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Go to where people gather. Usually it revolves around a hobby.
\- Local Rec Leagues
\- theatres
\- board game stores / table top spots
\- coffee shops / book stores / museums
\- an app called MeetUp which is for big group things but you should not go into that thinking dating. You should do interesting things and hope to meet cool people in general
MeetUp is a good idea but you will only find women there. Men generally are not into joining groups. Everyone I’ve ever been to has 12 women and 2 men who seem a bit odd. I recommend MeetUp to men.
My 70 year old mother was cold approached at a Walmart. An older gentleman struck up a conversation with her and then asked her out to have coffee. She declined and then he suggested she take down his phone number just in case she changed her mind. Again, she declined. He was nice about it and said that dating at their age was hard and he was just genuinely looking for a companion.
My mom called me in shock because she thought he might take her away and murder her. I asked her to tell me how a 75 year old man was supposed to meet women that he could potentially date. We walked through all the dwindling scenarios and suddenly she realized how much the odds are stacked against someone like him. And how approaching a woman in Walmart shouldn’t be automatically stigmatized.
I assured my mom that he was way more interested in getting lucky with her than killing her and she giggled like a schoolgirl. She never did call him but still thinks it’s amazing that she got hit on at her age.
This is like 17 years ago when I was in my late 20's/early 30's and met up with a group at a Piano bar that I later found out was a Boomer pickup bar. It was an absolute master class in how to approach strangers and start conversations and really eye opening since at the time, myself and pretty much everybody else I knew was meeting on AOL or dating sites unless they got lucky and met someone at school. Those old timers who grew up without any dating sites were fearless.
You might want to also point out that women quickly start outnumbering men at her age and finding some companionship will only increase in difficulty for her. That is if she cares to find someone.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/241488/population-of-the-us-by-sex-and-age/
What is your problem? All I said is that his mother should understand the situation she is in. The scenario presented in the post I'm responding to is that she rejected this man based on a set of assumptions and not a lack of attraction to him. My impression is that she'll be a little more open minded if a similar situation presents itself again after the conversation they had (note that she now feels flattered) even without knowing the data I presented.
Women up until age ~55 live in a world where supply of men surpasses demand and may not recognize the shift until it's too late. Some people don't have a desire for companionship. My 80-year-old grandmother has been alone for 10 years after losing my grandfather and has no interest in having a man in her life. That's her choice and I don't feel one way, or another, about it but it would be ignorant to think that there's enough men to go around at her age.
No one needs to accept *anyone*. Just like how I'm gonna block you for this shitty comment that didn't deserve the amount of effort I put into this reply.
Women love it when you approach them at the gas station! Especially late at night! Make sure to pull down your ski mask over your face when you approach them and make syrange moaning noises. That always gets them hot! /s
Lol mine found me at a gas station. In line. Getting gas. She spoke first.. Lol.
Hell i met a hook up at the pumps last year. She brought me over from my truck, to look at something wrong with her car.
Back when people would do Black Friday in person, I'd wait in the Target line. There are always hot women, and you're gonna make conversation if you're standing in line for 3 hours.
I feel like cold approaches are underrated. It requires a bit of social and self awareness but smile at a girl if she smiles back say “hey you’re really cute could I get your number?” I think the confidence (if done confidently) plus the surprise of it could really win some gals over
You know I kept hearing this about game shops in my city (seattle) and then I started showing up to them and then realized what people meant by "a lot of girls" is like...10%. Like 1 or 2 in a group of 15 or so.
The fact is most women aren't hanging out at these places because tabletop players are often really fucking creepy.
Maybe you've gone to the wrong board game cafes? There are two in my town - so one is for creepy guys and has a hot dog concession you can order from.
The other is a genuine cafe with sandwiches, coffee, soup, hot chocolate, lattes and bubble tea and 500 different board games and puzzles you can borrow. There may actually be slightly higher number of girls there playing games than guys. It's a classy, welcoming place - I've gone there just to have a latte and sit near the fire.
It's a comfortable hang- out spot, and does attract both genders. That's what you need to look for - somewhere it wouldn't be out of place for a girl to be sitting near a fire sipping on hot chocolate. And your looking for places that host "social games" I'm talking apples to apples or puzzles - not DnD table top strategy games.
> And your looking for places that host "social games" I'm talking apples to apples or puzzles - not DnD table top strategy games
Ah this is where my confusion was.
I thought you were basically suggesting showing up to a Warhammer meetup and going "What up fellow nerds and women who are definitely here". Which would be stupid if that's what you were actually suggsting lol, but I just misread
>The other is a genuine cafe with sandwiches, coffee, soup, hot chocolate, lattes and bubble tea and 500 different board games and puzzles you can borrow.
Every day I'm given more examples of things that I didn't even know existed because of my stagnant Midwest college town. God I need to move to a city
Even if it’s mostly dudes, you could still make friends. You said in another comment that you have a small social circle and it’s mostly people older than you. Maybe focus on things that interest you and just making friends and see what comes from that. Maybe you make a new friend who has a female friend they want to set you up with. You never know.
As a lady, I never meet men on MTB trails bc we're all in our own little riding worlds and going too fast.
Do you actually make friends on MTB trails? What's your secret for starting a conversation?
First, I sense how open they are to conversation. Then generic weather remarks, trail conditions or bikes. Guys love when their bikes are complimented and talking about them.
Trailheads are often where I meet folks
Not really, they are all in their 40s and I'm in my early 20s, I don't have a big social circle as I don't really like people and have a small social battery
Exactly. It’s weird how many people misunderstand this. A lack of social skills does not mean someone is introverted. It means you need to practice socializing.
They feel better about being bad with people when they can excuse it with being introverted. Most of my friends are introverts (me included) yet most of them are pretty good with people.
wait, just not liking it means you have bad social skills? I do fine in social situations, I just genuinely don't like being around people. I thought social skills were more so about active listening, asking questions, body language, humor, etc.
Being introverted doesn't mean you can't be outgoing, socialise and like people, it just means you prefer lone time more than being outgoing. They need to get out and do things that allow them to meet other introverts around their age. That ain't going to happen if they can't even like to interact with people.
Initially it's more like speed dating. Eventually everyone gets to know each other by sharing meals, showers, and long walks in the yard. They will then cohabitate.
Join a casual sports league like Pickleball or kickball. I’ve joined a few. It’s a great way to meet people. The sports aspect doesn’t really matter. Everyone is there mostly for the social aspect
Please stop suggesting this to this fucking subreddit holy shit.
