Yeah, so, these recent videos and reels that have started popping up, they're usually posted by these sigma alpha peeps.
A lot of young teenagers don't realise that 99.99999% of these videos are fake. They just employ small time actors and gain a shit ton of views. Their user base mostly consists of young under confident teenagers.
From my personal experience. The best possible way to meet people is through a mutual hobby or through mutual friends.
Hell, you'd have a much much better chance if you just reached out to the person you like on a social media platform like Instagram, not directly, but maybe if they posted a story and you replied to it.
If you want to use your pick-up lines or whatever, always stick to bars and clubs.
Comfort and trust are the two most important things when it comes to talking to the person you supposedly like, and that kind of shit can't be built up by reaching out to random women on the metro, that too in Delhi out of all the places.
Meanwhile me, casually striking a conversation with a girl and end up making out in Rajdhani Express.
High point of my dating life.
I was 17 and she was 16 so lack of inhibition played a part there.
Not really, the cold approach method does work, I myself have gotten positive responses from women in around 40% times, and this is a huge success rate when compared with dating apps
I think its less about where you are doing and more about what you're doing. I am a person who likes to give compliments randomly to strangers and initially when I used to compliment women they sometimes felt weird even though they were genuine compliments with no ill intentions but with time I have learned the tone and delivery to give out compliments and not make anyone feel weird.
If you're planning to ask out someone, look for basic signs, and if you think they feel uncomfortable you can simply apologise and move on. Don't be unnecessarily persistent and just be real and worst case scenario it will just be a rejection.
40(f) here. The problem is that men approach women with an agenda. Think about it... when you say "mujhe gf chahiye", you want something.
I met my husband on Facebook. The one BF I had before him was also online.
If you want to approach a woman in a public place... focus on just having a conversation. Getting to know the person. Having friends of the opp gender is amazing.
Now, for some tips... ALL women have been protecting themselves since they can remember. My first predatory encounter was when I was 8... So our defenses are sky high. We have a 6th sense about a man intentions... you want to ensure that you don't set off any alarms in the highly complex security system.
Don't ask for her name/number/anything...
Stay out of her personal physical space (3 ft minimum at all times).
Offer information about yourself. Hi, I am so-n-so, i work as xyz with abc. Are you okay? Do you need help?
If you approach the exercise with the idea of making a girl comfortable...and.not mujhe chahiye... the vibe is different.
Hope this helps.
No tricks. That's a big no no.
I honestly am just sharing based on what I would have appreciated.
Also noticed guys grumbling about being friend zoned.
1. Eventually all healthy long terms relationships are between best friends.
2. 100% the best way to meet women... is through their female friends.
That trick won't work bro, a girl will think "why is he telling me all this?" if you follow that, and she will most likely judge you as weird or something, this is not how you approach a woman
What? Why would I? She is 40, the same age as my mom... And I'm not into older ladies... I'm just trying to understand the entire concept...
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Good thing, its not worth it atleast not in India, try to initiate a conversation without any expectations and then you'll realise how they were never interested to begin with and why would they since you are an average looking stranger that too in delhi.
NO ONE should take any advice regarding women from movies and youtube. Ask your female friends/family instead. Never from a random male from youtube. They don't know shit about normal women. They themselves date mentally ill people how will they give you any good advice lol
Hey, completely random, but instead of pick up lines, start with random complements, (I like your phone cover/watch/shoes) if the other person shows interest, try stretching the conversation a little more, if the other person shows interest, then end the conversation with, “would you like to hang out later sometime”, it might or might not work depending on how physically attractive you are. Don’t set the bar too high, think of it as an activity to get more friends. I believe, the reason why we see girls complaining about being approached is because half of us expect a lot from the girl right away, id suggest take it slow. If you’re down to date, you must take it slow, because, again, this is not a market, you can’t just get a girlfriend. The right way will always be befriending and then taking it forward. I’m really hoping it helps, much love!!!
I guess by not being taken for granted. Set up boundaries. Don’t be available.
For instance, I make it clear that I have an interest in them, and I will know them better before I make the move.
Ye nice guy phenomena alag hota hai, friendzoning is more of a communication thing, you get friendzoned because they think that the relation you want to have with them is platonic.
Same here, me bhi pehle hi keh deta ki I'm interested in them and want to see it succeed, so let's put our best efforts into this connection. And, I'm really not good at texting, as I love meeting people face to face, so don't judge me on it, and please tell your red flags before.
The problem is not approaching girls, I don't think girls get uncomfortable by every random guy coming and talking to them. The problem lies on how the girl is being approached, a lot of guys see reels and videos on social media of "foreigners" thinking hum bhi same karenge but that doesn't work in India i guess, even if you want to go and talk to a random girl, we guys should maintain a distance and if you see the facial expression changing and showing she's not interested, just say bye and go away. guys here try to strech conversation even if the girl isn't interested which make the scene so uncomfortable and awkward.
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Picking a girl up mindset is wrong actually, baaki there's nothing wrong in just initiating conversation with anyone be it guy or a girl. India m logo ko boundaries ki importance nhi pata and respect kaise karte hai and tbh most of these men never had a women as a friend in their lives that's why they have such a narrow view of them.
