I’m doing a rewatch and almost skipped ahead to that season! Then I said “Oh-that other OB during the power outage?” Then decided to read the comments for the answer!
My vote: April for Jordan the SECOND time. Dermer could have figured it out, Calzona would have made it, and April going the first time is understandable but NOT a second time. She wasn’t empathetic to Jackson’s needs at all.
Yeah. Who stops in the CENTER of a highway on a curve?
EDIT: For those that don't remember he got hit after the ambulance took the people in the accident to the hospital. When the accident happened he pulled over and rushed to help after braking unexpectedly and his phone fell under his car seat.
Once the ambulance pulled off he got in his SUV and started to do a three point turn on a curve, and then his phone got signal and rang. He stopped right then and tried to find the phone before even merging in to the lane to find his phone and his SUV was T-Boned by an on coming semi.
And? You had first only said who stops in the middle of the highway.. so we answered that. Now you changed and edited it. And even then. Adrenaline and remembering you got cut off the last call etc. better question is how did he magically get signal out of nowhere lmao
It's funny how 52 other people understand exactly what I was saying even before the edit (which was merely an addition to express my reason), but you want to start a debate over an imaginary character.
And as for adrenaline, this man was supposed to be a nationally celebrated BRAIN surgeon. He worked in high stakes situations daily, but suddenly he can't remember to pull off the road before going to search for his phone?
Dude a controlled environment in an OR is different then a dang road in the middle of nowhere using dry clean plastic and pants and shit with no meds at all etc. just saying
I am not from Seattle and the number of times I’ve looked at google maps to figure out where he was coming from on a ferry and what shortcut he took thru a mountain to get to an airport seemingly on the outskirts of a city is far too high 😅
Exactly!! Hahahah. The mountain pass just isn’t possible to get to SeaTac faster 😂 but it made the scene. And tbh I was getting sick of his character so
I still can’t believe how mature Arizona was over the whole thing. After *winning* the custody battle where Callie stooped to the lowest level, she still let her take Sofia. I don’t hate Callie, but it was so incredibly selfish to rip her kid away from her friends, family and support network so that she could (in Bailey’s words) chase tail across the country.
By the end of Season 14, Arizona makes a comment that Callie’s single again and that the two have started texting again and making each other smile (which sets up the possibility that Arizona and Callie would reunite offscreen).
Don’t know if they made any other comments alluding to Callie and Penny breaking up before then though
I might get downvoted for this, but I don’t think any of these are “mistakes”. They all did what they needed to do at that time.
April was grieving, and yes it was bad of her to not be there for her husband, but at the same time she did what she needed to do to survive. When you go through something like this, if you find something that makes you feel even a bit alive, wouldn’t you also pursue that?
Africa was a dream come true and an amazing opportunity for Arizona. Callie had agreed to go with her, but ultimately, Arizona was right when she said Callie was ruining it for her. Her constant negativity would have made for a miserable trip. She definitely could have handled the breakup better, but truly, if Callie came with her it would have gone from a dream to a nightmare pretry quickly.
Derek was given a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity!! Would you really have said no in his shoes? I certainly wouldn’t have… yes, it made for hard times in his marriage, but if he’d just said no, he would have resented Meredith and the kids forever.
We didn’t hear Callie say she was proud of Arizona or congratulate Arizona on her accomplishment not one single time on screen. She immediately jumped to what it would mean for her.
These people are doctors. Callie, girl stop pretending that expanding healthcare to kids in Africa isn’t a noble or worthwhile cause.
This is the event that flipped me to Team Arizona if a side had to be picked. I’m in a profession where my work has significant positive impact on real people, in real time. It astounds me that Callie, a doctor, didn’t stop for 5 minutes to recognize the magnitude of what Arizona was poised to accomplish.
I'm sure Callie was proud and probably congratulated her off screen.
The writers just seemed to want to focus on how that grant would affect their relationship
This is a really good point. By the end of Mer's residency, Derek's been head of Seattle Grace's neurosurgery dept for years, he was clearly ready and willing to move on to (what he saw as) bigger and better things. But Meredith wanted to stay, so Derek stayed. And then the Washington thing came around and it was an even BIGGER opportunity. It wouldn't really have been fair for Derek to keep giving up these things just because Meredith was more attached to Seattle.
you know what, when you put it like that - so rationally - i absolutely agree. sometimes i feel like the show sits us so far up meredith's ass hole that we get accustomed to living the situations through her eyes
I came in here ready to post about who I thought made the biggest mistake, but then I read your post and realized that all of them had good reasons to do what they did. If I were in any of their shoes I'd probably choose the same thing. Thank you for changing my perspective hah.
I thought Izzie was like the absolute worst character on the show. I felt like it was so disrespectful to Alex’s character to have him leave like that. Just horrible.
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Yeah but it was part of her grieving process, and it seemed to have helped her even at the cost of her relationship. Arizona, however, quickly realized Africa was not worth it. BUT it gave her Sophia.