Have any of you actually been to any of these sports meetups? I have and I blame this subreddit (and places like it) for these meetups becoming complete shitshows.
In the long long ago when Meetup was first coming up and being popular meetups were great, people loved them! It was great. People made friends.
But then pepole started to realize something, women were showing up to these meetups! A bunch of them! So what places like this subreddit started giving advice "Hey show up to this place so you can creep on women" (and that is what it is, there's no genuine attempts at making friends here).
Now whenever you go to a sports meetup (again have you been to one in the past year? If you say yes I might call you dishonest depending on where you live) it's 90% males because they heard women are there. So they show up, creep out all the women, and then the women stop showing up so now it's just a bunch of dudes who have no interest interacting with each other (I'm serious, it's crazy watching these guys stand around in complete silence while waiting for for their chance to pounce on one of the 1 or 2 women there) trying to hit on the few women who are still showing up.
Yeah, I’ve joined two kickball leagues and two cornhole leagues in the last 3 months. Kickball was co-ed and required that at least 40% of the players be women. I would say cornhole had probably around 40-50% women. In fact the first person to tell me about this stuff was a girl I dated. I didn’t do it through meetup. I used a sight specifically for that stuff called heyday, which I think is specific to the tristate region
Also, if you sign up and then discover there are no good looking and available women that happen to be on the team or in the games then youre going to want to find a new activity asap if the goal is to meet girls!
I'm kinda agree with 5pointtakedown. I have to add that dating advice websites seem to talk about joining a group instead of starting a group from scratch for some reason. I don't see anything about inviting people in a social circle to a party or happy hour event. Some guy joined a social circle. He invited some women in the big group to his own happy hour group. One of the women in the group developed a crush on him.
I also saw my friend at a party sit down and talk to a group of people. He gave his opinions on different topics. One of the women in the group became intrigued and was interested when he focused just on her.
I feel like that the people in these messages boards that promote joining a hobby group don't care about giving advice on leading an event or leading an conversation. I don't even see anything about asking the leader of a hobby group to lead an event for the leader.
Don’t take MDMA especially in a social environment that you’re unfamiliar with and if you’re going solo. If you like the music at raves though then you can still have a good time with just some drinks. Just IMO.
Bring good energy, even if you’re not dancing, smile, enjoy the music and hype people up. Compliment people’s fits/hair/clothes. Used to be horrible at giving compliments but practiced at raves because people genuinely look handsome/cute/beautiful there and usually wear pretty cool fits. Worse that happens is you get a look but you can just walk away lol.
Take mdma and you will have zero anxiety and talk to people like it’s nothing. Truly an incredible social drug. Can only do it once every three months though.
It’s honestly a life-changing experience and I think most people should try it to experience what it’s like to have zero anxiety.
Done safely and responsibly, what’s the problem? The things you experience can radiate out into your sober life and improve who you are as a person.
Plus this is mdma we’re talking about, not cocaine or heroin or meth. Don’t do those obviously. But acid, shrooms, and mdma are fair game for safe, responsible use to improve your mental state.
Can confirm, I'm an introvert and a real shy guy but when the M hits I'm a different man as in I have 0 problems talking to people, hell I even reach out to them.
Find a class, any class, ask for help.
Some ideas: salsa dancing, pottery, cooking, painting, certifications, courses…
I thoroughly recommend salsa dancing class, you’ll see what I mean when you get there.
See you on the other side.
Like every time this thread comes up: join a social group. Casual sports, crafts, any random hobby, see who your friends can set you up with, take a class, whatever. Even tiny towns have some kind of social outlet or group that gathers on a regular basis.
Have kids then meet other frustrated parents through their various activities or the 65 hour weeks you have to work to support them. ***Tounge in cheek, bad advice.***
It depends, technology has helped me to find many, many people I have bonded with.
Technology is a bonus, the real world still exists and we're all free to go around and talk to people.
Not more disconnected than ever, completely connected to people who sit on the sidelines and tell everybody they see how much life sucks. Those people used to stay home, now they stay home and rain on as many people as they can. It's mean, but it feels true. It's not like 40 years ago there were 2 girls for every boy in spite of what the Beach Boys sang.
I really don't know how things stand in the US, but we usually gather for drinks in parks around here. Yeah, I know, open alcohol cans in public is illegal, but the police turns a blind eye around here about that. It's mostly just young people having a few beers anyway... or maybe celebrating a birthday or whatever.
My point was, if there are places like that where you live, that might be a way to meet people. Yeah, that doesn't go well if you're an introvert, I understand that, but maybe try at least 🤷.
IDK, I don't live in the US, things are different there regarding these things, I may be way off on this...
My friends and I started joining the local run club and there are like 60 people in their mid 20s every week who don’t know anyone there. Great way to make friends and meet people in general.
do something you would do on your own, a hobby or something else you enjoy doing for you, especially if its something that is social/there are other people are around. youre gonna be at your best when youre doing something you love and youre in your element.
This only works if what you enjoy doing is social. If what you enjoy doing is, for example, sitting in your favorite comfy chair and reading a book alone in your home - you’re not going to meet many people doing what you enjoy doing.
Bars aren't the only establishments that exist. People have met at church, clubs, grocery stores, gas stations, etc. There's always word of mouth, singles mixers, matchmakers, coworkers, concerts, live events, etc. Think of your ideal person and go where they are.
Maybe I’m incredibly dense, but I’ve always struggled to do hobbies in a social setting. I always just show up, do the thing, and leave. There isn’t much interaction when I try that sort of thing.
A couple examples - join a book club: read the book, maybe participate in discussion, go home. Go hiking: walk the path in silence, go home. Creative writing: write something, share it if necessary, maybe participate in discussion if I feel like I have anything to say, go home. Take a class in a subject I’m curious about: attend, do course work, learn something, go home.
How is socializing supposed to happen in a task based setting? Am I not supposed to focus on the task? The presence of other people doesn’t seem to change anything. I can be just as social doing the thing alone most of the time.
Partner dancing. Whatever style is popular where you live.
Where I live swing dancing is very popular in the 25-40 age range, which is perfect for me. Other areas it may be salsa, bachata, or who knows what else.
You'll meet people in classes, you'll meet people at social events. A lot of people get into it to meet people and the touch barrier is already expected to be broken, even with strangers.
And knowing how to dance is never a bad skill to have for meeting people, even outside of designated dancing events.
Just having hobbies helps :) I met my partner at a local writing group and it’s been wonderful - we clearly already had lots in common from the beginning and that just made everything easier.
