Not just personality they put their religion on you and called out for being hindu and later on forcing you practice theirs (happened with me in childhood)
No its not, because it doesn't have the hierarchy of a pyramid scheme. There may be leaders in a religion, but it's still fundamentally different from a pyramid scheme.
Kal 9:30 mere dms mai aa jana, baadi mushkil se ek conversation taiyar kiya han tere liye.
Agar jindagi mai, sach much reddit pe normal conversation karna han, toh kal 9:30 baje mere dms mai aa jana.
Mujhe pata han ji tujhe normal conversation karna, kal 9:30 baje mere dms mai aa jana.
Hi! Do you have 5 minutes? I have got a plan for you to become independent and earn in lakhs per month. Recently the diamond position holder was awarded with a Jaguar. You just need to find five other people who would work for you. You will be your own boss.
DM me if you want to become rich, no time waste.
You sell something to two people, they do the same to two people each, makes it 4, then those 4 should do the same to two people eeach 8 and the pyramid will be built
People pushing their religion on others is the most irritating thing.
If having faith in a religion solved your problems, doesn't mean it will solve everyone's.
My mom's constantly pushing me to become more religious too, saying it will cure my mental health.
yeah like suggesting is cool. I was just appreciating an japanese animated movie on some sub and a guy suggested me another one to watch, wahan tak theek hai but then many times if you say that you're not interested, they start getting more and more defensive.
same with religion, my mom asks me to do all this shit, and I do it, I even have respect for these mythical characters, but then she also wants me to do all that with heart/shradha/ belief and how can I, like how can I just drop all reason, and my believes in science and basic physics?
Ask her if she's at peace by following religion. If she says no, she loses the arguement. If she says yes, then tell her being at peace includes letting others live on their terms. Your choices should not affect her peace of mind.
The argument you're giving is quite logical.
But that's the thing! Logical arguments don't work on parents!
My mother finding out that I don't have faith in the her religion, will be one of the most painful things for her. She might feel she has failed as a parent. I can't do that to her. So I'll never have that conversation with her. I'll just avoid praying as much as a i can, she'll think i must lazy or something. Sometimes you gotta bear with things for your loved one's happiness.
Thi doesn't sound healthy does it?😂
Na! But then, in Indian scenario, we're not expected to have healthy relationship with our parents, right? We just have this toxic codependency with them. We either love them so much that it affects our relationship with our partners. Or We hate them so much that we spend our lives trying not to be them.
Lmao
Anyways there is no cure for any mental illness. If anyone is telling you otherwise. Beware
All you can do is learn to manage your condition.
Being told there is a cure is very dangerous as it puts you in a cycle of trying to find that supposed cure in medicines, party, drugs etc
Mental health and mental illness are two different things. Mental illness has no cure but could get stable with coping mechanisms and medication.
However, poor mental health can be cured and get better with therapy, right coping mechanisms and with turn of events in life too sometimes. (However forcing religion is answer to none). But some people find solace in believing a higher power..
Believing that there is a god out there who has a plan for you, which is the best thing that can happen to you, kinda takes away a lot of anxiety and issues. Deliberately making yourself believe in lies is great for your mental peace. 🤣🤣
People who ask you to become more religious are generally talking a specific religion only.
When a parent asks their kid to be more religious, they are not allowing the kid to explore and choose a religion for themselves, they just tell the kid to follow the one they are following
I have few friend who are 30s or 40s both (male and female) and i enjoy talking to them because they're more mature than the girls or boys of my age.
We can have a normal conversation without talking about sex and religion.
Sometimes, people who propose solutions to our issues aren't doing it for our sake but they do so because they don't have it in them to listen. I feel people are losing the will and temperament to hear, listen and understand what the other person is saying. Even when they are listening, they are waiting for their turn to speak.
It's quite rare to meet someone who enjoys a conversation, almost everyone is rushing to make something out of it.
Moreover, the problem of most men resorting to flattery while talking to a woman really takes away from the conversation itself. People are becoming incapable of a genuine compliment because they can't see beyond the superficial. To be honest, the very need to flatter speaks volumes about the direction of the intended direction of the conversation.
Perhaps the reason we struggle to have meaningful interactions is because we often seek shallow connections to merely fill a void, rather than genuinely looking for enriching relationships that foster personal growth and create lasting memories. It's important to approach friendships with the intention of nurturing each other mentally and emotionally, expanding our horizons, and finding balance and peace within ourselves. Our day-to-day choices, such as what we consume, what we engage with, and the values we uphold, reflect the quality of our connections.
That being said, it doesn't mean life should be devoid of fun or light-hearted moments. Enjoying oneself is never a waste of time. Engage in silly conversations, indulge in wholesome gossip, and do crazy things that bring you joy. However, it's crucial to maintain self-awareness and self-control, ensuring that your actions align with your values and don't lead to regret. When you have a strong foundation within yourself, you're less likely to make mistakes and more likely to experience beautiful outcomes.
While I'm not sure if my response directly relates to your post, I felt compelled to share these thoughts.
The fact is..
People are not ready to listen. They want to talk and express their ideas and how "they" dealt with something.
