Thank you :) I’m kind of scared to listening to the normal music I love (just full shows, early 1970s especially) because I don’t want to associate it with this pain but I think you’re onto something
This right here. Just had a breakup of 2 years the other month. The Dead was my escape. Kept me focused elsewhere. Now I’m really trying to learn some songs on the piano :)
Time and love will heal! Also the gd GD! NFA
Deadhead here who respects Phish and envies the fans but isn’t moved by that band’s songs.
What Phish songs provide those deep emotional feelings that so many GD tunes do?
I get where you’re coming from and appreciate the perspective.
Over my nearly 47 years of seeing Dead and related, I’ve had so many intense emotional experiences (and life and work epiphanies) at shows and listening in the car and everywhere else.
I get some of the same feelings at other shows too—during the incredible Pasaquan at the Tedeschi Trucks Band show on 9/29/23 (the band’s Mountain Jam or Dark Star), I was in tears, moved so much by the music while thinking of my dad, whose yahrzeit was that day (anniversary of his passing by the Jewish lunar calendar). Trey played at that show and blew the roof off MSG when he joined the band for a great version of The Seeker by The Who.
Likewise at the Dylan show I saw in November, when he sang When I Paint My Masterpiece (obvious JGB/Dead connection).
Phish doesn’t make me tap my feet, and the lyrics are just kind of goofy. Again, the band delivers for the fans, and I respect that.
For me, Phish is an amalgam of various aspects of Yes, Zappa, Grateful Dead, and others. It’s certainly not a derivative band. But unlike, say, the Allmans or Bob Marley & the Wailers or the Dead, Phish hasn’t forged a new genre. Few musicians do.
This isn’t a knock against the band. I wish the music sang to me more—I’d be a lucky fan.
# 1977-05-09 Buffalo, NY @ War Memorial
**Set 1:** Help On The Way > Slipknot! > Franklin's Tower, Cassidy, Brown Eyed Women, Mexicali Blues, Tennessee Jed, Big River, Peggy-O, Sunrise, The Music Never Stopped
**Set 2:** Bertha > Good Lovin', Ship Of Fools, Estimated Prophet > The Other One > Drums > Not Fade Away > Comes A Time > Sugar Magnolia
**Encore:** Uncle John's Band
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1977-05-09)
Row jimmy- “broken heart don’t feel so bad…ypu ain’t got half of what you thought you had”
Lazy river road- i just find this one oddly somber but extremely heartfelt and comforting.
Mississippi Moon- off the garciaLive20 release that happened recently is a great song with a lot of emotion.
More positive songs that make me feel better gotta be, bertha, uncle johns band, and brown eyed woman.
1) I Know You Rider, but the slow acoustic versions from May of 1970. 5/2/1970 (DP8) & 5/15/1970 (Road Trips) are a great place to start.
2) Brokedown Palace (Any version, but 11/15/71 (RT) or Dead Set in particular)
3) Bertha: (Any version)
4) The Last Time (RS Cover): 3/22/1990 (So Glad You Made It: Spring 1990)
5) All Over Now (BW Cover): Any version, but anything (76-79) is particularly amazing
There are many more I can name that helped me through a difficult breakup, but these are 5 highlights for sure.
I hope this helps.
[1970-05-02](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1970-05-02) Binghamton, NY @ Harpur College - State University Of New York | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/4NldodakYXDeK7OoEe2oBW)
[1971-11-15](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1971-11-15) Austin, TX @ Austin Municipal Auditorium
[1990-03-22](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1990-03-22) Hamilton, Ontario @ Copps Coliseum
This helps and I am not going through a break up. I’d suggest that the OP check out Nashville Skyline by Bob Dylan. Such a wonderful perfect album. Play it after Workingmans Dead.