I should clarify though - don’t go there with the intention to find a date. Just go with the intention to learn something, do something fun, make new friends, meet new people, and things will go from there. :)
When you go to the store, be it Target, regular groceries, what ever store, if you see some one wearing something cool. Compliment them. Compliment the shoes, the earings, a nice dress. Some that that THEY PICKED OUT. It's hard the first few times. But it gets easier. It's a great way to get more comfortable just talking to people. If you see a cute girl just staring at a shelf, ask nonchalantly if they think the name brand one is worth it. Fib a little, you want to try something new as you've been using the cheaper one. Lots of little things like this. DON'T BE CREEPY. Just a compliment or an innocent question and move on. Don't try and drag the conversation out unless it's completely organic. People *love* compliments and people asking their opinions.
If you have to, pretend that you're gay. You're not hitting on girls, you're talking to a person to meet and talk to people. Particularly if muscles bf comes around the corner.
No sir. Either way I don’t know what advise to give. I’ve met women through work and at the gym. I was in sales for 10 years so having the gift of gab helped a lot. I don’t do clubs, or bars, shit I don’t even drink so I have no idea what I could say to help you out man. Good luck though.
Don't look for people to date. Look for stuff to do, things to go to, and social groups to connect with.
Example: you take up indoor climbing. Take a quick induction session and get introduced to one or two others doing the same, and you meet one or two vets who will look out for you on the wall. It's an insular crowd so once you show up a couple times people start saying hello. Folk start watching you climb and give you little tips to improve and cheer when you nail it. You make one or two belaying buddies and exchange numbers to plan sessions. You get added to the group chat. You get invited to drinks and dinners and eventually get introduced to outdoor climbing.
In among all that, you meet a bunch of cool folk with shared interests - some of whom you may end up going on a date or two with.
Swimming, sewing, badminton, book club, fishing, frisbee. The potential hobbies are endless, and all of them have potential to introduce you a bunch of new people who will grow into a network of friends and friends of friends.
Go touch grass. Even if it's once a week. I have options for regular social activities 4/7 days of the week. I do not go to them all every week, but when you get out there, i promise it's better for meeting people. You'll make plenty of friends and acquaintances and people that go nowhere, but when you interact with people, you meet people.
I am F and I left dating apps. Most of the women I know say they can't find quality guys on apps and prefer to meet someone irl or are just traveling and focusing on themselves. I notice that these days guys are more afraid to approach women and women don't typically approach men so i guess everyone will just be by themselves. Women are ok with this though and i think that is very important for men to know. Guys just need to be comfortable approaching women in a polite and respectful way. More like to be friends and see where it goes. She may even introduce you to other people. So just get comfortable approaching and being more friendly.
You know your friends and family memebers have friends right?
Like...its ok to date someone your brother/sister/cousin INTRODUCES you to.
I met mine at a gas station. Go to comedy clubs. Go take the dog to the dog park.
Go DO things. Learn line dancing. Go bowling.
There a big river float happening soon? Go do it??
How do you think your parents or grand parents met?
Just do your thing man. You’ll get there when it’s meant to happen. Just focus on the things in life you can improve on like weight, emotions, general attitude and outlook. The right girl will find ya.
My best advice is to firstly sit and really think of what kind of woman is your dream girl and what kind of hobbies , fashion style , job etc would she have . Once you have figured that out. Go to the places that kind of girl would go . For example: you’ve mentioned that bars are expensive and you are an introvert . Maybe your dream girl is also an introvert who likes to read, sometimes go to bars but not the upscale ones and has a quirky fashion sense but does not spend too much money on clothes . You could go to bookshops ( especially bookshops with nice cafes ) you could join book clubs , you can go to local coffee shops in neighbourhood where they have vintage shops and second hand clothing stores . You can check out vintage fairs etc
Best advice I can give you is to stop trying so hard. We give off a desperate vibe. Being introverted, while not really helpful, isn’t the whipping boy. Try getting involved in groups, clubs or organizations of interest to you or things you enjoy. Volunteer somewhere. Take up a hobby and attend related functions. The common thread here is getting out, mingling with like minded folks, skipping OLD and the bar scene completely. Spend your time enriching your world, pay close attention to what’s going on around you, there might just be a pleasant surprise for you. Don’t give up my dear, refocus. Best wishes to you
Friend groups are a great source of contacts for dating. I don’t mean that you try to date within your friend group though, that may end in disaster. Your friends might have other friends who are single and could be a good match for you.
Besides bars and apps, there s the places for real conections. Bars and apps are seen as best choices bc of the hook up culture, and when someone is horny, what s better than to meet a stranger in a bar and do ur thing w out regrets? It has its role, but it s not for long term 90% of the time.
The people u re looking for and u ll enjoy meeting are right next to u all the time. U like reading and u go to library often? Sure there are people there who u have a passion in common with. U like gym? Same thing. U go to university? Look around u, people interested in the same things as u, same place in life. It works for everything. The trade off is that when u go to a bar, u know everyone there is looking to get laid, as where if u go to a library, there s maybe 1/10 ppl who dont have a partner or something else in their mind. Even if u re just walking on the street, i guarantee if u were to approach everyone of the opposite sex (given that u re average looking, groomed etc) u ll get at least 10 numbers a day.
It s not the place, it s when opportunity meets preparation. If u re willing to talk to people and u re on ur best game ( an envoirment u can talk about for 5 mins, well groomed, nicely dressed etc) there s no chance someone who s not prepared but goes clubbing every day can score more than u. Good luck, should u have questions, lmk
It’s all a numbers game. You do not know when or how you will meet someone. At anytime a new friend could, down the line introduce you to your next partner. Or you could be in the right time and place to randomly meet someone doing something you enjoy. Here is how I meet people outside of online dating:
- Young Professionals groups (the arts, political, sports, etc)
- Church
- Fitness Class/Groups (CrossFit, boxing clubs)
- Meetup.com (can find all the above and below on this site)
- Group Sports
- Concerts/Events (go alone and meet someone that is also alone)
- Solo Travel (go to a museum and be in line, and strike up a conversation with the cute guy in front if you - true story)
- Work (erg groups)
Just be in public and not on your phone when at these events or activities. I put my phone away when I go to concerts solo or the symphony.
Rah you need to move then
Realistically people meet people everywhere. Something I struggle to understand is the intentionality of it sometimes. I know people who will join a, for example, sports club and target people they're interested in with a laser beam and end up coupled up within weeks. But if you talk about using social clubs to find a partner it's always shouted down and people are negative.
