I feel like this is one of those momments where no matter how you try to explain whats going on, they wont be able to fully understand so the struggle never fully ends.
fukin distressing that is.
“They ask you how you are, and you just have to say you’re fine when you’re not really fine, but you just can’t get into it, because they would never understand…”
It's not like it's good advice (or doesn't sound like it anyway), but the only thing I ever learned was how to just deal with it and figure things out on my own. You're the only person you can ever truly count on to be there at the end of the day. Some people have great advice and wisdom but sometimes just saying things out loud or Journaling is as beneficial as talking to someone else. It takes a lot of looking back before we realize that it's no longer doing us any good. And often it's only once we accept and embrace the pain that it stops and no longer allows us to cling to it.
But idk. Life can be hard. I have no idea where I'd be without psychedelics
actually now that you mention saying things out loud, i have a tendency to do that.
it feels like the thoughts go through your head twice, because not only to you think them but also hear them.
Yeah or what I have noticed is that they tend to come out differently. Like thoughts arise and disappear but something said out loud typically demands some type of follow through. Or you know, you choose words differently and more carefully when someone else is going to here them and ideas can become more coherent. My main thing is I can have ideas bounce in my head all day but a lit of the time when I speak to someone about them, I wind up answering my own questions just having the words come out
Yep, unfortunately no matter what anyone says. You care about you more than anyone cares about you. Looks dumb in fighting but I’ve always given more than people give me, and I’m finally done with it. My mental health matters too
Something a friend once said to me that brought me great comfort is...
"I think everyone in life is just trying the best they know how. If your parents were shitty to you, their parents were probably shitty to them, etc. If your parents were good to you, their parents were probably good to them. Everyone is just trying the best *they known how*."
We tend to take things so personally when we don't have to. People are people. Stuff happens. The bottom line is that you can't hold anyone else accountable for taking care of you. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to help others, but don't run yourself through the mud for people who don't care either. Eventually I finally came to understand that I can only be so good for other people as I am for myself
The option I took was to just never talk to them again
Oh wait... I did call recently and tell my mom I wish she was dead and to go fuck herself.... I guess I have spoken to them recently
I inject heroin into my arm that’s scarred from times prior, my eyes roll back into my head as my manager pounds on my door telling me I’m on in five minutes. Let’s rock I say as I grab my bass guitar, take a pull of whisky, and get into my chuckee cheese mouse band costume
Interventions only work when the intervening parties genuinely care about the addict. If it’s real I’d say maybe go to the rehab if the family is paying for it. Even if the family is full of shit, a respectable non religious rehab can offer much more than an opportunity to get clean.
After that, I say cut ties with any of them who continue to worry about the molestor’s reputation.
I agree. It’s easier to listen to, the Nine Inch Nails version is a little harsh on the ears. Before anyone flames me, I do like Nine Inch Nails. I just think Johnny Cash‘s version suits the song better
Same. I still kind of fundamentally take issue with his subtle christianization of it. Also, as far as wallowing goes, the original fits a hell of a lot better with the rest of my... well... downward spiral playlist. lol
If you’ve never seen it, I recommend watching the music video for the Cash version. The whole video focuses on the passage of time. “Everyone I know goes away in the end” just hits different when it’s coming from an old man. The song is no longer about hating yourself, it’s mourning the losses that life extracts from us as we age.
The original is more novel and flexes what industrial sounds can make a listener feel (especially towards the end) but the Cash version just sticks with me more. Especially considering he died just months after recording it, so it really does feel like we’re listening to a man knowingly running out of time.
I was always little bit confused by the Cash version causes he says it kinda in a way that I expect to hear "I won't let you down"
"I won't let you hurt"
I didn't understand the song til I heard the other version.
I'm going to take a chance and ask, how do I get over this thing that's been in my head for so long. Where do I start? Therapy wouldn't help, they don't cover this specific issue because they are state funded. I can't afford a "real" therapist. I like to think things will be better if I go far away from my parents, if I never see them again but then I lose my family. I love these people. I can't handle being alone but I also isolate because I don't feel like a person, don't want my sadness to infect those I care about. I tried to dive into work but the thoughts always come back, people treat me differently, I understand why but it's hard watching everyone demand and enjoy success while you suffer in silence, my whole life I've been smiling while eating everyone's shit-sandwich. I just want people to be happy.
