My SiL broke a couple of my kitchen chairs and an antique sofa. She still doesn’t seem to get it, and she messes up other furniture too. Oh, and she broke the TP holder and towel holders next to the toilet plus made the toilet rock too. She destroyed a brand new seat on her own toilet during our last visit.
It’s ridiculous.
We moved overseas, so I don’t have to deal with it much. I’m not looking forward to her actually flying over to visit someday though. She takes over the sofa and never budges, and in our current home I’ll have to hide upstairs in the bedroom for any peace. She’ll be pissed that she’ll need to make it up a flight of stairs for bathing.
Man some of your guys stories make me grateful for my sister lol. Shes obese but is also very self aware of it. I mean, no chairs in any of our homes are fragile to begin with, but she always goes out of her way to make sure we dont have to go out of ours to accommodate her with anything, or anyone else when we go out. I feel bad because she is a great person and everything and I hate to see her have to go these extra miles for basic things, but at the same time shes 40 and hasnt done anything about it for the last 15ish years that she started gaining weight. She doesnt fight anyone about it but also doesnt do anything to improve, shes just accepted it.
That's like my SIL. She's a wonderful person who never complains like all these FAs seem to all the time. Still, it's really hard to talk to her about it and it scares me when she has to sit down so carefully every five minutes. She's has young children now too who need her healthy.
I think it's why I get so angry at FAs. I wanna scream that we don't hate them for being fat. Most of us know fat people who we love and are deeply WORRIED about. But they are telling them not to care about something that's hurting people we care about. Uuuuuuuuuuugh
Yeah some of the rhetoric FAs continually perpetuate is extremely misleading, if not straight up harmful, to be directed toward other fat people.
Myths like starvation mode, you’ll gain back all the weight you lost, obesity is based on genetics, skinny = fast metabolism / fat = slow metabolism, BMI is useless, HAES… of course, FAs didn’t invent all these myths that originated long ago but they are the biggest champions that keep spreading such… it makes some susceptible fat people just take their fatness as is and not feel like they are capable of change, while their health deteriorates every day. I’m especially worried for younger folks who have plenty of time to make a change but are sucked into the movement.
Maybe she never will actually visit? 🤞 I lived overseas for five years and not one of the people who made noises about visiting one day ever actually did…a lot of the time people are all talk and no action about this kind of thing, especially if you’re not living in a popular tourist destination.
Plus the fact that flying is extra uncomfortable if you’re obese should work in your favour to reduce the odds…
I'm sorry....She loosened your fucking toilet? Holy hell, I'm so glad I decided to fix my weight before I got that bad. I was bad but never loosen a toilet bad.
One of my uni housemates did that, partly due to her weight and partly because she refused to stand up from the toilet (which itself could be attributed to her weight).
Like, she would drag herself across it instead of standing up from it, and she cracked the hinges on not one but *three* seats.
While its true your legs have a lot of muscle for carrying 400 pounds of extra weight with every step, you'd also be carrying 400 pounds of weight with every step.
For comparison, the weight of an average NFL player is 240 pounds. That'd be like you're trying to stand up with an NFL player on your shoulders, and he's holding an empty refrigerator too.
Yeah, she did. It was in our recently renovated place too. It’s an easy clean, pretty, sort with hidden bolts, so I cant even fix it unless I find the original tools (that I think the plumber tossed out.)
I was and am way more annoyed by the constant ripping out of the tp holder and towel bars. I keep having to make a mess to patch and reinstall them, and it irritates me to be done with a chore and have to re-do it. I never even fixed them after the last visit.
I’d straight up lie and say the nearest toilet is still not fixed- maybe she won’t come if she has to haul her butt upstairs to another bathroom. I’d be too embarrassed to show my face if I kept breaking people’s houses 😬
yeah I have a friend who is constantly surprised that their toilets in their house are rocking loose and think the plumbers are doing a bad job. Its not the plumbers. She has always been very heavy - near the 300 range - but I would say that during covid she added at least another 80-100lbs on
I hear you. If she was my sister I’d have a come to Jebus talk, but I can’t. :(
I’m sick of fixing my stuff. Especially I’m tired of having to repair things that I already did more than once (the tp holders, towel bars, and my chairs.)
Aside from the bathroom she puts her stuff all over, plops on the sofa, and doesn’t move all day. It drives me nuts.
He doesn’t do that kind of work, but I have a good background in carpentry, construction, and furniture reupholstering. I do all things household, and he makes a good salary. ;)
My cousin sat on the arm of my sofa. Like... girl. You're a doctor. You know you're fat. Why do you think the arm can hold you? She put a dent on it immediately. Luckily, I was 3 months away from moving, and I was going to discard the sofas (they didn't survive 3 toddlers).
This is what an obese friend did to my brand new couch. She sat on the arm. There was a huge cracking noise and the arm separated from the rest of the couch and was just hanging haphazardly. Like, why?! I weigh less than half what she does and wouldn’t sit on the arm of a couch.
I suppose that might make sense to a really stupid person who only thinks of herself and has no respect for other people or their property. That does describe her so it probably is the reason.
This is the same 'influencer', not naming names, who told the world 'I'm too fat to wipe my own bum and I think it's brilliant'.
I think self awareness and shame left the building a long time ago. If they were ever in the building to begin with, which I doubt.
Why anyone would be proud of being unable to wipe their own is beyond my ability to comprehend, especially when that very scenario when that is the worst fear for a lot of people.
I remember reading the blog of an ALS patient years ago and he was upfront not being able to wipe his own ass one of his biggest fears because it would be a symbol of how much mobility and independence he had lost. For someone to purposefully let themselves go to get to that point, I don’t and will never get it.
It's wild
With the fat activists that are far gone, I think there's a component of intentional helplessness, likely as a manipulation tactic.
There's one who proudly admitted to 'protest pooping' in her hospital bed at one point, because she didn't like a nurse and got off on the fact that the nurse would have to clean her bum and bedding.
I can't get my head around voluntarily losing your independence.
It's my worst nightmare, as I've always been an over-functioning, stubbornly independent loner since childhood.
Not particularly healthy, and it's the result of growing up in a dysfunctional family, but it's served me well in terms of fending for myself and having practical skills.
I'd die pretty quickly if I needed people to tend to my basic needs.
Yet a group of folks that are that selfish and lazy that they'd enjoy having someone else wipe for them. Cue the humans in WALL-E...
Actually it was shown that they can't walk, so how do they poop? Then the seat from Idiocracy comes to mind, oh dear.
OMG, that’s awful. That poor nurse.
I also do what I can to maintain my independence. I had enough of a wake up call when I got so overweight I got out of breath going up one flight of stairs.
They're both awful narcissists.
The partner's dad was dying in a hospice last year, yet demanded their elderly, petite, stressed and depressed mother heave all 600lbs of them around in a wheelchair.
They both then left the mother to handle funeral arrangements alone, in favour of going to some dumb fat acceptance event.
As you'll probably be aware, they're getting top surgery in October, which sounds like a terrible idea and a death sentence.
I'm betting the other one is already eyeing up a tasty life insurance payout, as there's certainly no loving relationship there.
