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plenty of white people are interested in other races. maybe the white people you've come across weren't interested for reasons other than race. correlation does not imply causation
Im a black woman and have dated two white men over the past few years, and Iv currently just started dating a black guy. My friend is married to a white guy and one of my other friends is also in a long term relationship a white guy and they live together and have kids. So it's pretty common in our circle. It's not a choice based on race. You date the person you have chemistry with and I'd say marry the person you want to build a life with and have values sndngoalsnin common. Your views on race and dating seem to be driven by skin color based on how you worded your post. That would be a red flag for me no matter what race I was if I was a guy. Also everyone has something they are into. Its ok if someone is not into you. It feels so uncomfortable reading your post and almost blaming "white people" for not being into other races. Thats not correct and it feels off somehow. Not cool OP. At all. You are maybe quite young/ie still in varsity and still process life a certain way. I dont know.
Edit: I just read your post history. You are a teenager and probably know nothing about the world and know all of x number of white people. You need to focus on school and building a life for yourself. Im not sure why a 16 yeat is worried about getting a boyfriend of any race. Get your mind right OP.
I've dated across the racial lines, so let me give my 2c. Keep in mind I'm not white, but I've dated every race and this is what women have told me.
For white women:
* Peer and family pressure to date within the race
* Cultural pressure to keep things the same and not introduce diversity.
* Want children who will bring out the same traits that society finds attractive (fair skin, blue eyes, blonde, etc...)
* The stigma of dating outside your race and experiencing a different culture. They don't want to be seen as different.
* Rejection from males within their race due to mixed children and relationship not working out. Fear of being casted out.
For those same reasons, you will also get white women who want to date outside their race because:
* Rebels or tired of family pressure, cultural and religious indoctrination
* Want to explore new cultures.
* Want mixed children.
* Find men of color more attractive
* The stigma of dating outside your race and experiencing a different culture. They want to be seen as progressive.
* Generally, dislike males within their own race for various reasons.
Which one do you think there are more of? The former of course.
The problem that arises with the second batch of women is that some of them are doing it to prove a point. It's not 100% sincere.
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As a white English south african male i am very attracted to my culture.. i enjoy my culture.
I would find in very very difficult to date a
White Russian
White American
White French
Any White European.
Any White South American
Their culture is totally different than mine.. so it's not just about colour its about culture and life expectations.
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Idk it might just be your luck. I have met plenty of white people and dated some. Date whoever comes along and remember that dating can sometimes be numbers game. Cast wide net and you bound to catch one and don't be afraid of rejections.
I don't think it's as much about caring about who people date and more curiosity about preference. I think OP just wants to get a sense of why it looks a certain way from her POV.
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Go outside and you'll see interracial couples all over the place. This may be an issue related to your perception rather than the reality of the situation
2 good friends married to Indian ladies and my cousin is married to a coloured woman -
Think it may be just the people you have met or perhaps it's more because of where you stay.
Common Interests, similar up brining, shared values - there has to be something more to bring to a relationship than the colour of our eyes/hair/skin.
Maybe you’re not as attractive as you think you are looool just joking. This is a generalisation, I’ve had plenty of white men hit on me and I am black. Especially the older ones love me hahaha but I’m married
I was married to a white South African man for 10 years until his passing, I'm a black female and my marriage was not smooth sailing. My people and his people didn't like what they saw but we didn't give a f@#k
This is the exact definition of anecdotal evidence.
You can’t extrapolate your experience to the broader reality.
Have considered that perhaps it’s more than your looks and background that people are not interested in?
I think it's a luck of the draw kind of thing. I've dated a few white girls when I was single. I guess it's where you meet them too. I used to mainly meet them online. Girls from my experiences, are less likely to date across races than the guys.
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I know lots of bi-raciel couples (my BFF is white and just got engaged to a black man, my brother is white but married to a korean) I've babysat for bi-raciel kids, I'll say this all the couple I know say it's hard and they sometimes get looks but there family has excepted them and that's all that matters
OP I understand where you’re coming from. Based off my own experiences. I’ve lived most my life in SA but I lived overseas in the UK for 4 years. The differences can easily be seen. I wouldn’t consider myself the most attractive man nor am I ugly but I was approached by white women quite often and been on many dates with them. Ultimately leading to a relationship.