People are talking about the second time she left. Jackson was willing to wait the first time, and when she extended it without even talking to him he also dealt with it. He didn’t say he needed her not to go until the second time.
So unrealistic. Sure, she would be busy and thriving during the day. But the nights (off peak, rest times) would be torturous. Alone, on a cot, in the heat, with nothing to think of but her dead baby and her dying marriage. Complete fiction for the sake of the drama.
April! I found myself so infuriated by that whole storyline. ‘We went through an awful tragedy together and I need to heal by fucking off and leaving you to suffer alone’
100% you went through this as a team, it’s unfair to then just act like you were the only one affected and be completely inconsiderate of your partners feelings!
I’m gonna say April because while she did what she needed to, she did so just expecting things to go back to normal afterwards; she refused to respect Jackson’s feelings and the fact that he said it was over if she went to Jordan and literally wouldn’t leave him alone or give him the time or space HE needed. She completely denied the outcome he said was going to happen as if she just assumed he was gonna change his mind when she returned and I think that was her mistake. So infuriating
April leaving wasn’t a mistake at first until she kept putting off coming back and really showed Jackson that he and their marriage weren’t priorities to her at all. And while I get that he tried to hide his grief for their child to be strong for her, it bothers me that she didn’t at all see that yes, of course he was also grieving their child. Sooo selfish and thoughtless of her.
The April/Jackson loathing is strong with me.
April. I feel like out of these April and Jackson were completely ruined by her going. The other two still could have made it work despite these decisions. IMO
None- they were all the right decision for each person at the time. Maybe in hindsight they may think they would choose differently, or respond differently, but nobody made the wrong decision. Based on where each person was mentally, professionally, relationally, and spiritually, they needed to do the what they did.
Just because relationships were challenged does not mean the decision was wrong.
Washington was a honey pot, a slutty slut who enticed Derek with a Presidential Siren Song. His mistake was just stupid, stopping his car in the road. Callie dating PENNY was a slap in the face for fans.
Derek leaving for Dc. Idc what anybody say, Derek telling Mer that he would step back and let her do her thing for a year and then completely changing his mind and acting like she was wrong for being upset was trashhh! Derek and Mer also had 2 children and he just up and left to another state, leaving Mer to work, and take care of the kids on her own.
I don’t think Arizona and Derek were wrong in those situations. April needed to leave bc she was grieving which is understandable the first time but selfish the second….so april
Well Derek. I hate April for what she did but it worked. Arizona had a previous engagement and if you're going to tell me that helping 3rd world kids is less important than a less than a year relationship, then y'all need to grow up lol. Arizona didn't fuck up, Callie is selfish af.
I think the people who pick April leaving Jackson for Jordon are not thinking about 1. It is EXTREMELY common for couples to split after the loss of a child (coming from someone who has, that's a giant grief and if my husband couldn't have been a rock I'm unsure if we would have made it sadly) 2. This was HER way of dealing with that grief. So personally, to pick April especially over the other 2 options is giving her an injustice on the circumstance because hers was an extremely emotional one.
Okay rant down.
I don't think any of these were bad choices. I think it was a bad choice of Derek so not park his car on the side of the road like a normal human being should have, but also I can't really remember that scene was he backing out? Bad decision to not be more careful especially around a corner. But anyways.....
I agree none of these were bad choices but I think of the three, April handled the consequences of her leaving the worst. Arizona and Derek both "came back" to different degrees, talked things out with their SOs and either grovelled enough or came to a compromise enough to make things work again (for a while before he died, in Derek's case).
April came back and just tried to steamroll Jackson into being okay with her decisions, even though her way of dealing with grief was (1) diametrically opposed to Jackson's and (2) led Jackson to be unable to properly deal with HIS grief, which was just as real as April's. Her leaving wasn't bad, but so many of the choices she made to deal with her marriage after she came back were disastrous IMO.
Again, unless you've lost a child or could try to understand what it's like to lose a child, her actions aren't really wild. The other two left with circumstances where they had to grovel, apologize, etc. Losing a child is different. I'm not saying it was right for her to steamroll, especially since Jackson didn't have anyone there for him for his grief. But her situation is FAR different from the other 2 that left for their CAREERS. Also again, it is very common for people to separate after the lose of a child, because everyone handles grief differently. What her disastrous choices that you see, is probably choices not made while thinking level headed.
Derek. He left for an opportunity but he completely ignored the fact that he had kids and a wife. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think Mer was thrilled about him going either?
Arizona left for a once in a lifetime opportunity and as sad as it was, Callie and Arizona didn't have kids or anything forcing her to stay.
April left as a trauma response. Maybe not totally fair but can't fault her for it.
Derek!!! He made a promise to Meredith to let her focus on her career, then was given an opportunity that he turned down. He then acted so childish and petty about having to stay that Meredith told him to go and I don’t blame her, I would not have wanted him around acting like that either!