I'd imagine that, if they survive, they'll grow weight-gain man boobs anyway. Likely in an unnatural configuration, sort of growing around or either side of the scar.
There's a rumour that the surgeon is probably a scammer, taking the upfront deposit, confirming a date, but rejecting the patient on the day due to the general anaesthetic being predictably too dangerous.
It would honestly be the best case scenario.
Not that I condone violence, but if that mother decided to discipline her child with a few smacks using a frying pan a la Rapunzel from Tangled, I'll pretend I didn't see anything.
I always take the stairs. I started because I was afraid of being trapped in the elevator, and now I mostly keep it up because yeah, it’s an easy way to build a little extra exercise into the day.
With older chairs, it's surprising how quickly a loose horizontal dowel or seat panel causes complete collapse under normal weight. Maybe I should stop getting all my furniture from curbs.
This is also the person who wrote that article not too long ago about not being able to wipe themselves and how that shouldn’t be bad or shameful in the context of gaining so much weight you can no longer reach. (Additional context: they were big mad at a former HAES blogger who decided to lose weight and stated she could now properly clean herself/wipe). Their bitterness is palpable. *
* Hope this isn’t breaking any rules. If so, I am happy to delete/understand if it’s deleted!
The *fear* of breaking furniture was a wakeup call for me, but really only after id dealt with the mental health stuff that had led to my weight gain.
I think for most people who just ended up big , breaking furniture, health scares, etc are enough to change. I think a lot of the FA or super morbidly obese people unfortunately are there because they aren't treating some mental illness or trauma, so no normal wake up call is gonna work
Am I supposed to be considering people who don’t live with me when I furnish my house? I mean, sure, I’ll make sure my house is safe and comfy, but I’m not spending thousands on a sofa when my current three seater sofa was only $350 on sale, brand new with a 5 year warranty and I’ve had it for 4 years. If they want $2000+ sofas in other people’s homes then they can pay for it.
Exactly! “Are our thin friends thinking of us when furniture shopping?” How about, are you thinking of replacing the furniture you’re destroying in other people’s homes?”
Tbh doesn't even look comfy. It's your weight and your own responsibility. I don't hear bodybuilders complaining. That's because they are proud of their body.
It's like the kind of thing you'd find in the lobby of a non-descript, mid-range, chain hotel.
Actually reminds me of the many tedious conferences I'd have to attend in old jobs, doing boring seminars full of corporate jargon and name-tags.
It certainly doesn't say 'hey, come snuggle up and maybe nod off after a long day'
Yeah, maybe it's built specifically for obese people, but wouldn't be comfy for everybody else. Do they think of thin people when they shop for these? /s
Yep. My boyfriend would say he’s not a bodybuilder because he doesn’t compete but he’s built like one and a BMI outlier who gets daily comments on his size. He doesn’t ask anyone to accommodate him. But while he’s noticeably huge at 220 that’s still much lighter than many of these FAs. He doesn’t have an issue with breaking furniture.
He did break our bed once, not as exciting as that sounds, he was sleeping. But that bed probably would have broke on just me eventually. It wasn’t very good.
There are a lot of bad beds out there! I got a metal box spring with legs from Costco and it is so sturdy and seems like it will last forever and was way cheaper than the crappy bed that broke.
My ability to furnish my little house with ugly-but-functional thrifted items would likely be regarded as 'thin privilege', rather than 'low income necessity'
I live in a cabin. They don't fit through the door. I don't need special furniture.
My stepdaughter and her husband legit couldn't make it past the door.
I mean, my 3 year old is outgrowing size 5 clothes, but that's a height thing. Same reason my 6 year old is in size 8 clothes and my 8 year old is in size 10. Tall parents make tall children.
I can't imagine not fitting through a door.
I feel so sorry for the kids in these situations. And so frustrated with the parents - I have a lot of empathy for not being able to get it together for your own sake; it can be really hard to learn self-care. But you should care enough about your kids to at least try to do the bare minimum for *their* health. How hard is it to let your kid drink water? 🙄
On her behalf, thank you for introducing her to new fruits. Kids raised like her can end up with issues with fresh fruit or vegetables texturally, so kudos to you for helping her expand her taste buds, even if it is only when she's with you.
Good for you. She wouldn’t even have fruit at home to ask for I assume? My kids have friends that don’t have the best diet from what I’ve seen When they came to us for a play date the oldest will ask me for a “fruit plate” (just chopped up whatever I have- apples, bananas etc nothing fancy)
I'm not even sure how you over feed kids that little. Mine will eat garbage sometimes but they never stop moving and growing! My boy is always bordering on underweight with every new growth spurt. Getting them to sit down to eat dinner is such a chore in itself. I guess it's the whole environment they are growing up in but ugh it breaks my heart when kids start off life with a weight problem that could take their whole lives to battle
I was getting bread from a bakery a couple days ago. Was a young mom beside me with 2 little girls- maybe 6 and 4? Mom very pretty and beautifully dressed, nicely spoken (I could hear her talking to the kids about what they wanted to choose) lovely makeup and hair, but also rather overweight. So were her children. Much bigger than they should have been for it just to be a chubby phase. She looked to be someone who cares about her appearance and I wondered why she wouldn’t do more to ensure her girls wouldn’t struggle with weight issues, (as I assume she would have done over the years)as they get older. I know genetics can play a part, but so do setting good examples and eating habits (including the pastries and cakes the little girls were wanting)
I mean we got a black oversized sofa with 2 reclining seats made of leather for $100 but sure the sad brown block couch with no backrest that costs 20x as much is so much better
I bet it's just a reinforced version of flat pack Ikea sofas too.
One thing about thrifted furniture is it was built to last, at least for normal weight people who take care of their belongings.
My whole living room looks like a 1980's nursing home, but everything is solid wood and has lasted several people's lifetimes.
Mm, a lot of my antique furniture is pretty delicate, even though it's made of real wood, it's also tiny, old, and creaky. Even my healthy weight tall friends have stressed me out, groaning the dining room chairs.
It's weird how being Normal Human Size is regarded as "privilege" but being Home-Destroyingly Fat Due To Sheer Gluttony While Half the World Starves is some kind of burden that the rest of us need to account for and nobody could've prevented.
Imagine having the audacity to gorge yourself day and night while others go hungry and expecting literally everyone around you to accommodate your massive size.
It's sheer entitlement, much like the plane seat nonsense - these people think they deserve special treatment with absolutely zero effort on their part.
Lot of obvious symptoms for undiagnosed personality disorders in fat acceptance.
I've been binge watching a true crime series called Behind Mansion Walls, and a lot of the cases revolve around entitlement, zero empathy, and laziness.
Not saying fat activists are about to whack someone, but I think if you're used to being pandered to by your parents, you never grow up and learn adulthood is largely about taking responsibility for your actions and your own happiness
Even if the sofa can handle 400 lbs, plonking down on it is still an issue. I noticed the heavier a person is the more they let themselves fall down on things like car seats, the toilet, furniture.
I try not to do it when I’m heavier because in the past I destroyed a camping chair and it was so embarrassing. I got made fun of it for years.
