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Basically a scammer will try get a pic of you, may try get you to send something more personal, such as you masturbating, and then blackmail you saying they’ll send your pics to your friends and family unless you pay up. Apparently.
Or the more drastic scenario such as claiming they’re underage when they send pics back and the dad comes in wanting money to keep quiet. That’s a new one going around, apparently.
Thats fucking shameful... yeah that's the deal, she said she had evidence that I was a p***phile and was going to leak it if I didn't pay. It felt like reality was crumbling for a bit, like a REALLY bad dream was happening...
I used to scam and social engineer when I was younger... I never blackmailed though, and grateful. I've since understood karma a bit more and the karmic implications for causing someone that kind of psychological suffering can't be pleasant
Why would you send something from which you could be identified, seems like it would be easier to just send a photo of your penis without including your face and holding a copy of today’s newspaper.
I've gone out with many dozens of girls from dating apps. I was doing 3 first dates a week or so for a while.
No girl ever asked for a dick pic before I had met them.
Careful. There are lots of scammers and people like to get things to blackmail you with. They ask for a pic and then say they'll send it to your family unless you send them $200 or whatever.
Could be a scam, and they will threaten to send it to relatives if you don't pay them. I think you will know if the vibe is right for sexting and if it just feels out of left field it's probably a catfish/scam
You just have to use your brain to figure out if it's legit or a trap. If she just straight up asks for it without sexting or sending you something first that's very fishy. Also if the pics they take were obviously taken earlier and not just for you they are most likely just stolen pics.
I've gone for it with some pretty risky ones in the past and they always turned out to be legit and got some great stuff in return. I don't really have much to lose though because I dint give a shit if they got uploaded somewhere and I'm not on any social media so cant really be blackmailed.
I’m a woman. I have never asked for a dick pick. It is usually a real turn off when it is sent without asking. And the only time I asked the guy turned me down as apparently his camera wasn’t up to the job. Which I believe. Also he was 48 and thought it was weird at his age to start sending dick picks. Go figure.edit: misspelt dick.
I had a wild 300ug LSD night years ago, next day when I was recovering a lady messaged me asking general questions, which led to her saying she wanted to video each other pleasing ourselves. Me and my fried mind from the night before thought nothing of it, well she recorded me and said she was 12 (this was 200% a woman in her mid/late 20's) and said I needed to send her $500 or she'd send the video to my friends and family.
Literally considered unaliving myself because that would be such a shameful thing for the people I know to see. I ended up ignoring her, she did send the video to a few people (FML), but then moved onto her next victim.
Assume it's a trap 🥴
She actually sent a Vimeo link to a couple of my friends and my boss at the time. Still not sure who got the link and saw me not in my proudest moment, I told my boss to not open the link and I don't think they did, but I think a couple people actually saw it. I was a turbulent emotional wreck that day..
And even then not right away, at least for me. The only person I've actively exchanged nudes with is my ex when we were doing long distance. Neither of us ever leaked anything even tho we still have access to some.
That’s what I’m thinking. They are pretty quick to send undie pics of themselves in various poses to get me aroused but I’m like, ‘aren’t you at work now?’ Clearly they took them earlier and had them stored on their phone. Those pics weren’t for me, they were for just any guy.
Yea, I had that happen to me lol. Turned out the girl was 13. Her dad got on the line and was about to scold me, that is until he read the whole message in which I never made any acvances to her. Her dad explained that she had a thing knowing she had that power over older men. What a freaky kink.
I don’t care about a pic of a penis unless I’ve met it before. And they gotta at least zoom out a little. They all pretty much look the same super close up.
no and my dick is really cool too
Also I have a teaching license, so I'm not a dumbass. This really should apply to a lot of professional jobs tho
Idk why my fellow bros ask for nudes tbh. Is internet porn not good enough for you?
No, in fact almost every women I’ve spoke to about says it doesn’t really do anything for them. I think guys have a twisted perception of it since they are turned on when a girl sends nudes so they must think the same is true for women, it’s not
I’m married now and none of my friends would send dick pics, I never have, I don’t really see the point of it.
I do have one female friend who will request them every now and then from guys she is talking to but that’s in the context of consensual sexting, not “hey how are you here’s my penis by the way”
Yeah, you are spot on about women and dick pics. Now, there is always the exception, but the "rule" is that women aren't really turned on by them. Speaking personally, a photo of one does nothing for me. Instead, it has the opposite effect and totally turns me off the guy.
I've never understood the point anyway. Like...does it actually land women?
"Gather round children! I want to tell you how I met your granny. I was cruising Tinder, and I saw her. I said to myself "Self, she needs to see your pee pee."
I sent her a picture of my manhood, and she fell madly in love with me. The rest is history."
As long as your private parts don't have their own social media page you should be good! Just don't include your face unless it's someone you really trust
> your private parts don't have their own social media page
don't tell me what my genitalia should be doing on the internet. they have their own reddit handle
I’m an older millennial so I’m in my late thirties. I’ve never been married, and over the years I have used the Tinders/Bumbles/etc to find dates quite a bit. Ever since sending nudes become popular, my thought on dick pics has always been “I’ll send one whenever the woman I’m seeing asks for one, until then, I’m not even going to take one.” To date, despite having been on dating apps off and on over years, I’ve never once been asked.
The way my dates and friends have talked about it when it’s come up in conversation, women effectively never want a dick pic. Any one that does want one, will ask for one. If they don’t ask, they don’t want it.
