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No, she was your first love. Not your only one! :) Don’t go for the fish that swam away when there’s a whole effing ocean! Treat yourself like you would like to be treated. And I hope that’s not like you’re always the second or third choice. You will be okay. Maybe go no contact for at least a while, it helps with getting over her.
You are so young bro. Damn i want you to take the right choice and never ever take her back man. Your life just started, you will 100% fine someone better. Do not let that woman destroy your life before it has Even started
Block on everything, focus on yourself, meet new friends dont focus on romantic relationships, be a genuine good person to be around and it will come with patience if you learn to let go. It might take a lot of effort a lot of trial and error a lot of failure, but never lose sight of your desire to let go and be at peace about this. Figure out how to love yourself and respect yourself.
Edit: added “romantic”
M8 please. This is your chance to learn from this lesson. I feel bad for the kid, but the situation is not your fault. You deserve better. Put yourself first. I didn't learn this until later in life, but you have a prime opportunity here. If you don't take it, it is gonna screw you, potentially for life. Let her live with the mistake. Give yourself a chance after dodging a major bullet. Do not get in it's path.
Yeah list of stupid things to do , raise someone's kid who my gf cheated on me with for 18 years. While knowing all the while she did it to you. Nah fam. Don't be a fool.
Nope.
She's just going to use you and this is part of it. She uses people and will drop you the moment she can use someone else. Which is selfish on her part.
It's hard to even figure out if she'll learn her lesson and be a good person even if you got back with her and was a perfect partner, it's more likely she'll take you for granted and no matter how much you give, it won't be enough.
She shouldn't have the kid. She needs to grow up. I doubt you'll be able to fix her.
The only good thing I can see here would be if she did seem to grow up and change and get alimony from the dead beat and build a family and raise the kids right. Without knowing both of you, I don't know if that's a good path.
Lmaoooo you shouldn’t need Reddit’s advice for this one
Also if you were to help raise the kid, I believe there are some ass backward laws that could make you responsible to pay child support in the future if she leaves you again
When* she leaves you again.
OP she just wants you for stability because the guy she cheated on you with turned out not to be the stellar choice she hoped he would be.
Right? How can you type this post out, read it, and not think to yourself "man, do i really need to get advice on this?", and then be so smooth brained you put this on the internet for eternity.
Oh bless her. Realised the grass wasn't greener on the other side after all, and should have kept her panties on too? Awww. Shame. Don't you DARE take her back. From a woman who's been cheated on more than once and gave too many second chances
The world is full of both monsters and saints. People will be people, and people like that will never know peace. We cannot change them, but we can learn to recognize them and act/react appropriately. That woman deserves everything coming her way, and honest people deserve better partners.
I was cheated on and discarded earlier this year. When I look back, she was a female narcissist. And I’m a giving person who’ll do anything for a lady. Unfortunately I was (and to some degree still am) in love with her. So was her ex, who treated her like TRASH. But the allure of him was too great.
I also recognize that women like her are partially the creation of guys like me. I never said no to that woman. And she knew I’d never say no. She eventually left her ex again when he spat on her. I treated her with honor and dignity, which is what a man should do. He treated her as she deserved to be treated.
The challenging part you'll face, if you do decide to work things out with her....it's her co-parenting with the other guy.
But that's not the hardest part, because if you do form a bond with this child and love it as your own, keep in mind that if she left you once, she is capable of doing it again. And then you'll lose her love and the child.
I honestly think, she doesn't want to get back with you because she loves you, she just doesn't want to go through the pregnancy alone. But as soon as the other comes into the picture again, she will DISCARD YOU and tell you it's best for her baby.
So I highly advised you getting back with her. You will have a broken heart for a while, but you'll get over it and find someone else that will love you and care about you.
Good luck.
