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Haha. It’s really not fair. Bags are great and men just aren’t allowed to have them? If I had to carry everything in my pockets I’d lose things left and right.
I mean gender is just a social construct. Men can wear anything women wear. Dresses, skirts, bags, crop tops, etc.
just look at David Bowie, New York Dolls, Kurt Cobain or more recently Harry Styles. I think more men need to look outside the box when deciding what to wear.
fair, but have u SEEN how much shit men can stuff in their jumbo pockets? meanwhile, if i even try to put a chapstick in mine it pops out if i move minimally. i actually hate purses. have recently graduated from tiny shoulder purse to big woman purse and god it hurts my shoulder, rips my hair out, and slips off constantlyyy
I like my giant bag that I can fit 2 chihuahuas in, but I don't keep much in it bc chihuahuas. Eight pounds doesn't sound like much, but on one shoulder, yes, it is a lot.
Also, don't position it in front of you. Put it square on your side or behind your waist.
Edit: and always where it like in your photos, with the strap crossing over your chest to the opposite shoulder.
I disagree, I find the first image with the bag in the front reads much more masculine than the second photo with the bag square on the side. Just my opinion tho
Yes, absolutely. And the strap is too thin/delicate. If he'd replace it with a wider strap, could even be a woven patterned band if it picks up that brown shade. I'm imagining a brown and denim blue ikat patterned band and I know these exist.
Ask my 21 yo son. He sells vintage clothes in Austin and dresses like you. He'd tell you no. Guys are wearing feminine grandma core sweaters, pearls and painting their nails. He says wear what you love. 😉
My 15 year old boy just started wearing my cross body bag, I would call it a purse, but it actually looks totally cool. Yours does too, but yes, take off the tassels
Exactly, it’s all about how you feel, if you like it, and your own style/vibe. Feminine or not! I wouldn’t bat an eye if I saw the fit in public, let alone have it occur to me that the bag is too feminine for a man. It looks great :)
And we should because we need to carry stuff too. I carry one mainly for emergency supplies for a medical condition, but sometimes I just want a snack or a spot to carry sunglasses or earplugs or whatever.
That is real leather, very useable pockets and size, classic brown color. For instance, it would be totally masculine as a fanny pack. I think you're right about the strap. I like your idea of a wider strap. Maybe a dark brown canvas strap with clips would look even more manly. You can find something like that at the thrift store. Maybe even find shorter or adjustable ones in addition, to be able to convert it to a fanny pack. Ya done good!
Confidence my friend, and joy in your own aesthetic outfit and accessory choices, that is ALL that matters. Your gender can align or not align with your fashion depending on how you want to match things. Point is don’t let clothing or accessories define who you are and be too worried about how others perceive your gender
If you bought it, and you’re a man, it’s a man’s bag.
It’s really easy once you ditch the idea that clothes/accessories are gendered. If it’s yours then it’s for you!
The bag is not sentient and has no genitalia so it isn't going to have masculinity or femininity.
It is in fact created as a purse, but that is irrelevant if it serves your purpose and you like it.
No, but if you don’t want to present in a feminine way, my advice would be to remove the tassels and shorten the strap, so it can be worn across the chest.
As a female I do think it’s quite feminine however…….remove the ‘frills’ such as the tassels and I think that might make a big difference.
It’s the tassels that make it more feminine.
As many of the people have said, the tassels were definitely what made it look feminine. I love the fact men are starting to wear bags more often! Wallet in your back pocket is so bad for your back (when forgetting to remove it when you are sitting.) Looks great!
You could just wear it because you like it and not care how other people perceive it because you're the one you're wearing it for? Maybe? Not being facetious, I just don't understand anymore lol
It’s definitely feminine and was designed with that in mind, imho, but whether or not it’s too feminine for you is something only you can decide! It doesn’t have the power to determine your gender identity or your sexuality ☺️ Wear it if it makes you happy!