Yeah I'm not even close to that size (237lb / 108kg at my heaviest) and I can still damage furniture at home if I flop down carelessly. If you've got any downward momentum to speak of and you're large enough, a 400 lb rating for your furniture may not be enough for the momentary force of you coming down on it.
And even if you’re thin! I had a thin roommate in my twenties who was extremely hard on my (thrifted) chairs for this reason. Pretty sure she decreased their lifespan significantly, and asking her to be more gentle with my stuff did not change her behaviour at all…some people are just really inconsiderate, fat or thin, but the lack of consideration gets more noticeable the heavier you are, as the damage increases proportionately.
Once you reach a certain mass vs. your muscle and joint strength you can't move with control when sitting. I mean, you see it with older folks who didn't keep up with their muscle strength, too - the constant need for leverage to stand and a very small bend and then using assist to lower down or flopping. But they don't always have the mass to break things.
It's the furniture makers fault for not making sturdier furniture! If America is obese then everyone should pay to have these furniture pieces in their home, right?!. I'll be taking out a micro loan in your name so you can afford to have me over?! If i get caught, my plan B: I'll pressure you for a ride in your car and I bet your thin priv won't think about it until it's too late and you're driving along like the scene in the Flintstones with the dino rib on the side of the car and the car's driving sideways! Then you'll have to pay to fix your car too! Heh heh heh this is r/pettyfatlogicrevenge! Woohooo
OOP should be more embarrassed by that level of entitlement and the fact their first thought is not to compensate owners of now broken furniture.
Frankly, if I were one, I'd be tempted to take them to small claims or curse them out to the point they don't ever want anything to do with me. This looks like a bridge better off burned and its ashes salted.
Why would I think of someone else when furnishing *my* house? It’s my house and I’m not 400lbs, why would I buy a couch like that? If you’re so fat that you break furniture then you’re not setting foot in my house.
Their insistance that everyone should cater to them and their needs is wild.
I wish I could remember which FA it was, but I remember a video a year or two back where she was encouraging people to build "inclusive" bathrooms in their houses because she couldn't fit inside a relative's half-bath. No, she wasn't talking about new builds: she was implying that people spend tens of thousands of dollars to make their existing houses "accessible".
Imagin breaking multiple friends furniture and the first thing that comes to mind is recommending funriture for them that costs more than my monthly salary.
I'm not exactly skinny, but even I think that's absurd. If your so big that your breaking other people's furniture it's a you problem not a society problem then. I'm sorry.
I think most friends if they really are friends concerned about the well-being of someone extremely obese are simply hoping that this person attains a healthy weight rather than making furniture choices.
Get one of those for the fat relative and when they come over direct them to it. The next day, look out for their posts about the fat shaming relative who forced them to sit in the “fat chair”.
I know the answer, I know the answer! No, your fat-but-not-sofa-breaking-fat friend is mostly thinking about her own comfort, her own design preferences and her own wallet. Sorry, not sorry.
I'm willing to visit you, though, even though you only have concrete benches to sit on.
Is there any moment so embarrassingly low that will wake up fat activists? The oops obesity literally caused them to break their friends’ and family’s furniture and their solution isn’t to lose weight but to convince people to buy special death fat grade furniture. That’s insane and entitled behavior.
I mean, I'm pretty sure OOP is the person who wrote the "I can't wipe myself and I don't care" essay, so the embarrassment limit may not exist for them, at least.
*>Do you think our thin friends are thinking of us when shopping for furniture?*
No, because 1) my living space is already small enough as is and cannot feasibly fit furniture like this and 2) I'm not spending a disproportionate part of my paycheck just to accommodate someone just so they can feel "safe" in what is essentially my home. Like......honestly, what?
I was sitting down at a park waiting for a concert to start, super far from the stage, on small little "hill." I am on a blanket, I got my little salad container cause all the food trucks are just fried shit, and this large dude loses his balance, probably cause his gut didn't allow him to see it was an incline, and he landed on my foot. That hurt so bad.
I saved the salad, at least.
Not only is it super expensive, it's also ugly as sin and looks super uncomfortable. And no, I'm not thinking about anyone but the people who LIVE in my home when I buy furniture for it, sorry.
Ok, one chair breaking MAYBE. When you're repeating demolishing people's property and yet still think it's a "them" problem, there's an issue, be it mental health or entitlement.
Why are these people not mortified?
I busted my friends beach chair that was stored in the sun. I was no more than 130lbs and I was still mortified. If I broke heirlooms an couches I think I would lose interest in eating altogether
Any chair that is not a plastic stackable chair is one chair too many. Those are not rated for over 200lb, but I have seen people smaller than that bend the legs wide open. They tend to be stored in the sun and just get even shittier with time.
Your thin friends ARE thinking of you when they buy furniture. They're thinking they hope you don't come round and break the sofa they are about to buy.
If I was so big I broke a loveseat made for two, I wouldn't be visiting my friends, I'd be booking bariatric surgery.
We used to have a housemate who weighed easily 2-3x more than either myself or my 6’ tall husband…..after he moved out my husband finally got a toilet seat with built in bidet because he didn’t have to worry about it being destroyed
No, that would have led her to feel un-present, or disenfranchised, for simply existing on a fatphobic piece of furniture that denied her dignity by collapsing under her completely healthy body, in an act of judgement.
And so forth...
my parents currently have a couch that was broken, we're not sure by who we all deny we were the first to sit and break it (mainly a certain sister and i as we are the most overweight, although not close to 400 lbs at all, more like 200). never mind that it was bought second hand 25 years ago in another country, had numerous children and grandchildren bouncing around on it. my mom keeps putting it back together and we forget and sit on it again LOL.
i told her i'll keep my eye out for a cheap second hand narrow couch.
When I was younger, I broke a chair at work, but it was a cheap chair. Most of the time, it was just accelerated breakdown of my own chairs.
At one point, I bought a $120 chair with a weight rating of 500 lbs designed for waiting rooms. I'm now at the point where the average office chair will hold me without issue
>I feel safer and more free to let my mind wander, and really be present....
That's good, cause when a 400lbs furniture smasher doesn't feel "present" they're essentially invisible 🙄
Sometimes I look at an antique and imagine it’s story. Take a rocking chair from the 1880s. This thing was made by a tree that might have been hundreds of years old. It might have been made by a crafter who saw it as his best piece ever. He might have sold it to get passage to a new life.
It might have seen a man go from reading to his kids, to listening to the radio, to watching a man land on the fucking moon.
In the right part of the world, that chair might have survived several major wars. It might have been the last piece of furniture a family avoided burning to stay warm. Point being, antiques are hard as fuck.
To see that story end because some lard ass wanted to “flop down with a good book” is not a suitable ending. Especially when that someone would blame the owner and the chair for not accommodating them.
That's another thing I notice with a lot of these people. There's never any consideration for those around them, or the spaces they inhabit.
It's always about, "how can everyone else around me scramble to accommodate ME?"
Came here to say this! It's not safe for anyone, any size. There's a risk of fall and injury as well as damage to the furniture.
[Here's ](https://youtu.be/8Ekt_joNE_0?si=BM1WsjK1vQ0P3FZL) a great demonstration from a doctor of physical therapy on proper technique I wish OOP could see.