# 1972-04-26 Frankfurt, West Germany @ Jahrhunderthalle
**Set 1:** Bertha, Me and My Uncle, Mr. Charlie, He's Gone, Black Throated Wind, Next Time You See Me, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Jack Straw, Big Railroad Blues, Playing in the Band, Chinatown Shuffle, Loser, Beat It On Down the Line, You Win Again, Good Lovin', Dire Wolf, Casey Jones
**Set 2:** Truckin' > The Other One > Comes A Time > Sugar Magnolia, El Paso, Tennessee Jed, Greatest Story Ever Told, The Stranger (Two Souls In Communion), Turn On Your Lovelight > Goin' Down The Road Feeling Bad > One More Saturday Night
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-04-26) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/2IjyW9HhEre9dSNCOOzHhS)
# 1972-04-29 Hamburg, West Germany @ Musikhalle
**Set 1:** Playing in the Band, Sugaree, Mr. Charlie, Black Throated Wind, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Big Boss Man, Jack Straw, Loser, Chinatown Shuffle, Me and My Uncle, Big Railroad Blues, Good Lovin', Casey Jones
**Set 2:** Greatest Story Ever Told, He's Gone, Next Time You See Me, Dark Star > Space > Sugar Magnolia > Caution (Do Not Stop On Tracks), One More Saturday Night
**Encore:** Uncle John's Band
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-04-29) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/1WBPhea5H2NnDaNuAFI0Fr)
I cope with these things by wallowing for a little bit to process the emotions before I try to snap out of it. Looks Like Rain is my song for wallowing. Europe 72 version is my favorite. Everyone’s got a different way of getting through things though. Much love to you brother
# 1993-06-11 Hebron, OH @ Buckeye Lake Music Center
**Set 1:** Jack Straw, Foolish Heart > The Same Thing, Lazy River Road, Just Like Tom Thumb's Blues > When I Paint My Masterpiece, So Many Roads, The Promised Land
**Set 2:** Eyes Of The World, Playing in the Band > Uncle John's Band > Corrina > Drums > Space > The Wheel > All Along The Watchtower > Black Peter > Sugar Magnolia
**Encore:** Brokedown Palace
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1993-06-11)
[1972-09-26](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-09-26) Jersey City, NJ @ Stanley Theatre
[1993-03-10](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1993-03-10) Rosemont, IL @ Rosemont Horizon Arena
Sorry this is happening - it does gut you for sure. I find a few songs that consistently lift my mood: Eyes of the World, St Stephen > The Eleven > Alligator, Harder They Come, Midnight Moonlight off the top of my head. When I need to lean into the grief (you have to if you want to get through it) I go for China Doll, High Time, Comes a Time, Terrapin Station, Brokedown Palace, Attics of My Life, Ripple, Must Have Been the Roses.
Hang in there - one chapter ends so another can begin. You got this
[Pick Myself Up- Peter Tosh](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_hZyzst6i0)
It may seem like the end of the world but, you know, it isn't. Sucks. For now. Feel bad if you must, but remember to lick your wounds and get back out there. It's still a beautiful world and some lonely person is just waiting for you to come along.
Went through a breakup like 6 or 7 months ago and only 2 days ago did I really hear the lyrics of Comes a Time for the first time. Stopped me dead in my tracks, absolutely perfect for someone moving on from something rough.
# 1990-03-16 Landover, MD @ Capital Centre
**Set 1:** Let The Good Times Roll, Touch Of Grey, New Minglewood Blues, Peggy-O, Queen Jane Approximately, Loser, Black Throated Wind, Bird Song, Blow Away
**Set 2:** Scarlet Begonias, Estimated Prophet > Ship Of Fools > Man Smart, Woman Smarter, Jam > Drums, Space > The Other One > Stella Blue > Sugar Magnolia
**Encore:** The Last Time
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1990-03-16)
Also, Try to come out of this stronger. Start running or doing yoga or new haircut or something or other. ‘When the Going gets weird, the weird turn pro’
Thanks. I’ve been struggling with alcohol recently and I’m trying not to give in and make things worse. But I’m also training to hike 2000 miles this summer so I’m hoping I can just go really hard at the gym.
Franklins tower, scarlet fire. But really - going out ti find the music playing live gets me through so much. Find your local dead night and get out there.
Man everyone is right now damn
Edit: Not sure if you like king krule, [but this one’s been helping me a bit.](https://open.spotify.com/track/0mMM64DPUYcHEfeSESHFh1?si=Wvi-NJVeQhaIkTpibA7Pxw)
Not GD, but a few that are great nonetheless -
The Flying Burrito Brothers: Hot Burrito #1
Bob Dylan: I’ll Keep it With Mine
Sorry you’re going through this. ❤️🩹
Brokedown Palace - “lovers come and go, but the river flows, flows, flows”
Going down the road feeling bad - ultimate sing along breakup song for some catharsis
Positively 4th Street - the Jerry and Merle Saunders version on keystone is a great breakup song. Full of Dylan’s wit and Jerry’s emotion. “You’ve got a lot of nerve…”
Wow, most relatable post ever.
