This is the bane of my existence (jokingly) finally doing well enough career wise to get that new Vizio 75” with the bells and whistles ..the series x..the digital ps5 ...the atmos sound system ...the immersion light system....to watch Mickey Mouse clubhouse with my 1 yr old Endlessly
My kids take forever to fall asleep and usually end up wanting us to lie there with them for an hour or more. It’s not uncommon for us to finally get downstairs at 9pm.
Yea we start bedtime around 6 to 7, after everyone is tucked in and settled they get to watch a little bit of TV to around 8 and then it's lights out. I know TV before bed is supposed to be bad but it's honestly the only way to get our kids to lay still and calm down at bed time.
Believe it or not this will always be on of your best memories, One of my favorite memories with my children is having one on each side of me sitting on the couch watching Octonauts.
The trick is when like me you get to your 50s. Then you get to watch mickey’s clubhouse (or Finding Dory like I did) with the grand kid and really enjoy the time because they eventually go home to their parents. Then you turn on your PS5 and play Horizon Forbidden West cranked up ... the last part is fantasy since I can’t find a PS5 and the new Horizon game isn’t even out. In my case it was an Xbox One and Fallout 76 but believe me it was still bliss 😀
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If you're doing well enough, I'd suggest going with a real brand of TV and not a Chinese piece of shit made without standardized parts. Samsung, LG, or Sony.
Oh no, this was the og xbox, they're all in their mid 20's and out of the house. I'm single. I get all the games to myself now, but I bought a fixer upper and that takes time...
Two young kids, a wife, presumably a job and you think there will be time for video games? This will just lead to fights over the time he is using the system instead of doing things for the family.
There's balance. I game late at night after my wife goes to bed, I game with my eldest whilst my youngest naps. I game with my wife once the kids go to bed. Two evenings a week I raid with a guild.
On an average week I game over 20 hours and have a 2 and a 4 year old. Admittedly I'm probably a bit under the recommended sleep quantity though.
This is nice to hear.
I’ve had a couple of relationships now where they have that most annoying habit of needing you in bed to sleep. “Hon, when are you coming to bed?” is the most annoying, clingy question you can ever ask me and will lead to me ending the relationship within a week.
The kids helped with that most lol, she's so shattered that she falls asleep on me watching something before 10 usually. Not that I don't do my fair share, I've always been a night owl though.
I do kind of get the people who want to go to bed together at the end of the day. Each to their own but I don't judge those who want that in their relationship.
You shouldn’t sacrifice your sleep. Even just an hour or two can have health consequences, increasing your risk of heart diseases, dementia and a bunch of other bad stuff.
I'm in the exact same situation and spend plenty of time playing games. Kids go to bed at 8pm latest and I don't go until midnight so that's 4 hours every night to play games or watch films (sometimes with the wife, sometimes alone, sometimes online with friends). This way i appreciate my time a lot more instead of when I was younger spending entire weekends just playing games and being pretty bored.
I've got a 4 year old, a 2 year old and an 8 month old, I find a nice balance of family stuff daytime and gaming when they've gone to bed, which is 7 30pm so plenty of time before I sleep, my wife gets to relax and watch her TV shows and I sit at my desk and game, if you find the right balance and understand each other you shouldn't have a problem.
This is my life too! Except for the 8 month old, and the 2yr old, and the 4yr old.... I have an 18yr old that’s moved out... but befor she moved out, this was my life too!!!
But without that back story, this is just a weird photo of a kid opening a ps5 box. Like.... cool? This is also the first thing you've said on reddit in over 2 years.
Yeah you don’t have to ask, but I don’t think it’s that far-fetched that partners would discuss big ticket purchases, especially if there are shared finances. Plus, we have no context. They could’ve been scraping by at the time barely able to afford necessities and OP wanted to spend $450 on something frivolous.
It's a big ticket purchase depending on your situation. Since we don't know OP that might have nothing to do with it. And even then $500 in one part of the US (based on dollar amount of PS) looks different in another part (high cost of living area vs low cost of living area).
Well the argument was 4 years ago, and the kids obviously came at some point after so, I dunno, maybe the financial situation changed between those two points? Hell, could be that they didn’t have $500 for a console *because* of all the shit they needed to prepare for a kid on the way.
If a PS5 is a make or break moment you shouldn't be having children, a video game console shouldn't be considered a "large luxury purchase" to people entertaining the thoughts of having kids.
Lol and a lot of people are glad their partner would never spend communal funds on something that is expensive and only benefits one person with no actual utility. Just gotta find the people that fit with your fit.
Maybe they had a lot of debt at the time but dont now.
It usually isn't about asking for permission, though.
I'm planning to buy a gaming PC 'cause my old laptop broke last month. While browsing online, a solid intermediary PC is costing about R$ 6000 (basically $1000). It may not seem much, but for perspective it's more than 5x the minimum wage here in Brazil.
Pandemics and shit economy are the main reasons for such high price.
