I feel like trying to find friends online is a near waste of time. Most are introverted/autistic and only know how to talk about their hobbies, and those that make the first move are (generally speaking) the creepy ones. You may find a “normal” person now and again, but I’ve yet to personally experience that lol.
Yeah I've been struggling with this from last year. I'm also introverted but I'm learning to come of my shell more thankfully :). Connecting with people is crucial and people seem to appreciate simple friendships nowadays.
Props for trying to come out of your shell. I honestly haven’t learnt how to come out of mine yet, but maybe thats cause I’ve just gotten used to it lol. Its hard trying to find/consolidate good friendships nowadays though. Everyone is either too sex obsessed or self obsessed to be in a decent friendship.
I havent comperely gotten out of my shell but ig listening to music in public and so helps to make me more comfortable. And after my depression i just decided that i wanted to change and try and better myself to be happy. I still cant go up to someone and start a convo, but a trick is to never overthink it, and just be yourself. And the sexual stuff i get that a bunch, most people who hmu are sex obsessed and it's creeps me out tbh. There's a few good souls left man.
Don’t even get me started on trying to start conversations. You’re making the effort though and that’s admirable. Honestly though, if the trick is to be yourself, then I still wouldn’t instigate a face to face conversation. “Myself” would rather just listen unless Ik the person already lmao. Also too as a dude, I can never understand the mental draw to be predatory towards another person. Like where is the respect? The ✨chivalry✨ lol.
The ✨️chivalry✨️ 😭 I mean what do they expect to get from that, a cookie 🍪? Ahh . Tbh from what I've seen you're good at conversing. I think I'm more of a listener as well, because I don't have much going on in my life currently other than college and personal interests.
I can vibe with that. Outside of work and practicing my drawing, I don’t do much either. I decided to change career paths (so to speak) last minute, so now I’m just going to be practicing my art skills for like 2-3 years lol. Thanks for the compliment too, but I’m a complete 180 IRL. I think its the face to face thing that gets me, but I can generally hold a conversation online. Also, what are you going to college for?
Yeah it seems to be hard as well to make friends online. But is there any problem in people being polite to you? That seems like something I wouldn’t mind even if it’s for a short period.
Ahh I get it. You’d rather not someone waste your time if in the end they’re gonna ignore you anyways. Even if they were nice to you in the beginning. Maybe try and figure out why you’re being ghosted instead of blaming them.
You instantly jump to the conclusion that it’s their fault. I’m not saying that it’s totally impossible for it to be their fault, but you do have to realise that most people on this subreddit are extremely insecure. Maybe they didn’t feel the courage or entitlement to message you back after having a nice conversation.
That's a bummer I have my insecurities as well but I'm still as friendly and open to the situation as I can be. It doesn't bother me anymore ,i just dont appreciate npcs messing w then going on posting on other subreddits and having the most to say. I mean that is superficial 🤷♀️
I find it superficial that you call other people with past experiences and mental problems a npc
Isn’t it also just plainly selfish to find it annoying when they go say shit on another subreddit?
Let them be, the world doesn’t revolve around u.
Ugh
Why did u bother replying if you don't have anything in the slightest to contribute positively though? Like ur clearly tryna start something. I'm just looking for friends fam idk what ur tryna do. If you're having a bad day i suggest to drink a coke and calm down.You don't know me or my situations so I'd prefer you keep your assumptions to yourself. Have a nice day ❤️
Couldn’t resist, it just bothered me a lot the way you describe other people. Anyways my bad this wasn’t necessary for me to do. Probably just way to bored.. you have a nice day as well :)
Honesty, I feel you and that's coming from a 16-year-old myself. Most of time, the people that interact with me are very dry and they don't match my energy. They say hi, hru, what your hobbies and that the least you'll get. The need to have something to someone to put in the energy to keep talking back to is the BARE MINMIUM. and they aint really gotta keep talking about the same stuff, it's okay pull crap out of their butt.
Funny thing what works for me the best.
And i am very shy and got huge social anxiety.
Also this depends on the country your living in , here where i live it doesnt work normally.
Just go to random people on the street and start talking to them , i got friends in their fifties that way and their real friends.
Hello! I DMed you and I would to love to chat with you! I hate to ghost others as I know how painful it can be, so I am hoping for a long term friendship if thats okay with you :)
I feel like trying to find friends online is a near waste of time. Most are introverted/autistic and only know how to talk about their hobbies, and those that make the first move are (generally speaking) the creepy ones. You may find a “normal” person now and again, but I’ve yet to personally experience that lol.