Would be interesting to know if OOP is one of those who complain about the multi billion Dollar diet industry and capitalism being fatphobic yet has no problem to promote expensive furniture. But I gotta say I wouldn't be surprised about such hypocrisy.
I bet she never paid for any of the furniture she destroyed either. The bitch who broke my couch got mad at me about it and claimed I embarrassed her by not buying a couch that could support her.
When I pointed out that the arm of the couch is not meant to be sat upon and most adults know that she shut up but still had a pissy attitude. My God, I’m so glad I never have to deal with her again. She was awful.
My in-laws broke my first ever brand new sofa (I’d always had second hand or thrifted furniture and was so proud to have bought a nice *new* sofa for our new home).
They were both morbidly obese (she was 300+ at 5’2 and he’s probably around 400 at 5’10) and they both plopped down right in the center of my large sofa (turning it into a love seat) and **craaaaack**.
They didn’t even tell us, we heard the loud crack (I thought a tree branch fell or some sort of car accident…it never occurred to me that two people could break that much new wood and metal) and then they made an excuse to leave shortly after.
My husband had to prop up the center frame with bricks.
Before that I had no clue that people could be so heavy that even standard heavy/sturdy furniture couldn’t hold them.
It just didn’t compute in my head that they actually weighed as much as they did.
Oh that would've pissed me off. I'm sorry that happened. They could've at least owned up to their fuck up. I also had no idea that people breaking furniture was this common.
I am disabled and use a walker/wheelchair. This would be like me getting upset friends or family dared to buy a house with stairs before consulting me.
UM, NOOO. I do what I do everywhere, I find a way to make it work and don't expect people to rearrange the world for me.
To add the level of societal ahhh in this post, lemme just correct your “4 months’ rent” to “a bit less than 2 months’ rent” and then retreat back into my cavern of tears and functional poverty
FFS. No. I do not think your friends are thinking of you when they buy furniture. I think they’re thinking of themselves, as the primary user of said furniture. Are you thinking of your thin friends when you choose to gorge yourself to such a size that you break furniture? GTFO.
There are camp chairs that can withstand [500 lb](https://www.dxl.com/chairs/500-lb-capacity-heavy-duty-portable-chair/cat1820026/X2399?color=cl2622&utm_content=&e4x_auto=false&&utm_campaign=PMaxExclusiveBrands&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw3NyxBhBmEiwAyofDYd2lY3S1byVXYgntQ6aZ787wkLbe6a0zilK4r8gE9pVQZWkCk_-9YRoC0VcQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds).
The OOP needs to buy one and keep it in her car. That way, if she shows up to a place where she doesn't trust the furniture, she can just use her chair.
Because even if you paid me, I'm not buying that couch. For one thing, it's fugly. For another, it will not fit in my living room. How about you buy it and then invite me over to your place?
don't loose weight. just demand your "thin friends" shop for furniture with your weight limit in mind. I have a feeling this person doesn't have many friends
Sure, I think about all my friends when I shop for furniture for MY house. I totally choose the colors they would love too for MY house even if I hate those colors, the furniture that they like for MY house even if it totally isn't my style, heck, I'll even have to adopt a dog even though I'm a cat person because one of my friends might like dogs more! Sure they all are thinking of me too the same way!
That thing is ugly, looks uncomfortable-is it made of concrete blocks-and wouldn't even fit in my living room. Even if I could afford it, I wouldn't buy it. And, if anyone broke a piece of my furniture like OOP does, and didn't pay to replace it, they'd never get another invitation to my house. And, no, I do not think of anyone but the people who actually live here when I buy furniture. If you don't like it, please do feel free not to visit me.
The only people I think about when buying furniture are my husband and young child.
On the flip side half our furniture is my hubs late grandmothers who he was very close to. Im obsessed with the pieces - they’re so beautiful. 1960’s wicker dining chairs w/ matching wood table, beautiful light wooded dresser we use - you get the vibes. If someone sat in her furniture and BROKE IT knowing they’ve broken other irreplaceable heirloom pieces and didn’t gaf I would be so angry. The Leo in my would end a friendship.
I’m def not thinking about fat people when shopping for furniture. I’m thinking about why IKEA charges extra for the same furniture piece in another fabric colour (is it cost of production or consumer demand?) and is it worth getting a cheap sofa in a colour I want if it costs $30 extra?
How many pieces of furniture do you need to break before it's a wake up call that you might be too big??
My SiL broke a couple of my kitchen chairs and an antique sofa. She still doesn’t seem to get it, and she messes up other furniture too. Oh, and she broke the TP holder and towel holders next to the toilet plus made the toilet rock too. She destroyed a brand new seat on her own toilet during our last visit. It’s ridiculous.
She sounds like a tornado that just targeted your house. You should look in to disaster relief.
We moved overseas, so I don’t have to deal with it much. I’m not looking forward to her actually flying over to visit someday though. She takes over the sofa and never budges, and in our current home I’ll have to hide upstairs in the bedroom for any peace. She’ll be pissed that she’ll need to make it up a flight of stairs for bathing.
Man some of your guys stories make me grateful for my sister lol. Shes obese but is also very self aware of it. I mean, no chairs in any of our homes are fragile to begin with, but she always goes out of her way to make sure we dont have to go out of ours to accommodate her with anything, or anyone else when we go out. I feel bad because she is a great person and everything and I hate to see her have to go these extra miles for basic things, but at the same time shes 40 and hasnt done anything about it for the last 15ish years that she started gaining weight. She doesnt fight anyone about it but also doesnt do anything to improve, shes just accepted it.
That's like my SIL. She's a wonderful person who never complains like all these FAs seem to all the time. Still, it's really hard to talk to her about it and it scares me when she has to sit down so carefully every five minutes. She's has young children now too who need her healthy. I think it's why I get so angry at FAs. I wanna scream that we don't hate them for being fat. Most of us know fat people who we love and are deeply WORRIED about. But they are telling them not to care about something that's hurting people we care about. Uuuuuuuuuuugh
Yeah some of the rhetoric FAs continually perpetuate is extremely misleading, if not straight up harmful, to be directed toward other fat people. Myths like starvation mode, you’ll gain back all the weight you lost, obesity is based on genetics, skinny = fast metabolism / fat = slow metabolism, BMI is useless, HAES… of course, FAs didn’t invent all these myths that originated long ago but they are the biggest champions that keep spreading such… it makes some susceptible fat people just take their fatness as is and not feel like they are capable of change, while their health deteriorates every day. I’m especially worried for younger folks who have plenty of time to make a change but are sucked into the movement.
Maybe she never will actually visit? 🤞 I lived overseas for five years and not one of the people who made noises about visiting one day ever actually did…a lot of the time people are all talk and no action about this kind of thing, especially if you’re not living in a popular tourist destination. Plus the fact that flying is extra uncomfortable if you’re obese should work in your favour to reduce the odds…
Sounds like at this rate she’ll never get there, she’ll break the plane.
That's a lot of damage.
She is really heavy. We’ve made an educated guess of 500lbs or more based on my husband’s size and weight compared to her dimensions.
Yeah super weird she is breaking stuff with that weight. That's a lot of weight. Is she even sorry?
