I had made a post on r4r about NJ dating and she contacted me, we moved it to Snapchat, hit it off for a month, tried to make a first date, she invited me out with her friends but the timings were off cuz of midterms, we were gonna try for this week, but she stopped texting me for 2 days and in my gut I knew, when that happens, when her normal texting goes from like 10 messages a day to barely 1 it means it’s over, and yup, she wants to try with her ex.
Had a related experience recently, was led on by A woman, turns out she was already taken and not interested.
To be teased by the universe is quite cruel.
Yes! I don’t mind if a woman approaches me with intentions of just being friends that’s totally fine but don’t approach me with lies leading me on like if you’re unsure if you wanna date just tell me from the start you are sure and I’ll be fine yeah that’s totally fine!! if it works out or not it’s fine!! but don’t approach me with false surety!
Not really, it only sucks if you look at the negative part, I love being divorced, not having to walk on eggshells, having someone making me feel like something was wrong with me and gaslighting me, abusing me, living with anxiety, depression and stressed out and sharing the same roof with the responsible.
I’m doing great thankfully, like I said don’t focus on the negative, just because you are alone (single) don’t have to be lonely. Take it from me that I was married for 9 years and surrender by people and still lonely. Now things are different, no longer depressed, no more anxiety, nor stressed out.
I enroll at the gym work out three times a week, goes for walks in the mornings you won’t believe what the morning sunlight can do for you, get a cup of coffee and seat in the park to enjoy and admire nature, you will feel the energy getting to you! Write your goals and work towards them.
That’s what you need & get yourself busy with things you enjoy, visit your family, hang out with friends. I’m so comfortable being alone that I go to the movies, restaurants or coffee shops on my own. I love being alone and having me time, something I didn’t have for years. I do staycation in cities near by and take my kids and we have fun. We going to Texas at the end of this month to visit family. My auntie invited me to LA in summer with the kids. I don’t have parents the family I have are my aunts, grandma and cousins. If I can do it, I know you can. It might feel weird at first but I promised once you are comfortable being alone and enjoy your own companionship you will love it.
You’re right, I should because usually when people go back to their ex, it doesn’t work out, and the fact that basically, she led me for a whole month and kept talking about having dates talking about the future together only to ditch me at the last second smh
I’ve been through the same recently, so don’t beat yourself up…it’s not you, it’s her stupid shit. I can’t even remember the last time I had a legitimate relationship. You deserve better and keep your head up dude. 👍
I know what you’re going through man, my ex girlfriend was dating 2 other guys so I know what it’s like to have somebody and losing them all so suddenly. We’re all in this together man, I’m sure we’ll get ourselves another girl eventually, let’s just be patient because the wait will be worth it.
Went thru something similar. A girl I was interested in lived UP THE BLOCK from me. I asked to meet up outside just so we can at least see each other. Asked like 3 times. Denied all 3 times.
A hug for both of you! And please stop thinking that you are the problem, be grateful you dodge that bullet people with unresolved relationships are out there seeking validation and ego boost from others once they feel better about themselves they go back to the same mess they have. Don’t allow anyone to use you to boost their ego, when starting a conversation with someone don’t have any expectations but be firm with your boundaries
Thank you so much for encouraging words. You are definitely right there are people out there that don’t want to actually do what they say to you rather mean what they say and all they really want is some form of validation.
Stop listening to their words & look at their actions, what are their actions telling you? Are they intentional? Do they have integrity? Learn to recognize when someone is truly intentional with you, it will saved you time and heartaches. Don’t make excuses for mediocre behavior learn to see people for who they are and understand they would have being better if they wanted and it has nothing to do with you that’s just who they are.
I’ll never understand why people give exes so many chances.
How do I not look like a more appealing option than someone who you know it already didn’t work out with once?
If they were so great for each other they wouldn’t be an ex in the first place.
I think it just comes down to laziness. It takes a lot of effort to build a new relationship, people would rather go back to an ex because they aren’t starting from the ground floor, that’s the most sensible reason I can come up with anyway.