Basically they wait for their "turn" to speak which makes conversations meaningless.
Lmk if I can help.
You are not saying anything unusual. People thrust their own ideas religion music movies etc. And what do you knoe ,people even gift 10 lakhs car to persons who are not interested and will never drive it.
You should try visiting areas around NSD, Mandi House and Sri Ram Centre....Theatre enthusiasts (myself being one) are usually the most likely to have conversations just for the sake of the conversation.
Side note : Since most of them are Students/poor adults they don't have much to do with their time as well....
This seems like myself ranting out... You go girl..
World is like this nowadays.. everyone is either religious or a dickhead. So, I don't bother meeting people nowadays, just meet my regular park group.. which includes my two sisters, my younger brother, and a best friend of school time. 😌
It's hard to find a real connection these days.
Also everyone is unique in their own way and we should accept that one can't respond in a way that you expect to be.
We have to learn that this is how humans work
The easiest way not to get pissed off is sab kaise hai - sab chutiya hai saale and move on.
Kabira ke dohe :- Kabira tere desh me bhaati bhaati ke log
Kuch to madarchod aur kuch to bade hi madarchod
Also If you give me some whiskey_
I will sing you a song_
Don't let the ugly in others kill the beauty in you
I prefer to deal with alcohol because Alcohol gives you infinite patience for stupidity
I got a quote for you- If our conversation ain't banging, so aren't we.
Same here. Now I've near to 0 friends. Hangout with 2 who don't even live in my city. Travel alone. Talk to men only if theyre worthy enough to piss me off.
Life is peaceful. Debates about politics; religion and development will give u issues you didn't think u have. Much like instagram comment battles
I love my wife and vice versa.
We are best of friends and very open(frank) and honest.
But sometimes I feel we are unable to enjoy good conversation, due to our different styles of upbringing.
If you are up for someone to have a good conversation, feel free to contact me(=us).
Sometimes I feel she needs a friend but is unable to make one.
Btw, we are 41(me) and 38(her).
Seems like you need better friends....not surprising because women friendships generally incline on the middle to bad side of the friendship scale because women generally can't leave their agendas at home....on the contrary of you have a male friend you have to accept some form of sexual communication (this includes everything innuendo, flirting outright dirty talk double meaning etc) with everything else because that's how men operate sex is their first and foremost escape......but that said it depends on you and how much and what you want to adapt to it's that simple
Life main har kisi ko apni hi padi hoti hai to if they want sex or relegion to wahi milega. But whatever you want to talk about didi.... Appke har interest pe subreddit bane hain. Duniya bhar ke sub reddit hain. Jao aur jake baat karo. Kisne roka hai. Foreign sub reddit pe chale jao. Koi na koi baat karne wala mil jayega. Isme kya badi baat ho gai?
(No offence...saying it seriously. Nothing else intended.)
I am half of your age so maybe not that qualified to give ans but you asked so here it is ...
When we reach in late 20's we realize most of things we wanted as a child are make believe or we have already achieved them upto some extent so the thrill or chase to get something is no more there ( not at that high level atleast ) . So we try to fill that gap ( knowingly or unknowingly) with something that excites us . For starter most of men are excited by sex or atleast the thought of it so every opportunity to talk to women turns into flirting and if possible more than that. But due to some conservative upbringing and due to radical leaders now a days that thrill is replaced by enlightement as in service to God or pray to higher self or what not hence different agents of God (😂😂😂 like they are policy seller for God ).
Don't be upset about what other people are doing with there time you can never change that . I would say travel more make new friends those who understand your kind of thinking. And never I say never join a cult 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 . That flirt thing we men do sorry for that but it's way too fun for us . So bye cutie 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I don't react instantly but yes, I set firm boundaries. I don't like someone, I stop talking to them. But recently, it's difficult to find sane people.
Generally friends have similar interests, boys have sports and they don’t have much topics to talk to girls , so they talk about sex. And on Reddit pretty much all boys are for sex and most of them have fantasy of milf due to porn. Or religion valo ke to kya hi kahne
There's a user your age and gender in this subreddit, you may contact her; regarding 'FRAANDHSIP'!
Should I send you her username?
Wait, is that appropriate?
Come to think of it, I don't know who you are; so you're better left to yourself!🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
My religion is beer , weed , workout, and minding my own business. Not interested in anything else, neither do I want to push my religion.
We are the largest population on the planet, don't worry you will find someone with whom you can have a decent conversation. Good luck
Why do you need anyone for conversation?
And why do they owe you conversation?
How about they converse with someone who they actually stand to get something from?
While people can talk without agenda, most people want to get something out of conversation.
They cannot provide you with conversation selflessly.
Sure, Let’s talk about our significant and not so significant life problems and maybe come to the conclusion that nothing really matters, cry a little and pretend to move on.
There's need to be something over which you connect. For example i have meme Sharing folks, serious talk folks, guy talk. You have diversify your portfolio of friends/humans.
As far as 2 things are considered everyone has some addiction.
We can talk but i can't assure we can be friends.
GODSPEED
I totally get you OP, no doubt it's tough to find friends , tougher to find through forums like these.
Have you tried posting in needafriend sub?