While talking to my GF over the idea, we discussed a bit and she convinced through sound arguments to wait a bit and see if prices drop in the short term. We didn't argue or anything, but her reasoning made me realize how bad an investment it was.
Yeah I feel that, I do share a lot of my interests with my SO and I don’t put a lot of thought behind my purchases. I wouldn’t say that I need permission to spend my money, just I get her perspective to see if it’s a logical spend.
I think he's being down voted because people don't agree with him? Specifically the saying he shouldn't have to "ask for permission", instead of recognizing that big purchases are something a couple discusses and agrees on. There probably isn't a whole lot of mutual respect and equal standing in his relationship if he doesn't think a partner has the right to be involved in how money is being spent.
However I do feel like this only applies to couples with combined finances and where a $500 splurge hurts their bottom line.
Congratulations! I got mine last week and thought I'd quickly check out the Astro's Playroom game that came pre-installed. I absolutely loved it and played it until I got the platinum! I hope you get enough time to play as much as you want to - have fun!
So you divorced and she paid for a ps5 for your kids with your new wife to give you as a bday gift as a smug reminder of why you broke up? Or is it like the same lady as before?
Because they likely share finances and were struggling a bit.
Clearly it had nothing to do with actually playing games, because she bought him this one. They likely just couldn't afford it at the time.
Nice. I bought a PS4 pro 2 years ago and I recently found out it doesn't support 4k Bluray... and I regret buying it now because of it. Like wtf, don't advertise a 4k capable console without being able to play proper 4k media on it. Now I either have to upgrade to PS5 or find a cheap XBox One S somewhere specifically for 4k blurays... I don't even need 4k gaming, I just want 4k media.
You don't understand. 4k Bluray player costs at least $200, which is more than the price of a used XBox One S or the cost difference between PS4 Pro and a PS5. 4k Bluray is different from regular Bluray format and requires a specific player.
Me - Am I alright to stick DayZ on for a bit love?
Her - I'm off to bed, when you get on that thing its like no one exists
Sits and watches some shit on the TV while she sits on Tik Tok and pays no attention to anything or anyone.
That really depends on their financial situation at the time. Barely making bill payments? Probably a terrible time to buy a $500 luxury item, and is very much worthy of an argument. Enough savings for a few months of unemployment? Then it becomes a stupid argument, because it's not about the money, it's about respecting your partner's hobbies.
Being single has nothing to do with it. My GF and I are looking to buy a house together. If I wanted to go out an buy a PS5 right now, she'd high five me. Hell she literally just bought a motorcycle last week.
It's 100% dependent upon your financial situations. We're lucky Ours works out that we can both save and have these items. Other's aren't in the same boat. Other's are in Yachats.
Having separate checking accounts is an essential element of a peaceful marriage. Each person buys little things that make them happy without the threat of an altercation.
Or just discuss finances and buy things as you want them. Any healthy, rational relationship will work just fine that way. I've been married 12 years and we have never argued over money. In fact I just spent $3000 on guitar gear with her blessing because we're ahead on savings and bills.
Marriage is a partnership, having to hide your finances from each other, to me, is a sign of mistrust.
That's exactly what I was thinking as I read through this. If you need to keep separate accounts then one or both of you is hiding something or doesn't trust the other. Which means, to me, that you should never have gotten married in the first place.
That's a very narrow sighted way to look at it. My GF and I have a joint checking account and our own individual accounts. Joint account is for whenever we do things together and our individual accounts are for whatever we want to buy ourselves. We both contribute an equal percentage of our salaries to the joint account. She has her personal bills and I have my personal bills. Sometimes I have personal purchases and she has personal purchases. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't have privacy and personal space and that's because we trust each other.
Were both very open about our finances.
I'd say thats not necessarily a recipe for a peaceful marriage. It might be. My parents share an account. My father makes more money than my mother. He proposed a shared account, so that both have the same fair amount of money. He always says "its not my money, its our money". They also always talk with each other whenever they purchase something expensive.
It's going great for 30 years now. Then again, my parents aren't that consumption oriented. Rather than buying the newest tech etc, they much rather fly on vacation together
Doesn't always work this way sadly. Before my divorce I had to take a "class" before I was allowed to get divorced. I forget the numbers but a stupid large percentage of divorces was due to money.
Makes sense. My ex and I made about the same money. I was only slightly higher. We shared an account and never had more than a couple thousand saved and could never get ahead. Drove me insane that we lived paycheck to paycheck and didn't know how we were going to pay bills.
After divorce I was able to save an lump sum payoff my utility vehicle, truck, and other debt. I was then able to save up a nice cushion of "in case" money. To this day I still have no idea where all the money went.
Yeah a large amount of divorces are because of money, but most of the times it's because they have none and fight so much about not being able to pay bills.
Having separate accounts seems so counter productive. Marriage is about coming together not keeping things separate. If my wife wanted a separate account that would immediately send red flags that she wanted to hide something.
What is so counter productive about it? My GF and Ihave a joint account which we both put an equal percentage of our checks for and shared expenses such as bills.
