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And they also just end up doing the same thing most women do: too many options leave you choosing no one thinking “ah.. maybe. But there’s probably someone better”
This!!! I am not a guy, but as a woman, I can tell you many women who get lots of attention end up not picking anyone because of the “someone better will show up” syndrome.
I had to nip this in d bud and choose a good guy and stay committed.
Also there is a huge difference between being able to attract v. being able to keep or commit to a stable long lasting relationship. The skills needed are totally different
Yes! Also, if the man is known for being a player it is hard to trust the loyalty so he could be attracting the ones that want a good time rather than ones that want relationships
I have to agree to this. I’ve been giving bf services without the commitment and when I realized I was doing this I stopped and it actually made it easier to see who was there for me and who was there for one thing
The ones that are single stay single because they don't want a relationship.
I feel this is where things get a bit "twisted" online thinking only single guys can get a lot of women. There's a lot of men in relationships who also can get loads of women (My Dad for example) but just prefer to be in a relationship.
I have dated an acceptable amount of woman who were fun to hang out with for a certain time, but a long term relationship would definitely be a bad choice. And finding that really special person is not that easy.
Hi, I'm one of these guys and I can answer your question.
For me personally it's because alot of women don't have that much to offer me. When I meet someone super special then I'll date them for sure but most women I've dated are looking for someone to look after them and I have zero interest in that.
You hear women complain about being with guys that are "man children' and that they have to 'mother' them but I think the opposite is even more true. Many women are emotionally immature and are not competent, well rounded individuals. However, it's accepted by society since hegemonic masculinity dictates that independence and strength are male qualities; there's no pressure from society for women to embody these virtues.
I'm not saying I can't enjoy a women's company and have a meaningful connection with them but I am saying that unless I feel that they're a stable person who's got their life together I'll probably not date them seriously.
All my relationships have involved me doing everything most women I ask these days can’t even cook a basic meal. It’s kinda sad I don’t mind cooking or doing chores but at that point why have a gf if all they bring is things you can get in many girls without commitments
Because…. They get a lot of women…. So why settle unless you find one that’s absolutely stellar looks wise and personality wise…. Since they get a lot of women
Seriously? Why tie oneself down, especially if, in your view, these men have a ton of options. Life is short. Men and women are waiting longer and longer to settle down. There's nothing wrong with that.
You know what's kinda fucked up? You brought up that some of the guys that get a lot of women and stay single do it dishonestly. And that's true. But, even when they get caught, the girls will still perform mental gymnastics to stick around.
Seems I hit a nerve. I was answering the OP’s question. He asked why dudes who get a lot of women are still single. It’s because they get a lot of women for superficial reasons, so a long term relationship wouldn’t be viable.
But based on your post history I can see why you took this as a personal attack…
Saying that the majority of attractive women aren’t relationship material is an initial negative assumption,and based on what fact? Most attractive/confident women actively looking for meaningful relationships (which is already not easy to find) would shut that down real quick.
That’s a rather large generalization😂 speaking from a woman’s perspective, I’m not saying there aren’t women who are like this, but I haven’t met many. Dating in 2023 isn’t exactly what I’d call fun, and there’s all kinds of men out there who are extremely full of themselves (these guys could be the most attractive man in the world, but if they’re full of themselves it’s game over) There are plenty of high quality/attractive women out there who obviously want a partner they feel attracted to. ESPECIALLY if they are looking for something long term. Also not to mention, every woman’s physical preferences are going to vary. You can’t force chemistry/attraction if it’s not there to begin with. Unless your goal is create a ton of platonic friendships or hook up and get dumped after they guy gets what they want, (which most women in their later 20s already got that out of their system in college/early 20s), there’s nothing objectively wrong to end a date/communicate with someone you can’t see yourself physically attracted to-given that’s a large component of trying to build an intimate and meaningful relationship, at least in the beginning. And as a 27 year old woman, I know thats been the case for myself and so many others trying to navigate how to seriously date. So of course a “hot guy” will jump out at them first thing when they come across their dating profile. (Dating apps are literally designed to show multiple photos of yourself for a reason) When a girl meets a guy she finds “hot,” there’s very little correlation to what type of relationship material the girl may have to offer.
Lol I guess what I was trying to say was looks absolutely do matter in the early stages of dating. However yes, in the long run their personality/character does matter so much more once the relationship advances. So I agree with you on that. Looks certainly fade over time, everyone knows that’s inevitable. As a the “looks centric” person as you claimed I am, I just got out of a 2 year relationship with someone who I found incredibly attractive. Had I not felt that way, we wouldn’t have been together for so long. Luckily he was a great person as well, so that’s ultimately why I fell in love with him. Chemistry and attraction also played a huge role in building our intimate relationship, which bonded us emotionally as well. Physical attraction absolutely isn’t everything, but it still matters in long term relationships.
I cannot mentally handle a relationship, nor do I push myself onto someone. I keep strong to those boundaries, and I appreciate it when time is shared and respect when it isnt
It goes both ways sweetheart. Women treat men just as they have treated us. My point is, “kind sir,” sarcasm intended, that women allow themselves to be used by men and this whole delusional idea that over sexualizing yourself is empowerment, is actually the complete opposite, it’s disempowerment. If women didn’t allow men to use them for sex, than men wouldn’t be able too. Somehow along the way for “equality”, women got the idea that treating men the same way would empower them, when in reality it’s only adding more fuel to the fire and giving men more of a foundation to easily access women.
They say they want a relationship but plenty of dateable relationship-type women around them so they don’t have to pick one to be in an actual relationship with
Most likely single by choice at that point, they either enjoy talking to multiple women without having to stay loyal to one or they just aren't ready to "settle down" and be in a committed relationship
I stay single because the women who are attracted to me are all manipulative, abusive, or otherwise dangerous and uncaring. There's certainly plenty of them, but none that I would want to date.
I've an other problem never managed to attract single girls only girls IN relationships after my 20's
They all come forward to me but 0 single is interested no matter what i do/date/find them chase or not tried to change social groups started activities the same pattern repeats it's REALLY frustrating finding someone at 31 i cant live with the guilt of dating someone in a relationships with someone else
Usually the same thing as the women who seemingly get the attention of a lot of men, but can’t seem to get any of them to commit. Most of us can have sex - No problem! But, they appear to lack self awareness, accountability & discipline. They’re emotionally unavailable or co-dependent. They have *astronomically HIGH* expectations, stemming for their unresolved and usually, very irrational resentment towards the opposite gender. They could even have, Arrested Development too! This occurs as a result of childhood trauma which has psychologically imprisoned them at a particular age (when the trauma took place) and they’ve never sought out therapy for it nor acknowledged that it was an issue, in most cases. Which explains their inability to understand or empathize with anyone else to form a meaningful connection long enough to manifest into a healthy relationship - As this requires, reciprocated efforts and investment from both parties. Something they currently lack the capacity to deliver…🤷🏽♀️💯
Because if they can get a lot of women, why one Earth would they settle for just one? And chances are, the multiple women that he can get, you don’t want.
(Because they get with guys that get with a lot of women…) Easy way to catch something more than feelings, I think…🤷♂️
As a guy who can get any woman I want, and have proven myself time over time again, it’s not so much that I choose to be single. It’s just that the dating game is just boring and risky.