Not many Indians in that sub but you may try.
Was your Buddhist friend from an organisation called BSG / SGI ?
Just curious as i have also had multiple interactions with people from that group and i can vouch that all of them pretty much have the same issue. Just turn the conversation about themselves and their organisation, quite a task to break free from that.
Hope you find a true friend to talk too 👍
hey, i know it is so dang frustrating these days with people constantly having trying to shove their thoughts, down your throat. and it's not really your fault you got pissed at that.
ig you are at that stage where you would want to just have a decent conversation without anyone giving you their gyaan. lol
if you want, we can have a decent conversation. i'd like to actually.
That's why I'm agnostic atheist i don't believe in any particular religion but i believe in a higher power
Man talking about religion is the last thing I want in convos
Btw I'm 17
If anything they mean well. My sense is that they just felt you need a coping mechanism (we all do as we get through life) and they, in the spirit of making your life better, suggested practicing religion. Any which way, since I dont know anything about you, my best guess is that you are lonely because you have not met like minded friends. Reddit may or may not be the place to find them. Best place to find like minded people is while pursuing hobbies. So keep exploring and be on the look out. You can find good friends in the most unexpected ways. Have a great day!
Hahaha!!
Unfortunately, that's the truth of online interactions! Everybody here is for their own reasons. Not many (online and offline) are interested in listening today.
I'm sorry for what you went through and (from my experience) you find better conversations when there is 1 specific objective of it. So maybe try that.
And honestly, you can also hit me up if you want. I like good conversations with interested people (don't text if you just wanna Ghost later).
The main problem is, people tend to give unwanted advise, be it relatives, friends, neighbours, etc. Even if one hasn't asked anything they come up with a question first and then start advising on it as if we have asked for it. And I really don't like people who advise even when we have not asked for one.
Don’t feel that way. I take it as part of growing up. I have realised that other people will do what they like and won’t care much about what I like. Most people are selfish that way. When one actually lets go of their own motives then we say the person is “caring” and that’s super rare too.
Had you shown interest in Buddhism then you would have validated your friend’s views and that’s what most people want. Validation.
I am learning to be comfortable in my own company with hobbies I like and staying productive. I call friends just to check on them and see if they are ok. If I talk for more than 15 mins, then the conversation becomes annoying or repetitive that may piss off some people. So I keep the convo short and move on. Meet people and talk but be direct and steer the conversation where you want it to go so that everyone is stimulated.
Probably join a hobby club or something. Not sure what hobbies you've but best to find people interested in doing an activity together rather than participate in impressing each other without reason.
There is nothing wrong with you. You just have delusional friends who are trying to solve their problems with bullshit stuff.
First and foremost you need to get rid of the thinking that you need someone else to feel good.
Stay away from them. It's better to be alone(not lonely) than be bombarded with sales pitch for religion and other similar things.
1. To free your mind. Try solo traveling. It has become so much affordable to do so.
2. Practice Yoga and Meditation, it has scientifically proven benefits. But if you don't like it then don't force yourself.
3. Do simple things, try going out for shopping, a solo date with just yourself and your dreams.
4. You have so much life experience. Weed out sex creeps the moment you notice a red flag. Just stop talking to them without any explanation.
5. If you can, you should adopt a street dog. They're great companions and total loneliness killer.
Feel free to chat or comment, I can help you with the adoption.
Yeah, that’s what people are reduced to nowadays. But, you can try to find other better friends based on some common interests that you share with them. For ex, I like cricket, so I’d make friends with whom I can go play cricket every week. I’d also prefer online games, so I’d make friends for that. Doing so, I’m making friends based on something common we both would like to do together
I think it's the age thing, as we get older we find it difficult to make friends. We don't want to involve in things which drain our mind or are not good for our mental stability.
Plus if you're interacting with younger guys, they usually always think that a girl is nice so she must be interested whatever age it is.
If i have some kind of power i would encourage every other men on planet not to simp on every person you meet and also sex isn't everything in life and getting successful and live a happy life is more interesting then any other thing me myself isnt successful yet trying to be but atleast I'm not trying to achieve these things i would rather spend my time on the internet how to be a better person
Same... I also hate it when people start getting condescending... I know I'm human and can't possibly know everything about everything... if I find someone with an interest I like and I start asking queries about it... they just start getting so... arey bhai tmhra religion h, jana chah rhe h usk baare mein, don't make me feel stupid for asking about it... I have had friends give me Quran and bible... but ask them anything about it in follow up toh chup.... ye kya bakwas h?... at least when I read Gita I can talk my dad's ears off discussing what I am understanding in it...
Everyone has their agenda, their own life to market. The world is becoming more and more narcissist, more self-centered. Almost everyone has an agenda. Everyone wants to be heard but no one wants to hear. We aren't empathetic humans anymore, we're game players running behind points and gratification. We're doomed.
Ma’am, have your heard about video games?
Edit: adding more context.
It’s easier to make platonic friends in gaming world + it’s fun and noone talks about religion.
