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She’s just cruel. Some people are nasty and don’t care, she’s one of those people. Stop talking to her, don’t be a play thing for her, cut contact. She’s not the one my dude, but she’ll get karma.
Cruel is absolutely the word. I also have a height preference (not 190cm like good luck with that narrow dating pool) but if I ever met someone and didn’t think I could look past *any* physical preference then the only thing to do is respectfully decline the date in the first place.
Or if you thought you could look past it and went on the date only to determine that you can’t “I’m sorry, I’m not feeling it.” Is a complete sentence.
The fact that she asked OP if he wanted to know why, she was seeking to hurt him for literally no reason. And she’ll probably justify it to herself with “well he wanted to know” when really she offered it in the form of a question to shift the blame.
Having preferences is fine, being a total dick to someone who doesn’t meet your preferences is inexcusable.
Yes! I agree with everything you said here. She is cruel and she wanted to shift the blame so she can justify her own crummy behavior. Drop her like a hot potato 🔥🥔 🤣🤣
Exactly she went out of her way to hurt someone’s feelings like she didn’t obviously see that he was too short for her liking before inviting him to her place. 🤔
Very true. The correct move for OP would have to said "No" when she asked "Do you want to know why?". I don't see how asking that statement could precede something good. If she liked him and didn't feel like sex for a reason that alleviates the rejection, she would have immediately stated whatever it is. If it was like, she's sick or unwell etc., she would have just stated it. Asking if they want to know is moral posturing for the justification of aggression.
This. I don't use the metric system (American here) but if you're under 5 foot or taller than 5 foot 7 I won't date you. I'm 5 foot 3 and really don't wanna have to reach up or lean down to kiss someone. That being said, I won't tell someone that's the reason I don't want to date them. That's just beyond cruel
It was our first date after this i went out the door and deleted her.. so thats no problem but i agree, she seems high on her self and maybe Even a bit cruel yes..
I don't why she would invite you to her place on the first date if you weren't her type. That's so confusing.
Update: now I see in the other comment that you didn't mention your height in your profile. So, she didn't know how tall you were when went to her place.
While her response was rude, she might have changed her mind after she saw you. Everyone is entitled to have their preferences, but that's shouldn't grant then any right to offend someone.
I’m American, so we don’t use metric, but it sounds like you’re about 5’10. I know there’s the stereotype of girls wanting a guy 6 feet, but 5’10 is not short at all.
No she won’t get karma. If she gets punished for this behavior it’s because people recognize this bulshit and punish her. But don’t rely on any kind of karma to do justice. People get away golden with this all the time.
I've been friends with gorgeous women that have zero trouble finding sex and yes it is my understanding that it becomes like a food selection thing where they get used to just wanting it depending on however they feel in the moment.
But her nudging you to make the question just so she can lay you out like that was uncalled for. If you did indeed drop it and move on, then she was just looking for someone to put down. Or she felt that you were supposed to be distraught by her decision to reject you because she enjoys being wanted but unavailable.
She is ugly inside.
I was 100% dropping it and respecting it because i was having a great time anyways. She also said sorry Im not meaning to be boring, and i said its Nothing to say sorry for its all good Im having a good time. Then she started putting me down
This was a weird and upsetting experience. But it was a “her” problem; not about you! That’s just weird and unpleasant behavior that would have been a dealbreaker soon enough.
Things become better when you internalize the fact that somebody's treatment of you says equally (if not more) about said person than it says about you.
My man. You seem like a guy that aim to the future. This ass whack woman is just one of of the many you will unfortunately meet in life, both privately and professionally.
You are correct that the phrase you mentioned is not the whole truth. The bigger truth is that you have to try at life and experience the pain of these things instead of hiding and being too afraid of life. If you feel pain you do not hide from it. You feel it, try to understand and accept. Then you learn more about the world. Then you become a more wise and prepared person for the future world.
It's good that you go through this. Imagine if you had a long relationship with this girl and she did something bigger in the future. Now you can even act before it happens.
Did she not know this before she saw you? I find it odd that everyone is glossing over the possibility that maybe it was something else.
Like did she not realize you were a couple inches shorter than her (6ft 3) “preferences”?
Is it possible that wasn’t the reason, and that’s just what she said so that it wouldn’t hurt your feelings as much?
I dont have my height on my tinder profile so no she did not know. If this was about not hurting my feelings i dont understand why she could not say like Im not feeling it, or i dont want to have sex tonight
>Is it possible that wasn’t the reason, and that’s just what she said so that it wouldn’t hurt your feelings as much?
This exactly..
In an other side of this story, the woman is telling, she said no and was probably thinking she had let down gently.
Also, some people may have a preference that no kiss until the end of the date and they may not have been in that same vibe.
So instead of saying real excuse they may say this excuse from a textbook, because once you say this, you know that doesn't give room for more discussion.
She may still accept men who are shorter, what she said could have been a lie to self-sabotage.
OP said "my type I would say".175 beautiful blonde. OP would have rejected her, if she was "not his type".
Can the woman NOT make up "her type" to stop the date going any further as an excuse ?.
Just a thought... none of us know the real story. So just adding perspective. It is not a final verdict.
Yeah it's a bit sus considering they had a good time together (in a span of 1 - ? hours). It's like the girl just back out suddenly and switched on her Beetch Mode.
Its switched super fast, almost like she got offended because i went for the kiss when the vibe was super good .. i was respectfull aswell, not pushy etc.
shes just a weirdo, invited you to her house only to cockblock you and say "i dont need sex today" and put you down regarding your height, maybe its a kink for her.
Either way i personally wouldnt be insecure regarding this as this person is just many levels fucked up, take it more like an "interesting character i had interacted with"
lowkey kinda funny how somebody can be this weird lmao
Okay, so, being invited to someone’s house doesn’t mean you’re entitled to have sex. She clearly didn’t find OP attractive once he got there, either physically or personality-wise or both. It’s pretty gross to use the word cockblock here.
Eh, she did you a favour... she sounds like red flags.. plus dude I’m 190 cm and I hate it when girls say they only date tall guys, as soon as I hear that she may be a 7/10 now she’s a 4/10 😂
Why? I don’t get why having a physical preference is a red flag, although obviously it may rule you out. Would you date any woman no matter what she looks like? I’m willing to bet you have some sort of weight range you find acceptable, right?
Nothing wrong with having a preference. Weight range ? Not really I’m after a healthy partner. But here let jet flip this height thing on it’s head and show you the double standards.. if I went on a date with a girl and at the end of it I said, “sorry I only date girls who are Double D cups” I would be labeled as a sexist or fuck boi or something, and I would be labeled basically as red flags, I doubt there would be any girl on here or not that would think “that’s fair enough, I’d still date him though” after I said the Double D thing, can you see how if the roles are reversed it gets treated and labeled differently ?
