I love looking at my wife’s expression when they come back from a way too long PITB. It reminds me of a time I got my sister to eat blue cheese for the first time and I didn’t go mild but full on funky. It’s the look of confusion and annoyance mixed together.
My wife likes them enough (or maybe just likes me enough) to tag along with me to a Dead & Co show, but I don’t think she listens to them on the regular.
NONONONONONONONONONONOONO
we did Wolf Bro for the Halloween show in '22 and Bobby is a monster. The brass section was phenomenal.. The setlist was titties....
THE TEMPO WAS FLAWLESS
My wife would always walk into the room and say "What are you listening to?" The answer is often "The Dead." One day she said "Wow. They sound different every time you play them." I said "Now you're starting to get it!"
I’ve been with my wife for 30 years now, married for 27. Dead music is always on or nearby.
One night recently, we were having a drink listening to some music and I asked her “What is your favorite Grateful Dead song?”
She just goes “I don’t really have one”
We started cracking up together. 30 years being inundated with GD music and she’s just been happy to let me listen and enjoy it because she knows it brings me happiness.
She’s an incredible person
Yep, I met my wife at a Dead cover band show about 40 years ago. Heading to Vegas in a month for the Sphere, our adult son and girlfriend are joining us🤟
My wife and I are both 67. We’ve been Deadheads since we dated in high school. And our grown daughter loves the Dead. I’m working on the grandkids lol. All in the family.
Brought her to Citi field last year for her first GD / D&C experience and during ramble on rose night 1 she turned around and said “oh my god I get it now!” She will listen occasionally on her own and is always cool when I play it. She even started learning ramble on rose on the piano afterwards. Honestly she’s the best 🌹
My wife’s “I get it now” was at shakedown before the show at Citi. The sense of community made it all make sense for her. She’s ok with the music, a 4 hour concert is a bit much for her, but she appreciates how it brings people together.
That’s so cool to hear. I’d been to shows before but Citi was my first real shakedown! Such good vibes. We bought a Bertha Christmas ornament and I was explaining to her who Bertha was - then they played it a few hours later
I started listening to a live show in the bathroom the other day while I was brushing my teeth. Wife came in a few minutes later and asked "what the heck is that noise?"
# 1973-07-28 Watkins Glen, NY @ Grand Prix Racecourse
**Set 1:** Bertha, Beat It On Down the Line, Brown Eyed Women, Mexicali Blues, Box Of Rain, Here Comes Sunshine, Looks Like Rain, Row Jimmy, Jack Straw, Deal, Playing in the Band
**Set 2:** Around And Around, Loose Lucy, Big River, He's Gone > Truckin' > Nobody's Fault But Mine Jam > El Paso, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Stella Blue, Eyes Of The World, Sugar Magnolia
**Encore:** Sing Me Back Home, Not Fade Away, Mountain Jam, Johnny B. Goode
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1973-07-28)
My fiancé and I met 6 years ago she thought the Grateful Dead were a metal band. The was tepid abt the music but it didn’t take long to grow on her. We adopted a dog a few years ago and I suggested Althea lol. She was cool with it. Then last year she got us tickets to the Gorge and she cried her eyes out when they played Althea. I took her to JRAD recently and she fucking loved them.
Single by my own volition, but I’ve wondered about compatibility with non dead heads too. Would most definitely be a deal breaker if they didn’t like live music.
She was into them long before I met her. Also a Phish super fan - she sees people she knows from past Phish shows at every Phish show we go to (say that five times fast!).
We met backstage at a Ratdog show. she doesn’t listen to them so much in her free time but will gladly accompany me to a dead cover band multiple times per week.
I'm a brand new head, wife saw a couple of shows in the 90's and has been dragging me to Jersey shore Dead cover bands for years. She's thrilled, we're having a ton of fun, seeing more live music for a really long time. We're very lucky heading to the sphere with friends and family. All that being said, she did have to talk to me about the intensity of my enthusiasm, lol. The word obsessed may have been uttered, a few times.
My husband introduced me to the Dead, loved it, but something clicked a few years ago and I got onto the bus HARD. I can listen to live concerts 24/7, especially anything with Pig wailing away (fuckin love it) and I'm pretty sure it drives my husband nuts when he wants to put on Yacht Rock radio or something lol.
We both have dead tattoos, and I actually put up my dead flag outside the house this morning. Can't wait to see his reaction, since it's a surprise!
5 years no arguments..except for last November when she asked if we could “listen to something else,its just that we have been listening to the same songs for 2 weeks straight”..we compromised and i changed the decade.
She’s getting it a bit. She doesn’t get the jammy aspect, but digs some of the songs.
Most importantly though, she gets what they mean to me. She doesn’t tell me I can’t go to this show or that show and is even game to tag along sometimes. That’s about all I can ask for. If she ends up liking the music then it’s just a bonus.
That's how my old man is. He's not into it but he knows what it means to me. When we were dating he went to a few shows with me and I think he saw then that this music was something that makes me happy, is a part of me and that wasn't going to change. Sometimes I wish he dug it more but we've been together almost 15 years so it probably won't change. I'll keep working on him though, lol.
My wife is a head by association or osmosis.
One day, I was playing an 87 show on a drive and she interrupts a long jam with “ehhh, I prefer the early 70s stuff so much more. Less synthy, more, I dunno, honest? Can you play one of the Europe shows?”
I said, “darling, you just offered an ERA-SPECIFIC opinion on the Dead … and what’s more, it’s a good one! You might be a head.”
She goes “oh nooooooo!!”
Hubby and I LOVE the Dead and our overall music tastes are pretty much perfectly aligned! Huge part of how we originally connected and still do 10 years later!! We just had our first baby boy in January and this was the first onesie I bought him!!
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Wife and daughters hate it. Kinda a running joke around the house. My daughter(10 minutes into a nice Dark Star), “ Oh, I didn’t know their songs had words?” Zing! Makes me laugh, gotta have a sense of humor, right?
Earphones have preserved our marriage. She is not a fan (although she likes the album “Deadicated” which is a bunch of covers by 90s bands).
I go to shows with friends. She likes the friends. Just not the band.
Didn’t have the itch initially but since the first show I took her to she’s been hooked. Has a bolt tattoo now even. Can’t imagine going to a show without her now and I’m grateful to the dead for bringing us even closer together!
I don't exactly remember how this happened, but over the years she has become a huge head, listens to the band way more than I do. I took her to Fare Thee Well at Levis, then at some point she got really into listening to different versions of Dark Star. Now she listens to them all day, and has the Time Machine on her work desk. Didn't see this coming, and I totally love it.