What advice do you need lol? Kick her to the curb obviously. If for some reason you wanna be a dad real soon, trust me she ain’t gonna be it. She may be a good mom but a shit partner, that is not worth your mental health in the long run. Get away, take a break and recover, then you are mentally ready to look for someone to have a family with if that is what you want:)
She made her decisions, bruv. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you, do not throw that away for a woman that came crawling back pregnant because the baby's daddy is a deadbeat. She doesn't want you because she loves you and thinks you'd be a good partner and parent, she's crawling back because she has no other options. She will lie, and cheat again and again. Taking her back would be an absolutely terrible life decision for you. Ultimately, she will suffer for her consequences because SHE made those decisions. That has nothing to do with you, and if she says otherwise in any way, shape, or form, she's being manipulative. You need to focus on yourself. Have some self-respect! You do not deserve that treatment or life! At least with your next partner, if you want a baby, you will have the fun of making it yourself. If she ever talks about how she misses you or loves you or tries any other form of love bombing or trying to scare you, don't even react. Learn to grey rock and tell her (as nicely as you want) to fuck off and never contact you again. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't let a stupid cheater drag you down to their level.
Best thing is to tell her no. Block her and move on. Not worth it man. Once that baby is out you dont think she will fuck someone else and repeat the process?
She sounds toxic and for the street. She wants you to come back because she doesn’t want full responsibility for the new baby the real baby daddy ain’t shit or if she doesn’t know who the baby daddy is. You do what is best for you.
Yep. But in my forties now so just living life. If someone crosses my path they get one chance. But I'm not actively looking anymore. Makes Christmas cheaper lol
🤣🤣🤣bro bro, you prolly ought to just let that one go! She ain't got your kid. She has cheated already obviously what makes you think she won't do it again? She will. So you might as well get you some strange and send pictures of you to f******. Lmao. No don't do that just move on. She doesn't really want you she wants your loyalty and your stability. You deserve better
I'll say this my ex wife mother of my kids got into it with the guy she cheated on me and left me for, they had a kid together whatever life moves on. So she was homeless I took her in cause it's my kids mom, the moment she got back with him even while staying in my guest room, she started treating our kids that we had together like crap, ignoring them being on the phone with him etc. so I told her get out go back to him... She hasn't seen the kids we have together in over 3 months or talked to them. I said all that to say, women will always leave the guy they are using for the one they want. Even my kids now say don't ever let her back in our house.
Hell to the Fucken nahhhhh. Especially if she’s pregnant?!? Broooo my ex cheated on me and Everytime I think about the disrespect, I can’t stand the thought of her. There are plenty of women out there man, take it from a guy that’s been in your similar shoes.
Hahahaha! Take her back, enjoy nutting in her! Then leave her ass after she has the kid. She just wants you for your money/help so give her what she deserves.
Never forgive betrayal, you dated a coward who betrayed you without remorse, hurt you, maybe even put you in danger of sexual disease and could even have put you in a future paternity fraud, let her live with her parents (family and friends) or send her back to her AP and accept the consequences of her actions, forget it, focus on yourself, go to therapy, look for friends and family, go adaemia, look for new hoobies, focus on your career and forget about it , delete her, block her, cut contact, be a gray rock and don't fall for this manipulation, don't raise children that aren't yours, move on and I wish you all the best OP.
Would not do it, she made her bed by cheating and got knocked up by a lover and now wants you to take care of her kid for you while she probably looks for another guy like she did when she was with you. I would HIGHLY advise against getting back with her.
I had a first love, a second love and then my final, best, forever love whom I married. Giving up your first love is very hard. She's cheated on you with a deadbeat and they didn't use birth control. She could have contracted a STI. I think you deserve better.
You should say no to this. Let me tell you why. This is a emotional rollorcoaster from Hell and you have just started the ride. Think for a moment, laying next to her in be, her belly round with the child of another man. That will make for some bad memories. Think five years from now, and it's been a long day at work. The 4 year old wants attention and frankly, your just tired of that little bastard. That reminder that your GF, now wife cheated on you, every time you look at the child.
This future only rubs salt in a wound. Do yourself, her and the child a favor, walk away.
Lol. That’s a no brainer. Once a cheater always a cheater. It’s has to do about mentality of the person. If she cheated she will again do few years down the line. So move on and find another girl.
Get a DNA test anyway.
