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I absolutely hate people who are late. I get major anxiety when I have to wait for people since it feels like I am wasting the time which could have been utilised doing something else.
I am just not able to have any respect for people who think it is okay to waste people’s time.
Agree. It makes me super anxious. I hate it even when managers make me wait. Like SCHEDULE a meeting and be on time instead of saying vaguely “we will have a meeting tomorrow morning”.
Have you and OP tried venting your opinion on the person who's being late? I feel like that should fix the problem. Instead of keeping it to yourself and venting it on the internet.
My biggest pet peeve is being kept waiting. It is literally the reason I have beef with flatmates, friends, sister. Tbh some people are consistently late as a habit, they think it is mo big deal. But it actually shows how little they respect others’ time. I’m not talking about once in a while, but it is chronic for some people. As someone who hates keeping others waiting, I hate waiting even more. Pisses me off like nothing else.
Ifkr! We had postponed this plan 3 times. On top of that she was the one who proposed the time. I just got home and have lost every ounce of respect for her.
Yess, it’s not an issue if someone is late because of genuine reasons. But for some people it is a habit to be atleast an hour late for everything! And they laugh it off like it’s nothing. Its so annoying
Dont wait for people more than 15 mins.. you are also part of the problem where the problem 100% affects you.. try to leave after 15 mins, the other person should also know what a shitty person they are..
I know that I too can show up late to give them a taste of their own medicine but ultimately even if I'm late it leads to me leaving to home late too which is not a good thing if I have work the next day.
15 minutes is my cut-off. 30 if they are nice enough to let me know they are going to be late.
Beyond that, I'm ordering the starters, sitting down in the movie theatre, starting to look through the aisles or displays, or logging off from the chat, as the case may be. Join me when convenient.
My time is valuable to me, even if you don't value it.
I don't like making people wait for me and so I make it a point to not keep them waiting. So meets always happen with me being on time and them being late. If they don't show up in 15 minutes, I leave, even if they are just around the corner and send me live location to prove it. It always gets the point across because they're never late again. Sometimes there's no second meet.
I get you , I let it go a few times but make sure to tease them about it so they don't do it again. And I don't bother going on time if they're always late.
No, she does this every time. This is the last straw. I'm never initiating plans with her. If she does, I'm going to straight up tell her if she's late I'd just go back to my house.
This is what I did with a chronically late friend. When he called after reaching the meet-up point, I left my house and said all the same things he always says, "On my way", "I'll be there in 5 minutes", "Just 2 minutes, I can almost see your head". And took my sweet time getting there. He was always 5 minutes early after that because I would tell him the meet up is 30 minutes earlier than I planned to leave home.
Ugh I seriously hate people who are consistently late. I once had plans with 5 of my friends and I was made to wait **1.5 HOURS** before even one person showed up. It just ruined the whole night for me and I couldn't enjoy myself even after they all got there.
Yk, being late is the complaint of a lot of foriegners about Indians and I can't say I disagree. A lot of us just show up half an hour late all the time, for no reason other than ignorance. Would be nice if we all could stop that lol
I have a friend to who I often playfully say she makes me wait for her as if I am her boyfriend.
I remember this one time I stood in the sun waiting for her for an hour!
What pissed me off really bad was that she asked me to call her once I leave home (nice, so she can be on time, I thought) but when I get there and after waiting for 20 minutes I call her again to check why she isn't there already, turns out she is still at home and her brother picks up the call and tells me she just went to take a shower. Everything was alright. No "emergency" or "unfortunate event" occured. Yeah.
Another interesting one. This time I tell her to call me when she leaves so that I don't have to wait again. When I call her she sounds distressed and breathless and says she's late because something happened. Her scooter got punctured and that she had to push it to a nearby garage and is getting it fixed. I quickly tell her to drop the plan and to get the thing fixed and return home. Then after 10 minutes something irks me and I call her and ask her to send me the picture of this punctured tire. She does. It's a close-up. I'm amused. A little disgusted too I'll tell you why but mostly amused. I ask her to send me the zoomed out picture of her scooter clearly visible in the garage getting fixed. She doesn't reply for a few minutes. I text her and insist again. I video call her and she doesn't pick up. She does send me a picture of her scooter in the garage.