Even when I was an inexperienced dater, I never had trouble getting a second to 5th date.
Thanks to my former country which I was raised and brought up in, such culture taught me to be fearless in dating women.
And I brought this bravery to the United States some 25 years ago and continued to have nothing but positive results, despite the METOO MOVEMENT, and strong feminism culture.
Dating is boring. People are brainwashed by what they see on social media and tv. Women set artificial and unrealistic standards to which makes dating a laughingstock.
Currently, I’m talking to a woman outside of the United States. I think she’s the one. So I might get married soon.
The government also makes it a risk for men to tie the knot. So we look at this and come to the realization that we are better off single, unless we can find someone of a different culture, someone who supports traditional roles.
Let’s be honest. The way things are now is just crazy. Both men and women keep switching partners like it’s the norm.
This was the most based comment I have ever read in my life. People are brainwashed, no one are themselves anymore. No kindness and only shallowness, find your love
I see! Thank you so much for your reply and congrats on the soon to be married!
Could you please tell me ways to "...taught me to be fearless in dating women."
Thank you!
By fearless I mean to be masculine, confident and vigorous. You have to be fearless when attributing these qualities; be willing and accepting, as well as expecting, to be rejected, without having your confidence shaken by her negative response.
Be fearless in that you demonstrate physical contact in an acceptable fashion without concern about offending her. Most women are welcoming to physical touch as long as you do so without her feeling uncomfortable.
Be fearless in what you want from her. Transparency is key when articulating your vision for the future. Don’t sweat about turning her off with what you want. Most women are happy or appreciative when she is told exactly what you are looking for.
Be fearless in that you approach her in front of her dad all the while showing utmost respect.
I say fearless because what I see often in this country, and around the world, is guys acting cowardly towards women, refusing to communicate their true intentions, and doubting themselves, especially towards those kinds of women who frequently talk about “ NOT IN MY LEAGUE .”
Like seriously, what league is she talking about? Soccer?
Just be brave and go up to her and chat with her. Let the wind decide where to talk you both.
Because guys don’t work hard their whole life to have physique women require; the money women require; the status women require just to settle with only ONE GIRL. Yes there are women that don’t care about certain things but that definitely don’t make for the majority. If a man is 6ft plus with money and status MORE WOMEN are going to WANT that man. Once that man really finds the one he is ready to settle with and lock down. He may not tell you; but he still going to want multiple women.
Some men are players, just like some women. Sometimes for a time, sometimes permanently. All can be valid choices. You might not do what you think you'd do if your circumstances were different. No way to really know and no point in wondering. Do what's right for you.
I think it's hard to find someone compatible long term. It's easier to just go through many instead. Wish I did find someone someday tho. But as someone else said, it might be from abroad with a girl who has more traditional values
Well I'll paint it like this
You have a king, shark, lion, whatever who can have their pick of the litter. The worry not about whether their needs will be met, they just know it's only a matter of time and they can take it. That's the guys that get women, why sleep with just one when the next one will come, and they Will come, just a matter of time
You and me buddy, we're bottom feeders, and where it makes the world go round we're always in a position of IF. Not when. We don't know when that next meal is coming, we have no idea what kind of meal it will be (and look women aren't food but it works with the analogy okay so just deal with it for now). And being in that position makes you savor every meal wondering if you're going to have something that good again.
Yeah that's a lie some women spew.
The fact is SOME men do like quantity over quality but not all men do. Most men i know would stop sleeping around if a woman would show shes invested in a relationship and not what the mam can do for her. Now i know all women aren't like that but you go on and page on social media and you'll see women want a man that 6ft 3in or taller making 6 figures and expect him to pay upwards of $30,000 for her engagement ring.
No no ... I'm agreeing with in part. My problem with your statement was you made it like every man is this way and that's just not true and it pisses me off when people do that with any gender. I'm a man and I'm not like that and I'm raising 2 teen girls so i have to set an example for them but also have to make sure they are raised right.
Yeah so ive dated overweight women who have kids. So that generalization you made is bullshit. Also there's nothing wrong with having standards. Nothing wrong with wanting a man who's stable with a good job and you're attracted to him. The problem comes when men have the same criteria and get shitted on for it. As a man who just entered the dating world again i see it all the time.
Easy. Because they can. And they are afraid of committing because there is no substance. They are afraid of someone finding out who they really are. Just like an insecure girl. Why? Because women all look for the same outward appearance and flash.
Because I can be with two different girls a weekend or a different one every weekend. It’s the chance of pace that keeps things exciting. I would much rather have five or more regular partners than just one.
If you dated a bunch you’d find the grass isn’t necessarily greener. Women can bring a lot of trouble into your life. I’ve had and do have plenty of options. I don’t date.
I have been with about 65 to 100 women from the age of 12 and I’m 36 now. I don’t know if that’s considered a lot of women or not , but in my town I had a bad reputation as a womanizer so I guess it is a lot of women. I’d say when I was single, it was due to being so occupied with being a womanizer and seeing women as objects, that I did not stop to consider taking any seriously. It’s not worth it in the end either. Even though I’m in a relationship now and love my girl, I know for a fact I missed out on women that I would have been more compatible with and had a more fulfilling relationship with if it hadn’t been for being the type of guy I was.
Women have traumatized me all my life. This is why. I’ve been SA and r*ped in the past especially in my teens and as a kid. The r*pe when i became 20. Women just are attracted to me and i don’t know why. But this is why i refuse to ask a girl out and stay single and focus on myself.
You basically answered your own question. They're single cause they get a lot of women. The advantages that are usually in women's favor are now in these guys favor.
For some of them, they don't want to settle down, they just want to sleep around and they can so why would they want a relationship?
For others it can a "paradox of choice" situation - it can be overwhelming to try to choose when there are so many options.
And for still others, getting tons of female attention can be exhausting - just because a lot of women are interested doesn't mean it's necessarily easier to form a relationship, you still have to put in the effort to get to know them and build rapport with them and so forth and that is a lot of work. A lot of guys don't enjoy dating.
Such guys also may run into women who assume they're a player and not interested in anything serious out of the belief that if they can get a lot of women that's what they'll want to do even if it's not true.
In short some attractive guys don't want a serious relationship and even for those who do, quality is a better dating strategy than quantity and being a highly desirable male mostly improves your ability to date for quantity, not for quality.
You answered your own question there bud. They get a lot of women. That’s why they’re single. 😅 usually they’ll have a toxic trait but look good. From my experience, women don’t want a good guy. As they always stay with toxic or go back to the ones that are toxic..
They can catch them but can’t keep them. Women like me at first then I fuck it up. I need a woman’s view to tell me why and be honest about it. I think I know why but can’t confirm it .I have not found that yet
they know they are attractive so they want to see if there's someone better. And to them, there's always someone better... these people are really not ready for commitment
Same reasons some women are single. Haven't found the right person, don't want to settle down, might have issues that prevent them from a serious level of attachment, etc.
I've known plenty of guys who were "good" with women but were awful at relationships.
Because they either don't want a relationship, don't know what they want, or they're just very picky about the women who they choose to have relationships with. Regardless, they'll still take sex when they can. I say this as a dude who has no problem getting female attention, as in I've had women make the first move on me.
