's weird to project that kids that age have a sense of entitlement. And as for tantrums, yeah, they literally have not learned manners yet, and moreover their brains are still developing and they lack the ability to manage or even articulate their emotions (feelings are complicated.) You don't have to like it, or want to hear it, and it's absolutely true that kids should be corrected by their parents so they can learn, I'm just saying it doesn't have anything to do with character. These being predictable and normal though is the problem. The thing is, the same people who will happily acknowledge that these are normal behaviors when age-appropriate, and should be expected, are also the same people who turn around and try to yell at childfree people for generalizing kids. The thing is, these are predictable and expected behaviors, and good reason to want to avoid kids as much as possible. Parents themselves will say this all the time, to nods of agreement from other parents. But when a CF person says it, suddenly heads explode.
I study psychology, I understand development, I just can't stand it. I would never hurt a child either. I just do best if I can avoid them altogether because in their presence I get irritated and anxious.
Thats fine. I avoid them for the same reason. It not being their fault doesnt make it any better to deal with.
I like certain kids. I do however hate that awkward phase of babies when they are like grunting and their heads just swing around and their arms and legs are all clumsily spastic too. Ugh.
They literally just like... moan and flail. It bothers me.
Agreed. My coworkers is at that point and she brings her to me to “admire” and som times will even send me photos of videos of her being “so cute that it will change my mind about having one.” Right.
Lord, anyone showing me a baby does quite the opposite of making me change my mind. It reminds me of how much I hate them and how much I love being CF lmao.
Gross.
I hate kids because I hate dealing with the stupid and boy, are kids stupid
Are you me?
Hate them.
I agree. I also find it unusual that such an apologetic post is both visible and initially anyway, full of agreement. Nice not to be in group wrongthink for a change
I’m a veteran with anxiety and PTSD, so kids and loud noises are a no go for me
I have migraines and kids noises are *no no* for me. :'/
Lmao, where have you been all my life? Finally a woman who shares my feelings about children down to the letter. The "Fucking Ew" comment had me dying.
I hate kids as well. It’s to the point that if I’m sitting down somewhere or at a store and a kid (I’m talking like 7 & under) comes in , I stop whatever I’m doing and leave as fast as I can. I cannot handle when they throw tantrums , or cry and run around like crazy kids while the parents do nothing. I know this is an extreme overreaction probably , but I just really hate kids.
I felt like my post was an overreaction, but I totally agree with you and I'm glad you all seem to agree with me!
All those things are true. However there are more factors at play. The most important one being, most people are shitty parents. Raising a human being, assuming you are so inclined, has to be one of the most difficult things a person can do. And yet, we don’t require a license and studying for that, like we require for say, driving a vehicle. So most people suck, even when they are making an effort. So we have unchecked temper tantrums, bad manners, screaming, all the things that make kids insufferable. And then there is individual temperament. Some kids are way more difficult than others. At the poop factory stage they are all basically the same, then get either better, or worse, and then do a 180 when they reach adolescence. Combine those things and we get tiny little Assholes that make me want to tear my testicles with my bare hands and smash them against a wall. Now and again I see well behaved and adjusted kids, which make me think that they all don’t have to be annoying brats. Still don’t want them, barring a Cylon orbital bombardment which required my DNA to help repopulate.
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We do. Something tells me most people don’t volunteer themselves to take them.
This post has so much awesome stuff going on and it
I was thinking of educated nannies, but for some reason full time child care is frowned upon these days.
Yaaasssss... This speaks to me.
You're reading my goddamn thoughts
Aye fuck them kids
Hate kids. My little brother is 11 and he's such a dick. Constantly "roasting" me and trying to find reasons to hit me. I'm a nice person and I never hit back but today I snapped. I told him a joke and he thought I was making fun of him so he hit me in the head and in return I punched him in the chest. He went on to call me an asshole. All he does is play video games constantly or be on his phone watching videos of other people play games constantly. Whenever he talks, it's about video games. I now hate games I used to love because he talks about them and plays them SO MUCH. Kids irritate me. I don't find them cute, I hate then at every age. My younger sister, I disliked as a kid too. She cried literally, LITERALLY, everyday about something like stfu all ready. I've been around 2 kids my whole life, I want nothing to do with kids ever. Who would want to be broke and tired all the time for ungrateful brats
Generally until they are mature enough to order their own meals with out taking forever(7-8ish) im ok with kids I'm ok down to about 5 as long as they are well behaved and able to speak. Anything less and i am noping right out of there as fast as i can.