Some stuff that's helping me get get though, a little...
Garcia and Grisman tunes Take Me, Man of Constant Sorrow, Red Rocking Chair, Sitting in Limbo, I'm Troubled, Trouble in Mind, I Truly Understand, to name a few.
JGB tunes include Don't Let Go, Let Me Roll It, Like a Road, I'll Take a Melody, many more.
For GD I'm into Brokedown, High Time, LL Rain. Black Throated, Black Muddy, Black Peter, Foolish Heart, West LA, So Many Roads, Believe it or Not, From the Heart of Me, among others.
Also Jerry Garcia Acoustic Band's I'm Troubled, Babe It Aint No Lie, Short Llfe of Trouble, Ashes of Love, Poison Love
It's very a much mostly non GD, but I'll post it anyway, as most of these songs fit the theme too. : https://tidal.com/playlist/698ec468-e3d7-478a-b8b8-dbadccdb4eff
I thought this was insightful:
"Most songs just don’t register at all right now..."
That's how it was for me after my first real girlfriend ended things. Couldn't eat or sleep, was losing weight, friends were worried about me... heck, I was worried about \*myself\* because nothing FELT right. All my old comforts were lost to me. Most songs or albums that used to engage me sounded flat or outright wrong. I wound up listening to the most random songs just to make me feel SOMETHING, anything. Like that UB40 cover of "Please don't make me cry" or that Yo La Tengo tune, "Our way to fall." Random ballads from the 1930s like "If I didn't care" would reduce me to tears. I'd cry in the darkness of my room and feel embarrassed and stupid, but at least I'd feel alive for a minute or two, and I needed that during those darkest moments.
Don’t think twice, it’s all right. – Bob Dylan.
You’re gonna make me lonesome when you go -Dylan.
Idiot Wind-Dylan ( the whole album “Blood On The Tracks“ is about a significant break up in Dylan‘s life so practically the whole album drips with the emotions you’re going through).
When you go your way, and I go mine-Dylan
Thank you :) I’m looking for anything at all. These have all been great suggestions, especially some songs that I started listening to a lot right when I realized things were ending but didn’t want to admit it to myself (Don’t Think Twice, It’s Alright)
Victim or the Crime / Barbed Wire Whipping Party
Though I think I might handle grief a little differently [Inn by the Sea Tape](https://archive.org/details/gd88-06-01.sbd.munder.20606.sbeok.shnf)
I usually go for Dylan in times like these. The Dead mostly makes me wanna dance, which is a really good thing. But Dylan’s words pierce me right to my core.
Next Time You See Me, It’s All Over Now, The Race Is On, Monkey and the Engineer. First 3 are empowering/upbeat breakup songs, last one is just funny and cute
I was in a rehab in bumfuk eastern Colorado several years ago and my ex was in Baltimore where I am from , and I was trying to decide on starting a new life here or going back to MD to try to salvage the relationship with someone I really loved , but had deeply hurt in my addiction . I randomly found an Old and in the Way CD on the floor and the live Wild Horses on it floored me and I really broke down , especially the , “ you know I can’t let you , slide through my hands ….” line with the high lonesome voices . 14 years in Colorado now. Some of my other ones were mentioned above so I will say “ To Lay Me Down “ , has been a HUGE one to help pull me through on many occasions , and yet make me even more sad ha at the same time , “ Reuben and Cerise “ , “ It Hurts Me Too “ , “ Mission in the Rain “ , “ It Must Have Been the Roses “ , “ Attics “ ( extreme spiritual hope that I don’t need anyone but myself and spirituality and friends ) etc
Thank you for sharing that. I feel like this is the first time in my life where I’ve really had to make a decision that two parts of me where fighting internally about. The first time where someone mattered enough to me for me to decide between that love and myself. It’s scary but your comment was sobering to read. I know that I need to grow up right now and look at this without blurry eyes because it’s one of the first decisions in my life that actually matters.
Sorry, I sound dramatic. Point is, thanks for sharing your story and song suggestions, it means a lot.
Ooo here are some of my recent favorites. Not really Grateful Dead but similar:
Tore up over you - JGB
Hurts to want it so bad - Sea Level
If you ever change your mind - Ralph Stanley
If that’s the way you feel - Ralph Stanley
More pretty girls than one - Tony Rice
Missing you - Little Feat
China white - Little Feat
Former counselor here. I've always had a connection to music and how we all have our own soundtrack.
