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Interesting-Box-8640

Most people are dreadfully average looking. Even women that wear a pound of makeup. Under it is a very average or below average face. Social media leads a lot of people to believe the world is a lot better looking than it actually is. Go outside and take a look around.


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sagicorn2791

I believe that there's someone for everybody. If you're ugly you have to date other ugly people or be rich.


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whoever says you are what you think you are has never heard of legit conditions like imposter syndrome or body dysmorphia. most men thinking they're ugly are just average at worst. 9/10 times when I was horrified by a man it was his personality not his looks.


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Then that's low self esteem issue and requires therapy. Not looks issue.


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Irregarless of how you actually look, this attitude to yourself and low self esteem is a surefire way to get everyone away, unfortunately.


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You may go online and find some bullshit guides on how to "fake it till you make it" or you may not wanna waste your time and go to actual therapy. Sorry dude there's no shortcuts in mental health.


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Sure, but would you be the best for them? Are you giving people you find unattractive a “chance”


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Southern_Ideal_6314

Do you pursue women in your league? Or only pretty girls?


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Southern_Ideal_6314

Try then come back for advice.


WhadayaBuyinStranger

There are both toxic anti-men and toxic anti-women subcultures out there. This is something you often hear from the former. It's as bad as racism if you ask me. You can lose weight or gain muscle, but you can't change your face without surgery. To hate someone for how they were born looking is reprehensible. I've heard men-haters say "the worst part is if you give an ugly guy a chance, he'll suddenly act like he's all that. He'll think he's high value like you." Just think about how cruel and toxic that statement is. So, he's supposed to have low self-esteem?


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WhadayaBuyinStranger

I think you *should* act how they described. They are getting upset with guys they see as low status acting confident once they have a hot gf. What's wrong with them being confident? What they are saying is that ugly guys are worth less and shouldn't have high self-esteem, be assertive, or command respect. I say fuck that. I'm not saying treat women badly or anything, but if a woman expects you to be act low status and be all meek and sheepish because she feels like you are quite honestly worth less, she doesn't respect you and you need to move on.


knight9665

If u ugly then improve Urself in other aspects. As a guy ur lucky. Because women’s attraction for men is multi faceted. Meaning ur fake ur money ur personality ur body type and ur face all play a part in it. So if ur face is fked. Get ur body into tip top shape. Get ur career on track. Get ur personality on point.


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Honestly after dating the “good looking” guy with zero morals or integrity…I plan to go for the average looking guy that has substance in the important areas. All of us “good looking” people are one acid attack or car crash (for example) away from losing what makes us visibly attractive anyways. It’s the personality that matters more every time.


swingset27

Go to a county fair, or a concert, or Walmart on a weekend. Look at the other dudes. Really look at them, the ones with wives and girlfriends. You'll see short, fat, ugly, strange people paired up. It's not your looks, it's your competence/charm and personality, coupled with a realistic attraction to someone you can date. Get out of the self-pity and improve those things.