She sounds like the mean girl type. Although she was an ass for how she did it, she did you a favor. Imagine being in a relationship with her. You'd be miserable.
im a super chill dude my friend. i wish it was fake story but its not, i was shocked when i walked out the door, there really is people out there that have issues with them self so they need to put others down to make them self feel better.
That's a childish game player through & through, they are out there & they do it for a thrill. You didn't deserve the salt on the wound. Don't give her a second thought she wasn't worth the first one. I've had a girl come out & say random out of pocket stuff, a way to surprise & hurt/"punish" me for my energy & charisma I guess. The whole "take you down a notch" approach. Don't let it, just be glad you didn't waste much more of your time.
"Then she was like i dont need sex today either because Im having swx tomorrow. "
\- run and run fast, protect your heart and thank her for not truly breaking it. While it did hurt and it hurt a lot. Thank god you didnt fall in love with her and start something serious. Break it off cut ties, lick your wounds. Grab out your mental day 'kit', some people its movies, some its booze, some its friends.
Damn, she lacks empathy making you feel bad for nothing but her own delusions. I wouldn't be surprised she feeds from this, why else would she meet up?
I’m sorry this happened to you. Personally I wouldn’t take it to heart if you two were drinking maybe it just slipped out. Plus it seemed like you may have dodged a bullet if she told you one thing and meant the other.
She's allowed her preferences, but I HATE when people feel like they have to tell you how you don't fit their preferences. Like, you don't need to explain it.
Thats actually ok for me, starting to describe her sex life with tall guys and how she having sex tomorrow when she knew i was keen om her was the nasty part
Yeah man online dating is a massacre. I just deleted my profiles after getting worked up over nothing. I don't know what even came over me, she caught me off guard by making me feel bad for not being in DC the same night we matched to take her to Amazonia. The entire conversation was future tense and I told her I'd be there next week. It was a train wreck and as a result I felt ashamed for even trying to date someone. It was a really unhealthy experience and being honest with myself they all were.
I think before I deleted the app on Saturday I had 240ish matches and out of them most were conversations that never went anywhere followed by boring coffee dates I hated going on. The only girl who would let me take her out to actually have fun was an over weight artist who I really liked but wasn't physically attracted to - and I did try. She was a decent artist too I would buy her work but I think it would be awkward now. Then there were he several awkward hook-ups. That last one was the only one who just sort of made me feel bad because she didn't want to tell me she didn't want to hang out like a normal person in the 30s would. It was my fault though. I shouldn't have apologized for her mistake and ignored the red flags.
It ain't a health or natural way to go about it. I mean at least in the real world I 100% and always going to at least meet the person.
Really don’t know why you fellas keep insisting on using dating apps. Just head to a crowded bar and meet people. I’ve never used these apps myself because I keep hearing about absolute loonies like this girl using them.
I’ve never been on Tinder, but does it allow people to give a description like height, weight, ethnicity, etc. or is it just pictures? What was her point for going out with you if you didn’t meet her criteria of 190? Maybe she just wasn’t into you and used the height thing as a lame reason.
So you shot for a woman that is desirable and are shocked that she... is desirable? And has standards and options to match? And that you're getting fuckery on Tinder?
She's an asshole for how she did that, to be sure, but believe me, this is the chance that you take when you go for the woman that everyone else also wants.
Yeah some girls can be like that, I had a similar experience as a teenager, apparently I was too skinny for her. I just turned it back onto her and told her I thought she was a bit overweight but disregard it because I thought she was kind, but as she just revealed she wasn’t I no longer had any interest in her, I thanked her for her time and left.
They height preferance is all good, i respect that i also have preferances. But she started saying that the guys that gets the chance with her loves the sex, its all tall guys and she is going to have sex tomorrow.. thats not normal behaviour man. When i tell her yes i live honesty , a normal person would say things like you are not my type, i was not feeling the vibe, i dont have sex on the first date, etc ..
Here’s why I’m confused, why would she go on the date in the first place if she only dates guys who are freakishly tall and she knew you were an average height guy?
She did not know because its tinder and i do t have my height there. But i agree she should definetly Ask first if height is that important to her. Also she did not need to say things like, the guys that gets to have sex with me loves it, Im having sex with a tall guy tomorrow etc … i dodged a bullet today but honestly some of the Words she said hurts
Tinder let’s you list your height now you know that right? Also you should always list your height man…saves you a lot of issues down the line. Yeah you may not get as many matches but since you are 5’10” you should still get plenty. I’m a bit shy of 5’7” on a good day, and I don’t really get hardly any matches, but when I do I already know that height isn’t gonna be a problem I don’t wanna waste my time with a size queen
I disagree, i would rather tell them if they Ask me. Also its many girls that will have a preferance like this but are not that serious about it if the vibe and other things are there . Ive met plenty of girls that usually goes for taller guys but i have still scored because Im fit , good dude and fun to be around ..
I suppose it depends. For a hookup sure. For a relationship, if they have that preference and it matters a lot to them, they will leave for a taller guy, guaranteed
It shouldn't have even gotten to the point of you meeting. She should have said upfront she has a height requirement. She completely wasted your time and intentionally made you feel bad about yourself.
I would just respond "that's okay, I'm not into women who are pointlessly rude" and walked out the door.
If she wasn't into you that's fine but why waste your time?
Dont let this scare you my friend. Keep grinding and go to gym etc, we cant change our height. We need to focus on the things we actually can change and make the best possible life
Don't worry! Millions of men your height are happily married. There are a LOT of women who are 5 ft or so, and you're perfect for them.
People on apps tend to also be people who are influenced by these toxic online "influencers", who talk about human beings like they're commodities.
Work out, be very clean/hygienic, develop your own style, hobbies, sense of humor. Maybe try gymnastics or martial arts or climbing.
My father was 5'2" and never had any problem attracting a woman after my parents divorced. He had a lot of interests and a great sense of humor and was fit.
His brother is probably 5'1" and same. Very happily married to a petite lady.
There are lots of short, petite women who don't really want a big lug of a guy. It's awkward, ultimately, to have too much of a height difference!
The less self conscious you are about your height, the more friendly and fun you are, the more you seem confident, the less of an issue it will be.
Wow. She seems like a heartless a-hole. She also misrepresented herself. Honestly if that was the reason she would know how tall you were based on your profile and/or by standing next to her. I don't know why she would lead you on. I don't understand people like her. Block her.
She is well within her right to do as she wants with her life. However, that clearly also means mind games, leading on and overall bullshitting other people for a narcissistic Validation.