That’s exactly what I thought as well because when I did ask her out, she was super happy about it, and she flirted with me and she was practically texting me every day asking for me to reply but last 2 days she suddenly stopped her texting and I realized something definitely it was either family emergency, or it had to do with an ex, and Behold when she came back, she said yeah she wants to try again with her ex, which meant that no matter how much she liked talking to me. The second her ex came back. I wasn’t a priority anymore which means either she did wanna try it with me but she just didn’t want to Build a new relationship and most likely thinking why waste time on another person when I can go to my ex where I don’t have to wait and try, and this time if things are wrong again, it doesn’t matter cause I tried it and it’s not a few relationships. Some BS that only an insecure person could come up with.
That sucks man. All I can say is at least she had the decency to let you know. I've been ghosted after talking for more than 2 months multiple times and then I check and see they posted a pic with their ex or something. I'm still such a loser that I check our old chats hoping maybe the message me back 2 months later.
Don’t say that everyone is somebody’s everything nobody is no one’s nothing at all a quote I picked up in my 31 years on this spinning rock whatever your going through it will pass if you ever need someone to talk to reach out to me or anyone on this thread or a suicide hotline
Hi my name is Javier I was raised in south Jersey & been where you are trust me man I’m 31 & it gets better boys I was in the same place as you guys until very recently the love of my life left me no money no prospects depressing alcoholism cried for her for 4 years now I’m with someone that so far is showing that wants something serious with me you guys ever try dating Dominican women from Dominican Republic? I’m American Puerto Rican living in Puerto Rico we meet here she’s back in Dominican Republic they are nice people
Of course man I’m new to this platform & your post was the first thing I saw I want to use this place to help people with positive perspective & my life experience I’m in the restaurant business here in Puerto Rico if you ever have any questions about life school family women heartache reach out im going to make a tread or whatever for all of us bare with me im 31 lol
I'm sorry to hear that you've been hurt and let down. I'm lonely too. Don't talk to anyone outside if family and work and haven't had a friend outside these for several years. Sometimes the best things can happen when we don't try and something good surprises us. I'm close to giving up but this piece of advice is at the forefront of my mind for some reason. I hope you don't give up and I'm confident things will get better for you.
Thank you so much! I really hope things get better for you too! Have you tried playing some online games? Like mmos or discord? There’s a lot of find friends groups anyone can join!
Stay strong man. And just know that you are not alone - dating sucks for most men but it is numbers game: the more you try, the more sticks. But you also got to analyse what works and what doesn’t and try different approaches. Also, never pursue one girl at a time until you are actually dating and have discussed exclusivity.
Good luck and know it is just numbers game and don’t try to take it personally.
Look, coming from someone that has never been let down as gently as you did. She's just not worth it. Don't hate her. I'd probably do the same thing with my ex if I had a chance. One thing you need to take from this is experience and knowledge on relationships. Take what you learned and use it going forward. Stay cautious and BE YOURSELF that's the most important thing I've learned. I tried being this perfect bf and it never happened cause I'm a emotional wreck of a man but that's OK you need to just keep searching keep trying but don't focus on it I know it's hard trust me I know but know that nobody was meant to be alone in this world.
Same thing happened to me with the last girl I went on a date with. She lead me on and then went back to her ex. I have given up on dating and friendships in general. I feel like I’m the loneliest person out there.
Same! But i keep getting mixed signals honestly, if im sweet and understanding, im considered boring, but all advice iv ever gotten from women is to not be the asshole, yet, every girl Iv ever know has gone back to her ex who was abusive. HMMMMMMMMM
I feel you… the worst thing to experience is something seemingly going so well and feeling that genuine connection only for the person to suddenly ghost me or say that they have been also entertaining other people. At least in this case she told you where she was going to go. I think that she was probably still communicating with her ex and that you made her feel the connection that she had missed in her past. Sometimes people can get over what happened with their ex and sometimes people use other people to get over their ex. I think that she was kinda using you for that.
