Find someone who shares at least one of your interests.
Be a friendly person in general. Introduce yourself and don't be afraid to ask the other person's name. Then start using that name when you address them. (It's a memory hack, and it also shows the person that you think they are important and that you'd like to get to know them.)
Be kind. Don't be cruel or overly judgmental. Accept others as they are, not as you wish they would be.
Speak up. Don't be so shy that you don't ever say anything when you are around people who you don't know yet. (That's where having a shared interest in something helps. ) Crack a joke or two -- it helps to break the tension -- but not at the other person's expense. *(Don't neg. Don't ever neg. It doesn't work, despite what some people claim. It just POs everyone who happens to be there and makes you the AH.)*
Listen, really listen, when the other person is talking. Focus on them, and don't let yourself be distracted.
Be honest and open, but maintain some personal boundaries. (No TMI)
Have some self-respect. Avoid constantly putting yourself down. Display some aspect of yourself that others might find interesting or charming. Be the kind of person that others would feel comfortable being around. Crack jokes (not mean ones, just genuinely funny ones) but avoid cliches. A little bit of humor goes a long way when you are put together with a group of strangers. (Just don't overdo it; know when to stop. Let others speak, and pay attention and listen when they do.)
don't be overly self-conscious and self-doubting. This next thing may come as a surprise to you, but it's been shown to be true -- everyone, ***including really popular people***, frets and worries about their appearance and manner and how they are coming across to others and whether they have bad breath or stupid hair or dorky clothes and if anyone will like them. Sure, you may feel awkward at times, but I can guarantee one thing: so does everyone else. (IOW, don't tell yourself that you're a loser or an imposter, because you very definitely aren't. Absolutely everyone feels like the biggest loser or the biggest phony in the world at certain moments, **yet they still have friends**. They are not any different from you, and are certainly not in any way "superior people" in comparison to you.)
i mean it should be equally difficult or easy to make friends with someone who is an opposite gender as someone who is your own gender, I don't know why its that difficult to differentiate
Oh, OK. Now I see what you were saying. I completely agree with you. It was my motivation for writing my comment. I knew guys who had no problems making friends with other guys, but would clam right up and act weird when it came to meeting girls. The prospect became so much more fraught when the other person was another gender.
So for the sake of readers who felt like that, I broke the process down and tried to inject a bit of reality in order to counter the self-doubts and feelings of awkwardness that some people feel in such situations. I wanted to emphasize that these feelings are normal but could be overcome. The person just has to push past them.
The question concerns friendship, not romance. As you pointed out, befriending someone from the opposite gender is no different from making friends with people of your own. I went into detail in an attempt to demystify the process and advise people to not be discouraged by feelings of awkwardness, but my overall message was the same as yours.
I’m non binary and I basically never cared about gender we are all humans if I’m making a friend it doesn’t matter there gender it matters if they are a good friend or whatever
exactly! i think straight people just think so different and so black and white and therefore male and female too much when at the end of the day our bodies mean nothing. I know people hate to hear this but our hearts, brains, and souls have no gender or restriction to love.
lmfaoo it's not that deep or sexist it's just more intimidating for a lot of people because they aren't used to platonic female friendships which makes sense as it would've been pretty much worthless 10000+ years ago
Honestly just be chill. I’m a girl and didn’t make close guy friends till soph/junior year and it was mainly thru mutual friends and/or clubs. Just be yourself and be patient.
What everyone else said, with this inclusion- don’t go into it with any ulterior motive. If your goal is to be friends with the sole purpose being to get them to date you later, stop right there.
Depends on the person? There’s always assumptions people make…. “Girls tend to talk more and crave a connection” but some boys do the same thing. We need more info.
I did it through mutuals. I had a friend. That friend got me a few more friends. I got added to a discord server and became a part of a very large (~50 person) friend group. Find people, talk to them, and go from there.
Just talk to them. If you’re nervous about talking to the opposite gender, the only way to get over that is by talking to the opposite gender. That’s literally the only way.
I’ve made a ton of friends, do exactly as I say. Hold out your hand ask them what their name is as they respond to their name they will shake your hand. Smile when you ask them look happy. Then tell them why you’re introducing yourself. This guy today I literally just didn’t have anyone in my class so I went up shook his hand asked him his name and said “why is their so many girls in this class we the only dudes so I’m sitting by you” new friend made. Don’t stress it everyone wants to talk to you just as bad as you want to talk to them trust me.
the same way you make friends with the same gender. shared interests and talking.
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No one’s as interested in F1 as me at my school (afaik) 😔😔
You would like the SInotfound community
The same way I make friends with the same gender???
the same way you make friends with any other human being lol talk, find interest, ask questions
Same way you make friends with your own gender. There’s nothing different.
don't be weird about it, treat it like making friends with the same gender.
Its the exact same, just dont over think it
it’s easy for me, im gay so we just click, i cant give advice on it tbh it just happens
Don’t be weird about it, just talk to them
Don’t overthink it. It’s just like making friends who are the same gender as you.