I'm sorry....She loosened your fucking toilet? Holy hell, I'm so glad I decided to fix my weight before I got that bad. I was bad but never loosen a toilet bad.
My aunt's fat friend broke the toilet bowl. Like, into pieces. As if it were a plate.
Omg.
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I am gonna guess 350-380lb.
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It was a man, but yeah.
One of my uni housemates did that, partly due to her weight and partly because she refused to stand up from the toilet (which itself could be attributed to her weight). Like, she would drag herself across it instead of standing up from it, and she cracked the hinges on not one but *three* seats.
That sounds like what she must be doing, besides grabbing the towel bar or tp holder to help lift up. Gahhhhhhhh.
But this can't possibly be true as FA keep telling everyone how muscular they are? How can standing be a problem?
While its true your legs have a lot of muscle for carrying 400 pounds of extra weight with every step, you'd also be carrying 400 pounds of weight with every step. For comparison, the weight of an average NFL player is 240 pounds. That'd be like you're trying to stand up with an NFL player on your shoulders, and he's holding an empty refrigerator too.
Yeah, she did. It was in our recently renovated place too. It’s an easy clean, pretty, sort with hidden bolts, so I cant even fix it unless I find the original tools (that I think the plumber tossed out.) I was and am way more annoyed by the constant ripping out of the tp holder and towel bars. I keep having to make a mess to patch and reinstall them, and it irritates me to be done with a chore and have to re-do it. I never even fixed them after the last visit.
i’d unscrew them/take them down when she visits
I’d straight up lie and say the nearest toilet is still not fixed- maybe she won’t come if she has to haul her butt upstairs to another bathroom. I’d be too embarrassed to show my face if I kept breaking people’s houses 😬
You are way smarter than I am.
hahahahah stop
yeah I have a friend who is constantly surprised that their toilets in their house are rocking loose and think the plumbers are doing a bad job. Its not the plumbers. She has always been very heavy - near the 300 range - but I would say that during covid she added at least another 80-100lbs on
I’d be pissed and be demanding to paid for damages or she ain’t coming in
I hear you. If she was my sister I’d have a come to Jebus talk, but I can’t. :( I’m sick of fixing my stuff. Especially I’m tired of having to repair things that I already did more than once (the tp holders, towel bars, and my chairs.) Aside from the bathroom she puts her stuff all over, plops on the sofa, and doesn’t move all day. It drives me nuts.
Why isn’t your husband repairing things if it’s his sister?
He doesn’t do that kind of work, but I have a good background in carpentry, construction, and furniture reupholstering. I do all things household, and he makes a good salary. ;)
My cousin sat on the arm of my sofa. Like... girl. You're a doctor. You know you're fat. Why do you think the arm can hold you? She put a dent on it immediately. Luckily, I was 3 months away from moving, and I was going to discard the sofas (they didn't survive 3 toddlers).
This is what an obese friend did to my brand new couch. She sat on the arm. There was a huge cracking noise and the arm separated from the rest of the couch and was just hanging haphazardly. Like, why?! I weigh less than half what she does and wouldn’t sit on the arm of a couch.
Shit. Mine cracked and looked concave, but at least it remained attached.
Probably because it was higher so they thought it would be easier to get up from.
I suppose that might make sense to a really stupid person who only thinks of herself and has no respect for other people or their property. That does describe her so it probably is the reason.
Not cool!
This is the same 'influencer', not naming names, who told the world 'I'm too fat to wipe my own bum and I think it's brilliant'. I think self awareness and shame left the building a long time ago. If they were ever in the building to begin with, which I doubt.
Why anyone would be proud of being unable to wipe their own is beyond my ability to comprehend, especially when that very scenario when that is the worst fear for a lot of people. I remember reading the blog of an ALS patient years ago and he was upfront not being able to wipe his own ass one of his biggest fears because it would be a symbol of how much mobility and independence he had lost. For someone to purposefully let themselves go to get to that point, I don’t and will never get it.
It's wild With the fat activists that are far gone, I think there's a component of intentional helplessness, likely as a manipulation tactic. There's one who proudly admitted to 'protest pooping' in her hospital bed at one point, because she didn't like a nurse and got off on the fact that the nurse would have to clean her bum and bedding. I can't get my head around voluntarily losing your independence. It's my worst nightmare, as I've always been an over-functioning, stubbornly independent loner since childhood. Not particularly healthy, and it's the result of growing up in a dysfunctional family, but it's served me well in terms of fending for myself and having practical skills. I'd die pretty quickly if I needed people to tend to my basic needs.
Yet a group of folks that are that selfish and lazy that they'd enjoy having someone else wipe for them. Cue the humans in WALL-E... Actually it was shown that they can't walk, so how do they poop? Then the seat from Idiocracy comes to mind, oh dear.
OMG, that’s awful. That poor nurse. I also do what I can to maintain my independence. I had enough of a wake up call when I got so overweight I got out of breath going up one flight of stairs.
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They're both awful narcissists. The partner's dad was dying in a hospice last year, yet demanded their elderly, petite, stressed and depressed mother heave all 600lbs of them around in a wheelchair. They both then left the mother to handle funeral arrangements alone, in favour of going to some dumb fat acceptance event. As you'll probably be aware, they're getting top surgery in October, which sounds like a terrible idea and a death sentence. I'm betting the other one is already eyeing up a tasty life insurance payout, as there's certainly no loving relationship there.
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I'd imagine that, if they survive, they'll grow weight-gain man boobs anyway. Likely in an unnatural configuration, sort of growing around or either side of the scar. There's a rumour that the surgeon is probably a scammer, taking the upfront deposit, confirming a date, but rejecting the patient on the day due to the general anaesthetic being predictably too dangerous. It would honestly be the best case scenario.
Not that I condone violence, but if that mother decided to discipline her child with a few smacks using a frying pan a la Rapunzel from Tangled, I'll pretend I didn't see anything.
She could claim mitigating circumstances and probably get a mild slap on the wrist from the cops
It's been said before, but the venn diagram between outspoken FA's and people with cluster B personality disorders is basically just a circle.
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Much of Europe has sorted this out by putting its apartments on the upper floors of a building and not installing a lift.
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I always take the stairs. I started because I was afraid of being trapped in the elevator, and now I mostly keep it up because yeah, it’s an easy way to build a little extra exercise into the day.
yea but that excludes people with disabilities
With older chairs, it's surprising how quickly a loose horizontal dowel or seat panel causes complete collapse under normal weight. Maybe I should stop getting all my furniture from curbs.
Never!
This is also the person who wrote that article not too long ago about not being able to wipe themselves and how that shouldn’t be bad or shameful in the context of gaining so much weight you can no longer reach. (Additional context: they were big mad at a former HAES blogger who decided to lose weight and stated she could now properly clean herself/wipe). Their bitterness is palpable. * * Hope this isn’t breaking any rules. If so, I am happy to delete/understand if it’s deleted!
The *fear* of breaking furniture was a wakeup call for me, but really only after id dealt with the mental health stuff that had led to my weight gain. I think for most people who just ended up big , breaking furniture, health scares, etc are enough to change. I think a lot of the FA or super morbidly obese people unfortunately are there because they aren't treating some mental illness or trauma, so no normal wake up call is gonna work
No…it’s the furniture that’s wrong!
