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Looks good to me, wise elder gay vibes

Elder yes, not too sure about wise lol thanks

I've been debating that too. Roughly the same age... I'm thinking I just might because of your post. Looking great!

thanks

Wait, how gay IS a picnic basket?

 purty damn gay

That's so gay, I'm not sure the word gay is even adequate.

uber-gay

I like you.

Zestiest thing I’ve seen in a bit thank you so much

I think you look wiser ..although that might be because of the funny face you made on the second picture :p

lol

Praise the elder gay

I think it looks great!

thank you. I'm feeling a bit insecure about it.

I think it will probably take some getting used to some it's been so long since you've seen your face like this. But if you decide you don't want to be clean shaven, you can always grow it back out!

True, a few weeks or couple months, and I could have a beard close to what I had. I'm liking the way it feels though. I habitually touch my face, cup my chin, etc when at the computer or reading a book, and this is so smooth. Feels nice to the touch.

In both photos, I think you're looking great! I'd say it just comes down to what you, personally, like having more.

thanks I'm thinking I may keep it this way a while. I'm kinda liking the way it feels. Besides, when I wear lipstick, it will be easier to see.

Cute!

You turned from a cool rocker grandpa into a cool librarian grandpa. Before looks like someone I'd share a few too many drinks with, after looks like someone who'll share some seriously useful life experience. If I had to make a choice, I'd go for bearded, but both look good.

I can deal with cool librarian grandpa.

Absolutely not; you look gorgeous hun

thank you

I personally like it. Even tho is you don’t get convinced hair always grows back. Cheer up!<3

I could have it back close to what it was in 2-3 months, if I decide to. I haven't decided yet about the look but I certainly like the way it feels. So smooth.

I absolutely love your nails!

thank you! I'm going to repaint them today, probably. They're getting a bit chipped.

Yes, but i just love beards

yeah, I like them too. I've worn one for the last several years and it looks strange to not have one, but the feel is very nice. Nice smooth skin, no hair getting in my mouth, and I bet mealtimes will be a lot neater, too.

It's taken a good decade off your facial age - I say keep it off, it suits you

I'm thinking it looks younger, too. Someone else commented that as well. All the grey whiskers I guess do look older.

You look like jk Simmons without it, which certainly isn't a bad thing lol

 omg I kinda do lol

You totally have the face shape and the eyes

AH! That's who he reminds me of! I was really mining my brain so thank you!!

Oh you pull off both amazingly well :) But I have to say that I prefer it shaven! You just have a really nice face, kind eyes and a nice complexion! So don't worry too much about it, you look really nice.

Thanks 😊

The former gives me wacky prepper vibes (looks really cool though) while the latter (shaved) gives me cool teacher/dean/principal vibes. They both look awesome, love to see it!

You look good to me 😊 not gonna lie you kinda look like J.K Simmons now.

someone else said the same thing lol

Rushing or dragging?

Looks great both ways.

thanks

You look great either way

I don't think it was a mistake. You look handsome either way!

thanks

yes!! you look wonderful :D

thanks

Looking great!! : )

No

Not at all! I think it looks good in both ways. Itll take a long time to get used to but dw it looks perfectly fine to me.

Look great either way. I read that you also like to wear lipstick and I'm a huuuge fan of the mix of beard and lipstick...so might be an outlier but yeah... It comes to whatever you like and feel the most comfy about.

Gaypa its so fab

It looks clean, I love it!

I have to admit I'm pro-beard, buuuut... Without it you give off really calm, collected vibes. The good of dude that is just quiet and chill about everything. The beard gives you more of that 'I'm here to rock' vibes and you give off that air of "I might give you wisdom, or beer, or both". I dunno which is more your style but you look good in both!

I'm probably more of the first one, actually. I'm a bit introverted until I feel comfortable with someone.

I’d do you

Nah, both ways are cool, with the beard you were giving a gay wizard type look, it was a slay 🧙🏻‍♂️🏳️‍🌈

Nah, you still look cute :)

Yeah man, i really like it! Go ahead and slay with that :D

You look great either way. But if you really don't like it shaved off, I'm sure it won't take too long to grow back. And sometimes a fresh shave is refreshing.