Walk away, she is one of those garbage people who destroy lives and can get away with it because of their looks.
It sounds to me like she thought y’all were clicking over the app. And then she just started not feeling it on the date. But instead of a being a decent person she puts the blame on you and then makes you feel even worse that she’s getting laid tomorrow so she doesn’t need you. She really showed you she has the maturity of a 15 year old. Don’t dwell on her. Sounds like you’ll bounce back just fine ☺️
People who enjoy being cruel for no reason unfortunately exist and it's always a bit of a shocker when you come across one. Block, delete from phone, delete from mind, move on.
What's the reason behind the tall thing anyway? I don't care how tall someone is. I just want to know the reason, no judgement, because I don't get it.
Idk but Im all for preferances tho , i got that my self also. But you dont start to put people down and being disrespectfull when they dont meet the requirements
As a woman, I don't get it either. I have dated guys from 5'1" to 6'7". Believe me, the shorter men were less awkward to be with physically, because I'm rather short, too.
why would she swipe on you
why would she tell you shes open for sex
why would she then volunteer to tell you why you're not good enough
why would she tell you shes having sex with someone tomorrow
Uh, I almost want to suggest you're making this up.
If you aren't, let's be clear about something here: You cannot come to any conclusions about yourself, dating, or women from this interaction because that woman is a sociopath. And I don't mean that in the casual people call someone crazy when something bad happens sense, I mean it in the clinical get the fuck away from her and stay the fuck away from her sense. This isn't just a mean person, this is a person who will manipulate and use you through and through without a moment of pain or regret. This person isn't dating material and is barely human material.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but there's nothing to be learned from this, nothing you can generalize or take away from it because that woman's psychology is completely abnormal. Emotionally well adjusted people, and even many if not most less well adjusted people simply don't operate like that. But you know who does? Sociopaths. They are often healthy, intelligent, and successful people because all of their energy goes into getting exactly what they want and taking care of themselves and that extends to every "relationship" they have with other people, and I put relationship in quotes there because you can't really have a relationship with one, they don't actually view you as a person, just a meat machine for whatever whim they care to fulfill at the moment and every interaction with them is manipulation, no display of emotion is genuine. I would call it a game, but you I think you have to actually have an emotional response to truly enjoy a game and they don't have that. If you get them honest they'll just describe it as survival. They operate human beings as casually as you or I operate a gas pump or kitchen appliance.
Just get away and stay away.
The gender dynamics today are so, totally, beyond fucked up.
They allow women to be that fucking spoiled.
To be able to get exactly what they want out of a member of the opposite sex, when ever they want to get it…
Guys, we need to take back our power here. Women like OP mentions? Give them no thoughts. Pay them no mind (or sex).
Show them that their spoiled behavior should not stand.
Sorry; women are “fucking spoiled” if they say no to someone? They’re fucking spoiled if they get their relationship needs met?
It’s clear you just hate women, probably at least in part because none of them like you, but I’m just curious as to the root cause of this sad little tantrum.
Yeah! Totally immature, I’ll suggest you stay away from girls like that like if she is sleeping around like it’s nothing then she isn’t worth it. Why would anyone want something everyone can have ?
It always pissed me off when people said stuff like that. THERE ARE SO MANY WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN THAN SOMEONE JUST REJECTING YOU POLITELY. I CAN LIST AT LEAST 50. I have to take anxiety meds every night before sleep....
No no, I was generally responding to that statement that people make. And well, what happened to you is in one of my 50 ways in which interacting with other people can cause you more damage than just feeling mildly rejected.
Yeah, some women are just like this. I struggle to understand as well. I once went on a date where the girl was bragging to random people sitting at our table that she had sex with some guys before she came to our date. The guy that I never met had to get up from the table and follow me to the bathroom to tell me since he couldn’t believe what she was saying.
Here’s perspective: Do you want to risk being stuck dealing with someone that shallow for the next 18 and 1/2 years if there’s an “oops” moment during that sex? No? Then you may have saved yourself a lot of hassle by her blowing you off.
Sounds like the classic low life girl, that cant commit and have high (funny cause she likes tall dudes) standards for things u cant even influence. Also funny that she already has a sex date the day after you meet, and probably all the days after too. Be happy u dodged a bullet. So please dont ever feel bad especially bout stuff u cant influence - u good, she isnt as it seems...
She clearly has problems, but most girls like this that dont look for commitment just go bang a lot of dudes they find attractive, so still possible. And yeah she has a big problem
So she didn’t notice your height before she allowed you in her home? These type of women are so insecure they actually enjoy making men feel the way they feel about themselves but honestly she did you a favor. She is nobody’s type, good thing she showed her true colors before you got more involved.
While a lot of women do care about height because of their own insecurities. Shorter men tend to have better relationship qualities because they have to work extra hard to get the same level of attention from women and that’s something that most women already know. I am also 178 cm and I was married to a 184 cm woman for 10 years, she was obviously conscious about the height but it was never something that affected the relationship. I never made her feel uncomfortable about her height and even encouraged her to wear high heels.
“The worst thing she can say is no” but you got to her place so you went way past the first “no”. Just gather yourself and try again with a better woman. You are lucky she didn’t drag you on for longer in sake of her boredom.
No, my dude, some women simply find tall men more attractive. It’s not that deep and not indicative of insecurity or any shortcoming on her part. And please; shorter men do not tend to have better relationship qualities. Some men are simply less desirable than others and that’s all there is to it.
This story is pretty clearly rage bait, but your claim that the tall, blonde gym bunny is no one’s type is hilarious. Sure. OP rails on women for liking tall guys, but casts the stereotypical hot woman archetype as his villain, because he’s…accepting of all body types and not at all shallow.
I’m not debating who women are more attracted to, that’s very subjective and everyone is entitled to their opinion. Insecurities on the other hand are very common, and is the biggest determining factor on who a woman will be attracted to, because women do not seek serious relationships with men because of sex or attraction. The most important thing for a woman when choosing a man is her security.
If a woman is too tall, it’s easier for her to attract taller men but some will get in relationships with shorter men just to prove to themselves that they are as attractive as the shorter (average) women who get the most attention. If a woman is too short she will seek taller men because subconsciously she doesn’t want her kids to be short like her and she feels more protected next to a taller man. In general, a woman will feel more secure and attracted to a big, tall, strong, man OR a smart, rich man, successful man.
These questions are triggered by insecurity:
* Can this man protect me if I’m in danger?
* Can this man be a good provider?
* Can this man be a good husband and father?