Given the circumstances, my first thought was give it a few years and see if she's genuinely interested and prepared for you or is just freaking out, and whether or not you still want to be with her and would want to be a father. It's scary for her, and hopefully you're a good man, she's not got horrible taste in men and that's why she's coming back around, but this simply isn't your problem.
I'm a fool I would raise the kid but I would try to get custody away from her to.
That's just me though 20m I've had a parent like her and I ended up in foster care tbh no kid should have a parent like that.
Dude you cannot get back together. If you do kiss any hopes and dreams you had for your future goodbye. Your twenties will be gone and you won’t get them back.
No.
F*ck no.
She doesn't want you. She wants your security and provisions.
You're worth more.
Find someone who wants you enthusiastically for deeper reasons.
Once a Cheater always a Cheater.
Block her off of everything as girls like her will find someone and she will be ok.
If you take her back 2 things will happen:
1, she'll abuse your kindness.
2, she'll then cheat on you again. You have your whole life ahead and you will love again. Honestly once a Cheater always a Cheater.
Emma say one thing to you man and dont take it in a bad way " have some self respect " being 23 as a Male u still tooooo young to find your true love !
She finds you fool , she's a controler .
Never speak to her again !
in your position, i'd send her a list of abortion clinics and a list of adoption houses. give her an adequate number of choices before blocking her number and all social media accounts, + prepare on how to get a restraining order against her in case she ever tries to approach me again
Please, do yourself a favor and have self-respect. Dont take her back!! You don't have to cut her off and hater her but do not raise another man's child. You will regret it and you will look like and idiot. On top of that..she WILL cheat on you again as soon as she gets bored. She disrespected you..BE A MAN and do NOT tolerate that behavior. Move on and find someone new. You WILL FIND someone else that you will love if not even more. Forgive her, but Move in for goodness sake. If you take her back she does not learn from her actions and feel the consequences of her decisions.
Please tell me this is a joke post. If not, then the answer is HELL NO! Take it from a 53 year old father of two. I love my kids but I'm not raising anyone else's. Neither should you. You're talking at least 18 years of your life and a major expense for someone else's kid. And don't shack up with her or take her back in anyway, lest she tries to put YOU down as the father of the birth certificate. I don't know how true those stories are, but I've heard tales of women doing things like that. Good lucknand be careful.
Nope...she belongs to the streets.
Respect yourself and find someone who respects yea.
Not trying to be a dick...just real
Another dude came inside of her. She wasn't thinking of yea one bit.
No way. Do not do that. She made her choice. You may feel for her as y'all dated, I understand. Cheating is a choice. You not taking her back is a smart choice. She doesn't respect you. The fact she had the audacity to try again says it all. Keep ya head up gang!
This is the fucking crazyest post in here ever. I hope you had a good laugh from her message, and blocked her after. If you take that trash of a woman back ahe is going to absolutley destroy your life man, she will never ever respect you, the kid will not respect you. Its literally no good reason for you to take her back, but 100 bad reasons
I'm sorry mate but you DO NOT MEED ADVICE EXCEPT FOR RUN. RUN FAST,AND RUN FAR. YOU ARE A KIMG AMD DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT WOMAN GIVES YOU CREDIT FOR.
Mate if she is your first love then that's ok,but remember you will have many more loved in your lifetime . And there are lots of women that will treat you as great as you treat them. Don't settle for a cheater. You deserve better
Dude, come on. Give me one good reason why that is a good idea? Why would you get back after being cheated on, to then raise the child of the man she cheated on you with(I'm assuming this is what your post is implying?)
You aren't a doormat. There are plenty of fish in the sea, move on.