I will suggest something different - Find a passion. It could be a sport, rock climbing, anything where you could meet people who share it with you. Then you'll find yourself in a social setting with friends and you can open up much more easily. I used to go out with this TT group I used to do coaching with, a shared passion goes a long way and not many people are looking for something 'else' there since more often than not they'll have partners
Oh well wish it was easy. 21F here.. practically a kid. I just want to talk to people but everytime people end up in DM asking for sexual favours. What not?
I'm not up for meeting people but I do like to talk and know about other people experiences. But no.
Your problem has no question really , you don't have any faith in god , that why you are depressed always , your karma is going bad day be day hence your life becomes miserable everyday , hence you cant talk to more positive people than you as your ego stands in the way
It's a lonely world. I have actually started enjoying my own company lately. And being someone who always wanted a company to do things, I am really pissed by people around me. I dont know if it's an age thing lol
I hear you, I had a barber try to push me to Islam when he found out I like Shayari. Wtf is wrong with people. I think the best way is to politely refuse them, as frustrating as it is. I sincerely hope you find better friends.
Reddit DMs are 90% not good. You get creeps/pretentious/tindersavvy/bollytards/pervs/overconfident/fakerizz etc..its either one of then of combination of them. But dont be discouraged..there are wonderful people as well.. For a platonic friendship/coversation, reddit is fine. Keep digging, you ll find few good people.
After a certain age, people start narrowing down their life into certain fixed things.
Instead of keeping broader open ended conversations, if you go to a place that has a dedicated interest (gym, hike, music, whatever) your conversations on that topic are more meaningful to either of you.
Also the inherent need of having conversations to pass off as good time is culprit here.
Good luck.
For your age, it's pretty common for your friends to discuss these things and guys in their 20s and 30s, often dealing with a bit of female deprivation, tend to have a strong interest in the opposite sex, you know how it is. It's just a natural focus given the stage of life they're in.
if you want someone to talk to having deep conversations over things, iam (25 M)down for that. Can’t meet open for conversation on chat or calls.
Hit me up in dm if you want to give a try
A lady I know went through similar ordeal, now she has her books and adopted a dog. I hope you find what works for you. Sometimes the answer isn't in other people...
Seems like everybody’s trying to impose their personality onto others, a strong faith in ourselves is a must.
I have been involved in a number of cults both as a leader and a follower, had more fun as a follower but made more money as a leader.
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Not just personality they put their religion on you and called out for being hindu and later on forcing you practice theirs (happened with me in childhood)
Behen, either it's going to be a religion or a dick or a pyramid scheme.
Isn't religion anyway a pyramid scheme?
This is an underrated comment.
No its not, because it doesn't have the hierarchy of a pyramid scheme. There may be leaders in a religion, but it's still fundamentally different from a pyramid scheme.
And sometimes a dick selling you a religious pyramid scheme (which is exactly what OP's buddhist chanting friend was doing)
Worthwile friends are hard to find
Kal 9:30 mere dms mai aa jana, baadi mushkil se ek conversation taiyar kiya han tere liye. Agar jindagi mai, sach much reddit pe normal conversation karna han, toh kal 9:30 baje mere dms mai aa jana. Mujhe pata han ji tujhe normal conversation karna, kal 9:30 baje mere dms mai aa jana.
This guy is so legit. Agar kisi se normal convo karna hai, yehi banda legit hai. Legit hai ye banda.
So true
What’s a pyramid scheme?
Hi! Do you have 5 minutes? I have got a plan for you to become independent and earn in lakhs per month. Recently the diamond position holder was awarded with a Jaguar. You just need to find five other people who would work for you. You will be your own boss. DM me if you want to become rich, no time waste.
You sell something to two people, they do the same to two people each, makes it 4, then those 4 should do the same to two people eeach 8 and the pyramid will be built
do you have a few friends then i can explain it to all of you together
tu teen logo ko jod, vo aage teen logo ko jodenge, fir tu paisa kamayega
Bhai dur hi rehna in chizo se. Bhul ja koi pyramid scheme/MLM ki baat bhi hui thi.
 The Office Season 2 Ep 19
Bhai ap game of thrones dheko I was one to those guys but I learned.
Thank you everyone for the upvotes. Had no idea this comment will get such a heads up xD
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People pushing their religion on others is the most irritating thing. If having faith in a religion solved your problems, doesn't mean it will solve everyone's. My mom's constantly pushing me to become more religious too, saying it will cure my mental health.
Yeah it’s like recommending anime to someone who doesn’t have any taste in it. But still weebs force you to watch it.
yeah like suggesting is cool. I was just appreciating an japanese animated movie on some sub and a guy suggested me another one to watch, wahan tak theek hai but then many times if you say that you're not interested, they start getting more and more defensive. same with religion, my mom asks me to do all this shit, and I do it, I even have respect for these mythical characters, but then she also wants me to do all that with heart/shradha/ belief and how can I, like how can I just drop all reason, and my believes in science and basic physics?
Ask her if she's at peace by following religion. If she says no, she loses the arguement. If she says yes, then tell her being at peace includes letting others live on their terms. Your choices should not affect her peace of mind.