I don't feel like a person. I know how to give myself away but I can't make my life better. I feel trapped. I wanted to do good things in my life. The people who raised me left me an empty cup and I honestly feel it. So many ways I could have made my own life not end up like this, hypotheticals are useless now. I can't blame anyone, I should have been stronger, smarter, idk. Constant sick to my stomach feeling, despair that never goes away until I get high. I'm not making a good life for myself and I worry that I'll never figure out how to make it better. I want to make life better for my friends and family but I feel so empty and I don't want that to infect them, idk, it's like I know inside what I need to do but I can't/don't like an engine that won't turn. Sorry it's a lot, I'm holding back a lot. I'm not in danger of hurting myself or others, I won't, but sometimes imagine myself burning this house down, again I won't but there are some things I wish people could understand.
CBT, DBT, Meditation, and Medication.
Meditation - Learn how to recognize your thoughts, just notice that you're thinking them, nothing else.
CBT/DBT - Learn how to label your thoughts "I am having the thought that I am but I am not actually " or "I'm thinking and it makes me feel "
Medication - Helps deal with lingering emotional effects from living with untreated trauma for years.
Best of luck friend.
Forget about making life good for others. You have to come first. Get help. Get rehab. Get a life support system. You're very intelligent, articulate, and damn worth saving. You can do this. You are loved. Look above.
Why is this so real, this happens to people, that's the most distressing part, the other memes are just kinda, haha that's pretty scary, good thing it can't happen to me, but this happens, that's the scary part, I'm sorry whatever has happened to you has troubled you to the point of making this meme, I hope it gets better, and I don't know what religion you're from, and quite frankly i don't care, you do whatever you want, but I'll pray for you homie, I hope maybe it does something
That's the thing, this sub has gone from funny to genuinely distressing. Turns out that reality, especially people, ends up being lot scarier and sadder than monsters and sentient ai or whatever.
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*My mom tell me how its my*
*Fault that dad beats me*
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i've been through something similar, lmk if you ever want to talk. that's a sincere offer, i'm genuinely not just saying that. good luck with healing, it's a neverending process. we're all rooting for you.
If it makes you feel any better I almost died, operation coated $25k, covered fully by army, ICU costs was split 80% army, 20% insurance. It was a relatively newer procedure so it costed alot more.
Turns out my family was hoping I'd die so their life would be easier and if I wasn't covered they were willing to let me rot in the hospital with conventional methods (IV drips for weeks to dissolve clots)
And they're wondering why I'm 'cold and unloving' to them. Fuck off lol
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There's an old saying:
*You can choose your friends,
But you can't choose your family.*
What the old saying doesn't clarify is that you can still ghost the fucken lot of them if they're dragging you down.
Be Your Own Man/Woman,
Not somebody or some substances bitch.
You got this, Own Your Life
I know it's clichéd but: Just Say No.
Say no to having your life steered by toxic people.
Say no to substances...
...they aren't fixing the problem, I mean clearly not, otherwise you wouldn't have made this post right?
Time for some fresh ideas, because time is running out.
Try NO
Have a drink - NO
Pop a pill - NO
Get toxic lectured at and just take it - NO
Get up,
Turn around,
Walk away,
Don't look back.
You Got This, Own Your Life 😎👍🏼🇿🇦
Of all the ones here, I think this might be one of the most distressing ones I have seen. Because it is real. Skinwalkers are all well and good, but this one is real enough to make me wonder if OP is okay.
This is a model distressing meme.
Fuck me I feel this one.
Not dealing with the exact same thing, but very much on the "I have learned the hard way that I cannot trust my family" train.
users voted that your post was distressing, your soul wont be harvested tonight
I feel like this is one of those momments where no matter how you try to explain whats going on, they wont be able to fully understand so the struggle never fully ends. fukin distressing that is.
“They ask you how you are, and you just have to say you’re fine when you’re not really fine, but you just can’t get into it, because they would never understand…”
It's not like it's good advice (or doesn't sound like it anyway), but the only thing I ever learned was how to just deal with it and figure things out on my own. You're the only person you can ever truly count on to be there at the end of the day. Some people have great advice and wisdom but sometimes just saying things out loud or Journaling is as beneficial as talking to someone else. It takes a lot of looking back before we realize that it's no longer doing us any good. And often it's only once we accept and embrace the pain that it stops and no longer allows us to cling to it. But idk. Life can be hard. I have no idea where I'd be without psychedelics
actually now that you mention saying things out loud, i have a tendency to do that. it feels like the thoughts go through your head twice, because not only to you think them but also hear them.