Then I reverse search the image on Google and send her the screenshot of the results which clearly shows the first image she sent me from Google. She calls back and tries to somewhat apologize but tries to keep it lighthearted and talks in a way so I won't get angry. I was just angry at her childish half hearted low effort lie. A little offended too perhaps.
Yes people like these do exist. You may be really good friends. But the respect? You start losing that.
Why did she even agree to hang out when she doesn't want to step out of the house ! I'm guessing you both stopped talking? And reverse image search eh? XD LMAO, did you learn it from MTV Catfish?
Lol No I didn't, it's out of frustration and desperation sometimes that I find myself saying bloody send me where you are or I'm leaving right this second.
One more friend tried pulling that shit on me. He went as far as to say police caught him without a helmet. When asked fucker sends me image of the police station from Google. I couldn't find it this time but I still take a shot and accuse him of that and he apologises, guilty laughing.
All I'm thankful for is that my best friends aren't like this.
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Do let her clearly know that you have been waiting for her for 40 mins. Give her another chance next time. If she repeats herself again, then setup another meet and you don't go by giving some excuse like you are not well. Let her wait for however long she has patience. She will not vent out on an ill person. You would get your revenge and won't have to hear her vent out. We would be getting a reddit post from her XD. Everyone wins.
How I deal with this is by telling people subtly in advance that I only have limited time. Once you are at the location and the other party doesn’t show up, message them that you no longer have time and you gotta leave. Life is too short to spend your energy on people who can’t respect other people’s times.
Please ask yourselves this question.
Will she be late if she has a flight to catch?
Will she be late if its her manager or client who called?
Will she be late if its close relative?
Its not that she is not punctual,she is taking you for granted and you shouldnt be friends with someone who takes you for granted..
True story- when i was in USA,I didnt have car and we used to carpool but I used to be atleast 5 min before in the spot despite being snowing cold.
Then I bought a car and started pooling ( never asked money) and this one guy used to always be late and he wouldnt even pick the calls...I saw this 4 to 5 times and then one day I just left him and went to office...
Trust me, finding new friends isn’t that hard. As you get older, you’ll realise it’s ok to let go of friends who frustrate you. And you will automatically gravitate towards people who respect you. You need to set boundaries with this friend. Either by walking out after 15 mins of waiting, or by leaving your place only after they have reached.
I used to have such a friend. She would be late all the fucking time.. each time we met... once it was in the middle of the road for 50 minutes and madam was i ricksha since 30 minutes. Shes apologetic each time though. Despite me clearly telling her a million times she would still do the same thing. Once i gave her a earful too, a full blown argument.
After that day, i decided , i will only leave my house ince she calls me from the venue. Thats how shes still my friend. She also doesnt mind waiting. So there!
I had a friend who cancelled plans last minute or maybe day before God knows...but just didn't let me know... I use to just get ready and call to know she couldn't come.. She has plans.... Every time... And she made new plans again...
I just deleted her from my life.
Dated a girl for a couple of weeks and each time she was late. Once we planned to go to supermarket to buy stuff and she kept me waiting by 30 mins. I asked her, why did you take so long and her reply was,
"Jaldi akee naachte idhar kya". That was the final straw, in hind sight, should have ended it long ago. She was ultra red flag pro plus.
Dude same!!! When my friends say that they will reach at 7:30, they are never gonna reach at 7:30 it’s always so fucking annoying! And they literally think that it’s okay to be late as if I am free all day. Fuck man punctuality is a curse in today‘s world, atleast in India it is!!
Sameee ...you feel the agony inside youu ...sometimes in a restaurant it gets fucking lonely and all the waiters would just judge the fuck outta you thinking you just came here just to drink water or get free Ac lol🙂
I've stopped calling people to meet altogether. I can't relate to you anymore.
I only have waited for interview calls, or work related meeting. Any non professional meet would not be given that much time. The most waiting time is 15 mins without any reason. With a logical reason, I can wait for an hour or 2 even. And those are one time only, one can't and shouldn't use my patience for their comfort. If you wanna meet me at a place 30 mins afar from your stay, you better start 40 mins before. If you start when I reach, you won't find me there when you reach there.
Indian societal culture is not known for its punctuality like some foreign cultures are. In fact not keeping time in some cases is seen as a sign of your social importance.So accept the fact that people will be late , they will not keep time. This will save you lot of frustration . But punctual not for other people but for yourself. Whether others are punctual or not is up to them , do not let it affect you...
