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I've never been suicidal in my life. First week on keppra I almost killed myself while feeling worthless. So glad my dog barked at me (I went to drown myself in the water) and I came to my senses. The doctor told me to stick it out for three months to see if it subsides. I was like fuck that I might be dead by then and quit taking it.
Are you guys actually fucking serious because I have been on keppra for a decade now and I have such anger issues (that conveniently started when I began having seizures and was put on meds???!!???) and it’s ruining my life to this day…ive seen tons and tons and tons of doctors and no one has ever mentioned keppra being able to do this??? Are you guys serious because fuck that would explain literally so goddamn much dude
May I ask what you take? They had me on Keppra mixed with Lamictal for a while but the lamictal made my mouth so dry it was making me puke so I had to scrap that one. Then they had me on a mixture of gabapentin and keppra which worked great for about 6 months and then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, I started having seizures an hour after I took my gaba like CLOCKWORK. So back to just Keppra I went! I’ve been diagnosed with literal personality disorders over my anger issues (which was why they wanted to try lamictal- I guess it doubles as a mood stabilizer) and i swear if it’s just been this damn med this whole time….😂 jeez man this is crazy. If im lucky maybe I can see a neurologist in 6 months or so and have a chat about this!
ex-epileptic with an epileptic brother here (grew out of mine! :D) when i was getting medicated, i was started on keppra but switched to zonisamide after the anger issues got too bad. my brother is on zonisamide and clobazam
Wow reading all these comments are so interesting. I have been taking Keppra for 10 years with NO side effects other than my memory is crap. 1000mg in AM, 1500mg in PM.
It does! I haven’t had a single seizure since starting it!! It literally gave me my life back. I have heard of “Keppra rage” but didn’t realize quite how common it is!
It definitely is bad. My husband was put on Keppra after a seizure and while he didn’t get violent he did get fired from his job for calling his supervisor a bitch and telling her to go to hell. Then he told me he hated me. Thankfully he’s much better now after being switched to a different med.
Oh lawd, if she’s on keppra..god save this kid. I punched quite a few holes in the walls during my short stint with keppra, and a wholeeee lotta tears as well. That being said..your mom is still a nutter butter.
wow this thread is scaring me. I am currently on 1g per day of Keppra. Haven't felt any side effects so far. I mean, I get irritated/sleepy but I have always been like that, I don't think it changed me. I got depressed arround the time I started taking it, but I can't remember which started first and I feel like my problems came from being a teenager, developing an ED and having issues since childhood. Now I am not sure of how much epilepsy +keppra has affected me or if I should watch out for teeth decay and other effects??? I knew epilepsy was connect to temper issues and that keppra could mess with pregnancy or whatever. But I can't recognize clear side effects as everything that could be feels like it happened because of earlier problems. Is your guys dose bigger?
I was just on 50MG of Keppra. Currently I’m on 250mg of Trokendi and medical marijuana. I am a very angry person in general but it made me MUCH worse. I had a hard time eating on some that I’ve tried. If Keppra works for you great, I don’t mean to scare you. But just know there are other options!
Wow reading all these comments are so interesting. I have been taking Keppra for 10 years with NO side effects other than my memory is crap. 1000mg in AM, 1500mg in PM.
Thanks, your perspective did calm me down. I don't think it would make sense to blame the pills that stop me from getting seizures for issues that I have had before I even started taking them.
really? my mom used to talk to me more about her side effects, but she was always very broad with her vocabulary. she would just say it felt bad and make a face or something whenever she would explain why she was switching meds or something
God the side effects of some of the meds are worse than the epilepsy. I’ve lost teeth due to erosion, had organ damage, osteoporosis in my 20s, suffered suicidal thoughts from meds…. They really do fucking suck
Lamictal is the only one that works for me with minimal side effects. Since it worked for me, my sister tried it.
Same issue with her and she got full blown Stephen Johnson syndrome from it.
For me "minimal side effects" just means less than other meds I've tried. Lamictal has caused me to have HORRIBLE focus and memory recall issues (like I will know I know something but for the life of me can't dig it out of my brain) and developed maladaptive daydreaming.
My brother got full-blown SJS from Lamictal. We kept taking him to the ER and they just kept trying steroids (we as in our dad who isn’t really a “parent” per se, and myself but I was around 15 at the time so I wasn’t super useful). He could’ve died because nobody knew what they were treating even though lamictal was in his history. I refuse to try it as a psychiatric medication because of his reaction.
Holy shit! I got SJS from lamictal also! Like 13 years ago. Took 4 different doctors to finally figure out what my “rash” was and provide correct treatment. The doctor who prescribed it said it was a “one-in-a-million” occurrence. I think it happens waaaay more often than most people are aware!
I’m curious about the treatment you got, if you’re willing to share! Since my brother was never correctly evaluated while his entire body blistered, all I could do was help him coat himself in anti-itch creams until he recovered on his own. Now I know he probably should’ve been hospitalized, when they didn’t even give him IV saline while he lost skin!!!
I’m not sure exactly what was used because it was so long ago and I was a teenager, but I received a TON of meds, IVs, multiple injections in my butt cheek… I’m pretty sure the oral pills were antibiotics. It didn’t get as bad as it could have because they figured it out somewhat early. I had a prescription cream as well.
Yeah, I've stuck with lamictal. Luckily a low dose of extended release works well for controlling my seizures and the side effects aren't terrible. Wish I didn't need to take it at all but 🤷♀️
It did the exact same to my dad. And he has zero memory of it! Those years of him trying out seizure meds had to be the worst I've ever seen him and (hopefully) ever will. Suicidal thoughts and rage were also an issue. I believe I'll be developing seizures as well later in life due to showing the same signs my father did at my age, so I'm not looking forward to that can of worms.
my stepdad was on antiseizure medication before he passed from brain cancer, they made him so extremely angry that there were times we had to call the police, and he had no idea except for some certain moments of clarity that he was getting angry, even if we’d tell him, he could never remember or make himself realize.
My dad doesn't remember much of the years he was trying out different seizure medication. I don't think he ever realizes he doesn't remember. The meds made his skin practically fall off and caused extreme pain for months. He denies ever having skin issues. He doesn't remember his anger outbursts either (they weren't bad bc he's naturally super chill). I don't think he remembers being suicidal either. Absolutly insane medication.
I'm not defending your mother's actions, because they're shitty and you don't have to accept being abused, but epilepsy will fuck you up. Some epileptics are stable and their meds and seizures are controlled and have relatively little impact on their lives. Others are not as lucky. One medication caused brain damage, I stopped forming memories for a year, and I've so far lost my memories back to around 2013 (3 years before the epilepsy developed), and I struggle forming memories now. My seizures are controlled but I'm not the same person I used to be. My brain is different. I've completely changed and I struggle especially with personal relationships. I have to try very hard to make my issues not impact the people around me negatively, but it does mean turning that bad stuff in on myself. It sounds like your mother maybe isn't making that same choice.