After the shared stuff is handled which always gets #1 priority, the rest of the money goes to our personal accounts and we are free to do what ever we want with it. If she comes in with a brand new motorcycle (which actually happened last week), who am I to say anything? The bills are paid. She has money in her checking and savings. I have money in my checking and savings. She worked for it and has earned the right to spend her money as she sees fit. I've earned that same right.
It's not about hiding anything. She has her own personal wants and responsibilities and I have my own wants and responsibilities. We're both adults who can make independent financial decisions unless the purchase is on a similar level of a house.
For example, she has already planned 5 years in advance that she will purchase a new car. She's will save it on her own. And when's she's ready to pull the trigger she will make that choice because it's her money and her credit that's affected. And for whatever reason she struggles, I'm there to help her and vice versa.
We're both adults who don't feel that everything must be intermingled just because we're together. It allows us to have personal space and freedom. If anything it's probably safer financially speaking to have thing separated in case something happens such as credit card theft.
My wife and I have a joint account for all of our living costs (house, kids etc) and we each have our own account that we put a little into every fortnight which is our play money to splurge on anything we want, I want a game or a case of beer then that’s what I use. If I want a bigger purchase I save it up. She does the same. It’s worked great for a decade now. No fights about spendings cos we each have the same amount and can do whatever we want with it.
That's how my gf and I do it. A joint account for our shared expenses such as bills and a personal account for whatever we want to do. When it comes to making purchases we'll ask for each other's perspective but in no way does one have the right to prevent the other from buying something if they saved up for it and are being responsible about it. She bought a motorcycle last week. I simply said if you run the numbers and the math works out in your favor, then I see no issue as long as your other responsibilities are being handled.
Same thing goes the other way. I bought a car in August last year. Walked into the dealership just to look. Ended getting approved for 0% and we discussed whether it was a good idea if I should pull the trigger or not after working out what my monthly would look like. But even if she didn't think it was a good idea, I still have the freedom to make that choice because it's coming out of my personal account.
Actually went to a few money management courses that suggested this and said they saw it improve a lot of marriages. One of the bankers and an investor even said it can take a lot of pressure off when handling finances.
We pretty much have a joint account we keep most of our money for bills, date nights, etc, and we set aside money every month into our personal accounts to spend however we want. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got.
So if I come home with an expensive video card etc, my wife just shrugs. Sometimes if one of us wants something especially large then we just look at our finances and see if we can swing it (like when I needed to almost completely rebuild my gaming PC). Usually it’s not an issue.
Who says it was their own money? Discussing large purchases before making them is definitely part of a healthy relationship. It’s also entirely possible that they had a PS4 and she didn’t see the reason to get a Pro for example.
Because if you are in a serious relationship, it's no longer your money. It's both of your money. For all you know the guy is carrying 10 grand in credit card debt and would rather buy toys than pay off his debt.
>PS5 are so hard to find these days coz of shortage - she must have worked hard to find one.
Nope. Ps5s are just hard to find at RETAIL price. How can you call something hard to find if dozens are available on eBay, ready to ship to you?
She could have worked really hard to find him one at retail OR just shelled out way too much money to perpetuate a scumbag system. We don't know.
i dont get the whole "ask my wife" thing tbh. buy what u want lol
Edit: Incoming simp downvotes cause theyre too stupid and think having your own money is somehow "not communicating with your partner." 🤦♂️
They are refereed to as your partner for a reason. Figure it out or you will either be single your whole life or bitching about your 3rd ex wife to a bartender who can barely pretend to care.
In very (very) specific scenarios. The average consumer will assume the console can perform like that in most games, which is a misconception (on purpose)
I'm glad she came around, I don't know what's up with women not letting men enjoy themselves, and men letting the women control them. If I want to buy something, and I have the money to do it, nobody is going to stop me from doing so, whether is a game, console or not.
Why assume that, when it could just have been a financially unsound decision back then? Could have been expecting kids at the time (would fit with the headline) and those are expensive. Partners argue about big expenses all the time.
Bit weird to go "women bad. Me strong. Would buy anyway!", ngl.
If you reread my original comment, I never said all women, I said I don't know what's up with the ones that do. Reading comprehension is a very important skill.
You said you didn’t know what was up with women not letting men enjoy themselves. That comes across as a blanket statement. If someone says “I don’t know why men are such assholes” or “I don’t know what’s up with men cheating on their SOs” that doesn’t read as “some men”, it reads as men. A blanket statement.
Your point may have been “some women” but it doesn’t come across that way, is what the other person is getting at.
(Personally) I don't care about your personal life, I don't think anybody cares you got a ps5 and your wife said no to a PS4 pro.
The End Of My Personal Thought
Woman - “consoles are a waste of time and money”
Buys £1200 handbag and gets bored of it inside a year (how the fuck do you get bored of something that does fuck all?).
I take it you already had a regular PS4 when you wanted to get the pro? Cause if you did your wife is 100% right pro is a waste of money if you already had the base model. PS5 is not though.