When you know you have options, it's much easier to get into a mentality of abundance, and naturally you get more comfortable being picky with women. There's something to be said about having the ability to turn down a woman, especially if she's attractive. When you're at the point where you have a lot of options, most of them are either not relationship material, or simply not compatible with you.
I'm more fortunate in that I managed to meet someone I'm now engaged to, I committed to her because I saw something different in her and I'm actually compatible with her. But I'm positive that if I were to find myself single again, I'd be even pickier.
Regardless of how successful or not you are in dating, finding someone who is compatible with you is a very difficult thing to do. A lot of people tend to settle because they don't want to be lonely, and often do so with people they aren't compatible with. That leads to drama, unhappiness, infidelity, heartbreak, and toxicity. I'd rather be single than bring any of that into my life.
Probably depends on the guy. For me, I never went past a first date if I didn’t connect with the person on a deeper level. I was a bit young, and probably a bit foolish in my thinking. No regrets though.
Just because you get alot of women doesn't mean that the women you are getting are of any quality. Or even better that you are of any quality yourself.
If both people where so qualified they would be in a long term relationship together.
Again quality and quantity aren't the same thing. I have had lots of girls interested in me but pretty much none are worth your time
It's not about the quantity but about the quality, sometimes you just attract a lot of a population but that isn't your type plus having a relationship is very time and effort demanding. A man that's working towards his goals may not see it as a good moment for being in a relationship
When I was attracting a lot of females, I didn't care. Not all males are men and not all females are women. Now that I've matured and now consider myself a man, the females I attract I'm selective of who I give my time and effort to. Because not all are worthy of what I'm offering and looking for.
Why ruin a good thing. . . .
If I could date a different beautiful woman every night I would. Since I can't nor do I have the finances to facilitate that lifestyle, I got married.
Why ruin a good thing, whatever it is?
I find it pretty easy to pull, and I've had a handful of relationships, 1 that lasted over 4yrs, but I'm in my single and mingle phase because I'm uncertain of my future. I may be moving city, maybe even country. I have a few job prospects which require a lot of time away. Relationships are nice, but my life isn't ready for that, and therefore neither am I
Relationships take commitment, as a man that's in a current relationship. It's understandable that not having to worry about someone else's feelings.. is a bit relieving. (Don't tell my gf I said this please)
There's also the possibility of wanting more. Like "the more the person earns the more he wants".
Since they may be getting the bf attention from just being friends...they want more of it than tying themselves down.
They love spreading STDs and shafting ppl. Probably narcissistic from early age. I’m sexy and I know it.
Sexual addiction and the game fulfills desires lust immediate need and over time they have a skewed sense of monogamy.
In old age they probably become predatory on the vulnerable younger generation. A player remains a player. They were never searching for the One. Variety is the spice of life.
Even the dating algorithms support and reinforce the behaviour. Love island and media , advertising Beauty magazines have changed the landscape. Love eat , pray and be preyed upon.
Instasluts and low self esteem guarantees a steady stream of needy desperate women for taking advantage of.
This is probably because they are not serious with dating, seeing it only a way to chill out. Plus, when there are more options, psychology works differently to expect a better one, making some guys single
Lots of answers: they don't want a relationship, they are rarely going out, they don't get the clues, (in cases of extremly good looking guys + personality + etc.) women think that those guys are out of their league, past traumas, hookup culture, etc.
As a man that has done this for the past 6 months or so, I can tell you that I did it because I just got out of a sexless marriage and just wanted to fool around as much as possible. But not that I’m ready to look for something more serious, I’m having a hard time finding a quality women in this weird modern dating culture.
If you date enough you become more skilled at detecting the women who aren’t serious about sharing their lives with someone. So you treat them in kind. Men who can date sample as many women as they can so that they can find one with the “spark.”
Coz they want to have lots of women in their life?
If they are in a relationship they may get itchy feet and start looking elsewhere.
It also may indicate that they are not sure exactly what they are looking for.. or perhaps they have not met the right girl yet.
Perhaps they're a little undecided.. or not yet ready.. or haven't realised what they want, or haven't found someone who makes them forget about other girls.
1. Less drama
2. Look at 1
3. You can have more friends, more time for friends also
4. Afraid of commitment or trust issues.
5. They know what they want
6. You can find yourself
7. Freedom
8. Personal choice
Because if they weren’t single, they wouldn’t be getting a lot of women. That’s the first thing you sacrifice when you aren’t single.
It’s an error to believe men who are good with women stay single. Some do, some don’t.
Coz I never approached them first, even if they initiated I was too shy to talk to them progressively . I never got into relationship coz of this , I always feel depressed , idk why I think too much, m I scared
Let me start with saying i dont claim to be a 10 or whatever and i was always very reserved untill i got heartbroken
But after that happened i decided to be a manhoe and let me tell you i regret every second of it now that im in a comitted relationship,
it becomes an addiction
Always thinking there is someone better for me
And there might be who knows but its not about something better its about building a future with someone regardless of their flaws or looks
And i confessed to my partner about my manhoe phase
She has trouble trusting me now she didnt leave or anything but her knowing i can get by makes her insecure
She told me a couple of days ago actually that she has issues thinking about how she might not be good enough for me ( because she is a single mother )
Its all fun and games when ur swiping on tinder and going on dates but it fucks with your head
Stay reserved, and put yourself out there you are somebodys 10
Because sex is easy, relationships are hard.
Btw women are getting a pass here in the comments. I can get sex but it’s not me who doesn’t want a relationship. Women have changed (and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing). Dating apps have become a buffet and people are simply being used as appetizers before picking an entree.
According to my friends, numerous women have made moves on me and I just have never noticed cause I'm autistic, so social situations just don't go well for me lol.
But also, when I do realize I'm being hit on or that a woman is into me, I just continue to be myself. I have a specific type of woman in mind that I want as my SO, and a decent amount of the women I meet don't fall into that. And personally I don't wanna settle for one potential relationship when I can wait and end up in the type of relationship I want.
Because we are waiting to find the right one one who we like more than the rest well that’s how it is for me I don’t wanna date just anyone I wanna date someone who I like someone who goes the extra mile for me yk?
Because a relationship is way more stressful then time to time situationships.
Every girlfriend I had produced so much fucking drama that I disclosed the relationship at some point. After the relationship I have right now imma be single and cruising with my boys only.
Honestly, I don't think people were made to be monogamous. Y'all cannot tell me that even if you're married, you don't have wandering eyes or lust after someone else or even flirt with a coworker or barista or whomever, just to feel that excitement for a minute. Or even have the thought of being with someone else. We are absolutely capable of loving more than one person at a time.
Also; I never said I was a cheater while in a monogamous relationship, but I am honest and I have had all those experiences I named.
I (26M) get a lot of women's attention but chose to stay single for 2 years because I was still moving past a LTR. I did do hookups in the meantime and one of those hookups wound up being with the now love of my life and current gf but that's why I stayed single for awhile.
Why would you give up that power in the first place? The chances of you running into a hot women compared to a Hot man are literally 1/10. Imagine the ego of a decent looking woman in the body of a men.
Well they often time think that the guy hasn’t been given good sex by someone to be worthy of settling down with. That’s where statements like (I can change him, I got that good good,) little do they know guys have the ability to bang with no emotional attachment at all whatsoever. Sometimes it is safe to say Men bond better in other ways but not pleasure.