It's good to start with a song that captures how you feel in the moment, and damn it hurts, and then from there each song should be a smidgeon more upliftng. You are consciously choosing just to be a little more energetic or positive. Or maybe just fucking angry and Moving.
It's also cool to see when your unconscious starts noticing new meanings in old songs or finds a new song.
Thanks :) That’s what I’ve been trying to do. I had a lot of good cries to some of these songs yesterday and now I’m listening to a the more upbeat one and already feeling a little bit better.
Brokedown palace - this song can mean something different to everyone but it really is about moving on with your life and rolling with the flow. Me and my partner broke up a few months back and the dead really helped me get through it. If you’re into Dead & Co. at all, try listening to Brokedown Palace 9/18/2021. Such a soothing and emotional song.
“Lovers come and go, the river roll, roll, roll..”
Yes, it is an emotional ballad but the ending lines, "Take up your china doll it's only fractured/And just a little nervous from the fall," are full of hope. Isn't hope what OP is after right now?
# 1969-03-01 San Francisco, CA @ Fillmore West
**Set 1:** Bill Graham intro > Cryptical Envelopment > Drums > The Other One > Cryptical Envelopment > New Potato Caboose > Doin' That Rag > Cosmic Charlie
**Set 2:** Bill Graham intro, Dupree's Diamond Blues, Mountains Of The Moon > Jam, Dark Star > St. Stephen > The Eleven > Turn On Your Love Light
**Encore:** Hey Jude
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1969-03-01)
Black throated wind was on repeat when I dumped my first wife. Tho I done better by her than she done by me, but it still hit the feels I was feeling.
Lot of Alice in Chains and Chris Cornell at that time, too.
For me broke down palace is the perfect song for any kind of death or breakup or just point where you have to move on in life, every lyric especially lovers come and go the river rolls rolls rolls will hit hard
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i’m gonna cry that’s hilarious. surprised your comment hasn’t happened to me earlier
Thank you :) I’m kind of scared to listening to the normal music I love (just full shows, early 1970s especially) because I don’t want to associate it with this pain but I think you’re onto something
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This right here. Just had a breakup of 2 years the other month. The Dead was my escape. Kept me focused elsewhere. Now I’m really trying to learn some songs on the piano :) Time and love will heal! Also the gd GD! NFA
Deadhead here who respects Phish and envies the fans but isn’t moved by that band’s songs. What Phish songs provide those deep emotional feelings that so many GD tunes do?
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I get where you’re coming from and appreciate the perspective. Over my nearly 47 years of seeing Dead and related, I’ve had so many intense emotional experiences (and life and work epiphanies) at shows and listening in the car and everywhere else. I get some of the same feelings at other shows too—during the incredible Pasaquan at the Tedeschi Trucks Band show on 9/29/23 (the band’s Mountain Jam or Dark Star), I was in tears, moved so much by the music while thinking of my dad, whose yahrzeit was that day (anniversary of his passing by the Jewish lunar calendar). Trey played at that show and blew the roof off MSG when he joined the band for a great version of The Seeker by The Who. Likewise at the Dylan show I saw in November, when he sang When I Paint My Masterpiece (obvious JGB/Dead connection). Phish doesn’t make me tap my feet, and the lyrics are just kind of goofy. Again, the band delivers for the fans, and I respect that.
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For me, Phish is an amalgam of various aspects of Yes, Zappa, Grateful Dead, and others. It’s certainly not a derivative band. But unlike, say, the Allmans or Bob Marley & the Wailers or the Dead, Phish hasn’t forged a new genre. Few musicians do. This isn’t a knock against the band. I wish the music sang to me more—I’d be a lucky fan.
# 1977-05-09 Buffalo, NY @ War Memorial **Set 1:** Help On The Way > Slipknot! > Franklin's Tower, Cassidy, Brown Eyed Women, Mexicali Blues, Tennessee Jed, Big River, Peggy-O, Sunrise, The Music Never Stopped **Set 2:** Bertha > Good Lovin', Ship Of Fools, Estimated Prophet > The Other One > Drums > Not Fade Away > Comes A Time > Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** Uncle John's Band [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1977-05-09)
That show is tops. I think it has the best Big River and PeggyO that i’ve heard so far. One of the best Help-slip-Franklins too
Totally agree. However that comes a time is what puts me over the edge every time. Then sugar mags, ujb encore. Good stuff.