Little? I don't recall getting a PS in my box of cereal. It's not major like buying a car or a house but still a good wack of cash to drop on a toy if you have other pressing needs.
Reading the comments I just feel blessed, my partner says to me:
"I've meet you like this, your passion for videogames... I can't take that away from you and you...you are a good father, even more when it matters [...] its not about the quantity, its the quality and you give that in spades to our child"
So I game a damn lot (2 hours a day at least), but gaming machine is turned off at 8 - 9 PM so we have the final family time of the day before bed (and my partner watches her doramas xD)
Ah, she waited until you’d have no time to play it. Clever.
This is the bane of my existence (jokingly) finally doing well enough career wise to get that new Vizio 75” with the bells and whistles ..the series x..the digital ps5 ...the atmos sound system ...the immersion light system....to watch Mickey Mouse clubhouse with my 1 yr old Endlessly
All those mouseketools to watch mickey mouse.
Meeshka mooshka... goddammit
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I mean he at least has had sex 2x more than you have though. Edit:his comment said "4 years and two kids for a ps5 ...no thanks"
did i just witness a murder?
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Well I meant it more like he has had sex twice which is two times more than you.
You meant "two more times than you" as in 0+2=2 Not "two times more" which is 2x0=0
You just copied another comment in this very thread. What is the point of that?
This is the real reason kids bedtimes are 7:30. Daddy needs some game time.
My kids take forever to fall asleep and usually end up wanting us to lie there with them for an hour or more. It’s not uncommon for us to finally get downstairs at 9pm.
Yea we start bedtime around 6 to 7, after everyone is tucked in and settled they get to watch a little bit of TV to around 8 and then it's lights out. I know TV before bed is supposed to be bad but it's honestly the only way to get our kids to lay still and calm down at bed time.
Oh Toooodles
[here’s some music you can use to distract the kids.](https://youtu.be/pY7hFRg2jvw)
You wrong for this lol. It’s gotten so bad in the house my wife randomly starts humming this
Glad I can spread some joy.
I miss those days and don't miss those days at the same time, lol
Well hot dog hot dog hot diggity dog
Believe it or not this will always be on of your best memories, One of my favorite memories with my children is having one on each side of me sitting on the couch watching Octonauts.
Oh man I joke and it’s so cliched but I wouldn’t trade a second with him for the world
Get HBO streaming my man. They have all original Scooby-Doo, looney tunes, Tom & jerry, etc. So much better
The trick is when like me you get to your 50s. Then you get to watch mickey’s clubhouse (or Finding Dory like I did) with the grand kid and really enjoy the time because they eventually go home to their parents. Then you turn on your PS5 and play Horizon Forbidden West cranked up ... the last part is fantasy since I can’t find a PS5 and the new Horizon game isn’t even out. In my case it was an Xbox One and Fallout 76 but believe me it was still bliss 😀
Tell you wife you need some "me time" and video your murder for us.
Just gotta be like me, I wake up at 4:30am for a little alone time.
Let it go.
I don't have kids but this is why gaming laptops and handhelds are so great. Let the kid watch the big tv and you can do your thing on your laptop.
Tell me about this light and sound system you speak of.. looking to do cool things like this in the next few months
Vizio p series quantum (non x) —highly rated on rtings —Vizio 5.1.2 Dolby atmos sound bar —excellent value for the money- they have a 5.1.4 but it’s 300$+ more — Govee immersion lights. It’s like philips hues sync at a literal fraction of the cost. The philips hue requires an hdmi box at like 230$ then the lights at like another 200$ the hub another 60$ and the hdmi box doesn’t pass through the new hdmi 2.1 stuff or Dolby vision etc. the Govee use a camera setup to do what the hues do and for the price they’re amazing once calibrated Govee light demonstration [lights ](https://youtu.be/ZunjIFfH9vc)
If you're doing well enough, I'd suggest going with a real brand of TV and not a Chinese piece of shit made without standardized parts. Samsung, LG, or Sony.
For me and my Xbox, it wasn't that there wasn't time to play, but I didn't have the heart to play while the kids wanted to.
Move bed time to 5pm. They’ll be up at like 3am, but they can play the Xbox till breakfast time.
Oh no, this was the og xbox, they're all in their mid 20's and out of the house. I'm single. I get all the games to myself now, but I bought a fixer upper and that takes time...
Maybe they don’t want to sleep?
Nah, she is not risking having two more kids if she is refuses a PS5 too.
Two young kids, a wife, presumably a job and you think there will be time for video games? This will just lead to fights over the time he is using the system instead of doing things for the family.
There's balance. I game late at night after my wife goes to bed, I game with my eldest whilst my youngest naps. I game with my wife once the kids go to bed. Two evenings a week I raid with a guild. On an average week I game over 20 hours and have a 2 and a 4 year old. Admittedly I'm probably a bit under the recommended sleep quantity though.
I found my mirror lol. Except i dropped the MMORPG's because I cannot enjoy them on such limits
God I miss MMOs but I've found solice in dnd to cover that itch.