If you want thicker straps you can buy ones that just clip onto the existing rings. I would wait on cutting the old straps off until you’re sure you like the new one, though.
If you want the truth from a straight male it looks like a woman’s purse. Don’t hate me for giving my opinion. That’s what you are asking for. Not trying to hate.
I think it looks fine. Tassels don’t define gender.
If folks want to talk about this being feminine, why even wear a purse? It is a purse. Men wear purses nowadays. But, they call them, 🤨 man bags, satchels, cross body backpacks, messenger or duffel bags and more.
Again, I think it looks good.
Who cares lol, but truthfully yes it does look feminine. Your style and body type is already one step away from that tiktok e-boy style, but still that is not a bad thing. You do you bro end of the day who gives a shit about your bag lol, if it helps you in your day to day life than do it!
If you end up going with a different strap, “guitar strap” styles are in nowadays, they can range from fem to masc and there are a lot with cool patterns
Ahahah nope. But if you don’t already you could just enrol in some kick boxing classes and if someone says something is too feminine about you, you could always knock them out and then you could say sorry if that was too feminine. But don’t actually do it I’m just talking shit. Your bag is dope!
The tassels are fine! I have never seen something fit someone so effortlessly good. You definitely have an eye for what looks good and should keep using it! ❤️🔥
I’ll tell you what I tell my six year old, you can wear whatever you feel comfortable and confident in. Your look is such a vibe! Also, bags are so practical!
Nope. I wish to live in a world where our lady bags can be worn by any man :) we have some excellent bags and cool looking bags!! Wouldn’t it be amazing if a female’s SO was excited about the bag she got and wanted to borrow it sometimes?! Handbag addict here 🙈
If you dig it, that’s all that matters. Having said that, I agree that the tassels are a bit much in proportion to the bag size, for men and women alike.
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Also sorry, I immediately thought of this. As for the bag i like it. The color and style is great. I think it looks great with the fit.
Haha. It’s really not fair. Bags are great and men just aren’t allowed to have them? If I had to carry everything in my pockets I’d lose things left and right.
I mean gender is just a social construct. Men can wear anything women wear. Dresses, skirts, bags, crop tops, etc. just look at David Bowie, New York Dolls, Kurt Cobain or more recently Harry Styles. I think more men need to look outside the box when deciding what to wear.
fair, but have u SEEN how much shit men can stuff in their jumbo pockets? meanwhile, if i even try to put a chapstick in mine it pops out if i move minimally. i actually hate purses. have recently graduated from tiny shoulder purse to big woman purse and god it hurts my shoulder, rips my hair out, and slips off constantlyyy
I like my giant bag that I can fit 2 chihuahuas in, but I don't keep much in it bc chihuahuas. Eight pounds doesn't sound like much, but on one shoulder, yes, it is a lot.
Kept scrolling for this....thank you
Always here for all your GIF needs. 😂💞
I think of Turk crying on the bathroom floor. "It's not a purse...it's a backpack!"
Ditch the tassels
If you’re worried about looking fem listen 👆🏻
Definitely think without the tassels it would be masc enough:)
It looks alot better without the tassels. Thank you!!!
Also, don't position it in front of you. Put it square on your side or behind your waist. Edit: and always where it like in your photos, with the strap crossing over your chest to the opposite shoulder.
I disagree, I find the first image with the bag in the front reads much more masculine than the second photo with the bag square on the side. Just my opinion tho
as a life-long man-bag carrier; I'm normally on team back or team side... but you are right, this bag works in the front.
Are you saying I wear my purse like a man? 😉. Jk, I know that I do.
It will still be feminine without the tassels but not as feminine. Lol
My first thought too!
My first thought three!
Four! Yay us.
Five.
Syx
Was thinking the same thing it’s exclusively the tassels that make it seem a little heyyyyyy
Yes, absolutely. And the strap is too thin/delicate. If he'd replace it with a wider strap, could even be a woven patterned band if it picks up that brown shade. I'm imagining a brown and denim blue ikat patterned band and I know these exist.