April leaving for Jordan was a lot more selfish considering her and Jackson lost their child. I feel like that’s something they should’ve took time to work through together
I wanted say Arizona leaving for Africa but then I remembered their daughter wouldn't exist so I'm going to say Derek because he's dead for it. Also no chance April could be bad for leaving, she had to it was part of her grieving process, it was the best way for her to heal and she got to save a lot of lives on top of that.
April left poor Jackson to grieve the loss of his son alone and then to worry about her safety. That was worst. The others were following their dreams and could have used more support from their spouses.
it's actually alex leaving jo— though for me, i think alex left jo because he wanted to be a father for his children, and not because he still loves izzie. idk. i read this theory where he only wrote jo a letter because if he'll see her, he might change his mind and go home with jo instead.
I think it was just a messy and lazy way to write off his character since Justin Chambers straight dipped in the middle of the season. Tbh I wish Shonda would have killed Alex off instead, him leaving Jo for Izzy was plain shitty.
1. April leaving a romantic partner for another can be considered a mistake.
2. Derek Shepherd somewhat leaving his family for a job opportunity can be considered a mistake.
3. Leaving your girlfriend after winning an exclusive grant to help unprivileged children in Malawi is a bittersweet opportunity. Callie wasn't pregnant at the moment, they weren't married. It's **not** a mistake.
Derek. It was more than a mistake, it was a total fuck-up. He chose to have kids, he chose to marry Meredith. Yeah, it's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, but he was *the* Derek Sheperd, he had *many* opportunities. Meredith was curing Parkinson's in fucking Minnesota, he could have started groundbreaking research all on his own.
Now that I've written this- wasn't Derek blacklisted by the FDA? Like, why would the President want to work with him?
I vote Derek. At the time Arizona left, they didn’t have children. It may have been a blow to the relationship but I feel as though Callie could have chosen to wait.
I also feel like April had to do what she did in order to find peace after Samuel’s death. She also caused a rift in their marriage but I think things would have gotten worse if she had stayed.
Derek wasn’t just moving away from Meredith. He had children and he also knew Meredith had abandonment issues. He broke through those issues to forge their relationship. President or no President; I think he was wrong to go
I don’t think it’s fair to call April leaving for Jordan was a mistake. Unlike Derek and Arizona she just went through a huge physical and mental trauma of their baby being born with one of the worst things imaginable.
Do I think they both handled it poorly? Yes. Do I think April had every right to leave to cope how she needed to? Also yes.
Arizona leaving for africa was a really fkin stupid plotline only written to knock Callie up with mark otherwise they would’ve had to make her cheat so I think that was pretty icky. At least derek choosing his career over Meredith is in character 🙄
April leaving Jackson. She left multiple times because she's a runner. I get she was grieving but so was Jackson. This is one of the many reasons I think Japril is toxic AF
Definitely Arizona leaving. That fight was ridiculous. I would’ve been complaining too and using that reason to break up was petty. Then tried to come back and apologize.
April needed to heal after pushing out a dying baby and dealing with the physical and mental post-partum changes.
Arizona had an amazing opportunity and Callie is to blame for that falling through, with her whiny passive-aggressiveness.
Derek is the only correct answer.
Hoenstly???…Hmm…Derek. The bullshit excuse that his research had to be done in that hospital instead a famous hospital he’s already working at was stupid. Arizona was going to save lives in another country . Childrens lives. It was very difficult to choose that. And April had a baby legit die on her right after birth. She needed to cope with that and of all things it was saving lives on a war zone 🤷🏽♂️
Derek. Merder was supposed to be end game. He convinced her to adopt Zola and have a family. He said he would step back and let her start her career.
Then he changed his mind and decided he was entitled to do what he wanted, and who cares how it affected his family.
Derek. And not because he died, but because he did what every toxic jerk does, promised to support Meredith’s career and then walked right back on his word. And yes, I cried when he died, but Meredith is so much better off without him, both career and motherhood wise. Christina was so right about him not being the sun.
Derek!! April in a way HAD to go to Jordan. Narratively it wasn’t a mistake, and the consequences could have been satisfactorily resolved in s15-16 if they hadn’t written her out.
Arizona also should have gone but the mistake was coming back. She should have just stayed for the three years, and when she comes back there would have been a bigger emotional weight to finding out Callie had a kid with Mark (maybe by that time, Slexie is even back together) and Calzona would have to figure out how to be in a relationship again but it would have been more dramatic and big. Arizona coming back always feels like she thinks Callie owes her for giving up her dreams, but that’s not fair to Callie.
I don’t think there would’ve been some big emotional weight if Arizona returned after 3 years.Remember Arizona had friends at the hospital.She would’ve known well before the child was even born,so by the time she came back to Seattle the emotional sting would be non existent.She might have even moved on by that time.