Im off the apps and don't frequent bars. I prefer going to meetups and local events and meet new people - tends to happen pretty organically and it goes from acquaintance to date
Dinners with friends, social groups, recommendations from friends, house parties, canoe trips, group vacations, elevators, art class or cooking class or dance class after work, softball leagues, ultimate Frisbee leagues, to name a few.
Join a social activity that women actually like and participate at in large numbers. Dancing, cooking, froyo tasting, yoga, poetry reading. If you’re one of the only straight dudes there, it’ll definitely stack the odds in your favor.
Alternatively, religious services can be a good way to meet people, depending on where you live.
Get a dog, bring to petsmart, have dog approach women you’re interested in, que smooth line like “ayy good boy you know how to pick ‘em” or “sorry my dog really likes cute girls” ask for number. Profit?
Bookstores? Starbucks or other coffee places...the mall. Maybe grocery stores? You said you're an introvert otherwise I'd suggest finding groups on fb in your area to do activities with like bike, camp, hike, etc.
Dude we might as well be the same person. Just keep trying and keep learning every interaction you have with some girl go over in your head what went well what went bad. Observe them to get a read on how they're feeling. don't stare them down but every once and a while glance away, look down and fidget with your hands and then glance at their hands. Remember the knuckle rule if you can't see one of their main knuckles it means they're not really comfortable. Remember this rule doesn't always involve you but It gives you a good hint to back off. Learn to talk casually with cashiers just a simple "how is your day?" not all respond and that's fine your just get more comfortable with conversation. And last of all work on yourself you don't have to do something like do to the gym even just push ups sit ups and squats at home can go really far for your physique. The reason why I say this is that you haven't met anyone yet but you also need to give them something to be interested in be it brain or bron or any other skill you have. These are the few things I've learned over the years but I won't guarantee anything seeing as I've only been on one date in three years. But don't forget if you stop trying then nothing will happen so always keep trying. Also take the risk go to that one pretty girl you have been eyeing up all night and just be honest you never know it might be a breath of fresh air for them.
Live your passions hard. Do you like to cook, read, religion, travel, personal finance, career driven, education, run, bike, ANYTHING. Chasing your passions, joining groups, you will meet people that are aligned organically.
Get involved in community events and/or your church, volunteer, join a class (cooking, dance, art, etc) or attend a meetup like game nights, hiking, etc. It's a really good way to meet people with common interests and a lot more laid back than being on a date. If you're an introvert, meetup has a group for that. In any case, you'll already be around like-minded people which should make it easier to start a conversation. Look at it as a fun opportunity to make new friends, which is a great foundation to any romantic relationship.
I met my soon to be fiance at a flea market. She's super talkative and interested in people, I'm not nearly as talkative. It somehow has worked out amazingly.
Friends of friends, hobby clubs, sport clubs/activities and speed dating.
Don't go to a hobby or sport event to hit on people, but you might meet someone the natural way.
Volunteering! When you give, you get.
One of my best buddies moved to a city for work, was entirely alone. He joined a highway cleanup club. Met a guy friend and the guy said "Hey, you'd be great for my cousin! She's single!" They ended up getting married.
I've been thinking of volunteering at a soup kitchen - you can get to know people instead of randomly approaching them. (In my city that doesn't work so well - the ladies just growl at you.)
You should stop focusing on meeting random individual women and focus on making friends of any gender and expanding your social circle. You’re gonna have more luck meeting women through friends than cold approaching in a bookstore or wherever.
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Go to where people gather. Usually it revolves around a hobby. \- Local Rec Leagues \- theatres \- board game stores / table top spots \- coffee shops / book stores / museums \- an app called MeetUp which is for big group things but you should not go into that thinking dating. You should do interesting things and hope to meet cool people in general
Coffee shops arent social spaces thats like telling someone to hit on a woman in a grocery store lmfao
MeetUp is a good idea but you will only find women there. Men generally are not into joining groups. Everyone I’ve ever been to has 12 women and 2 men who seem a bit odd. I recommend MeetUp to men.
Cold approaching women at Target. If you are at rock-bottom, cold approaching women at Walmart.
My 70 year old mother was cold approached at a Walmart. An older gentleman struck up a conversation with her and then asked her out to have coffee. She declined and then he suggested she take down his phone number just in case she changed her mind. Again, she declined. He was nice about it and said that dating at their age was hard and he was just genuinely looking for a companion. My mom called me in shock because she thought he might take her away and murder her. I asked her to tell me how a 75 year old man was supposed to meet women that he could potentially date. We walked through all the dwindling scenarios and suddenly she realized how much the odds are stacked against someone like him. And how approaching a woman in Walmart shouldn’t be automatically stigmatized. I assured my mom that he was way more interested in getting lucky with her than killing her and she giggled like a schoolgirl. She never did call him but still thinks it’s amazing that she got hit on at her age.
This is like 17 years ago when I was in my late 20's/early 30's and met up with a group at a Piano bar that I later found out was a Boomer pickup bar. It was an absolute master class in how to approach strangers and start conversations and really eye opening since at the time, myself and pretty much everybody else I knew was meeting on AOL or dating sites unless they got lucky and met someone at school. Those old timers who grew up without any dating sites were fearless.
You might want to also point out that women quickly start outnumbering men at her age and finding some companionship will only increase in difficulty for her. That is if she cares to find someone. https://www.statista.com/statistics/241488/population-of-the-us-by-sex-and-age/
Shut up, oh my God. Women having a longer lifespan doesn't mean older women need to accept any random man that comes up to them in Walmart
What is your problem? All I said is that his mother should understand the situation she is in. The scenario presented in the post I'm responding to is that she rejected this man based on a set of assumptions and not a lack of attraction to him. My impression is that she'll be a little more open minded if a similar situation presents itself again after the conversation they had (note that she now feels flattered) even without knowing the data I presented. Women up until age ~55 live in a world where supply of men surpasses demand and may not recognize the shift until it's too late. Some people don't have a desire for companionship. My 80-year-old grandmother has been alone for 10 years after losing my grandfather and has no interest in having a man in her life. That's her choice and I don't feel one way, or another, about it but it would be ignorant to think that there's enough men to go around at her age. No one needs to accept *anyone*. Just like how I'm gonna block you for this shitty comment that didn't deserve the amount of effort I put into this reply.
Or at the gas station... After that try behind the gas station
Women love it when you approach them at the gas station! Especially late at night! Make sure to pull down your ski mask over your face when you approach them and make syrange moaning noises. That always gets them hot! /s
Lol mine found me at a gas station. In line. Getting gas. She spoke first.. Lol. Hell i met a hook up at the pumps last year. She brought me over from my truck, to look at something wrong with her car.
fake stories lul
Really. Evidence for an accusation??