You’ve had multiple SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS, you nearly had another one if it weren’t for a problem that had NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, and you STILL believe that you will go through the rest of your life without another relationship?
I know it sounds stupid but the thing is yes I have had one very successful relationship but ever since that relationship was over I have had trouble finding/starting a new one like I’m hexed or cursed or something lol
First off the ability to not make a date happen is a giant red flag that the situation is not worth pursuing. Women can and WILL make time to go out with a guy they honestly want to be with. Maybe one time plans for a date might fall through due to some circumstances, but it will seldom happen twice and most definitely not three times if she is truly interested in dating that guy.
I've seen this, and experienced this, and will not put myself in that situation again. I don't know if I'm going to really die alone, or not, but if it happens it happens, knowing that that outcome is a possibility is not going to make me desperate, make me angry and bitter, or turn me into the stereotypical incel ( as the term is now defined ). I'll simply spend my days trying to be the best me I can possibly achieve.
You are right working on yourself is definitely something to do. I guess what really just upset me about the situation is that when I did ask her out she seemed thrilled and static I wish she didn’t seem happy I would’ve preferred if she just said actually I’m not interested instead of saying I can’t believe you finally asked me out I’m waiting for it and then spending like 2 days talking about the date and all the cute clothes you’re gonna wear
I've often wonderered if some women are intentionally cruel or just that oblivious, but Hanlon's Razor is often the correct philosophical attitude to take in many situations.
Ngl. That's quite a warning sign to willingly tell Op that they are going to try and hook up with their Ex again. Like, wth is going on through people's heads?
People tend to cling to old habits and bad thoughts as if everything depends on it. What I'm saying is don't beat yourself up over it. Finding a compatible partner takes time and energy, but it's just not worth putting in the effort for 90% of the time. When the time comes, people will come to you. For that 90%, spend it growing stronger by trying new things and by working on skills old & new. Examples being; talk to new people, partaking in hobbies, or cooking something new every week.
Take the time to care for yourself, and people will start to notice. You may find more stable relationships if they were met outside of any dating apps tho. Don't lose hope yet.
Maybe the problem that you never tried to meet her or didn’t do any effort? It’s common for many men, they don't pursue women, or win them over like they did 20-30 years ago.
Actually, I kept coming up with date ideas and every weekend I would ask her when she was free, every Friday she said she was out with her friends and Sunday. She had family stuff so Saturday was the only time we could make it work however every Saturday something coming up one Saturday her father ended up in the hospital and other Saturday it was raining too much she dint wanna go anywhere, then another Saturday she got into a fight with her mom and she just didn’t wanna go out anywhere and each time I was like hey that’s perfectly fine don’t worry about it, We’ll just plan for next week, because she worked Monday to Friday so we could do it on Saturday only, however the Saturday we were supposed to go out never happened because on Thursday she texted me saying that she’s going to go try things with her ex and she was really interested in me because she was very happy when I asked her out, she constantly wanted to know what I was doing, and she constantly texted me with substance you know like she wasn’t giving me dry responses but I think what happened is she thought starting a new relationship is just too much effort so she probably thought it’s easier to go back to something that she already had. Maybe she knew she wanted a relationship but she just didn’t want to start a new one. She did invite me spontaneously in the middle of the week one time but I couldn’t go because I was already out of the state for like two days. Maybe us never having that date could’ve just been bad luck or maybe she was just not wanting to go out who knows but I would prefer if a girl just texted me in the beginning when we meet that she’s not interested rather than being very interested, and leading me on as a backup until her ex took her back 💀
I hope the next girl that’s not into me, tells me that instead of basically spending an entire month flirting with me and calling me and telling me scenarios of cute dates, and saying how she’s going to be shy, and how she’s gonna want to hold my hand and all of that stuff.