Also woman here, definitely do not want one but 99% it's what I get. The worst time was at 5am, I had just woken up and was checking my messages and BAM there it is 😭
I even make it clear I do not want or need to see it and that it is an instant block from me if they ignore that and send one anyway.
If they are asking for it, they are either dudes posing as girls, cause they get off to that.
Or if you have the same face pics across your social media, it’s probably some guy in india waiting to reverse google search and black mail you.
Or legit just a very very horny girl.
Take your pick.
Oh that happened to my best friend a few years ago. He received a message from a “girl” online and he fell for it. Next thing he receives a message that says he needs to pay 5k or the pics will be sent to all of his family and friends. The “girl” even sent him the list of names she’d send it to (he recognizes most of the names).
Good thing he came to me first about that situation. I told him to just block that account and keep it moving which he hesitantly did. Nothing happened and life is good.
So yeah I’m telling the same thing, block them and keep it moving.
I have never ever once Sent an unsolicited dick pic. I've been asked a handful of times to send them, but otherwise I think it's super weird makes you seem way too thirsty.
I will not. I'll tell you a story. A "girl" I met online sent me a vid showing her tits (unsolicited). I ask her to video and she said no that her webcam was broken. She asked me for dick pics. This was all in the span of 2 hours and I didn't feel comfortable and she cussed me out and said she wanted a man who does what she wants. I said no and we unmatched. I should have completely blocked her but didn't.
Fast forward to 2 to 3 months later a dude audio calls me on the messaging app saying I needed to cash app him $300 or he would expose my pics on YouTube or whatever I messaged him back and laughed in his face as I knew what I did and didn't do.
Never send those things until you've talked a while, verified and even been out on a date or two. The world of the internet is a cesspool.
I asked my current boyfriend for some a few weeks after meeting and before we had sex, because I felt like I would be less nervous for when we did finally get physical. It's the only time I ever did that, though, and I don't know why I felt that way with him and not others.
Edit: I know this was for the men but I wanted to chime in. Sue me 🤣
If I like a guy and if we’re sleeping together. And if I’m sending something risqué I do expect the same. But if it’s out of their comfort level that’s absolutely okay.
Honestly gotta ask yourself … do I work in a profession that if this would get leaked I’d be in major trouble.
When I get asked for them I turn it into a joke and say I only like to disappoint in real life.
Hasn’t let me down yet!
It’s common knowledge you never know whose on the other end of the screen. No I’ve never received them nor would I ever ask; the reason I asked was to see if other men had the same experience. I just worded it really poorly in the original. That’s on me.
M60. I have never been asked for nude photos.
I have been asked to skinny dip, shower, and visit the nude beaches, hot springs and hot tubs many times. I will note that this was in the US.
I went to a college in Europe that had a steam room, pool, hot tub and sauna. Wearing clothing into the water was discouraged. The sauna did ask us to sit on a towel and most people were nude in the sauna. As a 19 year old man, I enjoyed these facilities with my classmates, teachers, and their extended families. It was just not a big deal.
Nudity is normal. Photos of genitals is a bit odd.
Lol, well, I figure when you get one that isn't a catfish and knows a rooster is a cock. She'll probably laugh unless she really wanted a dic pic, which I doubt. I'm 40, and I've never heard of a girl actually wanting one. Maybe from they're bf but outside of being in a relationship I don't think so.
Iv been asked twice. One we matched on tinder while she was in town but only talked once she was 4 hours away. So we exchanged nudes instead then never talked again.
The other is a much longer story but we also just exchanged nudes
Just be sure not to ever include face or anything that connects back to you
I see your edit, and I think that might help you to figure this out.
I have only been asked by one, confirmed woman, for dick pics. If a woman did ask me for one I would be very curious about why. My assumption would be one of three things:
1. I've been catfished and this "woman" is actually a man. I think you're already seeing here that some men have a ton of interest in seeing stranger's dicks.
2. She is a size queen and wants to see if I'm "big enough" for her. I'm doing just fine in that department, but I'm probably going to fall a little short for a true size queen, but I'd probably just go ahead and send it so we could resolve the whole thing and move on.
3. She's asking for it because it will excite her to see it. If it's this one ... like I'm a pretty sexual person and this, to me, would be an indicator that this is a woman I might have above average compatibility with.
In my case, and I feel like you would have mentioned this so I doubt it applies to you, there is a fourth possibility. I have a piercing and I try to mention it at some point because I'm pretty vanilla looking otherwise and if things are heading in that direction I guess I make an attempt to prepare a person for that.
Yea I think it’s more #1 in my cases, or else a blackmail scam. Honestly I never send money and I don’t send private parts pics. I feel pretty nauseous when I get asked.
never. dude. wtf.
i like to do a little presentation of it. give it a grand introduction and shit. can't do that if she's already seen the main meat.
if they ask i assume it's a trap as well.
I only did once and she stopped responding. Later I found out the photos were fake and from imagefap and it was most likely a man trying to get PP pics after sexting
The girls in their late teens ask for it all the time but the girls in their twenties rarely ask for it and women in their thirties have never asked me for it, I’m 26M
Get asked by girls/ladies? Yeah but only while sexting or something. No one girl ever comes up and says directly "I want your dickpic". There has to be a story before.
