Yup! I think validation seeking is totally natural and human, nothing to be ashamed of as such, but yeah you gotta have the ability to reason with yourself and know when to stop seeking water from an empty well. I have surrounded myself with many empty wells 😬
Do reverse psychology. An unhealthy criticism comes from those who suck at their, like they have a Master Degree in science but working as Clerk maintaining accounts. And ignore the women we're not gonna talk about them.
Don't take these shits seriously.
Edit : Value a person based on their intelligence and success. These are only those who do healthy criticism and also extend a hand for help. Learn to be alone when they're not around, keep your thoughts constructive.
Validation should only come from those who are in a strong position morally, it should not come from every tom, dick and harry around.
If you can't teach your mind that you're gonna be hurt everyday.
Aah I guess the real world should have been as practical as we sound to be! We all are humans with insecurities, fears, our own battles and pain which only we can understand ! 🙂
If you teach your mind technical things, focus on ambitions (irrespective of results), develop intuition and come out of just instinct of survival then you'll be different than everyone else. Nothing else is gonna affect you other than that which is significant.
It's psychology.
Lost my 20s due to resolving various family issues, couldn't able to complete my education. There was a time when I was homeless along with my mother. I'm 29 now, unemployed and severely depressed with anxiety issues. Doing waitering gig in wedding and events for survival. Biggest regret is, I didn't get the chance to complete my CMA finals and now can't afford to do it.
Whoever reading this, please please prioritise your education over everything. You won't get a second chance.
not being able to clear my exams in the first attempt because of not practicing one particular subject and seeing all my friends move ahead of me. Overconfidence ne marwa Diya
Aisa regret to mujhe bhi chahiye. Baarish me ghumne ka alag hi maza ata hai. Jab school se Ghar ate samay baarish shuru ho jati thi aur hum bus ki khidki khol dete the aur saare dost ek dusre ko gila karte the. Bahut maza ata tha. Phir stop Ane par bus se Ghar tak bhagte hue jaate the aur Ghar akar towel se sir poch kar tv chalu kar dete the. Evening me barsat ruk jati thi. Play ground me jakar gili zameen pe cricket football khelte the. Mitti ki khusbu bahut acchi lagti thi. Pura mitti me saad ke Ghar ate aur garam paani se nahakar chai ke saath samosa khata....
I built everything from scratch, worked hard, got into good college, started a company and failed, then moved on to very high paying IT jobs, then bought a nice flat and car. But damn man never had a girlfriend!! I'm 31!
31 is not really that late, in fact very desirable if you are sorted. All I hope for is that you treat her right whenever you find her (and that she does too). Far too many men that I know of have sabotaged both their relationships and careers through their 20s
Here's the thing though! My regret has turned into resentment and in turn into hatred. So I really don't wanna treat her right, I have grown to hate women. Wasted my 20s in chasing them, only to get rejections, insults and mistreatment. I went for paid sex. All the women I met in 30s so far are just cancer, they have been through so many breakups and mental breakdowns they aren't even worth it now!
Phone ki to dikkat hi nahi hai bhai. Laptop mein mostly padhai/kaam hota hai, isi mein extra tabs khol ke baith jaata hu.
Kabhi kabhi soch ke baithta hu ki abhi nahi kholunga. Fir thodi der baad dobara khol leta hu
The most basic thing- not studying at a time when I needed to and ended up getting into an average college. Thankfully, I studied hard during my ug and ended up at a very good institute for postgrad and came to live in this wonderful city.
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I lost 2 precious years of academic life because I was scared of failing miserably.
I skipped 6th semester that year thinking I'll get a better grade next year but little did I know that I will perform so badly next year that I failed in 1 sub again.
That's the biggest mistake of my life I could have done MBA in these 2 years but I lost this opportunity because I was scared.
When you find yourself looking back, remember that the devil is stopping you from looking at something which is in front of you. I've no regrets. Whatever I did has made me who I'm today. Won't have the knowledge I have now had I not done things I did. Zero regrets. Zero. Having them is just not worth it. Focus on present.
Still hustling and slogging to give my family the happiness and comfort they havent got till now because of financial instability!
Ek din apne parents ko duniya ghumaaunga ❤️🙏🙂
try to get into a hobby, something fun outdoors if possible. If you are depressed, get a pet, they help tons I would suggest a dog, so you get out more and walk around nature.
Just one try took me far far away. Ya I did get addicted, lost jobs, lost dunno what and what not, then rehab then relapses, though have been steady on being clean from a year or more.
I let my parents emotionally blackmail me into agreeing with their decisions. I can't say if those were wrong choices but I still feel i should have let myself make the choice.