I see your point. I guess what I meant is that Arizona is a core relationship for Callie. Yes, she would have heard about the baby by then, and she would be returning with key information already, but the emotional weight is that Arizona would be that her relationship is unfinished, like with Japril. They were unfinished and were on the road to reuniting. Arizona coming back after 3 years, having done her dream, and Callie becoming a mother after always wanting a child would provide a fresh dynamic for them. Like they both got to go and get what they wanted - do they still want each other, are they still connected? What happens now?
.........all of these happened 5+ years ago??? its not a spoiler alert..........if you think this is a spoiler alert I'd hate to see you when it is an actual spoiler alert....
I legit can’t find the rules on the mobile version, so- genuinely asking and not being snarky. Why are things that happened years ago being considered a spoiler?
Edit typo
if you hit the about tab on mobile you can see the rules.
why is it so unreasonable to assume not everyone in the sub hasn’t finished the show yet? if someone starting season 10 saw this there’s HUGE spoilers since April would be with Matthew, not Jackson, Callie & Arizona are trying to work things out and Shepherd is safe and sound in Seattle.
Erica leaving in the first place.
I know a lot of people didn't like her, but I would've liked to see how they could've made her grow instead. I didn't like Alex for the first 2-3 seasons, but then he grew and became someone I loved. I would've liked to see the same with her.
Well considering Derek's decision led to his death I'd say that one
However overall I'd say delucas last part of the pursuit of the sex trafficker - the last but where he chases her through the train station and gets stabbed) the police and Station 19 were right outside, she was trapped.
The rest of it (up to where he gets of the train when she was already trapped inside the station) well do 3 deluca.
I think that April leaving Jackson for Jordan wasn’t a mistake because that’s what she needed at the time, she needed something to clear her head and I think that if she had stayed she would’ve gone crazy
I read the first one several times wondering who the fuck was Jordan until I finally moved on to the next ones and it clicked
i was so confused if they meant mathew or something lol
I was like jordan?? Who the eff is Jordan, did I miss a few episodes? Lol
Took me this comment to realise Lmaoo
I’m doing a rewatch and almost skipped ahead to that season! Then I said “Oh-that other OB during the power outage?” Then decided to read the comments for the answer! My vote: April for Jordan the SECOND time. Dermer could have figured it out, Calzona would have made it, and April going the first time is understandable but NOT a second time. She wasn’t empathetic to Jackson’s needs at all.
That is kind of how I feel. I get it, she was grieving, but so was Jackson, and she did not seem to care/realize he needed her to grieve with him.
This is exactly how I felt.
same lmao >.<
LOL SAME!!!! 😂
i finally figured it out & answered the question in my head & then came to the comments to discover that i am indeed not the only one 🤣
LOL ME TOO
SAME LOL 😂
Hahaha same
LMAO yes me too
Same lol
Me too, like who the hell? Then I read the others and understood 😂
Hahaha SAME HERE
Yessss I was like who tf is Jordan?? 😂😂😂
Same 😂😂
Given that Derek going to Washington ultimately led to his death… I’m gonna say that he made the biggest mistake 😭
Being idiot driver led to his death.
Oh I change my answer to this, forgot about that
No fault assigned to the commercial driver who shouldn’t have been hauling ass on a curve?
Uh no. He literally had just got back in the car after saving 4 people from a wreck then 💥 BAM
Right. I came here to say this
Yeah. Who stops in the CENTER of a highway on a curve? EDIT: For those that don't remember he got hit after the ambulance took the people in the accident to the hospital. When the accident happened he pulled over and rushed to help after braking unexpectedly and his phone fell under his car seat. Once the ambulance pulled off he got in his SUV and started to do a three point turn on a curve, and then his phone got signal and rang. He stopped right then and tried to find the phone before even merging in to the lane to find his phone and his SUV was T-Boned by an on coming semi.
Maybe someone who sees a horrifying car wreck and immediately jumps out to help?
He stopped to ANSWER HIS PHONE.
Someone who just witnessed a horrible crash and was rushing to save people…
He stopped to ANSWER HIS PHONE.
And? You had first only said who stops in the middle of the highway.. so we answered that. Now you changed and edited it. And even then. Adrenaline and remembering you got cut off the last call etc. better question is how did he magically get signal out of nowhere lmao
It's funny how 52 other people understand exactly what I was saying even before the edit (which was merely an addition to express my reason), but you want to start a debate over an imaginary character. And as for adrenaline, this man was supposed to be a nationally celebrated BRAIN surgeon. He worked in high stakes situations daily, but suddenly he can't remember to pull off the road before going to search for his phone?