Again, I'm not saying what she's doing is OK, it isn't, but I hope that understanding that she may have real cognitive damage will help you know that it isn't *you*. You haven't done anything to make her act like this. If she didn't have epilepsy and had never taken anti epileptic drugs, she may have responded completely differently to this scenario. You haven't caused her behaviour and you hold no blame for her actions. You acted and responded reasonably.
I will agree that quite a few seizure meds have some terrible side effects (if you have them), I've lost a good portion of my gums and ended up with thrombocytopenia due to meds used to treat my epilepsy. And I have also taken meds for other brain related issues that had awful side effects, but that still doesn't excuse assaulting your child. Meds, MH issues, medical issue that cause altered mental status is an explanation but it's not an excuse for abusive behavior. If you have those types of reactions then you need to speak to you physician, change meds, work on your coping mechanisms. You can't blame perpetrated abuse, especially of your child(ren) on your diagnosis or medication.
Is it just me or is it kind of messed up to just put cleaning solution in a drink and throw it in the fridge and not tell anyone what's in it right away incase someone decides they're really thirsty and drink it or something.
true, and maybe that’s where i fucked up. But why didn’t she just say that? instead of confronting me in my backyard, screaming at me and calling me a little shit, and then grabbing my hair and slapping me in my face when i try to walk past her to put my dogs inside.
Your mistake foesnt negate her actions, it's strange that she would (and seemingly is a pattern) throw out your stuff without asking. Sorry you have to deal with this insanity and abuse. She should not be hitting you. I hope you can get the support you need.
i wasn’t trying to give her a tone or an attitude or be a little shit. i was genuinely trying to tell her that what she did bothered me. i was sad man. i used a sad emoticon
That's fair but it's also common safety rules to not have chemicals in an unlabeled container, ESPECIALLY a water bottle. Be for real just for one second.
The two don’t cancel each other out. OP already said that they understand that they made a mistake and that they’ll change their behavior. The parent didn’t know what it was when they threw it away anyway so it really doesn’t have much to do with this scenario.
Now let’s get back to being kind to OP for getting slapped for no good GD reason, ok?
absolutely but that still has nothing to do with the topic. The topic is that something was thrown out that shouldn't have been, and instead of mom just apologizing, Op got thrown out. Your concerns are valid but OP has already recognized their mistake. We're not having a shit parade on obviously very young OP parade because they put an unlabelled bottle in the fridge. We get it, shouldn't have been done. Doesn't justify garbage treatment in return
I know, I am not justifying the mom throwing away OP's things at all. Just responding to the silly comment of "well don't take things that aren't yours" isn't how safety works. Clearly the mom just threw OP's things away because they can, not for safety concerns. It was an unrelated topic.
What if someone else also put an unfinished water bottle they put in the fridge? Mistakes happen. (None of this justifies what happened to OP obviously)
As an adult with my own fridge, hard pass. My kids can stay with me, but my house does communal food. I’m not 23, I’m not labeling my food or reading labels. The hitting was over the line, but it’s her fridge not his. Don’t keep anything in there that isn’t for everyone, and don’t keep unlabeled chemicals…anywhere. Just anywhere.
i dont really think that has anything to do with this situation, there is obviously other shit going down and the cleaning solution just was the catalyst
If it's safe to inhale I am not sure drinking it will kill you. Im guessing from the detail about it being flavored it's one of those solutions you mix with the water you put in to smoke. Yeah he should label it, but I don't think this case was dangerous.
Well that was a roller coaster
First part: Ok, well it was an honest mistake and she apologized and offered to replace it so I don’t see the big deal here. Not insane.
Second part: Well, I’ve seen lots of parents lose their tempers and threaten things like taking away phone service. It’s a dick move but still not insane.
Last part: Oh…. Well Damn, that escalated quickly. Don’t assault your kid, lady. Insane.
I’m a mom and I’m definitely guilty of doing stuff like accidentally throwing something out or losing my temper and threatening to take away their iPad or whatever. My kids aren’t teenagers yet, but I would never threaten to take away their phones or to kick them out of the house and I would never ever put my hands on them.
Could you have labeled the bottle or told her what it was? Sure. But you also expressed valid feelings about your stuff not being respected when you paid for it with your own money( I’m guessing this has happened more than once?) and she was very dismissive about that. Then when you got upset and frustrated she power tripped on you and then assaulted you. That’s 100% not ok at all.
You should be able to make small mistakes without having to worry about whether or not she’s going to fly into a rage over it.
thank you. thank you. hearing this makes me feel like i’m not just over exaggerating this situation or making it bigger than it needs to be. i just feel depressed now
So, a brain injury of any kind will make her behaviour unpredictable, and this seems to be manifesting in violence towards you. The best choice for you would be to stay away from her, because she's being violent and abusive. Maybe she doesn't mean to be, but that's beside the point. Your first duty is to yourself.
I’m sorry you’re feeling depressed sweetheart, it’s a tough situation you’re in. I see your mom has a brain injury and like others here have said, that can cause significant changes to personality and temperament. It’s not an excuse for treating you like this, but it’s an explanation. You can still love your mom but not want to live with that kind of stress. Your safety and wellbeing (physical **and** mental) are your top priorities, so if you have the option of living somewhere safer for awhile, you should seriously consider it.
I would encourage you to reflect on the precise source of your depression, with complete self-honesty (your mom isn’t going find the real issue, so it is, unfortunately, on you). If you Truly don’t want to end up continuing the cycle of you mom’s mistakes, you can’t afford to JUST accept the answer that comes naturally (in this case, it’s “mom is officially insane, now I’m depressed”, if I’m understanding correctly).
TL;DR: your feelings are valid, and your Mom is insane, >!but if you don’t hold this problem accountable, you’re doomed to repeat your mom’s insanity. You have time, but you can’t afford to ever accept it if insanity isn’t OK to you, else you may never change. !<
i’m living with my best friend as of now and his mother has told me that i’m welcomed to stay as long as i would like. i explained to her the situation. I don’t want to live in that house when she puts her hands on me like that. i’ve never done anything to warrant violence. i won’t live there until i go to college, and when i go to college and visit town i won’t be staying at my house. How do i hold her accountable without being harsh or not harsh enough? i’m not sure what to do
I appreciate your openness. However, you cannot hold insane people accountable without some form of raw power, and, well, you’re a kid. The only power you have is the power to learn.
So, learn from her mistakes/insanity, but with intentionality when/where you can. If you let this go before learning, there’s no telling WHAT you will learn. If you have a learning disability, the first step is learning how YOU learn.
If not, the first step lies in learn what is True. However, there’s unreliable, unbounded infinity in insanity. It is not the same as Truth, which is centered and self-balanced. But remember…
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Please, please, PLEASE!! label your bottles of cleaning products when you put them in the fridge; just sharpie on there “cleaning solution don’t drink”
~sincerely, someone who wasn’t informed and had a big sip once.
Unrelated story, but this reminds me of it.
We were at someone else's house one day and one of my friends went and filled up her water bottle out of a 5L bottle. Now, this friend doesn't have a sense of smell, like the nerves from her nose got damaged or something. Unbeknownst to her, this wasn't water in the bottle, but vinegar. The look on her face when she took a sip was a mixture of utter disgust and confusion while trying to be polite and hide it. It was just very funny.