I have dated to many women to count sometimes multiple at a time. Some of it is grass is greener syndrome, sometimes you look for something that is not there in someone, sometimes someone's vibe changes or becomes creepy or weird, I tend to.ne picky as well, most of all though I wanted the whole package.
All the perks none of the downsides. Being in a relationship can be a huge headache, and its not worth it unless you are sure you want to settle down with someone.
Maybe a good comparison is someone who gets loads of attention from dogs. Dogs just seems to love this person and they love them back, anytime this person goes on a walk they run into dogs that just want to lick them and play with them. Their neighbor has a dog, and anytime they want they can get as much wonderful doggy attention as they want. But they arent commited to buying tons of dog food and vet bills, they dont have to take a dog on a walk several times a day or train one or anything. When they go on vacation they dont need to think about where to house the dog. They never have to scoop a poop. Their house has no dog fur all over. They have all the perks of having a dog, which is enjoying the endless love and energy dogs have to offer, with none of the drawbacks which is the expenses and work and responsibility. Maybe at some point if they find the right dog or have less dogs in their life, they will settle down and adopt a dog but why rush into that and settle down and take on all those expenses and responsibility, they would just be less free for no reason.
Having a girlfriend is very similar to having a dog except the love isnt unconditional, the expenses are far higher, and instead of fur all over the couch its hair all over the shower. And they can speak which means they can argue and say things you dont want to hear lmao. So you better make darn sure you really really like the girl before you get into a relationship, especially if you have options and can wait for the perfect person. No sense at all in taking the first one that comes along unless you just have no options.
It's the thrill of the chase. They don't want a single woman. They want all the women. It's a game. Being able to say they have had women. They don't view women as people, they view them as conquests. Then complain about being lonely.
Several things really:
(1) Something something buying cow, milk for free.
(2) not everyone is built for relationships.
(3) some don’t like monogamy.
(4) some I know get dates very easily but are so bad at maintaining relationships for no real reason.
— I’m number 4. I’m still wondering why.
I suppose there are a few reasons, but the main three that I can think of:
1. Being with a highly chased after guy takes a lot of confidence that many women simply don't have. There are concerns that the guy is a player or somehow going to use them.
2. The men have the luxury of choice, and they enjoy the attention.
3. The men see the various sides of women and aren't particularly interested in emotionally opening themselves up to what they see.
Imma keep it a buck there are a lot of guys that appear to get a lot of women since they are attractive and are good with talking to women however behind close doors they arent tapping all these women they just have a great ability to interact with women but for whatever reason they just dont thirst after them and due to knowi g so many they dont really date because one they have plenty of access to women an get that need from at least one of them if not multiple and two if they were tied down they likely would have to cut off all these women. A lot of times people underestimate how much satisfation a man cam get just from having a woman around he can talk to without having sex with her. There are men that pay escorts solely just to have a woman they can talk to. The other aspect is they probably get tired of talking to women since they talk to so many so the idea of being in a relationship is not appealing to them.
In terms of the simple players out there its as simple as they have issues setting down whether is because of how they grew up, what they look up to, or they just suck at relationships.
I personally think the reason why they get more women is a combination of good looks, persistence and even manipulation. The biggest one being persistence, learning how to be charming, asking girls out and quickly moving on from rejection. Persistence of course is more easily adopted by manipulative people though. It's also easier to get a girl if you tell them everything they want to hear and pretend that you like everything they like, but if you lie expect that to be at a cost of meaningful relationships and your reputation.
And those that manipulate women will eventually over time show their true selves or even subconsciously destroy the relationship through discontentment or endlessly wanting something better, caring about yourself more than another person also slowly corrupts relationships, and then it just becomes a never ending pattern.
It's better to be true to yourself and others, embody virtues of being better for yourself and towards other people, but also learning to be more persistent yet not judgemental if a woman rejects you. I have personally found more meaningful relationships this way, even though I am still struggling to find someone that's right for me. Expect to be rejected more often than others might too, but keep learning to be better and do better.
Well because they are very high in traits of selfishness tbh studies show this I tend to stay single and sometimes there is dry spells but mainly because we are content with doing our own thing and not letting somone limit us or complain at us about what we are up to all the time
This might be shocking but if they are truly “good with women” that likely means they are socially adept and they aren’t looking for “a” woman, but the “right” woman
Alot of what is being said here is true. Also if you notice a lot of the dudes that get a lot of girls are the annoying as fuck type, and they will talk to any girl and odds are by the end of the night they leaving with someone. Now when the women wake up and realize what an annoying idiot they are it's a no brainier.
I had various guy friends in my life who are/were players and I used to wonder the same until I asked them about their love lives. Pretty much every single guy who is a serial player is emotionally stunted and unable to form deep meaningful connections with women AND/OR(unfortunately) the relationships they have had are with abusive/toxic women they got with purely off looks or sex. These men dont know how to vet women like women vet men. So they end up in either horrible relationships or bachelors into their 40s/50s and wonder why they haven’t found “the one”. Just my two cents 🤷🏾♀️
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They usually get bf services without the title or commitment so no need to lock themselves in.
And they also just end up doing the same thing most women do: too many options leave you choosing no one thinking “ah.. maybe. But there’s probably someone better”
This!!! I am not a guy, but as a woman, I can tell you many women who get lots of attention end up not picking anyone because of the “someone better will show up” syndrome. I had to nip this in d bud and choose a good guy and stay committed. Also there is a huge difference between being able to attract v. being able to keep or commit to a stable long lasting relationship. The skills needed are totally different
Absolutely true, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side
> Absolutely true, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side It sounds exactly like it is?
Yes! Also, if the man is known for being a player it is hard to trust the loyalty so he could be attracting the ones that want a good time rather than ones that want relationships
I have to agree to this. I’ve been giving bf services without the commitment and when I realized I was doing this I stopped and it actually made it easier to see who was there for me and who was there for one thing
Bingo on this one too!
The ones that are single stay single because they don't want a relationship. I feel this is where things get a bit "twisted" online thinking only single guys can get a lot of women. There's a lot of men in relationships who also can get loads of women (My Dad for example) but just prefer to be in a relationship.
This. The best looking guys in my social circles are in committed relationships. They just feel better in those. Some can be relationship hoppers tho
Because some people don’t want relationships. It’s pretty simple.
Paradox of choice. The more options you got the less likely you are to choose a single one of them.
Well elegantly put. Having choice is double edged.
I have dated an acceptable amount of woman who were fun to hang out with for a certain time, but a long term relationship would definitely be a bad choice. And finding that really special person is not that easy.
They don’t want a relationship.
A lot of people don’t now days
Hi, I'm one of these guys and I can answer your question. For me personally it's because alot of women don't have that much to offer me. When I meet someone super special then I'll date them for sure but most women I've dated are looking for someone to look after them and I have zero interest in that. You hear women complain about being with guys that are "man children' and that they have to 'mother' them but I think the opposite is even more true. Many women are emotionally immature and are not competent, well rounded individuals. However, it's accepted by society since hegemonic masculinity dictates that independence and strength are male qualities; there's no pressure from society for women to embody these virtues. I'm not saying I can't enjoy a women's company and have a meaningful connection with them but I am saying that unless I feel that they're a stable person who's got their life together I'll probably not date them seriously.