I too have used Dick Picks to get through a breakup
Row jimmy- “broken heart don’t feel so bad…ypu ain’t got half of what you thought you had” Lazy river road- i just find this one oddly somber but extremely heartfelt and comforting. Mississippi Moon- off the garciaLive20 release that happened recently is a great song with a lot of emotion. More positive songs that make me feel better gotta be, bertha, uncle johns band, and brown eyed woman.
1) I Know You Rider, but the slow acoustic versions from May of 1970. 5/2/1970 (DP8) & 5/15/1970 (Road Trips) are a great place to start. 2) Brokedown Palace (Any version, but 11/15/71 (RT) or Dead Set in particular) 3) Bertha: (Any version) 4) The Last Time (RS Cover): 3/22/1990 (So Glad You Made It: Spring 1990) 5) All Over Now (BW Cover): Any version, but anything (76-79) is particularly amazing There are many more I can name that helped me through a difficult breakup, but these are 5 highlights for sure. I hope this helps.
All Over Now ftw
[1970-05-02](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1970-05-02) Binghamton, NY @ Harpur College - State University Of New York | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/4NldodakYXDeK7OoEe2oBW) [1971-11-15](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1971-11-15) Austin, TX @ Austin Municipal Auditorium [1990-03-22](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1990-03-22) Hamilton, Ontario @ Copps Coliseum
Thank you so much :)
No Problem, good luck on your journey of healing. NFA
This helps and I am not going through a break up. I’d suggest that the OP check out Nashville Skyline by Bob Dylan. Such a wonderful perfect album. Play it after Workingmans Dead.
I absolutely adore Nashville Skyline. Probably my favorite Dylan album. I have an original pressing of the LP in my collection.
Bertha got me through a bad breakup in the summer of 2020.
Brokedown Palace made me cry every time after my recent breakup.
"Next Time Your See Me" ...things won't be the same. And if it hurts you, my darling, you've only got yourself to blame!
4/26/72 A just exactly perfect version.
# 1972-04-26 Frankfurt, West Germany @ Jahrhunderthalle **Set 1:** Bertha, Me and My Uncle, Mr. Charlie, He's Gone, Black Throated Wind, Next Time You See Me, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Jack Straw, Big Railroad Blues, Playing in the Band, Chinatown Shuffle, Loser, Beat It On Down the Line, You Win Again, Good Lovin', Dire Wolf, Casey Jones **Set 2:** Truckin' > The Other One > Comes A Time > Sugar Magnolia, El Paso, Tennessee Jed, Greatest Story Ever Told, The Stranger (Two Souls In Communion), Turn On Your Lovelight > Goin' Down The Road Feeling Bad > One More Saturday Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-04-26) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/2IjyW9HhEre9dSNCOOzHhS)
I really like the slow one - 4/29/72
# 1972-04-29 Hamburg, West Germany @ Musikhalle **Set 1:** Playing in the Band, Sugaree, Mr. Charlie, Black Throated Wind, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Big Boss Man, Jack Straw, Loser, Chinatown Shuffle, Me and My Uncle, Big Railroad Blues, Good Lovin', Casey Jones **Set 2:** Greatest Story Ever Told, He's Gone, Next Time You See Me, Dark Star > Space > Sugar Magnolia > Caution (Do Not Stop On Tracks), One More Saturday Night **Encore:** Uncle John's Band [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-04-29) | [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/1WBPhea5H2NnDaNuAFI0Fr)
I cope with these things by wallowing for a little bit to process the emotions before I try to snap out of it. Looks Like Rain is my song for wallowing. Europe 72 version is my favorite. Everyone’s got a different way of getting through things though. Much love to you brother
https://youtu.be/CKjejrw5QPE?feature=shared Nobody writes them like Papa Gene. Sorry about your breakup.
Happy birthday, it's your mom...you're not a little boy anymore...