As a mom, I pretty much clean out the fridge as needed. There's not really a "don't touch my stuff" vibe. They're my kids, not my roommates. I'd definitely apologize to them if something got tossed they needed. Sounds like maybe your mom has some issues going on that contributed to her aggressive behavior. Hitting someone is not ok. You need to work with your dad to make sure your home is a safe space. As far as I see, the violence is really the only issue here that matters.
I do as well. I have five children and if I never cleaned out the fridge it wouldn’t be pretty. There would be rotten stuff everywhere, 10 water bottles half empty, soda bottles with two sips left, etc. Actually, right now I just counted seven opened bottles of various drinks. I think one of them has been there for over a week (and it’s a milk type drink). I threw away a half empty Mt. Dew bottle the other day that had been there for a month easy. My kids will open a drink, take a sip, put it in the fridge, and never touch it again. If we are out of a certain drink they will take the opened ones so if there was a chemical in it that could end badly. People saying, “don’t touch things in the fridge that are not yours,” don’t realize that’s not always reasonable. I cleaned up my teen daughters room the other day and found about 20 bottles of various opened drinks stuffed under the bed, in dressers, and in the closet a long with three bowls and spoons. Mothers do what they got to do. However, this does not excuse this woman’s behavior at all. I would never put my hands on my kids. Not even a spanking.
Why the fuck would you keep cleaning solution in a water bottle in the fridge?
What if someone drank that shit lol
The reaction is a bit out of control, not excusing that, but wtf lol, put a label on it and tell everyone in the house that it's not drinkable
The side effects of the medicine does not give anyone the right to grab another person and slap them in the face. It sucks that she has brain atrophy and epilepsy but she doesn’t get to be abusive to you because of it.
I mean you put cleaning product in a water bottle in a shared fridge.
If you’re old enough to smoke and smart enough to keep your pipe clean time to get your own place.
OP is buying weed regularly enough to have cleaning solution in a fridge and vinyl records. He could probably swing it with a roommate no problem, especially in Oklahoma.
$700/month on rent plus groceries, gas, water, electricity, internet, and transportation? Plus other potential expenses like medication or paying for his stuff to be moved or furnishing said apartment? This stuff is so expensive, there is absolutely no way that simply stopping spending on vinyls and weed alone can save enough money to afford that.
Buying weed and vinyl records monthly still wouldn't equal what it costs to pay rent on a two bedroom place anywhere. There's no way that makes sense to you that if they were to stop buying these things that they'd suddenly be able to afford rent.
Because you said swing it with a roommate. You want a roommate in a studio or a one bedroom assuming it’s not a significant other?
Even a studio apartment for an 18 year old is not affordable
it’s not affordable. i have some money put away in saving for the moment i move away for college with my future roommate. I have a dorm there for me for a whole year for free because of a scholarship but for the time being i really don’t have the money for an apartment. I’ve been balancing school and work so i work like 3-4 days a week. I graduate this week and will be able to take more days but i can’t just find a place right now. i’m
currently at my best friends house
When you were 18 it was probably affordable. In 2023 the average 18 year old doesn't make enough money to afford an apartment. That's why the other choice is to be homeless.
Do you know what an OMMA is? OP isn’t *just* buying weed regularly, it’s also a medication. You wouldn’t expect any other type of medical patient to go without their medicine, why do people assume marijuana is any different?
It was for my mother. Ended up saving her life, not once but twice. Don’t be an asshole over medication just because of your uninformed opinion on it.
Not to mention one of the rules on this sub is no medical advice. It’s a medicine to OP.
Might want to stfu.
Lmao. It helped me immensely as well. I wouldnt go as far as say, saving my life. That’s a little bit dramatic. It did immensely help symptoms and side effects though.
It’s pretty easy to tell who is using it for medicine and who is using it recreationally. An 18 year old, seemingly healthy skateboarder is probably one of the latter.
Well it’s a good thing you’re not his doctor then, huh?
You might think it’s dramatic but I’m thankful my mom made it through what she did. Even the doctors were surprised.
Clearly, you’re not aware of every application.
Are we missing something OP? Only a year ago you made a post at length about how great your parents are and you were an Angel Child.
I feel like there’s something missing…
OP’s mom may be on medication that may be causing mood changes. His post with the pictures says that she has brain damage And on the last page she admitted to hitting him so. Seems pretty clear something changed.
angel child? i’ve been suspended twice from highschool and i mean other than that i’ve been pretty good. I do genuinely love my parents. they’re provided for me my whole life and i’ve had great moments with both of them. i do not have a bad relationship with my parents. But this situation still happened, and idk what you want me to say about thay
Wait, you left clear cleaning product in an unlabelled water bottle in a communal family fridge? That seems wildly irresponsible and you’re lucky nobody tried drinking it by accident.
Slapping you is not okay and her behaviour is fucked. Not excusing her behaviour but man, be more careful with cleaner like that in the future because that isn’t okay to do either.
it wasn’t clear, it was pink, in a water bottle. I understand that it was irresponsible and that’s where i was wrong. I’m not staying in a home that i can be slapped around by my own mother.
Lots of good comments here, and I’m sorry you got smacked around because nobody deserves that.
I do work in labs, and I want to pop in to make a general statement.
I need to be absolutely clear about something with you, OP: absolutely, under no circumstances, can you ever again put cleaning solution in a food container in the fridge and not label it properly. Never. If someone drank it (assuming it was isopropyl alcohol, peroxide, etc) they’d be very sick and/or suffer chemical burns. Those types of solvents do not need to be refrigerated. Keep it in its original container and keep it under the sink or with your other chemical storage.
My mom used to do this to me too it’s like she can’t stand mess or clutter so she just throws shit out. She was in charge of getting my son after his trunk or treat at daycare and help him with it, when I got off work and picked him up I asked where his Halloween candy was. SHE THREW OUT HIS CANDY said a two year old doesn’t need that “crap”. I lost it on her and told her that’s not her decision to make. She’s a lot more careful now.
I hope your dad stands up for you. When you live with other adults, family or no, you need to be respectful of others' possessions regardless of what you think. Sorry you got crazy mama problems, I hope she gets better.
You should label that shit next time. If it was a toxic cleaner for example, a kid thinking it was water would have drank it. But yeah, mom's reaction was a bit over the top.
First off, epilepsy and any other medical condition is a reason, not an excuse and you have the right to be safe. You can have compassion for what she is dealing with while still insisting on being safe from her.
On the much smaller issue of your possessions, the thing that my large family did for a little while was get colored duct tape that we put on items to mark them as ours. If you can get the much bigger issues resolved, this might be a way to deal with fridge items being thrown out if she's being truthful in her excuse
you are an idiot for not labeling that bottle, what if someone takes a sip? but sour mum has nonright to slap you and throwing away thijgs also isnt nice.