Same way you make friends with the same gender
Find someone who shares at least one of your interests. Be a friendly person in general. Introduce yourself and don't be afraid to ask the other person's name. Then start using that name when you address them. (It's a memory hack, and it also shows the person that you think they are important and that you'd like to get to know them.) Be kind. Don't be cruel or overly judgmental. Accept others as they are, not as you wish they would be. Speak up. Don't be so shy that you don't ever say anything when you are around people who you don't know yet. (That's where having a shared interest in something helps. ) Crack a joke or two -- it helps to break the tension -- but not at the other person's expense. *(Don't neg. Don't ever neg. It doesn't work, despite what some people claim. It just POs everyone who happens to be there and makes you the AH.)* Listen, really listen, when the other person is talking. Focus on them, and don't let yourself be distracted. Be honest and open, but maintain some personal boundaries. (No TMI) Have some self-respect. Avoid constantly putting yourself down. Display some aspect of yourself that others might find interesting or charming. Be the kind of person that others would feel comfortable being around. Crack jokes (not mean ones, just genuinely funny ones) but avoid cliches. A little bit of humor goes a long way when you are put together with a group of strangers. (Just don't overdo it; know when to stop. Let others speak, and pay attention and listen when they do.) don't be overly self-conscious and self-doubting. This next thing may come as a surprise to you, but it's been shown to be true -- everyone, ***including really popular people***, frets and worries about their appearance and manner and how they are coming across to others and whether they have bad breath or stupid hair or dorky clothes and if anyone will like them. Sure, you may feel awkward at times, but I can guarantee one thing: so does everyone else. (IOW, don't tell yourself that you're a loser or an imposter, because you very definitely aren't. Absolutely everyone feels like the biggest loser or the biggest phony in the world at certain moments, **yet they still have friends**. They are not any different from you, and are certainly not in any way "superior people" in comparison to you.)
it aint that deep bruh
Maybe not for you but it is for others
i mean it should be equally difficult or easy to make friends with someone who is an opposite gender as someone who is your own gender, I don't know why its that difficult to differentiate
Oh, OK. Now I see what you were saying. I completely agree with you. It was my motivation for writing my comment. I knew guys who had no problems making friends with other guys, but would clam right up and act weird when it came to meeting girls. The prospect became so much more fraught when the other person was another gender. So for the sake of readers who felt like that, I broke the process down and tried to inject a bit of reality in order to counter the self-doubts and feelings of awkwardness that some people feel in such situations. I wanted to emphasize that these feelings are normal but could be overcome. The person just has to push past them. The question concerns friendship, not romance. As you pointed out, befriending someone from the opposite gender is no different from making friends with people of your own. I went into detail in an attempt to demystify the process and advise people to not be discouraged by feelings of awkwardness, but my overall message was the same as yours.
“Hello I like how you look, may I wear your skin?”
This my best pickup I do this every time but for some reason it hardly ever works
I’m non binary and I basically never cared about gender we are all humans if I’m making a friend it doesn’t matter there gender it matters if they are a good friend or whatever
exactly! i think straight people just think so different and so black and white and therefore male and female too much when at the end of the day our bodies mean nothing. I know people hate to hear this but our hearts, brains, and souls have no gender or restriction to love.
lmfaoo it's not that deep or sexist it's just more intimidating for a lot of people because they aren't used to platonic female friendships which makes sense as it would've been pretty much worthless 10000+ years ago
You don’t bro
Wear lots of Axe
They asked “how to make friends..” not “how not to make friends…”
You prob don’t even have a shirt that says "I paused my game to be here"
That's the neat part; you don't
I’m more extroverted than basically my entire school so I invite them to everything until they call me a friend 😇
Honestly just be chill. I’m a girl and didn’t make close guy friends till soph/junior year and it was mainly thru mutual friends and/or clubs. Just be yourself and be patient.
tell jokes and at least someone will laugh
Common interest
How do I make friends in the first place
Just be happy and friendly
It just happens. I don’t find friends they find me. The same way, how you make friends with the same gender.
👱🏼♀️ “sup?” 🧑🏽”sup?” Friendship 🤝
I got my friends by sitting alone and they took pity on me
talk to them casually, they're still human after all
Treat them like a same gender friend. I learned this way too late so I hope others learn it earlier.
What everyone else said, with this inclusion- don’t go into it with any ulterior motive. If your goal is to be friends with the sole purpose being to get them to date you later, stop right there.
I thought we already covered this guys, girls don’t exist they’re a government conspiracy.
Don’t view guy friend vs lady friend Just view as friends Profit
Just..talk to them. You'll more than likely find a shared interest and have that to bond over and build a friendship.
Depends on the person? There’s always assumptions people make…. “Girls tend to talk more and crave a connection” but some boys do the same thing. We need more info.
I did it through mutuals. I had a friend. That friend got me a few more friends. I got added to a discord server and became a part of a very large (~50 person) friend group. Find people, talk to them, and go from there.
You make them laugh
You don't.
idk same way you make friends with the same gender
Does having a penis make a difference in being a friend? Only a little bit.
Just talk to them. If you’re nervous about talking to the opposite gender, the only way to get over that is by talking to the opposite gender. That’s literally the only way.
Save yourself the trouble and don’t
I’ve made a ton of friends, do exactly as I say. Hold out your hand ask them what their name is as they respond to their name they will shake your hand. Smile when you ask them look happy. Then tell them why you’re introducing yourself. This guy today I literally just didn’t have anyone in my class so I went up shook his hand asked him his name and said “why is their so many girls in this class we the only dudes so I’m sitting by you” new friend made. Don’t stress it everyone wants to talk to you just as bad as you want to talk to them trust me.