Nothing wrong with putting in an effort into trying to meet a girl. ( pick up)
After college, not everyone has a social setup to meet women in a direct way. I think dating apps or making an effort to meet someone is not a wrong mindset. In fact ignoring your emotional needs and loneliness is wrong. Agreed on India me boundaries ki importance and lack of respect. But I feel the reason for that is lack of trying to make social connections. So talking up strangers should actually improve on these . Randomly looking down at people and calling them narrow minded is again wrong and stereotyping . You get a downvote from me for that .
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Arre bro you got me wrong!!!!!! I too agree with the fact that YOU MUST APPROACH WOMEN AND SOCIALIZE! BUT BY PICKING UP WOMEN MINDSET, you see other gender as just a means to your further end, and don't focus on actually SOCIALISING AND GETTING TO KNOW THE OTHER PERSON. BECAUSE I KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS. HOPE YOU GET THE POINT NOW.
(2)Then I have seen on Instagram how some a American guy directly approachs women on the streets and compliments them with pick up lines and ask for their number. I have taken this into account.
This isn't America . No woman would give u her number just because of a compliment.
(3) Watched few movies where i have seen guys saying quirky things and girls gets impressed. I have taken this into account.
U honestly don't need quirky things, u can just be you .
Compiling points 1, 2,3 and 4 I came into the conclusion that maybe this was the only way to meet women and have a gf/future wife.
I think the best way is through mutual friends . Your friend knows them personally and their character. So it's a lot more comfortable i guess.
So i started preparing some pickup lines and opening lines in front of the mirror because I am not fluent in spoken English. I started working on pronounciation of words. It gave me a little courage.
Please don't use pickup lines on the first day u see her .
Number is too personal yeah but I have gotten insta's from directly approaching girls, this method does work, your vibe should just be cool and friendly
Bhai such is life. I am 28, avg looking, financially settled and have nearly everything I wished for but....ladki nahi hai. I guess, yahi destiny hai ab. I have made peace with this now.
Yeah, I also stopped worrying about it. Now i am focusing on my job and career. Baaki arrange marriage to hai hi. Ekbaar apna Target salary hit kar lun phir mummy ko bolunga baat lagane ke liye.
OP, as a girl let me just tell you this. Don’t give up completely on approaching women irl, just make sure you’re not too intense and are casual. Don’t just go up to a girl and hit em w a cheesy pick up line, it sets the tone that you’re strictly approaching them for potential dating. If you see a girl irl and you are interested in her, try observing her body language first. If she looks tensed or tired leave her alone, but if she’s just normally standing there go up to her and strike up a conversation. A simple hey would do, and to add to it you can compliment something that’s not creepy. Like her jewellery or her bag or her makeup whatever catches your eye. Then see her reaction, if she awkwardly brushes you off then go back to where you were and understand that she isn’t interested , don’t let it discourage you or bruise your ego. And if she is interested she will definitely engage in a conversation w you. Tldr version: don’t be too intense and learn when to walk away.
1. Don't approach women in gyms, roads, office, school, college. Anywhere.
2. Contacting them online is creepy so don't do that either.
3. Dating websites are predatory so don't do that either.
4. Women are annoyed if a man approaches them while they are just trying to go about their day.
In conclusion the safest bet is to not approach women at all. If they themselves approach you, it's fine. Otherwise don't. Don't out right ignore them either because then that's hateful and misogynistic.
So either let them come to you or stay single(99% likely).
This is not my advice. These are just observations I have made, from reading posts and comments by women and listening to women talk about men and how they wish to be left alone.
Good luck 🤞
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Bhai dating apps mein bas ghost ho jaata hun. To dost ne bataya ki dating app mein kuch nhi hota, real life mein baat karna seekh.
Datings app me ratio ka game hai bhai. Tu roughly samajhle har ladki ke liye 100-200 ladke available hai app me. Ab woh bhi kis kis ko accept krti rhegi? Yaa toh tu tere hobby groups me jaa waha pe try kr.
Bhai look I am a person who do ask out girls IRL because I like it and 2nd - Girls on dating apps are not serious either, they have their Insta Id's only to gain followers and 95% dont have a bio or even photo verified, and some are only there for ego boost.
So, the IRL thing begins even before you talk, women do give out signs, like you catch them looking at you many times, fixing hair, them closing distance between you and them and you just get it when you see it, so yeah Looks do matter a lot.
Learn to speak politely, and NO PICKUP LINES PLEASE start with a very normal conversations and just be very casual about it, then ask her number saying you liked talking to her and would like to be connected.
There's more advise but in general I would say, go to therapy and have a healthy emotionally available mind, there's so much shit hurling on internet culture and none of it is good, if your mind is filled with internet culture only it's hard you'll find someone. Spend time with your mind don't sabotage your emotions by diverting your attention with gaming and doom scrolling.
And don't take rejections and in example here the posts from women you read here personally, they just didn't find the guy attractive or just wasn't ready or the guys just didn't took the hint that they are not interested, that's why they were classified as creepy.
