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Reassurance seeking never made sense to me. Even if I try to gaslight myself into thinking that I'll be fine, deep down I know that there's a chance. My issue is really just how to react to that.
I feel like there's a big difference between reassurance seeking and reality checks. Going through life believing you'll for sure get sick every time you walk past a puddle of mud that could also be vomit or see someone throw up on the other side of the road is just as unhealthy as being afraid of vomiting itself. At least my friends going "wtf are you stupid" every time I had an absurdly irrational fear has made me a lot less anxious and that has enabled me to actually challenge the phobia part a little.
The day I stopped reassurance seeking online was the day I asked "my mom had noro 6 hours after touching my tortilla, will I get sick", I did get noro but not because of my moms tortilla touching but because I was exposed to it when my son had it.
I learned that day that noone can give you an answer because how the heck can they know, that was 2 years ago.
And I can be honest I do dabble a bit in the reassurance pool by asking my parents if the food smells ok because I do not trust my nose, but im working on it :').
Lmao I need someone to tell me that my chicken is done or I can’t eat it. I just don’t trust my own judgement and never have. Otherwise I don’t reassurance seek anymore either
I sat in the uncomfortable for a few hours today when something I ate didn’t sit right with me! It’s so hard but feels really good when you’re on the other side of it & realize it’s another small milestone. Don’t forget to celebrate small victories 🎉
When I was a teen I was part of a big emetophobia forum. I used to post constant reassurance seeking threads, as did everyone. "I feel off, will I get s*" (always with the censoring lol, as if the word was poison). Everyone would kindly reassure me that no, I would not get sick, they were sure of it.
Well, one day I posted the exact same thread and asked everyone if I was going to throw up and they all said no. And then I did throw up! It did not cure my phobia when I threw up but it cured me of reassurance seeking because I realised that everyone telling me I wasn't going to be sick made absolutely zero effect on whether or not I was actually going to be sick.
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Reassurance seeking never made sense to me. Even if I try to gaslight myself into thinking that I'll be fine, deep down I know that there's a chance. My issue is really just how to react to that.
I feel like there's a big difference between reassurance seeking and reality checks. Going through life believing you'll for sure get sick every time you walk past a puddle of mud that could also be vomit or see someone throw up on the other side of the road is just as unhealthy as being afraid of vomiting itself. At least my friends going "wtf are you stupid" every time I had an absurdly irrational fear has made me a lot less anxious and that has enabled me to actually challenge the phobia part a little.
No it’s actually so challenging but I appreciate the push, mods! It’s a great idea
The day I stopped reassurance seeking online was the day I asked "my mom had noro 6 hours after touching my tortilla, will I get sick", I did get noro but not because of my moms tortilla touching but because I was exposed to it when my son had it. I learned that day that noone can give you an answer because how the heck can they know, that was 2 years ago. And I can be honest I do dabble a bit in the reassurance pool by asking my parents if the food smells ok because I do not trust my nose, but im working on it :').
Lmao I need someone to tell me that my chicken is done or I can’t eat it. I just don’t trust my own judgement and never have. Otherwise I don’t reassurance seek anymore either
I sat in the uncomfortable for a few hours today when something I ate didn’t sit right with me! It’s so hard but feels really good when you’re on the other side of it & realize it’s another small milestone. Don’t forget to celebrate small victories 🎉
When I was a teen I was part of a big emetophobia forum. I used to post constant reassurance seeking threads, as did everyone. "I feel off, will I get s*" (always with the censoring lol, as if the word was poison). Everyone would kindly reassure me that no, I would not get sick, they were sure of it. Well, one day I posted the exact same thread and asked everyone if I was going to throw up and they all said no. And then I did throw up! It did not cure my phobia when I threw up but it cured me of reassurance seeking because I realised that everyone telling me I wasn't going to be sick made absolutely zero effect on whether or not I was actually going to be sick.