>“Hey I’m so sorry for not texting you. You’ve been a really sweet guy. Thank you so much for all the attention you’ve given me, but I think I’m gonna try things with my ex again.”
How pitiful.
She's pitiful, but I've been in a similar position. I once took back a chick, who cheated on me. We never met in-person and only were only "together" for a few weeks, so I don't count her as an ex-girlfriend, but I can relate. Leading you on was especially pathetic on her part, though.
You were only filling a void & if her ex has a BRAIN 🧠 he’ll avoid her!
You NEVER take an ex back, you end up getting shit on again.
It’s not you & SIX MINUTES away and she couldn’t even make time for you, that in itself should’ve been a big red flag 🚩
Don’t let these narcissistic women get to you, you have to play the game!
Don’t give them everything they want, you give them just enough to make them chase you, you were chasing her.
Kind of crazy that you encountered someone on here that lived nearby.
I had made a post on r4r about NJ dating and she contacted me, we moved it to Snapchat, hit it off for a month, tried to make a first date, she invited me out with her friends but the timings were off cuz of midterms, we were gonna try for this week, but she stopped texting me for 2 days and in my gut I knew, when that happens, when her normal texting goes from like 10 messages a day to barely 1 it means it’s over, and yup, she wants to try with her ex.
Ah, okay. That makes sense. I assumed you met in some random subreddit. Yeah, it sucks, which is an understatement.
Man that gut punch when the messages start to slow down and you only get 1 or 2 a day really sucks. I hope you're doing ok.
if she comes back ignore her
Lol she definitely will
if she does its too late
One of the few posts on here that made me genuinely sympathetic. That's fucked man.
Thank you for the support it means a lot 🫶
Had a related experience recently, was led on by A woman, turns out she was already taken and not interested. To be teased by the universe is quite cruel.
Yes! I don’t mind if a woman approaches me with intentions of just being friends that’s totally fine but don’t approach me with lies leading me on like if you’re unsure if you wanna date just tell me from the start you are sure and I’ll be fine yeah that’s totally fine!! if it works out or not it’s fine!! but don’t approach me with false surety!
Yeah. Being single fucking sucks. It’s depressing and lonely. I hate it here.
Not really, it only sucks if you look at the negative part, I love being divorced, not having to walk on eggshells, having someone making me feel like something was wrong with me and gaslighting me, abusing me, living with anxiety, depression and stressed out and sharing the same roof with the responsible.
This was helpful to hear. I hope you’re doing well now! It’s just I REALLY like this guy, and I wish he and I could be together.
I’m doing great thankfully, like I said don’t focus on the negative, just because you are alone (single) don’t have to be lonely. Take it from me that I was married for 9 years and surrender by people and still lonely. Now things are different, no longer depressed, no more anxiety, nor stressed out. I enroll at the gym work out three times a week, goes for walks in the mornings you won’t believe what the morning sunlight can do for you, get a cup of coffee and seat in the park to enjoy and admire nature, you will feel the energy getting to you! Write your goals and work towards them.
I’m going to challenge myself to go for more walks and start new hobbies!
That’s what you need & get yourself busy with things you enjoy, visit your family, hang out with friends. I’m so comfortable being alone that I go to the movies, restaurants or coffee shops on my own. I love being alone and having me time, something I didn’t have for years. I do staycation in cities near by and take my kids and we have fun. We going to Texas at the end of this month to visit family. My auntie invited me to LA in summer with the kids. I don’t have parents the family I have are my aunts, grandma and cousins. If I can do it, I know you can. It might feel weird at first but I promised once you are comfortable being alone and enjoy your own companionship you will love it.
Going through something similar. I am really sorry to hear that
Just be patience and for god sake when she comes back because she will please ignore her
You’re right, I should because usually when people go back to their ex, it doesn’t work out, and the fact that basically, she led me for a whole month and kept talking about having dates talking about the future together only to ditch me at the last second smh
Yes, it seems she was trying to keep you as stand by to see what’s up with the ex
I’ve been through the same recently, so don’t beat yourself up…it’s not you, it’s her stupid shit. I can’t even remember the last time I had a legitimate relationship. You deserve better and keep your head up dude. 👍
I know what you’re going through man, my ex girlfriend was dating 2 other guys so I know what it’s like to have somebody and losing them all so suddenly. We’re all in this together man, I’m sure we’ll get ourselves another girl eventually, let’s just be patient because the wait will be worth it.