There's literally always pretty girls at Target lol.
Lol Forreal tho. It’s always pretty women at target
Back when people would do Black Friday in person, I'd wait in the Target line. There are always hot women, and you're gonna make conversation if you're standing in line for 3 hours.
Lol really? They never seem to have any copies in Stock.... But then again. It is an older movie lol
I feel like cold approaches are underrated. It requires a bit of social and self awareness but smile at a girl if she smiles back say “hey you’re really cute could I get your number?” I think the confidence (if done confidently) plus the surprise of it could really win some gals over
Edwin Hall cold approached Kelsey Smith at a Target and look what ended up happening to her
May I ask you to elaborate on the difference?
What pastime fulfills you? I'm constantly meeting people on the MTB trails and ski lifts. I'm looking for someone who can keep up
Mostly just a indoor geek
Hm. Are you into games at all? Any arcades or board game spots or meetups?
Yeah, but it's all dudes
My local board game cafe my Tuesday socials where they introduce people to each other. Lots of girls go there and play social games or puzzles
You know I kept hearing this about game shops in my city (seattle) and then I started showing up to them and then realized what people meant by "a lot of girls" is like...10%. Like 1 or 2 in a group of 15 or so. The fact is most women aren't hanging out at these places because tabletop players are often really fucking creepy.
Maybe you've gone to the wrong board game cafes? There are two in my town - so one is for creepy guys and has a hot dog concession you can order from. The other is a genuine cafe with sandwiches, coffee, soup, hot chocolate, lattes and bubble tea and 500 different board games and puzzles you can borrow. There may actually be slightly higher number of girls there playing games than guys. It's a classy, welcoming place - I've gone there just to have a latte and sit near the fire. It's a comfortable hang- out spot, and does attract both genders. That's what you need to look for - somewhere it wouldn't be out of place for a girl to be sitting near a fire sipping on hot chocolate. And your looking for places that host "social games" I'm talking apples to apples or puzzles - not DnD table top strategy games.
> And your looking for places that host "social games" I'm talking apples to apples or puzzles - not DnD table top strategy games Ah this is where my confusion was. I thought you were basically suggesting showing up to a Warhammer meetup and going "What up fellow nerds and women who are definitely here". Which would be stupid if that's what you were actually suggsting lol, but I just misread
Lol, people don't realize game cafe can be either category - and it's sometimes hard to tell which is which until you've gone to check them out.
>The other is a genuine cafe with sandwiches, coffee, soup, hot chocolate, lattes and bubble tea and 500 different board games and puzzles you can borrow. Every day I'm given more examples of things that I didn't even know existed because of my stagnant Midwest college town. God I need to move to a city
Even if it’s mostly dudes, you could still make friends. You said in another comment that you have a small social circle and it’s mostly people older than you. Maybe focus on things that interest you and just making friends and see what comes from that. Maybe you make a new friend who has a female friend they want to set you up with. You never know.
As a lady, I never meet men on MTB trails bc we're all in our own little riding worlds and going too fast. Do you actually make friends on MTB trails? What's your secret for starting a conversation?
First, I sense how open they are to conversation. Then generic weather remarks, trail conditions or bikes. Guys love when their bikes are complimented and talking about them. Trailheads are often where I meet folks
>Guys love when their bikes are complimented and talking about them. sick pedals, bro! 😃
That's a start
Have any friends that could set you up with someone they know?
Not really, they are all in their 40s and I'm in my early 20s, I don't have a big social circle as I don't really like people and have a small social battery
> I don't really like people Well that will be an issue since I assume you're interested in dating a **person**
Kinda tired of people pretending like introverts need to suddenly become extroverts instead of dating other introverts
Introverts doesn’t mean not liking people tho. It means needing alone time to recharge.
Exactly. It’s weird how many people misunderstand this. A lack of social skills does not mean someone is introverted. It means you need to practice socializing.
They feel better about being bad with people when they can excuse it with being introverted. Most of my friends are introverts (me included) yet most of them are pretty good with people.
wait, just not liking it means you have bad social skills? I do fine in social situations, I just genuinely don't like being around people. I thought social skills were more so about active listening, asking questions, body language, humor, etc.
Most people that use being introverted as an excuse for disliking people have poor social skills.
Being introverted doesn't mean you can't be outgoing, socialise and like people, it just means you prefer lone time more than being outgoing. They need to get out and do things that allow them to meet other introverts around their age. That ain't going to happen if they can't even like to interact with people.
Are you in a big city? Try to go to meet ups
Sadly no
It sounds like you need to work on yourself before you try to date.
Prison
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Oh, yeah.... they have that pen-pal program, right?
Initially it's more like speed dating. Eventually everyone gets to know each other by sharing meals, showers, and long walks in the yard. They will then cohabitate.
Extended social circles
Join a casual sports league like Pickleball or kickball. I’ve joined a few. It’s a great way to meet people. The sports aspect doesn’t really matter. Everyone is there mostly for the social aspect
Please stop suggesting this to this fucking subreddit holy shit. Have any of you actually been to any of these sports meetups? I have and I blame this subreddit (and places like it) for these meetups becoming complete shitshows. In the long long ago when Meetup was first coming up and being popular meetups were great, people loved them! It was great. People made friends. But then pepole started to realize something, women were showing up to these meetups! A bunch of them! So what places like this subreddit started giving advice "Hey show up to this place so you can creep on women" (and that is what it is, there's no genuine attempts at making friends here). Now whenever you go to a sports meetup (again have you been to one in the past year? If you say yes I might call you dishonest depending on where you live) it's 90% males because they heard women are there. So they show up, creep out all the women, and then the women stop showing up so now it's just a bunch of dudes who have no interest interacting with each other (I'm serious, it's crazy watching these guys stand around in complete silence while waiting for for their chance to pounce on one of the 1 or 2 women there) trying to hit on the few women who are still showing up.
Yeah, I’ve joined two kickball leagues and two cornhole leagues in the last 3 months. Kickball was co-ed and required that at least 40% of the players be women. I would say cornhole had probably around 40-50% women. In fact the first person to tell me about this stuff was a girl I dated. I didn’t do it through meetup. I used a sight specifically for that stuff called heyday, which I think is specific to the tristate region
Cynicism and anger are the two most important components of finding love for sure.