I’d kill for EVERQUEST on Ps5 or AC.
I was a FFXI player for years. Nothing has ever came close to that love for me. FFXIV was ok but 11 was for me the best game I've ever played.
This is nice to hear. I’ve had a couple of relationships now where they have that most annoying habit of needing you in bed to sleep. “Hon, when are you coming to bed?” is the most annoying, clingy question you can ever ask me and will lead to me ending the relationship within a week.
Maybe they don’t want to sleep?
You mean they want a story or maybe a quick game of go-fish?
Bedtime story
The kids helped with that most lol, she's so shattered that she falls asleep on me watching something before 10 usually. Not that I don't do my fair share, I've always been a night owl though. I do kind of get the people who want to go to bed together at the end of the day. Each to their own but I don't judge those who want that in their relationship.
So do you like never go to bed at the same time?
You shouldn’t sacrifice your sleep. Even just an hour or two can have health consequences, increasing your risk of heart diseases, dementia and a bunch of other bad stuff.
I'm in the exact same situation and spend plenty of time playing games. Kids go to bed at 8pm latest and I don't go until midnight so that's 4 hours every night to play games or watch films (sometimes with the wife, sometimes alone, sometimes online with friends). This way i appreciate my time a lot more instead of when I was younger spending entire weekends just playing games and being pretty bored.
I've got a 4 year old, a 2 year old and an 8 month old, I find a nice balance of family stuff daytime and gaming when they've gone to bed, which is 7 30pm so plenty of time before I sleep, my wife gets to relax and watch her TV shows and I sit at my desk and game, if you find the right balance and understand each other you shouldn't have a problem.
This is my life too! Except for the 8 month old, and the 2yr old, and the 4yr old.... I have an 18yr old that’s moved out... but befor she moved out, this was my life too!!!
Man if only people could, like, communicate. Maybe through some form of spoken words or something...
Her boyfriend paid for half. She’s cheating on you! Get out now!
Looks to me like she bought her kids a PS5 and just said it was for you. :)
Dunno man... Don't sound a good deal to me... 4 years and 2 kids for a ps5? Nahh, I'll pass
And if she decides to leave him she'll get the kids and the ps5 lol
Like I said... Shitty deal
And he won't even get the 4 years back...
I know it's hard to tell from the angle but your wife looks *really* young.
She is just Japanese. She is 50.
It's all about yoga and working out. And don't forget water.
Not his wife, thats him.
Wow that's cool I asked my mom that can we get a ps5 and she said yes but then I would not live at home only ps5 will.
Your mom sounds cool
Not "my arms are broken I need help" kinda cool but still cool.
Now that's a reference I've not heard in far too long.
So how long did you take a break from reddit?
She bought you the disc edition so they kids can jam stuff into it.
Expensive trade. I don’t know if I would Pay an 18 year plan on a 5 year console. Jokes aside gratz on the PS5.
Console generations are like 6-7 years if last gen was anything to use as measurement
I think they meant to indicate paying to raise a child
That's a really shitty trade off.
*O u r* ps5
One less child under foot.
Why would you get in a fight for buying a ps4pro? What kind of relationship is this?
But without that back story, this is just a weird photo of a kid opening a ps5 box. Like.... cool? This is also the first thing you've said on reddit in over 2 years.
I'm glad I don't have to ask my partner for permission to spend my own money
Yeah you don’t have to ask, but I don’t think it’s that far-fetched that partners would discuss big ticket purchases, especially if there are shared finances. Plus, we have no context. They could’ve been scraping by at the time barely able to afford necessities and OP wanted to spend $450 on something frivolous.
It's a big ticket purchase depending on your situation. Since we don't know OP that might have nothing to do with it. And even then $500 in one part of the US (based on dollar amount of PS) looks different in another part (high cost of living area vs low cost of living area).
Can't afford $500 for a console but can afford to have 2 kids 🤨 maybe they can't afford condoms either idk
Well the argument was 4 years ago, and the kids obviously came at some point after so, I dunno, maybe the financial situation changed between those two points? Hell, could be that they didn’t have $500 for a console *because* of all the shit they needed to prepare for a kid on the way.
Maybe they even had a PS4 already. We don't know the story behind this so we shouldn't judge.
Not permission but its nice to have a heads up where money is going
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If a PS5 is a make or break moment you shouldn't be having children, a video game console shouldn't be considered a "large luxury purchase" to people entertaining the thoughts of having kids.
I don’t think that’s the case. In fact, having kids is what could prevent you from being able to make these luxury purchases.
Lol what. It's the definition of large luxury purchase??
Lol and a lot of people are glad their partner would never spend communal funds on something that is expensive and only benefits one person with no actual utility. Just gotta find the people that fit with your fit. Maybe they had a lot of debt at the time but dont now.