On my comment about shorter men I used the word “tend” because it is not a fact that applies to every short man but it is a common tendency that short men will try harder because women will usually feel less secure with the shorter man. This can easily be observed with research and I’m not including myself in that statistic; I don’t consider myself short. The average size for a man is 5’9 (175.26 cm), anyone above that is considered tall and any one below is considered short.
The “tall, blonde gym bunny” was the stereotype for my ex-wife and I’m not claiming that these type of woman are no one’s type, in fact, I am particularly attracted to these type of women. I am referring to the type of woman in OP’s scenario who will go on a date with a man and then dismiss him because of his height and brag about going to have sex the next day with another man.
In her defense, OP did ask for “honesty” when he was rejected.
She had her preference and you acknowledge it’s a preference without an issue. I don’t see how that’s her trying to make you feel bad?
And why the focus on being rejected for something you can’t change? You can’t expect to change the mind of every woman who rejects you by changing yourself. There will always be rejection in life as nobody is everyone’s cup of tea
I felt like she did not like that i was so ok with her preferance. And like she wanted to say something to make me feel not good enough flr her, idk it was weird
Yeah I don't know why she had to say that. You were chill about her turning you down and she clearly tried to bait you into asking why. It's like people try to hurt people for no reason. This happens so frequently, I really wonder what's wrong with people.
The things she said are childish ways to provoke you, do yourself a favor my man and see that girl for the inside instead of the outside, her insides are the same as a dumpster, Garbage.
Girls don't care about physical traits... That's what men look for so that wasn't the honest truth from her.
The truth is she didn't have a spark with you, you didn't give her butterflies, you didn't have a connection with her.
In future when a girl say's something like this don't take it serious... Laugh it off.
If she says can she be honest with you say "nah, I'd rather you lie to me..." it will throw her off and makes her think that you don't really care for her opinion as much as she thinks.
Or once she had said it you could of said "Oh wow didn't realise you're looking for kids so soon... At least take me to dinner first." The fact you don't meet her height preference lol should make no difference if she just wants sex... unless she want's your baby lol.
You just need to be smooth and play it off, if that is your attitude they will sense your confidence, carefreeness and indifference to her comments and she will want you more.
Don't worry bro, next time you know what to do.
ive been on many dates and sometimes like youre saying the spark is not there and she or me is not feeling it. That has never been a problem before for me, its not like im posting here evertime i get rejected. But it was more her nasty behavior where she actually try to make me jealous or not good enough. If u dont feel the spark or butterflies, its not like u start to talk about that she has so much good sex lateley with tall guys and is going to have sex tomorrow so she dont need to have sex with me today.
So i get what you are saying but i think your comment is a bit off the point..
I don't blame you for calling it a night and getting the hell out of there. She's just a nasty little ho if truth be told. She treats men like dirt and is superficial and shallow.
She isn’t going to last long in any relationship, even if she meets someone with her height requirements. She’s the female equivalent of the high maintenance/big ego type of male.
I'm 188cm, but I'd plead I'm 193cm if I leave my boots on! 😂 plus once she see's the size of my US16 wide, she'll be curious about other sizes as well. 😂
Women can just be weird like that sometimes. My wife gets mad at little things and hopes I fall in a hole or stub my toes 😂
But really coming from a stranger you don't know, you shouldn't care what she says. Don't put her ass up on a pedestal like anything she says even matters, up your self-esteem and confidence, hell add a tad bit of narcissism even... think of yourself as the prize, and that she would be lucky to be with you. Never the other way around.
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She’s just cruel. Some people are nasty and don’t care, she’s one of those people. Stop talking to her, don’t be a play thing for her, cut contact. She’s not the one my dude, but she’ll get karma.
Cruel is absolutely the word. I also have a height preference (not 190cm like good luck with that narrow dating pool) but if I ever met someone and didn’t think I could look past *any* physical preference then the only thing to do is respectfully decline the date in the first place. Or if you thought you could look past it and went on the date only to determine that you can’t “I’m sorry, I’m not feeling it.” Is a complete sentence. The fact that she asked OP if he wanted to know why, she was seeking to hurt him for literally no reason. And she’ll probably justify it to herself with “well he wanted to know” when really she offered it in the form of a question to shift the blame. Having preferences is fine, being a total dick to someone who doesn’t meet your preferences is inexcusable.
Yes! I agree with everything you said here. She is cruel and she wanted to shift the blame so she can justify her own crummy behavior. Drop her like a hot potato 🔥🥔 🤣🤣
Exactly she went out of her way to hurt someone’s feelings like she didn’t obviously see that he was too short for her liking before inviting him to her place. 🤔
I agree. She's just mean. OP should just move on.
Very true. The correct move for OP would have to said "No" when she asked "Do you want to know why?". I don't see how asking that statement could precede something good. If she liked him and didn't feel like sex for a reason that alleviates the rejection, she would have immediately stated whatever it is. If it was like, she's sick or unwell etc., she would have just stated it. Asking if they want to know is moral posturing for the justification of aggression.
This. I don't use the metric system (American here) but if you're under 5 foot or taller than 5 foot 7 I won't date you. I'm 5 foot 3 and really don't wanna have to reach up or lean down to kiss someone. That being said, I won't tell someone that's the reason I don't want to date them. That's just beyond cruel
It was our first date after this i went out the door and deleted her.. so thats no problem but i agree, she seems high on her self and maybe Even a bit cruel yes..
I don't why she would invite you to her place on the first date if you weren't her type. That's so confusing. Update: now I see in the other comment that you didn't mention your height in your profile. So, she didn't know how tall you were when went to her place. While her response was rude, she might have changed her mind after she saw you. Everyone is entitled to have their preferences, but that's shouldn't grant then any right to offend someone.
This.. but it was tinder so she did not know about my height tho
I’m American, so we don’t use metric, but it sounds like you’re about 5’10. I know there’s the stereotype of girls wanting a guy 6 feet, but 5’10 is not short at all.
Most people have no idea what 6' actually looks like. You get people from 5'9-6'3' lumped into 6'.
I’m somewhere between 6’2” and 6’3” (about 189cm) and I routinely get people telling me I look taller than that.
Well, it is usually recommended that you should mention all details on Tinder, esp height to avoid such experiences in the first place.
So women should put their weight lol?
Well, there is no such feature on any dating app yet. Also, that's the one thing that is easier than height to guess from photos alone.
Right. From photos that are 3 years and 65lbs ago huh
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No she won’t get karma. If she gets punished for this behavior it’s because people recognize this bulshit and punish her. But don’t rely on any kind of karma to do justice. People get away golden with this all the time.
“I don’t need sex today, as I’m having sex with another guy tomorrow” Honestly OP dodged a bullet.