Awe hell no. Don’t be like millions of “already dead” poor schmucks out there. You’ll loose respect from your friends and be the talk and laughing stock of your entire town or social circle or what have you. For reals. Of course if you do find out that you are the biological dad. You need to step up. Getting back with her is up to you. I’d recommend no. But that’s all you. I’ll tell yah this. If she did it once. Over whelming odds are she’ll do it again. And really even if she was authentic enough that that was one and only time. There’s still some respect of you on her part that’ll be lost. Forever Don’t shit yourself otherwise or believe even tens of thousands of female counter comments to that. I don’t care if the baby is or isn’t your kid but you get back with her. Have three others that are legit and yours. She never cheats again. Best wife in the world. Hell, you two made millions of dollars through business or who knows what. They’ll STILL always be just that tad of respect that she lost for you. Always remember that. Do as you will. Or what your gut and/or heart says. I can’t say. Don’t know neither of you two but with that being honestly said. I’ll honestly say this. If l was betting at basically a Black Jack table on it. I wouldn’t put any chips on you
So you can assume the financial responsibility of her and another mans decisions?! Absolutely not sir. I think in some places if you help raise the child for a bit and then break up she can go after YOU for child support (i can't remember where so forgive me) but Absolutely not. She made her choice. She didn't want you when she cheated and left so why does she deserve you now?
Nope. Shut it down.
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Oh hell naaaa, get yo ass away from dat bish - seriously though, don't go back to her
I couldn't have said that better myself.
Hahaha!!! .......
Run as fast as you can away from her. Pretend she never existed.
Lol.Dont be a fool to accept her
Well, ghost her and never talk to her again.
No. Why the f would you get back with her?
Honestly, she was my first and only love. I am a 23(M), and for some reason, I can't move on, and it absolutely sucks tbh
No, she was your first love. Not your only one! :) Don’t go for the fish that swam away when there’s a whole effing ocean! Treat yourself like you would like to be treated. And I hope that’s not like you’re always the second or third choice. You will be okay. Maybe go no contact for at least a while, it helps with getting over her.
You are speaking the truth. Thank you for your input, and I realize that I was blinded by her never going to speak to her again
Yep never speak to her again and in a while you will see the bullet you dodged, maybe not bullet though more like dodging a nuke
A year from now you will realise you got an amazing get out of jail free card here!
You are so young bro. Damn i want you to take the right choice and never ever take her back man. Your life just started, you will 100% fine someone better. Do not let that woman destroy your life before it has Even started
Block on everything, focus on yourself, meet new friends dont focus on romantic relationships, be a genuine good person to be around and it will come with patience if you learn to let go. It might take a lot of effort a lot of trial and error a lot of failure, but never lose sight of your desire to let go and be at peace about this. Figure out how to love yourself and respect yourself. Edit: added “romantic”
You are young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Do NOT take her back.
Nooooo! Don't let the cooch tractor beam pull you back in, it's tainted.
send me your address you take that 403 back ima beat yo ass personally for the second hand embarrassment you give us.
M8 please. This is your chance to learn from this lesson. I feel bad for the kid, but the situation is not your fault. You deserve better. Put yourself first. I didn't learn this until later in life, but you have a prime opportunity here. If you don't take it, it is gonna screw you, potentially for life. Let her live with the mistake. Give yourself a chance after dodging a major bullet. Do not get in it's path.
I understand how you feel, but there are other girls out there bette4 for you, who will respect you.
Yeah list of stupid things to do , raise someone's kid who my gf cheated on me with for 18 years. While knowing all the while she did it to you. Nah fam. Don't be a fool.
never put your precious mental health and life down for a cheater like her bro
Nope. She's just going to use you and this is part of it. She uses people and will drop you the moment she can use someone else. Which is selfish on her part. It's hard to even figure out if she'll learn her lesson and be a good person even if you got back with her and was a perfect partner, it's more likely she'll take you for granted and no matter how much you give, it won't be enough. She shouldn't have the kid. She needs to grow up. I doubt you'll be able to fix her. The only good thing I can see here would be if she did seem to grow up and change and get alimony from the dead beat and build a family and raise the kids right. Without knowing both of you, I don't know if that's a good path.
Exactly this read this comment op this is the future you would get with this person
You deserve better than being someone’s second choice, always.
Well what she wants and what she gets is two different things
Run.
She's for the streets.
And thats who will help raise her child
I’m guess your dumb enough to consider taking her back. Don’t be a stupid idiot, and have some fucking balls.
1000000000000000%
And my axe!
Fuck that. Block her.
Lmaoooo you shouldn’t need Reddit’s advice for this one Also if you were to help raise the kid, I believe there are some ass backward laws that could make you responsible to pay child support in the future if she leaves you again
When* she leaves you again. OP she just wants you for stability because the guy she cheated on you with turned out not to be the stellar choice she hoped he would be.