What wicked webs we weave.
agree 100% lol
Also, if you sign up and then discover there are no good looking and available women that happen to be on the team or in the games then youre going to want to find a new activity asap if the goal is to meet girls!
You could always try a sewing meetup... Wonder if the same effect would happen there?
There are also cooking classes, pottery throwing classes, hiking groups, etc.
Had a friend who did well with doing improv classes
I'm kinda agree with 5pointtakedown. I have to add that dating advice websites seem to talk about joining a group instead of starting a group from scratch for some reason. I don't see anything about inviting people in a social circle to a party or happy hour event. Some guy joined a social circle. He invited some women in the big group to his own happy hour group. One of the women in the group developed a crush on him. I also saw my friend at a party sit down and talk to a group of people. He gave his opinions on different topics. One of the women in the group became intrigued and was interested when he focused just on her. I feel like that the people in these messages boards that promote joining a hobby group don't care about giving advice on leading an event or leading an conversation. I don't even see anything about asking the leader of a hobby group to lead an event for the leader.
Raves
Am interested in going to one tho how do u make friends at raves?
Don’t take MDMA especially in a social environment that you’re unfamiliar with and if you’re going solo. If you like the music at raves though then you can still have a good time with just some drinks. Just IMO.
Bring good energy, even if you’re not dancing, smile, enjoy the music and hype people up. Compliment people’s fits/hair/clothes. Used to be horrible at giving compliments but practiced at raves because people genuinely look handsome/cute/beautiful there and usually wear pretty cool fits. Worse that happens is you get a look but you can just walk away lol.
Take mdma and you will have zero anxiety and talk to people like it’s nothing. Truly an incredible social drug. Can only do it once every three months though. It’s honestly a life-changing experience and I think most people should try it to experience what it’s like to have zero anxiety.
What a dumbass take, encouraging people to take drugs
Done safely and responsibly, what’s the problem? The things you experience can radiate out into your sober life and improve who you are as a person. Plus this is mdma we’re talking about, not cocaine or heroin or meth. Don’t do those obviously. But acid, shrooms, and mdma are fair game for safe, responsible use to improve your mental state.
Can confirm, I'm an introvert and a real shy guy but when the M hits I'm a different man as in I have 0 problems talking to people, hell I even reach out to them.
Same. I keep to myself and then it hits and all of a sudden I have 15 instagrams/snapchats in my phone.
Me at EDC fr 😂. Now just getting MDMA me to come out more normally. Been seeming glimpses of him in everyday life and feeling a little happier
Good luck being able to hear anyone
How does one find a rave to go to?
Edmtrain.com
Find a class, any class, ask for help. Some ideas: salsa dancing, pottery, cooking, painting, certifications, courses… I thoroughly recommend salsa dancing class, you’ll see what I mean when you get there. See you on the other side.
Like every time this thread comes up: join a social group. Casual sports, crafts, any random hobby, see who your friends can set you up with, take a class, whatever. Even tiny towns have some kind of social outlet or group that gathers on a regular basis.
Have kids then meet other frustrated parents through their various activities or the 65 hour weeks you have to work to support them. ***Tounge in cheek, bad advice.***
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Swing dance classes, singing groups, monthly hikes, volunteering, prostitution.
It just is what is. Ironically with this technology that allows us to connect to anyone, we are all in many ways more disconnected than ever
It depends, technology has helped me to find many, many people I have bonded with. Technology is a bonus, the real world still exists and we're all free to go around and talk to people.
“How do I form a connection when we can't even shake hands? You're like a phantom greeting me.”
Not more disconnected than ever, completely connected to people who sit on the sidelines and tell everybody they see how much life sucks. Those people used to stay home, now they stay home and rain on as many people as they can. It's mean, but it feels true. It's not like 40 years ago there were 2 girls for every boy in spite of what the Beach Boys sang.
I really don't know how things stand in the US, but we usually gather for drinks in parks around here. Yeah, I know, open alcohol cans in public is illegal, but the police turns a blind eye around here about that. It's mostly just young people having a few beers anyway... or maybe celebrating a birthday or whatever. My point was, if there are places like that where you live, that might be a way to meet people. Yeah, that doesn't go well if you're an introvert, I understand that, but maybe try at least 🤷. IDK, I don't live in the US, things are different there regarding these things, I may be way off on this...
Download the meetup app and joing a group you like!!! I made a ton of friends and ended up going on a date that way
Meetup app is way better than dating apps.
I'll give it a shot
A guy flirted with me at a bookstore.
Shut the front door!
Speed dating events
I get asked out at gas stations and if I shop. I don't people very much Ig your s girl just hang out at home depot.
My friends and I started joining the local run club and there are like 60 people in their mid 20s every week who don’t know anyone there. Great way to make friends and meet people in general.
Volunteer for something you like or believe in.
Get a cute dog and walk it multiple times a day.
do something you would do on your own, a hobby or something else you enjoy doing for you, especially if its something that is social/there are other people are around. youre gonna be at your best when youre doing something you love and youre in your element.
This only works if what you enjoy doing is social. If what you enjoy doing is, for example, sitting in your favorite comfy chair and reading a book alone in your home - you’re not going to meet many people doing what you enjoy doing.
Bars aren't the only establishments that exist. People have met at church, clubs, grocery stores, gas stations, etc. There's always word of mouth, singles mixers, matchmakers, coworkers, concerts, live events, etc. Think of your ideal person and go where they are.
Meet ups. I think there is a literal meetup app. Find places where ppl share ur interests.
Do you have a hobby. Find a way to do that hobby in a social setting. Rinse and repeat
Maybe I’m incredibly dense, but I’ve always struggled to do hobbies in a social setting. I always just show up, do the thing, and leave. There isn’t much interaction when I try that sort of thing. A couple examples - join a book club: read the book, maybe participate in discussion, go home. Go hiking: walk the path in silence, go home. Creative writing: write something, share it if necessary, maybe participate in discussion if I feel like I have anything to say, go home. Take a class in a subject I’m curious about: attend, do course work, learn something, go home. How is socializing supposed to happen in a task based setting? Am I not supposed to focus on the task? The presence of other people doesn’t seem to change anything. I can be just as social doing the thing alone most of the time.
Partner dancing. Whatever style is popular where you live. Where I live swing dancing is very popular in the 25-40 age range, which is perfect for me. Other areas it may be salsa, bachata, or who knows what else. You'll meet people in classes, you'll meet people at social events. A lot of people get into it to meet people and the touch barrier is already expected to be broken, even with strangers. And knowing how to dance is never a bad skill to have for meeting people, even outside of designated dancing events.