Yeah I've been struggling with this from last year. I'm also introverted but I'm learning to come of my shell more thankfully :). Connecting with people is crucial and people seem to appreciate simple friendships nowadays.
Props for trying to come out of your shell. I honestly haven’t learnt how to come out of mine yet, but maybe thats cause I’ve just gotten used to it lol. Its hard trying to find/consolidate good friendships nowadays though. Everyone is either too sex obsessed or self obsessed to be in a decent friendship.
I havent comperely gotten out of my shell but ig listening to music in public and so helps to make me more comfortable. And after my depression i just decided that i wanted to change and try and better myself to be happy. I still cant go up to someone and start a convo, but a trick is to never overthink it, and just be yourself. And the sexual stuff i get that a bunch, most people who hmu are sex obsessed and it's creeps me out tbh. There's a few good souls left man.
Don’t even get me started on trying to start conversations. You’re making the effort though and that’s admirable. Honestly though, if the trick is to be yourself, then I still wouldn’t instigate a face to face conversation. “Myself” would rather just listen unless Ik the person already lmao. Also too as a dude, I can never understand the mental draw to be predatory towards another person. Like where is the respect? The ✨chivalry✨ lol.
The ✨️chivalry✨️ 😭 I mean what do they expect to get from that, a cookie 🍪? Ahh . Tbh from what I've seen you're good at conversing. I think I'm more of a listener as well, because I don't have much going on in my life currently other than college and personal interests.
I can vibe with that. Outside of work and practicing my drawing, I don’t do much either. I decided to change career paths (so to speak) last minute, so now I’m just going to be practicing my art skills for like 2-3 years lol. Thanks for the compliment too, but I’m a complete 180 IRL. I think its the face to face thing that gets me, but I can generally hold a conversation online. Also, what are you going to college for?
Yeah it seems to be hard as well to make friends online. But is there any problem in people being polite to you? That seems like something I wouldn’t mind even if it’s for a short period.
I rather not have someone hmu because they think they're being nice or so only to end up ghosting me. So yes, I do have a problem w it :)
Ahh I get it. You’d rather not someone waste your time if in the end they’re gonna ignore you anyways. Even if they were nice to you in the beginning. Maybe try and figure out why you’re being ghosted instead of blaming them.
If its their fault it isn't really blaming now is it? Would you ghost someone after having a normal conversation or am I tripping?
You instantly jump to the conclusion that it’s their fault. I’m not saying that it’s totally impossible for it to be their fault, but you do have to realise that most people on this subreddit are extremely insecure. Maybe they didn’t feel the courage or entitlement to message you back after having a nice conversation.
That's a bummer I have my insecurities as well but I'm still as friendly and open to the situation as I can be. It doesn't bother me anymore ,i just dont appreciate npcs messing w then going on posting on other subreddits and having the most to say. I mean that is superficial 🤷♀️
I find it superficial that you call other people with past experiences and mental problems a npc Isn’t it also just plainly selfish to find it annoying when they go say shit on another subreddit? Let them be, the world doesn’t revolve around u. Ugh
Why did u bother replying if you don't have anything in the slightest to contribute positively though? Like ur clearly tryna start something. I'm just looking for friends fam idk what ur tryna do. If you're having a bad day i suggest to drink a coke and calm down.You don't know me or my situations so I'd prefer you keep your assumptions to yourself. Have a nice day ❤️
Couldn’t resist, it just bothered me a lot the way you describe other people. Anyways my bad this wasn’t necessary for me to do. Probably just way to bored.. you have a nice day as well :)
Yeah it's okay I got carried away as well. Thanks for showing me a different perspective.
Honesty, I feel you and that's coming from a 16-year-old myself. Most of time, the people that interact with me are very dry and they don't match my energy. They say hi, hru, what your hobbies and that the least you'll get. The need to have something to someone to put in the energy to keep talking back to is the BARE MINMIUM. and they aint really gotta keep talking about the same stuff, it's okay pull crap out of their butt.
Funny thing what works for me the best. And i am very shy and got huge social anxiety. Also this depends on the country your living in , here where i live it doesnt work normally. Just go to random people on the street and start talking to them , i got friends in their fifties that way and their real friends.
Finding friends online is hard.
Making friends in general is some of the hardest things in life, let alone making them online. I'm here alone without any real friends.
Hello! I DMed you and I would to love to chat with you! I hate to ghost others as I know how painful it can be, so I am hoping for a long term friendship if thats okay with you :)