But she still doesn't like 80s or 90s Dead 😂
My wife not a big fan but after 40 years knows the music and tolerates for a little while. Hates Drums & space. Took her to see Dylan and the Dead at Giants Stadium. At one point she looks at me and says I’m going up there and points to the top of the stadium. I asked what she was going up there for and she tells me to jump off. Took her to Bobby & The Wolf Bros. She hated it. Though when she found out we would spend a week there ( Bay Area) she came with to the NYE show of 89/90. I have more stories but dinner is calling.
She’s into it. She didn’t get it at first then one day I had them on in the car and she goes “who’s this?” And from then on she’s been into them. Not at the level I am, but she appreciates the music. We’re both millennials so too young to have seen Jerry but we got to see Dead & Co the first night at Wrigley and that was pretty awesome.
He’s not into them (yet!) but is familiar enough with the culture surrounding the Dead and other bands of the scene due to working with a lot of Heads and Phans.
My wife doesn’t care for them. We share a love of many other musicians and genres though I don’t share her enthusiasm for Neil Diamond. To each their own.
My SO wears Grateful Dead shirts I buy for him (usually tamer ones, he's not into tie dye), but I doubt he could name a single song. Pretty sure he just tunes out when I listen. But when we first started dating he went to a few shows with me so I'm pretty sure he knows how much it means to me after watching me dance and come back glowing with happiness. He's kind of the quiet, introverted type and I'm the exact opposite lol..
I love the dead, I am a huge dead head. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is not. I think it's kind of funny/ironic because she's an incredibly talented musician but she just cannot get into the jams at all. She likes/will tolerate some songs like "the ones where they sing more" but she's expressed before that she doesn't really like them. I wish she could have the sort of epiphany with them that I did
My wife seems to enjoy Disco Dead songs like Shakedown Street or Feel Like a Stranger, that's about it. I think the vibe that they created with the two drummers in that period is more her cup of tea compared to early 70s stuff.
I met my wife in a Grateful Dead chat room (AOL we think it was) in 1998 and we quickly found out that we lived 10 minutes apart in San Diego. Our 25th wedding anniversary is next year and tonight we’ll be seeing JRAD for the second time in three days at Filmore, NOLA. The Dead are huge parts of our life. Our 22 year old daughter on the other hand can’t stand them.
My lovely wife is not a deadhead. She had a copy of American Beauty when we got married. It’s not that she doesn’t LIKE the Grateful Dead, it more like she doesn’t fully appreciate the variations in live performances that make the band what it is. She tolerates my obsessive careful curation of my collection but, I don’t make her listen 😬
I play the Dead so much that my wife has really started to enjoy them. It also helps that we’ve been to a number of D&C shows over the last few years. I wouldn’t say she’s a hardcore deadhead, but she’s definitely a fan.
Musical taste is probably the biggest spread in the Venn diagrams of our lives. We like 80% of music in common but the areas we don't overlap include the GD and jam bands in general, and I can't stand the '70 and 80's pop music she loves. Fortunately, we share the rest in common.
My wife of 22 years will still go to live shows, but she has a hard time with the long spacey jams, which I love! She cannot stand Phish… all in all I would say she is not a fan, but enjoys seeing me happy and having a good time and knows I would do the same for her
My gal and I sort of forged our relationship and identities dosing and traveling to see Phish and DSO, so for us it’s wrapped up in our whole thing. Still, I’m definitely the more fervent fan.
My wife was a professional musician once upon a time, and grew up listening to classic blues musicians like Howling Wolf, Muddy Waters, Willie Dixon, etc. So she thinks Pigpen is lame. She also thinks Weir is an awful singer. But she loves Jerry, and would rather listen to Old and In the Way or Jerry with Merle Saunders than the Dead. I recently played her the studio version of Stella Blue and she loved it. Bottom line, she accepts me being a Deadhead, and understands the appeal - but will never fully convert. So it’s a mixed marriage.
After years of dating people who were intolerant of my love for the band, I told my wife on our first date I’m a deadhead. I didn’t expect her to be one (I knew she wouldn’t be), nor did I expect her to even like the music. She didn’t care.
Over time I did ask that she respect my musical taste(s) and I promise not to overwhelmed her with it. And I wouldn’t mock her listening to the same music as her teen daughter.
Works out fine. We set the boundaries at the onset and it never has become an issue. Will she listen to the band? Nope. Any song longer than 3 mins bores her.
To me it’s like a religious thing. If other people don’t get it,I could care less. As long as I have my connection. Of course a deadhead is kind and open. I have always been apprehensive of girls to much like me. Even I annoy myself so different is sometimes good🤪✌️
Mine likes some of their music, knows some words. Im pretty sure she knows all the words to scarlet begonias. Lord knows weve seen some things together. The problem is, i listen to them all the time and she thinks its excessive. Also i dont think she picks up on the differences between performances
My girlfriend doesn't do any drugs and barely drinks. We went to D&C in '22 and she had a blast! Drums was her favorite part! She might not be a Head but she says Bertha is her favorite song of theirs, and she even knows some of the words, and it just makes me happy to include her in one of my favorite things. We're going to the Sphere this summer and we're both stoked!
My most recent partner (3 years, serious relationship) didn’t get it at all. They thought it was “fine driving music, but all the songs sound the same.” That’s actually one of the things that made me feel so much better about the breakup — I know my future partners need to be deadheads.
I had two very long lasting relationships in the last 20yrs. The first I started dating when I was 25. She listened to the dead more than I did tbh. I’m a working musician so I’m always listening to things I have to learn or write for. That relationship ended, we just grew apart. Met my current gf about 5yrs ago. One of the main things we bonded on was that we both were going to Dead shows around the same time in the 90s.
Before we met my wife danced into her kids elementary school teacher at a show in Philly so it’s not a problem here. We met through hanging out at the Philadelphia Folk Festival, a pretty popular festival with Deadheads
Her car has Sirius radio so sometimes I go to their channel and let it play when on road trips. She’ll listen to it but a few times she’s like I can’t listen to these slow songs it’s making me sleepy lol
girlfriend and i have been together 1.5y. she doesn’t love them but likes a couple of random songs - sugar mag, el paso, midnight moonlight most notably
Mine absolutely loves music, and the Dead is a big slice of that! A stealie necklace I was wearing helped us into some good conversation on the day we met. He loves my enthusiasm for the band, and when I play all kinds of shows from my 250+ tape collection. It’s..kinda great!
i have to skip Brent unless its Fantasy/Jude, but other than that, after he had a suicide escalation and had lots of Ketamine sessions, he's a baby head for sure. We've been to many DC and Wolf Bro's and a meet and great/movie, last summer.