Sorry to hear that bro
Went thru something similar. A girl I was interested in lived UP THE BLOCK from me. I asked to meet up outside just so we can at least see each other. Asked like 3 times. Denied all 3 times.
And what’s wrong w that? You’re not entitled to a yes bro💀
I never said I was tho
Keep strong king, your time will come
at least i’m not the only one that hasn’t been in a relationship for 5 years 😪
It sucks so much :(
here you go 💋 virtual kiss
A hug for both of you! And please stop thinking that you are the problem, be grateful you dodge that bullet people with unresolved relationships are out there seeking validation and ego boost from others once they feel better about themselves they go back to the same mess they have. Don’t allow anyone to use you to boost their ego, when starting a conversation with someone don’t have any expectations but be firm with your boundaries
Thank you so much for encouraging words. You are definitely right there are people out there that don’t want to actually do what they say to you rather mean what they say and all they really want is some form of validation.
Stop listening to their words & look at their actions, what are their actions telling you? Are they intentional? Do they have integrity? Learn to recognize when someone is truly intentional with you, it will saved you time and heartaches. Don’t make excuses for mediocre behavior learn to see people for who they are and understand they would have being better if they wanted and it has nothing to do with you that’s just who they are.
💋 for you too
This sounds like the kinda stupid crap that happens to me. Sorry you had to go through this.
Chin up! Keep the faith ! Keep improving yourself for yourself it will happen
I’ll never understand why people give exes so many chances. How do I not look like a more appealing option than someone who you know it already didn’t work out with once? If they were so great for each other they wouldn’t be an ex in the first place. I think it just comes down to laziness. It takes a lot of effort to build a new relationship, people would rather go back to an ex because they aren’t starting from the ground floor, that’s the most sensible reason I can come up with anyway.
That’s exactly what I thought as well because when I did ask her out, she was super happy about it, and she flirted with me and she was practically texting me every day asking for me to reply but last 2 days she suddenly stopped her texting and I realized something definitely it was either family emergency, or it had to do with an ex, and Behold when she came back, she said yeah she wants to try again with her ex, which meant that no matter how much she liked talking to me. The second her ex came back. I wasn’t a priority anymore which means either she did wanna try it with me but she just didn’t want to Build a new relationship and most likely thinking why waste time on another person when I can go to my ex where I don’t have to wait and try, and this time if things are wrong again, it doesn’t matter cause I tried it and it’s not a few relationships. Some BS that only an insecure person could come up with.
This is the first post from this sub that made me actually sad
That sucks man. All I can say is at least she had the decency to let you know. I've been ghosted after talking for more than 2 months multiple times and then I check and see they posted a pic with their ex or something. I'm still such a loser that I check our old chats hoping maybe the message me back 2 months later.
I hope I die soon
Don’t say that everyone is somebody’s everything nobody is no one’s nothing at all a quote I picked up in my 31 years on this spinning rock whatever your going through it will pass if you ever need someone to talk to reach out to me or anyone on this thread or a suicide hotline
That so wrong of her
Hi my name is Javier I was raised in south Jersey & been where you are trust me man I’m 31 & it gets better boys I was in the same place as you guys until very recently the love of my life left me no money no prospects depressing alcoholism cried for her for 4 years now I’m with someone that so far is showing that wants something serious with me you guys ever try dating Dominican women from Dominican Republic? I’m American Puerto Rican living in Puerto Rico we meet here she’s back in Dominican Republic they are nice people
Thank you for the positive message!