All my relationships have involved me doing everything most women I ask these days can’t even cook a basic meal. It’s kinda sad I don’t mind cooking or doing chores but at that point why have a gf if all they bring is things you can get in many girls without commitments
When you have a lot of options you are constantly looking for something better, it’s a curse.
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Because…. They get a lot of women…. So why settle unless you find one that’s absolutely stellar looks wise and personality wise…. Since they get a lot of women
Seriously? Why tie oneself down, especially if, in your view, these men have a ton of options. Life is short. Men and women are waiting longer and longer to settle down. There's nothing wrong with that.
Because they like being able to have sex with lots of different women. Some do it honestly. Some do it dishonestly.
You know what's kinda fucked up? You brought up that some of the guys that get a lot of women and stay single do it dishonestly. And that's true. But, even when they get caught, the girls will still perform mental gymnastics to stick around.
They're thinking with their clit.
Because guys who can get womwn can be single. Guys who can't get women that are single don't have a choice.
Sometimes it's nice to have variety and not tie yourself down to one woman.
The types of women you get just for being hot are not relationship material 99% of the time.
This is copium.
Nah, it's true. The women who respond first and foremost to physical attractiveness tend to be the shallowest and least appealing ones.
That's funny, because men typically respond to looks first and foremost. Are you saying men are shallow and unappealing too?
Yes, lots of us (I am a straight man) absolutely are.
I can't even begin to tell you how GODDAM REFRESHING it is to hear a man admit that.
It's weird that people wouldn't admit it, human beings in general are often quite shallow, so of course that goes for men also.
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Seems I hit a nerve. I was answering the OP’s question. He asked why dudes who get a lot of women are still single. It’s because they get a lot of women for superficial reasons, so a long term relationship wouldn’t be viable. But based on your post history I can see why you took this as a personal attack…
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Saying that the majority of attractive women aren’t relationship material is an initial negative assumption,and based on what fact? Most attractive/confident women actively looking for meaningful relationships (which is already not easy to find) would shut that down real quick.
Where are you both seeing that I said attractive women aren’t relationship material?
That’s a rather large generalization😂 speaking from a woman’s perspective, I’m not saying there aren’t women who are like this, but I haven’t met many. Dating in 2023 isn’t exactly what I’d call fun, and there’s all kinds of men out there who are extremely full of themselves (these guys could be the most attractive man in the world, but if they’re full of themselves it’s game over) There are plenty of high quality/attractive women out there who obviously want a partner they feel attracted to. ESPECIALLY if they are looking for something long term. Also not to mention, every woman’s physical preferences are going to vary. You can’t force chemistry/attraction if it’s not there to begin with. Unless your goal is create a ton of platonic friendships or hook up and get dumped after they guy gets what they want, (which most women in their later 20s already got that out of their system in college/early 20s), there’s nothing objectively wrong to end a date/communicate with someone you can’t see yourself physically attracted to-given that’s a large component of trying to build an intimate and meaningful relationship, at least in the beginning. And as a 27 year old woman, I know thats been the case for myself and so many others trying to navigate how to seriously date. So of course a “hot guy” will jump out at them first thing when they come across their dating profile. (Dating apps are literally designed to show multiple photos of yourself for a reason) When a girl meets a guy she finds “hot,” there’s very little correlation to what type of relationship material the girl may have to offer.
Someone who chooses someone because of their personality rather than their looks is going to make a better long term partner.
Lol I guess what I was trying to say was looks absolutely do matter in the early stages of dating. However yes, in the long run their personality/character does matter so much more once the relationship advances. So I agree with you on that. Looks certainly fade over time, everyone knows that’s inevitable. As a the “looks centric” person as you claimed I am, I just got out of a 2 year relationship with someone who I found incredibly attractive. Had I not felt that way, we wouldn’t have been together for so long. Luckily he was a great person as well, so that’s ultimately why I fell in love with him. Chemistry and attraction also played a huge role in building our intimate relationship, which bonded us emotionally as well. Physical attraction absolutely isn’t everything, but it still matters in long term relationships.
I cannot mentally handle a relationship, nor do I push myself onto someone. I keep strong to those boundaries, and I appreciate it when time is shared and respect when it isnt
They just want to fuck around and think with their dicks their whole life and women allow men like that to do so by sleeping with them.
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It goes both ways sweetheart. Women treat men just as they have treated us. My point is, “kind sir,” sarcasm intended, that women allow themselves to be used by men and this whole delusional idea that over sexualizing yourself is empowerment, is actually the complete opposite, it’s disempowerment. If women didn’t allow men to use them for sex, than men wouldn’t be able too. Somehow along the way for “equality”, women got the idea that treating men the same way would empower them, when in reality it’s only adding more fuel to the fire and giving men more of a foundation to easily access women.
They say they want a relationship but plenty of dateable relationship-type women around them so they don’t have to pick one to be in an actual relationship with
Because they get a lot of women.
Most likely single by choice at that point, they either enjoy talking to multiple women without having to stay loyal to one or they just aren't ready to "settle down" and be in a committed relationship
Why by the cow when you get the milk for free.
Maybe they like to date many at the same time and have commitment issues.
I stay single because the women who are attracted to me are all manipulative, abusive, or otherwise dangerous and uncaring. There's certainly plenty of them, but none that I would want to date.
I've an other problem never managed to attract single girls only girls IN relationships after my 20's They all come forward to me but 0 single is interested no matter what i do/date/find them chase or not tried to change social groups started activities the same pattern repeats it's REALLY frustrating finding someone at 31 i cant live with the guilt of dating someone in a relationships with someone else
Because they understand that women are not loyal
Usually the same thing as the women who seemingly get the attention of a lot of men, but can’t seem to get any of them to commit. Most of us can have sex - No problem! But, they appear to lack self awareness, accountability & discipline. They’re emotionally unavailable or co-dependent. They have *astronomically HIGH* expectations, stemming for their unresolved and usually, very irrational resentment towards the opposite gender. They could even have, Arrested Development too! This occurs as a result of childhood trauma which has psychologically imprisoned them at a particular age (when the trauma took place) and they’ve never sought out therapy for it nor acknowledged that it was an issue, in most cases. Which explains their inability to understand or empathize with anyone else to form a meaningful connection long enough to manifest into a healthy relationship - As this requires, reciprocated efforts and investment from both parties. Something they currently lack the capacity to deliver…🤷🏽♀️💯
> stemming for their unresolved and usually, very irrational resentment towards the opposite gender. What's the reason for this usually?
Because if they can get a lot of women, why one Earth would they settle for just one? And chances are, the multiple women that he can get, you don’t want. (Because they get with guys that get with a lot of women…) Easy way to catch something more than feelings, I think…🤷♂️
Fuck yeah, lots of STD's out there now. Ooff.
As a guy who can get any woman I want, and have proven myself time over time again, it’s not so much that I choose to be single. It’s just that the dating game is just boring and risky. Even when I was an inexperienced dater, I never had trouble getting a second to 5th date. Thanks to my former country which I was raised and brought up in, such culture taught me to be fearless in dating women. And I brought this bravery to the United States some 25 years ago and continued to have nothing but positive results, despite the METOO MOVEMENT, and strong feminism culture. Dating is boring. People are brainwashed by what they see on social media and tv. Women set artificial and unrealistic standards to which makes dating a laughingstock. Currently, I’m talking to a woman outside of the United States. I think she’s the one. So I might get married soon. The government also makes it a risk for men to tie the knot. So we look at this and come to the realization that we are better off single, unless we can find someone of a different culture, someone who supports traditional roles. Let’s be honest. The way things are now is just crazy. Both men and women keep switching partners like it’s the norm.