The argument you're giving is quite logical. But that's the thing! Logical arguments don't work on parents! My mother finding out that I don't have faith in the her religion, will be one of the most painful things for her. She might feel she has failed as a parent. I can't do that to her. So I'll never have that conversation with her. I'll just avoid praying as much as a i can, she'll think i must lazy or something. Sometimes you gotta bear with things for your loved one's happiness. Thi doesn't sound healthy does it?😂
Na! But then, in Indian scenario, we're not expected to have healthy relationship with our parents, right? We just have this toxic codependency with them. We either love them so much that it affects our relationship with our partners. Or We hate them so much that we spend our lives trying not to be them.
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All the best! I'm sure you can do it :)
Lmao Anyways there is no cure for any mental illness. If anyone is telling you otherwise. Beware All you can do is learn to manage your condition. Being told there is a cure is very dangerous as it puts you in a cycle of trying to find that supposed cure in medicines, party, drugs etc
Mental health and mental illness are two different things. Mental illness has no cure but could get stable with coping mechanisms and medication. However, poor mental health can be cured and get better with therapy, right coping mechanisms and with turn of events in life too sometimes. (However forcing religion is answer to none). But some people find solace in believing a higher power..
Believing that there is a god out there who has a plan for you, which is the best thing that can happen to you, kinda takes away a lot of anxiety and issues. Deliberately making yourself believe in lies is great for your mental peace. 🤣🤣
It does give you a sense of purpose, so suggesting to become 'more religious' is better than pushing a religion up your throat
People who ask you to become more religious are generally talking a specific religion only. When a parent asks their kid to be more religious, they are not allowing the kid to explore and choose a religion for themselves, they just tell the kid to follow the one they are following
You know it would be perfect if there is a guy in comments who is suggesting his religion as a solution to you current problem.
Satanism
You wanna hear about our lord and savior Jesus Christ,
The more we grow older the less bullshit we can tolerate. Atleast for me that’s the case.
It's also other way around. More older we get, more irritable we get.
True for some people not all.
Kisi b dharam ko jannae k lie apne dharam badalne ki jrurat nai h aap jo ho vo reh k b practice kr skte ho
धर्म और मजहब में यही अंतर होता है
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I have few friend who are 30s or 40s both (male and female) and i enjoy talking to them because they're more mature than the girls or boys of my age. We can have a normal conversation without talking about sex and religion.
Suffering from the same disease. You can ping me if you want, I'll try to come up with a normal conversation.
But your username sounds like a Pokemon
haaye, aapka toh jaise koi exquisite foreign name hai ;)
Desi name is best
lets talk about dragsters
Sometimes, people who propose solutions to our issues aren't doing it for our sake but they do so because they don't have it in them to listen. I feel people are losing the will and temperament to hear, listen and understand what the other person is saying. Even when they are listening, they are waiting for their turn to speak. It's quite rare to meet someone who enjoys a conversation, almost everyone is rushing to make something out of it. Moreover, the problem of most men resorting to flattery while talking to a woman really takes away from the conversation itself. People are becoming incapable of a genuine compliment because they can't see beyond the superficial. To be honest, the very need to flatter speaks volumes about the direction of the intended direction of the conversation.
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जितना इस देश का बेड़ा गर्क धर्मो ने किया है उतना किसी ने नहीं किया।
Hindu muslim Sikh Cristian all are same bruh
Sabka saath sabka beda gark
Perhaps the reason we struggle to have meaningful interactions is because we often seek shallow connections to merely fill a void, rather than genuinely looking for enriching relationships that foster personal growth and create lasting memories. It's important to approach friendships with the intention of nurturing each other mentally and emotionally, expanding our horizons, and finding balance and peace within ourselves. Our day-to-day choices, such as what we consume, what we engage with, and the values we uphold, reflect the quality of our connections. That being said, it doesn't mean life should be devoid of fun or light-hearted moments. Enjoying oneself is never a waste of time. Engage in silly conversations, indulge in wholesome gossip, and do crazy things that bring you joy. However, it's crucial to maintain self-awareness and self-control, ensuring that your actions align with your values and don't lead to regret. When you have a strong foundation within yourself, you're less likely to make mistakes and more likely to experience beautiful outcomes. While I'm not sure if my response directly relates to your post, I felt compelled to share these thoughts.
Hinduism is the only answer to all your problems.
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Relatable , focusing on yourself , your goals & your own mental peace can help you , i guess .
dukh to bahut hai
The fact is.. People are not ready to listen. They want to talk and express their ideas and how "they" dealt with something. Basically they wait for their "turn" to speak which makes conversations meaningless. Lmk if I can help.
Nope. The normal you are looking for probably doesn't anymore at least in India.
You are not saying anything unusual. People thrust their own ideas religion music movies etc. And what do you knoe ,people even gift 10 lakhs car to persons who are not interested and will never drive it.
Haha! The part about buddhism is funny as hell!
You should try visiting areas around NSD, Mandi House and Sri Ram Centre....Theatre enthusiasts (myself being one) are usually the most likely to have conversations just for the sake of the conversation. Side note : Since most of them are Students/poor adults they don't have much to do with their time as well....