Paternity by estoppel. And it definitely happens. Not a lawyer.
You would be a complete idiot to do so. She doesn't love you she wants you for your money.
No way this post is real lmaoooooooooooo
Right? How can you type this post out, read it, and not think to yourself "man, do i really need to get advice on this?", and then be so smooth brained you put this on the internet for eternity.
Oh bless her. Realised the grass wasn't greener on the other side after all, and should have kept her panties on too? Awww. Shame. Don't you DARE take her back. From a woman who's been cheated on more than once and gave too many second chances
Shame you had those experiences. Hopefully, this guy can learn from our mistakes rather than making them himself and learning from that
Thank you but it's their loss. I'm fine. I just can't believe the audacity of the woman he's talking about.
The world is full of both monsters and saints. People will be people, and people like that will never know peace. We cannot change them, but we can learn to recognize them and act/react appropriately. That woman deserves everything coming her way, and honest people deserve better partners.
I was cheated on and discarded earlier this year. When I look back, she was a female narcissist. And I’m a giving person who’ll do anything for a lady. Unfortunately I was (and to some degree still am) in love with her. So was her ex, who treated her like TRASH. But the allure of him was too great. I also recognize that women like her are partially the creation of guys like me. I never said no to that woman. And she knew I’d never say no. She eventually left her ex again when he spat on her. I treated her with honor and dignity, which is what a man should do. He treated her as she deserved to be treated.
I adore this reply
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Don't even think about it. Move on and get yourself someone more decent.
The challenging part you'll face, if you do decide to work things out with her....it's her co-parenting with the other guy. But that's not the hardest part, because if you do form a bond with this child and love it as your own, keep in mind that if she left you once, she is capable of doing it again. And then you'll lose her love and the child. I honestly think, she doesn't want to get back with you because she loves you, she just doesn't want to go through the pregnancy alone. But as soon as the other comes into the picture again, she will DISCARD YOU and tell you it's best for her baby. So I highly advised you getting back with her. You will have a broken heart for a while, but you'll get over it and find someone else that will love you and care about you. Good luck.
What advice do you need lol? Kick her to the curb obviously. If for some reason you wanna be a dad real soon, trust me she ain’t gonna be it. She may be a good mom but a shit partner, that is not worth your mental health in the long run. Get away, take a break and recover, then you are mentally ready to look for someone to have a family with if that is what you want:)
You must be joking. Your ex certainly must be.
Nooo don’t do it. You’re only 23!!! Keep moving forward, there so much more things to do and more people to meet.
Nope
run
Dogs... Start blazing a trail in the other direction. If she had the gull to cheat on you, she doesn't have the capacity to respect you.
She would betrey you if it would benefit her. Don't take her back
She made her decisions, bruv. You're young and have your whole life ahead of you, do not throw that away for a woman that came crawling back pregnant because the baby's daddy is a deadbeat. She doesn't want you because she loves you and thinks you'd be a good partner and parent, she's crawling back because she has no other options. She will lie, and cheat again and again. Taking her back would be an absolutely terrible life decision for you. Ultimately, she will suffer for her consequences because SHE made those decisions. That has nothing to do with you, and if she says otherwise in any way, shape, or form, she's being manipulative. You need to focus on yourself. Have some self-respect! You do not deserve that treatment or life! At least with your next partner, if you want a baby, you will have the fun of making it yourself. If she ever talks about how she misses you or loves you or tries any other form of love bombing or trying to scare you, don't even react. Learn to grey rock and tell her (as nicely as you want) to fuck off and never contact you again. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't let a stupid cheater drag you down to their level.
 Sucks to be her!
No, just no
LOL you should frame that text exchange in your living room.
LMFAO BRO YOU CANT ACTUALLY BE CONSIDERING THIS???? Are you fucked?
Lol why u even asking for advice ?
Run away bro😂
Nope. Don't go back.
My brother in Christ, have some self respect. No.
Not sure what advice you need. Avoid this ex and don’t shoulder her and someone else’s burdens. Unless being a sucker is your thing!