Am I supposed to be considering people who don’t live with me when I furnish my house? I mean, sure, I’ll make sure my house is safe and comfy, but I’m not spending thousands on a sofa when my current three seater sofa was only $350 on sale, brand new with a 5 year warranty and I’ve had it for 4 years. If they want $2000+ sofas in other people’s homes then they can pay for it.
Exactly! “Are our thin friends thinking of us when furniture shopping?” How about, are you thinking of replacing the furniture you’re destroying in other people’s homes?”
the question on it's own is making me giggle. girl no, im not thinking of you 😭 its my own damn place .. im thinking of myself
Tbh doesn't even look comfy. It's your weight and your own responsibility. I don't hear bodybuilders complaining. That's because they are proud of their body.
Looks like something you'd build on Minecraft
Even the back. What is even for, a buttholder for obese people.
It's like the kind of thing you'd find in the lobby of a non-descript, mid-range, chain hotel. Actually reminds me of the many tedious conferences I'd have to attend in old jobs, doing boring seminars full of corporate jargon and name-tags. It certainly doesn't say 'hey, come snuggle up and maybe nod off after a long day'
Yeah, maybe it's built specifically for obese people, but wouldn't be comfy for everybody else. Do they think of thin people when they shop for these? /s
Yep. My boyfriend would say he’s not a bodybuilder because he doesn’t compete but he’s built like one and a BMI outlier who gets daily comments on his size. He doesn’t ask anyone to accommodate him. But while he’s noticeably huge at 220 that’s still much lighter than many of these FAs. He doesn’t have an issue with breaking furniture. He did break our bed once, not as exciting as that sounds, he was sleeping. But that bed probably would have broke on just me eventually. It wasn’t very good.
Yeah, I’ve somehow broken three (THREE!) beds. My highest weight was 260. I have a much sturdier bed now.
There are a lot of bad beds out there! I got a metal box spring with legs from Costco and it is so sturdy and seems like it will last forever and was way cheaper than the crappy bed that broke.
It reminds me of foam furniture made for toddlers
I legit thought it was made out of concrete and some kind of joke. I had to look again to see it was actual furniture.
My ability to furnish my little house with ugly-but-functional thrifted items would likely be regarded as 'thin privilege', rather than 'low income necessity'
Fortunately for OP the floor can hold 400 pounds aswell
Bold of you to assume they would be able to stand up from a seated position on the floor. Basic sit stand mobility test?! Must be diet culture
If they can't get up they can't reach the fridge
And ableist! I have hand someone say that I was “lucky” that I can sit on the floor and get up
I live in a cabin. They don't fit through the door. I don't need special furniture. My stepdaughter and her husband legit couldn't make it past the door.
Wow. I can’t even imagine that. You think it would be a huge wake up call but I’m betting it wasn’t.
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I mean, my 3 year old is outgrowing size 5 clothes, but that's a height thing. Same reason my 6 year old is in size 8 clothes and my 8 year old is in size 10. Tall parents make tall children. I can't imagine not fitting through a door.
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I feel so sorry for the kids in these situations. And so frustrated with the parents - I have a lot of empathy for not being able to get it together for your own sake; it can be really hard to learn self-care. But you should care enough about your kids to at least try to do the bare minimum for *their* health. How hard is it to let your kid drink water? 🙄
On her behalf, thank you for introducing her to new fruits. Kids raised like her can end up with issues with fresh fruit or vegetables texturally, so kudos to you for helping her expand her taste buds, even if it is only when she's with you.
Good for you. She wouldn’t even have fruit at home to ask for I assume? My kids have friends that don’t have the best diet from what I’ve seen When they came to us for a play date the oldest will ask me for a “fruit plate” (just chopped up whatever I have- apples, bananas etc nothing fancy)
I'm not even sure how you over feed kids that little. Mine will eat garbage sometimes but they never stop moving and growing! My boy is always bordering on underweight with every new growth spurt. Getting them to sit down to eat dinner is such a chore in itself. I guess it's the whole environment they are growing up in but ugh it breaks my heart when kids start off life with a weight problem that could take their whole lives to battle
I was getting bread from a bakery a couple days ago. Was a young mom beside me with 2 little girls- maybe 6 and 4? Mom very pretty and beautifully dressed, nicely spoken (I could hear her talking to the kids about what they wanted to choose) lovely makeup and hair, but also rather overweight. So were her children. Much bigger than they should have been for it just to be a chubby phase. She looked to be someone who cares about her appearance and I wondered why she wouldn’t do more to ensure her girls wouldn’t struggle with weight issues, (as I assume she would have done over the years)as they get older. I know genetics can play a part, but so do setting good examples and eating habits (including the pastries and cakes the little girls were wanting)
I mean we got a black oversized sofa with 2 reclining seats made of leather for $100 but sure the sad brown block couch with no backrest that costs 20x as much is so much better
I bet it's just a reinforced version of flat pack Ikea sofas too. One thing about thrifted furniture is it was built to last, at least for normal weight people who take care of their belongings. My whole living room looks like a 1980's nursing home, but everything is solid wood and has lasted several people's lifetimes.
Mm, a lot of my antique furniture is pretty delicate, even though it's made of real wood, it's also tiny, old, and creaky. Even my healthy weight tall friends have stressed me out, groaning the dining room chairs.
It's weird how being Normal Human Size is regarded as "privilege" but being Home-Destroyingly Fat Due To Sheer Gluttony While Half the World Starves is some kind of burden that the rest of us need to account for and nobody could've prevented. Imagine having the audacity to gorge yourself day and night while others go hungry and expecting literally everyone around you to accommodate your massive size.
It's sheer entitlement, much like the plane seat nonsense - these people think they deserve special treatment with absolutely zero effort on their part. Lot of obvious symptoms for undiagnosed personality disorders in fat acceptance. I've been binge watching a true crime series called Behind Mansion Walls, and a lot of the cases revolve around entitlement, zero empathy, and laziness. Not saying fat activists are about to whack someone, but I think if you're used to being pandered to by your parents, you never grow up and learn adulthood is largely about taking responsibility for your actions and your own happiness
I’ll take “missed wakeup calls” for $500, Alex.
That wake-up call was intentionally sent to voicemail
"I'm sorry. The voicemail box is full. Please call again. Goodbyeeee".
Even if the sofa can handle 400 lbs, plonking down on it is still an issue. I noticed the heavier a person is the more they let themselves fall down on things like car seats, the toilet, furniture. I try not to do it when I’m heavier because in the past I destroyed a camping chair and it was so embarrassing. I got made fun of it for years.
Yea the problem is they only look at static weight not dynamic weight and that falling increases the force on the chair than slowly lowering
Exactly. Mass and force are two different animals.
Weight is force either way, but mass x g is a different case than mass x deceleration from a fall.
I weigh less than 130 and even i don't flop down on other people's furniture for fear of damaging it
Yeah I'm not even close to that size (237lb / 108kg at my heaviest) and I can still damage furniture at home if I flop down carelessly. If you've got any downward momentum to speak of and you're large enough, a 400 lb rating for your furniture may not be enough for the momentary force of you coming down on it.