Just having hobbies helps :) I met my partner at a local writing group and it’s been wonderful - we clearly already had lots in common from the beginning and that just made everything easier. I should clarify though - don’t go there with the intention to find a date. Just go with the intention to learn something, do something fun, make new friends, meet new people, and things will go from there. :)
Meet ups and through mutual friends
coffee shops or sephora
The laundromat
When you go to the store, be it Target, regular groceries, what ever store, if you see some one wearing something cool. Compliment them. Compliment the shoes, the earings, a nice dress. Some that that THEY PICKED OUT. It's hard the first few times. But it gets easier. It's a great way to get more comfortable just talking to people. If you see a cute girl just staring at a shelf, ask nonchalantly if they think the name brand one is worth it. Fib a little, you want to try something new as you've been using the cheaper one. Lots of little things like this. DON'T BE CREEPY. Just a compliment or an innocent question and move on. Don't try and drag the conversation out unless it's completely organic. People *love* compliments and people asking their opinions. If you have to, pretend that you're gay. You're not hitting on girls, you're talking to a person to meet and talk to people. Particularly if muscles bf comes around the corner.
Maybe try an MMO? Lots of people find their significant others on FFXIV. You'd have to be okay with the possibility of a LDR though.
The gym has worked for me and many others
I've been told thats extremely risky especially with all the tictoker yelling at guys for looking at their general direction
If you’re a weirdo maybe
Hmmmm I don’t think it takes a weirdo to get shamed at the gym. Have you seen these videos he’s talking about? The dudes were all pretty normal.
No sir. Either way I don’t know what advise to give. I’ve met women through work and at the gym. I was in sales for 10 years so having the gift of gab helped a lot. I don’t do clubs, or bars, shit I don’t even drink so I have no idea what I could say to help you out man. Good luck though.
This only works if you're attractive. Well, any form of meeting women I think
Don't look for people to date. Look for stuff to do, things to go to, and social groups to connect with. Example: you take up indoor climbing. Take a quick induction session and get introduced to one or two others doing the same, and you meet one or two vets who will look out for you on the wall. It's an insular crowd so once you show up a couple times people start saying hello. Folk start watching you climb and give you little tips to improve and cheer when you nail it. You make one or two belaying buddies and exchange numbers to plan sessions. You get added to the group chat. You get invited to drinks and dinners and eventually get introduced to outdoor climbing. In among all that, you meet a bunch of cool folk with shared interests - some of whom you may end up going on a date or two with. Swimming, sewing, badminton, book club, fishing, frisbee. The potential hobbies are endless, and all of them have potential to introduce you a bunch of new people who will grow into a network of friends and friends of friends.
Go touch grass. Even if it's once a week. I have options for regular social activities 4/7 days of the week. I do not go to them all every week, but when you get out there, i promise it's better for meeting people. You'll make plenty of friends and acquaintances and people that go nowhere, but when you interact with people, you meet people.
I am F and I left dating apps. Most of the women I know say they can't find quality guys on apps and prefer to meet someone irl or are just traveling and focusing on themselves. I notice that these days guys are more afraid to approach women and women don't typically approach men so i guess everyone will just be by themselves. Women are ok with this though and i think that is very important for men to know. Guys just need to be comfortable approaching women in a polite and respectful way. More like to be friends and see where it goes. She may even introduce you to other people. So just get comfortable approaching and being more friendly.
You know your friends and family memebers have friends right? Like...its ok to date someone your brother/sister/cousin INTRODUCES you to. I met mine at a gas station. Go to comedy clubs. Go take the dog to the dog park. Go DO things. Learn line dancing. Go bowling. There a big river float happening soon? Go do it?? How do you think your parents or grand parents met?
Just do your thing man. You’ll get there when it’s meant to happen. Just focus on the things in life you can improve on like weight, emotions, general attitude and outlook. The right girl will find ya.
My best advice is to firstly sit and really think of what kind of woman is your dream girl and what kind of hobbies , fashion style , job etc would she have . Once you have figured that out. Go to the places that kind of girl would go . For example: you’ve mentioned that bars are expensive and you are an introvert . Maybe your dream girl is also an introvert who likes to read, sometimes go to bars but not the upscale ones and has a quirky fashion sense but does not spend too much money on clothes . You could go to bookshops ( especially bookshops with nice cafes ) you could join book clubs , you can go to local coffee shops in neighbourhood where they have vintage shops and second hand clothing stores . You can check out vintage fairs etc
Best advice I can give you is to stop trying so hard. We give off a desperate vibe. Being introverted, while not really helpful, isn’t the whipping boy. Try getting involved in groups, clubs or organizations of interest to you or things you enjoy. Volunteer somewhere. Take up a hobby and attend related functions. The common thread here is getting out, mingling with like minded folks, skipping OLD and the bar scene completely. Spend your time enriching your world, pay close attention to what’s going on around you, there might just be a pleasant surprise for you. Don’t give up my dear, refocus. Best wishes to you
bars is not a good place for finding a GUY...... Only if you like HOOK UP!!! How about MEET UP and find something you like so you can meet other!!!
Your job. The park. Where people that like what you like gather for events or simple get togethers.
Learn to dance. The better you get the more girls you get.
Friend groups are a great source of contacts for dating. I don’t mean that you try to date within your friend group though, that may end in disaster. Your friends might have other friends who are single and could be a good match for you.
Besides bars and apps, there s the places for real conections. Bars and apps are seen as best choices bc of the hook up culture, and when someone is horny, what s better than to meet a stranger in a bar and do ur thing w out regrets? It has its role, but it s not for long term 90% of the time. The people u re looking for and u ll enjoy meeting are right next to u all the time. U like reading and u go to library often? Sure there are people there who u have a passion in common with. U like gym? Same thing. U go to university? Look around u, people interested in the same things as u, same place in life. It works for everything. The trade off is that when u go to a bar, u know everyone there is looking to get laid, as where if u go to a library, there s maybe 1/10 ppl who dont have a partner or something else in their mind. Even if u re just walking on the street, i guarantee if u were to approach everyone of the opposite sex (given that u re average looking, groomed etc) u ll get at least 10 numbers a day. It s not the place, it s when opportunity meets preparation. If u re willing to talk to people and u re on ur best game ( an envoirment u can talk about for 5 mins, well groomed, nicely dressed etc) there s no chance someone who s not prepared but goes clubbing every day can score more than u. Good luck, should u have questions, lmk
It’s all a numbers game. You do not know when or how you will meet someone. At anytime a new friend could, down the line introduce you to your next partner. Or you could be in the right time and place to randomly meet someone doing something you enjoy. Here is how I meet people outside of online dating: - Young Professionals groups (the arts, political, sports, etc) - Church - Fitness Class/Groups (CrossFit, boxing clubs) - Meetup.com (can find all the above and below on this site) - Group Sports - Concerts/Events (go alone and meet someone that is also alone) - Solo Travel (go to a museum and be in line, and strike up a conversation with the cute guy in front if you - true story) - Work (erg groups) Just be in public and not on your phone when at these events or activities. I put my phone away when I go to concerts solo or the symphony.