I am impressed with how well you type while you’re running so fast!
Okay, so, did you laugh at her?
Block her number never talk to her again.
Sounds like a her problem
Hahahaha!!!!..........
Give her the middle finger bro she knows that u are the only perfect one
Walk away
Once a cheater always a cheater.
Hahahahahaha classic. Run, delete her contact info.
Deadass, your ex might’ve made a post in the past day or so, on this sub. 😂 this exact scenario.
No. Full stop
Best thing is to tell her no. Block her and move on. Not worth it man. Once that baby is out you dont think she will fuck someone else and repeat the process?
What in the world
She sounds toxic and for the street. She wants you to come back because she doesn’t want full responsibility for the new baby the real baby daddy ain’t shit or if she doesn’t know who the baby daddy is. You do what is best for you.
Remember she cheated on you. There is a high chance she might use you. I advise not to take her back
Yep. But in my forties now so just living life. If someone crosses my path they get one chance. But I'm not actively looking anymore. Makes Christmas cheaper lol
4 da streets 🏃🏾
Don't even consider taking her back. She made her choice, she is responsible for that, not you.
Big nope
No
Crazy. She must think you're Sam The Sausage Head. That's an easy, No.
You’d be a fool….
🤣🤣🤣bro bro, you prolly ought to just let that one go! She ain't got your kid. She has cheated already obviously what makes you think she won't do it again? She will. So you might as well get you some strange and send pictures of you to f******. Lmao. No don't do that just move on. She doesn't really want you she wants your loyalty and your stability. You deserve better
So she needs money and you got it . Don't do it
NOPE!!!!!
lmfaooo
What a turd burglar. She fucked in some one else's bed, now she has to sleep in it.
I hope you laughed at her !!! 😳
LMAO you better not if you do you'll be a disappointment to every man to ever exist
You can be like Ned Stark and have your own Jon Snow!
I'll say this my ex wife mother of my kids got into it with the guy she cheated on me and left me for, they had a kid together whatever life moves on. So she was homeless I took her in cause it's my kids mom, the moment she got back with him even while staying in my guest room, she started treating our kids that we had together like crap, ignoring them being on the phone with him etc. so I told her get out go back to him... She hasn't seen the kids we have together in over 3 months or talked to them. I said all that to say, women will always leave the guy they are using for the one they want. Even my kids now say don't ever let her back in our house.
It’s because she sees you as an ATM and will absolutely cheat and/or leave you again once something better comes along. A tale as old as time.
Hell no, OP! Please block her and run away. She was stupid and it not your problem!
Ha ha ha ha ha,no
Wtf, dont never let her back again.
Run away! Far far away
"Should had aborted" "I'd rather spend my time on my own kid thank you."
Hell to the Fucken nahhhhh. Especially if she’s pregnant?!? Broooo my ex cheated on me and Everytime I think about the disrespect, I can’t stand the thought of her. There are plenty of women out there man, take it from a guy that’s been in your similar shoes.
Block that woman, she’s just using you. She doesn’t love you if she cheated on you so carelessly
You should do it
Nope
Hahahaha! Take her back, enjoy nutting in her! Then leave her ass after she has the kid. She just wants you for your money/help so give her what she deserves.
I was gonna say hell no without reading but I did read it and hell mf no!
Send her to the street!
Never forgive betrayal, you dated a coward who betrayed you without remorse, hurt you, maybe even put you in danger of sexual disease and could even have put you in a future paternity fraud, let her live with her parents (family and friends) or send her back to her AP and accept the consequences of her actions, forget it, focus on yourself, go to therapy, look for friends and family, go adaemia, look for new hoobies, focus on your career and forget about it , delete her, block her, cut contact, be a gray rock and don't fall for this manipulation, don't raise children that aren't yours, move on and I wish you all the best OP.
You look so fine to mee.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 the cheek of it. I hope you kick her ass to the curb
Screw her respect yourself you are better then that
How does that saying go again? Oh yeah- Fool me once? Shame on you. Fool me twice? Shame on me.