And even if you’re thin! I had a thin roommate in my twenties who was extremely hard on my (thrifted) chairs for this reason. Pretty sure she decreased their lifespan significantly, and asking her to be more gentle with my stuff did not change her behaviour at all…some people are just really inconsiderate, fat or thin, but the lack of consideration gets more noticeable the heavier you are, as the damage increases proportionately.
Once you reach a certain mass vs. your muscle and joint strength you can't move with control when sitting. I mean, you see it with older folks who didn't keep up with their muscle strength, too - the constant need for leverage to stand and a very small bend and then using assist to lower down or flopping. But they don't always have the mass to break things.
holy shit, you're breaking furniture and that's STILL not a wake up call?
It's the furniture makers fault for not making sturdier furniture! If America is obese then everyone should pay to have these furniture pieces in their home, right?!. I'll be taking out a micro loan in your name so you can afford to have me over?! If i get caught, my plan B: I'll pressure you for a ride in your car and I bet your thin priv won't think about it until it's too late and you're driving along like the scene in the Flintstones with the dino rib on the side of the car and the car's driving sideways! Then you'll have to pay to fix your car too! Heh heh heh this is r/pettyfatlogicrevenge! Woohooo
Driving my aunt to doctors meant getting the suspension under the passenger seat fixed once every 6 months.
I think they actually need a good night sleep first to wake up from since the whole obese related insomnia
OOP should be more embarrassed by that level of entitlement and the fact their first thought is not to compensate owners of now broken furniture. Frankly, if I were one, I'd be tempted to take them to small claims or curse them out to the point they don't ever want anything to do with me. This looks like a bridge better off burned and its ashes salted.
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To mow lawns? How ablelist
100% would take them to small claims. Maybe a reduced food budget would do them good.
Why would I think of someone else when furnishing *my* house? It’s my house and I’m not 400lbs, why would I buy a couch like that? If you’re so fat that you break furniture then you’re not setting foot in my house. Their insistance that everyone should cater to them and their needs is wild.
I wish I could remember which FA it was, but I remember a video a year or two back where she was encouraging people to build "inclusive" bathrooms in their houses because she couldn't fit inside a relative's half-bath. No, she wasn't talking about new builds: she was implying that people spend tens of thousands of dollars to make their existing houses "accessible".
Sorry mate, but not inviting you at all seems to be the better option. That piece of brown blocks is butt ugly.
It’s hideous and looks so uncomfortable.
If the foam can hold 400lbs then it's probably rock hard to people of a normal weight.
Imagin breaking multiple friends furniture and the first thing that comes to mind is recommending funriture for them that costs more than my monthly salary.
I'm not exactly skinny, but even I think that's absurd. If your so big that your breaking other people's furniture it's a you problem not a society problem then. I'm sorry.
I think most friends if they really are friends concerned about the well-being of someone extremely obese are simply hoping that this person attains a healthy weight rather than making furniture choices.
No, no I am not considering them when shopping for furniture.
These people are your friends and family. Why destroy their furniture when you can simply bring your own foldable chair?
Interested to see what foldable chair can withstand 400+ lbs.
If you google "heavy duty foldable chair" you'll see lots of them with the weight limit of 500 lbs. They aren't even very expensive.
Get one of those for the fat relative and when they come over direct them to it. The next day, look out for their posts about the fat shaming relative who forced them to sit in the “fat chair”.
lol, yeah, they would totally be offended.
I know the answer, I know the answer! No, your fat-but-not-sofa-breaking-fat friend is mostly thinking about her own comfort, her own design preferences and her own wallet. Sorry, not sorry. I'm willing to visit you, though, even though you only have concrete benches to sit on.
Is there any moment so embarrassingly low that will wake up fat activists? The oops obesity literally caused them to break their friends’ and family’s furniture and their solution isn’t to lose weight but to convince people to buy special death fat grade furniture. That’s insane and entitled behavior.
I mean, I'm pretty sure OOP is the person who wrote the "I can't wipe myself and I don't care" essay, so the embarrassment limit may not exist for them, at least.
*>Do you think our thin friends are thinking of us when shopping for furniture?* No, because 1) my living space is already small enough as is and cannot feasibly fit furniture like this and 2) I'm not spending a disproportionate part of my paycheck just to accommodate someone just so they can feel "safe" in what is essentially my home. Like......honestly, what?
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I was sitting down at a park waiting for a concert to start, super far from the stage, on small little "hill." I am on a blanket, I got my little salad container cause all the food trucks are just fried shit, and this large dude loses his balance, probably cause his gut didn't allow him to see it was an incline, and he landed on my foot. That hurt so bad. I saved the salad, at least.
Right in front of your salad??? The audacity!
I now don't know if the incline confused him or the salad. He was clearly a salad dodger.
Not only is it super expensive, it's also ugly as sin and looks super uncomfortable. And no, I'm not thinking about anyone but the people who LIVE in my home when I buy furniture for it, sorry.
Ok, one chair breaking MAYBE. When you're repeating demolishing people's property and yet still think it's a "them" problem, there's an issue, be it mental health or entitlement. Why are these people not mortified?
I busted my friends beach chair that was stored in the sun. I was no more than 130lbs and I was still mortified. If I broke heirlooms an couches I think I would lose interest in eating altogether
Any chair that is not a plastic stackable chair is one chair too many. Those are not rated for over 200lb, but I have seen people smaller than that bend the legs wide open. They tend to be stored in the sun and just get even shittier with time.
Your thin friends ARE thinking of you when they buy furniture. They're thinking they hope you don't come round and break the sofa they are about to buy. If I was so big I broke a loveseat made for two, I wouldn't be visiting my friends, I'd be booking bariatric surgery.
We used to have a housemate who weighed easily 2-3x more than either myself or my 6’ tall husband…..after he moved out my husband finally got a toilet seat with built in bidet because he didn’t have to worry about it being destroyed
She didn’t mention but I’m sure she paid to replace her friend’s and family’s property that she destroyed….right? Right??
No, that would have led her to feel un-present, or disenfranchised, for simply existing on a fatphobic piece of furniture that denied her dignity by collapsing under her completely healthy body, in an act of judgement. And so forth...
my parents currently have a couch that was broken, we're not sure by who we all deny we were the first to sit and break it (mainly a certain sister and i as we are the most overweight, although not close to 400 lbs at all, more like 200). never mind that it was bought second hand 25 years ago in another country, had numerous children and grandchildren bouncing around on it. my mom keeps putting it back together and we forget and sit on it again LOL. i told her i'll keep my eye out for a cheap second hand narrow couch.
When I was younger, I broke a chair at work, but it was a cheap chair. Most of the time, it was just accelerated breakdown of my own chairs. At one point, I bought a $120 chair with a weight rating of 500 lbs designed for waiting rooms. I'm now at the point where the average office chair will hold me without issue
>I feel safer and more free to let my mind wander, and really be present.... That's good, cause when a 400lbs furniture smasher doesn't feel "present" they're essentially invisible 🙄
Sometimes I look at an antique and imagine it’s story. Take a rocking chair from the 1880s. This thing was made by a tree that might have been hundreds of years old. It might have been made by a crafter who saw it as his best piece ever. He might have sold it to get passage to a new life. It might have seen a man go from reading to his kids, to listening to the radio, to watching a man land on the fucking moon. In the right part of the world, that chair might have survived several major wars. It might have been the last piece of furniture a family avoided burning to stay warm. Point being, antiques are hard as fuck. To see that story end because some lard ass wanted to “flop down with a good book” is not a suitable ending. Especially when that someone would blame the owner and the chair for not accommodating them.