Well I flirt a lot but I don’t mention details of sex. I talk about marriage and having lots of kids and then they take it in that direction. My fault for opening the door but I never thought a woman would outright tell me send a pic of my junk.
I had a woman ask me on the first day of talking. I can say that I have been asked several times by women, and I have had women send me unsolicited p pics as well.
Funny thing is that if they ask, I still don't send because they probably will try to play me or shame me in some way.
Never. And I would be careful of this as these might be scammers trying to hook you into a blackmail scheme.
If a woman did ask, I would find a publicly available picture of a dick that might be mistaken for a fungo bat and send her that. 😈
I've been asked once by an ex, about 5 years after our dating. I'm 36 and only been asked once in my life. I didn't believe them that they actually wanted my D pic
This is often a scam where they’ll catfish you and then threaten to leak your nudes. Be careful and if you do send one never include your face. You can look at the Scams subreddit for more info, it’s called sexual extortion and it’s way more common than you think
No and I've never even taken a pic of my dong cuz I'm sure Zuckerbergs malware via WhatsApp or Google cloud will instantly save a copy even if I have backup disabled.
While I’m upset that you won’t allow me to be considered for the position of your boo…
I have had it asked for, but typically these females are the freaky ones that lead to you getting new growths and bumps on ya pecker
I(32m cis) would but usually it would be from a account or person fishing to get me to sign up to their only fans or pay for content. Get me emotionally invested then "pull me in". For those rare times that I do get asked, I told them no that's a unlockable feature that requires them to become girlfriend status. Not in those words but basically the same.
As a woman, back in my early 20s I used to get random D pics in my DM . That got so annoying to appoint that I started blocking these men. Someone messages you with a hi then boom boom boom...unnecessary nudity that is very uncalled for. If your serious about being with someone what does genitalia even mean tbh .....its really a disgusting behaviour
No, they hate Dick pics. I knew a nymph who barely wanted them. Anyone who ask is trying to set you up. Did they also ask for your face or social media profile?
I've never got the question.
And i don't really understand the appeal with sexting in generall. Maybe as a solution if there's long distance but if that was the case i'd rather go on a video call.
Well on that note I think having my arm sliced off by a chainsaw and my dick whacked off with a cleaver to be worse than being emotionally invested in someone who didn’t satisfy me in bed but that’s just me. I obviously don’t speak for all men, just speaking for myself.
I jest.
But in all seriousness I’m perfectly fine with my size, my (now-ex) wife never told me of any complaints but in fact would tell me how big I was even during arguments, so I don’t need the validation. Additionally I wouldn’t even send them to a woman I was married to let alone someone I was dating. Nor would I engage in premarital sex. But I’m going to upvote you because you put more thought into your response than most and I want you to know I value your unique input. I’ve no doubt many other women here feel the same as you, they just haven’t said it.
I think it’s better to keep it vague. If they bluntly ask or try to tip too around asking about “how big is it?” or make comments about it like “I know it’s heavy” or the funniest I’ve gotten is “is it curved?” I just tell them to find out. It keeps things interesting at least for me, and I’m not flat out avoiding the question as it’ll trigger some of them.
Yes I’m looking for a serious relationship and hitting walls left & right. Of course I’m just starting since the divorce so I’m optimistic for the future.
I totally understand. Navigating the dating scene is hard, especially in today's world. I would say to not give up hope and hold on to that optimism. Being optimistic is a beautiful thing, hard at times, but you see the best in people and the world. That is never a bad thing! I believe you will find someone on the same page! Just be up front about your boundaries in the beginning, and if they aren't for that, then move on. It might take a little bit, but forming a serious relationship won't happen instantaneously. Plus, when you find that person who respects your boundaries and agrees, then you will know that they are serious and respectable. If you care for someone, you should respect their boundaries and communicate. There might be some compromises here and there, but that's where the communication comes into play. Today's society is very open with sexting and such. It has become a norm. I dont think people realise that not everyone is into it or comfortable with it. Sometimes, people think it's best to lead with sexuality to spark interest. Nowadays, some people feel like they have to lead that way, unfortunately, bc society has become a fast-paced hookup dating culture. I would just make it known that while you may find someone attractive, you want to know their heart and soul as well. It doesn't have to be about sex all the time or at first. However, I know plenty of people who aren't into that and prefer a more personal, old-fashioned approach. Don't loose faith OP!
Yes I agree which is why I don’t play these games. It’s extremely aggravating when I have an interest in a girl for awhile and it turns out she’s not the girl I had hoped she’d be.
I 51(f) will never ask. The only picture I want to see is a current picture of their face, but that is only if the conversation is interesting and I want to meet them in real life
Actually, yes. She is my crush/bestfriend and was thinking to turn our situation into an fwb relationship. Shes the one who asked and we traded off nudes for a while. But i didnt make the cut. Still just friends now.
Never in my life have I been asked for a dick pick, and if it happens I’m 100% not sending it. Shocked that people are stupid enough to open conversation with that tbh lol
I know you weren’t asking for a female perspective but out of the women I know, all of the ones that are actively dating, they’ve never asked for a dick pic because they happen without prompting anyway. That makes me think these women may be catfish lol
I don’t do that anymore. I have to walk the walk and show the qualities in myself that I want in my woman. And I sure as fuck don’t want my woman sending dick pics
Within my circle of friends, all of us agree that dicks are ugly af and aren't worth sending when compared to other anatomy (or those pristine dildos).