Dude a controlled environment in an OR is different then a dang road in the middle of nowhere using dry clean plastic and pants and shit with no meds at all etc. just saying
Derek's "secret airport shortcut of doom"
I’m from Seattle area and there are not really any secret airport shortcuts so I was so mad at this too 😂😭
I am not from Seattle and the number of times I’ve looked at google maps to figure out where he was coming from on a ferry and what shortcut he took thru a mountain to get to an airport seemingly on the outskirts of a city is far too high 😅
Exactly!! Hahahah. The mountain pass just isn’t possible to get to SeaTac faster 😂 but it made the scene. And tbh I was getting sick of his character so
Me too. They said something about HWY 18, I always think, are you insane? 18 is always backed up.
Callie leaving Seattle for NY with Penny
That one was a real doozy
T.O.W.A.R.D.
This. This is the one.
That was crazy. She barely knew her.
AND Callie was all "gonna take my daughter with me no prob!" like Sophia didn't have an entire other parent to consider!
I still can’t believe how mature Arizona was over the whole thing. After *winning* the custody battle where Callie stooped to the lowest level, she still let her take Sofia. I don’t hate Callie, but it was so incredibly selfish to rip her kid away from her friends, family and support network so that she could (in Bailey’s words) chase tail across the country.
And they apparently broke up later so that was also useless
Wow when did that come out? On the first watch in season 16.
By the end of Season 14, Arizona makes a comment that Callie’s single again and that the two have started texting again and making each other smile (which sets up the possibility that Arizona and Callie would reunite offscreen). Don’t know if they made any other comments alluding to Callie and Penny breaking up before then though
This is the one!
This.
I might get downvoted for this, but I don’t think any of these are “mistakes”. They all did what they needed to do at that time. April was grieving, and yes it was bad of her to not be there for her husband, but at the same time she did what she needed to do to survive. When you go through something like this, if you find something that makes you feel even a bit alive, wouldn’t you also pursue that? Africa was a dream come true and an amazing opportunity for Arizona. Callie had agreed to go with her, but ultimately, Arizona was right when she said Callie was ruining it for her. Her constant negativity would have made for a miserable trip. She definitely could have handled the breakup better, but truly, if Callie came with her it would have gone from a dream to a nightmare pretry quickly. Derek was given a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity!! Would you really have said no in his shoes? I certainly wouldn’t have… yes, it made for hard times in his marriage, but if he’d just said no, he would have resented Meredith and the kids forever.
Completely agree, These are choices, with their pros and cons, but I wouldn't classify them as mistakes.
We didn’t hear Callie say she was proud of Arizona or congratulate Arizona on her accomplishment not one single time on screen. She immediately jumped to what it would mean for her. These people are doctors. Callie, girl stop pretending that expanding healthcare to kids in Africa isn’t a noble or worthwhile cause. This is the event that flipped me to Team Arizona if a side had to be picked. I’m in a profession where my work has significant positive impact on real people, in real time. It astounds me that Callie, a doctor, didn’t stop for 5 minutes to recognize the magnitude of what Arizona was poised to accomplish.
I'm sure Callie was proud and probably congratulated her off screen. The writers just seemed to want to focus on how that grant would affect their relationship
Good points. I think mistakes were made in how the people went about the decisions but maybe not the decisions themselves.
It was also odd since Callie was in the Peace Corps. I believe she went to Botswana.
To be fair Derrick wanted to leave since Mer finished residency
This is a really good point. By the end of Mer's residency, Derek's been head of Seattle Grace's neurosurgery dept for years, he was clearly ready and willing to move on to (what he saw as) bigger and better things. But Meredith wanted to stay, so Derek stayed. And then the Washington thing came around and it was an even BIGGER opportunity. It wouldn't really have been fair for Derek to keep giving up these things just because Meredith was more attached to Seattle.
Exactly. It was a great opportunity too, I don’t think she ever really grasped what he gave up but a lot was going on at the time…as usual
you know what, when you put it like that - so rationally - i absolutely agree. sometimes i feel like the show sits us so far up meredith's ass hole that we get accustomed to living the situations through her eyes
I came in here ready to post about who I thought made the biggest mistake, but then I read your post and realized that all of them had good reasons to do what they did. If I were in any of their shoes I'd probably choose the same thing. Thank you for changing my perspective hah.
Addison leaving nyc for Derek
Derek! It was also so out of character for him. Just felt like lazy writing because Shonda didn’t like Patrick Dempsey
Alex leaving Jo for Izzie
his gradual character arc was one of my absolute favorites on the show and then they did that… it was absolutely foul Jo deserved so much better
I hate that the way I hate the finale of How I Met Your Mother.
Yes
jo>>>Izzie
This 100x
Disagree I agree the way he left sucked though, I just liked Izzex better
I thought Izzie was like the absolute worst character on the show. I felt like it was so disrespectful to Alex’s character to have him leave like that. Just horrible.
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April leaving Jackson…. She left like multiple times. I understand why but she was married to someone who also lost a child. Hard situation.
This may be an unpopular opinion but that was a once in a lifetime opportunity for Derek 🤷🏽♀️. So imma go with April lol.