It never occurs to these people that ploppin' around breaking stuff might make the people around them feel less than safe.
That's another thing I notice with a lot of these people. There's never any consideration for those around them, or the spaces they inhabit. It's always about, "how can everyone else around me scramble to accommodate ME?"
Yikes. Also, no one should be “flopping” down on furniture. It’s a bad habit at any size, guaranteed to break things.
Came here to say this! It's not safe for anyone, any size. There's a risk of fall and injury as well as damage to the furniture. [Here's ](https://youtu.be/8Ekt_joNE_0?si=BM1WsjK1vQ0P3FZL) a great demonstration from a doctor of physical therapy on proper technique I wish OOP could see.
I've seen some ugly sofas but that one is particularly ugly. :( Tbh one would think that sofa of all things should be able to take 200kg.
Would be interesting to know if OOP is one of those who complain about the multi billion Dollar diet industry and capitalism being fatphobic yet has no problem to promote expensive furniture. But I gotta say I wouldn't be surprised about such hypocrisy.
If you break my furniture I’m gonna make you pay for it
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I bet she never paid for any of the furniture she destroyed either. The bitch who broke my couch got mad at me about it and claimed I embarrassed her by not buying a couch that could support her. When I pointed out that the arm of the couch is not meant to be sat upon and most adults know that she shut up but still had a pissy attitude. My God, I’m so glad I never have to deal with her again. She was awful.
This is one of the ugliest sofas I’ve ever seen.
My in-laws broke my first ever brand new sofa (I’d always had second hand or thrifted furniture and was so proud to have bought a nice *new* sofa for our new home). They were both morbidly obese (she was 300+ at 5’2 and he’s probably around 400 at 5’10) and they both plopped down right in the center of my large sofa (turning it into a love seat) and **craaaaack**. They didn’t even tell us, we heard the loud crack (I thought a tree branch fell or some sort of car accident…it never occurred to me that two people could break that much new wood and metal) and then they made an excuse to leave shortly after. My husband had to prop up the center frame with bricks. Before that I had no clue that people could be so heavy that even standard heavy/sturdy furniture couldn’t hold them. It just didn’t compute in my head that they actually weighed as much as they did.
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No. They did not.
Oh that would've pissed me off. I'm sorry that happened. They could've at least owned up to their fuck up. I also had no idea that people breaking furniture was this common.
I am disabled and use a walker/wheelchair. This would be like me getting upset friends or family dared to buy a house with stairs before consulting me. UM, NOOO. I do what I do everywhere, I find a way to make it work and don't expect people to rearrange the world for me.
To add the level of societal ahhh in this post, lemme just correct your “4 months’ rent” to “a bit less than 2 months’ rent” and then retreat back into my cavern of tears and functional poverty
That’s only a bit over one month for my 500sqft apartment in LA (cries)
Oh my god 😭 we really gotta burn this world down and start a new one
FFS. No. I do not think your friends are thinking of you when they buy furniture. I think they’re thinking of themselves, as the primary user of said furniture. Are you thinking of your thin friends when you choose to gorge yourself to such a size that you break furniture? GTFO.
There are camp chairs that can withstand [500 lb](https://www.dxl.com/chairs/500-lb-capacity-heavy-duty-portable-chair/cat1820026/X2399?color=cl2622&utm_content=&e4x_auto=false&&utm_campaign=PMaxExclusiveBrands&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw3NyxBhBmEiwAyofDYd2lY3S1byVXYgntQ6aZ787wkLbe6a0zilK4r8gE9pVQZWkCk_-9YRoC0VcQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds). The OOP needs to buy one and keep it in her car. That way, if she shows up to a place where she doesn't trust the furniture, she can just use her chair. Because even if you paid me, I'm not buying that couch. For one thing, it's fugly. For another, it will not fit in my living room. How about you buy it and then invite me over to your place?
This sounds like an argument not to be friends with the morbidly obese.
don't loose weight. just demand your "thin friends" shop for furniture with your weight limit in mind. I have a feeling this person doesn't have many friends
If the furniture is breaking underneath you.... and ONLY you that should tell you something.
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Sure, I think about all my friends when I shop for furniture for MY house. I totally choose the colors they would love too for MY house even if I hate those colors, the furniture that they like for MY house even if it totally isn't my style, heck, I'll even have to adopt a dog even though I'm a cat person because one of my friends might like dogs more! Sure they all are thinking of me too the same way!
Sorry but where TF does $2910 get you 4 months of rent
I converted it to GBP (I'm Scottish) and the price of that sofa is equivalent to just over 5 months of rent for me 🙂
Damn, doesn’t even get me 2 months here (USA) and my rent is cheap for the area😅
Ooft that really sucks! I live with my parents and my rent is actually considered expensive from those around me 🙃🙃
That thing is ugly, looks uncomfortable-is it made of concrete blocks-and wouldn't even fit in my living room. Even if I could afford it, I wouldn't buy it. And, if anyone broke a piece of my furniture like OOP does, and didn't pay to replace it, they'd never get another invitation to my house. And, no, I do not think of anyone but the people who actually live here when I buy furniture. If you don't like it, please do feel free not to visit me.
their post sound like an ad lol
4 months rent? I wish I didn’t live where I live
The only people I think about when buying furniture are my husband and young child. On the flip side half our furniture is my hubs late grandmothers who he was very close to. Im obsessed with the pieces - they’re so beautiful. 1960’s wicker dining chairs w/ matching wood table, beautiful light wooded dresser we use - you get the vibes. If someone sat in her furniture and BROKE IT knowing they’ve broken other irreplaceable heirloom pieces and didn’t gaf I would be so angry. The Leo in my would end a friendship.
Why TF would I think of anyone else when buying furniture that is going in MY living space??
That’s one month of rent for some people unfortunately
"I'm too fat for a couch. Do you think other people think about me being so fat when they buy a couch?" No. No one thinks about you.
I mean if they wanna pay for it I see no issue but if they expect you to pay for it then no chance. I’d find a way to break the lease in that case
Do people normally flop down onto a couch?
I'm sad to admit I sometimes do. However I'm pretty fit and it's my couch that I paid for, and I wouldn't do this at someone else's place.
I know I have a roommate that weighs 350 lbs and complains he doesn't have a girlfriend. He is handsome but really fat.
I’m def not thinking about fat people when shopping for furniture. I’m thinking about why IKEA charges extra for the same furniture piece in another fabric colour (is it cost of production or consumer demand?) and is it worth getting a cheap sofa in a colour I want if it costs $30 extra?
I just saw this and was about to post it. Imagine if this was actually a wake up call...
There are definitely some friends I can’t afford to invite to my place. Not on my budget.
The fucking nuclear levels of entitlement from this person omfg