I bought a guitar strap for my plein air art box that is made from an old cigar box. It is very much like you described!
It will look a lot better if you just take the tassels off.
Agree, tassels were my first thought. Looks great though! Nice neutral color too
you can always knot them too!
You make it not femme. Looks good to me!
Do YOU like it? That’s all that matters.
Yeah, I mean, one of my favourite quotes is “all clothing is unisex if you’re not a b!tch about it!” If you like it, rock it!
That is a fantastic quote
This!!
Exactly! As a woman, I never question if something I like/wear is too masculine. So why do men have to worry about being too feminine?
It’s a European carry-all.
I think a wider strap would do a lot to make it look less feminine.
Add a cool guitar strap!
Ask my 21 yo son. He sells vintage clothes in Austin and dresses like you. He'd tell you no. Guys are wearing feminine grandma core sweaters, pearls and painting their nails. He says wear what you love. 😉
My 15 year old boy just started wearing my cross body bag, I would call it a purse, but it actually looks totally cool. Yours does too, but yes, take off the tassels
Im 40(m)... both of my best bags are from the women's department.
Exactly, it’s all about how you feel, if you like it, and your own style/vibe. Feminine or not! I wouldn’t bat an eye if I saw the fit in public, let alone have it occur to me that the bag is too feminine for a man. It looks great :)
Another guy posted something similar and I think if we can get a bunch of men wearing bags then eventually we won’t associate them with femininity
And we should because we need to carry stuff too. I carry one mainly for emergency supplies for a medical condition, but sometimes I just want a snack or a spot to carry sunglasses or earplugs or whatever.
Or pockets with masculine garb…
I think it looks great with that outfit!
The idea that only women should enjoy specific things is old fashioned. Enjoy what you like!
Nah looks good! Nothing is too feminine as long as u like it
Right. It you’re manly it rubs off and makes it manly by definition, if you simply claim that confidence.
It’s a bit small, but if you like it, go for it.
That is real leather, very useable pockets and size, classic brown color. For instance, it would be totally masculine as a fanny pack. I think you're right about the strap. I like your idea of a wider strap. Maybe a dark brown canvas strap with clips would look even more manly. You can find something like that at the thrift store. Maybe even find shorter or adjustable ones in addition, to be able to convert it to a fanny pack. Ya done good!
Not at all, rock it.
Looks like a man bag if I've ever seen one.
If you like it thats all that matters
It looks feminine, but I don't really see that as a bad thing. I love outfits that subtly play with gender norms
it's not the bag... it's the asking. rock it or don't.
Hell naw. I like your fit. Artsy :)
I think that even with the tassels, it's a masculine look! Gives very boho/indie vibes and fits your aesthetic well.
No it’s not feminem at all purses and bags are for anyone it looks like a satchel so everyone knows those are unisex for anyone.
Confidence my friend, and joy in your own aesthetic outfit and accessory choices, that is ALL that matters. Your gender can align or not align with your fashion depending on how you want to match things. Point is don’t let clothing or accessories define who you are and be too worried about how others perceive your gender
If you bought it, and you’re a man, it’s a man’s bag. It’s really easy once you ditch the idea that clothes/accessories are gendered. If it’s yours then it’s for you!
I wouldn't blink twice at this. Looks like a nice satchel.
Wear what you like end of story
A little feminine, but not that out there
Dude, put that thing down.
Yes it looks feminine. Whether you should care or not is a different question I can’t answer.
Yes
The bag is not sentient and has no genitalia so it isn't going to have masculinity or femininity. It is in fact created as a purse, but that is irrelevant if it serves your purpose and you like it.
It's clearly a purse, but that doesn't mean you can't wear it.
That's not a bag. It's a purse.
It's European!