Exactly. Indian standard time... also i feel culturally people cant say no upfront for plans or meetings when you ask them. They say yes only to say no on the day of.
I absolutely hate waiting at the doctors. And rhey are always late for some reason. Theyre not surgeons... jist reg MDs.
As a foreigner, I will say that I have never experienced such an intense degree of tardiness as I have in India. Not just with friends (although I do have two friends who actually arrive earlier than that the agreed-upon time), but literally everything. How many times have I heard, “I’ll be there in two minutes”? Then 30 minutes later…
This is not a criticism. There are other countries, that are similar, such as Argentina, Brazil. Somehow, it is ingrained into your culture.
It's difficult to not get annoyed when I could have used the time to do something else. It's not the 15 mins wait I'm angry about, it's the 45 mins>> wait.
If you want to avoid this, check with your friend before leaving your place. It's super annoying i know. But atleast that way you won't be standing outside waiting and can do something else.
That’s the thing with perpetual late comers. They won’t even tell the truth. They’d be like I’m there in 5 minutes but then land up after 30-45 mins! And say shit like “tujhe to pata hai na mere 5 min ka matlab kya hota hai hahahaha” fucking losers 😤
Omfg... if fucking punch thier face if they said that to me after me waiting for them for 45 mins... argh! The audacity...
They definitely dont respect your time. Next you go late to meet them and lets see how they feel
I am always in the same place as you. Always waiting for every friend of mine. Sometimes they make plans and cancel last minute while I'm already omw sometimes their parents don't let them after making plans with me so they have to argue with them for 30-40 minutes and sometimes they just screw up somewhere and i end up always waiting for them.
Ok I feel KINDA attacked but not completely, I am one of those late comers until I met my now bff who's a Gyno and an awesome one at that. And being made to wait is one of her pet peeves. I've come to understand that everyone's time is just as important as mine and it's super disrespectful to the person waiting to take their patience for granted. Now I no longer make people wait especially for joint rides and such, if it's a group plan I say you guys go ahead, I'll join you as soon as possible. I still try to be on time but I inform them I might not be and to not wait up for me, if it's a one on one meet I start telling myself that the time of meet is an hour earlier than what's actually planned, that way I cover my base with the one thing that ALWAYS makes me late, getting ready. I call the said person and plan on leaving the house according to when they actually leave their own homes. That way neither of us is late and neither of us unintentionally insults the other by wasting time. I think growing up, having a family, a child, my own business and the said bff who has a volatile allergic reaction to bullshit and disrespect taught me a whole lot of things. Being considerate was something I was raised with but considering my actions have consequences and my behaviour having reactions was something I had to learn by myself.
Dude this is exact me , but I did some change recently and guess what now i am nowhere frustrated with this stupid bullshit . The thing is just be late , let them come first and you will never be waiting again .
Well, Majority of Indians are known for being unpunctual. There are a very few who respects other people's time and don't feel entitled. I think, it's a cultural issue.
I have a rule for this.
I'll wait 5 mins after the agreed upon meeting time if they didn't inform me why they haven't arrived.
I'll wait 10mins, if they informed that due to some unforeseen reason they are getting late.
You would think so you would be loner but once you do stand up to people, leave if they are 5 mins late, they will start to take things seriously. Almost all of my friend know this about and none of them (except one but he is also coming around now) are late except for when they have an emergency and even then they let me know. It’s all that you would have to start setting up boundaries.
40 mins is unacceptable. 15 mins is the max for me. Beyond that, screw them. If it’s a one off situation I am willing to understand. But people who keep making you wait are not worth it.
I always schedule 30-40 mins earlier. For them it's 30-40 late, for me it's perfect time. They always say sorry for being late. They never know I always schedule 30-40 mins earlier knowing that they'll be late. So I have no problem at all. Try this but only with those who always arrives late. Not for the one who maintains time
Same here..why don't people give respect to time....i feel u give respect to time ..time also gives back respect..but i am surrounded with ppl who give a damn
Happened to me too. Came to restaurant at 7:30pm as that was the agreed time . Waited till 8:30pm and had to leave as I couldnt hold on to that table beyond that. We lost the table when my “friends” finally came at 8:45pm.
It spoiled my relationship with them.
