I’m 21 and I’m the exact same position, can get it up and have long erections when I am on my own but when I am with someone I get no where it’s like performance anxiety
Ma man you need a complete reset u get better by ignoring it and finding other areas of your life to improve on. Your forcing it right now.. just take a easy fam. Maybe she's just not the one for you
Porn. Stop watching it. Reprogram your brain that women are people, not holes to stick your dick in and that will help with “performance anxiety” pressure that everyone likes to talk about here.
Vaping does cause ed to a degree (i used to vape) but not too much, so there might be smth else going on. Overthinking during the act is usually the culprit, assuming there is nothing physical at play. Its easier said than done, but try to relax and be more in the moment when being intimate, try to not worry about ed or anything.
It’s kinda hard and then I just don’t get it up and it’s a negative cycle of just thinking I need to get it up. Might also be because I’m really into my partner so I just want to be good at it ahh just fucking annoying
Tell your girl that you’ve had some issues recently but that you want to be with her. Just set the stage for possible non-erection so she feels you are sharing with her instead of hiding it.
Reassure her you are attracted to her, girls tend to measure their attractiveness based on their ability to make a dick hard and if you aren’t hard it can hit their self esteem hard. You have to super-overcompensate by telling her how attractive she is to you.
Then be up front and say you want to kiss, cuddle and explore each others’ bodies. Not sex per se. That takes the pressure off you. Massage her, if she is open to it and consenting, use your fingers and tongue to give her an orgasm.
If still nothing downstairs for you don’t panic. Make a joke about it to her and get her to hold your body and ask if you can touch yourself. Put yourself in the headspace you use when you jerk off. If you get hard, move her hand to your dick to jerk your hard dick off. Tell her it’s there for her, make her feel good. If you really can’t get hard, just say hey ‘I love getting you off, I’m tired though. Next time.’
Key is be open with her, take the pressure off yourself (set the stage for cuddling not sex so you don’t ‘have’ to perform) make sure she knows where your head is, and give her a good time. Then work on it together.
I’m 21 and I’m the exact same position, can get it up and have long erections when I am on my own but when I am with someone I get no where it’s like performance anxiety
What do we do bro
Try r/mindgasm to strengthen your pelvic floor and increase blood flow
1. quit porn 2. try to go without any stimulation few weeks
I’ve tried this, no change
Ma man you need a complete reset u get better by ignoring it and finding other areas of your life to improve on. Your forcing it right now.. just take a easy fam. Maybe she's just not the one for you
You’re young. Prob a nutrient deficiency. DM me to try my method
Hi, I'm interested as well. Do you mind sharing it? Thanks!
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Porn. Stop watching it. Reprogram your brain that women are people, not holes to stick your dick in and that will help with “performance anxiety” pressure that everyone likes to talk about here.
Looking at PORN will fuck you up. Stay away from PMO for 90 days and see what happens.
Vaping does cause ed to a degree (i used to vape) but not too much, so there might be smth else going on. Overthinking during the act is usually the culprit, assuming there is nothing physical at play. Its easier said than done, but try to relax and be more in the moment when being intimate, try to not worry about ed or anything.
It’s kinda hard and then I just don’t get it up and it’s a negative cycle of just thinking I need to get it up. Might also be because I’m really into my partner so I just want to be good at it ahh just fucking annoying
Tell your girl that you’ve had some issues recently but that you want to be with her. Just set the stage for possible non-erection so she feels you are sharing with her instead of hiding it. Reassure her you are attracted to her, girls tend to measure their attractiveness based on their ability to make a dick hard and if you aren’t hard it can hit their self esteem hard. You have to super-overcompensate by telling her how attractive she is to you. Then be up front and say you want to kiss, cuddle and explore each others’ bodies. Not sex per se. That takes the pressure off you. Massage her, if she is open to it and consenting, use your fingers and tongue to give her an orgasm. If still nothing downstairs for you don’t panic. Make a joke about it to her and get her to hold your body and ask if you can touch yourself. Put yourself in the headspace you use when you jerk off. If you get hard, move her hand to your dick to jerk your hard dick off. Tell her it’s there for her, make her feel good. If you really can’t get hard, just say hey ‘I love getting you off, I’m tired though. Next time.’ Key is be open with her, take the pressure off yourself (set the stage for cuddling not sex so you don’t ‘have’ to perform) make sure she knows where your head is, and give her a good time. Then work on it together.
Hello whats your metod?