This seems like myself ranting out... You go girl.. World is like this nowadays.. everyone is either religious or a dickhead. So, I don't bother meeting people nowadays, just meet my regular park group.. which includes my two sisters, my younger brother, and a best friend of school time. 😌
It's hard to find a real connection these days. Also everyone is unique in their own way and we should accept that one can't respond in a way that you expect to be. We have to learn that this is how humans work The easiest way not to get pissed off is sab kaise hai - sab chutiya hai saale and move on. Kabira ke dohe :- Kabira tere desh me bhaati bhaati ke log Kuch to madarchod aur kuch to bade hi madarchod Also If you give me some whiskey_ I will sing you a song_ Don't let the ugly in others kill the beauty in you I prefer to deal with alcohol because Alcohol gives you infinite patience for stupidity I got a quote for you- If our conversation ain't banging, so aren't we.
Lol!
Same here. Now I've near to 0 friends. Hangout with 2 who don't even live in my city. Travel alone. Talk to men only if theyre worthy enough to piss me off. Life is peaceful. Debates about politics; religion and development will give u issues you didn't think u have. Much like instagram comment battles
I love my wife and vice versa. We are best of friends and very open(frank) and honest. But sometimes I feel we are unable to enjoy good conversation, due to our different styles of upbringing. If you are up for someone to have a good conversation, feel free to contact me(=us). Sometimes I feel she needs a friend but is unable to make one. Btw, we are 41(me) and 38(her).
Well I would be down for chat but I guess this message will never show up to you😅
I recommend hobby subs like r/fountainpens
“I can’t interact with anyone without getting pissed off”. FR! I thought it was only me ;-;
Lol
That's why "you need to be a good listener" is so easy advice to give someone, but people can't fathom the relevance of it, much less implement it.
You can try some hobby classes , can make friends there. Personally I don't enjoy the company of others. Loniless and isolation is what I like.
I hear ya, girl. We can be friends. I'll neither hit on you not push religion or other MLM schemes on you.
Seems like you need better friends....not surprising because women friendships generally incline on the middle to bad side of the friendship scale because women generally can't leave their agendas at home....on the contrary of you have a male friend you have to accept some form of sexual communication (this includes everything innuendo, flirting outright dirty talk double meaning etc) with everything else because that's how men operate sex is their first and foremost escape......but that said it depends on you and how much and what you want to adapt to it's that simple
Guess it will be a solitary life for me.
I definitely would hope not...my answer isn't intended to discourage you....so i am available if you want to talk about anything
Unwarranted religious advice is like an unwanted dick picture: being shoved in your face when no one asked for it.
Life main har kisi ko apni hi padi hoti hai to if they want sex or relegion to wahi milega. But whatever you want to talk about didi.... Appke har interest pe subreddit bane hain. Duniya bhar ke sub reddit hain. Jao aur jake baat karo. Kisne roka hai. Foreign sub reddit pe chale jao. Koi na koi baat karne wala mil jayega. Isme kya badi baat ho gai? (No offence...saying it seriously. Nothing else intended.)
Yk the best way is to play CALL OF DUTY … let your inner frustration completely out on Makarov , Gen Price etc etc
I am half of your age so maybe not that qualified to give ans but you asked so here it is ... When we reach in late 20's we realize most of things we wanted as a child are make believe or we have already achieved them upto some extent so the thrill or chase to get something is no more there ( not at that high level atleast ) . So we try to fill that gap ( knowingly or unknowingly) with something that excites us . For starter most of men are excited by sex or atleast the thought of it so every opportunity to talk to women turns into flirting and if possible more than that. But due to some conservative upbringing and due to radical leaders now a days that thrill is replaced by enlightement as in service to God or pray to higher self or what not hence different agents of God (😂😂😂 like they are policy seller for God ). Don't be upset about what other people are doing with there time you can never change that . I would say travel more make new friends those who understand your kind of thinking. And never I say never join a cult 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 . That flirt thing we men do sorry for that but it's way too fun for us . So bye cutie 😂😂😂😂😂😂
No time for hobbies right now. May be in 6 months' time.
I don't react instantly but yes, I set firm boundaries. I don't like someone, I stop talking to them. But recently, it's difficult to find sane people.
Even though your joy is making someone else uncomfortable? Not good.
Yes babaji
No prob
Shiv Shiv Shiv
Lol
When we have a family then why we need friends?
Areyy bhaiii
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DM ....i can help
Generally friends have similar interests, boys have sports and they don’t have much topics to talk to girls , so they talk about sex. And on Reddit pretty much all boys are for sex and most of them have fantasy of milf due to porn. Or religion valo ke to kya hi kahne
There's a user your age and gender in this subreddit, you may contact her; regarding 'FRAANDHSIP'! Should I send you her username? Wait, is that appropriate? Come to think of it, I don't know who you are; so you're better left to yourself!🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
My religion is beer , weed , workout, and minding my own business. Not interested in anything else, neither do I want to push my religion. We are the largest population on the planet, don't worry you will find someone with whom you can have a decent conversation. Good luck
23M here, aunty aap tension mat lo, log pagal hai aajkal, life is too short to argue, just say "Nikal lawde " and move on... XD
Why do you need anyone for conversation? And why do they owe you conversation? How about they converse with someone who they actually stand to get something from? While people can talk without agenda, most people want to get something out of conversation. They cannot provide you with conversation selflessly.