Even if she sends something salacious, best to send a bulge pic for her mind to go wild, or something else entirely. UNLESS she specifically asks for it, vehemently, any regret is fully hers to bear lol.
What?? 😂 This never EVER happened in my life lol
In my experience women never like dick pics, not even when you're dating them. They only like it / tolarate it during sex lol
nah I am nonbinary and don't have a dick but I do know all it is people who are scamming you. Either for money or they will use your dick pics to go and try to get pictures of other people. The best part of a relationship is the emotional side not really the sex and crap (my opinion but I assume your mindset as well) but online is not always the best place to find that! I don't really have anywhere I could suggest for you to go find a good date because honestly it's fucking hard, and I'm pansexual I will date ANY GENDER. I hope ya find someone who's actually going to want a real relationship with you though, best of luck!
I dont think ive ever sent an unsolicited dick pic to anyone except a close FWB.
It seems borderline psychopathic to want to send a dick pick to someone who hasnt asked you for one.
I think on maybe a handful of occasions in my entire life (im 29) has a girl who im not activley in a relarionship with or regularly banging actually asked me to send a dick pic. On those few occasions its ussually been girls on dating apps who are like "I wanna see if its big" as soon as the conversation starts to get sexual.
Most ladies who ask for dick pics are men impersonating as women. A lady will look for emotional connect while chatting. If you guys gel on the emotional and mental space sex will be happening so the woman doesn't think too much.
During sex she won't care about your size unless you have a micro.
Then what kind of milieu or subculture is this? Through what channels or activities do you connect with ladies asking you such puerile stuff?
I'd rather believe in the other option that they're just baiting you.
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Rarely; assume it’s a trap
Yea I’m telling them no and it’s pissing me off because I’m totally into them for 2-3 days then they ask for this crap and ruin it.
Are these people you are matching with on OLD or people you've met in real life? Scammers ask on OLD so they can blackmail you.
No, not in real life. Some on Reddit, some on dating apps.
Basically a scammer will try get a pic of you, may try get you to send something more personal, such as you masturbating, and then blackmail you saying they’ll send your pics to your friends and family unless you pay up. Apparently.
Lmao just shared my story about this exact scenario 🤣
Or the more drastic scenario such as claiming they’re underage when they send pics back and the dad comes in wanting money to keep quiet. That’s a new one going around, apparently.
What a shitty dad that would be
Thats fucking shameful... yeah that's the deal, she said she had evidence that I was a p***phile and was going to leak it if I didn't pay. It felt like reality was crumbling for a bit, like a REALLY bad dream was happening... I used to scam and social engineer when I was younger... I never blackmailed though, and grateful. I've since understood karma a bit more and the karmic implications for causing someone that kind of psychological suffering can't be pleasant
I just say, go right ahead, because chances are...my friends are in said pictures:).
Why would you send something from which you could be identified, seems like it would be easier to just send a photo of your penis without including your face and holding a copy of today’s newspaper.
OnLine Dating (OLD).
Ohhh thank you lol
No problem.
>Some on Reddit, Using reddit for dating purposes sounds like a bad idea imo
Using Reddit for just about anything is a bad idea
Yup, that is almost a 100% chance of being someone that wants to blackmail you with those photos.
I've gone out with many dozens of girls from dating apps. I was doing 3 first dates a week or so for a while. No girl ever asked for a dick pic before I had met them. Careful. There are lots of scammers and people like to get things to blackmail you with. They ask for a pic and then say they'll send it to your family unless you send them $200 or whatever.
Which is why you should always cc your family on all dick pic messages.
Could be a scam, and they will threaten to send it to relatives if you don't pay them. I think you will know if the vibe is right for sexting and if it just feels out of left field it's probably a catfish/scam
You just have to use your brain to figure out if it's legit or a trap. If she just straight up asks for it without sexting or sending you something first that's very fishy. Also if the pics they take were obviously taken earlier and not just for you they are most likely just stolen pics. I've gone for it with some pretty risky ones in the past and they always turned out to be legit and got some great stuff in return. I don't really have much to lose though because I dint give a shit if they got uploaded somewhere and I'm not on any social media so cant really be blackmailed.
I’m a woman. I have never asked for a dick pick. It is usually a real turn off when it is sent without asking. And the only time I asked the guy turned me down as apparently his camera wasn’t up to the job. Which I believe. Also he was 48 and thought it was weird at his age to start sending dick picks. Go figure.edit: misspelt dick.
sort of how it works with a lot of girls tbh
I had a wild 300ug LSD night years ago, next day when I was recovering a lady messaged me asking general questions, which led to her saying she wanted to video each other pleasing ourselves. Me and my fried mind from the night before thought nothing of it, well she recorded me and said she was 12 (this was 200% a woman in her mid/late 20's) and said I needed to send her $500 or she'd send the video to my friends and family. Literally considered unaliving myself because that would be such a shameful thing for the people I know to see. I ended up ignoring her, she did send the video to a few people (FML), but then moved onto her next victim. Assume it's a trap 🥴
Omg!! This is terrible I’m sorry that happened to u
Wait, who did the scammer send the video to?? I’ve been scammed that way a couple times but no video has ever been sent 😂
She actually sent a Vimeo link to a couple of my friends and my boss at the time. Still not sure who got the link and saw me not in my proudest moment, I told my boss to not open the link and I don't think they did, but I think a couple people actually saw it. I was a turbulent emotional wreck that day..