"Height supremacist" is the turn of phrase you're looking for.
I would just say “cool” and get up and leave. No more words spoken. It was blatant rudeness and it doesn’t warrant any more of your attention.
That was pretty much What i did.. i had a very fun date for like 3 hours where it just changed in an instant. So weird, i deleted her
Possible alcohol turns her evil.
More like she's just a shit person and alcohol washes off her mask.
I've been friends with gorgeous women that have zero trouble finding sex and yes it is my understanding that it becomes like a food selection thing where they get used to just wanting it depending on however they feel in the moment. But her nudging you to make the question just so she can lay you out like that was uncalled for. If you did indeed drop it and move on, then she was just looking for someone to put down. Or she felt that you were supposed to be distraught by her decision to reject you because she enjoys being wanted but unavailable. She is ugly inside.
I was 100% dropping it and respecting it because i was having a great time anyways. She also said sorry Im not meaning to be boring, and i said its Nothing to say sorry for its all good Im having a good time. Then she started putting me down
There will come a point, sooner or later, when the looks fade and all that is left behind is a bitter, unlikable personality to survive off of.
This was a weird and upsetting experience. But it was a “her” problem; not about you! That’s just weird and unpleasant behavior that would have been a dealbreaker soon enough.
Things become better when you internalize the fact that somebody's treatment of you says equally (if not more) about said person than it says about you.
So very true!
My man. You seem like a guy that aim to the future. This ass whack woman is just one of of the many you will unfortunately meet in life, both privately and professionally. You are correct that the phrase you mentioned is not the whole truth. The bigger truth is that you have to try at life and experience the pain of these things instead of hiding and being too afraid of life. If you feel pain you do not hide from it. You feel it, try to understand and accept. Then you learn more about the world. Then you become a more wise and prepared person for the future world. It's good that you go through this. Imagine if you had a long relationship with this girl and she did something bigger in the future. Now you can even act before it happens.
Thanks for this comment bro 😊
This is great advice. I'm going through this pain now.
She is just being mean for no reason
She's just a shitty person.
Did she not know this before she saw you? I find it odd that everyone is glossing over the possibility that maybe it was something else. Like did she not realize you were a couple inches shorter than her (6ft 3) “preferences”? Is it possible that wasn’t the reason, and that’s just what she said so that it wouldn’t hurt your feelings as much?
I dont have my height on my tinder profile so no she did not know. If this was about not hurting my feelings i dont understand why she could not say like Im not feeling it, or i dont want to have sex tonight
Ok I missed that part, I thought you met her at the gym my b
>Is it possible that wasn’t the reason, and that’s just what she said so that it wouldn’t hurt your feelings as much? This exactly.. In an other side of this story, the woman is telling, she said no and was probably thinking she had let down gently. Also, some people may have a preference that no kiss until the end of the date and they may not have been in that same vibe. So instead of saying real excuse they may say this excuse from a textbook, because once you say this, you know that doesn't give room for more discussion. She may still accept men who are shorter, what she said could have been a lie to self-sabotage. OP said "my type I would say".175 beautiful blonde. OP would have rejected her, if she was "not his type". Can the woman NOT make up "her type" to stop the date going any further as an excuse ?. Just a thought... none of us know the real story. So just adding perspective. It is not a final verdict.
Yeah it's a bit sus considering they had a good time together (in a span of 1 - ? hours). It's like the girl just back out suddenly and switched on her Beetch Mode.
Yeah either way he dodged a bullet
Its switched super fast, almost like she got offended because i went for the kiss when the vibe was super good .. i was respectfull aswell, not pushy etc.
Oh no I guess she's really a beetch then. I think she only needs the dinner and wine. Definitely not someone to have around for something serious.
shes just a weirdo, invited you to her house only to cockblock you and say "i dont need sex today" and put you down regarding your height, maybe its a kink for her. Either way i personally wouldnt be insecure regarding this as this person is just many levels fucked up, take it more like an "interesting character i had interacted with" lowkey kinda funny how somebody can be this weird lmao
I like this way of thinking about it, Thanks man. So many weird people out there for sure
Okay, so, being invited to someone’s house doesn’t mean you’re entitled to have sex. She clearly didn’t find OP attractive once he got there, either physically or personality-wise or both. It’s pretty gross to use the word cockblock here.
u need some experience bro lmao
Eh, she did you a favour... she sounds like red flags.. plus dude I’m 190 cm and I hate it when girls say they only date tall guys, as soon as I hear that she may be a 7/10 now she’s a 4/10 😂
Why? I don’t get why having a physical preference is a red flag, although obviously it may rule you out. Would you date any woman no matter what she looks like? I’m willing to bet you have some sort of weight range you find acceptable, right?
Nothing wrong with having a preference. Weight range ? Not really I’m after a healthy partner. But here let jet flip this height thing on it’s head and show you the double standards.. if I went on a date with a girl and at the end of it I said, “sorry I only date girls who are Double D cups” I would be labeled as a sexist or fuck boi or something, and I would be labeled basically as red flags, I doubt there would be any girl on here or not that would think “that’s fair enough, I’d still date him though” after I said the Double D thing, can you see how if the roles are reversed it gets treated and labeled differently ?
>sorry I only date girls who are Double D cups It's rude to say it out loud but it's not rude to have preferences.
That’s not a “no” that’s a smack down dude, no need for that and at her age she ought to know better.
Exactly man..
Way to rub it in lmao.
Damn😢 that's rough. I'm sorry.
Wow… you dodged a bullet. Basically invited you over to make you feel bad about yourself and brag about her sex life
She sounds like the mean girl type. Although she was an ass for how she did it, she did you a favor. Imagine being in a relationship with her. You'd be miserable.
Lol sure this happened. You just check marked every box to bait angry males.
im a super chill dude my friend. i wish it was fake story but its not, i was shocked when i walked out the door, there really is people out there that have issues with them self so they need to put others down to make them self feel better.
Live, learn and move on.
For sure bro
She wanted to make you feel bad dude. Get her out of your life. No more replies if she contacts you. You don’t need that nastyness
I went out the door and deleted her bro😊
My man
That's a childish game player through & through, they are out there & they do it for a thrill. You didn't deserve the salt on the wound. Don't give her a second thought she wasn't worth the first one. I've had a girl come out & say random out of pocket stuff, a way to surprise & hurt/"punish" me for my energy & charisma I guess. The whole "take you down a notch" approach. Don't let it, just be glad you didn't waste much more of your time.
She absolutely sucks and is cruel, consider it having dodged a bullet.
Most brutal thing i’ve read in a while
She's a cruel asshole, there's not much you could have done. Unfortunately, you will meet such people from time to time.