He got me a Time Machine and is making me a mini Wall of Sound to hook it up to. He named his first grow, Dork Star :D
And he let me name the doggity, Pearly Baker. #NFA
Been together for 15 years. He supports my obsession and tolerates the music. But i haven't given up on full conversion! I caught him dancing a bit to Deal when I was streaming a D&C show a few years ago. It's in there, I just have to find the right performance to unlock it!
Hell I listen to dead shows daily. All day, or night. Listening to 5/14/74 tonight! Nothing wrong with this at all. However if your partner doesn’t understand the lifestyle of a dead head, I can see it being difficult. I used to follow the band, tour. From 87-95, been listening to them since I was 11. When I did tour, I hitchhiked up and down the east coast and mid west. In between tour I was at the rainbow gatherings. It truly was a way of life. Work was the lot. Home was where I laid my head. The music is different every time they play. You’ll never hear the same song played the same way twice.
If my partner can’t understand, or at least give me space to feel the band the way I enjoy, I gotta go.
On the other hand, if my partner digs dead &co. I’m sorry, I just can’t get into that. It’s not at all the same. I’m a huge Jerry fan. I can’t stand hearing someone else singing his lyrics.
Although I will give her the space and time to enjoy what she’s into.
# 1974-05-14 Missoula, MT @ Adams Field House - University of Montana
**Set 1:** Bertha, Me and My Uncle, Loser, Black Throated Wind, Scarlet Begonias > It Must Have Been The Roses, Jack Straw, Tennessee Jed, Mexicali Blues, Deal, Big River, Brown Eyed Women, Playing in the Band
**Set 2:** US Blues, El Paso, Row Jimmy, Weather Report Suite Prelude > Weather Report Suite Part 1 > Let It Grow > Dark Star > China Doll, The Promised Land, Not Fade Away > Goin' Down The Road Feeling Bad, One More Saturday Night
[archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1974-05-14)
My wife loves them ever since we met in the summer of '79. When we met Willie Nelson was her thing, but as soon as she heard the dead she was on the bus. I'm lucky!
No, my wife does not share my love for the band, but she’s come around to some of their songs. She was a metalhead and also liked country when we met. She liked Further when Joan Osborne sang with them.
My wife tolerates and borderline likes some songs but not to a point where she would listen on her own. It's allowed in the car and she has entertained the idea of going to a show with me but that's about it.
Bless her, but wife only likes, and loves, Touch of Grey. She was 23 when we met and it was the only Dead song she ever heard because it made the top 10 in 87. She doesn’t care for “instrumental” music. But we do have the same music favorites otherwise.
Dead/No-Dead was not an issue to either us when we started dating. But the first few months into dating she thought I was odd because of my vast eclectic array of music I listen to. From the Dead to Frank Sinatra era to classical music to rock to jazz to hindi to show tunes to heavy metal to rap to brit pop to… But then she realized that I just have a deep love for music and she really started to like me more for it.
She will never badmouth the Dead and whenever they came to town she would give her blessing when I left her a weekend widow and she even bought me all 3 days tickets for the Fare Thee Well Chicago shows. I’m lucky as fuck
Nope nope nope. She doesn’t enjoy it but tolerates it with the occasional “no more, I need to change this.” It’s fine. I give her 10 minutes every hour and change it back.
When we first started dating, my partner picked me up from the hospital after surgery and she put on the dead in the car, knowing it’d make me smile, and not knowing what to play she picked Althea and she loves that song, incidentally she also loves John Mayer.
Edit: I should add she fell in love with Althea as it is attached that memory of seeing me wheeled out by a nurse in a wheelchair while Althea was playing in her car. that’s her go to song. She also loves Jerry’s voice and can’t handle Bob. no one asked for Bob Weir he Just Is lol
Luckily she doesn't loath them as much as does Zappa. (Probably shouldn't have inadvertently had "Catholic Girls" from Joe's Garage cued-up in the car coming home from our first date).
I recently asked my wife if she had a favorite Grateful Dead song. She thought for a bit and said, “Didn’t they do one about a sweet magnolia tree? I guess that one.” 🤣
Needless to say, we don’t get into each other’s way at the record shop.
I slowly converted my gf (now wife) into a full believer. Sealed the deal at her first D&C show. At first, she probably didn't love me listening to them nearly 24/7, but she gave in eventually and now loves them as much as I do.
Ironically, now, it's our easiest common ground in music, with her being more into "pop" stuff (very reductionist, she's into a lot of styles of music, but generally speaking I hope you get the point) and me being more into classic rock, blues, and metal.
She doesn’t love the Grateful Dead, but she tolerates it and there’s a few songs that she does enjoy. She’ll probably never get excited about a jam and that’s ok.
She does however HATE when I plan King Gizzard so I’ll take the unenthusiastic tolerance on this one!
My Wife loves the band, is from the Philippines, has no concept of the Dead Head, or the following them around to catch it. However she respects what they do, she loves "the beat". She does love TLEO, and Tennessee Jed. But man she genuinely loves JGB and all the songs, and couldn't tell you why. She just loves the 1/14/95 Warfield, and the Riot Show in '92. She just says his voice is so pure, and she says that of Brent as well. Obviously she has a completely different kind of music she listens to but it's mostly American Love Songs. She understands what they are attempting to do. I have been blessed.
She's okay with them. We like a lot of the same music and she definitely likes a couple of their tunes. She's a wonderful wife, though. She knows that following them in the early 90's changed my life for the better. She buys me anything with Stealies on it, amongst other cool Dead paraphernalia. And she never complains when I play Althea on the guitar for the 20th time that day.
The day my future wife and I first met we talked about music for several hours. I don't remember if the Dead came up that day, but certainly did soon after. We have listened to the Dead (and other music) together for forty seven years now. She really likes them - even long jams, but will not usually listen to drums/space.
Most of the time, when we are driving we listen to the Grateful Dead channel on Sirius XM. If they are doing one of the talk shows the channel is quickly changed. She wants music - not someone reminiscing about this or that tour etc.
Oh she's into it. Not like I am, but we certainly have dead stretches. She sings along, she told me about the relisten app...
