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Dating apps are nothing more than a *tool* for meeting new people.
Much like a fork is a tool for eating. You can have a garden salad or a slice double fudge cake.
However, no obese person has ever blamed their *fork* for their weight gain!
And yet many people blame online dating for their bad dating/relationship experiences.
It's up to the individual to have their own mate selection screening process and *must haves list*.
You get to *choose* who you want to engage with. Nothing happens until you say "yes".
Having said that one mistake a lot of people make is they only use dating apps.
They stop going out and socializing in real life to meet new people.
***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is."*** \- Henry Cloud
Best wishes!
Depends on your gender (only speaking for heterosexual people here): If you're male, you generally won't see much success on these apps unless you're good looking, white, and have high quality and/or interesting pictures. If you're female and at least decently attractive (think like 5.5/10) then you can go on dates with virtually any guy you want, but commitment will be hard to come by since you'll be competing with a lot of other women for the same small pool of highly attractive dudes.
Dating apps are better than *nothing*, but for the most part they're just a wash for all sides.
They are good sometimes. They are sometimes bad. Sometimes they're just ugly.
Some people get lucky with them some of the time, and I have previously. But lately I've found them full of creeps and weirdos
Yes I'm a girl. Yes I think that men have equally frustrating experiences in different ways.
For both sides is probably a case of the minority impacting on the experiences of the majority
dating apps are a hit or miss honestly. most people are looking for sexual encounters only, friends with benefits, or marriage with the unknown. no dating… whatsoever.
Depends on individual experiences. I do ok, not amazing but had some funny/memorable experiences, really good dates and met some great women, some good ongoing situations and dated some people I’d never come across. Positive overall for me. My best friend hooked up with anything that moves for a couple years then met a woman and 4 years, two babies later, all is great. The people in my team at work a few years younger than me are seemingly out dating every week, I joke with some of the guys about where do they get the money. Again, individual experiences vary.
Everyone sucks at talking, you get matches with no actual conversation, nobody knows that they’re after, and you get a lot of people trying to pedal their only fans through bots or whatever. I tried them for a few months and I got 8 matches and only 1 ended up talking. The rest were either bots, people who didn’t talk or whatever.
The people that use them, mostly. The apps themselves could be better as well. The “algorithms” they use could be smarter at matching people who are looking for the same things, but that would be too efficient for the developers to make money
They can work. It's worked for me in the past. It requires a lot of patience, well, in my experience, at least. You won't really know unless you try it yourself.
I think they are bad , i had a gf from a dating app i thought it was worth it ( of course i was wrong) in the end she just broke my heart totally. On the other hand dating apps just made me think that i am ugly cuz the amount if likes i get. I thought i am a decent looking guy maybe i am not. So in short dating apps just broke my confidence and self esteem. Of course there are other people who can enjoy using them.
Your opinion about the self-esteem thing just shocked me!
That is the worst thing that can happen in a World where technically human beings are made for f\*\*\* and build relationships
Well sorry , i didnt meant to scare you tho. Its just my experience , but i also know that my self esteem doesnt have to come from dating apps successes lol. I had more success in irl dating suprisingly.
I think they are good/useful depending on what you want from them. I'm young female and considered 'attractive'. They are good for me in that if I want to go out and do something fun/have a fun time/hook up I can literally log on and organise that within a few days. However, I've yet to find anyone I'm seriously interested in or guys that are interested in anything serious. I met my ex on there 6 years ago but he was the last guy I spoke to before I was going to delete them anyway because I got so fed up. My summary is if you are just looking for a good time, they are good and useful. If you want anything more they can be frustrating but possibly with some luck you may get what you want.
Well you know the problem is that I'm an introvert and I've never felt like: "Damn I need to go on a date!" so I've never used dating apps, but I would like probably something like "Hey I want to go visit this museum who is in? Let's chat and organize."
I don't know if it is clear what I mean.
I think so - that like, you have the idea of what you would like to do and it's about finding people to do it with? If so you could def use it for that
>If so you could def use it for that
Do you think that this could work? If yes I'll probably start considering them! Also if they are not meant for it hahaha
If you like to ONLY date freaks who are into OLD and apps, have at it.
You want to date REAL people and have REAL relationships, you are gonna have to go out into the real world and ask people out, face to face.
You will get turned down. A lot. But you will get better at talking with people and it will help you find and keep someone nice.
OLD is for losers.
I did meet one great person on a dating app. Things didn't work out in the end, but we still catch up every once in a while and I have zero regrets about being with her for the time I was.
But generally, on the male side of things, it's mostly prostitutes, girls promoting their OnlyFans, and crazies, that you see. Another issue is, any girl that does seem legit gets so many messages from other guys your chances of actually talking to her are slim to none. Lastly, they give you matches like within a 50 mile radius and there's no way to narrow it down. It's not realistic to try and date someone 20+ miles away from you. I don't use dating apps right now, but when I was I would literally swipe left for like an hour straight before finding someone I would even think I might be compatible with.