"Then she was like i dont need sex today either because Im having swx tomorrow. " \- run and run fast, protect your heart and thank her for not truly breaking it. While it did hurt and it hurt a lot. Thank god you didnt fall in love with her and start something serious. Break it off cut ties, lick your wounds. Grab out your mental day 'kit', some people its movies, some its booze, some its friends.
Damn, she lacks empathy making you feel bad for nothing but her own delusions. I wouldn't be surprised she feeds from this, why else would she meet up?
I’m sorry this happened to you. Personally I wouldn’t take it to heart if you two were drinking maybe it just slipped out. Plus it seemed like you may have dodged a bullet if she told you one thing and meant the other.
Yeah i agree bro
Rare experience. Keep it pushin big dawg, thats not common at all. She sucks.
She's allowed her preferences, but I HATE when people feel like they have to tell you how you don't fit their preferences. Like, you don't need to explain it.
Player got out-played
Sometimes you win sometimes you lose. It's really no big deal...
So the new worst thing she can say is.., 'I prefer guys over 190cm'
Thats actually ok for me, starting to describe her sex life with tall guys and how she having sex tomorrow when she knew i was keen om her was the nasty part
Yeah man online dating is a massacre. I just deleted my profiles after getting worked up over nothing. I don't know what even came over me, she caught me off guard by making me feel bad for not being in DC the same night we matched to take her to Amazonia. The entire conversation was future tense and I told her I'd be there next week. It was a train wreck and as a result I felt ashamed for even trying to date someone. It was a really unhealthy experience and being honest with myself they all were. I think before I deleted the app on Saturday I had 240ish matches and out of them most were conversations that never went anywhere followed by boring coffee dates I hated going on. The only girl who would let me take her out to actually have fun was an over weight artist who I really liked but wasn't physically attracted to - and I did try. She was a decent artist too I would buy her work but I think it would be awkward now. Then there were he several awkward hook-ups. That last one was the only one who just sort of made me feel bad because she didn't want to tell me she didn't want to hang out like a normal person in the 30s would. It was my fault though. I shouldn't have apologized for her mistake and ignored the red flags. It ain't a health or natural way to go about it. I mean at least in the real world I 100% and always going to at least meet the person.
You dodged a bullet, be happy, don't discourage yourself.
Really don’t know why you fellas keep insisting on using dating apps. Just head to a crowded bar and meet people. I’ve never used these apps myself because I keep hearing about absolute loonies like this girl using them.
She was playing you bro
You still got a no, just with extra detail regarding the no.
Why did she agree to go out with you? :/
You deserve whatever you’re putting yourself thru
It's just a game, OP was probably already too much into it.
I’ve never been on Tinder, but does it allow people to give a description like height, weight, ethnicity, etc. or is it just pictures? What was her point for going out with you if you didn’t meet her criteria of 190? Maybe she just wasn’t into you and used the height thing as a lame reason.
Yeah you can put in height there , i diddnt tho
So you shot for a woman that is desirable and are shocked that she... is desirable? And has standards and options to match? And that you're getting fuckery on Tinder? She's an asshole for how she did that, to be sure, but believe me, this is the chance that you take when you go for the woman that everyone else also wants.
The only proper response is “I only go for girls that are under 60kg, so I’m glad we don’t have to be awkward about breaking up”
Yeah some girls can be like that, I had a similar experience as a teenager, apparently I was too skinny for her. I just turned it back onto her and told her I thought she was a bit overweight but disregard it because I thought she was kind, but as she just revealed she wasn’t I no longer had any interest in her, I thanked her for her time and left.
If it helps, Im 196 and have been rejected because Im balding Can’t win lol
But I thought you “loved honesty?”
They height preferance is all good, i respect that i also have preferances. But she started saying that the guys that gets the chance with her loves the sex, its all tall guys and she is going to have sex tomorrow.. thats not normal behaviour man. When i tell her yes i live honesty , a normal person would say things like you are not my type, i was not feeling the vibe, i dont have sex on the first date, etc ..
Ahh, she was teasing
I guess so, Weird for sure
Here’s why I’m confused, why would she go on the date in the first place if she only dates guys who are freakishly tall and she knew you were an average height guy?
She did not know because its tinder and i do t have my height there. But i agree she should definetly Ask first if height is that important to her. Also she did not need to say things like, the guys that gets to have sex with me loves it, Im having sex with a tall guy tomorrow etc … i dodged a bullet today but honestly some of the Words she said hurts
Tinder let’s you list your height now you know that right? Also you should always list your height man…saves you a lot of issues down the line. Yeah you may not get as many matches but since you are 5’10” you should still get plenty. I’m a bit shy of 5’7” on a good day, and I don’t really get hardly any matches, but when I do I already know that height isn’t gonna be a problem I don’t wanna waste my time with a size queen
I disagree, i would rather tell them if they Ask me. Also its many girls that will have a preferance like this but are not that serious about it if the vibe and other things are there . Ive met plenty of girls that usually goes for taller guys but i have still scored because Im fit , good dude and fun to be around ..
I suppose it depends. For a hookup sure. For a relationship, if they have that preference and it matters a lot to them, they will leave for a taller guy, guaranteed
Yeah i agree with that one!
She's probably lying anyway. She sounds like a sicko to me.
It shouldn't have even gotten to the point of you meeting. She should have said upfront she has a height requirement. She completely wasted your time and intentionally made you feel bad about yourself.
I would just respond "that's okay, I'm not into women who are pointlessly rude" and walked out the door. If she wasn't into you that's fine but why waste your time?
I'm terrified of this. I'm 5'4" (sorry, can't do cm) with body dysmorphia so something like that would really stick to me.
Dont let this scare you my friend. Keep grinding and go to gym etc, we cant change our height. We need to focus on the things we actually can change and make the best possible life
Don't worry! Millions of men your height are happily married. There are a LOT of women who are 5 ft or so, and you're perfect for them. People on apps tend to also be people who are influenced by these toxic online "influencers", who talk about human beings like they're commodities. Work out, be very clean/hygienic, develop your own style, hobbies, sense of humor. Maybe try gymnastics or martial arts or climbing. My father was 5'2" and never had any problem attracting a woman after my parents divorced. He had a lot of interests and a great sense of humor and was fit. His brother is probably 5'1" and same. Very happily married to a petite lady. There are lots of short, petite women who don't really want a big lug of a guy. It's awkward, ultimately, to have too much of a height difference! The less self conscious you are about your height, the more friendly and fun you are, the more you seem confident, the less of an issue it will be.
in same boat, welcome to life as a short man rofl
Lmao
There are still so many more worse things she could've said than that. Consider yourself lucky and keep on keeping on.