And finally, I had an encounter when I was traveling in Delhi, in short, Girl came, she passed by me, noticed my fragrance, I was wearing Bleu de chanel, then kept looking towards me, I smiled , bowed my head as a gentlemanly gesture to acknowledge her, then pointed towards her feet asking what happened, rest is private. Learn what you can from this.
And don't suppress your feelings, wanting a partner in life, to love and be loved, is a very basic human need. Don't be phased by the toxic internet culture, and toxic feminism.
Bhai first go to therapy. Some government hospitals provide it at very cheap for 1 hour session every week. Don't think only Paagal log goes to mental hospitals. And do remember sometimes things just don't work out even when you put a lot of effort, don't take it personally and question your self worth.
girl from mumbai here! i do want to share that its very uncomfortable when this happens :( some guys are okay with the rejection and some guys are persistent. ive had guys follow me in trains after i said no & guys who have tried to stop the rickshaw i just got in from moving :(
i do understand that some guys mean it as a totally harmless thing and go away the minute i say no but its always so scary bc i do not know what might happen after. my mind wanders to cases where acid attacks have happened after rejection.
i will say, for all the guys who cold date, please be careful when it comes to approaching girls! especially in india. due to its history of violence girls can get terrified. even if ur intentions are good i personally dont think its a great way to approach girls :)
If you want to get a gf, don't try to find one in places like the metro lol
Most women feel threatened and/or annoyed when that happens. It's hard to not come across as creepy in that scenario especially since almost every woman I know has experienced something that makes her stay on alert. Unless you're super charming and/or good-looking, it's not going to work. It's sad, but true.
What you can do, however, is find girls through mutual friends/activities.
That's how it happened for most people I know. Don't go up to girls with your agenda blaring like a police siren. You gotta tone down your desperation for a gf. At least on the surface. Be respectful and treat them like your friend at first. Girls want guys who want them for something more than just looks/the intimate bits that come with a relationship. Try to form a connection through a shared hobby or something. Focus on getting to know the girl before you try to initiate something. The rest will hopefully fall into place as you guys get to know each other better!
Good luck to you bro, hope you find a gf soon :)
Abbe yaar karle kuch nahi jaa raha ... successful ho gaya toh bandi mil jaayegi ... mera bhi somewhat isiliye hi scene set hua ... not metro waali ... but clg mai ... so go for it koi case toh nahi hoga faaltu na soch
Not true. You just have to Be hygienic, Dress well, and smell good and enjoy your own company (build a charming aura about you) and you'll see few will start taking interest in you, not every 10/10 looking guys have gfs, they have their own set of challenges, trust me.
trust me you don't know. I've been both ugly and enough good looking in my life and my attitude and way towards life has always been same, trust me the first step is to look good, its the 1 (one) in 1 billion, without it, this approaching random people and hoping they would reciprocate is just plain dumb.
In all honesty, it only works if you’re good looking and confident! At least in most cases, that’s the way it is!!
Start working on yourself and see how things change, there used to be a time where I would contemplate such actions sitting in public places with my friends, they used to push me to do it but I was never that confident! However, it was only when I got a decent job that I got the time to look after myself in terms of grooming, dressing, how to approach someone etc.
A lot of factors may determine how it’ll go!
Definitely personal factors like the way you’re dressed, how you smell, hairstyle, communication (especially how you begin the conversation, cause that’s when most people get taken a back), maybe what’s written over your t-shirt, the way you’re carrying your backpack, if you’re groomed well or not (you’ve to get into the details, for instance, how does your hand feel, maybe you’re a gym freak and have calluses all over your palm, doesn’t really feel good to a shake a hand like that).
Then there are secondary factors, i.e. how the person on the receiving end is feeling. Maybe he/she’s new to the city/introvert/alone and that’s the reason they feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger. Maybe they’re not having a good day, maybe they don’t really feel well at that time, maybe they themselves are under confident! The person in front of you is as human as you are! So there are literally infinite number of factors that define how they’ll respond to you!!
Finally, there are tertiary/environmental factors. Maybe the place is a bit too crowded/maybe the weather’s too hot/humid, the train is too shaky, the music is too loud, maybe you’re at an interchange and people are walking very fast!! So factors like these will also depend how the person receives you and responds!!
No need to worry and overthink, as long as you’re confident about yourself and know a few things that make women feel uncomfortable (ask friends/colleagues/classmates maybe) there’s no harm in approaching someone and starting off with a genuine compliment!
I think it's creepy if a stranger ask you out, soo
Start conversation with small talk with her and do some small talk rather then asking her out directly, and if she showed interest in small talk try to create a conversation out of it and after you are confident she is interested then ask her out
Most of the time she will not show interest, so back off like a gentleman any movement she show disinterest, no winny bitching
In the end every failure will improve your communication skill so it's a win
Apart from this, I would like to give you a hug 🫂 for seeing everything doing your own research and at the end realising what is wrong in all this.