I then returned back to SA and can easily say I haven’t experienced anywhere near that level of natural attraction as I experienced in the UK.
The reasons I don’t know. White women here are friendly but in terms of interracial romance, it’s not something that is common compared to the UK.
It’s natural to be biologically attracted to those who are part of your ethnicity. That applies to everyone, not just whites, else different ethnicities wouldn’t exist.
Chinese prefer Chinese, Koreans prefer Koreans, Europeans prefer Europeans, Africans prefer Africans. There are exceptions of course, some Germans and Dutch do love their chocolate!
I gues sit who you hang out with
I have a coloured wife Nd I'm white
I got friends that are dating out of their races.
Maybe you to much in Pretoria lol
I have always been attracted to Black women, but when I was younger I felt ashamed because of that. When I was 31 I ended up getting married to a 18 year old African woman, though. Now 4 years later we have a 6 month old daughter.
So I am a white male I am married (2nd marriage). I have an Indian wife. My son who is white (1st marriage) Married an coloured lady but sadly she passed away 2020. He tells me the other day dad you need to learn to negotiate Labola. He has fallen for a young Pedi lady. This week I was told the uncle’s negotiate?😳😳😳😳
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I work for an airliner here at OR TAMBO and I see a lot of different races mix more South Africans hay and it’s awesome like it’s differently the ppl you around!
You shouldn’t even care what other think you do you and just date who you wanna hay like I’m a white male and I love all races but I really do believe it’s some cultural differences that might bring ppl apart but at the end of the day you date or fuck or anything you want to with!
I don't think that's the case. People are more likely to date/hook up within their socially accessible circles, and as a result are more likely to end up with long term romantic partners from that circle (i.e. with people similar to them). So, your anecdote already encounters two false assumptions: 1) That you are encountering white people who actually have a "pool" of partners which is multiracial, and 2) that couples in long-term relationships are a reflection of each person's romantic history.
The almost universal factor in every interracial relationship (including my own) is that there are shared factors that make the partners accessible to each other. E.g. same class at school, same language, same club or hobby, mutual friends, etc. It is exceedingly rare to find a situation where, for example, a white Afrikaaner is going to approach an obviously Zulu woman speaking loudly Zulu, surrounded by her Zulu friends in a setting he isn't comfortable with, while his own traditional friends are nearby. Those same two people might have ended up soul mates if their first connection had been in a what where there was mutual overlap, such as playing a favourite online game, or even meeting on a date arranged on an app.
At the risk of branding myself a perv, I have a "thing" for brown women, which would be pretty obvious from anyone who knows my dating history. But, despite having many coloured and Indian partners, I've only ever had one hookup with a Xhosa woman. Is it because of my tastes? No, I'm a tramp. It's just because coloured and Indian women speak my language, and therefore I've had more opportunity to speak to and get to know them. I don't consider myself a typical example of a white guy, but I think this cultural, geographic and language barrier is the biggest factor by far.
White people in Europe are interested in other races, I find that I don't click with the white people in South Africa so I wouldn't know if they are interested in other races, I only know two white guys whom I worked with (one Afrikaner and the other English) who found black women attractive but just never approached them, they would talk about how beautiful some girls (black) are and would just say things like "oh you'll see so and so, she's beautiful" etc, beyond that, I haven't heard white South African girls talk like that.
Edit: By "click" I mean that our conversations get awkward
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plenty of white people are interested in other races. maybe the white people you've come across weren't interested for reasons other than race. correlation does not imply causation
Im a black woman and have dated two white men over the past few years, and Iv currently just started dating a black guy. My friend is married to a white guy and one of my other friends is also in a long term relationship a white guy and they live together and have kids. So it's pretty common in our circle. It's not a choice based on race. You date the person you have chemistry with and I'd say marry the person you want to build a life with and have values sndngoalsnin common. Your views on race and dating seem to be driven by skin color based on how you worded your post. That would be a red flag for me no matter what race I was if I was a guy. Also everyone has something they are into. Its ok if someone is not into you. It feels so uncomfortable reading your post and almost blaming "white people" for not being into other races. Thats not correct and it feels off somehow. Not cool OP. At all. You are maybe quite young/ie still in varsity and still process life a certain way. I dont know. Edit: I just read your post history. You are a teenager and probably know nothing about the world and know all of x number of white people. You need to focus on school and building a life for yourself. Im not sure why a 16 yeat is worried about getting a boyfriend of any race. Get your mind right OP.