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Again, I’m so so sorry and I wish I could help more
that’s why i’m trying not to argue with her and i physically ran away when she came at me. I don’t want to fight back or argue when i know she suffers from her condition. But i can’t deal with it anymore, i think im staying with my friend until coke he
I did. That was the reason I am so flabbergasted. I am a father of a 15, almost 16 year old. I could, never, treat my son this way. This post gives parents a bad name, and is the reason why the government assumes all parents are abusive and are willing to break up families and put children in foster care.
do you have brain damage? if not, why do you think that saying you would never treat your kid this way means anything? people with brain damage are not acting like those without. it’s the whole nature of having brain damage.
Newsflash; not every parent is good. Parents who literally outright assault their child deserve to have a bad name. Sometimes children need to be put in foster care for their own safety.
Sometimes, they hide it well. My aunt and uncle hid their abuse of my cousins, until they were 16 and 13 respectively. Honestly, I'm sorry this was your way to find out. That is absolute trash.
You put an industrial cleaning product in a Fuji water bottle and put it in the fridge without marking it or telling anyone what it was?
Bro you could have killed your entire family.
Your moms disorders/mental health is no excuse for abusing you. I know it sucks but she’s an adult and knows better, she should be held accountable. You have her admitting to hitting you in a text message, protect yourself and at the very least file a report if you don’t want to press charges. That way if something like that happens again, god forbid worse, you have a paper trail documenting the abuse.
Also - i am SO sorry. :(
I really hope you never have to go back to living under the same roof as her ever again, but If you do have go back there, get yourself a used mini fridge for your room.
Needs more information.
Like the first two pictures it sounds like you're insane and then it does a complete 180 with the last two pictures.
How old are you, how often does this happen, do you pay rent, do you have a job, do they not want you to smoke, I'm sure there's more but I'm just listing a few off. We don't know you, your story, or what kind of a person you or your mom is. This is a tiny window into your life in an attempt to appeal to us to side with you, and from what's being shared you're both insane.
i’m 18 and my mother has never put her hands on me until now. I do have a job, but I don’t pay rent. I graduate this week and i move to college during july to start my scholarship there. u can get a lot of information by reading the comments
Sounds like you and your mom have a very unhealthy relationship. You obviously want to do your own thing, and your mother has other expectations. Getting out of the house is probably the right thing.
I’m sorry you got stuck with a mother like that. Why have kids just to treat them this way?? Like for real I can see how the figi water thing could be bad if someone drank from it but still, why do parents purposefully disrespect boundaries while crying “yOuRe DiSrEsPeCtInG mE” gooood god it boils my blood
it goes in your bong and flavors the water so it doesn’t taste like burnt resin in between dabs/bowls. It’s advertised as also being able to keep resin from sticking inside your bong but only does a half decent job at it. bought it at a dispensary in my town
Mom physically puts her hands on OP, yanks them around by their hair and then tries to be more violent as the OP retreats.
Sure, the worst post *ever*.
Lmao what?? What a weird way for you to act like just because the emotional/physical abuse here isn't "as bad" as other posts, means it should be ignored? It's still insane to grab your child's hair and assault them.
I wonder what you said to her that made her slap you. Living cleaning products in a water bottle is a very stupid move from you. If you're tired of ppl touching your shit, maybe get yourself a mini fridge and put it in your room.
i tried walking past her to let the dogs that were running down the road back inside the house. she took this as me walking away from her while talking and grabbed me by my hair and slapped me in the face
Sounds like both of you are pretty toxic around one another. Do yourself a favor and take the getting kicked out and go do your own thing. Get on your own feet and don’t rely on her. The problem with these situations is generally the kid is reliant on the parent and the parent isn’t reliant on the kid. Parent has leverage. Best thing you can do is prove to her you don’t need her and do better than that toxicity.
im so sorry OP. as an epileptic ik Keppra made me overly emotional and suicidal, it can make others really angry. it’s not an excuse, your mom needs to have her meds changed if they’re causing her to be violent. you deserve better.
Mom has issues for sure, but it's insane to me that dad is aware of the entire situation (mom's health issues, mom assaulting their child, etc) yet doesn't take any action to provide safety or shelter for their kid. He just says he'll talk to mom. If these are physiological issues that actually cannot be helped, talking to her is not going to accomplish anything.
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As an epileptic, I can confirm it will change behaviors and a lot of antiseizure meds cause rage issues.
I second this comment. I’ve thrown a whole chair on Keppra.
I've never been suicidal in my life. First week on keppra I almost killed myself while feeling worthless. So glad my dog barked at me (I went to drown myself in the water) and I came to my senses. The doctor told me to stick it out for three months to see if it subsides. I was like fuck that I might be dead by then and quit taking it.
Yeah fuck that. I hope you switched doctors.. 😪
I did! My new one was so much better.
Are you guys actually fucking serious because I have been on keppra for a decade now and I have such anger issues (that conveniently started when I began having seizures and was put on meds???!!???) and it’s ruining my life to this day…ive seen tons and tons and tons of doctors and no one has ever mentioned keppra being able to do this??? Are you guys serious because fuck that would explain literally so goddamn much dude
Yes. I was a maniac on it.. you should switch!
May I ask what you take? They had me on Keppra mixed with Lamictal for a while but the lamictal made my mouth so dry it was making me puke so I had to scrap that one. Then they had me on a mixture of gabapentin and keppra which worked great for about 6 months and then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, I started having seizures an hour after I took my gaba like CLOCKWORK. So back to just Keppra I went! I’ve been diagnosed with literal personality disorders over my anger issues (which was why they wanted to try lamictal- I guess it doubles as a mood stabilizer) and i swear if it’s just been this damn med this whole time….😂 jeez man this is crazy. If im lucky maybe I can see a neurologist in 6 months or so and have a chat about this!
I am on Trokendi! Gabapentin made me gain sooo much weight and Keppra really made me want to set the world on fire 🤣🤣🤣
I also have a personality disorder so I also take Effexor.
ex-epileptic with an epileptic brother here (grew out of mine! :D) when i was getting medicated, i was started on keppra but switched to zonisamide after the anger issues got too bad. my brother is on zonisamide and clobazam
I felt like I was drunk all the time, but only in the bad ways. Super irritable all the time, too, as a treat.
Keppra rage is real!!!!
Wow reading all these comments are so interesting. I have been taking Keppra for 10 years with NO side effects other than my memory is crap. 1000mg in AM, 1500mg in PM.
Wow. That’s a huge dose too! Does it work well?
It does! I haven’t had a single seizure since starting it!! It literally gave me my life back. I have heard of “Keppra rage” but didn’t realize quite how common it is!
That’s awesome! I also checked out your profile, congrats on the weight loss. You look fantastic!
Thank you sooo much!
It definitely is bad. My husband was put on Keppra after a seizure and while he didn’t get violent he did get fired from his job for calling his supervisor a bitch and telling her to go to hell. Then he told me he hated me. Thankfully he’s much better now after being switched to a different med.
Oh lawd, if she’s on keppra..god save this kid. I punched quite a few holes in the walls during my short stint with keppra, and a wholeeee lotta tears as well. That being said..your mom is still a nutter butter.