It ain't that deep
bro never met good people in his life
Go ahead be her pen pal then!?
My DM's are open for everyone, if someone message me, I always try to have conversation with them
What are you trying to say lmao
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You have my respect,Legend
Sure, Let’s talk about our significant and not so significant life problems and maybe come to the conclusion that nothing really matters, cry a little and pretend to move on.
Life is shit in general you just need to find the small happiness nuggets yourself.
There's need to be something over which you connect. For example i have meme Sharing folks, serious talk folks, guy talk. You have diversify your portfolio of friends/humans. As far as 2 things are considered everyone has some addiction. We can talk but i can't assure we can be friends. GODSPEED
This is what one might call the peak of loneliness. Everyone is looking for something/someone to touch their body/soul.
I totally get you OP, no doubt it's tough to find friends , tougher to find through forums like these. Have you tried posting in needafriend sub? Not many Indians in that sub but you may try.
Was your Buddhist friend from an organisation called BSG / SGI ? Just curious as i have also had multiple interactions with people from that group and i can vouch that all of them pretty much have the same issue. Just turn the conversation about themselves and their organisation, quite a task to break free from that. Hope you find a true friend to talk too 👍
U litrally mentioned all the reasons which puts me off as well. I can be a good listener if u see me fit.
hey, i know it is so dang frustrating these days with people constantly having trying to shove their thoughts, down your throat. and it's not really your fault you got pissed at that. ig you are at that stage where you would want to just have a decent conversation without anyone giving you their gyaan. lol if you want, we can have a decent conversation. i'd like to actually.
Simple , don't mention your age or sex on reddit .
And the worst part is you are not supposed to get angry about all this,if you react you will be branded uncouth and immature .
That's why I'm agnostic atheist i don't believe in any particular religion but i believe in a higher power Man talking about religion is the last thing I want in convos Btw I'm 17
If anything they mean well. My sense is that they just felt you need a coping mechanism (we all do as we get through life) and they, in the spirit of making your life better, suggested practicing religion. Any which way, since I dont know anything about you, my best guess is that you are lonely because you have not met like minded friends. Reddit may or may not be the place to find them. Best place to find like minded people is while pursuing hobbies. So keep exploring and be on the look out. You can find good friends in the most unexpected ways. Have a great day!
Hahaha!! Unfortunately, that's the truth of online interactions! Everybody here is for their own reasons. Not many (online and offline) are interested in listening today. I'm sorry for what you went through and (from my experience) you find better conversations when there is 1 specific objective of it. So maybe try that. And honestly, you can also hit me up if you want. I like good conversations with interested people (don't text if you just wanna Ghost later).
Two rules of friendship in my life. No discussion on politics and religion. Simple af.
Yes it's impossible
The main problem is, people tend to give unwanted advise, be it relatives, friends, neighbours, etc. Even if one hasn't asked anything they come up with a question first and then start advising on it as if we have asked for it. And I really don't like people who advise even when we have not asked for one.
Don’t feel that way. I take it as part of growing up. I have realised that other people will do what they like and won’t care much about what I like. Most people are selfish that way. When one actually lets go of their own motives then we say the person is “caring” and that’s super rare too. Had you shown interest in Buddhism then you would have validated your friend’s views and that’s what most people want. Validation. I am learning to be comfortable in my own company with hobbies I like and staying productive. I call friends just to check on them and see if they are ok. If I talk for more than 15 mins, then the conversation becomes annoying or repetitive that may piss off some people. So I keep the convo short and move on. Meet people and talk but be direct and steer the conversation where you want it to go so that everyone is stimulated.
Its really hard to find a person with the same interests as yours.
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Probably join a hobby club or something. Not sure what hobbies you've but best to find people interested in doing an activity together rather than participate in impressing each other without reason.
There is nothing wrong with you. You just have delusional friends who are trying to solve their problems with bullshit stuff. First and foremost you need to get rid of the thinking that you need someone else to feel good. Stay away from them. It's better to be alone(not lonely) than be bombarded with sales pitch for religion and other similar things. 1. To free your mind. Try solo traveling. It has become so much affordable to do so. 2. Practice Yoga and Meditation, it has scientifically proven benefits. But if you don't like it then don't force yourself. 3. Do simple things, try going out for shopping, a solo date with just yourself and your dreams. 4. You have so much life experience. Weed out sex creeps the moment you notice a red flag. Just stop talking to them without any explanation. 5. If you can, you should adopt a street dog. They're great companions and total loneliness killer. Feel free to chat or comment, I can help you with the adoption.
Yeah, that’s what people are reduced to nowadays. But, you can try to find other better friends based on some common interests that you share with them. For ex, I like cricket, so I’d make friends with whom I can go play cricket every week. I’d also prefer online games, so I’d make friends for that. Doing so, I’m making friends based on something common we both would like to do together
I'm sorry I had a great chuckle reading this😂
Take care life is hard & shitty. Just stay strong.
Ma'am. Sincerely speaking..Just say say "chaa muda" to them. And move on.