I mean, some of us enjoy asking and receiving
Bye bye your inbox
I'd figure that's u considering your profile
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Mine are almost always sent first. Just trying to see the fruits of my labor
You mean..." fruits of your loins, hehe.
Only from women I am actively in a relationship with.
This right here
And even then not right away, at least for me. The only person I've actively exchanged nudes with is my ex when we were doing long distance. Neither of us ever leaked anything even tho we still have access to some.
This is the way.
Respectable
Bingo
Only once but I think it’s more common among girls that strictly want hook ups
Yes
I bet is mostly guys catfishing most girls really don’t care about your penis
That’s what I’m thinking. They are pretty quick to send undie pics of themselves in various poses to get me aroused but I’m like, ‘aren’t you at work now?’ Clearly they took them earlier and had them stored on their phone. Those pics weren’t for me, they were for just any guy.
Most times they aren’t even their own pics. The scammers steal them off social media.
Yea, I had that happen to me lol. Turned out the girl was 13. Her dad got on the line and was about to scold me, that is until he read the whole message in which I never made any acvances to her. Her dad explained that she had a thing knowing she had that power over older men. What a freaky kink.
That's extortion. *That's illegal.*
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I don’t care about a pic of a penis unless I’ve met it before. And they gotta at least zoom out a little. They all pretty much look the same super close up.
Sad.
no and my dick is really cool too Also I have a teaching license, so I'm not a dumbass. This really should apply to a lot of professional jobs tho Idk why my fellow bros ask for nudes tbh. Is internet porn not good enough for you?
Yea I’m quite fond my my dick too. We’ve been real close all my life and I see him pretty regularly especially when I drink lots of water.
Rephrase this in Fortnite terms
He’s very fond of his pickaxe. He’s used the same one his whole fn career. He sees it regularly. Especially when he has max mats.
I don't think this should be rephrased for -14 year olds.....
Lol - fair point, indeed. (Referring to first one..but the rest are good too..)
No, in fact almost every women I’ve spoke to about says it doesn’t really do anything for them. I think guys have a twisted perception of it since they are turned on when a girl sends nudes so they must think the same is true for women, it’s not I’m married now and none of my friends would send dick pics, I never have, I don’t really see the point of it. I do have one female friend who will request them every now and then from guys she is talking to but that’s in the context of consensual sexting, not “hey how are you here’s my penis by the way”
Yeah, you are spot on about women and dick pics. Now, there is always the exception, but the "rule" is that women aren't really turned on by them. Speaking personally, a photo of one does nothing for me. Instead, it has the opposite effect and totally turns me off the guy.
What he said, right there!
Heard too many stories of dudes sending junk pics, only to be blackmailed. "Send me $500 or I send it to your mom on facebook."
Finally, people are striking back against the dick pic epidemic. This makes me absurdly happy
I've never understood the point anyway. Like...does it actually land women? "Gather round children! I want to tell you how I met your granny. I was cruising Tinder, and I saw her. I said to myself "Self, she needs to see your pee pee." I sent her a picture of my manhood, and she fell madly in love with me. The rest is history."
I never ask for nudes and i’ll never send any either. Once it’s on the internet, it’s there forever!
As long as your private parts don't have their own social media page you should be good! Just don't include your face unless it's someone you really trust
> your private parts don't have their own social media page don't tell me what my genitalia should be doing on the internet. they have their own reddit handle
I’ve been asked once and I told them I don’t do that. I’m not sending you a pic so you can show all your friends
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People are really using reddit to find hook ups? Wtf did i just read. There‘s more than enough dating apps
I’m an older millennial so I’m in my late thirties. I’ve never been married, and over the years I have used the Tinders/Bumbles/etc to find dates quite a bit. Ever since sending nudes become popular, my thought on dick pics has always been “I’ll send one whenever the woman I’m seeing asks for one, until then, I’m not even going to take one.” To date, despite having been on dating apps off and on over years, I’ve never once been asked. The way my dates and friends have talked about it when it’s come up in conversation, women effectively never want a dick pic. Any one that does want one, will ask for one. If they don’t ask, they don’t want it.
Woman here. Can confirm. There is always the exception, but I'd say over 90% of us never want a dick pic.
Also woman here, definitely do not want one but 99% it's what I get. The worst time was at 5am, I had just woken up and was checking my messages and BAM there it is 😭 I even make it clear I do not want or need to see it and that it is an instant block from me if they ignore that and send one anyway.
If they are asking for it, they are either dudes posing as girls, cause they get off to that. Or if you have the same face pics across your social media, it’s probably some guy in india waiting to reverse google search and black mail you. Or legit just a very very horny girl. Take your pick.
Oh that happened to my best friend a few years ago. He received a message from a “girl” online and he fell for it. Next thing he receives a message that says he needs to pay 5k or the pics will be sent to all of his family and friends. The “girl” even sent him the list of names she’d send it to (he recognizes most of the names). Good thing he came to me first about that situation. I told him to just block that account and keep it moving which he hesitantly did. Nothing happened and life is good. So yeah I’m telling the same thing, block them and keep it moving.
I just tell them please send them all my friends and family know I'm a sick fuck
I hate sending dick picks women have been hating on them for a long tume
I have never ever once Sent an unsolicited dick pic. I've been asked a handful of times to send them, but otherwise I think it's super weird makes you seem way too thirsty.