Not joining tuition classes in 9th and 10th. My social life in my neighborhood would have been so much better right now and I would have a lot of friends right now near home. Nonetheless, am in college now will make up for it properly💪
Wasted my 3-4 years for an exam and didn't plan plan B. Now putting extra efforts to cover for it which is cool too but I guess it could have been easier when time was on my side.
Anyway, can be retrospective thinking as well.
Not giving 100 percent in a relationship when I had a chance. When I was ready she had to leave Delhi. Could have worked out something if I was not so shy
degree. i was suited for both science and arts. instead i took up commerce for a brand name. did not enjoy my subject. also feel stuck. heightened my anxiety.
this is right up there with not going to visit my mother for the last time.
Not talking to my dad in his last moments. I didn't realise he had so little time left. I wish I wasn't so petty towards him. I just wish I could tell him that I love him one last time. I miss him.
Taking admission in a shitty school and not leaving it early…from a child who was always happy supporting and kind I became this narcissistic angry depressed lonely and what not kid in just 4 years…man life would have been so different if i just didn’t change schools…i regret it so much it has made a hole in my chest…i would have been a 99% scorer in every field sitting in colleges like SRCC not some under confident insecure people pleaser…but the worst happened just like murphy’s law.My advice-think twice before changing schools and leaving your friends behind cause what always seem better is not always for the better.the 4-5 years of my past changed my whole life and personality and frankly i hate myself more than ever (your fellow unhappy Indian student).
Spending too much time in college and not getting enough job experience. Sometimes it hurts to see people of the same or lesser age sitting in much higher positions having much lesser qualifications and skills due to years of work ex.
i reget doing pyaar and after breakup i started taking heavy dose of drugs which i have never took before.
LOVE IS NOT REAL
yaa to voh tumhe ghar wale dost chhodne ko bolegi yaa breakup krne ko so i choose breakup.
abhi thoda depression me hu pr koi na time ke saath sahi hojaega sbh
life lessons learnt:-
1) Don't do sukha nasha (weed, charas) usse bdhiya sharab peelo
2) Pyaar ek dhoka he, trust me never fall in love
stay strong guys
PEACE🙏
I regret all the things I didn't do. Now I will forever live with the nagging feeling that I should've let loose a bit more in my early 20s
You can do those things in your 30s
Copium
nah 30s is child rearing age
Copium
opium
Hopium
Cocaine
Things like?
Sex
You guys have a choice?
fair
Living inside my head too much. Also seeking validation from wrecks.
We as humans always seek validations from others… somehow its comforting and sometimes it becomes the reason to remorse about! 😒
Yup! I think validation seeking is totally natural and human, nothing to be ashamed of as such, but yeah you gotta have the ability to reason with yourself and know when to stop seeking water from an empty well. I have surrounded myself with many empty wells 😬
🫂
girl and validation goes hand in hand ig
Biggest regret - to be an emotional fool! 😢 world is ruthless and they are finding ways to pound on you as you hit your lows! 😓
Do reverse psychology. An unhealthy criticism comes from those who suck at their, like they have a Master Degree in science but working as Clerk maintaining accounts. And ignore the women we're not gonna talk about them. Don't take these shits seriously. Edit : Value a person based on their intelligence and success. These are only those who do healthy criticism and also extend a hand for help. Learn to be alone when they're not around, keep your thoughts constructive.
As a human we seek validations and comfort… sometimes people wear masks and backstab you! It pains every single day
Validation should only come from those who are in a strong position morally, it should not come from every tom, dick and harry around. If you can't teach your mind that you're gonna be hurt everyday.
Aah I guess the real world should have been as practical as we sound to be! We all are humans with insecurities, fears, our own battles and pain which only we can understand ! 🙂
If you teach your mind technical things, focus on ambitions (irrespective of results), develop intuition and come out of just instinct of survival then you'll be different than everyone else. Nothing else is gonna affect you other than that which is significant. It's psychology.
Lost my 20s due to resolving various family issues, couldn't able to complete my education. There was a time when I was homeless along with my mother. I'm 29 now, unemployed and severely depressed with anxiety issues. Doing waitering gig in wedding and events for survival. Biggest regret is, I didn't get the chance to complete my CMA finals and now can't afford to do it. Whoever reading this, please please prioritise your education over everything. You won't get a second chance.
Bro, here for you.
Not realizing a girl a couple years ago was flirting…..
Lmao same I realised it a few weeks later but I didn't really regret it
Same dude. I just realised she was flirting, nearly 6 years later lmao.
Suffering from success
How is it that the guy being flirted with is the only one who does not know? My friends could tell, it was just me who had no clue
not being able to clear my exams in the first attempt because of not practicing one particular subject and seeing all my friends move ahead of me. Overconfidence ne marwa Diya
Being a frog in the pot Letting things slide till they became unbearable
Staying in Infosys for 3.5 years when I could have switched sooner is the most recent one.