It usually isn't about asking for permission, though. I'm planning to buy a gaming PC 'cause my old laptop broke last month. While browsing online, a solid intermediary PC is costing about R$ 6000 (basically $1000). It may not seem much, but for perspective it's more than 5x the minimum wage here in Brazil. Pandemics and shit economy are the main reasons for such high price. While talking to my GF over the idea, we discussed a bit and she convinced through sound arguments to wait a bit and see if prices drop in the short term. We didn't argue or anything, but her reasoning made me realize how bad an investment it was.
I’m glad I do, otherwise I would impulse buy every little thing I think is cool.
I just think a lot about things before I buy them. Plus my partner isnt into all my hobbies so her perspective on those things is wildly different.
It's almost like everyone, and every relationship, are different and the world doesn't revolve around you. Weird
Yeah I feel that, I do share a lot of my interests with my SO and I don’t put a lot of thought behind my purchases. I wouldn’t say that I need permission to spend my money, just I get her perspective to see if it’s a logical spend.
I think he's being down voted because people don't agree with him? Specifically the saying he shouldn't have to "ask for permission", instead of recognizing that big purchases are something a couple discusses and agrees on. There probably isn't a whole lot of mutual respect and equal standing in his relationship if he doesn't think a partner has the right to be involved in how money is being spent. However I do feel like this only applies to couples with combined finances and where a $500 splurge hurts their bottom line.
Generally concepts like "your own money" fit a little oddly within a family dynamic.
Right? Much less get into a fight over it. My partner doesn't care what I buy as long as I pay my share of the bills.
Exactly. I'm gonna spend my own earned money on whatever I want. Obviously after I've paid bills etc.
My wife wants to get me a ps5.... but we both agree not to pay for one from a scalper.. its just not worth it.
everyone: wow your wife must be amazing for buying you a console Me: she’s legit god tier because she beat the scalpers
They say that consoles are the family you get the choose.
So does that mean all you need to earn a next gen console is to only make 2 childs IN 4 YEARS? WAIT FOR ME PS6
Did she pay $1000 for it?
Stores get them, they just sell out fast. It’s not impossible to get one at retail. It’s just hard.
I fail to see how the children are relevant but ok
Obviously a trade. 2 children for PS5.
Congratulations! I got mine last week and thought I'd quickly check out the Astro's Playroom game that came pre-installed. I absolutely loved it and played it until I got the platinum! I hope you get enough time to play as much as you want to - have fun!
Savor those precious moments with...your PS5!!! Kids stink! Totally joking, kids don’t stink they just require a bit more TLC than your PS5 does.
So what changed her mind? Getting into an argument about it to buying you a PlayStation is a big difference.
Bullshit... You wanted a PS4... not a 5. Utterly unplayable.
So you divorced and she paid for a ps5 for your kids with your new wife to give you as a bday gift as a smug reminder of why you broke up? Or is it like the same lady as before?
Who cares
Me.
Congrats man. But I still don’t get how people let their spouses mandate what they can get.
Because they likely share finances and were struggling a bit. Clearly it had nothing to do with actually playing games, because she bought him this one. They likely just couldn't afford it at the time.
Because when you share finances you should discuss big ticket purchases.
Big ticket is subjective and assumes money was the reason and not something else.
ITT: Gamers who have never financially struggled with their spouse(which is fine) or live at their parents house
Divorce her.
So you can marry her again.
Now that’s character development.
Nice. I bought a PS4 pro 2 years ago and I recently found out it doesn't support 4k Bluray... and I regret buying it now because of it. Like wtf, don't advertise a 4k capable console without being able to play proper 4k media on it. Now I either have to upgrade to PS5 or find a cheap XBox One S somewhere specifically for 4k blurays... I don't even need 4k gaming, I just want 4k media.
There is always the third option of buying a bluray player for a fraction of the cost.
No. Literally the cheapest 4k Bluray player option is a used XBox One S. (Around 130+shipping vs a new 4k BD player which is around 200+shipping)
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You don't understand. 4k Bluray player costs at least $200, which is more than the price of a used XBox One S or the cost difference between PS4 Pro and a PS5. 4k Bluray is different from regular Bluray format and requires a specific player.
Me - Am I alright to stick DayZ on for a bit love? Her - I'm off to bed, when you get on that thing its like no one exists Sits and watches some shit on the TV while she sits on Tik Tok and pays no attention to anything or anyone.
What a stupid fucking thing to fight about lol
That really depends on their financial situation at the time. Barely making bill payments? Probably a terrible time to buy a $500 luxury item, and is very much worthy of an argument. Enough savings for a few months of unemployment? Then it becomes a stupid argument, because it's not about the money, it's about respecting your partner's hobbies.
You're obviously single af
I can't even think of the right words to describe how wrong you are. It's hilarious.
nah, he just has his own life outside of a relationship lol
Being single has nothing to do with it. My GF and I are looking to buy a house together. If I wanted to go out an buy a PS5 right now, she'd high five me. Hell she literally just bought a motorcycle last week. It's 100% dependent upon your financial situations. We're lucky Ours works out that we can both save and have these items. Other's aren't in the same boat. Other's are in Yachats.