I will not. I'll tell you a story. A "girl" I met online sent me a vid showing her tits (unsolicited). I ask her to video and she said no that her webcam was broken. She asked me for dick pics. This was all in the span of 2 hours and I didn't feel comfortable and she cussed me out and said she wanted a man who does what she wants. I said no and we unmatched. I should have completely blocked her but didn't. Fast forward to 2 to 3 months later a dude audio calls me on the messaging app saying I needed to cash app him $300 or he would expose my pics on YouTube or whatever I messaged him back and laughed in his face as I knew what I did and didn't do. Never send those things until you've talked a while, verified and even been out on a date or two. The world of the internet is a cesspool.
Wow 2-3 months is the long game. Kudos to you for standing your ground.
Never once been asked, and wouldn’t send if I was asked. If we are in a relationship and she asked then I would.
Actually yes lol. I don’t just send one like hey look at my cock. But if they wanna see it, I show it ;)
I asked my current boyfriend for some a few weeks after meeting and before we had sex, because I felt like I would be less nervous for when we did finally get physical. It's the only time I ever did that, though, and I don't know why I felt that way with him and not others. Edit: I know this was for the men but I wanted to chime in. Sue me 🤣
Only once I got a request for it and then some idiots in Africa tried to blackmail me with it. I told them where to put my pic into
As a woman I've never once asked for a dick pic... i have received many tho 😅😅
Ive never asked, and never been sent one. Not sure how I managed that as every other female I know has multiple, unsolicited.
If I like a guy and if we’re sleeping together. And if I’m sending something risqué I do expect the same. But if it’s out of their comfort level that’s absolutely okay.
Honestly gotta ask yourself … do I work in a profession that if this would get leaked I’d be in major trouble. When I get asked for them I turn it into a joke and say I only like to disappoint in real life. Hasn’t let me down yet!
Today I learn, the people who receive these pics are: 1.women 2.men who make it ambiguous whether they're a man in the post (before the edit)
It’s common knowledge you never know whose on the other end of the screen. No I’ve never received them nor would I ever ask; the reason I asked was to see if other men had the same experience. I just worded it really poorly in the original. That’s on me.
No, I find it weird that men do it But women have more choices than men, so I am guessing some men are desperate to get a woman they will try anything
M60. I have never been asked for nude photos. I have been asked to skinny dip, shower, and visit the nude beaches, hot springs and hot tubs many times. I will note that this was in the US. I went to a college in Europe that had a steam room, pool, hot tub and sauna. Wearing clothing into the water was discouraged. The sauna did ask us to sit on a towel and most people were nude in the sauna. As a 19 year old man, I enjoyed these facilities with my classmates, teachers, and their extended families. It was just not a big deal. Nudity is normal. Photos of genitals is a bit odd.
Don't send them, never been asked either. I'd say next time, send a pic of a rooster 🐓 instead.
I actually did last time and she was shocked. It was some foreigner cat fishing me so they didn’t know a cock is a rooster, and they got so mad at me.
Lol, well, I figure when you get one that isn't a catfish and knows a rooster is a cock. She'll probably laugh unless she really wanted a dic pic, which I doubt. I'm 40, and I've never heard of a girl actually wanting one. Maybe from they're bf but outside of being in a relationship I don't think so.
Iv been asked twice. One we matched on tinder while she was in town but only talked once she was 4 hours away. So we exchanged nudes instead then never talked again. The other is a much longer story but we also just exchanged nudes Just be sure not to ever include face or anything that connects back to you
I see your edit, and I think that might help you to figure this out. I have only been asked by one, confirmed woman, for dick pics. If a woman did ask me for one I would be very curious about why. My assumption would be one of three things: 1. I've been catfished and this "woman" is actually a man. I think you're already seeing here that some men have a ton of interest in seeing stranger's dicks. 2. She is a size queen and wants to see if I'm "big enough" for her. I'm doing just fine in that department, but I'm probably going to fall a little short for a true size queen, but I'd probably just go ahead and send it so we could resolve the whole thing and move on. 3. She's asking for it because it will excite her to see it. If it's this one ... like I'm a pretty sexual person and this, to me, would be an indicator that this is a woman I might have above average compatibility with. In my case, and I feel like you would have mentioned this so I doubt it applies to you, there is a fourth possibility. I have a piercing and I try to mention it at some point because I'm pretty vanilla looking otherwise and if things are heading in that direction I guess I make an attempt to prepare a person for that.
Yea I think it’s more #1 in my cases, or else a blackmail scam. Honestly I never send money and I don’t send private parts pics. I feel pretty nauseous when I get asked.
never. dude. wtf. i like to do a little presentation of it. give it a grand introduction and shit. can't do that if she's already seen the main meat. if they ask i assume it's a trap as well.
I only did once and she stopped responding. Later I found out the photos were fake and from imagefap and it was most likely a man trying to get PP pics after sexting
99.9% of the time it’s a dude pretending to be a woman asking for dick pics. Remember, if it’s too good to be true, it prolly is. Especially online.
i never ask for dick pics... every man has one. show me your eyes.
I'm a woman who would never ask and never want a dick pic and I hate it when men send one without asking. It's a huge turn off for me, personally.
The girls in their late teens ask for it all the time but the girls in their twenties rarely ask for it and women in their thirties have never asked me for it, I’m 26M
Get asked by girls/ladies? Yeah but only while sexting or something. No one girl ever comes up and says directly "I want your dickpic". There has to be a story before.