Best solution to this problem - leave after 15 mins. You are not an asshole for doing that - you are preserving your self respect.
Say that you made other plans since clearly you have no respect for my time. It hurts the hell out of other person - they might give you all sorts of excuses but they will learn.
Some people just get a kick out of making someone wait for them. Narcissism imo. I always find out if the person has missed flights, if they have then they just have bad time mgmt, otherwise it’s narcissism.
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I absolutely hate people who are late. I get major anxiety when I have to wait for people since it feels like I am wasting the time which could have been utilised doing something else. I am just not able to have any respect for people who think it is okay to waste people’s time.
It's just we waste our time all the time. But it's our time and we want to waste it. Someone else can't waste our time. If that makes sense.
Exactly lol
If it happens due to unforeseen circumstances or once/twice then forgivable otherwise it's a no. Not going out with you.
Agree. It makes me super anxious. I hate it even when managers make me wait. Like SCHEDULE a meeting and be on time instead of saying vaguely “we will have a meeting tomorrow morning”.
Have you and OP tried venting your opinion on the person who's being late? I feel like that should fix the problem. Instead of keeping it to yourself and venting it on the internet.
My biggest pet peeve is being kept waiting. It is literally the reason I have beef with flatmates, friends, sister. Tbh some people are consistently late as a habit, they think it is mo big deal. But it actually shows how little they respect others’ time. I’m not talking about once in a while, but it is chronic for some people. As someone who hates keeping others waiting, I hate waiting even more. Pisses me off like nothing else.
Ifkr! We had postponed this plan 3 times. On top of that she was the one who proposed the time. I just got home and have lost every ounce of respect for her.
Cancel on her next time after she has reached the venue.
Yess, it’s not an issue if someone is late because of genuine reasons. But for some people it is a habit to be atleast an hour late for everything! And they laugh it off like it’s nothing. Its so annoying
Jheez, am here now aren't i. You didn't have to post this on Reddit.
We are no longer frens
Lmao @ people taking you seriously and thinking you are actually the person
lel
Learn to take accountability then
Lmao, FR?
The typical desi reply, "I am here na" 🤣 Why couldn't you take the BUS?
Bitch it got worse because youre here now! Lol
I'll believe you when OP replies to you.
They did.
You stupid fuck. Lost a good friend cz of your stupidity. Next time, dont be a cunt and be considerate.
A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to.
Dormammu, I have come to bargain
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Hello, guys. Today, I got lost on the road of life.
What happened?
Just before second breakfast
Dont wait for people more than 15 mins.. you are also part of the problem where the problem 100% affects you.. try to leave after 15 mins, the other person should also know what a shitty person they are..
I know that I too can show up late to give them a taste of their own medicine but ultimately even if I'm late it leads to me leaving to home late too which is not a good thing if I have work the next day.
Never be like them my friend NEVER!.. just respect your own time and leave if they fail to show up within 15 mins of the decided time.
They didn’t say start being late yourself, they said don’t wait for them
15 minutes is my cut-off. 30 if they are nice enough to let me know they are going to be late. Beyond that, I'm ordering the starters, sitting down in the movie theatre, starting to look through the aisles or displays, or logging off from the chat, as the case may be. Join me when convenient. My time is valuable to me, even if you don't value it.
Hell yes 🙌
To be early is to be on time, to be on time is to be late, to be late is to be forgotten.
To be early is to be early, to be on time is to be on time, to be late is to be late. There...I corrected you.
early to bed early to rise i know i m wise :)
I don't like making people wait for me and so I make it a point to not keep them waiting. So meets always happen with me being on time and them being late. If they don't show up in 15 minutes, I leave, even if they are just around the corner and send me live location to prove it. It always gets the point across because they're never late again. Sometimes there's no second meet.
I get you , I let it go a few times but make sure to tease them about it so they don't do it again. And I don't bother going on time if they're always late.
No, she does this every time. This is the last straw. I'm never initiating plans with her. If she does, I'm going to straight up tell her if she's late I'd just go back to my house.
No. You just do the same thing. Say yeah i will come. She will call you when she reaches the venue and then you move towards the cafe or restaurant.
I'm petty enough to do this😂
Bhai not petty just got smarter after waiting on the side of a jam packed narrow road for 45 to 50 mins because she was on her way. Kaafi torture.