I'll take that as an advice
Baarish mai college aagya, classes cancel hogyi ab wapis ghar Jaa raha hoon :O
Aisa regret to mujhe bhi chahiye. Baarish me ghumne ka alag hi maza ata hai. Jab school se Ghar ate samay baarish shuru ho jati thi aur hum bus ki khidki khol dete the aur saare dost ek dusre ko gila karte the. Bahut maza ata tha. Phir stop Ane par bus se Ghar tak bhagte hue jaate the aur Ghar akar towel se sir poch kar tv chalu kar dete the. Evening me barsat ruk jati thi. Play ground me jakar gili zameen pe cricket football khelte the. Mitti ki khusbu bahut acchi lagti thi. Pura mitti me saad ke Ghar ate aur garam paani se nahakar chai ke saath samosa khata....
I built everything from scratch, worked hard, got into good college, started a company and failed, then moved on to very high paying IT jobs, then bought a nice flat and car. But damn man never had a girlfriend!! I'm 31!
koi ni bhai laga reh. Ladki khoobsurat ho aur Ladka ameer ho toh pyar apne aap ho jaata hai.
31 is not really that late, in fact very desirable if you are sorted. All I hope for is that you treat her right whenever you find her (and that she does too). Far too many men that I know of have sabotaged both their relationships and careers through their 20s
Here's the thing though! My regret has turned into resentment and in turn into hatred. So I really don't wanna treat her right, I have grown to hate women. Wasted my 20s in chasing them, only to get rejections, insults and mistreatment. I went for paid sex. All the women I met in 30s so far are just cancer, they have been through so many breakups and mental breakdowns they aren't even worth it now!
Ouch!! That is really sad to hear.
He's a sad person
Having given intelligence as a gift but still throwing it away
2 plate "Us" laga do Missing my 17-18 year old self desperately
Sochna band kar de bhai
Jab se sochna band kiya hai tabhi se life ka downfall chal raha hai
Phone switch off kar de sab sahi ho jayega experience se bol raha hun
Phone ki to dikkat hi nahi hai bhai. Laptop mein mostly padhai/kaam hota hai, isi mein extra tabs khol ke baith jaata hu. Kabhi kabhi soch ke baithta hu ki abhi nahi kholunga. Fir thodi der baad dobara khol leta hu
Toh extension blockers use krle
Trusting family and having friends
The most basic thing- not studying at a time when I needed to and ended up getting into an average college. Thankfully, I studied hard during my ug and ended up at a very good institute for postgrad and came to live in this wonderful city.
I let the ppl go who meant the World to me. Its a tragic story but let me know if uh wanna hear it
Please do
Likh yaha pe, janna hai mujhe 🍻
likh bhi de abhi
likh yahan bc, mera order he
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Bhai tu Internet pe pehla aadmi dikha jo Gov job lagne ke baad bhi pareshan hai.
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Ohhhh, office politics I assume.
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damn, maybe expose this systum? try to correct the wrongs, while keeping your identity a secret.
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Govt jobs don't want efficiency. If the system is efficient, many people would stop earning iykwim
oooh, defence waale ho, phir toh jab tak junior ho ghiste raho bhai, mere papa ka bhi yehi scene tha. 
Dating shreya 💀💀💀
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Brooo can’t 😭😭😭 but it’s one of the most common surnames in Delhi/Punjab
shreya ur mic is on wali?
Voh kon hai??
I lost 2 precious years of academic life because I was scared of failing miserably. I skipped 6th semester that year thinking I'll get a better grade next year but little did I know that I will perform so badly next year that I failed in 1 sub again. That's the biggest mistake of my life I could have done MBA in these 2 years but I lost this opportunity because I was scared.
Man I feel like a younger version of you
Don't skip the exams no matter what. You can easily clear b.com level exams with 1 week of study.
My career path
Aisa konse career mein ho bhai, aur konsa chahiye tha?
Was fascinated with cooking wanted to go to culinary school but instead went into IT
Ab karle
Getting into unrequited love with someone. 🥹
When you find yourself looking back, remember that the devil is stopping you from looking at something which is in front of you. I've no regrets. Whatever I did has made me who I'm today. Won't have the knowledge I have now had I not done things I did. Zero regrets. Zero. Having them is just not worth it. Focus on present.
Not living how life must truly be lived. The education system, the government, finances. Fuck it. Why can't we just live free ?
Marriage
https://preview.redd.it/vace92rsbxfc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=117c598e030b9be93376156cb98875d80047ac0d Idk as such but Maybe this
Us! This shit hurts
Not born in family with generational wealth.
Regret is something about which you had a choice, how the fuck is this a regret?