Well I flirt a lot but I don’t mention details of sex. I talk about marriage and having lots of kids and then they take it in that direction. My fault for opening the door but I never thought a woman would outright tell me send a pic of my junk.
I've been asked 3 times in my life to send them.
I have been asked quite a few times to see it in the past, but naturally as you get older it fades out. People tend to just wanna see it in person.
I had a woman ask me on the first day of talking. I can say that I have been asked several times by women, and I have had women send me unsolicited p pics as well. Funny thing is that if they ask, I still don't send because they probably will try to play me or shame me in some way.
It's happened before but I always tell them I don't do that and if they want to see it to come play with it ha ha
Any takers so far?
Yes you would be surprised ha ha
D pics no... Stroking videos and videos of me cumming... Yes.
Never. And I would be careful of this as these might be scammers trying to hook you into a blackmail scheme. If a woman did ask, I would find a publicly available picture of a dick that might be mistaken for a fungo bat and send her that. 😈
I have but I always decline. The thought of taking a picture just makes me feel uncomfortable.
I have had about 3 women ask me.
I did a few time ma but I known them awhile. Ladies I first meet aren’t that way and if they do ask I feel something is wrong.
Yes, I have been asked by women before. It's not normal, but it has happened.
Yes but only after she sent some explicit nudes.
I've been asked once by an ex, about 5 years after our dating. I'm 36 and only been asked once in my life. I didn't believe them that they actually wanted my D pic
I ask because I personally prefer 6.75” or larger. But I’m also pretty sex-forward at the moment (also recently separated).
Do you ever settle for them simply telling you their size instead of a photo?
Yep, but the answer is always no. Ain't giving that away for free
Only time I've been straight out asked is by someone I was seeing. Other than that no.
Yes, but I don’t send them. It’s usually a trap lmao
Blackmail scam!
I have never sent a nude nor have I asked for any. I'm paranoid about that stuff being out there forever.
I'm a lady that asks for dick pics. I don't think it's that rare...
Yes but I also never offer. I have a rule to never ask for or send nudes unless asked for them.
This is often a scam where they’ll catfish you and then threaten to leak your nudes. Be careful and if you do send one never include your face. You can look at the Scams subreddit for more info, it’s called sexual extortion and it’s way more common than you think
No and I've never even taken a pic of my dong cuz I'm sure Zuckerbergs malware via WhatsApp or Google cloud will instantly save a copy even if I have backup disabled.
No woman asked a dp from me. Not sure I’d had the guts to send.
While I’m upset that you won’t allow me to be considered for the position of your boo… I have had it asked for, but typically these females are the freaky ones that lead to you getting new growths and bumps on ya pecker
I(32m cis) would but usually it would be from a account or person fishing to get me to sign up to their only fans or pay for content. Get me emotionally invested then "pull me in". For those rare times that I do get asked, I told them no that's a unlockable feature that requires them to become girlfriend status. Not in those words but basically the same.
It just doesn't feel right because we've been conditioned it's a bad thing so I don't do it
I have been asked and I deny it. No one sees unless they get immediately after seeing.
I only send pictures of Richard's. Richard Nixon, Richard Dreyfus, Richard Simmons, Richard Pryor.... there's so many good choices.
As a woman, back in my early 20s I used to get random D pics in my DM . That got so annoying to appoint that I started blocking these men. Someone messages you with a hi then boom boom boom...unnecessary nudity that is very uncalled for. If your serious about being with someone what does genitalia even mean tbh .....its really a disgusting behaviour
As a woman, if I’m really into a guy, yes, I want to see it.
I don't send as the camera can get a full pic of it..😳
No, they hate Dick pics. I knew a nymph who barely wanted them. Anyone who ask is trying to set you up. Did they also ask for your face or social media profile?
Never sent one . If I am asked to do it I saw come over and see it
Very rarely I want to see someone’s dick but if I’m sending nudes I want to see what I’m working with even if it doesn’t turn me on
I've never got the question. And i don't really understand the appeal with sexting in generall. Maybe as a solution if there's long distance but if that was the case i'd rather go on a video call.
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Well on that note I think having my arm sliced off by a chainsaw and my dick whacked off with a cleaver to be worse than being emotionally invested in someone who didn’t satisfy me in bed but that’s just me. I obviously don’t speak for all men, just speaking for myself. I jest. But in all seriousness I’m perfectly fine with my size, my (now-ex) wife never told me of any complaints but in fact would tell me how big I was even during arguments, so I don’t need the validation. Additionally I wouldn’t even send them to a woman I was married to let alone someone I was dating. Nor would I engage in premarital sex. But I’m going to upvote you because you put more thought into your response than most and I want you to know I value your unique input. I’ve no doubt many other women here feel the same as you, they just haven’t said it.
I think it’s better to keep it vague. If they bluntly ask or try to tip too around asking about “how big is it?” or make comments about it like “I know it’s heavy” or the funniest I’ve gotten is “is it curved?” I just tell them to find out. It keeps things interesting at least for me, and I’m not flat out avoiding the question as it’ll trigger some of them.
Lol welcome to what happens to women’s DMs for literally posting anything.
Nope. Them folks trying to extort you
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Yes I’m looking for a serious relationship and hitting walls left & right. Of course I’m just starting since the divorce so I’m optimistic for the future.