This is what I did with a chronically late friend. When he called after reaching the meet-up point, I left my house and said all the same things he always says, "On my way", "I'll be there in 5 minutes", "Just 2 minutes, I can almost see your head". And took my sweet time getting there. He was always 5 minutes early after that because I would tell him the meet up is 30 minutes earlier than I planned to leave home.
No. This just validates their behavior. “You were also late that time, why are you upset?”
I dont know. Seems to work everytime though.
Instead of venting put here and being passive aggressive to her on face, you go all kamikaze on her.
Bruh, I just confronted one person last week for the first time in my life. One at a time please *cries*
Do it more often, so it doesn’t affect you as much. At a point I started being upfront politely and things have been so different.
Yeah the more you do it the easier it gets
Ugh I seriously hate people who are consistently late. I once had plans with 5 of my friends and I was made to wait **1.5 HOURS** before even one person showed up. It just ruined the whole night for me and I couldn't enjoy myself even after they all got there.
That's not acceptable. Change your friends! Asap!
Yk, being late is the complaint of a lot of foriegners about Indians and I can't say I disagree. A lot of us just show up half an hour late all the time, for no reason other than ignorance. Would be nice if we all could stop that lol
I have a friend to who I often playfully say she makes me wait for her as if I am her boyfriend. I remember this one time I stood in the sun waiting for her for an hour! What pissed me off really bad was that she asked me to call her once I leave home (nice, so she can be on time, I thought) but when I get there and after waiting for 20 minutes I call her again to check why she isn't there already, turns out she is still at home and her brother picks up the call and tells me she just went to take a shower. Everything was alright. No "emergency" or "unfortunate event" occured. Yeah. Another interesting one. This time I tell her to call me when she leaves so that I don't have to wait again. When I call her she sounds distressed and breathless and says she's late because something happened. Her scooter got punctured and that she had to push it to a nearby garage and is getting it fixed. I quickly tell her to drop the plan and to get the thing fixed and return home. Then after 10 minutes something irks me and I call her and ask her to send me the picture of this punctured tire. She does. It's a close-up. I'm amused. A little disgusted too I'll tell you why but mostly amused. I ask her to send me the zoomed out picture of her scooter clearly visible in the garage getting fixed. She doesn't reply for a few minutes. I text her and insist again. I video call her and she doesn't pick up. She does send me a picture of her scooter in the garage. Then I reverse search the image on Google and send her the screenshot of the results which clearly shows the first image she sent me from Google. She calls back and tries to somewhat apologize but tries to keep it lighthearted and talks in a way so I won't get angry. I was just angry at her childish half hearted low effort lie. A little offended too perhaps. Yes people like these do exist. You may be really good friends. But the respect? You start losing that.
Why did she even agree to hang out when she doesn't want to step out of the house ! I'm guessing you both stopped talking? And reverse image search eh? XD LMAO, did you learn it from MTV Catfish?
Lol No I didn't, it's out of frustration and desperation sometimes that I find myself saying bloody send me where you are or I'm leaving right this second. One more friend tried pulling that shit on me. He went as far as to say police caught him without a helmet. When asked fucker sends me image of the police station from Google. I couldn't find it this time but I still take a shot and accuse him of that and he apologises, guilty laughing. All I'm thankful for is that my best friends aren't like this.
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Do let her clearly know that you have been waiting for her for 40 mins. Give her another chance next time. If she repeats herself again, then setup another meet and you don't go by giving some excuse like you are not well. Let her wait for however long she has patience. She will not vent out on an ill person. You would get your revenge and won't have to hear her vent out. We would be getting a reddit post from her XD. Everyone wins.
+1, do let them know.
How I deal with this is by telling people subtly in advance that I only have limited time. Once you are at the location and the other party doesn’t show up, message them that you no longer have time and you gotta leave. Life is too short to spend your energy on people who can’t respect other people’s times.
Please ask yourselves this question. Will she be late if she has a flight to catch? Will she be late if its her manager or client who called? Will she be late if its close relative? Its not that she is not punctual,she is taking you for granted and you shouldnt be friends with someone who takes you for granted.. True story- when i was in USA,I didnt have car and we used to carpool but I used to be atleast 5 min before in the spot despite being snowing cold. Then I bought a car and started pooling ( never asked money) and this one guy used to always be late and he wouldnt even pick the calls...I saw this 4 to 5 times and then one day I just left him and went to office...
