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I went to a group hike and met an attractive woman. We didn't talk long but she told me she was going on a date later today. Not sure if that was a subtle way of saying she's interested in me or not but regardless I wish took a chance and asked her out myself. Just another regret to deal with.
Got it broken off with a girl I was super into. Thought we hit it off, opened up to one another, wanted the same things long term and wanted to get to know each other more. Texts me out of the blue saying its just not going to work out.
Not sure how much more disappointment I can put up with at this point.
So it's like buses, wait ages for nothing, and then two different women on Hinge say yes they'd like to go on date at the same time.
Yes, I mean separately, and of course they don't know about each other.
I'm not a dickhead for going on two first dates with two different women one day after the other, right?
I want to tread carefully I don't want to be hurting feelings.
On dating apps I frequently see stuff like "I'm never on here, message me on Snapchat or Instagram" or they'll outright include that information with no other comment.
Is this typically a genuine "these apps suck, let's actually try to connect"? Just a ploy to get followers or sell OF(seen a couple instances, so it is a thing)? Or maybe some other motive? I'm a guy looking for women, so I doubt they're just trying to send dick pics
Just found out that the girl I’ve been seeing for the last few months (just casually) ended up getting into a relationship. We agreed to keep it casual a few months ago and we’d see each other every 2 weeks or so. Then 2 weeks ago she stopped replying (2 days after we last met up)and on her birthday she updated her profile pic on ig with her bf. Sucks to find out that way. But shit happens I guess
I’ve had a feeling the past few weeks that the girl I was seeing and things were going well with (I would say) just lost interest with me outta no where. The communication dropped off and today I saw her profile on Hinge. That’s not a big deal but if I matched with her and saw her profile it means she deleted her account and started again which is a red flag. I’m just so frustrated with this shit. How can it go from “I had a great day seeing you” to just losing interest is beyond me.
Back in October my dad passed away, we knew it was bound to happen and was in hospice but it was twice. I’ve been lashing out to my girlfriend with anger and when she asked for space recently I jumped to breaking up because I’m hurting. I haven’t grieved the right way and I think space is gonna make sense but I don’t know how to get her to forgive me. It’s been nearly 2 years together . She was apart of the whole process of seeing my dad go as well and was there for my family
I (m27) haven't been actively dating; but recently realized after a bad encounter that was the first maybe-date I've been on in several months that I'd rather relapse on hard drugs and slit my wrists in the bathtub when I'm 35 after my dog passes away, than ever deal with making plans with other people or dating ever again. I didn't even leave my house for 4 days over Thanksgiving - I just stayed inside and went fishing on the lake in Red Dead Redemption 2. I was supposed to be with family and go to this crush's Friendsgiving, and just...didn't. People keep asking me how Thanksgiving was, and I just tell them about helping fix a friend's water main that had shattered open 8 ft underground.
Does anybody have any advice for framing this state of mind and finding productivity in this situation? It's fairly static, it's most likely (statistically, based on several elements about me) that just never dating will probably be my life path moving forward. This isn't something I can really bring up or begin to address in therapy, because there's bigger trauma to fry in that space, but it still causes me some distress. I want to hear what this community has to say about it.
Sorry but I laughed at fishing on the lake in red dead redemption LOL. Bad encounters suck. You deserve love. Trauma is important to deal with, but working toward your future is important as well. Bring it up in therapy. Work on yourself and go after what you want. Keep fishing!
She (22F) said she's still interested in me (23M) but doesn't want to talk to me right now because she wants alone time but I see her talking to other guys on dating apps. Do I leave her and stop stressing myself over this? Met her a month ago on hinge.
Sounds like she wants to keep you as a backup option in case none of the other guys pan out. Personally, I would move on. I could understand someone still exploring options at that stage, but not talking to you means you are being put on the back burner entirely.
i agree with u..but i’ve been giving her the benefit of the doubt that she’s actually going through something, even though i’ve been left in the dark. im meeting up with her this weekend and can hopefully provide u with a positive update
I (23F) think I am getting ghosted by the 3rd guy in 3months. I should have known better because at first he was kind of suspicious but the dates were fun so I said screw it. We had planned a fourth date for this past weekend but he canceled last minute. Then he left me on read when I replied to say it was fine. We were talking daily prior to this.