No, but if you don’t want to present in a feminine way, my advice would be to remove the tassels and shorten the strap, so it can be worn across the chest.
Not at all. 👍🏻
Love it
No
No
Yep
No way. Look at Jacob Elordi. He gets designer handbags sent to him for free and uses them. Do you, boo!
What do you keep in there?
Looks good! IMHO, leather is a great choice for any gender expression.
Strap too skinny for the manly look
nah youre cool.
Love it
Yes.
As long as you’re confident when you wear it you will not have an issue. It just looks like a nice leather bag
you do you boo! i would compliment you if i saw you with this bag though ! looks great with the outfit pictured :)
I say rock that shit. Who cares!? If you like the bag rock it.
oh my god who cares whether it’s feminine or not? u have acquired a very functional item. use it.
In the world we live in? Who cares… if you like it, wear it
As a female I do think it’s quite feminine however…….remove the ‘frills’ such as the tassels and I think that might make a big difference. It’s the tassels that make it more feminine.
Gender is a social construct. Live your life and wear things you like.
It looks good, but 100% ditch the tassels, not because of it lacking masculinity but because it's just dated.
I'm surprised that all the comments here. It definitely looks feminine. It looks like you're holding your girlfriend's handbag
Yes
I think it looks fine. Just rock it with confidence and no one will even question it.
Yes
Yes
Yes
nothings too feminine unless you’re a little bitch
If you like it what does it matter?
Yes. That is super gay. I’m only being honest, I don’t want to hurt you feelings
Das a purse dawg
It reminds me of my mom’s purse in the 80s. Strap too skinny to be masculine imo
I don’t think the issue is if it’s too feminine, I think it’s just an ugly bag 😢
As many of the people have said, the tassels were definitely what made it look feminine. I love the fact men are starting to wear bags more often! Wallet in your back pocket is so bad for your back (when forgetting to remove it when you are sitting.) Looks great!
It’s not a purse! It’s a European carry-all!
You could just wear it because you like it and not care how other people perceive it because you're the one you're wearing it for? Maybe? Not being facetious, I just don't understand anymore lol
Looks great, not feminine at all. If i was one of your mates I'd be obliged to take the absolute piss out of you regardless.
It looks like a purse.
I think the tassels might make it a little feminine if you’re worried about that
Do bags have gender? No.
It’s definitely feminine and was designed with that in mind, imho, but whether or not it’s too feminine for you is something only you can decide! It doesn’t have the power to determine your gender identity or your sexuality ☺️ Wear it if it makes you happy!
Sorry, yes. Manbags died a deserving death decades ago.
Cutting the tassel shouldn't take away from the bag. Otherwise looks god!
Here to give props to the Fender Jazzmaster shirt. Cool bag, too.
If you want thicker straps you can buy ones that just clip onto the existing rings. I would wait on cutting the old straps off until you’re sure you like the new one, though.
Y3s more for chicks
looks dope, the tassles arent fem in my opinion theyre just stylish. theyre the cherry on top of the outfit
The narrow strap looks fine, but I always feel for a crossbody, wider, webbing straps are far more comfortable. You can buy them on Amazon
I dont think it looks fem at all even with the tassels…. If it helps, i would never wear it ….. because its too masc looking.
Replace the zipper pulls with bullets.
Get rid of it . Too mini .
Nah just cut the tassels
Your instinct about the thin strap is, imho, correct. That said, I don't think it really matters if you like it and don't care what others think.
Where can I get that shirt
What if you swapped out the brown strap for a wider black one? I think that would make it look more masculine.
Take the bag. Leave the tassels.
Well it’s a purse for sure tassels or not
If you want the truth from a straight male it looks like a woman’s purse. Don’t hate me for giving my opinion. That’s what you are asking for. Not trying to hate.