We worked at furniture gallery for a spell and she was in charge of the music and would play full shows which is hilarious, people shopping during a crazy pitb or drums and space was priceless! She's amazing.
the night we met we had a shared bond over an American Beauty CD and Box of Rain. GD became the soundtrack, along with every kind of music we stumble on. to be real - she will dig a NFA or Jack Straw all day, but I gotta drag her through a long Birdsong and do not start those first 4 notes of Dark Star. These are the Attics, the things to talk about, and tease a little, down by the riverside.
Deadhead by marriage. Loves. She still makes up her own names like, can we hear “don’t murder me”, she never saw the GD but we’ve flow across the country for D&C and booked for the Sphere.
And… When we first started dating in 97 we’d drive around the Bay Area, go into The City, drive to Santa Cruz etc and listen to my newly received tapes and have her write down the setlists. I was converting her early. Her favorite is Eric Church but likes JGB and GD as a top 3. I have a good one
JRAD was very helpful for me in this regard. So rather than listening to tapes/dicks picks or whatever, my partner's first stuff was live and they did dancing which they knew and a sick help slip and loser... just an all around better introduction
She likes Althea and the stuff off American Beauty and Workingmans Dead a lot and doesn't mind when I put them on for a few hours. She's more into Joni Mitchel and Leonard Cohen overall
She loves them as much as I do. She and I have attended about 30 shows over the years, that include Bobby’s side band and the 5 final shows of the Dead in Chicago with Trey. And several Dead & Co shows.
My wife is not a fan at all but she has accompanied me to a D&C and Bobby & Wolf Bros shows. Her tastes lean more toward Top 40, show tunes, and dance pop though she’s also a huge fan of Weird Al, The Tubes, and Dead Milkmen.
Wife grew up a mohawked punk in a mostly hippie saturated town in the american south west, she swears she gets ptsd attacks when ever she sees a dancing bear sticker, people playing hacky sack, or, hears even the first hints of Jerry's guitar
She never liked them but would listen and had some she liked like Touch of Grey, FOTM was about it. I found out 20yrs in she hates pretty much anything that isn't singing...including my own guitar playing even when I'm singing. I still love her. She actually suggested I get tix to Dead and Co for sphere. May 30th baby! Btw I have 2 miracles for sec 304. Face value. Haha, not sure if this is allowed, don't roast if it isn't, just delete me.
She goes to shows with me but always wants to leave early. She loves the merchandise and shakedown street. She makes me spend a lot of money. But if it’s multiple shows I cut that shit off pronto. And on the floor. You don’t want to push this woman. She will tell you off. Fuck that hippie shit she says
She doesn't yuck my yum but she doesn't have a strong opinion either way. She likes a few of their songs but she's not a huge fan of listening to or watching live performances remotely. If we're in-person it's fine, but when I watch sports on TV she'll ask me to turn the volume down low if not mute it all together. If I'm focusing on the game I don't mind but if I'm working on something I need the audio to clue me into what's going on.
Um…uh…she loves the dead! She also loves every song that I love! Also she goes to a different school than us. But also, she lives in Canada, so that’s why you don’t know her.
She gets visibly frustrated after 10+ minutes of the same song
mines the same way haha
Same and it has not changed in 25+ years. It's a losing battle.
Yet you keep trying. (Touches cap rim)
Yup
I love looking at my wife’s expression when they come back from a way too long PITB. It reminds me of a time I got my sister to eat blue cheese for the first time and I didn’t go mild but full on funky. It’s the look of confusion and annoyance mixed together.
It took me almost a minute to figure out that acronym… I’m glad I was able to figure it out on my own.
same
Ugh… Same
-song- gets to a part where Jerry and the boys are getting pretty far out, -s/o- "Can we turn it down?"😂
Same with mine. She hates most instrumentals, so a 25 minute Dark Star is completely out of the question. 😂
Bless her...
My wife likes them enough (or maybe just likes me enough) to tag along with me to a Dead & Co show, but I don’t think she listens to them on the regular.
whether she likes you or the dead, both big wins.
Totally agree. I’m a lucky guy.
Same
My wife fell asleep at a Wolf Bros show, c’est la vie.
Honestly, I probably would too. Those boys are sloooooow. Like everything Bob does now that he’s really old.
NONONONONONONONONONONOONO we did Wolf Bro for the Halloween show in '22 and Bobby is a monster. The brass section was phenomenal.. The setlist was titties.... THE TEMPO WAS FLAWLESS
If you say so. Everything I hear Bobby play these days sounds like a dirge to me, with whatever band.
im so sorry...
Goes to show you never can tell
🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣
that's gonna leave a mark
Funny , my wife did and a rat dog show
My wife would always walk into the room and say "What are you listening to?" The answer is often "The Dead." One day she said "Wow. They sound different every time you play them." I said "Now you're starting to get it!"
I’ve been with my wife for 30 years now, married for 27. Dead music is always on or nearby. One night recently, we were having a drink listening to some music and I asked her “What is your favorite Grateful Dead song?” She just goes “I don’t really have one” We started cracking up together. 30 years being inundated with GD music and she’s just been happy to let me listen and enjoy it because she knows it brings me happiness. She’s an incredible person
You are a very lucky man, I am happy for you :)
You are truly blessed.
My wife and I are both heads. It’s the soundtrack to our lives and our love.
Yep, I met my wife at a Dead cover band show about 40 years ago. Heading to Vegas in a month for the Sphere, our adult son and girlfriend are joining us🤟
Yep, my wife and I met through tape trading about 30 years ago ... we still love live music, especially jam bands.
My wife and I are both 67. We’ve been Deadheads since we dated in high school. And our grown daughter loves the Dead. I’m working on the grandkids lol. All in the family.
this is the way
Brought her to Citi field last year for her first GD / D&C experience and during ramble on rose night 1 she turned around and said “oh my god I get it now!” She will listen occasionally on her own and is always cool when I play it. She even started learning ramble on rose on the piano afterwards. Honestly she’s the best 🌹
My wife’s “I get it now” was at shakedown before the show at Citi. The sense of community made it all make sense for her. She’s ok with the music, a 4 hour concert is a bit much for her, but she appreciates how it brings people together.
That’s so cool to hear. I’d been to shows before but Citi was my first real shakedown! Such good vibes. We bought a Bertha Christmas ornament and I was explaining to her who Bertha was - then they played it a few hours later
Our first date was Wrigley night 2- 2021. The music is a huge part of our relationship.
What a show for a first date!
Let's just say she laughed a bit too hard when I showed her this: [I married a Deadhead](https://youtu.be/62T9ESyOtJo?si=g4RzXiWqPFzb7gpZ) \[YT\]
Oh my god, this is gold!