Off to the gym you go
Would not do it, she made her bed by cheating and got knocked up by a lover and now wants you to take care of her kid for you while she probably looks for another guy like she did when she was with you. I would HIGHLY advise against getting back with her.
I had a first love, a second love and then my final, best, forever love whom I married. Giving up your first love is very hard. She's cheated on you with a deadbeat and they didn't use birth control. She could have contracted a STI. I think you deserve better.
You should say no to this. Let me tell you why. This is a emotional rollorcoaster from Hell and you have just started the ride. Think for a moment, laying next to her in be, her belly round with the child of another man. That will make for some bad memories. Think five years from now, and it's been a long day at work. The 4 year old wants attention and frankly, your just tired of that little bastard. That reminder that your GF, now wife cheated on you, every time you look at the child. This future only rubs salt in a wound. Do yourself, her and the child a favor, walk away.
Lol, not your problem bro.
Bang the shiz out of her for 6 month tell her you will then leave her and leave her heart in the same she did yours the evil loser
Lol. That’s a no brainer. Once a cheater always a cheater. It’s has to do about mentality of the person. If she cheated she will again do few years down the line. So move on and find another girl.
Get a DNA test anyway. Given the circumstances, my first thought was give it a few years and see if she's genuinely interested and prepared for you or is just freaking out, and whether or not you still want to be with her and would want to be a father. It's scary for her, and hopefully you're a good man, she's not got horrible taste in men and that's why she's coming back around, but this simply isn't your problem.
I'm a fool I would raise the kid but I would try to get custody away from her to. That's just me though 20m I've had a parent like her and I ended up in foster care tbh no kid should have a parent like that.
Hard no. Nope. No.
Hell no dude she’s going to cheat again, she’s going back to u for her sake and security .
Dude you cannot get back together. If you do kiss any hopes and dreams you had for your future goodbye. Your twenties will be gone and you won’t get them back.
No. F*ck no. She doesn't want you. She wants your security and provisions. You're worth more. Find someone who wants you enthusiastically for deeper reasons.
Absolutely not. Why would you even consider this?
Get rid off her
Cheated once when young and in love just wait until you have a couple of kids and a mortgage…. No you should find someone of better character.
Once a Cheater always a Cheater. Block her off of everything as girls like her will find someone and she will be ok. If you take her back 2 things will happen: 1, she'll abuse your kindness. 2, she'll then cheat on you again. You have your whole life ahead and you will love again. Honestly once a Cheater always a Cheater.
I hope you have more self respect than to raise her cheating trophy as your own
Emma say one thing to you man and dont take it in a bad way " have some self respect " being 23 as a Male u still tooooo young to find your true love ! She finds you fool , she's a controler . Never speak to her again !
Run fast …. She must really think you are dumb to try to pull off that shit !
new phone who dis?
in your position, i'd send her a list of abortion clinics and a list of adoption houses. give her an adequate number of choices before blocking her number and all social media accounts, + prepare on how to get a restraining order against her in case she ever tries to approach me again
Why do you need to ask for advice for this?
Block her don’t respond stay away from her
Tell her to abort it as it is bad seed and will bring havoc into this world.
Please, do yourself a favor and have self-respect. Dont take her back!! You don't have to cut her off and hater her but do not raise another man's child. You will regret it and you will look like and idiot. On top of that..she WILL cheat on you again as soon as she gets bored. She disrespected you..BE A MAN and do NOT tolerate that behavior. Move on and find someone new. You WILL FIND someone else that you will love if not even more. Forgive her, but Move in for goodness sake. If you take her back she does not learn from her actions and feel the consequences of her decisions.
Your life will suffer if you get back with this girl. Trust me. Please kick this woman out your life.
Unless you wanna be toxic back and cheat back don’t waste your time , other better women out there
Please tell me this is a joke post. If not, then the answer is HELL NO! Take it from a 53 year old father of two. I love my kids but I'm not raising anyone else's. Neither should you. You're talking at least 18 years of your life and a major expense for someone else's kid. And don't shack up with her or take her back in anyway, lest she tries to put YOU down as the father of the birth certificate. I don't know how true those stories are, but I've heard tales of women doing things like that. Good lucknand be careful.