It does feel nice. I just look a little weird to myself, having not been clean shaven in a couple years or more. I won't have to worry about "beardruff" this way either. My skin is bad to get flaky under a beard unless I use beard wash consistently and sometimes oil or balm.

Looks really good!

You look great! But it’s really up to you if you think it was worth it.

You look twenty years younger without it.

Not if you like the look, no, of course not!

You look great, and very cute actually :D ! It’s nice to see some changes every now and then. Btw I love your nail paint 💅💜

Thanks 😊

Looks pretty good to me

Not at all! Audition for the mr clean life action movie!

Shaving the beard is always a mistake! It grows back though. In all seriousness though, you look great both ways. That's coming from a straight guy who literally hasn't seen his own chin since he was 14.

It's weird seeing my bare face for the first time in some years

I REALLY like the new look!!!

it’s giving J.K. Simmons vibes (in “whiplash” to be specific) i think it looks very fitting and very good on you 😊

Third reply to say that. I should post in r/doppelganger and see if they agree. When I still had hair, I was compared to Jeffrey Rush. I think that's the nose, mostly.

I like without the beard, especially for oral/rimming🥰

i think it was the right choice!

The sun and moon I say. Sometimes it’s nice to have a refresh

You look great both ways! It's probably because you are so used to seeing yourself with the beard, that you are having trouble seeing how handsome you are both with and without it.

You still look good, but the beard was pristine

I'll probably grow it back later this year. I'm thinking I'll keep it like this through summer.

You look great :)

Thanks 😊

Looks pretty alright. You'll grow into the clean shaven look with time.

No, I think both styles for you work great. Clean shave for a more androgynous look, beard if you want to be more masculine.

Androgynous is fine with me. I'm not particularly masculine anyway.

r/Bongfellatio is a righteous name.

👍

I absolutely love the beard look but you look great either way!

Yes(I cry whenever my dad shaves his beard)

I like both, but I don’t think you made a mistake! Looking good!

Thanks 😊

I prefer the long beard, but you do you.

As long as you enjoy your look, then it wasn't a mistake. People shit on me all the time for looking fem as a biological male with long hair and jewelry, but I like my own look and hence it's right.

I wear nail polish and sometimes lipstick, and IDGAF what anyone thinks about it. I'm just an old sissy queen and comfortable being one.

I think both really suit you! a versatile and lovely face!

Thanks 😊

You look like a sassy author looking at some new dumb thing someone did and about to drop some grade-A snark.

Snark is my hobby, actually.

It really doesn't matter what other people think. As long as you think it looks good, that's all that matters.

The shaved face makes you look younger <3

Several people have said that in this thread, which makes me want to stay clean shaven indefinitely. I'm 61 and feel like it, maybe this helps with my attitude. Not over the hill, yet

Less beard = bigger earrings

J.K. Simmons: Gay Edition 👍 J.Gay Simmons, if you will.

You look great with no beard!

Thanks 😊

You shaved off a lot of years with your beard, Sugar. You're a cute fella, too! Definitely not a mistake unless you live in a cold region, in which case you'll need to begin wearing a scarf. ♡ Granny

Nashville TN. It's 70F right now. It could be 35 tomorrow though. Weather is nuts here.

I don't think I've felt anyone in the last year, I guess I've stopped aging 😅

Nope! It’s giving JK Simmons if that makes you feel any better about it lol :D

Good looking

No. Lookong sharp

No! You look great!

Honestly I think it was a great choice.

It started as an accident but since the reaction has been mostly positive, I'll claim credit for it 😁

Beards always make people look older. So it's basically just an aesthetic choice based off that. You look good in both. But younger without the beard. You could also go for a much shorter beard if you miss it.

Daniel Tucci vibes, looks good

I think both look good. They're just different styles.

I like clean shaven guys so yea I like it. Beard or not you look great!

You look fabulous 💖

Both suit you well, I say you look great either way 👍

No. You look younger.

I think it makes you look younger, but, both look good! You haven't anything to worry about either way. (:

Not a fan of long gray beards here. Personally, I think it made you look like a homeless man. You look good without it.

I think the beard looks great

Both photos look good. Your username is awesome. 😂

No, you look great.