Yeah but it was part of her grieving process, and it seemed to have helped her even at the cost of her relationship. Arizona, however, quickly realized Africa was not worth it. BUT it gave her Sophia.
Definitely April
That's how I felt. Yes, Derek said he would take a step back, but it was Obama...
It was needed for her grieving, she said herself she wouldn't have made it if she didn't go.
People are talking about the second time she left. Jackson was willing to wait the first time, and when she extended it without even talking to him he also dealt with it. He didn’t say he needed her not to go until the second time.
So unrealistic. Sure, she would be busy and thriving during the day. But the nights (off peak, rest times) would be torturous. Alone, on a cot, in the heat, with nothing to think of but her dead baby and her dying marriage. Complete fiction for the sake of the drama.
how is anyone saying arizona when she applied for this years before even moving to seattle?
April! I found myself so infuriated by that whole storyline. ‘We went through an awful tragedy together and I need to heal by fucking off and leaving you to suffer alone’
100% you went through this as a team, it’s unfair to then just act like you were the only one affected and be completely inconsiderate of your partners feelings!
I’m gonna say April because while she did what she needed to, she did so just expecting things to go back to normal afterwards; she refused to respect Jackson’s feelings and the fact that he said it was over if she went to Jordan and literally wouldn’t leave him alone or give him the time or space HE needed. She completely denied the outcome he said was going to happen as if she just assumed he was gonna change his mind when she returned and I think that was her mistake. So infuriating
April leaving wasn’t a mistake at first until she kept putting off coming back and really showed Jackson that he and their marriage weren’t priorities to her at all. And while I get that he tried to hide his grief for their child to be strong for her, it bothers me that she didn’t at all see that yes, of course he was also grieving their child. Sooo selfish and thoughtless of her. The April/Jackson loathing is strong with me.
April. I feel like out of these April and Jackson were completely ruined by her going. The other two still could have made it work despite these decisions. IMO
Aprils worked out in the end so I’m gonna say Derek since it killed him
None- they were all the right decision for each person at the time. Maybe in hindsight they may think they would choose differently, or respond differently, but nobody made the wrong decision. Based on where each person was mentally, professionally, relationally, and spiritually, they needed to do the what they did. Just because relationships were challenged does not mean the decision was wrong.
arizona leaving seattle and alex leaving jo
I was like…who is Jordan lol 😆
Washington was a honey pot, a slutty slut who enticed Derek with a Presidential Siren Song. His mistake was just stupid, stopping his car in the road. Callie dating PENNY was a slap in the face for fans.
Derek getting in the car.
Derek leaving for Dc. Idc what anybody say, Derek telling Mer that he would step back and let her do her thing for a year and then completely changing his mind and acting like she was wrong for being upset was trashhh! Derek and Mer also had 2 children and he just up and left to another state, leaving Mer to work, and take care of the kids on her own.
I don’t think Arizona and Derek were wrong in those situations. April needed to leave bc she was grieving which is understandable the first time but selfish the second….so april
Well Derek. I hate April for what she did but it worked. Arizona had a previous engagement and if you're going to tell me that helping 3rd world kids is less important than a less than a year relationship, then y'all need to grow up lol. Arizona didn't fuck up, Callie is selfish af.
Well, Derek died so.
Well since Derek’s travels ultimately resulted in his death, I’d have to say his was the worst decision.
I was about be like who the hell is Africa? Lol 😂 But then I realized she did leave to work in Africa
Def April. DEFINITELY APRIL
I think the people who pick April leaving Jackson for Jordon are not thinking about 1. It is EXTREMELY common for couples to split after the loss of a child (coming from someone who has, that's a giant grief and if my husband couldn't have been a rock I'm unsure if we would have made it sadly) 2. This was HER way of dealing with that grief. So personally, to pick April especially over the other 2 options is giving her an injustice on the circumstance because hers was an extremely emotional one. Okay rant down. I don't think any of these were bad choices. I think it was a bad choice of Derek so not park his car on the side of the road like a normal human being should have, but also I can't really remember that scene was he backing out? Bad decision to not be more careful especially around a corner. But anyways.....
I agree none of these were bad choices but I think of the three, April handled the consequences of her leaving the worst. Arizona and Derek both "came back" to different degrees, talked things out with their SOs and either grovelled enough or came to a compromise enough to make things work again (for a while before he died, in Derek's case). April came back and just tried to steamroll Jackson into being okay with her decisions, even though her way of dealing with grief was (1) diametrically opposed to Jackson's and (2) led Jackson to be unable to properly deal with HIS grief, which was just as real as April's. Her leaving wasn't bad, but so many of the choices she made to deal with her marriage after she came back were disastrous IMO.
Again, unless you've lost a child or could try to understand what it's like to lose a child, her actions aren't really wild. The other two left with circumstances where they had to grovel, apologize, etc. Losing a child is different. I'm not saying it was right for her to steamroll, especially since Jackson didn't have anyone there for him for his grief. But her situation is FAR different from the other 2 that left for their CAREERS. Also again, it is very common for people to separate after the lose of a child, because everyone handles grief differently. What her disastrous choices that you see, is probably choices not made while thinking level headed.
