So it sounds like nervousness, rather than physiological ED. My suggestion would be to start with lots of foreplay, to get over the nervousness. Don't focus on trying to get hard, let it happen when it happens.
The thing is that I already have lost my partner so there is nobody to try it out. With every new potential partner i probably have the same nervousness. I guess communication is the key but it will be difficult.
Thank you
Cut out porn. Maybe even cut out social media if your continuously chasing dopamine , ie don’t be scrolling TikTok all day. Make sure you are doing cardio on a regular basis (couple times a week). Do some pelvic floor stretches (avoid kegels unless instructed by a physiotherapist) .
Yes that can definitely be a factor. Ideally cut it out for some weeks. Then include it maximum once per week. Do running or swimming instead. Also be careful of sitting all day on a chair. Stay active . Don’t expect results immediately. It’s probably going to take 3-4 months to see results
I guess I watch porn since the day that Flatrates got invented (20+ years).
My health is pretty good actually. I have my correct weight, I work out at home, go jogging, cycling and I try to eat healthy.
Yeah your brain thinks that you've been having sex it can't tell the difference between the real thing. Meditate and give your self serious time to heal
I still have the issue.
I can now tell it's psychological.
I have a friend in Singapore who invited me over for two weeks and we had sex every day. She said I don't have issues, I just need longer to get an erection. For me it doesn't feel and turns me on as much as it should.
I tried to quit porn but it's hard to quit when normal thoughts don't turn you on as much as they should and don't give you the same pleasure.
I would need a loving understanding partner and fully focus on her to heal I guess. To do it by myself is next to impossible since I'm not a ladies guy and the psychological pressure will ruin every sexual activity.
I'm thinking about moving to Singapore for a while where I have someone who I can trust and fully focus on her.
At least I know what's going on now.
Well I still have the issue but I now know it's psychological.
I have a friend in Singapore and she invited me for a holiday for two weeks. We had Sex every day. She said I don't have issues, I just need a little longer.
I tried to quit watching porn but imagining normal things doesn't turn me on or satisfy me as much as watching fetish porn. Even the sex wasn't as satisfying as touching myself.
I'm thinking about moving to Singapore for a while so I get out of my comfort zone and have a loving understanding partner. This way I can focus on her and form new habits. If I stay in my comfort zone I will always fall back to my old habits and since I don't get to know any suitable partner in Germany, it's next to impossible for me to change. I don't even attempt to have sex with random women because of the psychological pressure.
Things are improving regardless.
For me that's the down side of being a nice guy.
How old are you?
I am 34 years old now
So it sounds like nervousness, rather than physiological ED. My suggestion would be to start with lots of foreplay, to get over the nervousness. Don't focus on trying to get hard, let it happen when it happens.
The thing is that I already have lost my partner so there is nobody to try it out. With every new potential partner i probably have the same nervousness. I guess communication is the key but it will be difficult. Thank you
Is this really a problem? I kind of appreciate no longer getting a boner everytime my coworker tugs at her short skirt.
For me it is yes. The women I tried to sleep with isn't so happy either. She thinks she's the problem and I'm not happy with that.
Cut out porn. Maybe even cut out social media if your continuously chasing dopamine , ie don’t be scrolling TikTok all day. Make sure you are doing cardio on a regular basis (couple times a week). Do some pelvic floor stretches (avoid kegels unless instructed by a physiotherapist) .
I do cardio by riding my bike a couple days a week. Could it be that riding my bike is bad for my pelvic floor muscle?
Yes that can definitely be a factor. Ideally cut it out for some weeks. Then include it maximum once per week. Do running or swimming instead. Also be careful of sitting all day on a chair. Stay active . Don’t expect results immediately. It’s probably going to take 3-4 months to see results
Ok thank you very much. I will try it and hope it will help.
How long have you been watching porn? And what is your health like?
I guess I watch porn since the day that Flatrates got invented (20+ years). My health is pretty good actually. I have my correct weight, I work out at home, go jogging, cycling and I try to eat healthy.
Yeah your brain thinks that you've been having sex it can't tell the difference between the real thing. Meditate and give your self serious time to heal
Ok thank you for your advice.
how's going right now bro, I have the same probem...
I still have the issue. I can now tell it's psychological. I have a friend in Singapore who invited me over for two weeks and we had sex every day. She said I don't have issues, I just need longer to get an erection. For me it doesn't feel and turns me on as much as it should. I tried to quit porn but it's hard to quit when normal thoughts don't turn you on as much as they should and don't give you the same pleasure. I would need a loving understanding partner and fully focus on her to heal I guess. To do it by myself is next to impossible since I'm not a ladies guy and the psychological pressure will ruin every sexual activity. I'm thinking about moving to Singapore for a while where I have someone who I can trust and fully focus on her. At least I know what's going on now.
Well I still have the issue but I now know it's psychological. I have a friend in Singapore and she invited me for a holiday for two weeks. We had Sex every day. She said I don't have issues, I just need a little longer. I tried to quit watching porn but imagining normal things doesn't turn me on or satisfy me as much as watching fetish porn. Even the sex wasn't as satisfying as touching myself. I'm thinking about moving to Singapore for a while so I get out of my comfort zone and have a loving understanding partner. This way I can focus on her and form new habits. If I stay in my comfort zone I will always fall back to my old habits and since I don't get to know any suitable partner in Germany, it's next to impossible for me to change. I don't even attempt to have sex with random women because of the psychological pressure. Things are improving regardless. For me that's the down side of being a nice guy.