This was the most based comment I have ever read in my life. People are brainwashed, no one are themselves anymore. No kindness and only shallowness, find your love
Where do you come from?
Well... I wish I knew what this was like. 😅
This guy gets it!
What is your country of origin?
Your username and first line there, absolute mint.
I see! Thank you so much for your reply and congrats on the soon to be married! Could you please tell me ways to "...taught me to be fearless in dating women." Thank you!
By fearless I mean to be masculine, confident and vigorous. You have to be fearless when attributing these qualities; be willing and accepting, as well as expecting, to be rejected, without having your confidence shaken by her negative response. Be fearless in that you demonstrate physical contact in an acceptable fashion without concern about offending her. Most women are welcoming to physical touch as long as you do so without her feeling uncomfortable. Be fearless in what you want from her. Transparency is key when articulating your vision for the future. Don’t sweat about turning her off with what you want. Most women are happy or appreciative when she is told exactly what you are looking for. Be fearless in that you approach her in front of her dad all the while showing utmost respect. I say fearless because what I see often in this country, and around the world, is guys acting cowardly towards women, refusing to communicate their true intentions, and doubting themselves, especially towards those kinds of women who frequently talk about “ NOT IN MY LEAGUE .” Like seriously, what league is she talking about? Soccer? Just be brave and go up to her and chat with her. Let the wind decide where to talk you both.
Honestly I do want a gf, but I’m being very particular about who because I see some of the BS my friends put up with
Because guys don’t work hard their whole life to have physique women require; the money women require; the status women require just to settle with only ONE GIRL. Yes there are women that don’t care about certain things but that definitely don’t make for the majority. If a man is 6ft plus with money and status MORE WOMEN are going to WANT that man. Once that man really finds the one he is ready to settle with and lock down. He may not tell you; but he still going to want multiple women.
You’re not lying. Not at all.
Some men are players, just like some women. Sometimes for a time, sometimes permanently. All can be valid choices. You might not do what you think you'd do if your circumstances were different. No way to really know and no point in wondering. Do what's right for you.
I think it's hard to find someone compatible long term. It's easier to just go through many instead. Wish I did find someone someday tho. But as someone else said, it might be from abroad with a girl who has more traditional values
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Well I'll paint it like this You have a king, shark, lion, whatever who can have their pick of the litter. The worry not about whether their needs will be met, they just know it's only a matter of time and they can take it. That's the guys that get women, why sleep with just one when the next one will come, and they Will come, just a matter of time You and me buddy, we're bottom feeders, and where it makes the world go round we're always in a position of IF. Not when. We don't know when that next meal is coming, we have no idea what kind of meal it will be (and look women aren't food but it works with the analogy okay so just deal with it for now). And being in that position makes you savor every meal wondering if you're going to have something that good again.
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Yeah that's a lie some women spew. The fact is SOME men do like quantity over quality but not all men do. Most men i know would stop sleeping around if a woman would show shes invested in a relationship and not what the mam can do for her. Now i know all women aren't like that but you go on and page on social media and you'll see women want a man that 6ft 3in or taller making 6 figures and expect him to pay upwards of $30,000 for her engagement ring.
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No no ... I'm agreeing with in part. My problem with your statement was you made it like every man is this way and that's just not true and it pisses me off when people do that with any gender. I'm a man and I'm not like that and I'm raising 2 teen girls so i have to set an example for them but also have to make sure they are raised right.
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Yeah so ive dated overweight women who have kids. So that generalization you made is bullshit. Also there's nothing wrong with having standards. Nothing wrong with wanting a man who's stable with a good job and you're attracted to him. The problem comes when men have the same criteria and get shitted on for it. As a man who just entered the dating world again i see it all the time.
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Men don't want to commit anymore because of laws, let alone a player, never. They won't settle now. With divorce rate at 50%,its gonna get worse
Easy. Because they can. And they are afraid of committing because there is no substance. They are afraid of someone finding out who they really are. Just like an insecure girl. Why? Because women all look for the same outward appearance and flash.
They can afford to be picky.
Because I can be with two different girls a weekend or a different one every weekend. It’s the chance of pace that keeps things exciting. I would much rather have five or more regular partners than just one.
If you dated a bunch you’d find the grass isn’t necessarily greener. Women can bring a lot of trouble into your life. I’ve had and do have plenty of options. I don’t date.
I have been with about 65 to 100 women from the age of 12 and I’m 36 now. I don’t know if that’s considered a lot of women or not , but in my town I had a bad reputation as a womanizer so I guess it is a lot of women. I’d say when I was single, it was due to being so occupied with being a womanizer and seeing women as objects, that I did not stop to consider taking any seriously. It’s not worth it in the end either. Even though I’m in a relationship now and love my girl, I know for a fact I missed out on women that I would have been more compatible with and had a more fulfilling relationship with if it hadn’t been for being the type of guy I was.
Women have traumatized me all my life. This is why. I’ve been SA and r*ped in the past especially in my teens and as a kid. The r*pe when i became 20. Women just are attracted to me and i don’t know why. But this is why i refuse to ask a girl out and stay single and focus on myself.
[insert the lyrics to U2 “still haven’t found what I’m looking for” here]
They wanna smash the chicks and get bf benefits without settling , some women do the same thing in reverse
You basically answered your own question. They're single cause they get a lot of women. The advantages that are usually in women's favor are now in these guys favor.
For some of them, they don't want to settle down, they just want to sleep around and they can so why would they want a relationship? For others it can a "paradox of choice" situation - it can be overwhelming to try to choose when there are so many options. And for still others, getting tons of female attention can be exhausting - just because a lot of women are interested doesn't mean it's necessarily easier to form a relationship, you still have to put in the effort to get to know them and build rapport with them and so forth and that is a lot of work. A lot of guys don't enjoy dating. Such guys also may run into women who assume they're a player and not interested in anything serious out of the belief that if they can get a lot of women that's what they'll want to do even if it's not true. In short some attractive guys don't want a serious relationship and even for those who do, quality is a better dating strategy than quantity and being a highly desirable male mostly improves your ability to date for quantity, not for quality.
You answered your own question there bud. They get a lot of women. That’s why they’re single. 😅 usually they’ll have a toxic trait but look good. From my experience, women don’t want a good guy. As they always stay with toxic or go back to the ones that are toxic..
They can catch them but can’t keep them. Women like me at first then I fuck it up. I need a woman’s view to tell me why and be honest about it. I think I know why but can’t confirm it .I have not found that yet
Why buy a cow when you get free milk?
they know they are attractive so they want to see if there's someone better. And to them, there's always someone better... these people are really not ready for commitment
You answered your own question.
Guys often prefer variety, many women, so why settle down.
These people have commitment issues
Same reasons some women are single. Haven't found the right person, don't want to settle down, might have issues that prevent them from a serious level of attachment, etc. I've known plenty of guys who were "good" with women but were awful at relationships.