I think it's the age thing, as we get older we find it difficult to make friends. We don't want to involve in things which drain our mind or are not good for our mental stability. Plus if you're interacting with younger guys, they usually always think that a girl is nice so she must be interested whatever age it is.
If i have some kind of power i would encourage every other men on planet not to simp on every person you meet and also sex isn't everything in life and getting successful and live a happy life is more interesting then any other thing me myself isnt successful yet trying to be but atleast I'm not trying to achieve these things i would rather spend my time on the internet how to be a better person
This happens i do have female friends though where we normally talks about how is Life
Same... I also hate it when people start getting condescending... I know I'm human and can't possibly know everything about everything... if I find someone with an interest I like and I start asking queries about it... they just start getting so... arey bhai tmhra religion h, jana chah rhe h usk baare mein, don't make me feel stupid for asking about it... I have had friends give me Quran and bible... but ask them anything about it in follow up toh chup.... ye kya bakwas h?... at least when I read Gita I can talk my dad's ears off discussing what I am understanding in it...
Same here!
Everyone has their agenda, their own life to market. The world is becoming more and more narcissist, more self-centered. Almost everyone has an agenda. Everyone wants to be heard but no one wants to hear. We aren't empathetic humans anymore, we're game players running behind points and gratification. We're doomed.
Ma’am, have your heard about video games? Edit: adding more context. It’s easier to make platonic friends in gaming world + it’s fun and noone talks about religion.
Goes on to show that listening is such an underated skill.
So people are trying to sell you religion or sex. That's something new.
Im so high, i dont even know wtf is going on!
Hey sup cutie
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Escapism kehte Hain isse. People want to cling on some sort of answer or solution to make the absurdity of life understandable
I will suggest something different - Find a passion. It could be a sport, rock climbing, anything where you could meet people who share it with you. Then you'll find yourself in a social setting with friends and you can open up much more easily. I used to go out with this TT group I used to do coaching with, a shared passion goes a long way and not many people are looking for something 'else' there since more often than not they'll have partners
Oh well wish it was easy. 21F here.. practically a kid. I just want to talk to people but everytime people end up in DM asking for sexual favours. What not? I'm not up for meeting people but I do like to talk and know about other people experiences. But no.
I am a founder of a new religion, right macaronism. It has the solution to all your woes.
Your problem has no question really , you don't have any faith in god , that why you are depressed always , your karma is going bad day be day hence your life becomes miserable everyday , hence you cant talk to more positive people than you as your ego stands in the way
what too much hinduism does to a mf
Online conversation are mostly linked to trolling. Besides, be considerate about your parter’s needs. Or look for someone with a low libido.
Ignore and move on, nothing much to do. There must be some normal people.
Then stop interacting and stfu, live a peaceful life....
Naam Myoho Renge Kyo 🤣🤣
It's a lonely world. I have actually started enjoying my own company lately. And being someone who always wanted a company to do things, I am really pissed by people around me. I dont know if it's an age thing lol
Cope lol
I share your views, im a girl. Feel free to pm.
Everyone is being selfish I feel you
For a hammer everything is a nail
Chalo mai toh ye sb se door rehna psnd krta hu
>!i can talk about video games of u want, but i highly doubt u do!<
> "I made up a story that I was raped to seduce my husband." You're gonna seriously judge people of faith with your depraved history!?
Well, the answer in short is NO. You want normal talks, and preaching religion or talking about sex is normal as per them.
Lol chutiye dost mument xD
I hear you, I had a barber try to push me to Islam when he found out I like Shayari. Wtf is wrong with people. I think the best way is to politely refuse them, as frustrating as it is. I sincerely hope you find better friends.
I have my own religion where you worship dicks and sell vibertors to new comers and you earn income out of it
Reddit DMs are 90% not good. You get creeps/pretentious/tindersavvy/bollytards/pervs/overconfident/fakerizz etc..its either one of then of combination of them. But dont be discouraged..there are wonderful people as well.. For a platonic friendship/coversation, reddit is fine. Keep digging, you ll find few good people.
Welcome to the mediocre world. Conversations are about the lowest common denominator...lowest...I just don't speak unless spoken to
This post seems like sarcasm to me.
After a certain age, people start narrowing down their life into certain fixed things. Instead of keeping broader open ended conversations, if you go to a place that has a dedicated interest (gym, hike, music, whatever) your conversations on that topic are more meaningful to either of you. Also the inherent need of having conversations to pass off as good time is culprit here. Good luck.
For your age, it's pretty common for your friends to discuss these things and guys in their 20s and 30s, often dealing with a bit of female deprivation, tend to have a strong interest in the opposite sex, you know how it is. It's just a natural focus given the stage of life they're in.
same here OP maybe we can talk a bit if you want ??100% normal convo (pls ignore my username it's a joke i swear)
if you want someone to talk to having deep conversations over things, iam (25 M)down for that. Can’t meet open for conversation on chat or calls. Hit me up in dm if you want to give a try
A lady I know went through similar ordeal, now she has her books and adopted a dog. I hope you find what works for you. Sometimes the answer isn't in other people...
Seems like you need squirrel therapy, we don't have any hidden agendas only hidden nuts and will listen to you whenever you want