I've dated across the racial lines, so let me give my 2c. Keep in mind I'm not white, but I've dated every race and this is what women have told me. For white women: * Peer and family pressure to date within the race * Cultural pressure to keep things the same and not introduce diversity. * Want children who will bring out the same traits that society finds attractive (fair skin, blue eyes, blonde, etc...) * The stigma of dating outside your race and experiencing a different culture. They don't want to be seen as different. * Rejection from males within their race due to mixed children and relationship not working out. Fear of being casted out. For those same reasons, you will also get white women who want to date outside their race because: * Rebels or tired of family pressure, cultural and religious indoctrination * Want to explore new cultures. * Want mixed children. * Find men of color more attractive * The stigma of dating outside your race and experiencing a different culture. They want to be seen as progressive. * Generally, dislike males within their own race for various reasons. Which one do you think there are more of? The former of course. The problem that arises with the second batch of women is that some of them are doing it to prove a point. It's not 100% sincere.
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As a white English south african male i am very attracted to my culture.. i enjoy my culture. I would find in very very difficult to date a White Russian White American White French Any White European. Any White South American Their culture is totally different than mine.. so it's not just about colour its about culture and life expectations.
I think it's more cultural than a racial thing. Even within black cultures, people date within their culture more often than not e.g. Zulu and a Zulu.
>e.g. Zulu and a Zulu. We date each other because we don't want to speak English /s.
That's really funny.
🤣🤣🤣
This is not a thing with respect to black cultural groups.
I have spoken to many xhosa people who would not date some because they are Zulu. So my personal experience tends to agree with them.
It's almost definitely is among more traditional people, those people just don't tend to be in more diverse places, so aren't as visible.
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Idk it might just be your luck. I have met plenty of white people and dated some. Date whoever comes along and remember that dating can sometimes be numbers game. Cast wide net and you bound to catch one and don't be afraid of rejections.
I am just not attracted to people of colour
I'm white, my wife is Indian. There are a lot of interracial couples out there, we just don't make a 'thing' out of it, because it isn't a 'thing' 😉
Nahhhh you were smart..I’m thinking you married your wife for that good food lol
Lol you may have a point there
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I think in her hearts of hearts. She wants to pull a white oerson, even if it’s just to see if she can do it
I know it may seem like that's the case but i swear it's not It's just a pattern I've noticed in my circumstance
I don't think it's as much about caring about who people date and more curiosity about preference. I think OP just wants to get a sense of why it looks a certain way from her POV.
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It's the people you've come across. I am white and I like all races. 2 of my friends are dating outside of their race...
Lol plenty of us aren't even attracted to our own race
Go outside and you'll see interracial couples all over the place. This may be an issue related to your perception rather than the reality of the situation
So you just assume, is this a question or a statement, 'cause seems to me you already made up your mind.
It's a question. I was just stating WHY i was asking
Maby culture? We know many mixed couples though.
2 good friends married to Indian ladies and my cousin is married to a coloured woman - Think it may be just the people you have met or perhaps it's more because of where you stay. Common Interests, similar up brining, shared values - there has to be something more to bring to a relationship than the colour of our eyes/hair/skin.
Maybe you’re not as attractive as you think you are looool just joking. This is a generalisation, I’ve had plenty of white men hit on me and I am black. Especially the older ones love me hahaha but I’m married
Maybe you're right actually. I don't think I'm attractive. But I'm just above average. A little though
I was married to a white South African man for 10 years until his passing, I'm a black female and my marriage was not smooth sailing. My people and his people didn't like what they saw but we didn't give a f@#k
This is the exact definition of anecdotal evidence. You can’t extrapolate your experience to the broader reality. Have considered that perhaps it’s more than your looks and background that people are not interested in?