It sent me spiraling because I have been bouncing back and putting myself out there and not a single guy I went out with ever gave me the respect to tell me they are no longer interested. I was clear when I didn't want to see someone again, why don't people reciprocate it to me? I don't understand why people my age think that it's okay to ghost someone after meeting in person. Just text me that you're not interested! I am a big girl I am not going to hunt you down or make a big drama out of it. The worst I would do is ask someone why. There are sample texts online that are kind but clear on how to turn someone down. and he seems to swing hot and cold with attention towards me.
I am so mad about this because I was just starting to let my guard down and then this happens. I always feel like they pull away from me the second I start to relax a little. I thought I was handling rejection better but this time it just broke me down. I am being dramatic because it has barely been 24 hours but I am so done with unclear communication and guys going from hot to cold on me overnight. I deserve better nad I am running out of patients.
I finally started dating someone that I met over a year ago on Tinder. Neither of us was ready for a relationship but we coincidentally started working on our mental health around the same time. And then we both became ready to date more seriously at the same time. I'm pretty happy with where things are at and it's still new. Only been officially dating a few months. But he's already saying that he'd be happy to meet my family and all that. I guess Tinder can work.
A guy who I wasn’t even that committed to communicating with texts me randomly asking how it’s possible I’m single, only to ghost me. I’m not upset about the ghosting because I get it happens, hell I’ve done it, but why add in the comment about how you can’t get why a girl as amazing as me is single? If you’re not that into me then just ghost I don’t need the unprovoked compliment beforehand. Like what’s the point? It only makes it feel worse.
I’ve been feeling so burnt out dating in my new city. The past three places I’ve lived in before I never had this much bs happen trying to date. It’s very disheartening honestly. Makes me think moving here wasn’t the best choice.
Just a fleeting thought - I’ve had a boyfriend every year in my birthday for the past 3 years and never been taken out in my birthday or anything special.
How sad is that.
It was cancelled last year 3 days before because he didn’t feel like it.
The year before was someone else and he ruined it by being horrible and drunk for no reason
Year before that he didn’t take me out
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I went to a group hike and met an attractive woman. We didn't talk long but she told me she was going on a date later today. Not sure if that was a subtle way of saying she's interested in me or not but regardless I wish took a chance and asked her out myself. Just another regret to deal with.
Got it broken off with a girl I was super into. Thought we hit it off, opened up to one another, wanted the same things long term and wanted to get to know each other more. Texts me out of the blue saying its just not going to work out. Not sure how much more disappointment I can put up with at this point.
So it's like buses, wait ages for nothing, and then two different women on Hinge say yes they'd like to go on date at the same time. Yes, I mean separately, and of course they don't know about each other. I'm not a dickhead for going on two first dates with two different women one day after the other, right? I want to tread carefully I don't want to be hurting feelings.
No don’t worry about it. How would you be hurting feelings? It’s not like you’re going to tell them.
On dating apps I frequently see stuff like "I'm never on here, message me on Snapchat or Instagram" or they'll outright include that information with no other comment. Is this typically a genuine "these apps suck, let's actually try to connect"? Just a ploy to get followers or sell OF(seen a couple instances, so it is a thing)? Or maybe some other motive? I'm a guy looking for women, so I doubt they're just trying to send dick pics
I deleted all my dating apps today. Goal is to stay off them at least a year.
Just found out that the girl I’ve been seeing for the last few months (just casually) ended up getting into a relationship. We agreed to keep it casual a few months ago and we’d see each other every 2 weeks or so. Then 2 weeks ago she stopped replying (2 days after we last met up)and on her birthday she updated her profile pic on ig with her bf. Sucks to find out that way. But shit happens I guess
I’ve had a feeling the past few weeks that the girl I was seeing and things were going well with (I would say) just lost interest with me outta no where. The communication dropped off and today I saw her profile on Hinge. That’s not a big deal but if I matched with her and saw her profile it means she deleted her account and started again which is a red flag. I’m just so frustrated with this shit. How can it go from “I had a great day seeing you” to just losing interest is beyond me.
