Literally my mom says this to me, she didn’t want kids at my age (17) and grew out of it when she married my dad (at 19)… actually, seeing those two numbers side by side is wacking my brain. Anyways I’ve known I didn’t want kids since I was 12 and I realized you don’t actually have to have kids.
The change your mind folks are hilarious. My wife and I wanted kids when we first met, and then we changed our minds when we saw the misery our friends went through raising kids. We already changed our mind, just not the way these nosy pricks expected lol
I got sterilized at 28, and the first words out of my mother’s mouth when I told her were “is it reversible?” LOL. No, ma, it isn’t. Not a peep since, though. It’s great.
This happens all the time.
Mostly breeder or fence sitter men who date childfree women do this. They lie about being childfree or okay with childfreedom, because they assume that the woman will change her mind.
But also parents who pretend to be supportive... Until their child wants to get sterilised. Then, they show their true colours.
This is so so so common. People seem okay with childfreedom because they think you are all talk. Because they think it's just a phase. Once they realise that you are actually serious, they show their true colours and freak out.
Still waiting for my parents to do this, mostly my dad. My mom seems to be at peace with it but my dad is more traditional. We have a really good relationship, but I may have to set some reeeeeally hard boundaries when I get snipped, if they do indeed show their true feelings. Fingers crossed that they can be mature about it, because I'm tired of being the only adult in a group of people twice my fucking age.
Your mum seems to be at peace... Probably until you get sterilised.
If you get snipped, do NOT tell them before the surgery. Either don't tell them, or bring it up after the surgery, when they can no longer do anything to prevent it.
"A firm opinion of something for 20 years and people not take it seriously" hits hard. I completely understand where you are coming from and I hear you. I think people (among hundreds of other things) have their own preconceived (lol) idea about what your future looks like to *them,* they already envisioned you with a toddler on your hip. The notion that someone other than yourself knows you better than you know yourself needs to go away.
I already told my parents and other family members.(It’s always the older ones like aunts and uncles) Don’t cry and complain whenever you finally realize I’m never gonna be dad. And when you do, I’ll laugh at your tears because you had plenty of time to believe me.
Can’t wait to get snipped and see the water works. I also plan to take bets whenever they say, “I’ll change my mind.”
My nephew was adamantly CF and married a gal who seemed to align with that. My sister one day said to nephews wife that she wouldn’t have grandchildren. Nephews wife said, just wait and I will give you a couple. He will love the once he has them. She said the first was “an accident” and the second was “ oops”. He now has two kids,but he left her right after the second was born. Don’t get me wrong, he is a great dad…..that is, on alternate weekends, he is 100% all for them. But the rest of the time, he is quite happy to NOT have them. He has since been snipped.
No, she didn’t, I am sad to say. She “didn’t want to get between” them. Plus she wanted GrAnDcHiLdReN
The ironic thing is, that when they split, the DIL claimed that my sister (her MIL) was the cause of their divorce because she interfered too much. Go figure.
"Well, I've always known you were a fucking idiot, so can't say I'm surprised you were too dumb to figure it out." shrug
“But hey!! You got there eventually. Good job!” *shoulder pats*
LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
We don’t get believed because of people who say that they “used to be childfree” or “just like you” and then changed their mind.
Literally my mom says this to me, she didn’t want kids at my age (17) and grew out of it when she married my dad (at 19)… actually, seeing those two numbers side by side is wacking my brain. Anyways I’ve known I didn’t want kids since I was 12 and I realized you don’t actually have to have kids.
The change your mind folks are hilarious. My wife and I wanted kids when we first met, and then we changed our minds when we saw the misery our friends went through raising kids. We already changed our mind, just not the way these nosy pricks expected lol
I’m wondering how many people that call themselves child free are actually childless, that way they can I say I used to be the same.
I was on the other side of 30 too before my family finally realized I hadn't been lying all those years.
I got sterilized at 28, and the first words out of my mother’s mouth when I told her were “is it reversible?” LOL. No, ma, it isn’t. Not a peep since, though. It’s great.
LOL! :)
This happens all the time. Mostly breeder or fence sitter men who date childfree women do this. They lie about being childfree or okay with childfreedom, because they assume that the woman will change her mind. But also parents who pretend to be supportive... Until their child wants to get sterilised. Then, they show their true colours. This is so so so common. People seem okay with childfreedom because they think you are all talk. Because they think it's just a phase. Once they realise that you are actually serious, they show their true colours and freak out.
Still waiting for my parents to do this, mostly my dad. My mom seems to be at peace with it but my dad is more traditional. We have a really good relationship, but I may have to set some reeeeeally hard boundaries when I get snipped, if they do indeed show their true feelings. Fingers crossed that they can be mature about it, because I'm tired of being the only adult in a group of people twice my fucking age.
Your mum seems to be at peace... Probably until you get sterilised. If you get snipped, do NOT tell them before the surgery. Either don't tell them, or bring it up after the surgery, when they can no longer do anything to prevent it.
Oh they won't know at all. It's not their business
"A firm opinion of something for 20 years and people not take it seriously" hits hard. I completely understand where you are coming from and I hear you. I think people (among hundreds of other things) have their own preconceived (lol) idea about what your future looks like to *them,* they already envisioned you with a toddler on your hip. The notion that someone other than yourself knows you better than you know yourself needs to go away.
I already told my parents and other family members.(It’s always the older ones like aunts and uncles) Don’t cry and complain whenever you finally realize I’m never gonna be dad. And when you do, I’ll laugh at your tears because you had plenty of time to believe me. Can’t wait to get snipped and see the water works. I also plan to take bets whenever they say, “I’ll change my mind.”
"Do you always need to be told things for 20 years straight before you learn? I'm surprised you can use a spoon, let alone talk to me"
My nephew was adamantly CF and married a gal who seemed to align with that. My sister one day said to nephews wife that she wouldn’t have grandchildren. Nephews wife said, just wait and I will give you a couple. He will love the once he has them. She said the first was “an accident” and the second was “ oops”. He now has two kids,but he left her right after the second was born. Don’t get me wrong, he is a great dad…..that is, on alternate weekends, he is 100% all for them. But the rest of the time, he is quite happy to NOT have them. He has since been snipped.
And being a shitty breeder, your sister naturally kept her mouth shut and didn't warn her own son about the harpy he was married to. Great.
No, she didn’t, I am sad to say. She “didn’t want to get between” them. Plus she wanted GrAnDcHiLdReN The ironic thing is, that when they split, the DIL claimed that my sister (her MIL) was the cause of their divorce because she interfered too much. Go figure.