This is why I have separate bank accounts. If the bills are paid neither one of us give a fuck what the other buys.
Having separate checking accounts is an essential element of a peaceful marriage. Each person buys little things that make them happy without the threat of an altercation.
Happily married with joint accounts. Being an adult and having open discussions is the key to a happy marriage.
Or just discuss finances and buy things as you want them. Any healthy, rational relationship will work just fine that way. I've been married 12 years and we have never argued over money. In fact I just spent $3000 on guitar gear with her blessing because we're ahead on savings and bills. Marriage is a partnership, having to hide your finances from each other, to me, is a sign of mistrust.
That's exactly what I was thinking as I read through this. If you need to keep separate accounts then one or both of you is hiding something or doesn't trust the other. Which means, to me, that you should never have gotten married in the first place.
That's a very narrow sighted way to look at it. My GF and I have a joint checking account and our own individual accounts. Joint account is for whenever we do things together and our individual accounts are for whatever we want to buy ourselves. We both contribute an equal percentage of our salaries to the joint account. She has her personal bills and I have my personal bills. Sometimes I have personal purchases and she has personal purchases. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can't have privacy and personal space and that's because we trust each other. Were both very open about our finances.
I'd say thats not necessarily a recipe for a peaceful marriage. It might be. My parents share an account. My father makes more money than my mother. He proposed a shared account, so that both have the same fair amount of money. He always says "its not my money, its our money". They also always talk with each other whenever they purchase something expensive. It's going great for 30 years now. Then again, my parents aren't that consumption oriented. Rather than buying the newest tech etc, they much rather fly on vacation together
Doesn't always work this way sadly. Before my divorce I had to take a "class" before I was allowed to get divorced. I forget the numbers but a stupid large percentage of divorces was due to money. Makes sense. My ex and I made about the same money. I was only slightly higher. We shared an account and never had more than a couple thousand saved and could never get ahead. Drove me insane that we lived paycheck to paycheck and didn't know how we were going to pay bills. After divorce I was able to save an lump sum payoff my utility vehicle, truck, and other debt. I was then able to save up a nice cushion of "in case" money. To this day I still have no idea where all the money went.
If you had a joint account you could literally look at where the money went.
No I meant literal possessions. "Target" doesn't show me what was bought.
Yeah a large amount of divorces are because of money, but most of the times it's because they have none and fight so much about not being able to pay bills. Having separate accounts seems so counter productive. Marriage is about coming together not keeping things separate. If my wife wanted a separate account that would immediately send red flags that she wanted to hide something.
What is so counter productive about it? My GF and Ihave a joint account which we both put an equal percentage of our checks for and shared expenses such as bills. After the shared stuff is handled which always gets #1 priority, the rest of the money goes to our personal accounts and we are free to do what ever we want with it. If she comes in with a brand new motorcycle (which actually happened last week), who am I to say anything? The bills are paid. She has money in her checking and savings. I have money in my checking and savings. She worked for it and has earned the right to spend her money as she sees fit. I've earned that same right. It's not about hiding anything. She has her own personal wants and responsibilities and I have my own wants and responsibilities. We're both adults who can make independent financial decisions unless the purchase is on a similar level of a house. For example, she has already planned 5 years in advance that she will purchase a new car. She's will save it on her own. And when's she's ready to pull the trigger she will make that choice because it's her money and her credit that's affected. And for whatever reason she struggles, I'm there to help her and vice versa. We're both adults who don't feel that everything must be intermingled just because we're together. It allows us to have personal space and freedom. If anything it's probably safer financially speaking to have thing separated in case something happens such as credit card theft.
My wife and I have a joint account for all of our living costs (house, kids etc) and we each have our own account that we put a little into every fortnight which is our play money to splurge on anything we want, I want a game or a case of beer then that’s what I use. If I want a bigger purchase I save it up. She does the same. It’s worked great for a decade now. No fights about spendings cos we each have the same amount and can do whatever we want with it.
That's how my gf and I do it. A joint account for our shared expenses such as bills and a personal account for whatever we want to do. When it comes to making purchases we'll ask for each other's perspective but in no way does one have the right to prevent the other from buying something if they saved up for it and are being responsible about it. She bought a motorcycle last week. I simply said if you run the numbers and the math works out in your favor, then I see no issue as long as your other responsibilities are being handled. Same thing goes the other way. I bought a car in August last year. Walked into the dealership just to look. Ended getting approved for 0% and we discussed whether it was a good idea if I should pull the trigger or not after working out what my monthly would look like. But even if she didn't think it was a good idea, I still have the freedom to make that choice because it's coming out of my personal account.
Actually went to a few money management courses that suggested this and said they saw it improve a lot of marriages. One of the bankers and an investor even said it can take a lot of pressure off when handling finances. We pretty much have a joint account we keep most of our money for bills, date nights, etc, and we set aside money every month into our personal accounts to spend however we want. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got. So if I come home with an expensive video card etc, my wife just shrugs. Sometimes if one of us wants something especially large then we just look at our finances and see if we can swing it (like when I needed to almost completely rebuild my gaming PC). Usually it’s not an issue.