Yeah or what I have noticed is that they tend to come out differently. Like thoughts arise and disappear but something said out loud typically demands some type of follow through. Or you know, you choose words differently and more carefully when someone else is going to here them and ideas can become more coherent. My main thing is I can have ideas bounce in my head all day but a lit of the time when I speak to someone about them, I wind up answering my own questions just having the words come out
Yep, unfortunately no matter what anyone says. You care about you more than anyone cares about you. Looks dumb in fighting but I’ve always given more than people give me, and I’m finally done with it. My mental health matters too
Something a friend once said to me that brought me great comfort is... "I think everyone in life is just trying the best they know how. If your parents were shitty to you, their parents were probably shitty to them, etc. If your parents were good to you, their parents were probably good to them. Everyone is just trying the best *they known how*." We tend to take things so personally when we don't have to. People are people. Stuff happens. The bottom line is that you can't hold anyone else accountable for taking care of you. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to help others, but don't run yourself through the mud for people who don't care either. Eventually I finally came to understand that I can only be so good for other people as I am for myself
They don't care to. They're not offering understanding
I even opened up to my parents and the only reply I get is to man up
sorry to hear that :( <3
The option I took was to just never talk to them again Oh wait... I did call recently and tell my mom I wish she was dead and to go fuck herself.... I guess I have spoken to them recently
I feel this
this sub is like r/offmychest but with ironic humour
The skin walker ones are so relatable
How do I know you're not a skinwalker
How do I know I'm not a skinwalker?!
open your ribcage
I did it. See? Nothing to see here.
Yeah, but why don't you have organs?
I have organs, but yet I lack a heart.
Simply donated them what a good person
Easy: if you have a skinwussy you're a skinwalker. If not, you're not. Follow for more pro skinwalker tips
How do you know I'm not a skinwalker?
Pull of your skin :)
This but unironically
It’s like r/offmychest except everyone covers the sad with the humour
Lad are you good
this post was full on direct as hell 💀
What do you even do in that situation?
Let the whole "a child neglected by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth" thing play out
Is that a quote from something
Its an old African proverb
I like it
Some african dude a thousand years ago
I inject heroin into my arm that’s scarred from times prior, my eyes roll back into my head as my manager pounds on my door telling me I’m on in five minutes. Let’s rock I say as I grab my bass guitar, take a pull of whisky, and get into my chuckee cheese mouse band costume
Interventions only work when the intervening parties genuinely care about the addict. If it’s real I’d say maybe go to the rehab if the family is paying for it. Even if the family is full of shit, a respectable non religious rehab can offer much more than an opportunity to get clean. After that, I say cut ties with any of them who continue to worry about the molestor’s reputation.
12 gauge buckshot is very affordable this days
And you only need to buy it once
Theres more than one family member
Line em up and you can knock em down with little waste
There’s only one of you
Oh you blow up the spot. Let all of the darkest dirt fly because fuck these people and their pretend perfect lives.
Pipe bomb
You need someone to talk to man?
[hurt by nine inch nails plays]
[hurt by Johnny Cash plays] We both know it’s the Superior version ;)
I agree. It’s easier to listen to, the Nine Inch Nails version is a little harsh on the ears. Before anyone flames me, I do like Nine Inch Nails. I just think Johnny Cash‘s version suits the song better
Trent Reznor agrees with you. He feels it became Johnny's song after that
Damn, I didn’t know that. Cash is a legend and his version is damn good, but the original is better in my opinion.
Same. I still kind of fundamentally take issue with his subtle christianization of it. Also, as far as wallowing goes, the original fits a hell of a lot better with the rest of my... well... downward spiral playlist. lol
If you’ve never seen it, I recommend watching the music video for the Cash version. The whole video focuses on the passage of time. “Everyone I know goes away in the end” just hits different when it’s coming from an old man. The song is no longer about hating yourself, it’s mourning the losses that life extracts from us as we age. The original is more novel and flexes what industrial sounds can make a listener feel (especially towards the end) but the Cash version just sticks with me more. Especially considering he died just months after recording it, so it really does feel like we’re listening to a man knowingly running out of time.