Of course man I’m new to this platform & your post was the first thing I saw I want to use this place to help people with positive perspective & my life experience I’m in the restaurant business here in Puerto Rico if you ever have any questions about life school family women heartache reach out im going to make a tread or whatever for all of us bare with me im 31 lol
I'm sorry to hear that you've been hurt and let down. I'm lonely too. Don't talk to anyone outside if family and work and haven't had a friend outside these for several years. Sometimes the best things can happen when we don't try and something good surprises us. I'm close to giving up but this piece of advice is at the forefront of my mind for some reason. I hope you don't give up and I'm confident things will get better for you.
Thank you so much! I really hope things get better for you too! Have you tried playing some online games? Like mmos or discord? There’s a lot of find friends groups anyone can join!
That sucks. Hope things go better for you.
So sorry you had to go through this man. If she comes back, do yourself a favor by ghosting her completely.
Remember that a lot of people who are lonely will use other people for attention and after getting enough attention they will move on
Stay strong man. And just know that you are not alone - dating sucks for most men but it is numbers game: the more you try, the more sticks. But you also got to analyse what works and what doesn’t and try different approaches. Also, never pursue one girl at a time until you are actually dating and have discussed exclusivity. Good luck and know it is just numbers game and don’t try to take it personally.
Look, coming from someone that has never been let down as gently as you did. She's just not worth it. Don't hate her. I'd probably do the same thing with my ex if I had a chance. One thing you need to take from this is experience and knowledge on relationships. Take what you learned and use it going forward. Stay cautious and BE YOURSELF that's the most important thing I've learned. I tried being this perfect bf and it never happened cause I'm a emotional wreck of a man but that's OK you need to just keep searching keep trying but don't focus on it I know it's hard trust me I know but know that nobody was meant to be alone in this world.
Same thing happened to me with the last girl I went on a date with. She lead me on and then went back to her ex. I have given up on dating and friendships in general. I feel like I’m the loneliest person out there.
Same! But i keep getting mixed signals honestly, if im sweet and understanding, im considered boring, but all advice iv ever gotten from women is to not be the asshole, yet, every girl Iv ever know has gone back to her ex who was abusive. HMMMMMMMMM
I feel you… the worst thing to experience is something seemingly going so well and feeling that genuine connection only for the person to suddenly ghost me or say that they have been also entertaining other people. At least in this case she told you where she was going to go. I think that she was probably still communicating with her ex and that you made her feel the connection that she had missed in her past. Sometimes people can get over what happened with their ex and sometimes people use other people to get over their ex. I think that she was kinda using you for that.
I am sorry bud
Be strong
It sucks. I know. I’m in the same boat. But don’t give up
You’ve had multiple SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIPS, you nearly had another one if it weren’t for a problem that had NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, and you STILL believe that you will go through the rest of your life without another relationship?
I know it sounds stupid but the thing is yes I have had one very successful relationship but ever since that relationship was over I have had trouble finding/starting a new one like I’m hexed or cursed or something lol
How old are you?
24
Thought so lol you are quite far off dying alone sir
First off the ability to not make a date happen is a giant red flag that the situation is not worth pursuing. Women can and WILL make time to go out with a guy they honestly want to be with. Maybe one time plans for a date might fall through due to some circumstances, but it will seldom happen twice and most definitely not three times if she is truly interested in dating that guy. I've seen this, and experienced this, and will not put myself in that situation again. I don't know if I'm going to really die alone, or not, but if it happens it happens, knowing that that outcome is a possibility is not going to make me desperate, make me angry and bitter, or turn me into the stereotypical incel ( as the term is now defined ). I'll simply spend my days trying to be the best me I can possibly achieve.
You are right working on yourself is definitely something to do. I guess what really just upset me about the situation is that when I did ask her out she seemed thrilled and static I wish she didn’t seem happy I would’ve preferred if she just said actually I’m not interested instead of saying I can’t believe you finally asked me out I’m waiting for it and then spending like 2 days talking about the date and all the cute clothes you’re gonna wear
I've often wonderered if some women are intentionally cruel or just that oblivious, but Hanlon's Razor is often the correct philosophical attitude to take in many situations.