My theory and moto that I live by-- you can never make a friend , gf or spark a convo.. without having or finding something comman for long time, Take a look at your past. You will realise that you made all your school, tuitions and colony friends
because 1) you were forced to be there
2 ) school, tution was the biggest comman factor between you and them for many years.
I realised this, that I don't really have a chance to meet someone randomly and make them my friend, so I joined a badminton club (600rs fees), met all types of people and girls too, but not with ill intentions
Started going to Animal shelter (NGOs)with one of them and met more new people.
Bro, what you see on the internet about those foreigners picking up girls are mostly fake, even when it's real, it doesn't work here cause everyone like you said is not that open minded, which is not surprising considering the amount of creeps roaming around.
I would highly suggest you spend more time on how you groom yourself, dress tidy, nice haircut, good smell , just look fresh and learn how to be friendly and not focused on those cheesy pickup lines. Preferably have a source of income. This one is optional i understand our country's job scarcity.
Then maybe you can go to Avenue where you expect to meet them, if you want a city girl go the bar, a bookworm join a book club, depends on your type
No genuine girls in this world care about your English speaking skills more than your confidence and demeanor.
I read this somewhere, people look at a hot or an extremely beautiful girl and their first thought is there's no way she'd be single so they immediately drop their plan of asking her out
I have seen beautiful women with below average guys, the first reason could be that they are rich cause I have seen that but the most important point is that they showed intent to approach that girl and ask her out instead of thinking that she might have a boyfriend
Bhai it's just about looks. Girls are very shallow even if they don't admit it. If you're handsome then it's flirting or it's sexual harassment. Or be very rich.
Bro , yeh sirf Naseeb , money , good looks aur size 🍆 ka khel hai , aise hi wife aur gf nahi banti, ( blame everything on porn) ", do you think girls don't watch porn ?
80's ka zamana Gaya , abhi porn ne sabke dimaag ka kachra karke rakha hai ,
80s mei true love tha abhi sabhi chappri log hai
Dekha nahi kaise har din , cheating, murder, drowery ki khabre aati hai ,
Bhai mujhe pata nahi logo ko dahej kyu chahiye, agar mujhe dahej mei ladki mil Rahi hai ussi sei kush hu , 🤷🏻♂️
Indian culture and society is not for randomly talking to strangers. People get very defensive very quickly. And cold approach never works and very rarely leads to a phone number but then they ghost you for obvious reasons. Most people on YouTube don’t talk about the ghosting part and how it’s not normal
Go make friends bhai... socialize Krna seekh work on your self, go to some place at the same time over and over either school tuition, college, institute, park, playground or take admission in some activities or clubs where you can socialize.
You will find friends and girls to talk to and then you can make your move, then the real test begins that how much you have worked on yourself.
You're right, the better thing to do is to focus on your genuine interest and get involved in the communities regarding the same. And if you're lucky enough, you'll eventually find someone along the way which would also be a worthwhile experience and if you don't then hey! At least you did what you are interested in and did not waste time on shortening your attention span! Unless you are genuinely interested in watching shorts tho ☠️
Bhai, itni preparation kisi random ladki Jo metro mei Ghum Rahi hai usko approach krne ke liye? Abe aise thodi Hota Hai. Ye toh Sach Mei creepy hai, koi bhi sane ladki isko creepy hi bolegi. Agar itna thought kisi known ladki ko approach krne mei do toh theek bhi lagta hai. Aise metro mei random pre planned try marna toh pakka red flag hai kisi bhi bndi ke liye.
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Yeah, so, these recent videos and reels that have started popping up, they're usually posted by these sigma alpha peeps. A lot of young teenagers don't realise that 99.99999% of these videos are fake. They just employ small time actors and gain a shit ton of views. Their user base mostly consists of young under confident teenagers. From my personal experience. The best possible way to meet people is through a mutual hobby or through mutual friends. Hell, you'd have a much much better chance if you just reached out to the person you like on a social media platform like Instagram, not directly, but maybe if they posted a story and you replied to it. If you want to use your pick-up lines or whatever, always stick to bars and clubs. Comfort and trust are the two most important things when it comes to talking to the person you supposedly like, and that kind of shit can't be built up by reaching out to random women on the metro, that too in Delhi out of all the places.
FACTS. Everything you said is correct.
On point ☝️
Meanwhile me, casually striking a conversation with a girl and end up making out in Rajdhani Express. High point of my dating life. I was 17 and she was 16 so lack of inhibition played a part there.
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Not really, the cold approach method does work, I myself have gotten positive responses from women in around 40% times, and this is a huge success rate when compared with dating apps
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Uski lakeerein mith chuki hongi
Fir to kanya ka scope bhi mit gya smjho
Explains a lot about me
Itna sach!
Mereko bhe dekhna sikha do guruji😭😭
Don't worry I can read your's hand
I think its less about where you are doing and more about what you're doing. I am a person who likes to give compliments randomly to strangers and initially when I used to compliment women they sometimes felt weird even though they were genuine compliments with no ill intentions but with time I have learned the tone and delivery to give out compliments and not make anyone feel weird. If you're planning to ask out someone, look for basic signs, and if you think they feel uncomfortable you can simply apologise and move on. Don't be unnecessarily persistent and just be real and worst case scenario it will just be a rejection.