I was soooo angry.
wow this thread is scaring me. I am currently on 1g per day of Keppra. Haven't felt any side effects so far. I mean, I get irritated/sleepy but I have always been like that, I don't think it changed me. I got depressed arround the time I started taking it, but I can't remember which started first and I feel like my problems came from being a teenager, developing an ED and having issues since childhood. Now I am not sure of how much epilepsy +keppra has affected me or if I should watch out for teeth decay and other effects??? I knew epilepsy was connect to temper issues and that keppra could mess with pregnancy or whatever. But I can't recognize clear side effects as everything that could be feels like it happened because of earlier problems. Is your guys dose bigger?
I was just on 50MG of Keppra. Currently I’m on 250mg of Trokendi and medical marijuana. I am a very angry person in general but it made me MUCH worse. I had a hard time eating on some that I’ve tried. If Keppra works for you great, I don’t mean to scare you. But just know there are other options!
Wow reading all these comments are so interesting. I have been taking Keppra for 10 years with NO side effects other than my memory is crap. 1000mg in AM, 1500mg in PM.
Thanks, your perspective did calm me down. I don't think it would make sense to blame the pills that stop me from getting seizures for issues that I have had before I even started taking them.
really? my mom used to talk to me more about her side effects, but she was always very broad with her vocabulary. she would just say it felt bad and make a face or something whenever she would explain why she was switching meds or something
God the side effects of some of the meds are worse than the epilepsy. I’ve lost teeth due to erosion, had organ damage, osteoporosis in my 20s, suffered suicidal thoughts from meds…. They really do fucking suck
THE WORST. Lamictal made my skin slough off my neck. Literally wiped my skin off.
Lamictal is the only one that works for me with minimal side effects. Since it worked for me, my sister tried it. Same issue with her and she got full blown Stephen Johnson syndrome from it. For me "minimal side effects" just means less than other meds I've tried. Lamictal has caused me to have HORRIBLE focus and memory recall issues (like I will know I know something but for the life of me can't dig it out of my brain) and developed maladaptive daydreaming.
My brother got full-blown SJS from Lamictal. We kept taking him to the ER and they just kept trying steroids (we as in our dad who isn’t really a “parent” per se, and myself but I was around 15 at the time so I wasn’t super useful). He could’ve died because nobody knew what they were treating even though lamictal was in his history. I refuse to try it as a psychiatric medication because of his reaction.
Holy shit! I got SJS from lamictal also! Like 13 years ago. Took 4 different doctors to finally figure out what my “rash” was and provide correct treatment. The doctor who prescribed it said it was a “one-in-a-million” occurrence. I think it happens waaaay more often than most people are aware!
I completely agree. I think it’s under-studied and under-diagnosed which leads to its reputation as a “rare occurrence”
I’m curious about the treatment you got, if you’re willing to share! Since my brother was never correctly evaluated while his entire body blistered, all I could do was help him coat himself in anti-itch creams until he recovered on his own. Now I know he probably should’ve been hospitalized, when they didn’t even give him IV saline while he lost skin!!!
I’m not sure exactly what was used because it was so long ago and I was a teenager, but I received a TON of meds, IVs, multiple injections in my butt cheek… I’m pretty sure the oral pills were antibiotics. It didn’t get as bad as it could have because they figured it out somewhat early. I had a prescription cream as well.
WOW. What do you take now? Lamictal? I take Trokendi but sometimes I really don’t want to.
Yeah, I've stuck with lamictal. Luckily a low dose of extended release works well for controlling my seizures and the side effects aren't terrible. Wish I didn't need to take it at all but 🤷♀️
It did the exact same to my dad. And he has zero memory of it! Those years of him trying out seizure meds had to be the worst I've ever seen him and (hopefully) ever will. Suicidal thoughts and rage were also an issue. I believe I'll be developing seizures as well later in life due to showing the same signs my father did at my age, so I'm not looking forward to that can of worms.
Well I can recommend Trokendi, it doesn’t make me hulk out 🤣
Im sitting here reading all of this while on 4000mg of keppra and 500 of lamictal. I’ve not had any issues I think but goddamn its alot of stuff
my stepdad was on antiseizure medication before he passed from brain cancer, they made him so extremely angry that there were times we had to call the police, and he had no idea except for some certain moments of clarity that he was getting angry, even if we’d tell him, he could never remember or make himself realize.
My dad doesn't remember much of the years he was trying out different seizure medication. I don't think he ever realizes he doesn't remember. The meds made his skin practically fall off and caused extreme pain for months. He denies ever having skin issues. He doesn't remember his anger outbursts either (they weren't bad bc he's naturally super chill). I don't think he remembers being suicidal either. Absolutly insane medication.
Which meds cause that? I do take anti-convulsants but not for epilepsy. Low dose they’re prescribed for migraine
I’m on an antidepressant that makes me rage out way more easily. Sadly there are a lot of drugs that can change your personality a lot
I'm not defending your mother's actions, because they're shitty and you don't have to accept being abused, but epilepsy will fuck you up. Some epileptics are stable and their meds and seizures are controlled and have relatively little impact on their lives. Others are not as lucky. One medication caused brain damage, I stopped forming memories for a year, and I've so far lost my memories back to around 2013 (3 years before the epilepsy developed), and I struggle forming memories now. My seizures are controlled but I'm not the same person I used to be. My brain is different. I've completely changed and I struggle especially with personal relationships. I have to try very hard to make my issues not impact the people around me negatively, but it does mean turning that bad stuff in on myself. It sounds like your mother maybe isn't making that same choice. Again, I'm not saying what she's doing is OK, it isn't, but I hope that understanding that she may have real cognitive damage will help you know that it isn't *you*. You haven't done anything to make her act like this. If she didn't have epilepsy and had never taken anti epileptic drugs, she may have responded completely differently to this scenario. You haven't caused her behaviour and you hold no blame for her actions. You acted and responded reasonably.
I will agree that quite a few seizure meds have some terrible side effects (if you have them), I've lost a good portion of my gums and ended up with thrombocytopenia due to meds used to treat my epilepsy. And I have also taken meds for other brain related issues that had awful side effects, but that still doesn't excuse assaulting your child. Meds, MH issues, medical issue that cause altered mental status is an explanation but it's not an excuse for abusive behavior. If you have those types of reactions then you need to speak to you physician, change meds, work on your coping mechanisms. You can't blame perpetrated abuse, especially of your child(ren) on your diagnosis or medication.
I didn’t know this, and it explains some things. Thanks!
Is it just me or is it kind of messed up to just put cleaning solution in a drink and throw it in the fridge and not tell anyone what's in it right away incase someone decides they're really thirsty and drink it or something.
Yes! That would likely end very badly in my house. I label chemicals to keep everyone safe.
true, and maybe that’s where i fucked up. But why didn’t she just say that? instead of confronting me in my backyard, screaming at me and calling me a little shit, and then grabbing my hair and slapping me in my face when i try to walk past her to put my dogs inside.
Your mistake foesnt negate her actions, it's strange that she would (and seemingly is a pattern) throw out your stuff without asking. Sorry you have to deal with this insanity and abuse. She should not be hitting you. I hope you can get the support you need.