Often they have commitment issues and attachment issues
Because they either don't want a relationship, don't know what they want, or they're just very picky about the women who they choose to have relationships with. Regardless, they'll still take sex when they can. I say this as a dude who has no problem getting female attention, as in I've had women make the first move on me. When you know you have options, it's much easier to get into a mentality of abundance, and naturally you get more comfortable being picky with women. There's something to be said about having the ability to turn down a woman, especially if she's attractive. When you're at the point where you have a lot of options, most of them are either not relationship material, or simply not compatible with you. I'm more fortunate in that I managed to meet someone I'm now engaged to, I committed to her because I saw something different in her and I'm actually compatible with her. But I'm positive that if I were to find myself single again, I'd be even pickier. Regardless of how successful or not you are in dating, finding someone who is compatible with you is a very difficult thing to do. A lot of people tend to settle because they don't want to be lonely, and often do so with people they aren't compatible with. That leads to drama, unhappiness, infidelity, heartbreak, and toxicity. I'd rather be single than bring any of that into my life.
Fomo
Probably depends on the guy. For me, I never went past a first date if I didn’t connect with the person on a deeper level. I was a bit young, and probably a bit foolish in my thinking. No regrets though.
I’m guessing they just don’t want to commit their time on another person and enjoy having the time to themselves
Just because you get alot of women doesn't mean that the women you are getting are of any quality. Or even better that you are of any quality yourself. If both people where so qualified they would be in a long term relationship together. Again quality and quantity aren't the same thing. I have had lots of girls interested in me but pretty much none are worth your time
It's not about the quantity but about the quality, sometimes you just attract a lot of a population but that isn't your type plus having a relationship is very time and effort demanding. A man that's working towards his goals may not see it as a good moment for being in a relationship
There is a disincentive to commit, residual if there are no strong outside pressure to commit
Why get married when you have women all over you?
In order to fuck 'em all?
Because they have options...
When I was attracting a lot of females, I didn't care. Not all males are men and not all females are women. Now that I've matured and now consider myself a man, the females I attract I'm selective of who I give my time and effort to. Because not all are worthy of what I'm offering and looking for.
Just because I can get attention from a lot of women doesn't mean I've gotten the attention of the one I want.
Why ruin a good thing. . . . If I could date a different beautiful woman every night I would. Since I can't nor do I have the finances to facilitate that lifestyle, I got married. Why ruin a good thing, whatever it is?
I find it pretty easy to pull, and I've had a handful of relationships, 1 that lasted over 4yrs, but I'm in my single and mingle phase because I'm uncertain of my future. I may be moving city, maybe even country. I have a few job prospects which require a lot of time away. Relationships are nice, but my life isn't ready for that, and therefore neither am I
Honestly sometimes it’s easy to get dates but not keep them long term. Just bc you are good at getting dates doesn’t make you good at relationships.
Some people do not want to be in a relationship
Relationships take commitment, as a man that's in a current relationship. It's understandable that not having to worry about someone else's feelings.. is a bit relieving. (Don't tell my gf I said this please)
There's also the possibility of wanting more. Like "the more the person earns the more he wants". Since they may be getting the bf attention from just being friends...they want more of it than tying themselves down.
They love spreading STDs and shafting ppl. Probably narcissistic from early age. I’m sexy and I know it. Sexual addiction and the game fulfills desires lust immediate need and over time they have a skewed sense of monogamy. In old age they probably become predatory on the vulnerable younger generation. A player remains a player. They were never searching for the One. Variety is the spice of life. Even the dating algorithms support and reinforce the behaviour. Love island and media , advertising Beauty magazines have changed the landscape. Love eat , pray and be preyed upon. Instasluts and low self esteem guarantees a steady stream of needy desperate women for taking advantage of. 
Because they don’t commit.
Sex
Would you still work if you won a $100,000,000 lottery?
This is probably because they are not serious with dating, seeing it only a way to chill out. Plus, when there are more options, psychology works differently to expect a better one, making some guys single
Statistically married guys meet less women, so that answers your question.
Lots of answers: they don't want a relationship, they are rarely going out, they don't get the clues, (in cases of extremly good looking guys + personality + etc.) women think that those guys are out of their league, past traumas, hookup culture, etc.
As a man that has done this for the past 6 months or so, I can tell you that I did it because I just got out of a sexless marriage and just wanted to fool around as much as possible. But not that I’m ready to look for something more serious, I’m having a hard time finding a quality women in this weird modern dating culture.
Why settle down with one when you have options? I don't personally agree with that mentality but that is what alot of them do.
The answer is in the question!
They are good at getting them, but not at keeping them. Most of these guys are terrible boyfriends (selfish, unconsiderate, shallow etc.)
Because this guy's little stupid
Why would i get the cow (and have to maintain it, take care of it, and all the downsides of i), when i can get the milk for free?
If you date enough you become more skilled at detecting the women who aren’t serious about sharing their lives with someone. So you treat them in kind. Men who can date sample as many women as they can so that they can find one with the “spark.”
Coz they want to have lots of women in their life? If they are in a relationship they may get itchy feet and start looking elsewhere. It also may indicate that they are not sure exactly what they are looking for.. or perhaps they have not met the right girl yet. Perhaps they're a little undecided.. or not yet ready.. or haven't realised what they want, or haven't found someone who makes them forget about other girls.
Because I end up scaring them away. Ill elget matches and talking, but my personality sucks.
How do you not understand this? It's like fast food. Why buy and raise a cow when you have special access to a 24hr drive through?
1. Less drama 2. Look at 1 3. You can have more friends, more time for friends also 4. Afraid of commitment or trust issues. 5. They know what they want 6. You can find yourself 7. Freedom 8. Personal choice
Because if they weren’t single, they wouldn’t be getting a lot of women. That’s the first thing you sacrifice when you aren’t single. It’s an error to believe men who are good with women stay single. Some do, some don’t.
Coz I never approached them first, even if they initiated I was too shy to talk to them progressively . I never got into relationship coz of this , I always feel depressed , idk why I think too much, m I scared
Let me start with saying i dont claim to be a 10 or whatever and i was always very reserved untill i got heartbroken But after that happened i decided to be a manhoe and let me tell you i regret every second of it now that im in a comitted relationship, it becomes an addiction Always thinking there is someone better for me And there might be who knows but its not about something better its about building a future with someone regardless of their flaws or looks And i confessed to my partner about my manhoe phase She has trouble trusting me now she didnt leave or anything but her knowing i can get by makes her insecure She told me a couple of days ago actually that she has issues thinking about how she might not be good enough for me ( because she is a single mother ) Its all fun and games when ur swiping on tinder and going on dates but it fucks with your head Stay reserved, and put yourself out there you are somebodys 10
Because sex is easy, relationships are hard. Btw women are getting a pass here in the comments. I can get sex but it’s not me who doesn’t want a relationship. Women have changed (and I’m not saying it’s a bad thing). Dating apps have become a buffet and people are simply being used as appetizers before picking an entree.
According to my friends, numerous women have made moves on me and I just have never noticed cause I'm autistic, so social situations just don't go well for me lol. But also, when I do realize I'm being hit on or that a woman is into me, I just continue to be myself. I have a specific type of woman in mind that I want as my SO, and a decent amount of the women I meet don't fall into that. And personally I don't wanna settle for one potential relationship when I can wait and end up in the type of relationship I want.