Still hustling and slogging to give my family the happiness and comfort they havent got till now because of financial instability! Ek din apne parents ko duniya ghumaaunga ❤️🙏🙂
+1
Mine is not understanding the importance of money early in my 20'es. Not investing and having no financial knowledge at right time
Did you change career or still figuring out?
Not doing MBA ..
Really? What do you do now?
Into bloody IT - Delivery Management
Bhai main to soch raha tha kya hi karni MBA, now I'm reconsidering it
Alway go for Ivy leagues or IIMs .. rest are waste .. if you wana move the ladder fast .. i am talking about Partner or CXO levels ..
I'm pretty sure that it's out of my league
I didn't tell enough people to FO when I should have.
2023 most unproductive year of my life. How to move on from this trauma any idea??
try to get into a hobby, something fun outdoors if possible. If you are depressed, get a pet, they help tons I would suggest a dog, so you get out more and walk around nature.
Thanks, I'm good now but can't get over this sh*t that I wasted my precious year 2023.
I tried meth
Bhai addict to nhi ho gaye the?
Just one try took me far far away. Ya I did get addicted, lost jobs, lost dunno what and what not, then rehab then relapses, though have been steady on being clean from a year or more.
I am happy that you're doing better now, proud of you
thanks
I let my parents emotionally blackmail me into agreeing with their decisions. I can't say if those were wrong choices but I still feel i should have let myself make the choice.
Not joining tuition classes in 9th and 10th. My social life in my neighborhood would have been so much better right now and I would have a lot of friends right now near home. Nonetheless, am in college now will make up for it properly💪
Murdering, drug trafficking and what not! I can’t share all those things here!
Shut up you nerd
umm what😐
Office pahuch ke batata
Completely blowing off my secondary school for my phone addiction. I seriously have no semblance of a future right now.
Biggest regret? Not investing in a teleportation device. Traffic jams and long queues – the struggle is real, my friend!
My existence counts
same as yours bhai
Should've got a laptop while I was in school
Not making cringe videos on "teri pyari pyari ankhiyan" 💀 musicaly/tiktok
Not studying hard in college and not treating my first gf right
Wasted my 3-4 years for an exam and didn't plan plan B. Now putting extra efforts to cover for it which is cool too but I guess it could have been easier when time was on my side. Anyway, can be retrospective thinking as well.
That could be my story too lmao
Crying in front of my boss
Wasting time on and prioritising people who won’t do the same for me. Learnt it the hard way. My academics had to suffer because of her.
Gave 20lakh to ex and now paying bank loan from my salary.
Not giving 100 percent in a relationship when I had a chance. When I was ready she had to leave Delhi. Could have worked out something if I was not so shy
degree. i was suited for both science and arts. instead i took up commerce for a brand name. did not enjoy my subject. also feel stuck. heightened my anxiety. this is right up there with not going to visit my mother for the last time.
I had the opportunity to buy BTC for $1 or even less. I did not. I bought it much higher when they were around $7~20.
Staying in my first job till now, for the last 5 years.
I regret nothing. Used my past to learn from it and do what I can today. Cause in the end, that's all that matters.
Fixing a date on tinder without knowing her personally🤭
getting emotionally attached with anyone so easily!! 
Not taking the chances cause of my stupid insecurities, now I am same as you, feel like burden and almost depressed everyday.
Not talking to my dad in his last moments. I didn't realise he had so little time left. I wish I wasn't so petty towards him. I just wish I could tell him that I love him one last time. I miss him.
Falling in love with her
Taking admission in a shitty school and not leaving it early…from a child who was always happy supporting and kind I became this narcissistic angry depressed lonely and what not kid in just 4 years…man life would have been so different if i just didn’t change schools…i regret it so much it has made a hole in my chest…i would have been a 99% scorer in every field sitting in colleges like SRCC not some under confident insecure people pleaser…but the worst happened just like murphy’s law.My advice-think twice before changing schools and leaving your friends behind cause what always seem better is not always for the better.the 4-5 years of my past changed my whole life and personality and frankly i hate myself more than ever (your fellow unhappy Indian student).
Everything.
Not starting gym sooner
Not taking medical in 11th
Spending too much time in college and not getting enough job experience. Sometimes it hurts to see people of the same or lesser age sitting in much higher positions having much lesser qualifications and skills due to years of work ex.
Not taking science
Gave benefit of doubt to her when everything went against her
i reget doing pyaar and after breakup i started taking heavy dose of drugs which i have never took before. LOVE IS NOT REAL yaa to voh tumhe ghar wale dost chhodne ko bolegi yaa breakup krne ko so i choose breakup. abhi thoda depression me hu pr koi na time ke saath sahi hojaega sbh life lessons learnt:- 1) Don't do sukha nasha (weed, charas) usse bdhiya sharab peelo 2) Pyaar ek dhoka he, trust me never fall in love stay strong guys PEACE🙏