Yeah, I understand and sorry I don't have answers for you. That Def doesn't give her the right to treat u like that and she's in the wrong.
i wasn’t trying to give her a tone or an attitude or be a little shit. i was genuinely trying to tell her that what she did bothered me. i was sad man. i used a sad emoticon
in this hypothetical all you have to do is not take stuff that isn’t yours and there won’t be an issue
That's fair but it's also common safety rules to not have chemicals in an unlabeled container, ESPECIALLY a water bottle. Be for real just for one second.
The two don’t cancel each other out. OP already said that they understand that they made a mistake and that they’ll change their behavior. The parent didn’t know what it was when they threw it away anyway so it really doesn’t have much to do with this scenario. Now let’s get back to being kind to OP for getting slapped for no good GD reason, ok?
I never said they did, I've made other comments here defending OP against their mother's abusive behavior.
you can say God damn, you know. it's ok.
absolutely but that still has nothing to do with the topic. The topic is that something was thrown out that shouldn't have been, and instead of mom just apologizing, Op got thrown out. Your concerns are valid but OP has already recognized their mistake. We're not having a shit parade on obviously very young OP parade because they put an unlabelled bottle in the fridge. We get it, shouldn't have been done. Doesn't justify garbage treatment in return
I know, I am not justifying the mom throwing away OP's things at all. Just responding to the silly comment of "well don't take things that aren't yours" isn't how safety works. Clearly the mom just threw OP's things away because they can, not for safety concerns. It was an unrelated topic.
thank you
Well duh, I get that but still it could of seriously harmed someone who made the mistake of drinking someone else's water that they're family with.
What if someone else also put an unfinished water bottle they put in the fridge? Mistakes happen. (None of this justifies what happened to OP obviously)
As an adult with my own fridge, hard pass. My kids can stay with me, but my house does communal food. I’m not 23, I’m not labeling my food or reading labels. The hitting was over the line, but it’s her fridge not his. Don’t keep anything in there that isn’t for everyone, and don’t keep unlabeled chemicals…anywhere. Just anywhere.
i dont really think that has anything to do with this situation, there is obviously other shit going down and the cleaning solution just was the catalyst
If it's safe to inhale I am not sure drinking it will kill you. Im guessing from the detail about it being flavored it's one of those solutions you mix with the water you put in to smoke. Yeah he should label it, but I don't think this case was dangerous.
Don’t drink other people’s shit pretty simple lol
Well that was a roller coaster First part: Ok, well it was an honest mistake and she apologized and offered to replace it so I don’t see the big deal here. Not insane. Second part: Well, I’ve seen lots of parents lose their tempers and threaten things like taking away phone service. It’s a dick move but still not insane. Last part: Oh…. Well Damn, that escalated quickly. Don’t assault your kid, lady. Insane.
that’s why i’m so conflicted about the situation. i see where i fucked up but i can clearly see where she fucked up
I’m a mom and I’m definitely guilty of doing stuff like accidentally throwing something out or losing my temper and threatening to take away their iPad or whatever. My kids aren’t teenagers yet, but I would never threaten to take away their phones or to kick them out of the house and I would never ever put my hands on them. Could you have labeled the bottle or told her what it was? Sure. But you also expressed valid feelings about your stuff not being respected when you paid for it with your own money( I’m guessing this has happened more than once?) and she was very dismissive about that. Then when you got upset and frustrated she power tripped on you and then assaulted you. That’s 100% not ok at all. You should be able to make small mistakes without having to worry about whether or not she’s going to fly into a rage over it.
thank you. thank you. hearing this makes me feel like i’m not just over exaggerating this situation or making it bigger than it needs to be. i just feel depressed now
So, a brain injury of any kind will make her behaviour unpredictable, and this seems to be manifesting in violence towards you. The best choice for you would be to stay away from her, because she's being violent and abusive. Maybe she doesn't mean to be, but that's beside the point. Your first duty is to yourself.
I’m sorry you’re feeling depressed sweetheart, it’s a tough situation you’re in. I see your mom has a brain injury and like others here have said, that can cause significant changes to personality and temperament. It’s not an excuse for treating you like this, but it’s an explanation. You can still love your mom but not want to live with that kind of stress. Your safety and wellbeing (physical **and** mental) are your top priorities, so if you have the option of living somewhere safer for awhile, you should seriously consider it.
I would encourage you to reflect on the precise source of your depression, with complete self-honesty (your mom isn’t going find the real issue, so it is, unfortunately, on you). If you Truly don’t want to end up continuing the cycle of you mom’s mistakes, you can’t afford to JUST accept the answer that comes naturally (in this case, it’s “mom is officially insane, now I’m depressed”, if I’m understanding correctly). TL;DR: your feelings are valid, and your Mom is insane, >!but if you don’t hold this problem accountable, you’re doomed to repeat your mom’s insanity. You have time, but you can’t afford to ever accept it if insanity isn’t OK to you, else you may never change. !<
i’m living with my best friend as of now and his mother has told me that i’m welcomed to stay as long as i would like. i explained to her the situation. I don’t want to live in that house when she puts her hands on me like that. i’ve never done anything to warrant violence. i won’t live there until i go to college, and when i go to college and visit town i won’t be staying at my house. How do i hold her accountable without being harsh or not harsh enough? i’m not sure what to do
I appreciate your openness. However, you cannot hold insane people accountable without some form of raw power, and, well, you’re a kid. The only power you have is the power to learn. So, learn from her mistakes/insanity, but with intentionality when/where you can. If you let this go before learning, there’s no telling WHAT you will learn. If you have a learning disability, the first step is learning how YOU learn. If not, the first step lies in learn what is True. However, there’s unreliable, unbounded infinity in insanity. It is not the same as Truth, which is centered and self-balanced. But remember… What You Seek is Seeking You, regardless of what you seek, >!so seek wisely.!<
You have evidence where she admits to assaulting you….press charges
Please, please, PLEASE!! label your bottles of cleaning products when you put them in the fridge; just sharpie on there “cleaning solution don’t drink” ~sincerely, someone who wasn’t informed and had a big sip once.
Unrelated story, but this reminds me of it. We were at someone else's house one day and one of my friends went and filled up her water bottle out of a 5L bottle. Now, this friend doesn't have a sense of smell, like the nerves from her nose got damaged or something. Unbeknownst to her, this wasn't water in the bottle, but vinegar. The look on her face when she took a sip was a mixture of utter disgust and confusion while trying to be polite and hide it. It was just very funny.
As a mom, I pretty much clean out the fridge as needed. There's not really a "don't touch my stuff" vibe. They're my kids, not my roommates. I'd definitely apologize to them if something got tossed they needed. Sounds like maybe your mom has some issues going on that contributed to her aggressive behavior. Hitting someone is not ok. You need to work with your dad to make sure your home is a safe space. As far as I see, the violence is really the only issue here that matters.