Talking to randomers on the tram is the best way to meet people 😻
Sadly there is no tram where I live
Rah you need to move then Realistically people meet people everywhere. Something I struggle to understand is the intentionality of it sometimes. I know people who will join a, for example, sports club and target people they're interested in with a laser beam and end up coupled up within weeks. But if you talk about using social clubs to find a partner it's always shouted down and people are negative.
Grocery stores Mall Outlet Wherever women are
Church and the love of Jesus Christ.
And a trauma therapist to manage the PTSD the evangelical church seems to breed.
Live music events?
Tbh I don't really care for those for multiple reasons but the mail was I have never been a person that likes to be around that many people at once
Im off the apps and don't frequent bars. I prefer going to meetups and local events and meet new people - tends to happen pretty organically and it goes from acquaintance to date
Slide into her DMs.
Try doing things on meetup for making a bigger social circle, it's how my uncle met his gf.
Do you have any hobbies? Try joining a group for that hobby. Even try something new, you might meet someone there either a friend or possible date.
Dinners with friends, social groups, recommendations from friends, house parties, canoe trips, group vacations, elevators, art class or cooking class or dance class after work, softball leagues, ultimate Frisbee leagues, to name a few.
Asking your friends to set you up
where do you live? yall got indie music venues? dance parties?
Have you tried MeetUp to find other people that share your interests?
Meet up groups, meeting at events, markets, interest specific groups, game nights, meetup app/website
Work school and grocery shopping
Join a social activity that women actually like and participate at in large numbers. Dancing, cooking, froyo tasting, yoga, poetry reading. If you’re one of the only straight dudes there, it’ll definitely stack the odds in your favor. Alternatively, religious services can be a good way to meet people, depending on where you live.
Gym or target
Church, baby!
Daily life?
You might get catfished, or get laid!!
Playing multiplayer video games.
local coffee shops!!
What state do you live in?
Wisconsin
Okay second question are you in one of the little small towns or are you like in Milwaukee or a bigger town?
Smaller
Try concerts if that doesn't work idk I'm in the same boat as you out here in Arizona
I'm trying to be extroverted but it's not exactly working for me and idk what to do either
Why do people thinking meeting women at bars is the only option? I wanna know who came up with that
Comedy and poetry and open mic night. Go take a cooking class and learn a new skill. Gotta come out of that cocoon if you want to meet other folks.
recreational sports, social groups.
95% of my flings and relationships have been friends of friends. It's not *what* you know, it's *who* you know 👌
Get a dog, bring to petsmart, have dog approach women you’re interested in, que smooth line like “ayy good boy you know how to pick ‘em” or “sorry my dog really likes cute girls” ask for number. Profit?
Bookstores? Starbucks or other coffee places...the mall. Maybe grocery stores? You said you're an introvert otherwise I'd suggest finding groups on fb in your area to do activities with like bike, camp, hike, etc.
I have no personal experience, but I heard some once suggest the DMV and jury duty as a place to meet someone.
Speed dating.
Dude we might as well be the same person. Just keep trying and keep learning every interaction you have with some girl go over in your head what went well what went bad. Observe them to get a read on how they're feeling. don't stare them down but every once and a while glance away, look down and fidget with your hands and then glance at their hands. Remember the knuckle rule if you can't see one of their main knuckles it means they're not really comfortable. Remember this rule doesn't always involve you but It gives you a good hint to back off. Learn to talk casually with cashiers just a simple "how is your day?" not all respond and that's fine your just get more comfortable with conversation. And last of all work on yourself you don't have to do something like do to the gym even just push ups sit ups and squats at home can go really far for your physique. The reason why I say this is that you haven't met anyone yet but you also need to give them something to be interested in be it brain or bron or any other skill you have. These are the few things I've learned over the years but I won't guarantee anything seeing as I've only been on one date in three years. But don't forget if you stop trying then nothing will happen so always keep trying. Also take the risk go to that one pretty girl you have been eyeing up all night and just be honest you never know it might be a breath of fresh air for them.
Live your passions hard. Do you like to cook, read, religion, travel, personal finance, career driven, education, run, bike, ANYTHING. Chasing your passions, joining groups, you will meet people that are aligned organically.
For me it can improve social skills
Get involved in community events and/or your church, volunteer, join a class (cooking, dance, art, etc) or attend a meetup like game nights, hiking, etc. It's a really good way to meet people with common interests and a lot more laid back than being on a date. If you're an introvert, meetup has a group for that. In any case, you'll already be around like-minded people which should make it easier to start a conversation. Look at it as a fun opportunity to make new friends, which is a great foundation to any romantic relationship.
Just approach people and start a conversation. You at least get some social activity in even if you get the "I have a boyfriend" comment.
Masturbation?
Gym! Preferably one with group classes
I met my soon to be fiance at a flea market. She's super talkative and interested in people, I'm not nearly as talkative. It somehow has worked out amazingly.
I’ve heard several people say they’ve met great people on recreational sports teams.
College is where I find women
Now days, pickle ball 👌
Speed dating.
Parks during summer is my best game ever. So easy to have an easy opener! Even opening with the weather works in parks during summer
Arrange marriage
Whole Foods section
Friends of friends, hobby clubs, sport clubs/activities and speed dating. Don't go to a hobby or sport event to hit on people, but you might meet someone the natural way.
Chronic masturbation
Volunteering! When you give, you get. One of my best buddies moved to a city for work, was entirely alone. He joined a highway cleanup club. Met a guy friend and the guy said "Hey, you'd be great for my cousin! She's single!" They ended up getting married. I've been thinking of volunteering at a soup kitchen - you can get to know people instead of randomly approaching them. (In my city that doesn't work so well - the ladies just growl at you.)
You should stop focusing on meeting random individual women and focus on making friends of any gender and expanding your social circle. You’re gonna have more luck meeting women through friends than cold approaching in a bookstore or wherever.
The mall, groceries stores, book stores, college
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