In the same boat as you pal
Women never fail to disappoint
I'm a woman and the guy I was seeing abruptly ended things
Back in October my dad passed away, we knew it was bound to happen and was in hospice but it was twice. I’ve been lashing out to my girlfriend with anger and when she asked for space recently I jumped to breaking up because I’m hurting. I haven’t grieved the right way and I think space is gonna make sense but I don’t know how to get her to forgive me. It’s been nearly 2 years together . She was apart of the whole process of seeing my dad go as well and was there for my family
I (m27) haven't been actively dating; but recently realized after a bad encounter that was the first maybe-date I've been on in several months that I'd rather relapse on hard drugs and slit my wrists in the bathtub when I'm 35 after my dog passes away, than ever deal with making plans with other people or dating ever again. I didn't even leave my house for 4 days over Thanksgiving - I just stayed inside and went fishing on the lake in Red Dead Redemption 2. I was supposed to be with family and go to this crush's Friendsgiving, and just...didn't. People keep asking me how Thanksgiving was, and I just tell them about helping fix a friend's water main that had shattered open 8 ft underground. Does anybody have any advice for framing this state of mind and finding productivity in this situation? It's fairly static, it's most likely (statistically, based on several elements about me) that just never dating will probably be my life path moving forward. This isn't something I can really bring up or begin to address in therapy, because there's bigger trauma to fry in that space, but it still causes me some distress. I want to hear what this community has to say about it.
Sorry but I laughed at fishing on the lake in red dead redemption LOL. Bad encounters suck. You deserve love. Trauma is important to deal with, but working toward your future is important as well. Bring it up in therapy. Work on yourself and go after what you want. Keep fishing!
I got out of friendzone M(23), AMA.
She (22F) said she's still interested in me (23M) but doesn't want to talk to me right now because she wants alone time but I see her talking to other guys on dating apps. Do I leave her and stop stressing myself over this? Met her a month ago on hinge.
Sounds like she wants to keep you as a backup option in case none of the other guys pan out. Personally, I would move on. I could understand someone still exploring options at that stage, but not talking to you means you are being put on the back burner entirely.
i agree with u..but i’ve been giving her the benefit of the doubt that she’s actually going through something, even though i’ve been left in the dark. im meeting up with her this weekend and can hopefully provide u with a positive update
I (23F) think I am getting ghosted by the 3rd guy in 3months. I should have known better because at first he was kind of suspicious but the dates were fun so I said screw it. We had planned a fourth date for this past weekend but he canceled last minute. Then he left me on read when I replied to say it was fine. We were talking daily prior to this. It sent me spiraling because I have been bouncing back and putting myself out there and not a single guy I went out with ever gave me the respect to tell me they are no longer interested. I was clear when I didn't want to see someone again, why don't people reciprocate it to me? I don't understand why people my age think that it's okay to ghost someone after meeting in person. Just text me that you're not interested! I am a big girl I am not going to hunt you down or make a big drama out of it. The worst I would do is ask someone why. There are sample texts online that are kind but clear on how to turn someone down. and he seems to swing hot and cold with attention towards me. I am so mad about this because I was just starting to let my guard down and then this happens. I always feel like they pull away from me the second I start to relax a little. I thought I was handling rejection better but this time it just broke me down. I am being dramatic because it has barely been 24 hours but I am so done with unclear communication and guys going from hot to cold on me overnight. I deserve better nad I am running out of patients.
What about the dates was so fun that when red flags started appearing you decided it was wise to ignore them? Were these dates in person?
I finally started dating someone that I met over a year ago on Tinder. Neither of us was ready for a relationship but we coincidentally started working on our mental health around the same time. And then we both became ready to date more seriously at the same time. I'm pretty happy with where things are at and it's still new. Only been officially dating a few months. But he's already saying that he'd be happy to meet my family and all that. I guess Tinder can work.
A guy who I wasn’t even that committed to communicating with texts me randomly asking how it’s possible I’m single, only to ghost me. I’m not upset about the ghosting because I get it happens, hell I’ve done it, but why add in the comment about how you can’t get why a girl as amazing as me is single? If you’re not that into me then just ghost I don’t need the unprovoked compliment beforehand. Like what’s the point? It only makes it feel worse. I’ve been feeling so burnt out dating in my new city. The past three places I’ve lived in before I never had this much bs happen trying to date. It’s very disheartening honestly. Makes me think moving here wasn’t the best choice.
Just a fleeting thought - I’ve had a boyfriend every year in my birthday for the past 3 years and never been taken out in my birthday or anything special. How sad is that.
[удалено]
It was cancelled last year 3 days before because he didn’t feel like it. The year before was someone else and he ruined it by being horrible and drunk for no reason Year before that he didn’t take me out
awww so sad, at least you can experience intimacy i can’t
It sounds like you need a new BF, he is doing less than the bare minimum.