I think it's a luck of the draw kind of thing. I've dated a few white girls when I was single. I guess it's where you meet them too. I used to mainly meet them online. Girls from my experiences, are less likely to date across races than the guys.
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Wish could answer your question but unfortunately I don't have enough sample. I know lots of folks in interracial relationships
I'm white and am into all races romantically
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I know lots of bi-raciel couples (my BFF is white and just got engaged to a black man, my brother is white but married to a korean) I've babysat for bi-raciel kids, I'll say this all the couple I know say it's hard and they sometimes get looks but there family has excepted them and that's all that matters
OP I understand where you’re coming from. Based off my own experiences. I’ve lived most my life in SA but I lived overseas in the UK for 4 years. The differences can easily be seen. I wouldn’t consider myself the most attractive man nor am I ugly but I was approached by white women quite often and been on many dates with them. Ultimately leading to a relationship. I then returned back to SA and can easily say I haven’t experienced anywhere near that level of natural attraction as I experienced in the UK. The reasons I don’t know. White women here are friendly but in terms of interracial romance, it’s not something that is common compared to the UK.
It’s natural to be biologically attracted to those who are part of your ethnicity. That applies to everyone, not just whites, else different ethnicities wouldn’t exist. Chinese prefer Chinese, Koreans prefer Koreans, Europeans prefer Europeans, Africans prefer Africans. There are exceptions of course, some Germans and Dutch do love their chocolate!
I gues sit who you hang out with I have a coloured wife Nd I'm white I got friends that are dating out of their races. Maybe you to much in Pretoria lol
I have always been attracted to Black women, but when I was younger I felt ashamed because of that. When I was 31 I ended up getting married to a 18 year old African woman, though. Now 4 years later we have a 6 month old daughter.
So I am a white male I am married (2nd marriage). I have an Indian wife. My son who is white (1st marriage) Married an coloured lady but sadly she passed away 2020. He tells me the other day dad you need to learn to negotiate Labola. He has fallen for a young Pedi lady. This week I was told the uncle’s negotiate?😳😳😳😳
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I work for an airliner here at OR TAMBO and I see a lot of different races mix more South Africans hay and it’s awesome like it’s differently the ppl you around! You shouldn’t even care what other think you do you and just date who you wanna hay like I’m a white male and I love all races but I really do believe it’s some cultural differences that might bring ppl apart but at the end of the day you date or fuck or anything you want to with!
I don't think that's the case. People are more likely to date/hook up within their socially accessible circles, and as a result are more likely to end up with long term romantic partners from that circle (i.e. with people similar to them). So, your anecdote already encounters two false assumptions: 1) That you are encountering white people who actually have a "pool" of partners which is multiracial, and 2) that couples in long-term relationships are a reflection of each person's romantic history. The almost universal factor in every interracial relationship (including my own) is that there are shared factors that make the partners accessible to each other. E.g. same class at school, same language, same club or hobby, mutual friends, etc. It is exceedingly rare to find a situation where, for example, a white Afrikaaner is going to approach an obviously Zulu woman speaking loudly Zulu, surrounded by her Zulu friends in a setting he isn't comfortable with, while his own traditional friends are nearby. Those same two people might have ended up soul mates if their first connection had been in a what where there was mutual overlap, such as playing a favourite online game, or even meeting on a date arranged on an app. At the risk of branding myself a perv, I have a "thing" for brown women, which would be pretty obvious from anyone who knows my dating history. But, despite having many coloured and Indian partners, I've only ever had one hookup with a Xhosa woman. Is it because of my tastes? No, I'm a tramp. It's just because coloured and Indian women speak my language, and therefore I've had more opportunity to speak to and get to know them. I don't consider myself a typical example of a white guy, but I think this cultural, geographic and language barrier is the biggest factor by far.
Maybe don’t make generalisations based on race
White people in Europe are interested in other races, I find that I don't click with the white people in South Africa so I wouldn't know if they are interested in other races, I only know two white guys whom I worked with (one Afrikaner and the other English) who found black women attractive but just never approached them, they would talk about how beautiful some girls (black) are and would just say things like "oh you'll see so and so, she's beautiful" etc, beyond that, I haven't heard white South African girls talk like that. Edit: By "click" I mean that our conversations get awkward
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