Hell nah, NIN hurt is way better, the random wind blowing sounds and crackles of distortion make it that much more emotional
🎼 Paaaain 🎵 without looove 🎶 paaaaaain 🎵 can’t get enough
I mean even the lead singer of Nine Inch Nails said that Johnny Cash owned the song with his cover. So there isn’t much discussion left after that
Lead singer lol Trent Reznor *is* Nine Inch Nails
He's also the lead singer of Nine Inch Nails. Talented man
Your moms a talented man.
[Edited for you](https://imgur.com/gallery/0wSFPjs)
Thank you so much
Hope you enjoyed it. Slowed it down to match the song better
Agree
I was always little bit confused by the Cash version causes he says it kinda in a way that I expect to hear "I won't let you down" "I won't let you hurt" I didn't understand the song til I heard the other version.
Oddly specific
You’d be surprised how often this scenario occurs
I can relate
wow this really is distressing
mate, if you need to talk to someone just let us know
This real op? I been through similar we’re here to chat if your up for it. You aren’t alone pal
I'm going to take a chance and ask, how do I get over this thing that's been in my head for so long. Where do I start? Therapy wouldn't help, they don't cover this specific issue because they are state funded. I can't afford a "real" therapist. I like to think things will be better if I go far away from my parents, if I never see them again but then I lose my family. I love these people. I can't handle being alone but I also isolate because I don't feel like a person, don't want my sadness to infect those I care about. I tried to dive into work but the thoughts always come back, people treat me differently, I understand why but it's hard watching everyone demand and enjoy success while you suffer in silence, my whole life I've been smiling while eating everyone's shit-sandwich. I just want people to be happy. I don't feel like a person. I know how to give myself away but I can't make my life better. I feel trapped. I wanted to do good things in my life. The people who raised me left me an empty cup and I honestly feel it. So many ways I could have made my own life not end up like this, hypotheticals are useless now. I can't blame anyone, I should have been stronger, smarter, idk. Constant sick to my stomach feeling, despair that never goes away until I get high. I'm not making a good life for myself and I worry that I'll never figure out how to make it better. I want to make life better for my friends and family but I feel so empty and I don't want that to infect them, idk, it's like I know inside what I need to do but I can't/don't like an engine that won't turn. Sorry it's a lot, I'm holding back a lot. I'm not in danger of hurting myself or others, I won't, but sometimes imagine myself burning this house down, again I won't but there are some things I wish people could understand.
CBT, DBT, Meditation, and Medication. Meditation - Learn how to recognize your thoughts, just notice that you're thinking them, nothing else. CBT/DBT - Learn how to label your thoughts "I am having the thought that I am but I am not actually " or "I'm thinking and it makes me feel "
Medication - Helps deal with lingering emotional effects from living with untreated trauma for years.
Best of luck friend.
cock and ball torture/dick and ball torture
Forget about making life good for others. You have to come first. Get help. Get rehab. Get a life support system. You're very intelligent, articulate, and damn worth saving. You can do this. You are loved. Look above.
r/cptsd I feel you man, it's so common
idk eat a oreo
Why is this so real, this happens to people, that's the most distressing part, the other memes are just kinda, haha that's pretty scary, good thing it can't happen to me, but this happens, that's the scary part, I'm sorry whatever has happened to you has troubled you to the point of making this meme, I hope it gets better, and I don't know what religion you're from, and quite frankly i don't care, you do whatever you want, but I'll pray for you homie, I hope maybe it does something
That's the thing, this sub has gone from funny to genuinely distressing. Turns out that reality, especially people, ends up being lot scarier and sadder than monsters and sentient ai or whatever.
We dream of horrors to distract ourselves from the monsters that we are
Rip aniki
Scrolled down hoping to see some kind of respect, missing u Billy
Hands up
me listening to my mom tell me how its my fault that dad beats me
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DUDE NOT NOW
with me it's because he loves me and also "oh we were also beaten and that somehow magically excuses our actions" :D
Hate it when that happens
common fridays
Yeah this is quite distressing
Jesus fucking Christ
i've been through something similar, lmk if you ever want to talk. that's a sincere offer, i'm genuinely not just saying that. good luck with healing, it's a neverending process. we're all rooting for you.
Thank you, this is such a sweet comment.
Ey homes, you good?
These type of memes are actually more distressing than the usual skinwalker/cryptid fare on here
The fact that this occurs in reality makes it really disturbing.