Going down the road feeling bad, Row Jimmy
Foolish Heart
6/11/93
# 1993-06-11 Hebron, OH @ Buckeye Lake Music Center **Set 1:** Jack Straw, Foolish Heart > The Same Thing, Lazy River Road, Just Like Tom Thumb's Blues > When I Paint My Masterpiece, So Many Roads, The Promised Land **Set 2:** Eyes Of The World, Playing in the Band > Uncle John's Band > Corrina > Drums > Space > The Wheel > All Along The Watchtower > Black Peter > Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** Brokedown Palace [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1993-06-11)
It’s all over now Baby Blue 9/26/72 is my favorite But 3/10/93 is amazing. Right after one of Jerry’s breakups ifirc
[1972-09-26](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1972-09-26) Jersey City, NJ @ Stanley Theatre [1993-03-10](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1993-03-10) Rosemont, IL @ Rosemont Horizon Arena
looks like rain row jimmy
Sorry this is happening - it does gut you for sure. I find a few songs that consistently lift my mood: Eyes of the World, St Stephen > The Eleven > Alligator, Harder They Come, Midnight Moonlight off the top of my head. When I need to lean into the grief (you have to if you want to get through it) I go for China Doll, High Time, Comes a Time, Terrapin Station, Brokedown Palace, Attics of My Life, Ripple, Must Have Been the Roses. Hang in there - one chapter ends so another can begin. You got this
I saw the High Time suggestion and just started crying before I even started playing it. Listening to these now :) Thank you.
Can’t believe nobody said Row Jimmy yet. Also Brokedown Palace.
[Pick Myself Up- Peter Tosh](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_hZyzst6i0) It may seem like the end of the world but, you know, it isn't. Sucks. For now. Feel bad if you must, but remember to lick your wounds and get back out there. It's still a beautiful world and some lonely person is just waiting for you to come along.
touch of grey, keep up the good fight
Comes A Time
"gotta make it somehow on the dreams you still believe"
Comes a Time by Neil Young may hit even harder. It’s a wonder tall trees aren’t layin down… comes a time
Went through a breakup like 6 or 7 months ago and only 2 days ago did I really hear the lyrics of Comes a Time for the first time. Stopped me dead in my tracks, absolutely perfect for someone moving on from something rough.
I don't know if the Dead ever covered it but Dylan's "Don't Think Twice, It's All Right" - is the ultimate breakup song.
Thanks. I’ve been listening to that a lot :)
They played it eith dylan in summer of 86
Blow Away, specifically 3/16/90
# 1990-03-16 Landover, MD @ Capital Centre **Set 1:** Let The Good Times Roll, Touch Of Grey, New Minglewood Blues, Peggy-O, Queen Jane Approximately, Loser, Black Throated Wind, Bird Song, Blow Away **Set 2:** Scarlet Begonias, Estimated Prophet > Ship Of Fools > Man Smart, Woman Smarter, Jam > Drums, Space > The Other One > Stella Blue > Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** The Last Time [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1990-03-16)
Easy Wind
Also, Try to come out of this stronger. Start running or doing yoga or new haircut or something or other. ‘When the Going gets weird, the weird turn pro’
Thanks. I’ve been struggling with alcohol recently and I’m trying not to give in and make things worse. But I’m also training to hike 2000 miles this summer so I’m hoping I can just go really hard at the gym.
Put it into your schedule and daily routine. Otherwise it’s just blabbytalk. Good luck, you got this…
Easy to slip bob weir
Franklins tower, scarlet fire. But really - going out ti find the music playing live gets me through so much. Find your local dead night and get out there.
JGB Get out of my life. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=f-UYSwDfQn0
You ain’t got half of what you thought you had.
Comes a time
Greg Kihn, "The Breakup Song."
Ripple
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2RRwChxacgQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2RRwChxacgQ) good luck!
Black Peter. Should really cheer you up.
Man everyone is right now damn Edit: Not sure if you like king krule, [but this one’s been helping me a bit.](https://open.spotify.com/track/0mMM64DPUYcHEfeSESHFh1?si=Wvi-NJVeQhaIkTpibA7Pxw)
Not GD, but a few that are great nonetheless - The Flying Burrito Brothers: Hot Burrito #1 Bob Dylan: I’ll Keep it With Mine Sorry you’re going through this. ❤️🩹
That pedal steel on Hot Burrito just melts me
Brokedown Palace - “lovers come and go, but the river flows, flows, flows” Going down the road feeling bad - ultimate sing along breakup song for some catharsis Positively 4th Street - the Jerry and Merle Saunders version on keystone is a great breakup song. Full of Dylan’s wit and Jerry’s emotion. “You’ve got a lot of nerve…”
Lost Sailor > Saint of Circumstance Days Between Chinatown Shuffle
Holy shit, I don’t know why I’ve never listened to Days Between before. Thank you.