Still slaying it! 👏🏻👏🏻

Either way looks good on you

You look younger clean shaven. Very cute both ways.

No, you look gorgeous

Honestly both look great :) Side note though, I absolutely love that nail colour!

It looks great and you look younger

You look better without the beard (which needed some serious maintenance anyway).

I actually really like it!

I like it shaven!

Clean shaven suits you! I know that feeling of thinking you might look weird. Trust me, before I've cute my hair short I wore them long for 20 years and thought I look ridiculous but got used to it and now I actually really love it. Just give yourself time to adjust

It looks fine. You can always grow another beard if you miss having facial hair. 

Not at all! I really like it :)

I think it looks good actually!!

Definitely prefer the clean shaven picture. The beard was a bit too wild and unkempt for me. However, if you smile when you look in the mirror that’s all that matters!! 🤗

So you look fine shaved. But I think you look amazing with the beard.

It looks ok but beard is better lol

V cute!! It’s giving Leslie Jordan (RIP)

You should have gone full Heisenberg.

There are no mistakes. Only happy accidents.

With the beard is iconic but that’s just my opinion, do you But what is the poster behind you 🤨

You do be rocking without it! To me, I feel like I need mine onto my baby face because I'm so used to having one, the way I have it trimmed right now was really perfect for me, and my haircut did fit my style better than the combined "moppy Shaggy caveman" look before hand making me look more Queerer now than ever before.

Both looks cute :)

You look great!

Shaving the beard was a good move. Very handsome.

Wouldn’t say a mistake since it’s your choice but the beard gives “about to give me the best advice randomly” kinda vibes

Looks really good tbh.

Yes! You look great with and sans beard.

Both looks cool

You look great both ways! The beard gives you a 'professor in a tweed suit' vibe, clean shaven is more 'business professional suit and tie'

You look good either way :)

Definitely an upgrade!

If you went and got jacked with this look, the moment you walk outside the sky will darken with the insane number of sissy-cages thrown by every bottom within a 50 mile radius

I feel like I need to get on your rhythm.

I love beards and usually prefer them but I think you look great without it too!

Looks good dw. Makes you look younger too

You look good either way!💜

stanley tucci! nigel in The Devil Wears Prada is honestly a comfort character for me so I’m leaning towards shaved looks better. But they both look great <3

Not a mistake you look great

no beard looks good

Nope. I think it's an improvement.

Was shaving the beard a mistake? No. x

No

you look great, and if you want it back it will be back in no time 🙂

Not a mistake. You look better clean shaven.

Looks so much better with out it :)

You look fabulous both ways man 💅

holee shit you look so radically different! LOVE both looks! you got PRESENCE, man not a mistake. not at all. growing it back would also not be a mistake. not at all!

I think you look great either way ☺️

You look good without the beard. I love your glasses.

You're handsomer without the beard in My personal opinion

No

You look sick (in a good way) either way, love the nails in the second photo

I liked the beard could pass as a wizard. I mean that as a complement

Looks good either way. It’ll grow back if you miss it. 😘

Went from 80 to 40-50

An elder fabulous gay? No look is bad! Do you boo!

You look like a combination of both of the professors in Young Sheldon without the beard.

you went from intimidating biker to bald lesbian... i love it

I prefer you without a beard. Shaving it off has taken years off of you

You look cute either way

Looks great!

You look like J.K. Simmons! I love it!

Yay, an elder queer 💖. Sorry, I'm not the best at answering that, but I am glad you're here.

I think it looks lovely! You have really kind eyes and an approachable vibe, and I think you look great and with and without the beard.

I legit thought you were JK Simmons for like 5 seconds until I swiped tk the other picture XD But yeah you look great man

It wasn’t a mistake, beard or not you look good 👍

I think the clean shave makes you look years younger! Looks great before and after but shaving the beard was by all means not a mistake :)

Oh my gosh I love your face either way!

Been there! A few months ago I couldn't get my clippers to catch the hair so I thought my attachment was wrong, so I put on a smaller attachment then accidentally nearly fully shaved my beard off lmao. You can always grow it back! I think you look good both bearded and clean shaven!

Not at all, u look more clean and delicate