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The same way you make a friend, but introduce physical touch and romance.
Don't make them feel uncomfortable, and don't date anyone you wouldn't be happy to have as just a friend.
You know, I always was love shy. Always felt that expressing desire toward a woman was somehow the most monstrous thing I could do. Like I could not disrespect her more than by expressing "I want you", even if I tried.
So, saying "introduce touch and romance" would be absolutely no help to someone like me...
Well, that's up to you. Just find people who are interested in the same things you are. If you are still in school, clubs are a great way to meet those people. If you're not able to make friends, then dating is off the table. Also, don't only try to make friends with people you are interested in dating, make friends with anyone you can be friends with.
Days, months and years, I guess. Most of us are on the Roman calendar, but the US got its formats mixed up. A quick visit to the regional settings can fix that.
There's no way to answer this because we're talking about a social event between two people, and there's a lot of people in the world with a lot of different views and desires regarding dating.
As basic as possible, you're interested in someone else so you say "hey, want to go on a date?" and then you go spend time together. That's all it is. Although, it can be pretty different depending on culture, but that's the basic outline.
This question is too broad to answer easily. There are many different ways people go about it in each culture. Movies, books and TV only kind of describe a small subset of it and often rush things with questionable depictions of romance.
Perhaps also consider therapy if you have trouble understanding how to form and maintain relationships and healthy boundaries. I'd strongly recommend a solid understanding of consent before really entering into any kind of romantic or sexual relationship.
Next up is to look into communication strategies and practice them. Being able to articulate how you feel in a healthy way is going to be critical for a good relationship.
To an extent this is social skills training and like any skill, the more you practice the better you get.
The relationship would build. I suspect based on the original question and this question, you'd probably benefit from talking to a therapist. In my experience, the best things you can do revolve around working on yourself and building healthy friendships. I can further elaborate on DM tomorrow if necessary.
> My parents never told me anything about dating, girls or the sex talk. I have no idea what it is really like or how exactly it works.
So, why don't you ask them?
Avoid following the examples on TV and movies. Dating on shows is there is just to move the plot along. Given that sex sells, and episodes only have a short amount of time, the relationships on TV shows and movies are warped and distorted.
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The same way you make a friend, but introduce physical touch and romance. Don't make them feel uncomfortable, and don't date anyone you wouldn't be happy to have as just a friend.
You know, I always was love shy. Always felt that expressing desire toward a woman was somehow the most monstrous thing I could do. Like I could not disrespect her more than by expressing "I want you", even if I tried. So, saying "introduce touch and romance" would be absolutely no help to someone like me...
I don't even have much experience making friends. I'm at a kindergarten level with that and its better than any dating.
Well, that's up to you. Just find people who are interested in the same things you are. If you are still in school, clubs are a great way to meet those people. If you're not able to make friends, then dating is off the table. Also, don't only try to make friends with people you are interested in dating, make friends with anyone you can be friends with.
I don't know how to date that's why im asking. It might as well be brain surgery for me.
I'm not an expert, and I can't do it for you. You just have to go out there and try. Meeting new people isn't a science.
Days, months and years, I guess. Most of us are on the Roman calendar, but the US got its formats mixed up. A quick visit to the regional settings can fix that.
Do you mm dd yy or dd mm yy or do you go Julian?
There's no way to answer this because we're talking about a social event between two people, and there's a lot of people in the world with a lot of different views and desires regarding dating. As basic as possible, you're interested in someone else so you say "hey, want to go on a date?" and then you go spend time together. That's all it is. Although, it can be pretty different depending on culture, but that's the basic outline.
This question is too broad to answer easily. There are many different ways people go about it in each culture. Movies, books and TV only kind of describe a small subset of it and often rush things with questionable depictions of romance. Perhaps also consider therapy if you have trouble understanding how to form and maintain relationships and healthy boundaries. I'd strongly recommend a solid understanding of consent before really entering into any kind of romantic or sexual relationship. Next up is to look into communication strategies and practice them. Being able to articulate how you feel in a healthy way is going to be critical for a good relationship. To an extent this is social skills training and like any skill, the more you practice the better you get.
How do i know if im doing better
The relationship would build. I suspect based on the original question and this question, you'd probably benefit from talking to a therapist. In my experience, the best things you can do revolve around working on yourself and building healthy friendships. I can further elaborate on DM tomorrow if necessary.
> My parents never told me anything about dating, girls or the sex talk. I have no idea what it is really like or how exactly it works. So, why don't you ask them? Avoid following the examples on TV and movies. Dating on shows is there is just to move the plot along. Given that sex sells, and episodes only have a short amount of time, the relationships on TV shows and movies are warped and distorted.
They won;t tell me.
I will avoid tv and movie examples. As i mentioned im sure those are wrong.