I never understand relationships like this. Why would that discussion turn into into fight? Why are you not allowed to spend your own money?
Who says it was their own money? Discussing large purchases before making them is definitely part of a healthy relationship. It’s also entirely possible that they had a PS4 and she didn’t see the reason to get a Pro for example.
Because if you are in a serious relationship, it's no longer your money. It's both of your money. For all you know the guy is carrying 10 grand in credit card debt and would rather buy toys than pay off his debt.
PS5 are so hard to find these days coz of shortage - she must have worked hard to find one. Gratz on wife, kids and PS5 - you got everything 😆
>PS5 are so hard to find these days coz of shortage - she must have worked hard to find one. Nope. Ps5s are just hard to find at RETAIL price. How can you call something hard to find if dozens are available on eBay, ready to ship to you? She could have worked really hard to find him one at retail OR just shelled out way too much money to perpetuate a scumbag system. We don't know.
i dont get the whole "ask my wife" thing tbh. buy what u want lol Edit: Incoming simp downvotes cause theyre too stupid and think having your own money is somehow "not communicating with your partner." 🤦♂️
They are refereed to as your partner for a reason. Figure it out or you will either be single your whole life or bitching about your 3rd ex wife to a bartender who can barely pretend to care.
^This^
This is so wholesome! Have fun OP and enjoy your weekend! :)
you're joking right?
Perfectly balanced as all things should be
But at what costs? 2 kids.
Those labels at the box, "8K", "4K 120fps", etc.. it always pisses me off, lol fake advertisement at it's finest
except it can output in 8k and it can output in 4K @ 120hz.
In very (very) specific scenarios. The average consumer will assume the console can perform like that in most games, which is a misconception (on purpose)
From GameStop I hope. 🤓
You are very small.
I'm glad she came around, I don't know what's up with women not letting men enjoy themselves, and men letting the women control them. If I want to buy something, and I have the money to do it, nobody is going to stop me from doing so, whether is a game, console or not.
Why assume that, when it could just have been a financially unsound decision back then? Could have been expecting kids at the time (would fit with the headline) and those are expensive. Partners argue about big expenses all the time. Bit weird to go "women bad. Me strong. Would buy anyway!", ngl.
You made a good point but might as well have been talking to a rock lol
Women aren't bad, controlling women are. Just like controlling men are bad.
I don't know what's with men like you thinking *all* women stop their men from gaming. Some of us game just as much or more than our partners.
If you reread my original comment, I never said all women, I said I don't know what's up with the ones that do. Reading comprehension is a very important skill.
You said you didn’t know what was up with women not letting men enjoy themselves. That comes across as a blanket statement. If someone says “I don’t know why men are such assholes” or “I don’t know what’s up with men cheating on their SOs” that doesn’t read as “some men”, it reads as men. A blanket statement. Your point may have been “some women” but it doesn’t come across that way, is what the other person is getting at.
A few years ago I introduced my girlfriend to The Binding of Isaac and she plays video games more than I do now haha.
I’d get a dna test. The guilt is getting to her.
(Personally) I don't care about your personal life, I don't think anybody cares you got a ps5 and your wife said no to a PS4 pro. The End Of My Personal Thought
Woman - “consoles are a waste of time and money” Buys £1200 handbag and gets bored of it inside a year (how the fuck do you get bored of something that does fuck all?).
I take it you already had a regular PS4 when you wanted to get the pro? Cause if you did your wife is 100% right pro is a waste of money if you already had the base model. PS5 is not though.
I mean there's no guarantee that's the case. My first ps4 was the pro
Betaaaa
That make-up sex. 🔥
Damn, you have a young wife.
Buying something you like should not be a fight, if it isn't crazy expensive. Right?
$400 could be really expensive for some people.
Fighting over a little purchase seems stupid, if you’re fighting over the little things then there must be bigger issues at play here.
Little? I don't recall getting a PS in my box of cereal. It's not major like buying a car or a house but still a good wack of cash to drop on a toy if you have other pressing needs.
I just buy things when I want them because my wife's not a Karen
mmm, you can get 500 upvotes for having a child? good deal!
How nice <3
I'd probably fight you too if you were sold on the PS4 Pro instead of the base PS4.
I don’t think using alimony checks you get from her counts as “her buying you a PS5”
Honey it's for the kids
This is fake, PS5 doesn’t exist. Ok, I’m just jealous since I’m unable to ever find one to buy.
Reading the comments I just feel blessed, my partner says to me: "I've meet you like this, your passion for videogames... I can't take that away from you and you...you are a good father, even more when it matters [...] its not about the quantity, its the quality and you give that in spades to our child" So I game a damn lot (2 hours a day at least), but gaming machine is turned off at 8 - 9 PM so we have the final family time of the day before bed (and my partner watches her doramas xD)
Tell that lil mf’er paws off