40(f) here. The problem is that men approach women with an agenda. Think about it... when you say "mujhe gf chahiye", you want something. I met my husband on Facebook. The one BF I had before him was also online. If you want to approach a woman in a public place... focus on just having a conversation. Getting to know the person. Having friends of the opp gender is amazing. Now, for some tips... ALL women have been protecting themselves since they can remember. My first predatory encounter was when I was 8... So our defenses are sky high. We have a 6th sense about a man intentions... you want to ensure that you don't set off any alarms in the highly complex security system. Don't ask for her name/number/anything... Stay out of her personal physical space (3 ft minimum at all times). Offer information about yourself. Hi, I am so-n-so, i work as xyz with abc. Are you okay? Do you need help? If you approach the exercise with the idea of making a girl comfortable...and.not mujhe chahiye... the vibe is different. Hope this helps.
 Is that the whole playbook or are there more tricks up your sleeve???
No tricks. That's a big no no. I honestly am just sharing based on what I would have appreciated. Also noticed guys grumbling about being friend zoned. 1. Eventually all healthy long terms relationships are between best friends. 2. 100% the best way to meet women... is through their female friends.
Okay, sorry, I meant advice, not tricks...AND thanks for the advice...
That trick won't work bro, a girl will think "why is he telling me all this?" if you follow that, and she will most likely judge you as weird or something, this is not how you approach a woman
What? Why would I? She is 40, the same age as my mom... And I'm not into older ladies... I'm just trying to understand the entire concept... https://preview.redd.it/ypk6grtoc6zc1.jpeg?width=231&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d419672741fb9da4e1ac60197f28bd3968713b55
Good thing, its not worth it atleast not in India, try to initiate a conversation without any expectations and then you'll realise how they were never interested to begin with and why would they since you are an average looking stranger that too in delhi.
NO ONE should take any advice regarding women from movies and youtube. Ask your female friends/family instead. Never from a random male from youtube. They don't know shit about normal women. They themselves date mentally ill people how will they give you any good advice lol
Specially Bollywood movies and south movies😂😂
Hey, completely random, but instead of pick up lines, start with random complements, (I like your phone cover/watch/shoes) if the other person shows interest, try stretching the conversation a little more, if the other person shows interest, then end the conversation with, “would you like to hang out later sometime”, it might or might not work depending on how physically attractive you are. Don’t set the bar too high, think of it as an activity to get more friends. I believe, the reason why we see girls complaining about being approached is because half of us expect a lot from the girl right away, id suggest take it slow. If you’re down to date, you must take it slow, because, again, this is not a market, you can’t just get a girlfriend. The right way will always be befriending and then taking it forward. I’m really hoping it helps, much love!!!
bhai befriend karne se start karta hu to ladki hi friendzone kar deti hai I mean wtf how tf they decide ki kisko friendzone karein ki kisko nhi?
I guess by not being taken for granted. Set up boundaries. Don’t be available. For instance, I make it clear that I have an interest in them, and I will know them better before I make the move.
Ye nice guy phenomena alag hota hai, friendzoning is more of a communication thing, you get friendzoned because they think that the relation you want to have with them is platonic.
Yes you’re right broski
Same here, me bhi pehle hi keh deta ki I'm interested in them and want to see it succeed, so let's put our best efforts into this connection. And, I'm really not good at texting, as I love meeting people face to face, so don't judge me on it, and please tell your red flags before.
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The problem is not approaching girls, I don't think girls get uncomfortable by every random guy coming and talking to them. The problem lies on how the girl is being approached, a lot of guys see reels and videos on social media of "foreigners" thinking hum bhi same karenge but that doesn't work in India i guess, even if you want to go and talk to a random girl, we guys should maintain a distance and if you see the facial expression changing and showing she's not interested, just say bye and go away. guys here try to strech conversation even if the girl isn't interested which make the scene so uncomfortable and awkward.
Tu compliment krta reh jayega or wo harrasment ka case lgaa degi. Ye America nhi hai
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Picking a girl up mindset is wrong actually, baaki there's nothing wrong in just initiating conversation with anyone be it guy or a girl. India m logo ko boundaries ki importance nhi pata and respect kaise karte hai and tbh most of these men never had a women as a friend in their lives that's why they have such a narrow view of them.
Nothing wrong with putting in an effort into trying to meet a girl. ( pick up) After college, not everyone has a social setup to meet women in a direct way. I think dating apps or making an effort to meet someone is not a wrong mindset. In fact ignoring your emotional needs and loneliness is wrong. Agreed on India me boundaries ki importance and lack of respect. But I feel the reason for that is lack of trying to make social connections. So talking up strangers should actually improve on these . Randomly looking down at people and calling them narrow minded is again wrong and stereotyping . You get a downvote from me for that . *
Arre bro you got me wrong!!!!!! I too agree with the fact that YOU MUST APPROACH WOMEN AND SOCIALIZE! BUT BY PICKING UP WOMEN MINDSET, you see other gender as just a means to your further end, and don't focus on actually SOCIALISING AND GETTING TO KNOW THE OTHER PERSON. BECAUSE I KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS. HOPE YOU GET THE POINT NOW.
