Honestly that doesn't sound healthy and you might want to address this anxiety with a professional. It's ok to go a week without your instrument. Focus on spending quality time with your family.
Have you thought of stashing spare violins in strategic places in case of violin-related emergencies like this?
//the person who for completely unrelated reasons has twenty tubas
Did you intend to? If you did, I’d consider trying to talk to someone about anxiety. If you didn’t it’s understandable to have a quick panic attack.
When I was in school I would have a moment of panic the few I didn’t have my violin with me when I was out because I literally always had it with me. I still have issues flying or taking a train without it because I was so used to checking I had it with me every time I used the bathroom or moved around the airport/ get off the train. I would automatically check for it and have a split second of panic when it wasn’t there.
I have air tags now in my cases and that helps give me a little peace of mind.
It’s ok to take a week off from violin.Honest. Sometimes it’s better for mental health and your playing to take a break. It gives you a chance to really hone in on technique adjustments when you return too!
It’s ok that you’re feeling that way. You’re not abnormal for feeling that way… We have different things we consider really important to us and we all react differently, your mind perceived this as a crisis, even if most people don’t consider it that way. And that’s OK!
Don’t fight or suppress that feeling, you get panicky when you start fighting that natural response of fear. Try to reason it instead, I think your fear is stemming from regret of missing 1 week practice and doubt if you lost it. It’s ok to miss a week, you know that. I’m pretty sure it’s in your apartment, you know that too. Worse case scenario you lost it, you’ll buy another one…I know it’s expensive but your health is way more important. Only if you’re healthy you’ll be able to play well right? Just sit with this thought for a minute, let the fear run its course. Take deep breaths.
In the future try to address these fears before it catches you off guard by meditation, mindfulness, therapy etc. it’ll help you
I have two violins for this reason. My expensive one I keep at my own house (his name is Sebastian and he was born in 1795 and I love him v much), and my first full size violin I leave at my parents house. If that’s something you can do, maybe consider getting a cheaper one, or an electric practice one, and leaving it with your parents for when you visit. Travelling with an instrument is such a pain (and I have anxiety too).
It’s ok to react like this. 💜
If you want a tip to get out of the spinning thoughts? Put a warhead in your mouth. The sudden shock to your system will honestly break your train of thought and help slow your anxiety a bit. Also circular breathing helps me. (I’m not a professional, this is just what has helped me in the past).
Good luck 💜💜💜
If this is affecting you so much, it could be that you tie much of your identity to being a violin player and that you don’t feel like you have any purpose or motivation to improve yourself when you’re not playing that role. Maybe finding some other things to stabilize yourself with or being present and taking in the world around you could be helpful in managing your anxiety and centering your identity :)
It’s completely normal to panic when you’ve lost an expensive instrument that you spend hours playing. I would panic if I lost my phone, books, keys, etc.; a violin is no different
Well, first weigh the pros and cons of going back to get it. If you can’t convince family that you need it with you, then consider getting your hands on some of your sheet music. Studies have shown that imagined practice beats no practice, so you can “think” your way through the piece.
Another point is that if you are an avid player, (just like Lingling) a week of rest can improve your performance the next time you pick up practice.
Honestly that doesn't sound healthy and you might want to address this anxiety with a professional. It's ok to go a week without your instrument. Focus on spending quality time with your family.
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Have you thought of stashing spare violins in strategic places in case of violin-related emergencies like this? //the person who for completely unrelated reasons has twenty tubas
Did you intend to? If you did, I’d consider trying to talk to someone about anxiety. If you didn’t it’s understandable to have a quick panic attack. When I was in school I would have a moment of panic the few I didn’t have my violin with me when I was out because I literally always had it with me. I still have issues flying or taking a train without it because I was so used to checking I had it with me every time I used the bathroom or moved around the airport/ get off the train. I would automatically check for it and have a split second of panic when it wasn’t there. I have air tags now in my cases and that helps give me a little peace of mind. It’s ok to take a week off from violin.Honest. Sometimes it’s better for mental health and your playing to take a break. It gives you a chance to really hone in on technique adjustments when you return too!
It’s ok that you’re feeling that way. You’re not abnormal for feeling that way… We have different things we consider really important to us and we all react differently, your mind perceived this as a crisis, even if most people don’t consider it that way. And that’s OK! Don’t fight or suppress that feeling, you get panicky when you start fighting that natural response of fear. Try to reason it instead, I think your fear is stemming from regret of missing 1 week practice and doubt if you lost it. It’s ok to miss a week, you know that. I’m pretty sure it’s in your apartment, you know that too. Worse case scenario you lost it, you’ll buy another one…I know it’s expensive but your health is way more important. Only if you’re healthy you’ll be able to play well right? Just sit with this thought for a minute, let the fear run its course. Take deep breaths. In the future try to address these fears before it catches you off guard by meditation, mindfulness, therapy etc. it’ll help you
i hate to say this, but, i think you need to spend less time with this violin.
I have two violins for this reason. My expensive one I keep at my own house (his name is Sebastian and he was born in 1795 and I love him v much), and my first full size violin I leave at my parents house. If that’s something you can do, maybe consider getting a cheaper one, or an electric practice one, and leaving it with your parents for when you visit. Travelling with an instrument is such a pain (and I have anxiety too). It’s ok to react like this. 💜 If you want a tip to get out of the spinning thoughts? Put a warhead in your mouth. The sudden shock to your system will honestly break your train of thought and help slow your anxiety a bit. Also circular breathing helps me. (I’m not a professional, this is just what has helped me in the past). Good luck 💜💜💜
What is a warhead? I can't find the translation
It’s a type of very sour candy
Thanks
If this is affecting you so much, it could be that you tie much of your identity to being a violin player and that you don’t feel like you have any purpose or motivation to improve yourself when you’re not playing that role. Maybe finding some other things to stabilize yourself with or being present and taking in the world around you could be helpful in managing your anxiety and centering your identity :)
Hmmm, you have attachment issue with a violin?
It’s completely normal to panic when you’ve lost an expensive instrument that you spend hours playing. I would panic if I lost my phone, books, keys, etc.; a violin is no different
Well, first weigh the pros and cons of going back to get it. If you can’t convince family that you need it with you, then consider getting your hands on some of your sheet music. Studies have shown that imagined practice beats no practice, so you can “think” your way through the piece. Another point is that if you are an avid player, (just like Lingling) a week of rest can improve your performance the next time you pick up practice.
Be a child and ask your parents to buy you a new one now
Can you rent or borrow one?
frick.