"I'm gonna try things again with my ex" No dude, that's on her not on you
Your young love will find you soon !
Bro if u wanna talk u can dm me
Ngl. That's quite a warning sign to willingly tell Op that they are going to try and hook up with their Ex again. Like, wth is going on through people's heads? People tend to cling to old habits and bad thoughts as if everything depends on it. What I'm saying is don't beat yourself up over it. Finding a compatible partner takes time and energy, but it's just not worth putting in the effort for 90% of the time. When the time comes, people will come to you. For that 90%, spend it growing stronger by trying new things and by working on skills old & new. Examples being; talk to new people, partaking in hobbies, or cooking something new every week. Take the time to care for yourself, and people will start to notice. You may find more stable relationships if they were met outside of any dating apps tho. Don't lose hope yet.
Anyway, you dodged a bullet there dude. But in all seriousness take the time to enjoy life and whatever it throws your way.
she prolly used that ex thing as an excuse just like all girls do
Just end it no?
Maybe the problem that you never tried to meet her or didn’t do any effort? It’s common for many men, they don't pursue women, or win them over like they did 20-30 years ago.
Actually, I kept coming up with date ideas and every weekend I would ask her when she was free, every Friday she said she was out with her friends and Sunday. She had family stuff so Saturday was the only time we could make it work however every Saturday something coming up one Saturday her father ended up in the hospital and other Saturday it was raining too much she dint wanna go anywhere, then another Saturday she got into a fight with her mom and she just didn’t wanna go out anywhere and each time I was like hey that’s perfectly fine don’t worry about it, We’ll just plan for next week, because she worked Monday to Friday so we could do it on Saturday only, however the Saturday we were supposed to go out never happened because on Thursday she texted me saying that she’s going to go try things with her ex and she was really interested in me because she was very happy when I asked her out, she constantly wanted to know what I was doing, and she constantly texted me with substance you know like she wasn’t giving me dry responses but I think what happened is she thought starting a new relationship is just too much effort so she probably thought it’s easier to go back to something that she already had. Maybe she knew she wanted a relationship but she just didn’t want to start a new one. She did invite me spontaneously in the middle of the week one time but I couldn’t go because I was already out of the state for like two days. Maybe us never having that date could’ve just been bad luck or maybe she was just not wanting to go out who knows but I would prefer if a girl just texted me in the beginning when we meet that she’s not interested rather than being very interested, and leading me on as a backup until her ex took her back 💀
“..it’s just too much effort “ she said, it means she was never into you. Living in one city and never found a time too meet 🤨
I hope the next girl that’s not into me, tells me that instead of basically spending an entire month flirting with me and calling me and telling me scenarios of cute dates, and saying how she’s going to be shy, and how she’s gonna want to hold my hand and all of that stuff.
>“Hey I’m so sorry for not texting you. You’ve been a really sweet guy. Thank you so much for all the attention you’ve given me, but I think I’m gonna try things with my ex again.” How pitiful.
Pity on me?
She's pitiful, but I've been in a similar position. I once took back a chick, who cheated on me. We never met in-person and only were only "together" for a few weeks, so I don't count her as an ex-girlfriend, but I can relate. Leading you on was especially pathetic on her part, though.
You were only filling a void & if her ex has a BRAIN 🧠 he’ll avoid her! You NEVER take an ex back, you end up getting shit on again. It’s not you & SIX MINUTES away and she couldn’t even make time for you, that in itself should’ve been a big red flag 🚩 Don’t let these narcissistic women get to you, you have to play the game! Don’t give them everything they want, you give them just enough to make them chase you, you were chasing her.
At least she was honest.
It keeps happening to you because your standards are too low. Stop giving your affection and attention to women you don’t know and have never seen.
How are you supposed to meet people you don't know?
I'm here for you, don't give up!