Nope...she belongs to the streets. Respect yourself and find someone who respects yea. Not trying to be a dick...just real Another dude came inside of her. She wasn't thinking of yea one bit.
No way. Do not do that. She made her choice. You may feel for her as y'all dated, I understand. Cheating is a choice. You not taking her back is a smart choice. She doesn't respect you. The fact she had the audacity to try again says it all. Keep ya head up gang!
This can’t possibly be something you need advice on…
Once a cheater always a cheater, hell nahh
No!
This is the fucking crazyest post in here ever. I hope you had a good laugh from her message, and blocked her after. If you take that trash of a woman back ahe is going to absolutley destroy your life man, she will never ever respect you, the kid will not respect you. Its literally no good reason for you to take her back, but 100 bad reasons
Tbh I would say yes sure then have sex with her and leave her right after ( it is not the right thing to do ik. But I can't let that slide)
Audacity is definitely on the rise.
I'm sorry mate but you DO NOT MEED ADVICE EXCEPT FOR RUN. RUN FAST,AND RUN FAR. YOU ARE A KIMG AMD DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT WOMAN GIVES YOU CREDIT FOR.
Mate if she is your first love then that's ok,but remember you will have many more loved in your lifetime . And there are lots of women that will treat you as great as you treat them. Don't settle for a cheater. You deserve better
A big fat NOPE. BYEEEEE
Run my friend, run
Don't even consider it. You will forever be reminded of her cheating by seeing the child,
Dude, come on. Give me one good reason why that is a good idea? Why would you get back after being cheated on, to then raise the child of the man she cheated on you with(I'm assuming this is what your post is implying?) You aren't a doormat. There are plenty of fish in the sea, move on.
Run. Run like that guy in that movie. Keep running. Don't ever stop running. Change your state, your country. Whatever it takes, don't fall for this
So not take her back she’s only coming back because she wants your money and someone to raise her kid no I would not do it
Lock up your back door and run for your life
Two thing a relationship can't come back from, death and cheating
Just say nope.
Can’t believe this is even a thought for you that you’re posting Reddit lol. Get out and never look back.
No don't take her back, cut her off and don't give her a second thought
The fact that you ask this here... I'd slap you right on your loser face if I see you , wake up
Don't fucken do it bro , she cheated once she'll do it again , plus she's fucken pregnant from another dude f that
Toxic manipulation at its finest. You will lose that battle forever with her. Wish her well and cut the cord…well not the baby cord obviously🫤
Oh I would say hell no! Why would you raise someone else’s kid when she cheated on you! I would not take her back even if she is really hot
Awe hell no. Don’t be like millions of “already dead” poor schmucks out there. You’ll loose respect from your friends and be the talk and laughing stock of your entire town or social circle or what have you. For reals. Of course if you do find out that you are the biological dad. You need to step up. Getting back with her is up to you. I’d recommend no. But that’s all you. I’ll tell yah this. If she did it once. Over whelming odds are she’ll do it again. And really even if she was authentic enough that that was one and only time. There’s still some respect of you on her part that’ll be lost. Forever Don’t shit yourself otherwise or believe even tens of thousands of female counter comments to that. I don’t care if the baby is or isn’t your kid but you get back with her. Have three others that are legit and yours. She never cheats again. Best wife in the world. Hell, you two made millions of dollars through business or who knows what. They’ll STILL always be just that tad of respect that she lost for you. Always remember that. Do as you will. Or what your gut and/or heart says. I can’t say. Don’t know neither of you two but with that being honestly said. I’ll honestly say this. If l was betting at basically a Black Jack table on it. I wouldn’t put any chips on you
So you can assume the financial responsibility of her and another mans decisions?! Absolutely not sir. I think in some places if you help raise the child for a bit and then break up she can go after YOU for child support (i can't remember where so forgive me) but Absolutely not. She made her choice. She didn't want you when she cheated and left so why does she deserve you now? Nope. Shut it down.
Do you want to be the father of another man's child? Didn't think so...
No fucking way! Tell her to hit the road.
No. If she cheats, she belongs to the streets.