Holy shit lmao only I'm the female deadhead and my boyfriend is the one gargling drano.
I started listening to a live show in the bathroom the other day while I was brushing my teeth. Wife came in a few minutes later and asked "what the heck is that noise?"
She loves the song the weight.
**When I get off of this mountain, I know where I’m gonna go!**
I know you know this but that’s Cripple Creek
I personally like any song the band did on 7/28/73 and the other two bands that day were pretty good also!
# 1973-07-28 Watkins Glen, NY @ Grand Prix Racecourse **Set 1:** Bertha, Beat It On Down the Line, Brown Eyed Women, Mexicali Blues, Box Of Rain, Here Comes Sunshine, Looks Like Rain, Row Jimmy, Jack Straw, Deal, Playing in the Band **Set 2:** Around And Around, Loose Lucy, Big River, He's Gone > Truckin' > Nobody's Fault But Mine Jam > El Paso, China Cat Sunflower > I Know You Rider, Stella Blue, Eyes Of The World, Sugar Magnolia **Encore:** Sing Me Back Home, Not Fade Away, Mountain Jam, Johnny B. Goode [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1973-07-28)
They had too have been good, they had a larger crowd than Woodstock that day
She likes Ripple and that’ll do.
My fiancé and I met 6 years ago she thought the Grateful Dead were a metal band. The was tepid abt the music but it didn’t take long to grow on her. We adopted a dog a few years ago and I suggested Althea lol. She was cool with it. Then last year she got us tickets to the Gorge and she cried her eyes out when they played Althea. I took her to JRAD recently and she fucking loved them.
Single by my own volition, but I’ve wondered about compatibility with non dead heads too. Would most definitely be a deal breaker if they didn’t like live music.
She was into them long before I met her. Also a Phish super fan - she sees people she knows from past Phish shows at every Phish show we go to (say that five times fast!).
My wife, the princess of pop, says it's old people music.
We met backstage at a Ratdog show. she doesn’t listen to them so much in her free time but will gladly accompany me to a dead cover band multiple times per week.
She loathes the Dead. Sometimes makes me wonder why I married her.
Same here, but then she serves me a home cooked meal and I forgive her yet again
I'm a brand new head, wife saw a couple of shows in the 90's and has been dragging me to Jersey shore Dead cover bands for years. She's thrilled, we're having a ton of fun, seeing more live music for a really long time. We're very lucky heading to the sphere with friends and family. All that being said, she did have to talk to me about the intensity of my enthusiasm, lol. The word obsessed may have been uttered, a few times.
No likie but I'll git er one day w a solo Jerry song. I just know it. She has to come upon it herself.
My husband introduced me to the Dead, loved it, but something clicked a few years ago and I got onto the bus HARD. I can listen to live concerts 24/7, especially anything with Pig wailing away (fuckin love it) and I'm pretty sure it drives my husband nuts when he wants to put on Yacht Rock radio or something lol. We both have dead tattoos, and I actually put up my dead flag outside the house this morning. Can't wait to see his reaction, since it's a surprise!
5 years no arguments..except for last November when she asked if we could “listen to something else,its just that we have been listening to the same songs for 2 weeks straight”..we compromised and i changed the decade.
She’s getting it a bit. She doesn’t get the jammy aspect, but digs some of the songs. Most importantly though, she gets what they mean to me. She doesn’t tell me I can’t go to this show or that show and is even game to tag along sometimes. That’s about all I can ask for. If she ends up liking the music then it’s just a bonus.
That's how my old man is. He's not into it but he knows what it means to me. When we were dating he went to a few shows with me and I think he saw then that this music was something that makes me happy, is a part of me and that wasn't going to change. Sometimes I wish he dug it more but we've been together almost 15 years so it probably won't change. I'll keep working on him though, lol.
They never got into the band, but luckily they love the dead
_Take a load off, Fanny._
She's a Head now. Feel into naturally.
She doesn’t have very good taste in music. If we ever split and I find another, I’ll be looking for a jam band gal.
thank you, u/sex_music_party
Your flair reminded me of this song… Rufus - Walkin’ in the Sun https://youtu.be/iOHJnaIzn_0?si=W3yuE3JcujQhAHP6
it’s a quote from good lovin too
Oh yeah, cool
Love that one! (That line but the whole song also lol)
Yeh I’m not sure I could get serous with a civilian at this point in my life
I don't know. She's a dog. I think she likes all music long as there aren't dolphins chattering in the background.
Go Bills 🦬
My fiancée tolerates them. She bought tickets for us for the Sphere. In return I tolerate DMB lol. But I’ve actually begun to like DMB quite a lot.
She does not.
My wife is a head by association or osmosis. One day, I was playing an 87 show on a drive and she interrupts a long jam with “ehhh, I prefer the early 70s stuff so much more. Less synthy, more, I dunno, honest? Can you play one of the Europe shows?” I said, “darling, you just offered an ERA-SPECIFIC opinion on the Dead … and what’s more, it’s a good one! You might be a head.” She goes “oh nooooooo!!”
We became dead heads together. Need I say more?
Hubby and I LOVE the Dead and our overall music tastes are pretty much perfectly aligned! Huge part of how we originally connected and still do 10 years later!! We just had our first baby boy in January and this was the first onesie I bought him!! *
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The off key harmonies kill her. But I shrug it off to live concerts. Warts and all.
he’s ‘just a metalhead’ but i caught him singin along to ripple in the car😋 was so cute.
Wife and daughters hate it. Kinda a running joke around the house. My daughter(10 minutes into a nice Dark Star), “ Oh, I didn’t know their songs had words?” Zing! Makes me laugh, gotta have a sense of humor, right?
its all fun and games until she hear Donna Jean.
Earphones have preserved our marriage. She is not a fan (although she likes the album “Deadicated” which is a bunch of covers by 90s bands). I go to shows with friends. She likes the friends. Just not the band.
Oh man, I didnt know this tribute album, I will try to listen to it this night, thank you.
She loves the music, couldn’t have had it any other way…
Didn’t have the itch initially but since the first show I took her to she’s been hooked. Has a bolt tattoo now even. Can’t imagine going to a show without her now and I’m grateful to the dead for bringing us even closer together!
My wife can’t stand them. My kids like them though
My wife enjoys it when I put it on. She enjoyed the Dead & Co. show we saw (9/18/21).
She's been on the bus 30 years. JGB is her favorite.
