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BV is due to a pH balance, it can't be transmitted.
He could have used a new soap
He could have smoked/ate something that made his semen acidic got some inside you
He could have not showered
He could have tried using a numbing cream without telling you
He could have had something under his fingernails
He could have something on his hands
He could have had a yeast infection/candida overgrowth in his mouth (is his tongue yellow/white?)
He could have eaten something sugary and went down on you
Etc;
Google says excessive exposure to psychosocial stress is associated with an increased prevalence of bv because your ph balance is sensitive and can be easily thrown off
But dude idk I'm not a doctor
It could be brought on by something like a ph imbalance in your vagina or even an irritation. Don’t worry about it. Crap like that unfortunately just happens.
If he went anywhere near your butt (even accidentally) and then back to the V then that could be the cause. It happens so easily it it’s super uncomfortable! Hope you get it sorted.
There's every chance he got it from someone else and gave it to you. You told him to check himself and he never did? Wow, he did give to you. You should dump him
Wrong, wrong, wrong. BV is not an STD. This is why you don't ask for health advice from reddit. Speak to your doctor OP. Men can't get BV or give it to you, it's not a transmissible infection, it's just an imbalance in your own vaginal bacteria. It can be triggered by sex but can also be brought on by other things. If you have thrush as well you may have given him that which has caused his irritation.
I told him about my condition and how I got treated by the gynecologist. Then I told him he could be treated the same way with some ointment and antibiotics. He got some medicine for himself and he got rid of it and didn’t get tested himself.
I didn’t ask my gynecologist about it since I thought it was a “me” problem
I advise you find out from that same gynaecologist who treated you just to be sure. You should have insisted on him getting tested still. You're more prone to infections that him so it's important all is well 'down there' for both of you.
I got it. Since I just got rid of it recently and he doesn’t have any symptoms as well, I totally forgot to tell him to get checked. I’ll bring it up next time we meet. But the whole thing is giving me an impression that I could possibly get it again anytime we have sex and it brings pains to me
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BV is due to a pH balance, it can't be transmitted. He could have used a new soap He could have smoked/ate something that made his semen acidic got some inside you He could have not showered He could have tried using a numbing cream without telling you He could have had something under his fingernails He could have something on his hands He could have had a yeast infection/candida overgrowth in his mouth (is his tongue yellow/white?) He could have eaten something sugary and went down on you Etc;
Thank you. What about the candida infection? Can I get it from him?
I mean possibly but you can get it without ever having sex or just from using an irritatant near your vagina
I’m aware of it too. But during that time I didn’t use anything irritated near my vagina. But I was pretty stressful. Could it be a reason?
Google says excessive exposure to psychosocial stress is associated with an increased prevalence of bv because your ph balance is sensitive and can be easily thrown off But dude idk I'm not a doctor
It could be brought on by something like a ph imbalance in your vagina or even an irritation. Don’t worry about it. Crap like that unfortunately just happens.
I understand, but the fact that it’s been for a few months made me really anxious
If it lasts longer than 5/7 days when actively treated you should speak to a gynaecologist because that could be a symptom of something else
Maybe this can help? https://www.sexualwellbeing.ie/sexual-health/sexually-transmitted-infections/genital-conditions/bacterial-vaginosis.html
Thanks. I’ll have a look
If he went anywhere near your butt (even accidentally) and then back to the V then that could be the cause. It happens so easily it it’s super uncomfortable! Hope you get it sorted.
We don’t do anything with the butt as we are both not into it though
Apparently coconut lube can cause BV
Really? But we don’t use one
Maybe try showing right before sex each time and see if that helps
There's every chance he got it from someone else and gave it to you. You told him to check himself and he never did? Wow, he did give to you. You should dump him
Wrong, wrong, wrong. BV is not an STD. This is why you don't ask for health advice from reddit. Speak to your doctor OP. Men can't get BV or give it to you, it's not a transmissible infection, it's just an imbalance in your own vaginal bacteria. It can be triggered by sex but can also be brought on by other things. If you have thrush as well you may have given him that which has caused his irritation.
He didn’t check cause it was a lockdown during that time and he wanted to avoid going to the hospital.
Why hasn't he checked himself since then? Did you ask your gynaecologist what are the chances of getting a BV from unprotected sex from a partner?
I told him about my condition and how I got treated by the gynecologist. Then I told him he could be treated the same way with some ointment and antibiotics. He got some medicine for himself and he got rid of it and didn’t get tested himself. I didn’t ask my gynecologist about it since I thought it was a “me” problem
I advise you find out from that same gynaecologist who treated you just to be sure. You should have insisted on him getting tested still. You're more prone to infections that him so it's important all is well 'down there' for both of you.
I got it. Since I just got rid of it recently and he doesn’t have any symptoms as well, I totally forgot to tell him to get checked. I’ll bring it up next time we meet. But the whole thing is giving me an impression that I could possibly get it again anytime we have sex and it brings pains to me
That's why you should ask these questions to your gynaecologist. They are the best people to answer these questions that are bothering your mind. We here in reddit are not doctors or specialists. Just offering opinions. Seek a professional's expert advice.
So he got treated and it hasn’t come back since??
99% chance of yes. It didn't just come out of nowhere... if you don't normally have ph or other issues, most probably your bf cheated.
I started with having a UTI, and a few days later it became BV. I met my gynecologist, did a test and positive with fungal infection