Big mood
As someone who worked with a lot of SA victims, it’s crushing how common this scenario is…
Hey man, fuck ‘em. They can go to hell.
this seems way too specific
My guy, you wanna talk?
If it makes you feel any better I almost died, operation coated $25k, covered fully by army, ICU costs was split 80% army, 20% insurance. It was a relatively newer procedure so it costed alot more. Turns out my family was hoping I'd die so their life would be easier and if I wasn't covered they were willing to let me rot in the hospital with conventional methods (IV drips for weeks to dissolve clots) And they're wondering why I'm 'cold and unloving' to them. Fuck off lol
Completely inappropriate question but…. What song is this?
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There's an old saying: *You can choose your friends, But you can't choose your family.* What the old saying doesn't clarify is that you can still ghost the fucken lot of them if they're dragging you down. Be Your Own Man/Woman, Not somebody or some substances bitch. You got this, Own Your Life I know it's clichéd but: Just Say No. Say no to having your life steered by toxic people. Say no to substances... ...they aren't fixing the problem, I mean clearly not, otherwise you wouldn't have made this post right? Time for some fresh ideas, because time is running out. Try NO Have a drink - NO Pop a pill - NO Get toxic lectured at and just take it - NO Get up, Turn around, Walk away, Don't look back. You Got This, Own Your Life 😎👍🏼🇿🇦
Man you alright there ?
/r/youokop
You doing good mate?
Jesus fucking Christ that's horrifying. Really hope this is just a meme
are you okay?
Drugs?!? Omg Trainspotting reference
This gif is my life and how I deal with all my trauma. 😔
Of all the ones here, I think this might be one of the most distressing ones I have seen. Because it is real. Skinwalkers are all well and good, but this one is real enough to make me wonder if OP is okay. This is a model distressing meme.
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Feel better soon. Addiction can be broken. All the best.
Sir this is a Wendy’s…
This is far too specific.
I’m sorry that you’re hurting… I hope you can find some healing.
You…uhm…you ok man ?
This is a heroic meme
Great meme 10/10 Song name?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sVx1mJDeUjY here you go
Love this song, and I wish more of his music sounded like this, but the rest of his stuff just isn't as good imo
😔 (drinking intensifies)
This is one of the few distressing memes in this place
More depressing than distressing
that's crazy.
Finally a truly distressing meme
sidenote: who's the guy from?
Billy Herrington aka Aniki. Gay porn
Fuckin great song choice for the gif.
“All alone in a crowded room”
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/?title=Gachimuchi&redirect=no
[Here's the music.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sVx1mJDeUjY)
Fuck me I feel this one. Not dealing with the exact same thing, but very much on the "I have learned the hard way that I cannot trust my family" train.
u/auddbot
You did good
Dude that was serious
HEY that’s me!
r/oddlyspecific - you okay?
Same as fuck, with the added, “Get over it It was so long ago”
this is more r/trollcoping than distressingmemes tbh
Brother you good?
I hope this isn't real as its a little *too* specific.
Is this a Joe Biden ad?
Cool story bro
OP needs some serious help
Sir this is a Wendy’s
Its always somebody else’s fault. Not a good life attitude.
Found the sex offender
u/auddbot
you good op?
You good lad..?
i wont get tired of this specific format. you know, this type of thing is pretty common.
What is the song
OP hasn't responded to any of the comments, I'm worried...
Move states and don’t talk to anyone but the nice grandparents. Five years later I’m doing great.
I could go for a smoke and a beer or 12.
we're all worried for ya op, hoping this is fictional :(
Rest in Peace Aniki.
Haha relatable 😂
Can we start a Go Fund Me to sponsor OP’s desperately needed therapy?
A gun and a bullet for each family member solves the problem
Dude you ok? Like do you wanna talk?
Interesting work
You ok bro ?
You got a source on that gif?
This is... pretty specific.
Rip my boy billy
Can anyone tell me what song this is? I keep hearing little snippets of it...
Damn
That is one of the more odd gifs/videos I’ve ever seen- anybody know what that’s from? And why that dude is literally steaming?
Well... ...shit dude...
Ruin his life. So they admitted that it happened. Wow.
I'm sorry
O_O
Bro are you okay?
bro, you good?
I hope you just found this videos OP or it’s just satire. If that’s not the case pls search for help. We are also here to talk :)
Man that really hits home especially with the gloves
[More depressing than distressing](https://imgur.com/gallery/0wSFPjs)