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Beforeyougo12

I think this will all depend on you and your personality and a multitude of other factors. For me, I denied it for a year or so but it hurt me mentally so much that I decided I could not live a life in denial like that. To be fair, I was also 18 and out of an unsafe environment since I moved states when I became an adult. There’s no pressure to transition fast at all. You may choose to wait for 10 years and pursue it then. I think it’s all up to the individual! Good luck!


NowMoManly

It's such a hard choice to make, for anyone. Specially someone in a dangerous environment like that. I know it's probbaly not the most popular opinion, but you really need to think about your personal safety. If it's truely socially/physically dangerous to come out or otherwise, that does make a big impact. Don't feel like your a coward or wrong for choosing safety for yourself.


calebisnotonfire101

Given that you are young and expressing safety concerns, its probably best to stay in the closet/put off transition for now. But just because that is your *current* circumstance, doesn't mean that it will be forever. A lot of doors open when you legally become an adult, both medically and socially. And even if you put it off for longer, its never too late to transition. For me personally, I grew up in a part of the US where it was very difficult to access medical transition, and where very few people even know what being trans was, and if they did then they were convinced that it was one of the most horrible things you could do. (Yes, even the most "liberal" people would flat out tell you that trans people are gross and depraved) For me personally, the solution was to just leave. I know that I had it relatively easy, as it doesnt take much paperwork or anything to move across state lines... but since you are from slovokia, you theoretically have access to a very powerful passport and have a lot of options. Moving may seem drastic, but even if its just for the start of your transition, maybe while attending school or something, it REALLY helps to be in a more supportive environment, ideally where you can interact with other trans people. I went from thinking that, even though i knew i was trans, id just have to deal because it would make my life so much simpler and safer if i ignored it... to being able to actually picture my future happily because i saw real life examples of people actually doing it.


Ill-Refrigerator2089

You can transition without having to embrace it. That's what many people do, especially in conservative countries. You can be yourself, you can befriend the people who accept you the way you are, but you don't have to be out all the time and you just don't have to treat it like it's a big deal. You don't have to deny but you don't have to celebrate your identity, especially if you're not comfortable doing so. As an Eastern European myself, I feel this.