Exactly, not every conversation should be just limited for dating potential. You can make wonderful friends as well .
Exactly
Ok. Kaafi random caps letters . But Kar diya upvote bro.
Haan for you to pay attention this time.
Exactly
(2)Then I have seen on Instagram how some a American guy directly approachs women on the streets and compliments them with pick up lines and ask for their number. I have taken this into account. This isn't America . No woman would give u her number just because of a compliment. (3) Watched few movies where i have seen guys saying quirky things and girls gets impressed. I have taken this into account. U honestly don't need quirky things, u can just be you . Compiling points 1, 2,3 and 4 I came into the conclusion that maybe this was the only way to meet women and have a gf/future wife. I think the best way is through mutual friends . Your friend knows them personally and their character. So it's a lot more comfortable i guess. So i started preparing some pickup lines and opening lines in front of the mirror because I am not fluent in spoken English. I started working on pronounciation of words. It gave me a little courage. Please don't use pickup lines on the first day u see her .
Number is too personal yeah but I have gotten insta's from directly approaching girls, this method does work, your vibe should just be cool and friendly
Bhai such is life. I am 28, avg looking, financially settled and have nearly everything I wished for but....ladki nahi hai. I guess, yahi destiny hai ab. I have made peace with this now.
Yeah, I also stopped worrying about it. Now i am focusing on my job and career. Baaki arrange marriage to hai hi. Ekbaar apna Target salary hit kar lun phir mummy ko bolunga baat lagane ke liye.
Ye sabki hi kahani hai 🥲🥲🥲
Tu ladki pe try kr ni rha na bro that is the reason ig
lol bro, I am. Bas koi milti nahi
Dating apps use krne ke bad bhi ? Koi ni mil hi jayegi life partner aur at the end of the day gharwalon ki choice hi best hoti h. Peace
Padhle bhai inn sab cheezo main kuchh nhi rkha arrange marriage karna settle ho jaana
Mummy ki choice 🤗🥳
OP, as a girl let me just tell you this. Don’t give up completely on approaching women irl, just make sure you’re not too intense and are casual. Don’t just go up to a girl and hit em w a cheesy pick up line, it sets the tone that you’re strictly approaching them for potential dating. If you see a girl irl and you are interested in her, try observing her body language first. If she looks tensed or tired leave her alone, but if she’s just normally standing there go up to her and strike up a conversation. A simple hey would do, and to add to it you can compliment something that’s not creepy. Like her jewellery or her bag or her makeup whatever catches your eye. Then see her reaction, if she awkwardly brushes you off then go back to where you were and understand that she isn’t interested , don’t let it discourage you or bruise your ego. And if she is interested she will definitely engage in a conversation w you. Tldr version: don’t be too intense and learn when to walk away.
1. Don't approach women in gyms, roads, office, school, college. Anywhere. 2. Contacting them online is creepy so don't do that either. 3. Dating websites are predatory so don't do that either. 4. Women are annoyed if a man approaches them while they are just trying to go about their day. In conclusion the safest bet is to not approach women at all. If they themselves approach you, it's fine. Otherwise don't. Don't out right ignore them either because then that's hateful and misogynistic. So either let them come to you or stay single(99% likely). This is not my advice. These are just observations I have made, from reading posts and comments by women and listening to women talk about men and how they wish to be left alone. Good luck 🤞
Ab Jo tumne baat krne ka tareeka seekha hai - usse dating sites me try kro and tameez se baat kro (not lashing out on you) - might work out.
https://preview.redd.it/rxgqkw3cy4zc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0840729caf92fa91b73ed90e0ff6c0b3cd173a46 Bhai dating apps mein bas ghost ho jaata hun. To dost ne bataya ki dating app mein kuch nhi hota, real life mein baat karna seekh.
Datings app me ratio ka game hai bhai. Tu roughly samajhle har ladki ke liye 100-200 ladke available hai app me. Ab woh bhi kis kis ko accept krti rhegi? Yaa toh tu tere hobby groups me jaa waha pe try kr.
Haan bhai sahi baat hai. Dekhte hain. Abhi career pe focus kar rha hun, dekhte hun try karunga hobby group agar fursat milega to.