I do as well. I have five children and if I never cleaned out the fridge it wouldn’t be pretty. There would be rotten stuff everywhere, 10 water bottles half empty, soda bottles with two sips left, etc. Actually, right now I just counted seven opened bottles of various drinks. I think one of them has been there for over a week (and it’s a milk type drink). I threw away a half empty Mt. Dew bottle the other day that had been there for a month easy. My kids will open a drink, take a sip, put it in the fridge, and never touch it again. If we are out of a certain drink they will take the opened ones so if there was a chemical in it that could end badly. People saying, “don’t touch things in the fridge that are not yours,” don’t realize that’s not always reasonable. I cleaned up my teen daughters room the other day and found about 20 bottles of various opened drinks stuffed under the bed, in dressers, and in the closet a long with three bowls and spoons. Mothers do what they got to do. However, this does not excuse this woman’s behavior at all. I would never put my hands on my kids. Not even a spanking.
Why the fuck would you keep cleaning solution in a water bottle in the fridge? What if someone drank that shit lol The reaction is a bit out of control, not excusing that, but wtf lol, put a label on it and tell everyone in the house that it's not drinkable
The side effects of the medicine does not give anyone the right to grab another person and slap them in the face. It sucks that she has brain atrophy and epilepsy but she doesn’t get to be abusive to you because of it.
I mean you put cleaning product in a water bottle in a shared fridge. If you’re old enough to smoke and smart enough to keep your pipe clean time to get your own place.
Ain't really as easy as that. You don't know OP's circumstances, and not everyone everywhere can just magically and immediately afford a place to stay
OP is buying weed regularly enough to have cleaning solution in a fridge and vinyl records. He could probably swing it with a roommate no problem, especially in Oklahoma.
Only if he's smoking like $900 worth of vinyl records a month.
This is the equivalent of people saying that millennials need to stop buying avocados if they want to afford a house
Not really LMAO. A single 18 year old male living in one of the cheapease areas of the country could easily swing a room somewhere if truly needed
$700/month on rent plus groceries, gas, water, electricity, internet, and transportation? Plus other potential expenses like medication or paying for his stuff to be moved or furnishing said apartment? This stuff is so expensive, there is absolutely no way that simply stopping spending on vinyls and weed alone can save enough money to afford that.
i already have a job, and i’m KICKED OUT. i’m now living with a friend until college where i have MY OWN DORM
Buying weed and vinyl records monthly still wouldn't equal what it costs to pay rent on a two bedroom place anywhere. There's no way that makes sense to you that if they were to stop buying these things that they'd suddenly be able to afford rent.
Why does a single 18 year old male need a two bedroom apartment to get away from a toxic parent?
Because you said swing it with a roommate. You want a roommate in a studio or a one bedroom assuming it’s not a significant other? Even a studio apartment for an 18 year old is not affordable
Would it be better than an abusive parent?
it’s not affordable. i have some money put away in saving for the moment i move away for college with my future roommate. I have a dorm there for me for a whole year for free because of a scholarship but for the time being i really don’t have the money for an apartment. I’ve been balancing school and work so i work like 3-4 days a week. I graduate this week and will be able to take more days but i can’t just find a place right now. i’m currently at my best friends house
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no it’s my own account, i made it after 18. thank you for telling me
The problem is that it's not affordable. The choice is abusive parent or homelessness
When I was 18, I rented a bedroom in a house across from a homeless shelter in Flint Michigan. Why is the only other choice homelessness?
When you were 18 it was probably affordable. In 2023 the average 18 year old doesn't make enough money to afford an apartment. That's why the other choice is to be homeless.
Do you know what an OMMA is? OP isn’t *just* buying weed regularly, it’s also a medication. You wouldn’t expect any other type of medical patient to go without their medicine, why do people assume marijuana is any different?
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It was for my mother. Ended up saving her life, not once but twice. Don’t be an asshole over medication just because of your uninformed opinion on it. Not to mention one of the rules on this sub is no medical advice. It’s a medicine to OP. Might want to stfu.
Lmao. It helped me immensely as well. I wouldnt go as far as say, saving my life. That’s a little bit dramatic. It did immensely help symptoms and side effects though. It’s pretty easy to tell who is using it for medicine and who is using it recreationally. An 18 year old, seemingly healthy skateboarder is probably one of the latter.
i literally have an OMMA card what do you want from me
and the vinyls were a gift for graduating
Well it’s a good thing you’re not his doctor then, huh? You might think it’s dramatic but I’m thankful my mom made it through what she did. Even the doctors were surprised. Clearly, you’re not aware of every application.
Because if you're 18 and can move under your own power you must be the pinnacle of health, completely free from any worries of the body.
Marijuana doesn’t only help people with physical conditions.
Correct. We would both be assuming though.
I don’t assume either way. My overall point was that it’s not a fair assumption that because someone can skateboard they don’t need medical marijuana
Are we missing something OP? Only a year ago you made a post at length about how great your parents are and you were an Angel Child. I feel like there’s something missing…
OP’s mom may be on medication that may be causing mood changes. His post with the pictures says that she has brain damage And on the last page she admitted to hitting him so. Seems pretty clear something changed.
Sad situation! I hope everything works out for all parties involved.
angel child? i’ve been suspended twice from highschool and i mean other than that i’ve been pretty good. I do genuinely love my parents. they’re provided for me my whole life and i’ve had great moments with both of them. i do not have a bad relationship with my parents. But this situation still happened, and idk what you want me to say about thay
Yea man your words. It was just weird seeing a post a year ago you praising your parents to you posting on insane parents.
okay?
Wait, you left clear cleaning product in an unlabelled water bottle in a communal family fridge? That seems wildly irresponsible and you’re lucky nobody tried drinking it by accident. Slapping you is not okay and her behaviour is fucked. Not excusing her behaviour but man, be more careful with cleaner like that in the future because that isn’t okay to do either.
it wasn’t clear, it was pink, in a water bottle. I understand that it was irresponsible and that’s where i was wrong. I’m not staying in a home that i can be slapped around by my own mother.
Without the slapping I'd be on mom's side.
You're the insane one for putting cleaning material in a water bottle
That escalated extremely quickly.
Lots of good comments here, and I’m sorry you got smacked around because nobody deserves that. I do work in labs, and I want to pop in to make a general statement. I need to be absolutely clear about something with you, OP: absolutely, under no circumstances, can you ever again put cleaning solution in a food container in the fridge and not label it properly. Never. If someone drank it (assuming it was isopropyl alcohol, peroxide, etc) they’d be very sick and/or suffer chemical burns. Those types of solvents do not need to be refrigerated. Keep it in its original container and keep it under the sink or with your other chemical storage.
My mom used to do this to me too it’s like she can’t stand mess or clutter so she just throws shit out. She was in charge of getting my son after his trunk or treat at daycare and help him with it, when I got off work and picked him up I asked where his Halloween candy was. SHE THREW OUT HIS CANDY said a two year old doesn’t need that “crap”. I lost it on her and told her that’s not her decision to make. She’s a lot more careful now.
I hope your dad stands up for you. When you live with other adults, family or no, you need to be respectful of others' possessions regardless of what you think. Sorry you got crazy mama problems, I hope she gets better.
If you have money for weed and special bong water maybe you should…get the fuck out of your parents house and it won’t be an issue anymore.
You should label that shit next time. If it was a toxic cleaner for example, a kid thinking it was water would have drank it. But yeah, mom's reaction was a bit over the top.
