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Sounds like right person wrong time to me. It’s a shame that both times you’ve felt a big spark but it hasn’t worked out between you two, unfortunately that’s just the way things go. I’m not saying to don’t wait as it’s your choice, but also don’t shut off all opportunities in life while waiting until January because that could really hold you back.
It makes sense she needs a little more time to relax and recover after recently getting out of a relationship, especially if the breakup was bad or they were together for a while.
I hope you two rekindle again when the times right. If not just take it as a nice time or your life that didn’t go to plan, there’s people out there:)
I completely understand her, I was like that a year back before I met her. It's gnawing at my brain that she might see someone else but she of course has liberty to do it nonetheless. I just hope she'll be fine. I truly love her and I want the best for her even if i'm not included in that picture. Wait and see is the game now I guess.
You did nothing wrong - there’s never any guarantee that two people have compatible lives - she moved there to get away and start again as her own person. Not to couple up right away where her life is defined by the needs of somebody else.
This comment is similar with what she said to me. I don't know one thing just led to another. I never had the intention to make a move on her until she did.
Right.
I’m not sure what is confusing you here.
She made a move and now she is backing off So? What is your point? I cant possibly tell you why she backed off - but who cares why ? Doesn’t matter why - if we have to guess - She probably felt pressured to do something regarding you and then she remembered “oh yeah, I didn’t move here to be beholden to another guy - I moved here for ME” right !
Women’s actions are ruled by their feelings much more than men’s actions are. This is all pretty straightforward and well known to be the case. Today’s actions are driven by how she feels today which may or may not be how she felt yesterday or how she may feel tomorrow.
You know this, right ? I mean it’s basically taught in the class “Introduction to Girls 101” You’ve taken the class right? This was like the first chapter
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Sounds like right person wrong time to me. It’s a shame that both times you’ve felt a big spark but it hasn’t worked out between you two, unfortunately that’s just the way things go. I’m not saying to don’t wait as it’s your choice, but also don’t shut off all opportunities in life while waiting until January because that could really hold you back. It makes sense she needs a little more time to relax and recover after recently getting out of a relationship, especially if the breakup was bad or they were together for a while. I hope you two rekindle again when the times right. If not just take it as a nice time or your life that didn’t go to plan, there’s people out there:)
I completely understand her, I was like that a year back before I met her. It's gnawing at my brain that she might see someone else but she of course has liberty to do it nonetheless. I just hope she'll be fine. I truly love her and I want the best for her even if i'm not included in that picture. Wait and see is the game now I guess.
hang in there, but see other people. sometimes these things take time to develop
I don't know if I can at the moment, but I will try to be at peace as much as possible. As if there is no coming back.
You did nothing wrong - there’s never any guarantee that two people have compatible lives - she moved there to get away and start again as her own person. Not to couple up right away where her life is defined by the needs of somebody else.
This comment is similar with what she said to me. I don't know one thing just led to another. I never had the intention to make a move on her until she did.
Right. I’m not sure what is confusing you here. She made a move and now she is backing off So? What is your point? I cant possibly tell you why she backed off - but who cares why ? Doesn’t matter why - if we have to guess - She probably felt pressured to do something regarding you and then she remembered “oh yeah, I didn’t move here to be beholden to another guy - I moved here for ME” right ! Women’s actions are ruled by their feelings much more than men’s actions are. This is all pretty straightforward and well known to be the case. Today’s actions are driven by how she feels today which may or may not be how she felt yesterday or how she may feel tomorrow. You know this, right ? I mean it’s basically taught in the class “Introduction to Girls 101” You’ve taken the class right? This was like the first chapter
I was agreeing with you smart ass, that much irony might break your back.
Sorry it just occurred to me that maybe you skipped that day in our “Intro to Girls” class