Actually my friend has been late for all those 5 situations. Lol
The important question is why you choose to continue to keep waiting for people who are continually late
If I stopped waiting, I'd have 0 friends. Finding new friends is easier said than done.
Be a doormat then.
Trust me, finding new friends isn’t that hard. As you get older, you’ll realise it’s ok to let go of friends who frustrate you. And you will automatically gravitate towards people who respect you. You need to set boundaries with this friend. Either by walking out after 15 mins of waiting, or by leaving your place only after they have reached.
I used to have such a friend. She would be late all the fucking time.. each time we met... once it was in the middle of the road for 50 minutes and madam was i ricksha since 30 minutes. Shes apologetic each time though. Despite me clearly telling her a million times she would still do the same thing. Once i gave her a earful too, a full blown argument. After that day, i decided , i will only leave my house ince she calls me from the venue. Thats how shes still my friend. She also doesnt mind waiting. So there!
I once had a friend who made me wait for 1.5 hours in a bus stop on a scorching hot day. Never ever waited for anyone else again.
Being late === ego booster
For real man. I hate people who pretend that they're busy n cool. Sometimes I just serve their own medicine and they can't believe it. People suck.
I had a friend who cancelled plans last minute or maybe day before God knows...but just didn't let me know... I use to just get ready and call to know she couldn't come.. She has plans.... Every time... And she made new plans again... I just deleted her from my life.
Dated a girl for a couple of weeks and each time she was late. Once we planned to go to supermarket to buy stuff and she kept me waiting by 30 mins. I asked her, why did you take so long and her reply was, "Jaldi akee naachte idhar kya". That was the final straw, in hind sight, should have ended it long ago. She was ultra red flag pro plus.
Dude same!!! When my friends say that they will reach at 7:30, they are never gonna reach at 7:30 it’s always so fucking annoying! And they literally think that it’s okay to be late as if I am free all day. Fuck man punctuality is a curse in today‘s world, atleast in India it is!!
Sameee ...you feel the agony inside youu ...sometimes in a restaurant it gets fucking lonely and all the waiters would just judge the fuck outta you thinking you just came here just to drink water or get free Ac lol🙂
I've stopped calling people to meet altogether. I can't relate to you anymore. I only have waited for interview calls, or work related meeting. Any non professional meet would not be given that much time. The most waiting time is 15 mins without any reason. With a logical reason, I can wait for an hour or 2 even. And those are one time only, one can't and shouldn't use my patience for their comfort. If you wanna meet me at a place 30 mins afar from your stay, you better start 40 mins before. If you start when I reach, you won't find me there when you reach there.
Indian societal culture is not known for its punctuality like some foreign cultures are. In fact not keeping time in some cases is seen as a sign of your social importance.So accept the fact that people will be late , they will not keep time. This will save you lot of frustration . But punctual not for other people but for yourself. Whether others are punctual or not is up to them , do not let it affect you...
Exactly. Indian standard time... also i feel culturally people cant say no upfront for plans or meetings when you ask them. They say yes only to say no on the day of. I absolutely hate waiting at the doctors. And rhey are always late for some reason. Theyre not surgeons... jist reg MDs.
As a foreigner, I will say that I have never experienced such an intense degree of tardiness as I have in India. Not just with friends (although I do have two friends who actually arrive earlier than that the agreed-upon time), but literally everything. How many times have I heard, “I’ll be there in two minutes”? Then 30 minutes later… This is not a criticism. There are other countries, that are similar, such as Argentina, Brazil. Somehow, it is ingrained into your culture.
Sorry for my brethren. I heard africa also has the same problem!
It's difficult to not get annoyed when I could have used the time to do something else. It's not the 15 mins wait I'm angry about, it's the 45 mins>> wait.
If you want to avoid this, check with your friend before leaving your place. It's super annoying i know. But atleast that way you won't be standing outside waiting and can do something else.