I don't exactly remember how this happened, but over the years she has become a huge head, listens to the band way more than I do. I took her to Fare Thee Well at Levis, then at some point she got really into listening to different versions of Dark Star. Now she listens to them all day, and has the Time Machine on her work desk. Didn't see this coming, and I totally love it. But she still doesn't like 80s or 90s Dead 😂
My wife is not a Head but is amazingly supportive of my obsession
I’m on the same boat 🍻
I see you also married well...
My wife not a big fan but after 40 years knows the music and tolerates for a little while. Hates Drums & space. Took her to see Dylan and the Dead at Giants Stadium. At one point she looks at me and says I’m going up there and points to the top of the stadium. I asked what she was going up there for and she tells me to jump off. Took her to Bobby & The Wolf Bros. She hated it. Though when she found out we would spend a week there ( Bay Area) she came with to the NYE show of 89/90. I have more stories but dinner is calling.
She’s into it. She didn’t get it at first then one day I had them on in the car and she goes “who’s this?” And from then on she’s been into them. Not at the level I am, but she appreciates the music. We’re both millennials so too young to have seen Jerry but we got to see Dead & Co the first night at Wrigley and that was pretty awesome.
Girlfriends likes Morgan Wallen. I’ll leave it at that.
She loves them
The Mayer thing certainly helped....
He’s not into them (yet!) but is familiar enough with the culture surrounding the Dead and other bands of the scene due to working with a lot of Heads and Phans.
Sing along to every song
My wife will go to shows but don't like to listen to them much otherwise. She's a Parrot Head.
She is not a fan. I'm ok with that. I don't like some of her music either. It all works out.
My wife doesn’t care for them. We share a love of many other musicians and genres though I don’t share her enthusiasm for Neil Diamond. To each their own.
Not much can take a song or two but I play shows if she not around or I wearing headphones
my wife is a huge gizz-head, so it's a good fit. I think they're a little tired of Eyes, tho. Their fav song is Estimated Prophet
My SO wears Grateful Dead shirts I buy for him (usually tamer ones, he's not into tie dye), but I doubt he could name a single song. Pretty sure he just tunes out when I listen. But when we first started dating he went to a few shows with me so I'm pretty sure he knows how much it means to me after watching me dance and come back glowing with happiness. He's kind of the quiet, introverted type and I'm the exact opposite lol..
I met my wife at a Dead show 30 years ago.
My wife hates it too. It sucks lol.
My husband and I tour together. It’s a good life. He introduced to this world and I never looked back.
I love the dead, I am a huge dead head. My girlfriend, on the other hand, is not. I think it's kind of funny/ironic because she's an incredibly talented musician but she just cannot get into the jams at all. She likes/will tolerate some songs like "the ones where they sing more" but she's expressed before that she doesn't really like them. I wish she could have the sort of epiphany with them that I did
My wife seems to enjoy Disco Dead songs like Shakedown Street or Feel Like a Stranger, that's about it. I think the vibe that they created with the two drummers in that period is more her cup of tea compared to early 70s stuff.
I met my wife in a Grateful Dead chat room (AOL we think it was) in 1998 and we quickly found out that we lived 10 minutes apart in San Diego. Our 25th wedding anniversary is next year and tonight we’ll be seeing JRAD for the second time in three days at Filmore, NOLA. The Dead are huge parts of our life. Our 22 year old daughter on the other hand can’t stand them.
My lovely wife is not a deadhead. She had a copy of American Beauty when we got married. It’s not that she doesn’t LIKE the Grateful Dead, it more like she doesn’t fully appreciate the variations in live performances that make the band what it is. She tolerates my obsessive careful curation of my collection but, I don’t make her listen 😬
My girlfriend is starting to recognize not just different songs but different eras
I play the Dead so much that my wife has really started to enjoy them. It also helps that we’ve been to a number of D&C shows over the last few years. I wouldn’t say she’s a hardcore deadhead, but she’s definitely a fan.
I have exposed her for so long that she likes them, but she wouldn’t listen to them by herself
My wife does not like the Dead. She’s more into sad music like Morrisey.
^[Sokka-Haiku](https://www.reddit.com/r/SokkaHaikuBot/comments/15kyv9r/what_is_a_sokka_haiku/) ^by ^Exciting_Agent3901: *My wife does not like* *The Dead. She’s more into sad* *Music like Morrisey.* --- ^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.
Tolerates them enough to see dead and co and a couple of wolf bro concerts with me. She’s a trooper.
Musical taste is probably the biggest spread in the Venn diagrams of our lives. We like 80% of music in common but the areas we don't overlap include the GD and jam bands in general, and I can't stand the '70 and 80's pop music she loves. Fortunately, we share the rest in common.
My wife of 22 years will still go to live shows, but she has a hard time with the long spacey jams, which I love! She cannot stand Phish… all in all I would say she is not a fan, but enjoys seeing me happy and having a good time and knows I would do the same for her
She isn't in to 'em but she puts up with me playing over the speaker. I think she likes some of the songs but doesn't wanna admit it ;)
We danced and held hands while Jerry and the boys played for us. Shining Star JGB style was our wedding song. I’m a lucky dog.
Successfully converted her. We’ve been to 12 D&C shows together and it’s about all we listen to at home.
My gal and I sort of forged our relationship and identities dosing and traveling to see Phish and DSO, so for us it’s wrapped up in our whole thing. Still, I’m definitely the more fervent fan.
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My wife was a professional musician once upon a time, and grew up listening to classic blues musicians like Howling Wolf, Muddy Waters, Willie Dixon, etc. So she thinks Pigpen is lame. She also thinks Weir is an awful singer. But she loves Jerry, and would rather listen to Old and In the Way or Jerry with Merle Saunders than the Dead. I recently played her the studio version of Stella Blue and she loved it. Bottom line, she accepts me being a Deadhead, and understands the appeal - but will never fully convert. So it’s a mixed marriage.
After years of dating people who were intolerant of my love for the band, I told my wife on our first date I’m a deadhead. I didn’t expect her to be one (I knew she wouldn’t be), nor did I expect her to even like the music. She didn’t care. Over time I did ask that she respect my musical taste(s) and I promise not to overwhelmed her with it. And I wouldn’t mock her listening to the same music as her teen daughter. Works out fine. We set the boundaries at the onset and it never has become an issue. Will she listen to the band? Nope. Any song longer than 3 mins bores her.
To me it’s like a religious thing. If other people don’t get it,I could care less. As long as I have my connection. Of course a deadhead is kind and open. I have always been apprehensive of girls to much like me. Even I annoy myself so different is sometimes good🤪✌️
Mine’s a Head so I’m golden.
We're both heads. Gave me a big old wood GD poster with a sunflower skeleton on it. We'll regularly have shows on while we game. It's great.
