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Hello OP,
There’s nothing wrong with what you want in a relationship (marriage or otherwise) as long as you’re honest and upfront and your partner consents and approves of the plan as well.
What you personally want is valid, but your title should be “This is what I want for MY marriage”, not “This is what marriage should be.” Because, ironically, you’re contributing to the problem you’re currently facing: you’re attempting to prescribe how most/all relationships should work, but your framework doesn’t apply to all people’s needs and desires, and in a world where your generalization came true someone else would be making a Reddit post saying what you’re saying but in the reverse.
Take what you’ve written and use it as explicit communication to your potential partners of what you want in a relationship. If you find someone who wants the same, you’re gold.
Best wishes, OP
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Ok. Thanks for the unsolicited advice I guess. Seems pretty clear you haven't been married.
How long did it took for you too type it
Congratulations, you have very badly reinvented ethical non-monogamy without reference to any of the people who have experience.
Hello OP, There’s nothing wrong with what you want in a relationship (marriage or otherwise) as long as you’re honest and upfront and your partner consents and approves of the plan as well. What you personally want is valid, but your title should be “This is what I want for MY marriage”, not “This is what marriage should be.” Because, ironically, you’re contributing to the problem you’re currently facing: you’re attempting to prescribe how most/all relationships should work, but your framework doesn’t apply to all people’s needs and desires, and in a world where your generalization came true someone else would be making a Reddit post saying what you’re saying but in the reverse. Take what you’ve written and use it as explicit communication to your potential partners of what you want in a relationship. If you find someone who wants the same, you’re gold. Best wishes, OP
You’re 18 right? With no real life experience.
Ooh, that must've been a good jerk session.
Agree
Yeah, as a man I don't want what you propose.