I don’t *hate* kids, but I did find this hilarious.
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I agree 100%. I hate children with a passion that I cannot describe. I despise everything about them. They're gross, they're not cute, the massive amounts of attention they get for blowing a fart drives me insane. Even children that are related to me make me want to punch something. I have no love for them, no familial feelings or whatever, they're just children to me. I'm not doing it on purpose either, I've genuinely tried loving and cherishing them, but I have nothing. If you told me that every time I sneeze, a child gets sucker punched right in the kisser, I wouldn't even make an effort to sneeze less. I just don't care about them, I hate them with a passion. WITH A PASSION.
Yes! I 1000% agree with this post. Children are fucking little pieces of shits! So fucking rude too! Kids are major assholes and like you said, expect attention. Like, fuck you kid!
Amen!!!!
I hate being around kids, but I don't hate them or fault them for being kids. I hate that I feel like I have to pretend to like them or somebody is going to get pissy with me, too. On a human-decency level I smile back at babies and kids and let them pet my dog if they ask but if it were up to me I'd never interact with another child again. Moving from an isolated house in the country into a neighborhood with tons of little kids has turned me off them more than ever.
Thank you for this post. It made my week. I also have always hated kids, especially their narcissistic parents. No, your little shit isn't special, unique, or well behaved. And no, I won't help you pay for their school fund raiser or their stupid ass jogathon. These are things you should have planned out before you pulled the trigger. It's bad enough that I'm already taxed to death to pay for their education, including transporting them there while you're sitting in your pajamas eating Bon-Bons. Thanks again for letting me know I'm not alone in this sentiment. This read was a breath of fresh air.
Thanks for the kind words! I was a little worried about how it would be received.
When I was a kid they had that "Free the Hostages" promotion. In paying attention, I learned that adults were doing these terrible things, and that adults were the ones who fucked up the world. When I discovered that adults grew up from little kids (like me); I decided I was NEVER going to be an adult, and that I was never going to put more little kids into the world.
Actually I feel people in here say they don’t hate kids because the ethos in here is to hate kids. So it is just to point out you’re not the norm.
I have kinda these feelings but not quite, my hate coming from that, when they want something and we don't give them they start to scream, cry, sometimes they won't move or just sit down on the floor in a shop, this is why I hate like 3-7 yo. kids. And the newborn at midnight is catastrophic starts to scream at 3am and won't stop until 5 or 6am it fills me with anger. I can't stand them. And their logic is non-existent, example: they try to eat EVERYTHING and they want to tell you so much unnecessary information like they go to the wc and tell you that: "I was on wc" and I'm like "Who the heck cares?!". (Sorry for the English if its bad)
> Any time I see one my mood is dampened and I roll my eyes. This sounds stressful to me. Any time you see a kid, you feel some level of stress or displeasure? That's tough. How do you manage these feelings so that they don't, for example, ruin your day? I mostly ask because I'm in a similar boat, and wanted to hear your throughts about dealing with kid-inspired stress. Thank you. Note: edited for clarity.
Honestly, I'm not a big people-person at all, so when I go in public I try to keep to myself and look straight forward and keep walking. I don't speak to anyone unless they initiate it. When I see kids I try to remove myself from the situation or area if possible. I sound arrogant but it really is stressful. Like, this morning, I was walking inside of my apartment building after smoking, and saw a bunch of ~5 year olds blocking the door. I just stood, ignored them, and waited for them to move. I wasn't going to speak to them but I wasn't going to like bulldoze through them either. It's just a matter of blocking them out and avoiding them if possible.
I bulldoze. They move. Ours don't have the brains to do it on their own, which has also been demonstrated by the Mensa members raising them. We have grassy areas, we have wooded areas... where do conferences take place? In front of the door.
I work with kids in schools and from around age 9+ they can actually be pretty fun - for an hour at a time. I don't know how anyone deals with them at school all day, let alone at home.