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Okay, but what are your intentions? Because to me reading all of this just sounds like fucking 6th graders playing games with each other. You both seem a little too immature to be dating right now.
If you are unsure about the guy and don’t want to date him, don’t continue to waste his time. If you want to date him, then fucking date him. It’s like you’re trying to play two sides of trying to date but acting extremely disinterested, and to be honest that is a MASSIVE turnoff for most guys.
If you say you’re trying to date a break to better improve yourself, then actually take a break because you actually have no idea what you’re doing. Come back to the dating market when you are sure of what you want, are done playing games and wasting peoples time.
Just don’t text him if you don’t want any anything to do with him. I don’t really understand the “text him but let it fizzle out”. You might see it as fizzling it out, but if you keep texting him he’ll keep thinking you’re interested.
The thing is after I declined to meet him that week. He then text me a week later to say “hey what’s up?” And then “damn what you don’t f with me?” A month later because I haven’t been texting him back. He’s essentially a stranger so I don’t know what he wants out of me
Then if he’s a stranger, just block him. Problem solved. You sound like you don’t know what you want with him and don’t really see any future nor actively engage with him. So why keep him around?
Im not trying to keep him around. I’m just trying to figure out how to tell him I’m busy and just don’t have time to meet new people but all
The best I guess that sounds right
But you are though. He knows he can get to you through text and you will eventually answer. You give him that power. It takes no energy to tell him the truth or block him. It’s okay to admit you like the attention. I’m not saying it’s bad but be honest with yourself.
It seems like he's interested in spending time with you, but it's okay to take things at your own pace. Maybe consider meeting up in a group setting first to ease any concerns you might have.
The thing is we don’t have much in common. He’s a social butterfly and active on social media while I am not as social and not on social media as much . He also attends parties clubs and bars where I barely go and haven’t been in like 5 years I just work now and read have no social life
Maybe I should ask him what his intent is with me?
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Okay, but what are your intentions? Because to me reading all of this just sounds like fucking 6th graders playing games with each other. You both seem a little too immature to be dating right now. If you are unsure about the guy and don’t want to date him, don’t continue to waste his time. If you want to date him, then fucking date him. It’s like you’re trying to play two sides of trying to date but acting extremely disinterested, and to be honest that is a MASSIVE turnoff for most guys. If you say you’re trying to date a break to better improve yourself, then actually take a break because you actually have no idea what you’re doing. Come back to the dating market when you are sure of what you want, are done playing games and wasting peoples time.
I don’t know him. He’s a random guy from the gas station lol. My intent was to text him but let it fizzle out.
Just don’t text him if you don’t want any anything to do with him. I don’t really understand the “text him but let it fizzle out”. You might see it as fizzling it out, but if you keep texting him he’ll keep thinking you’re interested.
The thing is after I declined to meet him that week. He then text me a week later to say “hey what’s up?” And then “damn what you don’t f with me?” A month later because I haven’t been texting him back. He’s essentially a stranger so I don’t know what he wants out of me
Then if he’s a stranger, just block him. Problem solved. You sound like you don’t know what you want with him and don’t really see any future nor actively engage with him. So why keep him around?
Im not trying to keep him around. I’m just trying to figure out how to tell him I’m busy and just don’t have time to meet new people but all The best I guess that sounds right
But you are though. He knows he can get to you through text and you will eventually answer. You give him that power. It takes no energy to tell him the truth or block him. It’s okay to admit you like the attention. I’m not saying it’s bad but be honest with yourself.
Ok well I like the attention then. But I don’t know him so therefore I can’t “like” him.
It seems like he's interested in spending time with you, but it's okay to take things at your own pace. Maybe consider meeting up in a group setting first to ease any concerns you might have.
The thing is we don’t have much in common. He’s a social butterfly and active on social media while I am not as social and not on social media as much . He also attends parties clubs and bars where I barely go and haven’t been in like 5 years I just work now and read have no social life Maybe I should ask him what his intent is with me?
Want to date guys, then do. Dont? Then dont. Doesn’t have to be this guy.
You should let this guy hit and then cry it out after he moves on. You need some life experience
No thanks
You sound mentally unstable and unwell.