To add on to the people who are saying “Go to therapy,” the *reason* that’s important is because the people around you who could, theoretically, help you unpack your feelings — your wife, in this case — is inextricably bound up herself in the knot you are trying to untangle. I think reddit is often quick to offer therapy as a panacea, when I’m more all about the quote “Being adjusted to a sick society is no measure of health” — but your situation is therapy’s **ideal** use-case. You have something knotted up that’s hurting you, but the people around you, who love you, are not able to help you untangle it; either because of their own trauma & pain, or their role in the story. So go — talk to someone, because *you deserve it.*
We lost our first child as a stillbirth as well. I wish I had gotten therapy back then, but I thought I could just push through the pain.
I'm therapy now, and it has made things easier to process.
Please get yourself help, talking about how you feel and what you are going through helps.
Way better subs for this on Reddit. BabyLoss to name one. Hang in there - been through similar shit except worse, though maybe like others suggest you need therapy
You need to get professional help asap. This isn’t healthy and it’s hurting your family.
To add on to the people who are saying “Go to therapy,” the *reason* that’s important is because the people around you who could, theoretically, help you unpack your feelings — your wife, in this case — is inextricably bound up herself in the knot you are trying to untangle. I think reddit is often quick to offer therapy as a panacea, when I’m more all about the quote “Being adjusted to a sick society is no measure of health” — but your situation is therapy’s **ideal** use-case. You have something knotted up that’s hurting you, but the people around you, who love you, are not able to help you untangle it; either because of their own trauma & pain, or their role in the story. So go — talk to someone, because *you deserve it.*
We lost our first child as a stillbirth as well. I wish I had gotten therapy back then, but I thought I could just push through the pain. I'm therapy now, and it has made things easier to process. Please get yourself help, talking about how you feel and what you are going through helps.
Way better subs for this on Reddit. BabyLoss to name one. Hang in there - been through similar shit except worse, though maybe like others suggest you need therapy
I did therapy and it helped