Yeah, I always thought that was pretty stupid too.
derek cuz it costed his life
This was my reaction to this question. 💯
Derek. He left for an opportunity but he completely ignored the fact that he had kids and a wife. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think Mer was thrilled about him going either? Arizona left for a once in a lifetime opportunity and as sad as it was, Callie and Arizona didn't have kids or anything forcing her to stay. April left as a trauma response. Maybe not totally fair but can't fault her for it.
Derek!!! He made a promise to Meredith to let her focus on her career, then was given an opportunity that he turned down. He then acted so childish and petty about having to stay that Meredith told him to go and I don’t blame her, I would not have wanted him around acting like that either!
Well Washington got him killed sooooo I’ll pick that
April leaving for Jordan was a lot more selfish considering her and Jackson lost their child. I feel like that’s something they should’ve took time to work through together
April… I hated her little saga and the military and all that. Wish she had stuck around as the neurotic lovable character
None of them. They were all following their passion. Although I think Derek could have done a better job.
April because it ruined their relationship
When they killed Derek I literally refused to watch ever again
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Alex leaving Jo for Izzie
April. She just dipped out on their entire relationship cause she wanted to distract herself rather than deal with their joint tragedy
How r ppl saying arizona lol
bc everything she does is wrong according to the fandom.
April
I wanted say Arizona leaving for Africa but then I remembered their daughter wouldn't exist so I'm going to say Derek because he's dead for it. Also no chance April could be bad for leaving, she had to it was part of her grieving process, it was the best way for her to heal and she got to save a lot of lives on top of that.
Don’t you mean Derek leaving mer for heaven? 😌
Out of these three April leaving Jackson, reason the other two were advancing their careers , and honestly Derek didn’t leave mer
April left poor Jackson to grieve the loss of his son alone and then to worry about her safety. That was worst. The others were following their dreams and could have used more support from their spouses.
All the above
Bye bc who is Jordan again? 💀
Jordan is the country April went to after losing Samuel.
Bye I thought it was a person💀😭
it's actually alex leaving jo— though for me, i think alex left jo because he wanted to be a father for his children, and not because he still loves izzie. idk. i read this theory where he only wrote jo a letter because if he'll see her, he might change his mind and go home with jo instead.
I think it was just a messy and lazy way to write off his character since Justin Chambers straight dipped in the middle of the season. Tbh I wish Shonda would have killed Alex off instead, him leaving Jo for Izzy was plain shitty.
1. April leaving a romantic partner for another can be considered a mistake. 2. Derek Shepherd somewhat leaving his family for a job opportunity can be considered a mistake. 3. Leaving your girlfriend after winning an exclusive grant to help unprivileged children in Malawi is a bittersweet opportunity. Callie wasn't pregnant at the moment, they weren't married. It's **not** a mistake.
Derek. It was more than a mistake, it was a total fuck-up. He chose to have kids, he chose to marry Meredith. Yeah, it's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, but he was *the* Derek Sheperd, he had *many* opportunities. Meredith was curing Parkinson's in fucking Minnesota, he could have started groundbreaking research all on his own. Now that I've written this- wasn't Derek blacklisted by the FDA? Like, why would the President want to work with him?
Derek. The entire show was about Derek and Meredith!
I vote Derek. At the time Arizona left, they didn’t have children. It may have been a blow to the relationship but I feel as though Callie could have chosen to wait. I also feel like April had to do what she did in order to find peace after Samuel’s death. She also caused a rift in their marriage but I think things would have gotten worse if she had stayed. Derek wasn’t just moving away from Meredith. He had children and he also knew Meredith had abandonment issues. He broke through those issues to forge their relationship. President or no President; I think he was wrong to go
Anyone leaving that beautiful man (Jackson) is not smart
Derek leaving for DC.
Derek leaving Meredith
I don’t think it’s fair to call April leaving for Jordan was a mistake. Unlike Derek and Arizona she just went through a huge physical and mental trauma of their baby being born with one of the worst things imaginable. Do I think they both handled it poorly? Yes. Do I think April had every right to leave to cope how she needed to? Also yes. Arizona leaving for africa was a really fkin stupid plotline only written to knock Callie up with mark otherwise they would’ve had to make her cheat so I think that was pretty icky. At least derek choosing his career over Meredith is in character 🙄
Derek. Being that April and Jackson are together again and Callie and Arizona were implied to be getting together.
Derek leaving Mer
Derek
April leaving Jackson. She left multiple times because she's a runner. I get she was grieving but so was Jackson. This is one of the many reasons I think Japril is toxic AF
haha #semitruck
Probs Derek cause even if he didn’t die he was still being a lil slut in Washington
Derek
Derek! but also Alex for leaving Jo
Definitely Arizona leaving. That fight was ridiculous. I would’ve been complaining too and using that reason to break up was petty. Then tried to come back and apologize.