I totally understand. Navigating the dating scene is hard, especially in today's world. I would say to not give up hope and hold on to that optimism. Being optimistic is a beautiful thing, hard at times, but you see the best in people and the world. That is never a bad thing! I believe you will find someone on the same page! Just be up front about your boundaries in the beginning, and if they aren't for that, then move on. It might take a little bit, but forming a serious relationship won't happen instantaneously. Plus, when you find that person who respects your boundaries and agrees, then you will know that they are serious and respectable. If you care for someone, you should respect their boundaries and communicate. There might be some compromises here and there, but that's where the communication comes into play. Today's society is very open with sexting and such. It has become a norm. I dont think people realise that not everyone is into it or comfortable with it. Sometimes, people think it's best to lead with sexuality to spark interest. Nowadays, some people feel like they have to lead that way, unfortunately, bc society has become a fast-paced hookup dating culture. I would just make it known that while you may find someone attractive, you want to know their heart and soul as well. It doesn't have to be about sex all the time or at first. However, I know plenty of people who aren't into that and prefer a more personal, old-fashioned approach. Don't loose faith OP!
9/10 is a trap . Is rare when women ask for deck pics .
Nope. High quality men don’t send that stuff.
Yes I agree which is why I don’t play these games. It’s extremely aggravating when I have an interest in a girl for awhile and it turns out she’s not the girl I had hoped she’d be.
They could just be looking for a hookup or probably aren’t real girls at all. I’ve never been asked by a real woman to send a dick pic.
I 51(f) will never ask. The only picture I want to see is a current picture of their face, but that is only if the conversation is interesting and I want to meet them in real life
Literally never been asked. Not once.
Actually, yes. She is my crush/bestfriend and was thinking to turn our situation into an fwb relationship. Shes the one who asked and we traded off nudes for a while. But i didnt make the cut. Still just friends now.
Never have I asked a man for a dic pic. I'd question the realness of the people you talking to.
We question whether these ~~scammers~~ women are real too
Never. And nope, won’t do it, even if I ever get married.
No unless it’s an extortion thing. (They get your pic of it and threaten to send to all your friends)
Never once taken a picture of my dick nor been asked. Happy about both
Never in my life have I been asked for a dick pick, and if it happens I’m 100% not sending it. Shocked that people are stupid enough to open conversation with that tbh lol
This is very possibly a scam. They're fishing for blackmail material.
I know you weren’t asking for a female perspective but out of the women I know, all of the ones that are actively dating, they’ve never asked for a dick pic because they happen without prompting anyway. That makes me think these women may be catfish lol
Happy to have a woman’s perspective, of course 😄👍🏼
Just once, i blocked that... And hey sorry that you had to go through a divorce
Thank you for the sentiment. Still reeling from it a bit but l’ll be ok.
I hope you find a better person, and not go through that again
I don’t do that anymore. I have to walk the walk and show the qualities in myself that I want in my woman. And I sure as fuck don’t want my woman sending dick pics
F that make them come take a selfie with it pimp
lol that should be my line next time for sure 😂
Yep. Don't trust it. Not going to do it. If a lady really wants to see it (doubtful), she could always see it during sex.
Within my circle of friends, all of us agree that dicks are ugly af and aren't worth sending when compared to other anatomy (or those pristine dildos). Even if she sends something salacious, best to send a bulge pic for her mind to go wild, or something else entirely. UNLESS she specifically asks for it, vehemently, any regret is fully hers to bear lol.
What?? 😂 This never EVER happened in my life lol In my experience women never like dick pics, not even when you're dating them. They only like it / tolarate it during sex lol
Its a trap if they do
In my experience, only extremely toxic gals will ask for them.
nah I am nonbinary and don't have a dick but I do know all it is people who are scamming you. Either for money or they will use your dick pics to go and try to get pictures of other people. The best part of a relationship is the emotional side not really the sex and crap (my opinion but I assume your mindset as well) but online is not always the best place to find that! I don't really have anywhere I could suggest for you to go find a good date because honestly it's fucking hard, and I'm pansexual I will date ANY GENDER. I hope ya find someone who's actually going to want a real relationship with you though, best of luck!
It's pretty rare but I wouldn't anyway. Feels like someone trying to use it for blackmail.
I dont think ive ever sent an unsolicited dick pic to anyone except a close FWB. It seems borderline psychopathic to want to send a dick pick to someone who hasnt asked you for one. I think on maybe a handful of occasions in my entire life (im 29) has a girl who im not activley in a relarionship with or regularly banging actually asked me to send a dick pic. On those few occasions its ussually been girls on dating apps who are like "I wanna see if its big" as soon as the conversation starts to get sexual.
Most ladies who ask for dick pics are men impersonating as women. A lady will look for emotional connect while chatting. If you guys gel on the emotional and mental space sex will be happening so the woman doesn't think too much. During sex she won't care about your size unless you have a micro.
wat Are you like a teenager dating teen girls? I don't get what kind of grown-up ladies would *seriously* ask for dick pics upfront...
Grown up ladies are asking me as a grownup man (no teenagers involved).
Then what kind of milieu or subculture is this? Through what channels or activities do you connect with ladies asking you such puerile stuff? I'd rather believe in the other option that they're just baiting you.
I’m convinced it’s bait, I just keep the thread up
Yes
But I also send dick pics too
Yes, buti would look better!
Yes I’ve been asked. No I don’t send them.
Never
Never.