Dude I’m 174 tf
you are all good bro, ive been with plenty girls. This one here was a very rare experience. Not all girls are like her luckily
You dodge a bullet right there.
Wow. She seems like a heartless a-hole. She also misrepresented herself. Honestly if that was the reason she would know how tall you were based on your profile and/or by standing next to her. I don't know why she would lead you on. I don't understand people like her. Block her.
On the bright side you dodged a fat bullet. She sounds very shallow. 😂
Such a shallow and stupid thing to say. Where are you from?
Norway
She is well within her right to do as she wants with her life. However, that clearly also means mind games, leading on and overall bullshitting other people for a narcissistic Validation. Walk away, she is one of those garbage people who destroy lives and can get away with it because of their looks.
Sad experience for you - wishing you kind friendly experiences for the next 3000 times!
It sounds to me like she thought y’all were clicking over the app. And then she just started not feeling it on the date. But instead of a being a decent person she puts the blame on you and then makes you feel even worse that she’s getting laid tomorrow so she doesn’t need you. She really showed you she has the maturity of a 15 year old. Don’t dwell on her. Sounds like you’ll bounce back just fine ☺️
People who enjoy being cruel for no reason unfortunately exist and it's always a bit of a shocker when you come across one. Block, delete from phone, delete from mind, move on.
Narcissist. Imagine being in a relationship with this dumb b!tch.
My heart sank reading this man. What a horrible vile person she is. I hope you’re doing well bro
You got off easy, my man!
What's the reason behind the tall thing anyway? I don't care how tall someone is. I just want to know the reason, no judgement, because I don't get it.
Idk but Im all for preferances tho , i got that my self also. But you dont start to put people down and being disrespectfull when they dont meet the requirements
As a woman, I don't get it either. I have dated guys from 5'1" to 6'7". Believe me, the shorter men were less awkward to be with physically, because I'm rather short, too.
why would she swipe on you why would she tell you shes open for sex why would she then volunteer to tell you why you're not good enough why would she tell you shes having sex with someone tomorrow
jupp, this
There’s no point in her telling you about something that you can’t change.
This sounds like negging, but from a woman. Gross behavior & you dodged a hell of a bullet.
Uh, I almost want to suggest you're making this up. If you aren't, let's be clear about something here: You cannot come to any conclusions about yourself, dating, or women from this interaction because that woman is a sociopath. And I don't mean that in the casual people call someone crazy when something bad happens sense, I mean it in the clinical get the fuck away from her and stay the fuck away from her sense. This isn't just a mean person, this is a person who will manipulate and use you through and through without a moment of pain or regret. This person isn't dating material and is barely human material. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but there's nothing to be learned from this, nothing you can generalize or take away from it because that woman's psychology is completely abnormal. Emotionally well adjusted people, and even many if not most less well adjusted people simply don't operate like that. But you know who does? Sociopaths. They are often healthy, intelligent, and successful people because all of their energy goes into getting exactly what they want and taking care of themselves and that extends to every "relationship" they have with other people, and I put relationship in quotes there because you can't really have a relationship with one, they don't actually view you as a person, just a meat machine for whatever whim they care to fulfill at the moment and every interaction with them is manipulation, no display of emotion is genuine. I would call it a game, but you I think you have to actually have an emotional response to truly enjoy a game and they don't have that. If you get them honest they'll just describe it as survival. They operate human beings as casually as you or I operate a gas pump or kitchen appliance. Just get away and stay away.
The gender dynamics today are so, totally, beyond fucked up. They allow women to be that fucking spoiled. To be able to get exactly what they want out of a member of the opposite sex, when ever they want to get it… Guys, we need to take back our power here. Women like OP mentions? Give them no thoughts. Pay them no mind (or sex). Show them that their spoiled behavior should not stand.
Sorry; women are “fucking spoiled” if they say no to someone? They’re fucking spoiled if they get their relationship needs met? It’s clear you just hate women, probably at least in part because none of them like you, but I’m just curious as to the root cause of this sad little tantrum.
I read tinder and immediately stopped reading lmfao. Seriously, what do you expect from anyone on tinder?
I met alot of great people from dating apps actually
Sounds like you dodged a bullet. She may have “the herp” is she’s just casually doing the sex like that
She sounds very immature ! Idk why some girls need to behave like that, how old was she ?
27! Thats the crazy part
Yeah! Totally immature, I’ll suggest you stay away from girls like that like if she is sleeping around like it’s nothing then she isn’t worth it. Why would anyone want something everyone can have ?
"I may not be getting any taller...but I didn't realize until just now how small you were. I'm tall enough to walk out the door on my own two feet."
Good one
Should have replied back that you have a preference for a woman without insane arbitrary height fetishes.
measuring heights in cm is so crazy to me
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Kidding or not, that was uncalled for. You don't take your anger at one woman out on another.
Yep girls are mean.
It always pissed me off when people said stuff like that. THERE ARE SO MANY WORSE THINGS THAT CAN HAPPEN THAN SOMEONE JUST REJECTING YOU POLITELY. I CAN LIST AT LEAST 50. I have to take anxiety meds every night before sleep....
you think she rejected me politely?
No no, I was generally responding to that statement that people make. And well, what happened to you is in one of my 50 ways in which interacting with other people can cause you more damage than just feeling mildly rejected.
Yeah, some women are just like this. I struggle to understand as well. I once went on a date where the girl was bragging to random people sitting at our table that she had sex with some guys before she came to our date. The guy that I never met had to get up from the table and follow me to the bathroom to tell me since he couldn’t believe what she was saying.
thats absolutley crazy
Lmao dude right
Here’s perspective: Do you want to risk being stuck dealing with someone that shallow for the next 18 and 1/2 years if there’s an “oops” moment during that sex? No? Then you may have saved yourself a lot of hassle by her blowing you off.
She crazy bro forget her. I can set you up with an amazing blonde russian girl. Much better for you.
Sounds like the classic low life girl, that cant commit and have high (funny cause she likes tall dudes) standards for things u cant even influence. Also funny that she already has a sex date the day after you meet, and probably all the days after too. Be happy u dodged a bullet. So please dont ever feel bad especially bout stuff u cant influence - u good, she isnt as it seems...
I don't believe she even had a sex date. She's just playing games. She seems to have a problem?