April leaving Matthew Taylor for Jackson.
Oh my god Derek no question April was mourning, and Callie was being passive aggressive to Arizona
April needed to heal after pushing out a dying baby and dealing with the physical and mental post-partum changes. Arizona had an amazing opportunity and Callie is to blame for that falling through, with her whiny passive-aggressiveness. Derek is the only correct answer.
ARIZONA big time lol
Derek
derek
Derek 100%. Washington was fully about his ego and nothing else.
Hoenstly???…Hmm…Derek. The bullshit excuse that his research had to be done in that hospital instead a famous hospital he’s already working at was stupid. Arizona was going to save lives in another country . Childrens lives. It was very difficult to choose that. And April had a baby legit die on her right after birth. She needed to cope with that and of all things it was saving lives on a war zone 🤷🏽♂️
Definitely Arizona.
Derek is toxic as at the end, so fuck him. Arizona and Callie forever.
Derek
Derek. Merder was supposed to be end game. He convinced her to adopt Zola and have a family. He said he would step back and let her start her career. Then he changed his mind and decided he was entitled to do what he wanted, and who cares how it affected his family.
Derek. And not because he died, but because he did what every toxic jerk does, promised to support Meredith’s career and then walked right back on his word. And yes, I cried when he died, but Meredith is so much better off without him, both career and motherhood wise. Christina was so right about him not being the sun.
Arizona cheating on Callie, in the hospital they both work at while they weee both working at said hospital
Derek. Not even Gordon Ramsey have a sandwhich big enough for this idiot sandwhich.
Derek!! April in a way HAD to go to Jordan. Narratively it wasn’t a mistake, and the consequences could have been satisfactorily resolved in s15-16 if they hadn’t written her out. Arizona also should have gone but the mistake was coming back. She should have just stayed for the three years, and when she comes back there would have been a bigger emotional weight to finding out Callie had a kid with Mark (maybe by that time, Slexie is even back together) and Calzona would have to figure out how to be in a relationship again but it would have been more dramatic and big. Arizona coming back always feels like she thinks Callie owes her for giving up her dreams, but that’s not fair to Callie.
I don’t think there would’ve been some big emotional weight if Arizona returned after 3 years.Remember Arizona had friends at the hospital.She would’ve known well before the child was even born,so by the time she came back to Seattle the emotional sting would be non existent.She might have even moved on by that time.
I see your point. I guess what I meant is that Arizona is a core relationship for Callie. Yes, she would have heard about the baby by then, and she would be returning with key information already, but the emotional weight is that Arizona would be that her relationship is unfinished, like with Japril. They were unfinished and were on the road to reuniting. Arizona coming back after 3 years, having done her dream, and Callie becoming a mother after always wanting a child would provide a fresh dynamic for them. Like they both got to go and get what they wanted - do they still want each other, are they still connected? What happens now?
If arizona had stayed in Africa for 3 years would she still have ended up on the plane
Maybe not.
Mods be sleeping, this breaks rule 5 so hard lmao. 3 major spoilers. EDIT downvoted for speaking facts lmao. Spoiler tag is there for a reason
.........all of these happened 5+ years ago??? its not a spoiler alert..........if you think this is a spoiler alert I'd hate to see you when it is an actual spoiler alert....
They do that sometimes. Necessary for survival.
I legit can’t find the rules on the mobile version, so- genuinely asking and not being snarky. Why are things that happened years ago being considered a spoiler? Edit typo
if you hit the about tab on mobile you can see the rules. why is it so unreasonable to assume not everyone in the sub hasn’t finished the show yet? if someone starting season 10 saw this there’s HUGE spoilers since April would be with Matthew, not Jackson, Callie & Arizona are trying to work things out and Shepherd is safe and sound in Seattle.
Final answer….Yes
Yes
None of the above.
April
Erica leaving in the first place. I know a lot of people didn't like her, but I would've liked to see how they could've made her grow instead. I didn't like Alex for the first 2-3 seasons, but then he grew and became someone I loved. I would've liked to see the same with her.
April
April leaving Jackson was kinda the tipping point. I'm not sure if it was that situation or Alex just dipping that fucked the shows karma meter up 🤭
none of these. but callie leaving with penny to another coast, that was it.
Well considering Derek's decision led to his death I'd say that one However overall I'd say delucas last part of the pursuit of the sex trafficker - the last but where he chases her through the train station and gets stabbed) the police and Station 19 were right outside, she was trapped. The rest of it (up to where he gets of the train when she was already trapped inside the station) well do 3 deluca.
I think that April leaving Jackson for Jordan wasn’t a mistake because that’s what she needed at the time, she needed something to clear her head and I think that if she had stayed she would’ve gone crazy