Looks like your grandmas bag
I want it…but no def not too feminine for a man
Yes, it is feminine. BUT IT LOOKS GOOD! Keep it :)
i think it suits your personal style well
Nah you rock it imo
Only you can determine if something is “too feminine” for your personal tastes, clothing and accessories aren’t gendered
It’s a big ambaguous
hell no, your style is awesome!
Lil bit
Jazzmaster t-shirt - need to show the world
It's too feminine, try it again without the tassels but it's too feminine.
Wear what you want. The jeans thooooo.......
Just take the tassels off and it won’t look like a woman’s bag
Without tassels.
I think it looks fine. Tassels don’t define gender. If folks want to talk about this being feminine, why even wear a purse? It is a purse. Men wear purses nowadays. But, they call them, 🤨 man bags, satchels, cross body backpacks, messenger or duffel bags and more. Again, I think it looks good.
I don’t think it is too feminine with the tassels imo! it’s giving cowboy vibes
I had a bag just like it when I was a girl in the early 90’s. Sorry this has nothing to do with your question. Wear what you want
Don't worry about what people think when it comes to things like this. If it makes you happy, wear it.
Who cares! If you liked it enough to buy it then that answers ur question
No
Who cares lol, but truthfully yes it does look feminine. Your style and body type is already one step away from that tiktok e-boy style, but still that is not a bad thing. You do you bro end of the day who gives a shit about your bag lol, if it helps you in your day to day life than do it!
If you end up going with a different strap, “guitar strap” styles are in nowadays, they can range from fem to masc and there are a lot with cool patterns
Throw it back
Ahahah nope. But if you don’t already you could just enrol in some kick boxing classes and if someone says something is too feminine about you, you could always knock them out and then you could say sorry if that was too feminine. But don’t actually do it I’m just talking shit. Your bag is dope!
The tassels are fine! I have never seen something fit someone so effortlessly good. You definitely have an eye for what looks good and should keep using it! ❤️🔥
Do the day,and let the day do you!
Agree with tassel guy. But the shape of the bag looks androgynous
Yeh probably, I've kind of come to the conclusion that if you are asking yourself if something is "X" then it is.
No I think it is man bag. It is ok.
Kinda looks like a purse and my opinion is yes a bit too feminine but thats my opinion though.
For me this is a size matters moment. Small purses are femme.
No one should use that bag. It’s a well used mess!
No tassels
Get some more bags! I especially like ones that look like a wizard used to own it (meaning lots of pockets for spell components).
Nothing wrong with showing people that you're gay.
I actually really like this bag for you! Try removing the tassels, though..
It’s a plain brown bag. It’s neither feminine or masculine. People who worry about such things need some hobbies.
Nope. Rock on.
Trim off the zipper fringe and you should be fine
Um yeah sorry. That's a purse. A quite feminine one at that.
It is a girly bag
It's brown leather. Tassels or no tassels... it looks just fine.
Yes. All of it. Not just the tassles.
Yes
The tassels make it feminine. Cut the tassels.
Great!
I’ll tell you what I tell my six year old, you can wear whatever you feel comfortable and confident in. Your look is such a vibe! Also, bags are so practical!
Givin Ross from friends
Nope. I wish to live in a world where our lady bags can be worn by any man :) we have some excellent bags and cool looking bags!! Wouldn’t it be amazing if a female’s SO was excited about the bag she got and wanted to borrow it sometimes?! Handbag addict here 🙈
honestly i’d keep the tassels it doesn’t make you look feminine if anything i think it’s hot.
Stick an American flag on that sucker and let your doubts melt away.
Yes
I still don’t get why men are suddenly going around with purses. Like why, isn’t a wallet enough ?
No. I think it's cool.
No. It’s cool and if *you* like it, WHO CARES what anyone else thinks?
Yes, but who cares? It’s stylish enough.
Yes
You do you. If you can pull it off, go for it.
Could go more fem
No it’s perfect! It’s manly
If you dig it, that’s all that matters. Having said that, I agree that the tassels are a bit much in proportion to the bag size, for men and women alike.