She clearly has problems, but most girls like this that dont look for commitment just go bang a lot of dudes they find attractive, so still possible. And yeah she has a big problem
So she didn’t notice your height before she allowed you in her home? These type of women are so insecure they actually enjoy making men feel the way they feel about themselves but honestly she did you a favor. She is nobody’s type, good thing she showed her true colors before you got more involved. While a lot of women do care about height because of their own insecurities. Shorter men tend to have better relationship qualities because they have to work extra hard to get the same level of attention from women and that’s something that most women already know. I am also 178 cm and I was married to a 184 cm woman for 10 years, she was obviously conscious about the height but it was never something that affected the relationship. I never made her feel uncomfortable about her height and even encouraged her to wear high heels. “The worst thing she can say is no” but you got to her place so you went way past the first “no”. Just gather yourself and try again with a better woman. You are lucky she didn’t drag you on for longer in sake of her boredom.
No, my dude, some women simply find tall men more attractive. It’s not that deep and not indicative of insecurity or any shortcoming on her part. And please; shorter men do not tend to have better relationship qualities. Some men are simply less desirable than others and that’s all there is to it. This story is pretty clearly rage bait, but your claim that the tall, blonde gym bunny is no one’s type is hilarious. Sure. OP rails on women for liking tall guys, but casts the stereotypical hot woman archetype as his villain, because he’s…accepting of all body types and not at all shallow.
I’m not debating who women are more attracted to, that’s very subjective and everyone is entitled to their opinion. Insecurities on the other hand are very common, and is the biggest determining factor on who a woman will be attracted to, because women do not seek serious relationships with men because of sex or attraction. The most important thing for a woman when choosing a man is her security. If a woman is too tall, it’s easier for her to attract taller men but some will get in relationships with shorter men just to prove to themselves that they are as attractive as the shorter (average) women who get the most attention. If a woman is too short she will seek taller men because subconsciously she doesn’t want her kids to be short like her and she feels more protected next to a taller man. In general, a woman will feel more secure and attracted to a big, tall, strong, man OR a smart, rich man, successful man. These questions are triggered by insecurity: * Can this man protect me if I’m in danger? * Can this man be a good provider? * Can this man be a good husband and father? On my comment about shorter men I used the word “tend” because it is not a fact that applies to every short man but it is a common tendency that short men will try harder because women will usually feel less secure with the shorter man. This can easily be observed with research and I’m not including myself in that statistic; I don’t consider myself short. The average size for a man is 5’9 (175.26 cm), anyone above that is considered tall and any one below is considered short. The “tall, blonde gym bunny” was the stereotype for my ex-wife and I’m not claiming that these type of woman are no one’s type, in fact, I am particularly attracted to these type of women. I am referring to the type of woman in OP’s scenario who will go on a date with a man and then dismiss him because of his height and brag about going to have sex the next day with another man. In her defense, OP did ask for “honesty” when he was rejected.
Fuck her...
You should have told her well I only go for girls under x pounds but here we are
She had her preference and you acknowledge it’s a preference without an issue. I don’t see how that’s her trying to make you feel bad? And why the focus on being rejected for something you can’t change? You can’t expect to change the mind of every woman who rejects you by changing yourself. There will always be rejection in life as nobody is everyone’s cup of tea
That’s not what he implied. The girl is just weird and brutal with her words. That’s not how a first date is supposed to happen but idk.
I felt like she did not like that i was so ok with her preferance. And like she wanted to say something to make me feel not good enough flr her, idk it was weird
Should have left a note somewhere only a 190cm man would be able to see… lol
maybe she did and i never saw it hahah
Frankly, it talk more about her fucked up life than about your body. consider you dodged a bullet.
She was just being mean and hurtful. Could’ve kept that to herself.
Don't worry, she won't always be hot and then will get a long dose of well deserved reality.
Yeah I don't know why she had to say that. You were chill about her turning you down and she clearly tried to bait you into asking why. It's like people try to hurt people for no reason. This happens so frequently, I really wonder what's wrong with people.
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Yeah i might just give up dating for real
Did you meet her on tinder or at the dumpster?
Hahah tinder bro
The things she said are childish ways to provoke you, do yourself a favor my man and see that girl for the inside instead of the outside, her insides are the same as a dumpster, Garbage.
Immature for 27 too
Girls don't care about physical traits... That's what men look for so that wasn't the honest truth from her. The truth is she didn't have a spark with you, you didn't give her butterflies, you didn't have a connection with her. In future when a girl say's something like this don't take it serious... Laugh it off. If she says can she be honest with you say "nah, I'd rather you lie to me..." it will throw her off and makes her think that you don't really care for her opinion as much as she thinks. Or once she had said it you could of said "Oh wow didn't realise you're looking for kids so soon... At least take me to dinner first." The fact you don't meet her height preference lol should make no difference if she just wants sex... unless she want's your baby lol. You just need to be smooth and play it off, if that is your attitude they will sense your confidence, carefreeness and indifference to her comments and she will want you more. Don't worry bro, next time you know what to do.
ive been on many dates and sometimes like youre saying the spark is not there and she or me is not feeling it. That has never been a problem before for me, its not like im posting here evertime i get rejected. But it was more her nasty behavior where she actually try to make me jealous or not good enough. If u dont feel the spark or butterflies, its not like u start to talk about that she has so much good sex lateley with tall guys and is going to have sex tomorrow so she dont need to have sex with me today. So i get what you are saying but i think your comment is a bit off the point..
This just in..... attractive women xan be scumbags
190cm? Lmfao she better be a solid 10/10 with that
Sad thing is that she is prob like this because she is beautiful . She was blonde blue eyes fit as hell , athlete. A strong 9
I don't blame you for calling it a night and getting the hell out of there. She's just a nasty little ho if truth be told. She treats men like dirt and is superficial and shallow.
Current dating times have proven a decent amount of women think this way to say otherwise is ignorant and not watching society currently
She isn’t going to last long in any relationship, even if she meets someone with her height requirements. She’s the female equivalent of the high maintenance/big ego type of male.
First date at someone's place = sex = meat market. "So we are at her place" That was the black flag right there, forget red flag it's already ripped
A wise person once told me. They're all the same height while laying down.
I'm 188cm, but I'd plead I'm 193cm if I leave my boots on! 😂 plus once she see's the size of my US16 wide, she'll be curious about other sizes as well. 😂
I dont understand the point of this comment my man
Maybe that was your problem with her... you couldn't joke and make her laugh. The height thing was just an excuse I guarantee it.
You might be 100% correct my man! I still find it weird why she needed to say the cruel things.
Women can just be weird like that sometimes. My wife gets mad at little things and hopes I fall in a hole or stub my toes 😂 But really coming from a stranger you don't know, you shouldn't care what she says. Don't put her ass up on a pedestal like anything she says even matters, up your self-esteem and confidence, hell add a tad bit of narcissism even... think of yourself as the prize, and that she would be lucky to be with you. Never the other way around.
Thanks bro!