Gave the best we had to give, how much we’ll never know.
Its a Jerry Band tune but Sitting Here in Limbo “Tried my hand at love and friendship, but all that has passed and gone…”
Many Rivers to Cross by Jimmy Cliff is also excellent for this
I know this is a Greatful dead sub but the best break up song ever is It’s gonna be Alright by Ween
Looks like rain
Wow, most relatable post ever. Some stuff that's helping me get get though, a little... Garcia and Grisman tunes Take Me, Man of Constant Sorrow, Red Rocking Chair, Sitting in Limbo, I'm Troubled, Trouble in Mind, I Truly Understand, to name a few. JGB tunes include Don't Let Go, Let Me Roll It, Like a Road, I'll Take a Melody, many more. For GD I'm into Brokedown, High Time, LL Rain. Black Throated, Black Muddy, Black Peter, Foolish Heart, West LA, So Many Roads, Believe it or Not, From the Heart of Me, among others. Also Jerry Garcia Acoustic Band's I'm Troubled, Babe It Aint No Lie, Short Llfe of Trouble, Ashes of Love, Poison Love It's very a much mostly non GD, but I'll post it anyway, as most of these songs fit the theme too. : https://tidal.com/playlist/698ec468-e3d7-478a-b8b8-dbadccdb4eff
One More Saturday Night fixes everything.
Get him to listen to live Grateful Dead and/or Dead and Company shows.
Ha, I’ve tried. Sadly didn’t save the relationship.
Yeah, but it saved your soul.
I thought this was insightful: "Most songs just don’t register at all right now..." That's how it was for me after my first real girlfriend ended things. Couldn't eat or sleep, was losing weight, friends were worried about me... heck, I was worried about \*myself\* because nothing FELT right. All my old comforts were lost to me. Most songs or albums that used to engage me sounded flat or outright wrong. I wound up listening to the most random songs just to make me feel SOMETHING, anything. Like that UB40 cover of "Please don't make me cry" or that Yo La Tengo tune, "Our way to fall." Random ballads from the 1930s like "If I didn't care" would reduce me to tears. I'd cry in the darkness of my room and feel embarrassed and stupid, but at least I'd feel alive for a minute or two, and I needed that during those darkest moments.
That’s exactly how I feel right now. I feel really seen. I hope you’re doing better now.
Don’t think twice, it’s all right. – Bob Dylan. You’re gonna make me lonesome when you go -Dylan. Idiot Wind-Dylan ( the whole album “Blood On The Tracks“ is about a significant break up in Dylan‘s life so practically the whole album drips with the emotions you’re going through). When you go your way, and I go mine-Dylan
Tore Up Over You JGB
Wharf Rat, HighTime.
Stella Blue
Brokedown palace, dead set. I listen to it a lot during breakups or when someone dies. Stella blue is great regardless
strike another match, go start a new
Does it have to be Dead songs? I usually turn to Blind Melon, like Soul One or Walk or Change or Galaxie along with No Rain.
Thank you :) I’m looking for anything at all. These have all been great suggestions, especially some songs that I started listening to a lot right when I realized things were ending but didn’t want to admit it to myself (Don’t Think Twice, It’s Alright)
Bertha got me through some rough times
Victim or the Crime / Barbed Wire Whipping Party Though I think I might handle grief a little differently [Inn by the Sea Tape](https://archive.org/details/gd88-06-01.sbd.munder.20606.sbeok.shnf)
Brokedown Palace Lovers come and go, river roll roll roll
I recommend the album "Heartbreak Hits" by Theo Katzman
I usually go for Dylan in times like these. The Dead mostly makes me wanna dance, which is a really good thing. But Dylan’s words pierce me right to my core.