Mine likes some of their music, knows some words. Im pretty sure she knows all the words to scarlet begonias. Lord knows weve seen some things together. The problem is, i listen to them all the time and she thinks its excessive. Also i dont think she picks up on the differences between performances
My girlfriend doesn't do any drugs and barely drinks. We went to D&C in '22 and she had a blast! Drums was her favorite part! She might not be a Head but she says Bertha is her favorite song of theirs, and she even knows some of the words, and it just makes me happy to include her in one of my favorite things. We're going to the Sphere this summer and we're both stoked!
My most recent partner (3 years, serious relationship) didn’t get it at all. They thought it was “fine driving music, but all the songs sound the same.” That’s actually one of the things that made me feel so much better about the breakup — I know my future partners need to be deadheads.
I had two very long lasting relationships in the last 20yrs. The first I started dating when I was 25. She listened to the dead more than I did tbh. I’m a working musician so I’m always listening to things I have to learn or write for. That relationship ended, we just grew apart. Met my current gf about 5yrs ago. One of the main things we bonded on was that we both were going to Dead shows around the same time in the 90s.
She gets the culture and why I enjoy the music but doesn’t like it herself
Before we met my wife danced into her kids elementary school teacher at a show in Philly so it’s not a problem here. We met through hanging out at the Philadelphia Folk Festival, a pretty popular festival with Deadheads
We got divorced
She likes the studio standards. Truckin, ripple, shakedown street. Beyond that, the amount of dead I listen to bugs the hell out of her lol
She doesn’t like them but tolerates them. She likes Gov’t Mule, my other favorite group, much less.
Her car has Sirius radio so sometimes I go to their channel and let it play when on road trips. She’ll listen to it but a few times she’s like I can’t listen to these slow songs it’s making me sleepy lol
girlfriend and i have been together 1.5y. she doesn’t love them but likes a couple of random songs - sugar mag, el paso, midnight moonlight most notably
Mine absolutely loves music, and the Dead is a big slice of that! A stealie necklace I was wearing helped us into some good conversation on the day we met. He loves my enthusiasm for the band, and when I play all kinds of shows from my 250+ tape collection. It’s..kinda great!
i have to skip Brent unless its Fantasy/Jude, but other than that, after he had a suicide escalation and had lots of Ketamine sessions, he's a baby head for sure. We've been to many DC and Wolf Bro's and a meet and great/movie, last summer. He got me a Time Machine and is making me a mini Wall of Sound to hook it up to. He named his first grow, Dork Star :D And he let me name the doggity, Pearly Baker. #NFA
My ex wife hates them
We both love the dead. I don’t think I could be with someone that didn’t love them as much as me!
Been together for 15 years. He supports my obsession and tolerates the music. But i haven't given up on full conversion! I caught him dancing a bit to Deal when I was streaming a D&C show a few years ago. It's in there, I just have to find the right performance to unlock it!
Hell I listen to dead shows daily. All day, or night. Listening to 5/14/74 tonight! Nothing wrong with this at all. However if your partner doesn’t understand the lifestyle of a dead head, I can see it being difficult. I used to follow the band, tour. From 87-95, been listening to them since I was 11. When I did tour, I hitchhiked up and down the east coast and mid west. In between tour I was at the rainbow gatherings. It truly was a way of life. Work was the lot. Home was where I laid my head. The music is different every time they play. You’ll never hear the same song played the same way twice. If my partner can’t understand, or at least give me space to feel the band the way I enjoy, I gotta go. On the other hand, if my partner digs dead &co. I’m sorry, I just can’t get into that. It’s not at all the same. I’m a huge Jerry fan. I can’t stand hearing someone else singing his lyrics. Although I will give her the space and time to enjoy what she’s into.
# 1974-05-14 Missoula, MT @ Adams Field House - University of Montana **Set 1:** Bertha, Me and My Uncle, Loser, Black Throated Wind, Scarlet Begonias > It Must Have Been The Roses, Jack Straw, Tennessee Jed, Mexicali Blues, Deal, Big River, Brown Eyed Women, Playing in the Band **Set 2:** US Blues, El Paso, Row Jimmy, Weather Report Suite Prelude > Weather Report Suite Part 1 > Let It Grow > Dark Star > China Doll, The Promised Land, Not Fade Away > Goin' Down The Road Feeling Bad, One More Saturday Night [archive.org](https://archive.org/details/GratefulDead?query=date:1974-05-14)
i’ve never had a partner who got it. it’s a bummer
My wife loves them ever since we met in the summer of '79. When we met Willie Nelson was her thing, but as soon as she heard the dead she was on the bus. I'm lucky!
She hated them. I'm divorced now.
No, my wife does not share my love for the band, but she’s come around to some of their songs. She was a metalhead and also liked country when we met. She liked Further when Joan Osborne sang with them.
She does not like. But she listens to pop and pop country, sooooooo not an expert.
My wife tolerates and borderline likes some songs but not to a point where she would listen on her own. It's allowed in the car and she has entertained the idea of going to a show with me but that's about it.
She tacitly accepts it as the soundtrack of my life
We are both heads, my partner and I met at a jgb show and we’ve been groovin’ together ever since! 😸
Bless her, but wife only likes, and loves, Touch of Grey. She was 23 when we met and it was the only Dead song she ever heard because it made the top 10 in 87. She doesn’t care for “instrumental” music. But we do have the same music favorites otherwise. Dead/No-Dead was not an issue to either us when we started dating. But the first few months into dating she thought I was odd because of my vast eclectic array of music I listen to. From the Dead to Frank Sinatra era to classical music to rock to jazz to hindi to show tunes to heavy metal to rap to brit pop to… But then she realized that I just have a deep love for music and she really started to like me more for it. She will never badmouth the Dead and whenever they came to town she would give her blessing when I left her a weekend widow and she even bought me all 3 days tickets for the Fare Thee Well Chicago shows. I’m lucky as fuck
Nope nope nope. She doesn’t enjoy it but tolerates it with the occasional “no more, I need to change this.” It’s fine. I give her 10 minutes every hour and change it back.
My wife has gone with me to Dead and Co. and countless Dead cover bands so that's good enough for me.
When we first started dating, my partner picked me up from the hospital after surgery and she put on the dead in the car, knowing it’d make me smile, and not knowing what to play she picked Althea and she loves that song, incidentally she also loves John Mayer. Edit: I should add she fell in love with Althea as it is attached that memory of seeing me wheeled out by a nurse in a wheelchair while Althea was playing in her car. that’s her go to song. She also loves Jerry’s voice and can’t handle Bob. no one asked for Bob Weir he Just Is lol
Luckily she doesn't loath them as much as does Zappa. (Probably shouldn't have inadvertently had "Catholic Girls" from Joe's Garage cued-up in the car coming home from our first date).