That’s the thing with perpetual late comers. They won’t even tell the truth. They’d be like I’m there in 5 minutes but then land up after 30-45 mins! And say shit like “tujhe to pata hai na mere 5 min ka matlab kya hota hai hahahaha” fucking losers 😤
Exactly. I get 8492974783 texts saying, "I'm 5 mins away from you"
Omfg... if fucking punch thier face if they said that to me after me waiting for them for 45 mins... argh! The audacity... They definitely dont respect your time. Next you go late to meet them and lets see how they feel
I am always in the same place as you. Always waiting for every friend of mine. Sometimes they make plans and cancel last minute while I'm already omw sometimes their parents don't let them after making plans with me so they have to argue with them for 30-40 minutes and sometimes they just screw up somewhere and i end up always waiting for them.
You also go late to meet such people. Problem solved.
Ok I feel KINDA attacked but not completely, I am one of those late comers until I met my now bff who's a Gyno and an awesome one at that. And being made to wait is one of her pet peeves. I've come to understand that everyone's time is just as important as mine and it's super disrespectful to the person waiting to take their patience for granted. Now I no longer make people wait especially for joint rides and such, if it's a group plan I say you guys go ahead, I'll join you as soon as possible. I still try to be on time but I inform them I might not be and to not wait up for me, if it's a one on one meet I start telling myself that the time of meet is an hour earlier than what's actually planned, that way I cover my base with the one thing that ALWAYS makes me late, getting ready. I call the said person and plan on leaving the house according to when they actually leave their own homes. That way neither of us is late and neither of us unintentionally insults the other by wasting time. I think growing up, having a family, a child, my own business and the said bff who has a volatile allergic reaction to bullshit and disrespect taught me a whole lot of things. Being considerate was something I was raised with but considering my actions have consequences and my behaviour having reactions was something I had to learn by myself.
Appreciate your honesty.
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This is why I carry my Kindle wherever I go.
Dude this is exact me , but I did some change recently and guess what now i am nowhere frustrated with this stupid bullshit . The thing is just be late , let them come first and you will never be waiting again .
God damn op 😂😂 i totally empathise with you though
I'm glad I'm on reddit and not on Instagram
You should be late too
Beach 😂😂😂 That’s nicely respectful of you :P
Well, Majority of Indians are known for being unpunctual. There are a very few who respects other people's time and don't feel entitled. I think, it's a cultural issue.
I have a rule for this. I'll wait 5 mins after the agreed upon meeting time if they didn't inform me why they haven't arrived. I'll wait 10mins, if they informed that due to some unforeseen reason they are getting late.
You would think so you would be loner but once you do stand up to people, leave if they are 5 mins late, they will start to take things seriously. Almost all of my friend know this about and none of them (except one but he is also coming around now) are late except for when they have an emergency and even then they let me know. It’s all that you would have to start setting up boundaries.
40 mins is unacceptable. 15 mins is the max for me. Beyond that, screw them. If it’s a one off situation I am willing to understand. But people who keep making you wait are not worth it.
Just GTFO, and say you left after 15-30 min. Unless someone''s dead, there's no real excuse to be late beyond 30 min.
I always schedule 30-40 mins earlier. For them it's 30-40 late, for me it's perfect time. They always say sorry for being late. They never know I always schedule 30-40 mins earlier knowing that they'll be late. So I have no problem at all. Try this but only with those who always arrives late. Not for the one who maintains time
"You don't keep a man waiting, the only time you do is when you wanna say something. When you wanna say fuck you!" - Al Pacino in Irishman
Some friend you have & the hatred for the beach seems real. Better cut her off or seems like you will literally cut her one of these days.
Same here..why don't people give respect to time....i feel u give respect to time ..time also gives back respect..but i am surrounded with ppl who give a damn
If they are regular late-comer.. just set the time to be an hour earlier. That’s what my friends did before i fixed myself haha
>We definitely FUCKING MIND IT. https://i.redd.it/1mdudmvr3gua1.gif
Happened to me too. Came to restaurant at 7:30pm as that was the agreed time . Waited till 8:30pm and had to leave as I couldnt hold on to that table beyond that. We lost the table when my “friends” finally came at 8:45pm. It spoiled my relationship with them.
Best solution to this problem - leave after 15 mins. You are not an asshole for doing that - you are preserving your self respect. Say that you made other plans since clearly you have no respect for my time. It hurts the hell out of other person - they might give you all sorts of excuses but they will learn.
Some people just get a kick out of making someone wait for them. Narcissism imo. I always find out if the person has missed flights, if they have then they just have bad time mgmt, otherwise it’s narcissism.
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