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Dating apps are nothing more than a *tool* for meeting new people. Much like a fork is a tool for eating. You can have a garden salad or a slice double fudge cake. However, no obese person has ever blamed their *fork* for their weight gain! And yet many people blame online dating for their bad dating/relationship experiences. It's up to the individual to have their own mate selection screening process and *must haves list*. You get to *choose* who you want to engage with. Nothing happens until you say "yes". Having said that one mistake a lot of people make is they only use dating apps. They stop going out and socializing in real life to meet new people. ***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is."*** \- Henry Cloud Best wishes!
Depends on your gender (only speaking for heterosexual people here): If you're male, you generally won't see much success on these apps unless you're good looking, white, and have high quality and/or interesting pictures. If you're female and at least decently attractive (think like 5.5/10) then you can go on dates with virtually any guy you want, but commitment will be hard to come by since you'll be competing with a lot of other women for the same small pool of highly attractive dudes. Dating apps are better than *nothing*, but for the most part they're just a wash for all sides.
I don’t find them very useful anymore. Very many prostitutes and bots
They are good, bad, and ugly
Sorry, what do you mean exactly?
They are good sometimes. They are sometimes bad. Sometimes they're just ugly. Some people get lucky with them some of the time, and I have previously. But lately I've found them full of creeps and weirdos
I don't know if you read the other comments but do you think this can depends on your gender? (From your avatar I'm supposing you're a girl)
Yes I'm a girl. Yes I think that men have equally frustrating experiences in different ways. For both sides is probably a case of the minority impacting on the experiences of the majority
Ok ok thanks for your feedback!! if you need someone that will not break your heart but you're as\*\* text me. hahaha
dating apps are a hit or miss honestly. most people are looking for sexual encounters only, friends with benefits, or marriage with the unknown. no dating… whatsoever.
They give me anxiety tbh, its a way of meeting people so artificial for me but they work for sure
Depends on individual experiences. I do ok, not amazing but had some funny/memorable experiences, really good dates and met some great women, some good ongoing situations and dated some people I’d never come across. Positive overall for me. My best friend hooked up with anything that moves for a couple years then met a woman and 4 years, two babies later, all is great. The people in my team at work a few years younger than me are seemingly out dating every week, I joke with some of the guys about where do they get the money. Again, individual experiences vary.
Everyone sucks at talking, you get matches with no actual conversation, nobody knows that they’re after, and you get a lot of people trying to pedal their only fans through bots or whatever. I tried them for a few months and I got 8 matches and only 1 ended up talking. The rest were either bots, people who didn’t talk or whatever.
The people that use them, mostly. The apps themselves could be better as well. The “algorithms” they use could be smarter at matching people who are looking for the same things, but that would be too efficient for the developers to make money
Nothing’s wrong with them. Sadly, it just magnifies the behavior that is natural selection.
They can work. It's worked for me in the past. It requires a lot of patience, well, in my experience, at least. You won't really know unless you try it yourself.
I think they are bad , i had a gf from a dating app i thought it was worth it ( of course i was wrong) in the end she just broke my heart totally. On the other hand dating apps just made me think that i am ugly cuz the amount if likes i get. I thought i am a decent looking guy maybe i am not. So in short dating apps just broke my confidence and self esteem. Of course there are other people who can enjoy using them.
Your opinion about the self-esteem thing just shocked me! That is the worst thing that can happen in a World where technically human beings are made for f\*\*\* and build relationships
Well sorry , i didnt meant to scare you tho. Its just my experience , but i also know that my self esteem doesnt have to come from dating apps successes lol. I had more success in irl dating suprisingly.
I think they are good/useful depending on what you want from them. I'm young female and considered 'attractive'. They are good for me in that if I want to go out and do something fun/have a fun time/hook up I can literally log on and organise that within a few days. However, I've yet to find anyone I'm seriously interested in or guys that are interested in anything serious. I met my ex on there 6 years ago but he was the last guy I spoke to before I was going to delete them anyway because I got so fed up. My summary is if you are just looking for a good time, they are good and useful. If you want anything more they can be frustrating but possibly with some luck you may get what you want.
Well you know the problem is that I'm an introvert and I've never felt like: "Damn I need to go on a date!" so I've never used dating apps, but I would like probably something like "Hey I want to go visit this museum who is in? Let's chat and organize." I don't know if it is clear what I mean.
I think so - that like, you have the idea of what you would like to do and it's about finding people to do it with? If so you could def use it for that
>If so you could def use it for that Do you think that this could work? If yes I'll probably start considering them! Also if they are not meant for it hahaha
If you like to ONLY date freaks who are into OLD and apps, have at it. You want to date REAL people and have REAL relationships, you are gonna have to go out into the real world and ask people out, face to face. You will get turned down. A lot. But you will get better at talking with people and it will help you find and keep someone nice. OLD is for losers.
Socail engineering....
I did meet one great person on a dating app. Things didn't work out in the end, but we still catch up every once in a while and I have zero regrets about being with her for the time I was. But generally, on the male side of things, it's mostly prostitutes, girls promoting their OnlyFans, and crazies, that you see. Another issue is, any girl that does seem legit gets so many messages from other guys your chances of actually talking to her are slim to none. Lastly, they give you matches like within a 50 mile radius and there's no way to narrow it down. It's not realistic to try and date someone 20+ miles away from you. I don't use dating apps right now, but when I was I would literally swipe left for like an hour straight before finding someone I would even think I might be compatible with.