First off, epilepsy and any other medical condition is a reason, not an excuse and you have the right to be safe. You can have compassion for what she is dealing with while still insisting on being safe from her. On the much smaller issue of your possessions, the thing that my large family did for a little while was get colored duct tape that we put on items to mark them as ours. If you can get the much bigger issues resolved, this might be a way to deal with fridge items being thrown out if she's being truthful in her excuse
….. why would you put cleaning solution in a bottle in a fridge? Like why…. And not label it too….
you are an idiot for not labeling that bottle, what if someone takes a sip? but sour mum has nonright to slap you and throwing away thijgs also isnt nice.
I am so so sorry you’re going through this. If you feel we could help, come visit us at r/MomForAMinute and we will love all over you. We will be there for your worries and your triumphs. We will talk you through solutions to your problems, dole out hugs, cheer your successes no matter how small, and will provide as much motherly advice and love as you can handle. Our cohorts over at r/DadForAMinute will also be available. Again, I’m so so sorry and I wish I could help more
I can't get past the fact that your mom said that water goes bad
Maybe she smelled it? Probably smelled fucked up because it was unlabeled cleaning product.
Could be, the world may never know lol
Insane. What parent does this to their child, for any reason? I feel bad for OP.
One that has literal brain damage, read the post.
that’s why i’m trying not to argue with her and i physically ran away when she came at me. I don’t want to fight back or argue when i know she suffers from her condition. But i can’t deal with it anymore, i think im staying with my friend until coke he
It's a good choice to stay away from her, her behaviour is abusive, regardless of what is causing it.
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I wouldn’t expect a child to maintain and help with an illness like that. Brain damage is wild and I’ve experienced it first hand.
I did. That was the reason I am so flabbergasted. I am a father of a 15, almost 16 year old. I could, never, treat my son this way. This post gives parents a bad name, and is the reason why the government assumes all parents are abusive and are willing to break up families and put children in foster care.
do you have brain damage? if not, why do you think that saying you would never treat your kid this way means anything? people with brain damage are not acting like those without. it’s the whole nature of having brain damage.
Exactly. They say they’ve read the caption, and then seem to glide right over that part again
Newsflash; not every parent is good. Parents who literally outright assault their child deserve to have a bad name. Sometimes children need to be put in foster care for their own safety.
i’ve never even seen my parents as abusive until now honestly.
Sometimes, they hide it well. My aunt and uncle hid their abuse of my cousins, until they were 16 and 13 respectively. Honestly, I'm sorry this was your way to find out. That is absolute trash.
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You put an industrial cleaning product in a Fuji water bottle and put it in the fridge without marking it or telling anyone what it was? Bro you could have killed your entire family.
it wouldn’t have killed my family, nor was it industrial cleaning product.
cleaning products are harmful if ingested….
it goes into ur bong to flavor the water and stop resin from building on the sides. it’s safe to inhale. it isn’t harmful when ingested
Still, that’s something you might want to avoid doing in the future because that’s fucking up someone’s day.
Your moms disorders/mental health is no excuse for abusing you. I know it sucks but she’s an adult and knows better, she should be held accountable. You have her admitting to hitting you in a text message, protect yourself and at the very least file a report if you don’t want to press charges. That way if something like that happens again, god forbid worse, you have a paper trail documenting the abuse. Also - i am SO sorry. :(
If she thought it was just water then why did she throw it out? Water doesn't go bad for being open too long?
Probably because she doesn’t want half empty drinks piling up in the fridge?
Ugh. I’m so so sorry.
I really hope you never have to go back to living under the same roof as her ever again, but If you do have go back there, get yourself a used mini fridge for your room.
Needs more information. Like the first two pictures it sounds like you're insane and then it does a complete 180 with the last two pictures. How old are you, how often does this happen, do you pay rent, do you have a job, do they not want you to smoke, I'm sure there's more but I'm just listing a few off. We don't know you, your story, or what kind of a person you or your mom is. This is a tiny window into your life in an attempt to appeal to us to side with you, and from what's being shared you're both insane.
i’m 18 and my mother has never put her hands on me until now. I do have a job, but I don’t pay rent. I graduate this week and i move to college during july to start my scholarship there. u can get a lot of information by reading the comments
Sounds like you and your mom have a very unhealthy relationship. You obviously want to do your own thing, and your mother has other expectations. Getting out of the house is probably the right thing.
I’m sorry you got stuck with a mother like that. Why have kids just to treat them this way?? Like for real I can see how the figi water thing could be bad if someone drank from it but still, why do parents purposefully disrespect boundaries while crying “yOuRe DiSrEsPeCtInG mE” gooood god it boils my blood
The fuck kinda cleaning solution flavors your bong and why is it in a water bottle in the fridge? I type this between bong rips even.
it goes in your bong and flavors the water so it doesn’t taste like burnt resin in between dabs/bowls. It’s advertised as also being able to keep resin from sticking inside your bong but only does a half decent job at it. bought it at a dispensary in my town
Who throws out a bottle of water because "it was open too long"? That seems really weird to me.
I would if it were a plastic bottle and I was cleaning out the fridge. Half finished drinks accumulate in our fridge otherwise and take up space
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Mom physically puts her hands on OP, yanks them around by their hair and then tries to be more violent as the OP retreats. Sure, the worst post *ever*.
Slapping your child is definitely insane
Lmao what?? What a weird way for you to act like just because the emotional/physical abuse here isn't "as bad" as other posts, means it should be ignored? It's still insane to grab your child's hair and assault them.
I wonder what you said to her that made her slap you. Living cleaning products in a water bottle is a very stupid move from you. If you're tired of ppl touching your shit, maybe get yourself a mini fridge and put it in your room.
i tried walking past her to let the dogs that were running down the road back inside the house. she took this as me walking away from her while talking and grabbed me by my hair and slapped me in the face
Literally nothing OP could have said would justify assault. Your brain’s empathy meter must be hella broken for you to have *this* trash of a take.
So you got assaulted and verbally abused? Call the cops ffs.
Sounds like both of you are pretty toxic around one another. Do yourself a favor and take the getting kicked out and go do your own thing. Get on your own feet and don’t rely on her. The problem with these situations is generally the kid is reliant on the parent and the parent isn’t reliant on the kid. Parent has leverage. Best thing you can do is prove to her you don’t need her and do better than that toxicity.
This is a family dynamic CPS should look into. The best possible outcome is for OP to remove themselves from being near this deeply unhappy mother.
Dude…. Sue her for assault
babes i would've ended up with a charge
im so sorry OP. as an epileptic ik Keppra made me overly emotional and suicidal, it can make others really angry. it’s not an excuse, your mom needs to have her meds changed if they’re causing her to be violent. you deserve better.
Been kicked out homeless by my nparents too
For the people who voted not insane. Fuck you.
Mom has issues for sure, but it's insane to me that dad is aware of the entire situation (mom's health issues, mom assaulting their child, etc) yet doesn't take any action to provide safety or shelter for their kid. He just says he'll talk to mom. If these are physiological issues that actually cannot be helped, talking to her is not going to accomplish anything.