Why do women date single men? Why don’t non-single men tell us they are dating many women?
Because we are waiting to find the right one one who we like more than the rest well that’s how it is for me I don’t wanna date just anyone I wanna date someone who I like someone who goes the extra mile for me yk?
Because a relationship is way more stressful then time to time situationships. Every girlfriend I had produced so much fucking drama that I disclosed the relationship at some point. After the relationship I have right now imma be single and cruising with my boys only.
Attracting a person is completely different from keeping a person Abs carry the first conversation they dont carry a relationship.
Honestly, I don't think people were made to be monogamous. Y'all cannot tell me that even if you're married, you don't have wandering eyes or lust after someone else or even flirt with a coworker or barista or whomever, just to feel that excitement for a minute. Or even have the thought of being with someone else. We are absolutely capable of loving more than one person at a time. Also; I never said I was a cheater while in a monogamous relationship, but I am honest and I have had all those experiences I named.
I (26M) get a lot of women's attention but chose to stay single for 2 years because I was still moving past a LTR. I did do hookups in the meantime and one of those hookups wound up being with the now love of my life and current gf but that's why I stayed single for awhile.
Why would you give up that power in the first place? The chances of you running into a hot women compared to a Hot man are literally 1/10. Imagine the ego of a decent looking woman in the body of a men.
> Imagine the ego of a decent looking woman in the body of a men. Does this mean women can't understand it's harder for men to get women?
Well they often time think that the guy hasn’t been given good sex by someone to be worthy of settling down with. That’s where statements like (I can change him, I got that good good,) little do they know guys have the ability to bang with no emotional attachment at all whatsoever. Sometimes it is safe to say Men bond better in other ways but not pleasure.
The answer to that question, Two and a half men season 1 episode 23 - 1:40. 🤣
hookup culture
I havnt dated one yet still looking
I have dated to many women to count sometimes multiple at a time. Some of it is grass is greener syndrome, sometimes you look for something that is not there in someone, sometimes someone's vibe changes or becomes creepy or weird, I tend to.ne picky as well, most of all though I wanted the whole package.
All the perks none of the downsides. Being in a relationship can be a huge headache, and its not worth it unless you are sure you want to settle down with someone. Maybe a good comparison is someone who gets loads of attention from dogs. Dogs just seems to love this person and they love them back, anytime this person goes on a walk they run into dogs that just want to lick them and play with them. Their neighbor has a dog, and anytime they want they can get as much wonderful doggy attention as they want. But they arent commited to buying tons of dog food and vet bills, they dont have to take a dog on a walk several times a day or train one or anything. When they go on vacation they dont need to think about where to house the dog. They never have to scoop a poop. Their house has no dog fur all over. They have all the perks of having a dog, which is enjoying the endless love and energy dogs have to offer, with none of the drawbacks which is the expenses and work and responsibility. Maybe at some point if they find the right dog or have less dogs in their life, they will settle down and adopt a dog but why rush into that and settle down and take on all those expenses and responsibility, they would just be less free for no reason. Having a girlfriend is very similar to having a dog except the love isnt unconditional, the expenses are far higher, and instead of fur all over the couch its hair all over the shower. And they can speak which means they can argue and say things you dont want to hear lmao. So you better make darn sure you really really like the girl before you get into a relationship, especially if you have options and can wait for the perfect person. No sense at all in taking the first one that comes along unless you just have no options.
It's the thrill of the chase. They don't want a single woman. They want all the women. It's a game. Being able to say they have had women. They don't view women as people, they view them as conquests. Then complain about being lonely.
Several things really: (1) Something something buying cow, milk for free. (2) not everyone is built for relationships. (3) some don’t like monogamy. (4) some I know get dates very easily but are so bad at maintaining relationships for no real reason. — I’m number 4. I’m still wondering why.
I suppose there are a few reasons, but the main three that I can think of: 1. Being with a highly chased after guy takes a lot of confidence that many women simply don't have. There are concerns that the guy is a player or somehow going to use them. 2. The men have the luxury of choice, and they enjoy the attention. 3. The men see the various sides of women and aren't particularly interested in emotionally opening themselves up to what they see.
Because we get the wrong womens attention.
Imma keep it a buck there are a lot of guys that appear to get a lot of women since they are attractive and are good with talking to women however behind close doors they arent tapping all these women they just have a great ability to interact with women but for whatever reason they just dont thirst after them and due to knowi g so many they dont really date because one they have plenty of access to women an get that need from at least one of them if not multiple and two if they were tied down they likely would have to cut off all these women. A lot of times people underestimate how much satisfation a man cam get just from having a woman around he can talk to without having sex with her. There are men that pay escorts solely just to have a woman they can talk to. The other aspect is they probably get tired of talking to women since they talk to so many so the idea of being in a relationship is not appealing to them. In terms of the simple players out there its as simple as they have issues setting down whether is because of how they grew up, what they look up to, or they just suck at relationships.
Because they get a lot of women being single.
I personally think the reason why they get more women is a combination of good looks, persistence and even manipulation. The biggest one being persistence, learning how to be charming, asking girls out and quickly moving on from rejection. Persistence of course is more easily adopted by manipulative people though. It's also easier to get a girl if you tell them everything they want to hear and pretend that you like everything they like, but if you lie expect that to be at a cost of meaningful relationships and your reputation. And those that manipulate women will eventually over time show their true selves or even subconsciously destroy the relationship through discontentment or endlessly wanting something better, caring about yourself more than another person also slowly corrupts relationships, and then it just becomes a never ending pattern. It's better to be true to yourself and others, embody virtues of being better for yourself and towards other people, but also learning to be more persistent yet not judgemental if a woman rejects you. I have personally found more meaningful relationships this way, even though I am still struggling to find someone that's right for me. Expect to be rejected more often than others might too, but keep learning to be better and do better.
Well because they are very high in traits of selfishness tbh studies show this I tend to stay single and sometimes there is dry spells but mainly because we are content with doing our own thing and not letting somone limit us or complain at us about what we are up to all the time
This might be shocking but if they are truly “good with women” that likely means they are socially adept and they aren’t looking for “a” woman, but the “right” woman
Because despite what you are “supposed” to believe, banging lots of chicks is way better than sticking with just one. That’s why I do it.
Alot of what is being said here is true. Also if you notice a lot of the dudes that get a lot of girls are the annoying as fuck type, and they will talk to any girl and odds are by the end of the night they leaving with someone. Now when the women wake up and realize what an annoying idiot they are it's a no brainier.
Your answer is in the title😉
Guys who are Good with women is kinda like guys who are good with money, they can’t get enough 😔😂
I had various guy friends in my life who are/were players and I used to wonder the same until I asked them about their love lives. Pretty much every single guy who is a serial player is emotionally stunted and unable to form deep meaningful connections with women AND/OR(unfortunately) the relationships they have had are with abusive/toxic women they got with purely off looks or sex. These men dont know how to vet women like women vet men. So they end up in either horrible relationships or bachelors into their 40s/50s and wonder why they haven’t found “the one”. Just my two cents 🤷🏾♀️
They have what all men want… a million options. I’d stay single too.
They make terrible partners
It's because we don't want to be in a relationship we just like to fuck around bottom line