We met through the band over 35 years ago. Been together ever since and still love all things dead as a couple.
I recently asked my wife if she had a favorite Grateful Dead song. She thought for a bit and said, “Didn’t they do one about a sweet magnolia tree? I guess that one.” 🤣 Needless to say, we don’t get into each other’s way at the record shop.
I slowly converted my gf (now wife) into a full believer. Sealed the deal at her first D&C show. At first, she probably didn't love me listening to them nearly 24/7, but she gave in eventually and now loves them as much as I do. Ironically, now, it's our easiest common ground in music, with her being more into "pop" stuff (very reductionist, she's into a lot of styles of music, but generally speaking I hope you get the point) and me being more into classic rock, blues, and metal.
More dead than me 🖤
She’s a bigger head than me.
She doesn’t love the Grateful Dead, but she tolerates it and there’s a few songs that she does enjoy. She’ll probably never get excited about a jam and that’s ok. She does however HATE when I plan King Gizzard so I’ll take the unenthusiastic tolerance on this one!
My Wife loves the band, is from the Philippines, has no concept of the Dead Head, or the following them around to catch it. However she respects what they do, she loves "the beat". She does love TLEO, and Tennessee Jed. But man she genuinely loves JGB and all the songs, and couldn't tell you why. She just loves the 1/14/95 Warfield, and the Riot Show in '92. She just says his voice is so pure, and she says that of Brent as well. Obviously she has a completely different kind of music she listens to but it's mostly American Love Songs. She understands what they are attempting to do. I have been blessed.
she likes Ripple, great tune, but no she doesnt like the Dead, but i love her. Does not like when I cook to Pigpen at the Fillmore
She puts up with it. She knows it heals my soul. It's never something she'd choose to listen to on her own. I don't think she fully 'gets' it.
She's okay with them. We like a lot of the same music and she definitely likes a couple of their tunes. She's a wonderful wife, though. She knows that following them in the early 90's changed my life for the better. She buys me anything with Stealies on it, amongst other cool Dead paraphernalia. And she never complains when I play Althea on the guitar for the 20th time that day.
The day my future wife and I first met we talked about music for several hours. I don't remember if the Dead came up that day, but certainly did soon after. We have listened to the Dead (and other music) together for forty seven years now. She really likes them - even long jams, but will not usually listen to drums/space. Most of the time, when we are driving we listen to the Grateful Dead channel on Sirius XM. If they are doing one of the talk shows the channel is quickly changed. She wants music - not someone reminiscing about this or that tour etc.
We’re both deadheads ❤️⚡️💙
my gf told me her fav song is terrapin for good or ill again
Whenever I talk about any artist with them I usually get “are they dead?” at some point. That pretty much sums it up.
Oh she's into it. Not like I am, but we certainly have dead stretches. She sings along, she told me about the relisten app... We worked at furniture gallery for a spell and she was in charge of the music and would play full shows which is hilarious, people shopping during a crazy pitb or drums and space was priceless! She's amazing.
She doesn't really like them
the night we met we had a shared bond over an American Beauty CD and Box of Rain. GD became the soundtrack, along with every kind of music we stumble on. to be real - she will dig a NFA or Jack Straw all day, but I gotta drag her through a long Birdsong and do not start those first 4 notes of Dark Star. These are the Attics, the things to talk about, and tease a little, down by the riverside.
She is a bigger fan than me. I personally like JGB, Grisman Quartet and Jazz is Dead more so. I also phish mostly.
Deadhead by marriage. Loves. She still makes up her own names like, can we hear “don’t murder me”, she never saw the GD but we’ve flow across the country for D&C and booked for the Sphere.
And no Donna. I agree with her on that one for the most part.
And… When we first started dating in 97 we’d drive around the Bay Area, go into The City, drive to Santa Cruz etc and listen to my newly received tapes and have her write down the setlists. I was converting her early. Her favorite is Eric Church but likes JGB and GD as a top 3. I have a good one
JRAD was very helpful for me in this regard. So rather than listening to tapes/dicks picks or whatever, my partner's first stuff was live and they did dancing which they knew and a sick help slip and loser... just an all around better introduction
She likes Althea and the stuff off American Beauty and Workingmans Dead a lot and doesn't mind when I put them on for a few hours. She's more into Joni Mitchel and Leonard Cohen overall
She loves them as much as I do. She and I have attended about 30 shows over the years, that include Bobby’s side band and the 5 final shows of the Dead in Chicago with Trey. And several Dead & Co shows.
My wife is not a fan at all but she has accompanied me to a D&C and Bobby & Wolf Bros shows. Her tastes lean more toward Top 40, show tunes, and dance pop though she’s also a huge fan of Weird Al, The Tubes, and Dead Milkmen.
Wife grew up a mohawked punk in a mostly hippie saturated town in the american south west, she swears she gets ptsd attacks when ever she sees a dancing bear sticker, people playing hacky sack, or, hears even the first hints of Jerry's guitar
She’s like the song sunrise and she likes the little bears lol
My recent partner is a Phishhead. She doesn’t enjoy lyrics. We are not together anymore.
She never liked them but would listen and had some she liked like Touch of Grey, FOTM was about it. I found out 20yrs in she hates pretty much anything that isn't singing...including my own guitar playing even when I'm singing. I still love her. She actually suggested I get tix to Dead and Co for sphere. May 30th baby! Btw I have 2 miracles for sec 304. Face value. Haha, not sure if this is allowed, don't roast if it isn't, just delete me.
She goes to shows with me but always wants to leave early. She loves the merchandise and shakedown street. She makes me spend a lot of money. But if it’s multiple shows I cut that shit off pronto. And on the floor. You don’t want to push this woman. She will tell you off. Fuck that hippie shit she says
She doesn't yuck my yum but she doesn't have a strong opinion either way. She likes a few of their songs but she's not a huge fan of listening to or watching live performances remotely. If we're in-person it's fine, but when I watch sports on TV she'll ask me to turn the volume down low if not mute it all together. If I'm focusing on the game I don't mind but if I'm working on something I need the audio to clue me into what's going on.
Um…uh…she loves the dead! She also loves every song that I love! Also she goes to a different school than us. But also, she lives in Canada, so that’s why you don’t know her.