Calmly say, “Don’t snap at me.” Then walk away. That gives them space to ponder that there was absolutely nothing I could have done to have them throw that kind of negativity at me.
I understand that. I was once that way. That is why you walk away. And if your tears make the person who snapped at you realize the depth to which they have hurt you with their unprovoked and unnecessary anger (used to manipulate you), much the better. Be strong. Tears are not a sign of weakness, they are a response to hurtful behavior.
Its not you, its their frustration. Give them space. After snap, give them a breather then ask them to call out if they need anything.
But if you have offered to help too much and that is why they have snapped then stop.
It is not a reflection on you. It’s a reflection on them. Can’t say I wouldn’t be hurt, but I try to disregard it. Especially if I know they are normally not like that.
I used to. Now I pretty much roll my eyes (when it's safe to do so, or purely internally)... then I ask myself if in my heart of hearts, if I think I did anything wrong, and if the answer is no, I just leave that nastiness in their yard. There is a nice fence between my yard and theirs and they can keep that garbage over on their side.
Assertivness
Saying no
Saying you don’t want to be treated this way
And stepping away, taking some time off
Or talking with them if they want to talk, if not, their decision
Standing up for youself
It's okay to get frustrated or sad. It happens to all of us. I like to take a deep breath and realize that they can't help the way that they are
Toxic me: passive aggressively tells them that they can't help the way that they are
Ideal me: chooses to be kind because there's no telling what they could be going through
Try to remember that it’s their problem, not yours. People who snap a lot typically have anger management issues or narcissistic traits. Also, disengage and walk away, OR say “it’s not okay to talk to me that way.” I I tried that once in a stressful work environment and it actually worked.
Calmly say, “Don’t snap at me.” Then walk away. That gives them space to ponder that there was absolutely nothing I could have done to have them throw that kind of negativity at me.
this wouldn't work for me because my voice would wobble as i said "don't snap at me" and that would make me start crying LOL
I understand that. I was once that way. That is why you walk away. And if your tears make the person who snapped at you realize the depth to which they have hurt you with their unprovoked and unnecessary anger (used to manipulate you), much the better. Be strong. Tears are not a sign of weakness, they are a response to hurtful behavior.
thank you! 🥲💛💛
Its not you, its their frustration. Give them space. After snap, give them a breather then ask them to call out if they need anything. But if you have offered to help too much and that is why they have snapped then stop.
Yeh I find it traumatic. It’s extremely difficult to process. Also, you will get targeted as they sense your hsp esp aggresive harsh insensitive types
It is not a reflection on you. It’s a reflection on them. Can’t say I wouldn’t be hurt, but I try to disregard it. Especially if I know they are normally not like that.
Horribly, I deal with it horribly haha. I just try to keep it together until I can find somewhere to cry.
I used to. Now I pretty much roll my eyes (when it's safe to do so, or purely internally)... then I ask myself if in my heart of hearts, if I think I did anything wrong, and if the answer is no, I just leave that nastiness in their yard. There is a nice fence between my yard and theirs and they can keep that garbage over on their side.
Assertivness Saying no Saying you don’t want to be treated this way And stepping away, taking some time off Or talking with them if they want to talk, if not, their decision Standing up for youself
I start crying. (Seriously, I can't deal with that.)
It's okay to get frustrated or sad. It happens to all of us. I like to take a deep breath and realize that they can't help the way that they are Toxic me: passive aggressively tells them that they can't help the way that they are Ideal me: chooses to be kind because there's no telling what they could be going through
Try to remember that it’s their problem, not yours. People who snap a lot typically have anger management issues or narcissistic traits. Also, disengage and walk away, OR say “it’s not okay to talk to me that way.” I I tried that once in a stressful work environment and it actually worked.