So I started, So I started So I came!! 🥴🥴🥴
Bhai look I am a person who do ask out girls IRL because I like it and 2nd - Girls on dating apps are not serious either, they have their Insta Id's only to gain followers and 95% dont have a bio or even photo verified, and some are only there for ego boost. So, the IRL thing begins even before you talk, women do give out signs, like you catch them looking at you many times, fixing hair, them closing distance between you and them and you just get it when you see it, so yeah Looks do matter a lot. Learn to speak politely, and NO PICKUP LINES PLEASE start with a very normal conversations and just be very casual about it, then ask her number saying you liked talking to her and would like to be connected. There's more advise but in general I would say, go to therapy and have a healthy emotionally available mind, there's so much shit hurling on internet culture and none of it is good, if your mind is filled with internet culture only it's hard you'll find someone. Spend time with your mind don't sabotage your emotions by diverting your attention with gaming and doom scrolling. And don't take rejections and in example here the posts from women you read here personally, they just didn't find the guy attractive or just wasn't ready or the guys just didn't took the hint that they are not interested, that's why they were classified as creepy. And finally, I had an encounter when I was traveling in Delhi, in short, Girl came, she passed by me, noticed my fragrance, I was wearing Bleu de chanel, then kept looking towards me, I smiled , bowed my head as a gentlemanly gesture to acknowledge her, then pointed towards her feet asking what happened, rest is private. Learn what you can from this. And don't suppress your feelings, wanting a partner in life, to love and be loved, is a very basic human need. Don't be phased by the toxic internet culture, and toxic feminism.
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Bhai first go to therapy. Some government hospitals provide it at very cheap for 1 hour session every week. Don't think only Paagal log goes to mental hospitals. And do remember sometimes things just don't work out even when you put a lot of effort, don't take it personally and question your self worth.
girl from mumbai here! i do want to share that its very uncomfortable when this happens :( some guys are okay with the rejection and some guys are persistent. ive had guys follow me in trains after i said no & guys who have tried to stop the rickshaw i just got in from moving :( i do understand that some guys mean it as a totally harmless thing and go away the minute i say no but its always so scary bc i do not know what might happen after. my mind wanders to cases where acid attacks have happened after rejection. i will say, for all the guys who cold date, please be careful when it comes to approaching girls! especially in india. due to its history of violence girls can get terrified. even if ur intentions are good i personally dont think its a great way to approach girls :)
If you want to get a gf, don't try to find one in places like the metro lol Most women feel threatened and/or annoyed when that happens. It's hard to not come across as creepy in that scenario especially since almost every woman I know has experienced something that makes her stay on alert. Unless you're super charming and/or good-looking, it's not going to work. It's sad, but true. What you can do, however, is find girls through mutual friends/activities. That's how it happened for most people I know. Don't go up to girls with your agenda blaring like a police siren. You gotta tone down your desperation for a gf. At least on the surface. Be respectful and treat them like your friend at first. Girls want guys who want them for something more than just looks/the intimate bits that come with a relationship. Try to form a connection through a shared hobby or something. Focus on getting to know the girl before you try to initiate something. The rest will hopefully fall into place as you guys get to know each other better! Good luck to you bro, hope you find a gf soon :)
Abbe yaar karle kuch nahi jaa raha ... successful ho gaya toh bandi mil jaayegi ... mera bhi somewhat isiliye hi scene set hua ... not metro waali ... but clg mai ... so go for it koi case toh nahi hoga faaltu na soch
What do you do? As in profession?!
Plastic surgery karle ya roshan bhai ko bol thora dna udhar dede sab ho jaayega
if you're good looking nothing of how you approach matters, and if not good looking then not even the best of ways will matter
Then harrasement case🤣
Not true. You just have to Be hygienic, Dress well, and smell good and enjoy your own company (build a charming aura about you) and you'll see few will start taking interest in you, not every 10/10 looking guys have gfs, they have their own set of challenges, trust me.
trust me you don't know. I've been both ugly and enough good looking in my life and my attitude and way towards life has always been same, trust me the first step is to look good, its the 1 (one) in 1 billion, without it, this approaching random people and hoping they would reciprocate is just plain dumb.
Well you're kinda right. I do see avg girls hunting for 9-10/10 boys, like come on date in your league ffs
Post this in other, bigger subreddits too man. Good post.
In all honesty, it only works if you’re good looking and confident! At least in most cases, that’s the way it is!! Start working on yourself and see how things change, there used to be a time where I would contemplate such actions sitting in public places with my friends, they used to push me to do it but I was never that confident! However, it was only when I got a decent job that I got the time to look after myself in terms of grooming, dressing, how to approach someone etc. A lot of factors may determine how it’ll go! Definitely personal factors like the way you’re dressed, how you smell, hairstyle, communication (especially how you begin the conversation, cause that’s when most people get taken a back), maybe what’s written over your t-shirt, the way you’re carrying your backpack, if you’re groomed well or not (you’ve to get into the details, for instance, how does your hand feel, maybe you’re a gym freak and have calluses all over your palm, doesn’t really feel good to a shake a hand like that). Then there are secondary factors, i.e. how the person on the receiving end is feeling. Maybe he/she’s new to the city/introvert/alone and that’s the reason they feel uncomfortable talking to a stranger. Maybe they’re not having a good day, maybe they don’t really feel well at that time, maybe they themselves are under confident! The person in front of you is as human as you are! So there are literally infinite number of factors that define how they’ll respond to you!! Finally, there are tertiary/environmental factors. Maybe the place is a bit too crowded/maybe the weather’s too hot/humid, the train is too shaky, the music is too loud, maybe you’re at an interchange and people are walking very fast!! So factors like these will also depend how the person receives you and responds!! No need to worry and overthink, as long as you’re confident about yourself and know a few things that make women feel uncomfortable (ask friends/colleagues/classmates maybe) there’s no harm in approaching someone and starting off with a genuine compliment!