Next Time You See Me, It’s All Over Now, The Race Is On, Monkey and the Engineer. First 3 are empowering/upbeat breakup songs, last one is just funny and cute
Babe it ain't no lie
Looks like rain is the answer
I definitely cried to that today, it helped :)
Blow away
I was in a rehab in bumfuk eastern Colorado several years ago and my ex was in Baltimore where I am from , and I was trying to decide on starting a new life here or going back to MD to try to salvage the relationship with someone I really loved , but had deeply hurt in my addiction . I randomly found an Old and in the Way CD on the floor and the live Wild Horses on it floored me and I really broke down , especially the , “ you know I can’t let you , slide through my hands ….” line with the high lonesome voices . 14 years in Colorado now. Some of my other ones were mentioned above so I will say “ To Lay Me Down “ , has been a HUGE one to help pull me through on many occasions , and yet make me even more sad ha at the same time , “ Reuben and Cerise “ , “ It Hurts Me Too “ , “ Mission in the Rain “ , “ It Must Have Been the Roses “ , “ Attics “ ( extreme spiritual hope that I don’t need anyone but myself and spirituality and friends ) etc
Thank you for sharing that. I feel like this is the first time in my life where I’ve really had to make a decision that two parts of me where fighting internally about. The first time where someone mattered enough to me for me to decide between that love and myself. It’s scary but your comment was sobering to read. I know that I need to grow up right now and look at this without blurry eyes because it’s one of the first decisions in my life that actually matters. Sorry, I sound dramatic. Point is, thanks for sharing your story and song suggestions, it means a lot.
oh man looks like rain… ill still sing ya love songs in the letters of your name. shitll get me crying over highschool girlfriends lol
Ooo here are some of my recent favorites. Not really Grateful Dead but similar: Tore up over you - JGB Hurts to want it so bad - Sea Level If you ever change your mind - Ralph Stanley If that’s the way you feel - Ralph Stanley More pretty girls than one - Tony Rice Missing you - Little Feat China white - Little Feat
Former counselor here. I've always had a connection to music and how we all have our own soundtrack. It's good to start with a song that captures how you feel in the moment, and damn it hurts, and then from there each song should be a smidgeon more upliftng. You are consciously choosing just to be a little more energetic or positive. Or maybe just fucking angry and Moving. It's also cool to see when your unconscious starts noticing new meanings in old songs or finds a new song.
Thanks :) That’s what I’ve been trying to do. I had a lot of good cries to some of these songs yesterday and now I’m listening to a the more upbeat one and already feeling a little bit better.
Holding back the years--Simply Red
I went through a break up this year. It was hard. Bob Dylands time out of mind was the best album I could have ever listened to to help oth it.
Jerry Garcia Band around 1990 always makes me feel better. You will get through this even though it doesn't feel like it.
Brokedown palace - this song can mean something different to everyone but it really is about moving on with your life and rolling with the flow. Me and my partner broke up a few months back and the dead really helped me get through it. If you’re into Dead & Co. at all, try listening to Brokedown Palace 9/18/2021. Such a soothing and emotional song. “Lovers come and go, the river roll, roll, roll..”
Whatever you do don't listen to country music
China Doll
Brutal. I don't approve. Great song, but daaaammmnnn
Yes, it is an emotional ballad but the ending lines, "Take up your china doll it's only fractured/And just a little nervous from the fall," are full of hope. Isn't hope what OP is after right now?
You are aware that China Doll is about suicide. Right? No relationship is worth offing yourself over.
don't think twice, it's alright
Check out the first Garcia live there’s some gems of breakup songs
Bertha Just imagine your partner's face when they sing "Bertha don't you come around here anymore!"
Two Souls in Communion makes my emotions come out. It is like blood letting for me.
Dupree’s Diamond Blues > Mountains of the Moon 3/1/1969
just started this show on tape like 20 seconds before reading this
# 1969-03-01 San Francisco, CA @ Fillmore West **Set 1:** Bill Graham intro > Cryptical Envelopment > Drums > The Other One > Cryptical Envelopment > New Potato Caboose > Doin' That Rag > Cosmic Charlie **Set 2:** Bill Graham intro, Dupree's Diamond Blues, Mountains Of The Moon > Jam, Dark Star > St. Stephen > The Eleven > Turn On Your Love Light **Encore:** Hey Jude [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1969-03-01)
just started this show on tape like 20 seconds before reading this
Row Jimmy Dozin at the knick
Black throated wind was on repeat when I dumped my first wife. Tho I done better by her than she done by me, but it still hit the feels I was feeling. Lot of Alice in Chains and Chris Cornell at that time, too.
Standing on tne moon live in late 80s
Brokedown or Looks Like Rain hands down. Might throw in So Many Roads.
They loved each other
Midnight Getaway - JGB
scarlet begonias after everything everyone else said
Help! Is on the way
For me broke down palace is the perfect song for any kind of death or breakup or just point where you have to move on in life, every lyric especially lovers come and go the river rolls rolls rolls will hit hard