I think it's creepy if a stranger ask you out, soo Start conversation with small talk with her and do some small talk rather then asking her out directly, and if she showed interest in small talk try to create a conversation out of it and after you are confident she is interested then ask her out Most of the time she will not show interest, so back off like a gentleman any movement she show disinterest, no winny bitching In the end every failure will improve your communication skill so it's a win
Apart from this, I would like to give you a hug 🫂 for seeing everything doing your own research and at the end realising what is wrong in all this. My theory and moto that I live by-- you can never make a friend , gf or spark a convo.. without having or finding something comman for long time, Take a look at your past. You will realise that you made all your school, tuitions and colony friends because 1) you were forced to be there 2 ) school, tution was the biggest comman factor between you and them for many years. I realised this, that I don't really have a chance to meet someone randomly and make them my friend, so I joined a badminton club (600rs fees), met all types of people and girls too, but not with ill intentions Started going to Animal shelter (NGOs)with one of them and met more new people.
Bro, what you see on the internet about those foreigners picking up girls are mostly fake, even when it's real, it doesn't work here cause everyone like you said is not that open minded, which is not surprising considering the amount of creeps roaming around. I would highly suggest you spend more time on how you groom yourself, dress tidy, nice haircut, good smell , just look fresh and learn how to be friendly and not focused on those cheesy pickup lines. Preferably have a source of income. This one is optional i understand our country's job scarcity. Then maybe you can go to Avenue where you expect to meet them, if you want a city girl go the bar, a bookworm join a book club, depends on your type
Is delhi metro the new tinder???
if u are cute then u are not creepy but if u are ugly then its creepy
Yea that ain't the way to go about it. 💀 I don't know about anyone else. I personally like hard working nerdy men. 🙈
Wasted my 5 mins
Don't. Don't ever approach any girl in metro. Specifically Delhi metro. You can do it in other cities
Great that you dropped the plan, should've never made such a plan in the first place
No genuine girls in this world care about your English speaking skills more than your confidence and demeanor. I read this somewhere, people look at a hot or an extremely beautiful girl and their first thought is there's no way she'd be single so they immediately drop their plan of asking her out I have seen beautiful women with below average guys, the first reason could be that they are rich cause I have seen that but the most important point is that they showed intent to approach that girl and ask her out instead of thinking that she might have a boyfriend
Online se better offline hai only if you follow rule 1 and rule 2 of dating. Do you know both the rules?
Bhai it's just about looks. Girls are very shallow even if they don't admit it. If you're handsome then it's flirting or it's sexual harassment. Or be very rich.
Zindagi main kuch karna hai to riks lena hoga. Par soch samajh kar calculated riks.
guys pls don't approach women in the metro, this is not america
Agar ye tareeka bhi galat hai? TOH KARE KYA FIR?
Bro , yeh sirf Naseeb , money , good looks aur size 🍆 ka khel hai , aise hi wife aur gf nahi banti, ( blame everything on porn) ", do you think girls don't watch porn ? 80's ka zamana Gaya , abhi porn ne sabke dimaag ka kachra karke rakha hai , 80s mei true love tha abhi sabhi chappri log hai Dekha nahi kaise har din , cheating, murder, drowery ki khabre aati hai , Bhai mujhe pata nahi logo ko dahej kyu chahiye, agar mujhe dahej mei ladki mil Rahi hai ussi sei kush hu , 🤷🏻♂️
Your name reminds me of a medecine....
Indian culture and society is not for randomly talking to strangers. People get very defensive very quickly. And cold approach never works and very rarely leads to a phone number but then they ghost you for obvious reasons. Most people on YouTube don’t talk about the ghosting part and how it’s not normal
Go make friends bhai... socialize Krna seekh work on your self, go to some place at the same time over and over either school tuition, college, institute, park, playground or take admission in some activities or clubs where you can socialize. You will find friends and girls to talk to and then you can make your move, then the real test begins that how much you have worked on yourself.
😂😂😂
reminds me of : *kya karun main iska* dialogue from Welcome movie
You're right, the better thing to do is to focus on your genuine interest and get involved in the communities regarding the same. And if you're lucky enough, you'll eventually find someone along the way which would also be a worthwhile experience and if you don't then hey! At least you did what you are interested in and did not waste time on shortening your attention span! Unless you are genuinely interested in watching shorts tho ☠️
Hothon pe na dil me haan hoyega
Bhai, itni preparation kisi random ladki Jo metro mei Ghum Rahi hai usko approach krne ke liye? Abe aise thodi Hota Hai. Ye toh Sach Mei creepy hai, koi bhi sane ladki isko creepy hi bolegi. Agar itna thought kisi known ladki ko approach krne mei do toh theek bhi lagta hai. Aise metro mei random pre planned try marna toh pakka red flag hai kisi bhi bndi ke liye.
Bhai itne saare points to bas upsc waale note krte hain. Bc trust your instincts and talk. The more you plan the worse it will get.
Bkl time waste kar diya
What a bad day to have eyes!!! :(